On-call care managers, available around the clock.
Housekeeping & laundryWeekly housekeeping and laundry, handled for you.
On-site nursingNurses on site seven days a week.
Transportation & outingsChauffeured transportation and curated outings.
Concierge servicesConcierge help for personal requests, large and small.
Chef-prepared diningChef-prepared meals, available all day.
Wellness & social activitiesA rotating calendar of wellness and social activities.
Friends & family eventsGatherings that bring loved ones together.
Customized care plansPersonalized plans that adjust seamlessly as needs change.
On-site physical therapyOn-site physical therapy to support recovery, strength, and mobility.
Hair salon & barberAn on-site hair salon and barber for easy, at-home pampering.
On-site movie theaterAn on-site movie theater for shared films and entertainment.
Care scales with you. Pricing is simple to follow: your apartment rent , personalized care points for the support you actually use, and a one-time community fee . Move in at Light Assisted Living and adjust care points as needs change — or transition into Life's Neighborhood with the same team you already trust. Our approach to pricing Two main costs — rent and care — plus a one-time community fee. Apartment rent Covers your residence, meals, housekeeping, transportation, and full access to amenities. Care points You pay only for the support your loved one needs — choose the right amount now and adjust it at any time, so you're never overcharged or underserved. Community fee A one-time fee that helps us maintain elegant surroundings and prepare every detail for a warm welcome. Not sure which option fits? FAQ: - Q: What is the difference between Transitional Care and Memory Care at Áegis Living? A: Transitional Care supports adults with early or mild memory changes who are still social and love keeping their routines. Memory Care is delivered inside a warm, secure Life's Neighborhood for adults who benefit from round-the-clock, dementia-trained support, gentle redirection, and caring way-finding support. - Q: Can my parents stay together if they need different kinds of care? A: Yes. Couples can remain in one apartment with two personalized care plans, including blended setups across Light Assisted Living, Assisted Living, and Transitional Care. Advisors design the care points individually so each spouse gets the exact support they need. - Q: How quickly can someone move in? A: Move-in timing depends on apartment availability and completing the nursing assessment, and our advisors can often help families move quickly. Respite stays can sometimes be arranged faster and are a common bridge while a permanent apartment is prepared. - Q: Does Áegis Living accept Medicare or Medicaid? A: Áegis Living is private-pay, like most assisted living and memory care communities in the United States. Hospice services that overlay our care are typically covered under the Medicare Hospice Benefit through your chosen hospice provider. - Q: What safety technology is included at every Áegis Living community? A: Secure entrances in our memory care neighborhoods, emergency call systems, welcoming visitor check-in, and nurses on site seven days a week are standard across Áegis Living. We're also rolling out AUGi by Inspiren — privacy-first AI fall-detection technology, opt-in at each resident's choice — making us among only a handful of operators to offer it. - Q: What happens when my loved one's needs change after move-in? A: Care points adjust up or down at any time, and transitions between them happen with the same team you already trust. That continuity is why families choose an operator that offers all six care options under one brand. --- ## Light Assisted Living: Independence with Built-in Safety URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/light-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: light assisted living Schema type: Service Summary: Light Assisted Living: maintenance-free apartments, chef-prepared dining, and a team on call 24/7 — keep your independence and pay only for the support you use. Independent Living with Added Safety, Comfort, and Friends Maintenance-free apartment living with chef-prepared dining and a caring team on call 24/7. Pay for hands-on care only when you choose to use it. Step inside Áegis Living Who thrives here Mostly independent todayMeals, housekeeping, and transportation handled — with reassuring support close by if something changes overnight.
Medication peace of mindNurse oversight and emergency response on hand, with hands-on bathing or dressing help ready whenever you'd like it.
Couples, different needsSeparate care plans in the same apartment as needs evolve — so you can stay together, side by side.
A little more help at homeMeals worth looking forward to, laundry handled, and an easier day all around — a gentle signal it may be time for more support.
Simple rent + flexible care points Apartment rent covers the residence, utilities, all-day dining, housekeeping, transportation, and activities. Care Points are à la carte — medication reminders, escorts, bathing help — and flex monthly. EmpowerMe Wellness provides on-site physical, occupational, and speech therapy when medically appropriate, and our team can help verify insurance coverage. The hallmarks of Áegis Living The little things that make a big difference. Engaging community Over 200 monthly activities — creative workshops, social gatherings, lifelong learning, and outings where new friendships start. Restaurant-style dining Chef-prepared, seasonal menus served all day, with a dietitian keeping every plate nourishing. Freedom from chores Housekeeping, laundry, and maintenance are handled — your days are yours again. Easy outings Scheduled transportation to appointments, errands, and the places you love. Proactive wellness On-site therapists, visiting physicians, and fitness classes that keep you strong and well. Belonging A community where the team knows your name and your story — and invests in your happiness every day. Strong social connection is one of the most powerful things we can do for our health and well-being — which is why built-in community here is so much more than a nice extra. Inspired by the U.S. Surgeon General Advisory on Social Connection, 2023 Understanding costs Clear, flexible pricing — built around you. Apartment rent Covers your private residence, all-day dining, amenities, housekeeping, transportation, and utilities. Care points Pay only for the hands-on help you actually use — adjusted month to month as needs change. Community fee A one-time fee that supports the beautiful spaces and the warm welcome that make this home. Independence, and moments of delight. This is a safe, comfortable, enjoyable community in which to enjoy your senior years!, Ian C., Resident Áegis Living has given my mother and sister a sense of independence and purpose., Tina P., Family member Living here is fantastic! I have the freedom to join in activities, go on an outing, or just kick back., Mike M., Resident Wondering if Light Assisted Living is the right fit? Our advisors walk you through all six care options honestly, so you find exactly the right amount of support — no more, no less. See if Light Assisted Living feels like home on a tour Walk an apartment, meet the nurse, and ask anything about how care grows with you over time. FAQ: - Q: Is Light Assisted Living the same as Independent Living? A: Not quite. Light Assisted Living adds the reassurance of 24/7 care managers, nursing oversight, medication support, and emergency response — there for you even if you rarely need hands-on help. - Q: Does Medicare or Medicaid pay for Light Assisted Living? A: Medicare does not cover room and board. Long-term care insurance, VA Aid & Attendance, and private pay are common. We help review benefits. - Q: Can a couple with different care needs live together? A: Yes. Separate care plans and Care Points billed individually so each spouse gets only the support they need. - Q: What is included in the monthly rent? A: Apartment, utilities, all-day dining, housekeeping, laundry, transportation, and a full calendar of activities. Hands-on care is billed as Care Points. - Q: What happens if my parent's care needs change? A: Care Points adjust gently in place, so support grows right alongside your parent. Transitional and memory care are available at many Áegis Living communities whenever it would help. - Q: How quickly can someone move in? A: Move-in timing varies by community and apartment availability; respite stays can often begin sooner. --- ## Assisted Living: Activities of Daily Living Support URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living Schema type: Service Summary: Assisted living with private apartments, 24/7 caregivers, on-site nurses, chef-prepared dining, and personalized care that grows with you — in a warm, vibrant community. Peace of Mind with a Focus on Connection and Purpose Assisted living comes with help for daily activities like medication management, bathing, dressing, 24/7 staff, wellness programs, transportation, and housekeeping—all in one community. Step inside Áegis Living Who is assisted living the right fit for? Assisted living is usually the right fit when you—or someone you love—can still do a lot on your own, but the daily stuff is starting to feel heavy: staying on top of medications, getting in and out of the shower safely, cooking every meal, or keeping up a social life that doesn't revolve around doctor visits. It's for people who don't need the constant medical oversight of a nursing home, but who would genuinely benefit from a caring team nearby, 24-hour support, and a community built around safety, routine, and connection. Choosing assisted living is a normal, often wise next chapter when independence is still important, but doing everything alone is no longer the best answer. If memory changes are part of the picture, you can start with transitional care or memory care , where support and safety are tuned specifically for life with dementia. Assisted Living at Áegis Living includes: Housing & hospitalityPrivate apartments with all-day dining, housekeeping, laundry, transportation, and concierge-style support.
Activities of Daily LivingGentle, dignified help with bathing, dressing, grooming, toileting, and meals.
Medication & mobilityMedication management, reminders, escorts, and safe transfers, including two-person and Hoyer support.
24/7 nursing supportLicensed nurses on site seven days a week, keeping personalized care plans up to date.
Life enrichmentDaily activities, signature events, in-house Restore therapy, and pet-friendly living where allowed.
Safety technologyAUGi smart fall-management, emergency pendants, and proactive safety monitoring.
The hallmarks of Áegis Living Redefining assisted living. Safety & peace of mind 24/7 assisted living and memory care support with emergency response, fall risk prevention, and a watchful care team focused on safety and reassurance. Luxury amenities Chef-prepared dining, theaters, salons, fitness studios, and signature experiences that turn everyday senior living into hospitality-level comfort and enjoyment. Personalized care Individualized assisted living and memory care plans that adjust as needs change, from light daily support to more advanced help with medications and mobility. On-site wellness Visiting physicians, therapy partners, and in-house rehabilitation services come directly to the community, making ongoing healthcare and therapy more convenient. Pet-friendly living Companion animals are welcomed, helping residents maintain routine, comfort, and emotional connection as part of daily life. Diversity & socialization Communities where different cultures, traditions, and identities are genuinely welcomed, so residents can live in a senior living environment that reflects who they are and make new friends. Understanding costs Clear, flexible pricing — built around you. Apartment rent Covers your private residence, daily amenities, all-day dining, and services. Care points Pay only for the care you need, with the flexibility to update services anytime. Community fee Supports the elegant surroundings and a warm welcome for every new arrival. Real stories from our families. Áegis Living couldn't have been more welcoming, and Mom has blossomed in her first year there., Child of Resident It's always scary moving your loved one into a community, and I was probably more scared than most — but I'm so glad I made the decision I did., Child of Resident FAQ: - Q: How is assisted living different from skilled nursing care? A: Assisted living is residential and social — caregivers and nurses support daily life in a private apartment, surrounded by friends and activities. Skilled nursing settings focus on round-the-clock medical care such as IV therapy, complex wound care, or continuous clinical monitoring. - Q: Can my parent stay as their needs change? A: In most cases, yes. Care points adjust to fit the moment, Restore therapy comes right to the apartment, and comfort-focused hospice care can be coordinated in place. When memory support becomes a priority, the journey can continue in Life's Neighborhood. - Q: Can couples with different care needs live together? A: Yes. Each spouse receives their own assessment and care plan while sharing the apartment. - Q: Are pets allowed at Áegis Living? A: Yes, subject to community guidelines. Companion animals bring daily joy and connection, and easing loneliness was a U.S. Surgeon General public-health priority in 2023. - Q: How quickly can someone move into assisted living? A: Most residents move in within a week, depending on apartment availability, and our team is equipped to respond quickly. Hospital and skilled nursing discharges are often expedited for a same-day move-in. Respite stays can offer a welcoming bridge with fully furnished apartment homes. - Q: How is assisted living paid for? A: Care is funded through private resources, long-term-care insurance, and VA benefits where eligible. Our team walks families through the options to find the right plan for your situation. --- ## Memory Care for Alzheimer's & Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/ Focus keyword: memory care Schema type: Service Summary: Award-winning memory care for Alzheimer's & dementia in Life's Neighborhood — 24/7 dementia-trained caregivers, cognitive programming, music therapy, and family partnership. Heartfelt Memory Care: Award-Winning Excellence, Recognized Nationwide Warm, intimate neighborhoods with the reassurance of secure design, 24/7 dementia-trained caregivers, music therapy, and family partnership woven into every day. Step inside Áegis Living A short film is the closest thing to walking through our doors — the warmth, the people, and the everyday moments that make this feel like home. When you're ready, come see a Life's Neighborhood® near you. A real neighborhood — designed for memory care Calm lighting, memory-supportive dining spaces, discreetly secured entrances, and joyful, science-based cognitive programming keep residents engaged and at ease, while families stay close with real-time updates through the Áegis Living app. Care beyond compare The hallmarks of Life's Neighborhood. Dementia-trained team 24/7 caregivers and nurses trained in advanced, person-centered dementia care and gentle de-escalation. Science-based cognitive programming Brain-health activities across movement, music, nutrition, and connection. Music & sensory therapy Certified music therapy and sensory moments that reach residents when words are harder to find. Dining with dignity Memory-supportive dining spaces, finger-food options, and cueing that supports independent dining. Warm, calming design Soft lighting, memory-supportive dining spaces, and discreetly secured entrances help residents feel oriented, calm, and at home. Family partnership Daily updates, education, and a team that walks every step of the journey right alongside your family. Visit daily. Join meals. Celebrate First Thursdays. Long-distance family stays connected through the app with photos and activities. Residents are able to age in place through advanced dementia — with caring hospice coordination right in the apartment, surrounding them with comfort and family, whenever that gentle chapter arrives. Not sure you're ready? Start with a respite stay or day stay to get to know the team first. Non-pharmacologic approaches — music, structured activity, environmental design, and trained-caregiver relationships — are recommended first to ease agitation and reduce antipsychotic use in dementia care. Based on National Institute on Aging guidance Transparent, flexible pricing Clear pricing for memory care. Apartment rental A private residence with full daily amenities and meals, in a warm, secure neighborhood. Care points Pay only for the memory support needed, thoughtfully adjusted as needs change over time. Community fee Maintains the safe, welcoming memory-care neighborhood your loved one calls home. Stories of loving care. Áegis Living Memory Care is truly an answer to our prayers. My dad is happy and calm every time we visit. The care is exceptional., Whitney C., Family member We have been very happy with the loving, patient caregivers and attention. I can sleep at night knowing my mother is in good hands., Don R., Son of Resident How does memory care differ from transitional care? Life's Neighborhood offers dedicated, warmly secure support for moderate to advanced dementia — while transitional care keeps full community access with gentle cueing. Tour Life's Neighborhood in person Seeing the warm, secure neighborhood and meeting the team is the best way to feel whether it's the right home for your family. FAQ: - Q: When is the right time to consider memory care for a parent? A: Many families find it's time when day-to-day safety needs more support - moments of way-finding confusion, unsteadiness, or keeping medications on track - or when the family caregiver is feeling stretched thin. The Alzheimer's Association points to these moments and caregiver well-being as the clearest signals. Moving sooner, while there's time to settle in gently, is usually easier for everyone than waiting for a crisis. - Q: Is memory care covered by Medicare? A: Original Medicare does not cover the room-and-board portion of memory care, though it covers qualifying medical services, short-term rehab, and hospice. Long-term care insurance, VA Aid and Attendance, and personal assets typically fund the residential cost. Our team can help answer your questions during your tour. - Q: Can my parent age in place if dementia progresses? A: Yes. Life's Neighborhood supports moderate through advanced dementia, including two-person transfers, Hoyer lifts, and a caring partnership with hospice so a resident can be surrounded by comfort, dignity, and family right in their own apartment. Many residents are able to age in place in the home they know. - Q: Do you allow family visits? A: Yes. Families are welcomed daily, can join meals, and are invited to First-Thursday parties. The Áegis Living app keeps long-distance family updated with photos and activities in real time. - Q: What if we are not sure memory care is the right fit yet? A: A good first step is an in-person nursing assessment to understand your parent's needs. If they're somewhere in between, transitional care within assisted living often bridges the gap beautifully, and a respite or day stay lets your family experience the community together for a few days or weeks before deciding. --- ## Transitional Care: Light to Early Onset Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/transitional-memory-support/ Focus keyword: transitional care for early memory loss Schema type: Service Summary: Transitional care bridges early memory loss and full community life — 24/7 dementia-trained support, gentle cueing, safety tech, and a seamless path to Life's Neighborhood. Stay in assisted living, even as memory changes begin Early memory loss shouldn't mean losing friends or the rhythms of community life. Gentle cueing, wayfinding support, and a dementia-trained team inside assisted living mean residents can safely age in place while keeping their independence and social connections. Step inside Áegis Living When transitional care is the right bridge Repeating questions or missed medications Early-stage memory loss—repeating the same questions, missing doses, or struggling to manage a pillbox—is often the first sign that gentle cueing and daily oversight inside assisted living will make life easier and safer. Getting turned around in familiar places Feeling lost in hallways or "turned around" on the way to the dining room points to a need for wayfinding support and structured routines that reduce anxiety and help your loved one feel settled in the community. Families ready for more support at home When family caregivers are stretched thin—constantly worried about safety, meds, and wandering—it's time for a care team to take on the day-to-day, so families can step back into simply being family with more rest and connection. Earlier is easier About 7.4 million Americans 65+ are living with Alzheimer's disease , and evidence shows that earlier, structured support and routines are linked to better quality of life and less crisis-driven transitions later on. What is included Dementia-trained caregivers24/7 cueing, gentle redirection, and compassionate support from dementia-trained team members, helping residents stay safely connected to friends, routines, and community life.
Clinical oversightOn-site nurses regularly review and adjust care plans as cognition changes, offering transitional memory support within assisted living, in line with state regulations.
Cognitive programming & Restore therapyScience-based brain-health activities plus on-site physical, occupational, and speech therapy, when ordered by a physician.
Safety technologyInspirens AUGi fall risk prevention, emergency pendants, and discreet monitoring provide reassurance and rapid response without taking away a resident’s sense of freedom.
Full community lifeChef-prepared dining, a full calendar of activities and events, couples-together apartment options, and the Áegis Living family app to keep loved ones up to date and involved.
A planned path into Life's Neighborhood Life's Neighborhood is Áegis Living's dedicated, secured memory care program — an intimate neighborhood within the community designed specifically for residents living with Alzheimer's and other dementias, with 24/7 dementia-trained caregivers, on-site nursing, structured routines, and calming, thoughtfully designed spaces. When secured memory care becomes appropriate, residents move into Life's Neighborhood inside the same Áegis Living community — keeping the same dining team, nurses, and familiar faces — so the change in care level doesn't mean losing relationships or the feeling of home. Transitional vs. assisted vs. memory care Assisted living fits daily ADL help without significant memory symptoms. Transitional care adds dementia-informed cueing while keeping full community access. Memory care in Life's Neighborhood is for moderate to advanced dementia needing secured support. Our hallmarks Support, flexibility, and a thoughtful path as needs change Stay independent Remain in assisted living as needs grow, with daily help for medications, safety, and routines — without losing your autonomy or social life. Togetherness Couples can stay in the same community, even when care needs differ, with flexible plans that prioritize staying together. Full access Enjoy the full amenity set — chef-prepared dining, activities, outings, and wellness programs — with a calendar designed to foster purpose, connection, and joy. Reassurance Proactive wellness anchored in nursing oversight, 24/7 care, safety technology, and medication support, so families can worry less and visit more. Seamless move If needs advance, transition into Life's Neighborhood memory care inside the same Áegis Living community, keeping familiar routines, faces, and friendships. Family partnership Education, coaching, and support groups that equip families to understand dementia, ask better questions, and stay closely connected to their loved one's care. Not sure transitional care is the right fit? Understanding costs Clear, flexible pricing — built around you. Apartment rental Covers your preferred residence, dining, amenities, housekeeping, and utilities. Care points Flexible support — pay only for the help you need; add or remove services as life changes. Community fee Ensures our communities always feel like home and supports smooth transitions. Real stories at Áegis Living. Because of their attentiveness, compassion, and individualized care, my loved one is able to thrive among the general residents and live life to the fullest. The difference is so evident in her demeanor and how much more vibrant she seems., Family member They meet frequently with residents and family to make sure your loved one stays as healthy and happy as possible., Resident Their approach means our family can focus on enjoying our relationship again and making memories together, with peace of mind and support at every turn., Devon H., Family member Tour transitional care in person Ask how cueing works day to day and when a move to Life's Neighborhood would make sense. FAQ: - Q: Is Transitional Care the same as memory care? A: No. Transitional Care happens inside assisted living with full social access for adults with early memory loss. Memory Care is the secured Life's Neighborhood setting for moderate to advanced dementia. - Q: Does my parent need a dementia diagnosis to qualify? A: A formal diagnosis is not required, but a nursing assessment is. Many residents enter with mild cognitive impairment or early Alzheimer's identified by a primary-care physician. - Q: Can my parents share an apartment if only one has memory loss? A: Yes. Couples stay together with separate care plans. If the partner with dementia later needs secured memory care, the well spouse can often remain and visit daily. - Q: How is safety handled in an open community setting? A: Motion sensors, fall-detection pendants, Inspiren AUGi, visitor check-in, and dementia-informed wellness checks bring peace of mind and reassurance — safety paired with the freedom of full community life. - Q: What happens if memory loss progresses? A: Residents can transition to Life's Neighborhood within the same community, keeping familiar caregivers and nurses. - Q: How quickly can move-in happen? A: Move-in timing depends on the nursing assessment and apartment availability; post-hospital placements can sometimes move faster. --- ## Short-Term Stays: Recovery from Surgery or Caregiver Burnout URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/ Focus keyword: respite care day stay Schema type: Service Summary: Short-term respite and day stays for caregiver relief, post-hospital recovery, or a trial stay — furnished apartments, nurses on site, and chef-prepared meals. Respite Care & Day Stays: Every Stay is a New Story Furnished private apartments, 24/7 care, chef-prepared meals, and full programming — from a few hours to several weeks. Step inside Áegis Living Four reasons families choose respite Family caregivers provide an estimated $600 billion in unpaid care annually ( AARP, Valuing the Invaluable, 2023 ). Caregiving is an act of devotion, and everyone deserves time to rest and recharge — respite is the welcome pause that keeps that care sustainable. Caregiver relief — travel, time to recover, or simply rest. Post-hospital recovery — attentive care and comfort before returning home. Trial run — experience assisted living before a longer-term decision. Social connection — friendly faces, shared meals, and engagement for a parent who would love more company. Overnight respite vs. day stay Overnight respite Stay from a few days to several weeks in a private furnished apartment with full care, dining, and activities — same as permanent residents. Day stay Our award-winning Day Stay program lets guests join meals, activities, and programming for a single day — a warm way to connect with neighbors and experience community life without a long-term commitment. What's included — the full experience Private furnished apartmentA private, furnished apartment with linens, climate control, and housekeeping.
24/7 care & nursingCaregivers around the clock; licensed nurses on site to build the care plan.
Medication managementCoordinated with existing physicians from day one.
Chef-prepared diningAll-day restaurant-style meals and hydration support.
A full calendar of activities200+ monthly activities — book clubs, fitness classes, movie nights, and more on the full Life Enrichment calendar. An invitation, not a requirement.
The Áegis hallmarks — even in a short stay The full experience, from day one. 24/7 care Round-the-clock caregivers and on-site nurses for comfort and peace of mind. Warm, secure setting Purpose-built community design with welcoming, secure access and thoughtful amenities. All-inclusive Concierge services, housekeeping, laundry, and transportation — all included. All-day dining Chef-prepared, healthful meals tailored to tastes and needs, available all day. Full calendar Enjoy wellness, social, and creative programs with full community access. Flexible stays Independent, assisted, or memory-care guests — flexible short-stay options. How to arrange a stay Call the community Share timing, care needs, and whether this is post-hospital or a trial run. Nursing assessment Our nurse gets to know medications, mobility, and memory needs to match the right level of support. Move in — often within days We complete the necessary paperwork together and choose a welcome date that suits your family. Bring the medication list and a few personal items — we handle the rest. Questions about respite or day stay? Looking for help finding the right location for a respite or day stay? Contact our specialists at (866) 923-2712 — respite is especially popular around the holidays, and an advisor is happy to check dates and walk you through how billing works. Flexible, transparent pricing Simple pricing for a short stay. Suite rental Private, furnished accommodations with amenities, meals, and activities included. Care services Tailored to need — you pay only for the actual care delivered, no more, no less. Real stories from short stays. After just one respite stay at Áegis Living, my husband wanted to move in full-time. He's happier, more social, and living with new purpose., Sylvia R. The activities, food, and staff are wonderful. I felt safe, welcome, and engaged., Rita G. This is a community where every guest's story is celebrated, even if your stay is short., John C. Find a community with respite availability Search nearby locations, then schedule a tour or call to hold dates when possible. FAQ: - Q: What is the minimum length of a respite stay at Áegis Living? A: Most communities accept stays starting at a few days; short stays are common. Day stays are available as single-day visits. Call to confirm availability. - Q: Can someone with dementia book a respite stay? A: Yes, when space allows in assisted living or Life's Neighborhood. A pre-stay assessment determines the right neighborhood and care level. - Q: Is respite care covered by Medicare or long-term care insurance? A: Traditional Medicare does not cover assisted-living respite except in narrow hospice circumstances. Long-term care insurance often covers short stays — bring your policy and we will help verify. - Q: What should we pack for a respite stay? A: Medication list, comfortable clothing, toiletries, glasses and hearing aids, mobility devices, and a few personal items. Apartments are fully furnished. - Q: Can a respite stay turn into a permanent move? A: Often, yes. Families use respite as a no-pressure trial. The same apartment can usually become home without a second move. - Q: How quickly can we arrange a stay after a hospital discharge? A: Same-week admissions are possible when an apartment is open and the nursing assessment is complete. Have discharge summary and medication list ready. --- ## Hospice Care: End-of-Life Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/hospice/ Focus keyword: hospice care Schema type: Service Summary: Dignified hospice care coordinated in your loved one's familiar apartment — around-the-clock comfort, gentle symptom relief, and family support across WA, CA & NV. Dignified end-of-life care Hospice is a service, not a separate facility, which means your loved one can remain in their familiar Áegis Living apartment while a trusted hospice team provides comfort-focused medical care and our 24/7 caregivers handle daily support, coordination, and reassurance for the whole family. Step inside Áegis Living When is hospice the right choice? Hospice is specialized, comfort-focused care for people in the last phase of a serious illness. It's about pain relief, calm, and helping families be together, not more hospital trips or aggressive treatment. It's usually considered when a doctor believes time may be limited, treatments are asking more of your loved one than they give back, or when comfort becomes the priority. Hospice steps in as an extra layer of support—managing symptoms, surrounding both your loved one and your family with guidance, and helping you shape the days ahead around what matters most to you, in the place they already call home. Who does what Your hospice agencyYour hospice team brings the hospice aide, social worker, chaplain, bereavement support, comfort medications, and needed medical equipment—all focused on expert symptom relief and guidance.
Áegis LivingÁegis provides the apartment, 24/7 caregivers, chef-prepared meals adapted to changing appetite, medication reminders, repositioning and hands-on support, emotional care for family, and the familiar relationships your loved one already trusts.
Your familyYou stay overnight, share meals in the apartment, bring pets, and focus on being present.
Expert care — body, mind, and spirit Comfort and dignity, in every detail. Supporting daily life Respectful help with bathing, grooming, medications, and mobility—so everyday tasks stay manageable and dignified. Emotional support Steady reassurance and guidance for families, with someone to walk alongside you through each step of this chapter. Partnership & communication Clear, frequent updates and every encouragement to spend meaningful time with your loved one, not manage logistics. Familiar comforts Favorite meals, familiar faces, pets, and the small rituals that make an apartment feel like home. What comfort-first care looks like day to day Gentle pain and symptom relief overseen by hospice clinicians. Dignified help with bathing, grooming, and mobility. Calm rooms, familiar music, and caregivers who know your loved one's preferences. Discreet, attentive support so help is always close at hand — in a warm, home-like setting that never feels clinical. In life's final chapter, the goal is not simply more days — it is honoring the person in a peaceful, home-like setting where families can focus on being present together. Inspired by Atul Gawande, Being Mortal Questions about hospice at Áegis Living? Our advisors explain how apartment care and your hospice agency work together — with no pressure. Understanding costs Clear, compassionate pricing. Apartment rental A private suite with amenities, meals, and daily comfort throughout this final chapter. Care points Priced as needed — families pay only for the care and support required, layered with hospice. Community fee A one-time contribution for beautiful environments and smooth, gentle transitions. Stories of loving care. Áegis Living exceeded our expectations. Dad was treated like family, with professionalism and heart., Tracie M., Daughter So many staff went above and beyond for Mom. They treated her as if she were their own parent., Julia B., Daughter Áegis Living was her favorite — and ours. We all deeply appreciated the kindness and attention she received., Linda R., Daughter-in-Law FAQ: - Q: Can my parent stay in their Áegis Living apartment during hospice? A: Yes. Current Áegis Living residents remain in their familiar apartment when they elect hospice. The hospice team visits them in place, and our 24/7 caregivers continue the daily routines and relationships they already know. - Q: Who pays for hospice when my loved one lives at Áegis Living? A: The hospice agency bills Medicare, Medicaid, or private insurance for hospice services, related medications, and equipment. You continue paying Áegis Living for the apartment, meals, and supportive care, with care levels adjusted to match the new plan. - Q: Can someone move into Áegis Living specifically for hospice? A: Yes. New residents can move in while already enrolled in hospice. A community advisor coordinates with your hospice agency and our nursing team builds an aligned care plan before move-in day. - Q: How is hospice different from palliative care? A: Palliative care focuses on comfort at any stage of serious illness and can run alongside curative treatment. Hospice is a specific Medicare benefit that brings comfort-first care to the final months when families have chosen to set curative treatment aside, per the National Institute on Aging. - Q: Do you have a preferred hospice agency? A: You're always free to choose your own hospice agency, or we can recommend a trusted local provider. The decision belongs to you. - Q: What does care look like in the final chapter at Áegis Living? A: The hospice RN keeps the comfort plan current while our caregivers tend to every detail — gentle repositioning, familiar music, and a calm, peaceful room. Family can stay overnight, share meals in the apartment, and remain present as much as they wish, with caring bereavement support continuing for as long as you need it. --- ## Lifestyle at Áegis Living: What Daily Life Looks Like URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/lifestyle/ Focus keyword: Áegis Living lifestyle Schema type: AboutPage Summary: Enjoy 200+ monthly activities, spa services, and meaningful connections at our senior living communities designed for vibrant social engagement. Lifestyle With more than 200 activities offered each month, our communities provide something a private home or smaller setting cannot—a vibrant social life. Here, residents enjoy the companionship of new friends and peers, share stories, and discover fresh pursuits together. Whether it’s music, art, learning opportunities, or simply gathering for laughter and connection, our lifestyle is built around meaningful engagement and a sense of belonging. Activities Feeling connected changes everything. Our Life Enrichment teams craft calendars around what residents truly enjoy—no cookie-cutter plans here. Brain games, art, yoga, chef demos, intergenerational visits, neighborhood outings, and too many more to list! And every first Thursday, each community throws a themed party with friends and family. Every day is a chance to laugh, mingle, and build lasting bonds with friends and neighbors. Spa and Hair Salon Spa Day, Every Day! At Áegis Living, a little self-care goes a long way. Our on-site salons and barbershops keep residents looking their best with fresh cuts, styles, and manicures. And our gentle massage services provide soothing relief for tired muscles and joints. Together, these offerings create a spa experience right at home—where relaxation, confidence, and comfort are always part of the day. Áegis Living App for Families & Residents Áegis Living uses technology to give families a unique window into their loved one’s daily life with our wellness app that tracks participation in activities, behavioral trends, and shares photos and updates. Families gain peace of mind seeing how their loved one spends each day and how they are adapting, while team members use the tool to monitor happiness, engagement, and overall wellbeing. Personal profiles and behavioral insights help identify new interests to build on, detect declines in participation that may signal health concerns, and ensure the daily calendar and programs enrich quality of life. Residents also enjoy a more connected, independent experience. With just a few taps, they can explore the day’s calendar, browse upcoming events, RSVP to activities, and manage their personal schedules. Whether it’s signing up for a favorite class, discovering something new, or simply staying in the loop, the app makes it easy to stay engaged, feel involved, and fully participate in community life. Get the Áegis Living app Available to download on the App Store or Google Play! Áegis Live Every weekday at 11 AM, residents across all Áegis Living communities gather for live trivia competitions, game shows, travelogues, special presentations, and more. Each broadcast is designed to bring unity and connection, celebrating unique stories and talents through community and resident spotlights. Residents enjoy the fun together in their own community while being virtually joined by neighbors across Áegis Living. Different care needs, same apartment Couples can share a home even when one needs Light Assisted Living and the other needs more support. Care plans are written individually, so you pay for exactly what each person uses today — care tailored to each of you. Go deeper on what fills the calendar Activities, dining, and wellness programs work together — explore each pillar. See the calendar on your tour Ask to sit in on an activity or meal — that's when daily life clicks. FAQ: - Q: Do residents have to participate in activities? A: No. The calendar is an invitation, not a requirement. Life Enrichment teams notice patterns and gently suggest options that match each resident's interests, including quieter pursuits like reading clubs, gardening, or pet visits. - Q: Can couples with different care needs live together? A: Yes. Couples can share an apartment even when one needs Light Assisted Living and the other needs more support, including transitional care. Care plans are written individually so you only pay for what each person actually uses. - Q: What happens if my parent's needs change? A: Care scales inside the same community whenever possible. An assisted-living resident who develops memory symptoms can transition to transitional care or Life's Neighborhood memory care with the same familiar team. - Q: Is a short-term or trial stay available? A: Yes. Respite Stays and Day Stays run from a few hours to a few weeks in a furnished private apartment with full amenities and 24/7 care. Families often use respite as a trial run before a longer commitment. - Q: How does Áegis Living support brain health? A: Our science-based cognitive programming threads memory exercises, movement, social engagement, and nutrition through daily programming, aligned with lifestyle factors that the National Institute on Aging identifies as protective for cognition. - Q: Are pets welcome at Áegis Living communities? A: Pets are part of the lifestyle at most communities, with policies that vary by location. Visiting therapy animals and resident pets are a regular fixture in daily community life. --- ## Senior Activities & Enrichment Programs | Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/activities/ Focus keyword: senior living activities Schema type: Service Summary: 200+ activities a month — fitness, brain games, art, music, outings, and signature First-Thursday parties — built on the Seven Dimensions of Health and Wellness at every community. Activities: Something for Everyone Fitness, art, music, outings, and First-Thursday parties shaped around what each resident truly loves — joyfully personal, never one-size-fits-all. 200+ Activities every month at each community 7 Dimensions of Health and Wellness guiding programming 1st Thu Themed community party every month A day in the life: sample weekly programming TuesdayUse music to spark memory, lift mood, and reach residents when words sometimes can't.
Art TherapistsGuide hands-on creativity that builds confidence, focus, and self-expression.
Exercise InstructorsLead balance, strength, and movement classes scaled to every ability.
Multitalented GeneralistsVersatile enrichment pros who keep each day varied, personal, and full of energy.
Calendars built around life stories Directors interview new residents about hobbies, careers, and culture — then weave those threads into the monthly schedule. A retired teacher might lead a discussion group; a former baker might co-host a kitchen demo. Explore the full Áegis Living lifestyle — dining, salons, technology, and care that gently grows right alongside each resident. See how activities connect to the rest of daily life 200+ offerings tie into dining, wellness, and memory support — explore the full lifestyle picture. See the calendar on your tour Sit in on a morning fitness class or First-Thursday party — that's when daily life clicks. FAQ: - Q: How many activities does Áegis Living offer each month? A: Each community runs more than 200 activities per month across the Seven Dimensions of Health and Wellness — fitness, brain health, art, music, outings, and signature First-Thursday themed parties. - Q: Are activities included in the monthly fee? A: Life Enrichment programming is part of daily life in every community. - Q: What activities are offered for residents with dementia? A: Life's Neighborhood offers music therapy, sensory engagement, art, and science-based cognitive sessions designed for memory support — with dementia-trained caregivers and calmer environments. - Q: Can family members join activities and events? A: Families are invited to First-Thursday parties, holiday celebrations, birthdays, and many daily activities. The Áegis Living app shares photos and participation updates in real time. - Q: What if my parent doesn't want to participate at first? A: Our Life Enrichment team begins with warm one-on-one visits and interest-mapping before ever suggesting a group. Many residents who feel unsure at first become happy regulars within a few weeks — often the moment they find that one new friend. - Q: How is the calendar tailored to each community? A: Each director builds the monthly calendar around local residents' interests and life stories. The framework is consistent — 200+ activities and First Thursdays — but the content is local. --- ## Senior Wellness & Clinical Care Model | Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/wellness/ Focus keyword: senior living wellness Schema type: AboutPage Summary: Personalized senior care combining 24-hour nursing, red light therapy, AI fall detection, and on-site medical services for vibrant, independent living. Wellness At Áegis Living, wellness is a whole-person approach—nurturing mind, body, and spirit. Our goal is to improve your healthspan, making every year more vibrant through nutritious meals, daily opportunities for movement, socialization, and restorative therapies. With personalized care plans and the support of our 24-hour certified care team, daily nurse coverage, in-house therapy, and visiting physicians, we provide attentive care that strengthens well-being, brings comfort, and supports peace of mind. 24/7 Certified care team on every floor 7 days On-site nursing coverage weekly 6 Daily wellness inputs: nutrition, movement, connection, cognition, therapy, clinical oversight Red Light Therapy Restore Red Light Therapy offers a safe, natural way to support health and vitality. This non-invasive treatment reduces inflammation, eases pain, improves mobility, enhances sleep, and rejuvenates skin. By promoting healing and energy at the cellular level, it helps residents feel their best—every single day. AUGi AI Fall Prevention AUGi is a discreet, wall-mounted smart device that uses AI technology to track movement and detect potential fall risks. Whether sensing when someone is getting out of bed or recognizing that a fall has occurred, AUGi instantly alerts our care team so help arrives right away. This proactive approach gives residents added safety and families peace of mind. On-Site Therapy We know that preparing for offsite doctors’ visits can be overwhelming for our residents. That’s why we offer the convenience of onsite medical services, including visiting primary care doctors, physical and occupational therapists, podiatrists, geriatric psychiatrists, and more, as well as a pharmacy partner. Healthspan, not just lifespan The WHO defines healthy aging as maintaining functional ability that enables well-being ( WHO , 2024). That is the lens for every care plan. Visiting primary care, podiatry, geriatric psychiatry, and therapy come right to you through Restore — sparing the hassle of outside appointments and keeping families close and informed. Clinical depth with hospitality warmth Founded in 1997 and headquartered in Bellevue, Áegis Living operates 37 communities and has been named among Fortune's Best Workplaces in Aging Services and U.S. News Best Senior Living. Explore clinical and enrichment programs Restore therapy, red light therapy, and life enrichment each play a role — see how they connect. Ask how wellness shows up on your tour See therapy gyms, hydration stations, and programming calendars in person. FAQ: - Q: What's included in the monthly fee at Áegis Living? A: The monthly rate covers your private apartment, chef-prepared all-day dining, weekly housekeeping and laundry, a full calendar of activities, transportation, and access to the 24-hour care team and on-site nurse. Personal care services (bathing help, medication management, two-person transfers) are billed by care level so you only pay for what's used. - Q: How is Áegis Living's memory care different from a standard memory care program? A: Memory care happens in Life's Neighborhood, a warm, intimate neighborhood staffed by dementia-trained caregivers 24/7 with a nursing team on site seven days a week. The program includes science-based cognitive activities, certified music therapy, and dining spaces designed for memory support, plus gentle mobility support and two-person transfers so residents can keep thriving right where they feel at home. - Q: Can my parent stay at Áegis Living through hospice? A: Yes. If your loved one is already an Áegis Living resident, hospice care is provided right in their own apartment by our 24/7 team, working hand in hand with a local hospice agency you choose. The focus stays where it belongs: on comfort, dignity, and cherished time with family, in the home they already know and love. - Q: What is AUGi and is it intrusive? A: AUGi is a discreet, wall-mounted smart device that uses AI to detect movement and potential fall risks, including someone getting out of bed at risk, and instantly alerts our care team so help arrives right away, which the CDC identifies as critical given that one in four older adults falls each year (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). - Q: Do you accept Medicare or Medicaid? A: Medicare does not pay for room and board in assisted living or memory care, though it may cover specific medical services like physician visits and short-term rehabilitation. Medicaid acceptance varies by state and community. Your community director can walk you through Veterans Aid & Attendance, long-term care insurance, and other funding options during a tour. - Q: What if my parent's care needs change after move-in? A: Care plans are reviewed at 30 days and any time needs change. Because Áegis Living offers Light Assisted Living, Assisted Living, Transitional Care, and warm, secure Memory Care in most communities, your parent can add support as needs evolve, including hands-on mobility help and two-person transfers, without changing addresses or saying goodbye to the care team they trust. --- ## Cognitive Compass: Brain Health & Parkinson's Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/cognitive-compass/ Focus keyword: Cognitive Compass program Schema type: Service Summary: Cognitive Compass at Áegis Living Lake Union: precise medication timing, adaptive dining, on-site therapy, and Parkinson's programming from a specialized, caring team. A Specialized Team That Understands Parkinson's Four pillars of specialized care: medical timing, adaptive dining, purposeful activities, and thoughtful design. Who benefits from Cognitive Compass? An estimated 1.1 million Americans live with Parkinson's disease, projected to reach 1.2 million by 2030 ( Parkinson's Foundation , 2026). The program fits residents who need: Precise medication timing for Parkinson's Support for tremor, gait, or swallowing changes Gentle, early support and helpful daily structure On-site therapy instead of clinic travel Four pillars A holistic program, organized around you. Medical care Rest easy knowing your medications arrive right on schedule, every time — timing matters with Parkinson's, and our team has it covered. No need to travel for therapy: on-site Restore PT, OT, and speech therapists come to your apartment with personalized plans. Dining support Specialized dining aids like weighted utensils and plate guards, plus easy-to-swallow meal options — so you keep enjoying meals independently, with dignity. Engaging activities Over 200 a month — from sing-alongs and card games to Seattle Theater Group dance classes designed for Parkinson's, our award-winning program sparks joy and keeps you moving, connected, and part of the community. Functional living spaces Dining, the movie theater, fitness center, and lounges are all a short, well-marked walk away — with thoughtful way-finding support and lighting designed to help you stay confident and independent, even when mobility is sometimes a challenge. The fullest expression of Cognitive Compass Anchored at Áegis Living Lake Union, in partnership with the American Parkinson's Disease Association — monthly support groups where families and residents connect and share, specialized programming, and the expert, warm-hearted coordination families count on every day. For residents with Parkinson's, getting medications right on schedule, every time, is what keeps the day moving — so they can walk to lunch and join the moments that matter. How Cognitive Compass fits the wellness picture Brain-health programming pairs with Restore therapy and nursing oversight — see the full wellness hub. Tour Cognitive Compass at Lake Union Meet the nursing team and see how medication timing and therapy work together. FAQ: - Q: Is Cognitive Compass only offered at Áegis Living Lake Union? A: The full program — including STG dance partnership and APDA support groups — is anchored at Lake Union. Core elements (medication timing, Restore therapy, dementia-trained staff) are available across all 37 communities. - Q: Do residents need a Parkinson's diagnosis to join the program? A: No. The program may also support other movement and early cognitive conditions, following a nursing assessment. - Q: How does Cognitive Compass differ from Life's Neighborhood memory care? A: Cognitive Compass lives within assisted living with full access to the wider community. Life's Neighborhood is our warm, secure memory care neighborhood with dedicated support for residents living with moderate to advanced dementia. - Q: What apartment types are available at Lake Union? A: Studios, one-bedrooms, companion suites, and memory-care apartments. Couples with different needs can share a home with individualized plans. - Q: Are on-site therapies covered by Medicare? A: Our team helps verify any therapy coverage before sessions begin. - Q: Can my parent try the community before committing long-term? A: Yes. Respite stays let families experience Cognitive Compass and the community before a long-term decision. --- ## Restore In-House Rehabilitation at Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/restore-in-house-rehabilitation/ Focus keyword: in-house senior rehabilitation Schema type: Service Summary: Get personalized physical, occupational, and speech therapy in your Áegis community with certified therapists—no travel required for senior rehabilitation. Bringing certified therapists to you, right where you live. Licensed physical, occupational, and speech therapists in your apartment or on-site gym — personalized recovery in familiar, comfortable surroundings. Expert Care in the Comfort of Your Home Restore is our personalized rehab program offering physical, occupational, and speech therapy—right in your Áegis community. No travel needed, just focused recovery with certified therapists. In partnership with EmpowerMe Wellness, we bring licensed experts to help you regain strength, stay active, and maintain independence—every step of the way. Here is what our residents have to say: After a big fall and breaking my femur, I had major surgery and was in a wheelchair. The hassle of leaving my home for therapy was difficult for me. But now, I just go down to the gym at Áegis. I've left my wheelchair behind, and with a little more therapy, I'll leave my walker behind, too! Jackie, Áegis Living resident Physical Therapy Strengthen your body, improve balance, and increase flexibility to prevent falls and stay active Manage pain effectively Enhance mobility and confidence Occupational Therapy Regain independence in daily tasks like bathing, dressing, and self-care Improve motor skills and coordination to make activities like eating and writing easier Learn to use adaptive tools, like specialized eating utensils, for greater independence Speech Therapy Overcome swallowing and communication challenges Enhance memory and language skills Build confidence in self-expression Why Choose Áegis Restore? Personalized therapy in familiar surroundings Highly skilled therapists specializing in senior care State-of-the-art equipment Seamless coordination with your care team No transportation needed Powered by: EmpowerMe Wellness Coverage & your care plan When a physician orders medically necessary therapy, our team helps verify any insurance or therapy coverage before sessions begin. Your Health Services Director reviews benefits and out-of-pocket costs before the first session — no surprises. Ready to Get Started? Just stop by the Health Service Director’s office and they’ll be happy to answer your questions and help you through the process. We’re here to support your recovery every step of the way! Step 1 Your Health Services Director (HSD) will assist you in getting a doctor’s order from your physician, which will be valid for 30 days Step 2 Gather and submit required documentation and verify insurance coverage (Note: this verification can take up to two weeks) Step 3 Schedule your personal assessment, where you therapist will talk with you about your therapy goals and create a personalized treatment plan Restore is part of a broader wellness plan Contact your Health Services Director today to learn more and start the process toward recovery! See the therapy gym on your tour Ask how Restore coordinates with nursing and activities to welcome your loved one home after a hospital stay. FAQ: - Q: Is Restore the same as a skilled nursing rehabilitation stay? A: No. Restore is therapy right inside your assisted living apartment or community gym. You keep your home and your familiar routines while therapists visit several times per week. - Q: Is in-house rehabilitation at Áegis Living covered by insurance? A: Coverage depends on your plan and a physician's order for medically necessary therapy. Our team helps verify any insurance or therapy coverage before sessions begin. - Q: How long does a typical Restore therapy episode last? A: Length varies by your goals and progress, and therapists re-evaluate regularly while documented progress continues. - Q: Can my parent receive Restore therapy if they live in memory care? A: Yes. Therapists adapt sessions to each resident's needs inside Life's Neighborhood. - Q: What happens after therapy ends? A: Therapists outline a simple maintenance plan that caregivers help integrate into daily routines. Therapy can restart if needs change. - Q: Do I have to move into Áegis Living to use Restore? A: Restore is part of residency. Respite stays can be a way for families to experience our community and care during recovery without a long-term commitment. --- ## AUGi Smart Fall Management Technology | Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/services/inspirens-augi-smart-fall-management-technology/ Focus keyword: AUGi smart fall management Schema type: Service Summary: AUGi AI-powered fall detection alerts your care team to prevent falls while protecting your privacy with stick-figure monitoring, not cameras. Independence and safety, hand in hand — without cameras in the room At Áegis Living, we understand independence and safety go hand in hand. That’s why we’re proud to offer AUGi™ by Inspiren, an innovative AI-powered fall risk-reduction technology that provides an extra layer of protection while respecting your privacy and dignity. A discreet device on the wall — not a camera in the room Áegis is among only a handful of senior living organizations to implement true AI technology. AUGi not only helps prevent falls but also monitors behavior trends and sleep patterns over time and flags changes, allowing us to identify new issues and refine resident care plans. How it Works AUGi is a wall-mounted smart device that uses AI technology to sense your movements. It alerts our care team when there may be a fall risk (like when you are getting out of bed or a chair), or in the event a fall has already occurred. This enables us to immediately respond and provide assistance. Prevent, respond, learn Prevent Gently recognizes moments that may need a hand — sitting up at the bed edge, an unsteady transfer — and alerts the care team so they can offer support early. Respond If a resident does take a fall, AUGi senses it and sends an immediate alert — so a caregiver is there to help right away. Learn Gentle insights into sleep and nighttime activity help our nurses thoughtfully refine each resident's personalized care plan over time. Privacy First, Always Your privacy is our priority. Unlike traditional cameras, AUGi is a sophisticated HIPAA-compliant technology that never displays or stores clear images. Residents appear as stick figures, apartment details are blurred to ensure privacy, and only authorized care team members get alerted when movement patterns suggest fall risk. Residents can turn on a temporary “virtual curtain” when they want additional privacy. Proven Results 50% Decrease in resident falls According to Inspiren, the makers of AUGi, senior living communities using the technology have experienced remarkable improvements in resident safety: 80% Decrease in falls with injury 60% Decrease in hospitalization (reported by Inspiren) How AUGi Protects You Proactive 24/7 Support Alerts our care team before potential incidents occur Swift Response Enables immediate assistance during higher-risk moments Ongoing Support Identifies behavior changes, enabling us to refine and improve your care plan Your Safety, Your Choice AUGi activation is completely optional. You can choose to activate or deactivate the system at any time, giving you full control over your care experience. Why fall prevention matters Each year, there are about 3 million emergency-department visits for older-adult falls ( CDC , 2023), and one in five falls leads to a more serious injury ( NIA , 2022). The good news: thoughtful prevention makes a real difference. AUGi is one layer within a broader, caring approach — welcoming design, therapy, medication review, and human attention. Technology extends a caregiver's senses, and a familiar, friendly face is still the one who walks through the door. About one in four adults 65 and older experiences a fall each year — which is exactly why thoughtful prevention and quick, caring support matter so much. Based on Centers for Disease Control and Prevention data Ready to Learn More? Contact your community’s General Manager or Marketing Director to see a live demonstration of AUGi or to opt in. See for yourself how AUGi strikes the perfect balance between safety and independence, helping you live with more confidence. If you’re not currently an Áegis resident, call your local Áegis community and ask to speak to the General Manager or Marketing Director to learn more. Ask to see AUGi on your tour Our community teams would love to show you how AUGi works and how it brings caregivers to a resident's side so quickly. FAQ: - Q: What is AUGi and how does it work? A:AUGi is a cutting-edge smart device mounted on your apartment wall that notifies your care team if it detects a safety concern.
While AUGi is not a medical device, it’s an advanced technology platform supporting Áegis Living’s ongoing commitment to your safety and well-being.
This innovative system was developed by Inspiren, a nurse-led organization dedicated to enhancing the safety of older adults through technology.
- Q: How does AUGi protect my privacy? A:Your privacy is as important to us as your safety. AUGi was designed with both in mind:
AUGi does not store clear images and protects your privacy by maintaining only blurred visuals. All data is shared solely with your Áegis caregiving team. AUGi is HIPAA-compliant.
Key details retained in AUGi’s alert summaries include:
Áegis Living retains this information as required by local laws and regulations. Additionally, Inspiren may use de-identified data to train and improve the AUGi system. Áegis Living and Inspiren strictly comply with all applicable federal, state, and local laws governing data use and privacy.
- Q: Can I see a demonstration of AUGi? A: Absolutely! Contact your General Manager to schedule a time to see it in action. - Q: Does AUGi work for all situations? A: While AUGi provides an additional layer of monitoring and safety, no system is perfect. Occasionally, there may be false alerts, or the system may not detect every situation. However, AUGi enhances our existing safety protocols and provides a valuable extra layer of support to help prevent and respond to risks. - Q: Can I opt out of having AUGi activated in my apartment? A: Yes. Activating AUGi requires your consent. If you choose to activate AUGi, simply complete and return the consent form. If you prefer not to activate it, please let your General Manager know. You can change your decision at any time, as AUGi can be activated or deactivated upon request. - Q: Has AUGi been used in other communities? A: Yes. AUGi has been successfully implemented in Áegis Living communities and other retirement communities across the country, showing positive results in improving resident safety and response times. - Q: What if I have more questions? A: Your General Manager is available to discuss AUGi in more detail and answer any additional questions you may have. --- ## Red Light Therapy for Seniors | Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/redlighttherapy/ Focus keyword: red light therapy for seniors Schema type: WebPage Summary: Red light therapy reduces inflammation and pain naturally, improving mobility, sleep, and energy without medication or surgery at Áegis Living. Restore Red Light Therapy Clinically studied red and near-infrared light — relaxing 10–20 minute sessions that support joint comfort, sleep, recovery, and skin health. Available at Áegis Living Ballard (Seattle) and San Rafael. After experiencing constant joint pain, I was recently diagnosed with osteoarthritis in my knee. I declined a steroid shot, preferring to treat my injury holistically. I started red light therapy at Áegis and by the second week of treatment, I was pain-free and experiencing improved knee mobility Charles, Áegis Living Ballard Resident Reduce inflammation and reclaim health and vitality at Áegis Living Ballard At Áegis Living, we believe in empowering our residents with healthier living. Restore Red Light Therapy offers a proven, non-invasive solution to help you feel better and live more vibrantly–naturally. Experience improvements in mobility, energy, and overall healing. What is red light therapy? Photobiomodulation (PBM) delivers red and near-infrared wavelengths that are absorbed by mitochondria, which may stimulate tissue repair and reduce local inflammation ( NIH , 2014). Low-level red light therapy is studied for supporting circulation and easing everyday muscle and joint discomfort. For older adults — arthritis affects about half of adults 65 and older ( CDC , 2024) — it offers a gentle, non-invasive option for everyday joint and muscle discomfort, alongside Restore therapy . Restore Red Light Therapy Benefits Red light therapy offers a natural, drug-free solution for many common issues without the side effects of medications or surgeries. It’s safe, effective, and scientifically proven to enhance our quality of life as we age. Pain ReliefStudies show LED red light can help reduce inflammation, offering relief for arthritis, back pain, and muscle stiffness.
Faster HealingInjuries or surgeries can take longer to heal as we age. Red light therapy helps accelerate tissue repair and recovery.
Improved SleepRed light therapy can promote deeper, more restorative sleep, critical for maintaining overall health.
Boost EnergySoothing LED light waves can combat fatigue by increasing energy production at the cellular level, leaving you feeling refreshed.
Better Skin HealthPromotes skin rejuvenation and improves overall skin quality, especially helpful for those with fragile skin.
Advanced Wellness Relax & Rejuvenate During your 10 to 20-minute session, you’ll relax comfortably in a specialized bed with soothing LED lights. No pain or discomfort—just a calming experience that leaves you feeling better. An Áegis Care Manager will guide you through the entire process. Longevity Innovation Red light therapy is an emerging treatment that can promote longevity by reducing inflammation in the body. Its effects on overall health and well-being make it a promising tool in wellness and anti-aging strategies. Safe & Natural Red light therapy uses safe, therapeutic wavelengths of light to promote healing at a cellular level. This restorative, spa-like treatment can make a significant difference in your day-to-day life without medication or invasive procedures. How a session works Reserve your session Book a session with the wellness team at Áegis Living Ballard or San Rafael — residents and family members can try it for free. Relax on the bed Settle in for 10–20 minutes under specialized LED lights. No heat, no UV, no discomfort. Build a routine Your wellness team recommends a session cadence around your goals — pain, sleep, recovery, or skin health. Contact us at 206-204-8000 Contact us at 206-204-8000 to learn more, schedule a demo, or purchase sessions. Try red light therapy for Free Restore Red Light Therapy is accessible and available to all Áegis Living residents* and their family members, and you can even try it out for free. Experience all the transformative health benefits of red light therapy and get started on your journey to improved health and well-being. Schedule a demo: Enjoy a complimentary red light therapy session at Áegis Living Ballard. Learn more or purchase sessions: Call (206) 260-1990, or email us at Ballard.Concierge@aegisliving.com. * For residents in other locations, scheduled transportation will conveniently take you to and from our Ballard community. Ask about red light therapy on your tour See the equipment setup and how sessions fit into a resident's wellness plan. FAQ: - Q: What is red light therapy and how does it work? A: Red light therapy — also called photobiomodulation — uses red and near-infrared LED wavelengths that are absorbed by the mitochondria in your cells. This may stimulate tissue repair, ease inflammation, and support recovery. Sessions are non-invasive, with no heat, no UV, and no downtime. - Q: What are the benefits of red light therapy for seniors? A: Residents most often enjoy it for pain relief (arthritis, back pain, muscle stiffness), faster healing after injury or surgery, deeper and more restorative sleep, more daytime energy, and healthier, more radiant skin. Benefits typically grow with consistent sessions. - Q: Is red light therapy safe for seniors on multiple medications? A: Red light therapy is gentle and non-invasive. Our wellness team reviews your health history with you before your first session, so you can relax with complete peace of mind. - Q: How quickly will I feel results from red light therapy? A: Some residents feel looser after a single session, while meaningful changes in pain and sleep often appear after two to four weeks of consistent use. - Q: Which Áegis Living communities offer red light therapy? A: Restore Red Light Therapy is currently available at Áegis Living Ballard in Seattle, Washington and Áegis Living San Rafael in California. Residents and family members at these communities can try it for free. - Q: How much does red light therapy cost at Áegis Living? A: At Áegis Living Ballard and San Rafael, Restore Red Light Therapy is free to try for residents and their family members. Ask the community's wellness team about ongoing session packages and scheduling. - Q: What should I wear to a red light therapy session? A: Wear comfortable clothing you can adjust easily. A wellness team member guides light exposure for the area being treated, with full privacy maintained throughout. --- ## Restaurant-Style Senior Living Dining at Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/dining/ Focus keyword: restaurant-style senior dining Schema type: AboutPage Summary: Chef-designed menus featuring fresh, seasonal ingredients personalized to each resident's dietary needs and preferences, plus all-day dining flexibility. Dining Crafted by our talented chefs and dieticians, every menu highlights fresh, seasonal ingredients and consistent restaurant quality across our communities. Áegis Living is known for cuisine that’s both delicious and personalized to each resident’s needs and preferences. Mealtimes are more than dining. Every meal is a chance to gather, connect, and celebrate. Familiar dishes often spark memories of family dinners, childhood meals, or special vacations, making meals something every resident looks forward to. All Day Dining Served from 7am–7pm, our menus are designed by dietitians, and our talented chefs cater to your needs, offering flexibility in when and where you dine, as well as plenty of menu options to suit every palate, dietary requirement, and craving. Chefs will happily accommodate—go ahead, order off-menu! Private Dining At Áegis Living, residents can host family gatherings in our private dining rooms, designed to feel like home. From birthdays and anniversaries to holiday dinners, these moments become more special when shared around the table. With our culinary team providing support, entertaining is easy—so residents can focus on enjoying time with the people who matter most and keeping family traditions alive. Hydration Stations Hydration is especially vital for older adults, since dehydration can cause fatigue, confusion, and even symptoms that mimic dementia. At Áegis Living, our hydration stations make drinking water more appealing with ice-cold, fruit- and herb-infused flavors. These refreshing hydration stations encourage residents to drink more often, helping safeguard health, energy, and mental clarity. Fresh, seasonal, and personal Every community kitchen is led by chefs who know residents by name. Familiar dishes spark memories of family dinners and travel — which is why mealtimes are a chance to gather, connect, and celebrate together. Inside Life's Neighborhood , memory-care dining spaces and gentle, dementia-informed cueing are designed for memory support, so every resident dines with comfort and dignity. Why great nutrition matters so much About 1 in 2 older adults is at risk of malnutrition ( NCOA ). People simply eat more — and enjoy it more — when food looks and tastes like a restaurant. We thoughtfully personalize menus to each resident's needs and preferences, including dietary requirements. Chef-prepared meals are served throughout the day, so every resident enjoys food that looks and tastes like a treat. Pleasure and dignity belong at the center of aging care — not at its edges. Meals are one of the most powerful places to honor that. The Áegis Living culinary philosophy Dining is one piece of daily life Chef-led meals connect to activities, wellness, and family visits — see how it fits the broader lifestyle. Taste the menu on your tour Our communities welcome families for a meal visit. Ask your advisor to pair a tour with lunch or dinner. FAQ: - Q: What hours is dining available at Áegis Living? A: All-day restaurant-style dining runs 7am to 7pm across Áegis Living communities. Residents choose when and where to eat, including in-apartment trays when preferred. - Q: Can Áegis Living chefs accommodate special diets? A: Yes. Dietitian-designed menus are personalized to each resident's needs and preferences, including dietary requirements. Off-menu requests are welcomed. - Q: Can family join residents for a meal? A: Family members are welcome in the main dining room, and residents may reserve private dining rooms for birthdays, anniversaries, and holiday dinners with full culinary-team support. - Q: How is dining adapted for memory care? A: Inside Life's Neighborhood, memory-care dining spaces and gentle, dementia-informed cueing from trained caregivers are designed for memory support, so every resident dines with comfort and dignity. - Q: How does Áegis Living address dehydration? A: Infused-water hydration stations are placed in welcoming, high-traffic lounges, and residents are gently encouraged to stay hydrated throughout the day. Because dehydration can mimic dementia in older adults, staying well-hydrated is a thoughtful, everyday priority for our team. - Q: Are meals included in the monthly fee? A: Chef-prepared meals are served throughout the day, from 7am to 7pm, with snacks and beverages available between meals. Family members are welcome to join residents in the dining room. --- ## The Áegis Living Difference: Our Senior Care Approach URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/the-aegis-difference/ Focus keyword: Áegis Living approach Schema type: AboutPage Summary: Áegis Living redefines senior care with innovative models, employee-centric culture, and 40 years of industry expertise serving 2,500 residents across 36 communities. The Áegis Difference Hospitality-grade. Innovation-driven. Deeply personal. This is senior living designed for the people who call Áegis Living home. Every community keeps a box of ideas to make tomorrow better From the very beginning, our founder and CEO, Dwayne Clark, believed senior living could—and should—be better. As a young professional, he filled a “black box” with ideas for how to bring joy, dignity, and innovation to older adults. That same spirit fuels Áegis Living today. Every community prominently displays its own black box, empowering staff to dream up new ways to surprise and delight residents. This culture of innovation and heart sets Áegis Living apart, creating communities where extraordinary care and meaningful moments are built into every day. What families feel on a tour Adults 65+ are roughly 17% of the U.S. population and growing ( ACL , 2023). Our joy is making this chapter feel like home — restaurant-style dining, on-site salons, pet-friendly, amenities that raise the bar, and care that grows gracefully right alongside each resident. Explore leadership , awards , and why families choose us for the full story. Who is Áegis Living built for? 25+ Years of senior living expertise 37 Communities across WA, CA, and NV 6 Care options under one roof Leadership Team Advisory Board Awards At Áegis Living, our goal is to redefine senior living as we care for the personalized needs of each resident. We are proud of—and immensely grateful for—our many achievements and awards along the way. Care programs designed by senior living experts Life's Neighborhood® Warm, secure memory-care neighborhoods with dementia-trained teams and Cognitive Compass programming. Restore in-house rehabilitation Licensed physical, occupational, and speech therapists bring personalized therapy right to your apartment. Inspirens AUGi Privacy-first AI that helps keep residents safe and confident in every community. Restaurant-style dining Chef-led kitchens with all-day service and hydration stations. Become Part of the Team We help our team members carve a career path to success through a variety of programs and initiatives. We proudly promote from within and have clear career growth maps that our team members can follow. See how care levels and programs fit together Compare six care options, explore lifestyle and technology, or start with our decision guide. Experience the difference on a tour Ask about the black box, meet the nurse, and stay for a meal. FAQ: - Q: How is Áegis Living different from skilled nursing? A: Skilled nursing centers offer 24-hour clinical care for residents with complex medical needs. Áegis Living is assisted living and memory care - private apartments, hospitality dining, and 24/7 caregivers with onsite nurses in a warm, residential setting that celebrates independence, connection, and everyday joy. - Q: What does memory care at Áegis Living cost? A: Pricing for Life's Neighborhood® memory care varies by community and by each resident's level of care, since staffing ratios and specialized programming differ from one location to the next. Our team reviews the specifics with every family so you have a clear, personalized picture of what's included. - Q: How are your caregivers trained for dementia? A: Every Life's Neighborhood® team member completes dementia-specific training, and Áegis Living has been recognized on the Fortune Best Workplaces in Aging Services list. Training emphasizes person-centered care: connect rather than correct, honor each resident's feelings, and gently shape the surroundings to help every person feel calm, capable, and at home. - Q: Can my parent stay if their care needs increase? A: In most cases, yes. Care grows right alongside your loved one within the same community - from Light Assisted Living through Assisted Living, Transitional Care, and Life's Neighborhood® Memory Care. We also coordinate Hospice & End-of-Life Care in a resident's own apartment, surrounded by comfort, dignity, and family. - Q: How long has Áegis Living been operating? A: Áegis Living was founded in 1997 and is headquartered in Bellevue, Washington, operating 37 communities across Washington, California, and Nevada. We've earned U.S. News & World Report Best Senior Living recognition. - Q: Do you offer short-term stays? A: Yes. Respite Stays and Day Stays give family caregivers a break - hours, days, or a few weeks - while your loved one enjoys a furnished apartment, 24/7 care, and full access to dining and a full calendar of daily activities. --- ## Innovative Technology at Áegis Living: AUGi, App & AI Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/the-aegis-difference/technology/ Focus keyword: senior living technology Schema type: WebPage Summary: Áegis Living uses technology to help seniors stay healthy, connected with family, and engaged in community activities through innovative wellness apps and digital tools. Innovative Technology Safety, connection, and caring insight — measured against one joyful test: does it brighten a resident's day? How Technology Can Help Seniors Stay Healthy and Connected Although there remains a great divide between the older generation and younger Americans adopting technology, that divide is becoming narrower as baby boomers reach retirement age. The baby boomer generation has been accustomed to carrying a smartphone, reading a book on their Kindle, asking Alexa to turn on the lights, and following their grandkids on Facebook. They may not be early adopters, but this generation understands that technology can make their lives easier, which they embrace. Áegis Living has taken steps to integrate technology into our communities and will continue to evaluate technology that will better aid our residents, families, and staff. Áegis Living is looking toward the future to prepare for the innovations and upgrades that this tech-savvy group of seniors will expect in their new homes. Three tools families ask about most Áegis Living app Photos, activities, and care updates for family members in any time zone. Inspiren AUGi Caring AI fall risk-reduction technology with a privacy-first design — available in our communities. Amazon Alexa voice tech Voice-activated Alexa for music, current events, reminiscence, and Life Enrichment — in every assisted living and memory care community. Áegis Living App Áegis Living uses technology to provide families with a meaningful window into their loved one’s daily life. Through our Áegis Living app, families have access to an online wellness tool that tracks participation in activities, highlights behavioral trends, and shares photos and updates in real time. It answers one of the most important questions families have—how their loved one is spending each day—while offering reassurance and a deeper sense of connection. Updates can be easily shared among family members, creating a collective understanding and peace of mind as their loved one settles into their new home. Even beyond visibility for families, social connection plays a vital role in overall health and wellbeing. The app gives our team valuable insight into each resident’s level of happiness and engagement, all at our fingertips. This allows us to thoughtfully introduce residents to others who share common ground, recommend activities aligned with their personal interests, and create opportunities to celebrate meaningful moments along the way. When a resident discovers an activity that sparks joy, we can build on that momentum with more personalized programming. If participation begins to shift, it may signal a change worth exploring, allowing us to respond early and with intention. By tracking participation over time, we gain a more complete picture of each resident’s quality of life. This insight helps shape daily experiences—from curated programs and outings that encourage connection, to more individualized support when a resident may need a little extra encouragement. The result is a lifestyle that feels engaging, responsive, and deeply personal. Residents also benefit from this technology in a very real, everyday way. They can browse the daily calendar, explore new activities, RSVP to events, and manage their personal schedules with ease. It offers a sense of independence and involvement, making it simple to stay connected to community life, discover new interests, and fully participate in each day. Turning everyday moments into shared experiences, the Áegis Living app keeps everyone connected to a deeper sense of connection and care. A caring response the moment it's needed AUGi gently alerts the team when a resident may need a hand — and a trained caregiver is there in person, right away, so help never feels far away. Wi-Fi, Computers, and Other Technology Available at Our Locations For our tech-savvy residents, each of our communities offers Wi-Fi internet access throughout the building for their own devices or community tablets. Our tablet devices are available to residents and curated with activities to challenge their minds, entertain, and educate. Each community has tablets loaded with a digital library of Sudoku, trivia, games, brain fitness, audiobooks, classic radio programs, and a variety of apps that our residents love. We also use online programs in our Life Enrichment activities, like leading our residents through meditation or deep breathing exercises. Technology has transformed how many seniors communicate. Many of our residents are on Facebook or chat with their loved ones via text or online for a face-to-face conversation. Every community has a computer available for our residents to check their emails, peruse current events, print documents, or touch base with their families. How Does Technology Play a Role at Áegis Living? Over the past decade, the senior housing industry has changed dramatically from the stale definition of an “old folk’s home” to vibrant communities. Áegis Living has been a leader offering innovative activity programs that engage our senior residents in often unexpected ways, including leveraging technology. Alexa Áegis Living uses voice-activated technology, Amazon’s Alexa, in each of our assisted living and memory care communities. These are used throughout the day during Life Enrichment programming, as well as by staff and residents. The myriad of facts, figures, information, names, current events, and music are never further away than your voice: “Alexa!” Life Enrichment directors know that to keep the attention of this older generation, some with cognitive issues, can be fleeting. No one wants to watch an opportunity go by, especially when you can engage with a resident or remind them of a fond memory. Alexa has seamlessly integrated into our programs, supporting our staff with an immediacy of information, and keeping conversations flowing. “When we have gaps in our programs, we lose the energy and opportunity,” according to Chris Corrigall, Áegis Living’s Vice President of Life Enrichment. “Alexa is an important vehicle for engagement and sharing ideas allowing our Life Enrichment team to spend more time with our residents.” For a generation that did not grow up using as much technology as current generations, this voice app makes it easy for them to use. They have adapted to using it very quickly. And we have found it particularly beneficial for those with visual impairments, who don’t need to read to use the device. Music is also an integral part of our Life Enrichment program at Áegis Living. Music is something that stays with a person well into the aging process and can unlock memories. Having access to music on demand with Alexa can bring a room to life when Big Band music starts swinging or spark a memory on the spot of the first dance at their wedding long ago. Alexa is quick to tell a joke, play 20 questions, report the weather, guide a class through meditation, or produce facts about the day like famous birthdays, on this day in history, or #1 song on the charts in a particular year. Alexa is an equally helpful resource for both those in assisted living and those in memory care. We find that many in assisted living like to use Alexa for current events, while it makes a great tool to reminisce for our memory care residents. Virtual Reality Many senior living communities are now embracing virtual reality (VR). Áegis Living has been testing VR to “transport” residents around the world from the comfort of their community. Residents can virtually experience places like the Louvre Museum in Paris or take a virtual trip hiking in the mountains or fishing a quiet stream. The options are endless. Our residents have found joy in exploring memories of places they have been and discovering new places that they have always longed to see without the discomfort of travel or the hassle of long lines at the airport. “We get to know residents and their life stories and create experiences that really make it meaningful,” says Chris Corrigall, Vice President of Life Enrichment at Áegis Living. “Maybe they’ll say, ‘Let’s go to Venice,’ where they’ve taken their honeymoon years ago.” Technology’s Role in Resident Safety We use check-in kiosks at the front reception desks to track visitors within the community. Our around-the-clock care staff is supported by technology to better monitor our residents for their safety and health. Motion sensors in the senior apartments help track movement if a resident is up during the night, and medical alerts are worn to keep them safe. Our medication managers track residents’ health and medication information electronically for accuracy and to avoid drug interactions. And as “smart home” technology evolves, we know there will be even more options within each senior apartment in the future. Our lives are being transformed by technology that not only benefits the younger generation, but these advancements include options for seniors too. Technology continues to evolve and change. As an industry, senior housing needs to include these changes and innovations where necessary, especially when serving a more tech-savvy audience in the future. At Áegis Living, we are committed to integrating innovative technology for our residents that enhances their quality of life. Come see Áegis Living for yourself. Schedule a tour to learn more. We welcome technology only when it helps residents feel safer, deepens human connection, and gives caregivers more time at a resident's side — never less. Three heartfelt questions every new tool must answer before it joins our communities. See how technology supports your loved one's care From the family app to caring fall sensors — every tool supports a team you can trust. Ready to Find Your Perfect Community? See what Áegis Living has to offer near you! If you’re feeling overwhelmed, just give us a call and we’ll be happy to guide you. FAQ: - Q: Is the Áegis Living app included or does it cost extra? A: Family members receive an invitation to the app during move-in. Ask your community how it is included. - Q: Does AUGi record video of residents? A: No. AUGi is HIPAA-compliant and never displays or stores clear images — residents appear as stick figures and apartment details are blurred, so it gently watches for moments a resident may need help. Privacy-preserving alerts only. - Q: Will my parent need to be tech-savvy to live at Áegis Living? A: Not at all. Technology supports our care team, and residents are welcome to use it however much they like. The warmth and quality of care never depend on using a device. - Q: How is technology used in Life's Neighborhood memory care? A: Warm, secure entrances, AUGi, music through voice assistants, reminiscence VR, and science-based cognitive sessions — all paired with caring, dementia-trained team members. - Q: Can families see real-time updates from anywhere? A: Yes. Photos, activities, and care notes sync to the app so distributed families see the same picture. - Q: How does Áegis Living decide which technologies to adopt? A: Every tool must help residents feel safer, deepen connection, and give caregivers more time with the people they care for — or we simply don't bring it in. --- ## Where to Begin: Choosing the Right Senior Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/where-to-begin/ Focus keyword: where to begin senior care Schema type: WebPage Summary: Not sure what level of senior care your parent needs? Follow the same path our advisors use: notice the signals, get a nursing assessment, match the care level, tour with the right questions. Where to begin: a warm, clear path to senior living The step-by-step path our family care advisors walk with every family: what to notice at home, how a nursing assessment sets the care level, what to ask on tours, and how the three cost numbers actually work. Start with what you are seeing at home — not with floor plans. The clearest starting point is not a brochure or a price sheet. It is the pattern you are noticing at home: a few missed medications, a fall that went unmentioned, a freezer that holds little more than bread, a caregiver who has not slept through the night in months. More than 14 million older adults — 1 in 4 — report falling each year ( CDC , 2026), and a repeated fall is one of the most common reasons the search begins. This page follows the same path our family care advisors and on-site nurses walk with families every week across our 37 communities in Washington, California, and Nevada: name what you are seeing, get an honest nursing assessment, match the care level, and tour with the right questions. If you want to go deeper on the signals themselves, start with the eight signs our care advisors look for . Guidance drawn from decades of walking this path with families 1997 Founded — headquartered in Bellevue, Washington 37 Communities across WA, CA, and NV 60,000+ Seniors cared for over our founder's career 6 Levels of care under one roof The five steps our advisors walk every family through 1. Name the pattern, not the moment. Families rarely call about one hard day. They call about a quiet pattern that has been building for months. Write down what you have actually noticed — missed doses, a second fall this year, weight loss, pulling back from friends. One signal alone is rarely the moment; the pattern usually is, and your notes become the heart of every conversation that follows. 2. Talk with a family care advisor — before you tour. A free 20-minute conversation. Advisors ask what you are seeing at home, not what care level you think you need — and they will tell you honestly if there is no rush yet. 3. Get the nursing assessment. An in-person assessment by a licensed nurse establishes the right care level today and the care points behind the price. It is the single most clarifying step — apartment fit, the monthly total, and the care plan all follow from it, and it is reassessed as needs change. 4. Tour two communities between 4 and 6 PM. Late afternoon shows a community at its busiest — shift change and dinner service. Eat a meal, meet the executive director, ask the caregiver-to-resident ratio on each shift, and ask how care points are reassessed when needs change. 5. Get the three numbers in writing, then plan the move. Rent, care points, and the one-time community fee — separately, in writing, so each number can be defended. If timing is tight, a respite stay bridges the gap from a day to a month or more while the long-term plan settles. The patterns our advisors hear most often Safety at home Two or more falls in a year, a fall no one mentioned, pills sorted into the wrong day, a stove left on, or doors unlocked at night. Each is small on its own — together they are usually the start of a good conversation. A caregiver who needs support A spouse who has not slept through the night in months, or an adult child spending every day off on one emergency after another. Respite and Day Stay programs were designed for exactly this moment. A wish for more connection Pulling back from friends and hobbies, driving that no longer feels safe, the same few meals on repeat — and a longing for the company of a lively community. Compare levels Six care options under one roof Light Assisted Living Independence intact, with a daily safety net — medication reminders, maintenance-free living, 24/7 on-call team. Assisted Living Personalized daily help with bathing, dressing, medications, and mobility, with licensed nurses on site. Memory Care Life's Neighborhood: a warm, secure neighborhood with dementia-trained teams and science-based programming. Transitional Care For early memory changes — still wonderfully social, with gentle structure and cueing. Respite & Day Stay Short stays from a day to a month or more — recovery, travel, or a low-pressure trial of daily life here. Hospice Care Comfort and dignity in the resident's own apartment, with family close — in partnership with a chosen hospice provider. What are the main levels of senior care? Senior living is not one product. It is a continuum, and choosing the right level brings confidence, value, and trust. The table below maps the levels Áegis Living offers alongside the resident each is designed to welcome. Care Level A Wonderful Fit When... Typical Support Included Illustrative Monthly Range* Light Assisted Living Largely independent; wants maintenance-free living with a safety net Meals, housekeeping, transportation, medication reminders, 24/7 on-call team $5,000 - $7,000 Assisted Living Welcomes daily help with bathing, dressing, mobility, or medications All of the above plus hands-on daily-living support, on-site nursing 7 days/week, therapy access $6,500 - $9,500 Transitional Care Early memory changes; still social, with gentle reminders for medications or questions Cueing, way-finding support, dementia-trained team, gentle redirection, full amenity access $7,500 - $10,000 Advanced Memory Care Living with Alzheimer's or dementia and ready for more hands-on, specialized support Warm, secure Life's Neighborhood, science-based cognitive programming, music therapy, 24/7 specialized team $8,500 - $12,500 Respite Care Short stay for recovery, family travel, or a trial run Furnished apartment, full care at any level, day or multi-week stays Daily rate Hospice Care The focus turns fully to comfort, dignity, and time with family In-apartment hospice coordination, comforting symptom care, loving family support Layered with hospice benefit *Figures are illustrative planning estimates for national context — not published Áegis rates; Áegis pricing is apartment rent + personalized care points + a one-time community fee. For national context, the median cost of assisted living is $6,200 per month — $74,400 per year, up 5% year over year ( CareScout Cost of Care Survey , 2025). Premium markets like Seattle, the Bay Area, and Orange County price above the national median. Choosing the right level brings confidence and peace of mind. Start with a caring nursing assessment — then choose the level that fits today, knowing the plan grows right alongside your loved one. Our advisors warmly help families compare options at their own pace. Understand the three numbers before you tour. Áegis Living pricing is three numbers, separated on purpose so each one can be defended: monthly apartment rent (the apartment, utilities, three chef-prepared meals a day plus snacks, weekly housekeeping and laundry, scheduled transportation, activities, and the on-call team), à la carte care points (personal care assigned after the nursing assessment and reassessed as needs change — you only pay for the support actually being used), and a one-time community fee at move-in. Most families combine some or all of five sources: retirement income and Social Security, home-sale proceeds, long-term-care insurance, VA Aid Attendance, and short-term bridge financing. VA Aid Attendance alone can add up to $29,093 per year for a single veteran and $34,488 for a veteran with a spouse ( U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs , 2026). For the model line by line — including a real example month and what is not included — read how Áegis Living pricing actually works . Get a personalized recommendation Tell us what you're noticing at home — an advisor will warmly suggest a care level and communities near you, or reassure you that there is no rush yet. Six questions that tell you the most on a tour What is the caregiver-to-resident ratio on each shift? Ask separately about day, evening, and overnight — they differ. Áegis Living staffs care managers around the clock with on-site nursing seven days a week. How long has the executive director been here? Director tenure is one of the clearest signs of a stable community. Ask the same about the lead nurse and the head of dining. How is care assessed — and reassessed? Ask who does the assessment (a licensed nurse), how often it is repeated, and what triggers an off-cycle reassessment. At Áegis Living, care points are reassessed as needs change — down as well as up. Walk me through the pricing — slowly. Get the three numbers separately: monthly rent, the care-points scale, and the one-time community fee. Ask what is not included, and how annual rent adjustments are communicated. What happens when needs change? Ask whether the community supports Light Assisted Living all the way through Memory Care and comfort-focused care. Áegis Living offers six care options under one roof, so most residents never have to leave familiar faces. May I see a typical apartment — not the model? The model is always pristine. Ask for one that is move-in ready, and look at the lighting, bathroom safety features, and how the layout works for mobility. Go deeper before you decide Two companion guides carry this page further: a line-by-line walkthrough of the cost model, and the full 14-question tour checklist our advisors wish every family used. Recognized for the way we care Ready to visit a community? Once you have a level in mind, find a location near your family and schedule a late-afternoon tour. FAQ: - Q: What is the difference between assisted living and memory care? A: Assisted Living supports residents with daily tasks like bathing, dressing, and medications in an open, social setting. Memory Care offers a warm, secure neighborhood for residents living with Alzheimer's or another form of dementia, with dementia-trained team members, structured cognitive programming, and thoughtful design that provides way-finding support and a calming sense of ease. - Q: How much does senior living cost? A: The national median cost of assisted living is $6,200 per month — $74,400 per year — up 5% year over year (CareScout Cost of Care Survey, 2025), with memory care typically higher and premium urban markets above that. Áegis Living separates apartment rent from care points so you pay only for the support actually used, plus a one-time community fee. - Q: When is it time to move a parent with dementia? A: You are far from alone in asking: an estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's (Alzheimer's Association Facts and Figures, 2026). Common signs families notice include the need for more way-finding support, missed medications, changes in appetite, repeated falls, or a caregiver who could use more support. If your parent is still social but starting to need gentle cueing, Transitional Care is often a wonderful first step; the warm, secure neighborhood of Memory Care in Life's Neighborhood is a good fit as needs grow. - Q: What questions should we ask on a tour? A: Start with the caregiver-to-resident ratio on each shift (day, evening, and overnight differ), the executive director's tenure, how care is assessed and reassessed, and a slow walk-through of pricing — rent, care points, and the one-time community fee, separately. Eat a meal on the tour, ask to see a typical apartment rather than the model, and book your second visit between 4 and 6 PM to see the community through shift change and dinner service. - Q: How do families typically pay for senior living? A: Most Áegis Living families combine some or all of: retirement income and Social Security, home-sale proceeds, long-term-care insurance benefits, and VA Aid & Attendance where the veteran qualifies. Áegis Living advisors walk through the math on a tour. - Q: Can my parents stay together if they need different kinds of care? A: Yes. At Áegis Living, couples with different care needs can share an apartment with personalized care plans for each spouse. The plan adjusts as either person's needs change. - Q: What is a respite stay and who is it for? A: A respite stay is a short-term, fully serviced stay in a furnished apartment with 24/7 care, meals, and activities — from a day to a month or more. It is a wonderful option for recovery after surgery, family travel, or an easy way to experience community life before a longer-term decision. - Q: How quickly can a move-in happen? A: Timing depends on the community, the care level, and apartment availability. After an in-person nursing assessment, an advisor can walk you through the specific waitlist or availability at your top community and help you plan a move-in that works for your family. When timing is tight, a respite stay can bridge the gap while the long-term plan settles. --- ## When Is It Time to Consider Assisted Living? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/signs-its-time-for-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: signs it's time for assisted living Schema type: WebPage Summary: The eight signs Áegis Living care advisors watch for, the myths that delay the conversation, and how to start with an honest assessment — written with our nurses. When is it time to consider assisted living? Eight signs our care advisors look for. Warm, plain-language guidance from the Áegis Living team — nurses, executive directors, and family care advisors who walk families through this decision with care every week. The decision rarely arrives on a single day. Most families reach out to Áegis Living not because of one big moment, but because a quiet pattern has been building for months — a few missed medications, a small fender bender no one mentioned, a freezer that holds little more than bread. By the time the conversation begins, the adult child is often worn thin and the parent is gently insisting everything is fine. The eight signs below come straight from the Áegis Living care advisors and on-site nurses who do this work with heart every day across our 37 communities in Washington, California, and Nevada. None of them is a diagnosis. Together, they are usually the start of a good conversation. Why families trust Áegis Living with this decision 1997 Founded — headquartered in Bellevue, Washington 37 Communities across WA, CA, and NV 60,000+ Seniors cared for over our founder's career 6 Levels of care under one roof What our advisors actually watch for 1. Medication is starting to slip. Missed doses, double doses, expired bottles, or pills sorted into the wrong day. Medication management is one of the most common reasons families reach out — and one of the most reassuring things to set right once a resident moves into Assisted Living, where the on-site team handles reminders or hands-on administration. 2. Falls are repeating — or going unmentioned. One fall is a single moment. Two or more in a year, a fall that led to a hospital visit, or a bruise your parent would rather not talk about are all worth noticing. Áegis Living communities are thoughtfully designed for safe, confident mobility, with on-site Restore therapy — and AUGi smart fall-management technology, which Áegis is among only a handful of operators to have adopted. 3. The fridge tells a different story than the conversation. Food past its prime, the same few meals on repeat, weight loss, or meals skipped when no one is around. Hospitality dining at Áegis Living is built around three chef-prepared meals a day plus snacks, with smaller, more social table groupings and gentle, dementia-informed cueing inside Life's Neighborhood memory care. 4. Driving is no longer feeling safe. Unexplained dents, missed turns on familiar routes, or family members who feel uneasy riding along. When driving winds down, staying connected becomes the priority — and every Áegis Living community provides transportation for appointments, errands, and outings, so residents keep getting out into the world. 5. The caregiver is running on empty. A spouse who has not slept through the night in months. An adult daughter who has spent all her time off on one emergency after another. Caregiver fatigue takes a real toll on the caregiver and on the loved one they support. Respite and Day Stay programs at Áegis Living are designed for exactly this moment — a chance to rest and recharge. 6. The home is harder to keep up. Mail piling up, clutter building, the stove left on, doors unlocked at night. The home that fit life at 70 sometimes does not fit life at 85 — and renovations rarely close the gap. Light Assisted Living offers independence with an around-the-clock safety net, so home feels easy again. 7. Cognition is changing — not just memory. Repeating questions, losing the thread on familiar routes, paying the same bill twice, or stepping back from hobbies that used to bring joy. Transitional Care at Áegis Living is built for residents with mild memory changes who are still wonderfully social. Our warm, secure Life's Neighborhood supports moderate to advanced dementia, with science-based cognitive programming and dementia-trained teams. 8. Hospital trips are happening more often. Three ER visits in six months, a return to the hospital within thirty days, or a discharge plan that is hard to follow at home. On-site nursing seven days a week and care managers around the clock at Áegis Living help catch the small things early, before they become bigger ones. Not sure which signs apply yet? A 20-minute conversation with an Áegis Living family care advisor is free. They will help you make sense of what you are seeing and find the right care level — or reassure you that there is no rush yet. Three myths worth setting aside "Mom will lose her independence." Most Áegis Living residents feel more independent after they move in than they did the month before. The cooking, cleaning, driving, and medication management that once filled their day are taken care of — freeing up energy for the things that truly feel like living. "It is too expensive." Áegis Living pricing is rent + à la carte care points + a one-time community fee, and care points can be updated as needs change. You only pay for the help your parent is actually receiving. Most families combine retirement income, home-sale proceeds, long-term-care insurance, and VA Aid & Attendance where eligible. "We will wait a while longer." A planned, unhurried move from home to Light Assisted Living gives your family the gift of choice — time to tour, compare, and settle in comfortably. Moving ahead of a crisis means everyone gets to do it on their own terms. Six care options under one roof Light Assisted Living — independence with a safety net: meals, housekeeping, transportation, medication reminders, and an around-the-clock on-call team. Assisted Living — daily hands-on help with bathing, dressing, mobility, or medications, with on-site nursing seven days a week. Transitional Care — for residents with early memory changes who are still social and want full community access with gentle cueing. Life's Neighborhood Memory Care — warm, secure neighborhoods with dementia-trained teams, science-based cognitive programming, and thoughtful design that supports way-finding and brings calm to the day. Respite & Day Stay — short-term, fully serviced stays for recovery after a procedure, family travel, or a relaxed first visit. Hospice & End-of-Life Care — comfort, dignity, and the presence of loved ones in the resident's own apartment, in partnership with a chosen hospice provider. We are defined by our contribution, not our age. Aging should be a celebration, not a final destination. Dwayne Clark, Founder, CEO & Chairman, Áegis Living Recognized for the way we care How Áegis Living approaches the conversation What happens after you reach out 1. Listen first. A free phone conversation with a family care advisor. We ask what you are seeing at home — not what level of care you think you need. 2. Nursing assessment. An on-site or in-home assessment by a licensed nurse establishes the right care level today and what care points will be needed. 3. Tour with intention. Visit two communities. Eat a meal. Meet the executive director. Ask how care points scale when your parent's needs change. Couples with different care needs can share an apartment at Áegis Living — with a personalized care plan for each spouse. Most do not have to choose between staying together and getting the right support. Ask any community team about their current resident couples on tour. Take care of yourself first, not last. Adult-child and spouse caregivers give so much, and they deserve support too. Respite stays and Day Stay programs at Áegis Living are here for you as much as for your parent — a fully serviced apartment with around-the-clock care for a few days or a few weeks, so you can rest, work, or travel with peace of mind. If you are reading this guide late at night because sleep is not coming easily, that itself may be one of the eight signs — and a gentle nudge to lean on a little help. Want a written cost breakdown before you tour? Our pricing guide walks through rent, care points, and the one-time community fee with a real example — line by line. A warm next step If two or more of the eight signs feel familiar, the next step is a friendly 20-minute conversation. No pressure, no sales script — just clarity on what you are seeing and where it usually leads. FAQ: - Q: What are the most common signs a parent needs assisted living? A: Áegis Living advisors most often notice repeated falls, missed medications, weight loss, pulling back from friends, driving that no longer feels safe, a spouse or adult-child caregiver who is running on empty, a home that has become hard to keep up, and more frequent hospital visits. One signal alone is rarely the moment — the pattern usually is. - Q: Is assisted living the same as a nursing home? A: No. Assisted living is a true home — a private apartment with caregivers on hand around the clock, on-site nursing, hospitality dining, and a full calendar of activities, all designed to support independence. Skilled nursing settings provide 24-hour medical care for those with more complex clinical needs. Áegis Living offers assisted living and memory care, not skilled nursing. - Q: How do I bring up assisted living without my parent feeling pushed? A: Lead with what you have actually noticed, not your conclusion. Ask gently what feels harder than it used to be. Offer a tour as a shared meal and a conversation — not a decision — and invite a sibling or trusted physician into the discussion early. - Q: What if my parent has dementia and refuses to discuss moving? A: Hesitation is a natural part of the journey for many residents, and it is something our teams understand deeply. Start with a short Respite stay or Day Stay to introduce the community gently, without the weight of a permanent decision. Áegis Living advisors and dementia-trained team members walk alongside families through every conversation. - Q: How quickly can my parent move into an Áegis Living community? A: After an in-person nursing assessment, move-in can often happen soon once an apartment is available — the exact timing depends on the community and your family's needs. A Respite stay can warmly bridge the gap when timing matters most. --- ## How Áegis Living Pricing Actually Works URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/how-aegis-pricing-works/ Focus keyword: Áegis Living pricing Schema type: WebPage Summary: Áegis Living separates apartment rent from care points and a one-time community fee. See the model line by line, with typical ranges by care level and a real example. How Áegis Living pricing actually works. Three numbers. No asterisks. We walk through rent, care points, and the one-time community fee with a real example — the way our advisors explain it on every tour. Senior living pricing should not require a decoder ring. Most communities quote one big number, then send a contract with a dozen line items families discover later. Áegis Living does the opposite: three numbers, separated on purpose so each one can be defended. This guide is built from how our family care advisors explain pricing on every tour. Any ranges here are general planning estimates — your written quote reflects the specific community, apartment, and care assessment. Rent · Care Points · One-time community fee 1. Monthly apartment rent Covers the apartment, utilities, three chef-prepared meals a day plus snacks, weekly housekeeping and laundry, scheduled transportation, on-site activities, the on-call team, and amenity access. This is the housing-and-hospitality layer — not personal care. 2. À la carte care points Personal care is billed in care points after an in-person nursing assessment. Reassessed as needs change. You only pay for the support being used — medication management, bathing assistance, escorts, two-person transfers, mobility help, and similar tasks. 3. One-time community fee A single charge at move-in covering apartment preparation, the initial nursing assessment, and onboarding. Paid once per resident — not annually, not on a renewal. What rent actually covers at Áegis Living Apartment rent at Áegis Living includes everything that makes the community feel like a hospitality experience rather than a building: Private or shared apartment (couples can share when care needs differ) All utilities — power, water, heat, cable, Wi-Fi Three chef-prepared meals a day plus snacks, with seasonal menus Weekly housekeeping and personal laundry Scheduled transportation for appointments, errands, and outings A full monthly calendar of activities, from fitness to live music to outings Access to common spaces — dining rooms, salons, fitness studios, courtyards 24/7 on-call team for emergencies Rent does not include hands-on personal care. That is intentional — it keeps the housing layer steady while care scales up or down with actual need. Why care points are billed separately Many senior-living communities bundle care into the rent, so every resident pays for the highest level of help anyone might use. Áegis Living separates care for a reason: neighbors in the same community can pay very different amounts because each person receives exactly the support that fits them. After move-in, a licensed nurse assesses your parent and assigns a care-points level. Common care-points tasks include: Medication management or hands-on administration Bathing, dressing, and grooming assistance Toileting and continence care Mobility support and transfers (including two-person transfers) Escorts to meals, activities, or appointments Diabetic care The care-points level is reassessed as needs change. If your parent improves after physical therapy, points come down. If a new condition appears, points scale up — without a move and without a new contract. Memory care carries its own rhythm. Life's Neighborhood residents have predictable, intensive needs, so their care-points level is higher and steady — staffing ratios, dementia-specific programming, and 24/7 specialized support are there from day one. Families never have to fight for more help; the support is simply present, so everyone can focus on connection. As a general planning estimate, Life's Neighborhood memory care commonly runs $8,500–$12,500 per month in our markets. What families actually pay, by care level The figures below are general planning estimates for our Washington, California, and Nevada markets — not quotes. They reflect typical totals — rent plus care points plus the amortized one-time community fee. Premium markets such as Seattle, the Bay Area, and Orange County price toward the upper end. Care Level Best fit when… Typical monthly range Light Assisted Living Largely independent; wants a safety net $5,000 – $7,000 Assisted Living Daily hands-on help with bathing, dressing, mobility, or meds $6,500 – $9,500 Transitional Care Early memory changes; still social, but missing meds or repeating $7,500 – $10,000 Life s Neighborhood Memory Care Moderate to advanced dementia, in a warm, secure neighborhood $8,500 – $12,500 Respite Day Stay Short stay for recovery, family travel, or trial run Daily rate Hospice Comfort Care Comfort, dignity, and family close by — in the familiar surroundings of home Layered with hospice benefit National context: the Genworth Cost of Care Survey reports a national median assisted-living rent well below premium pricing in our markets, with memory care typically higher. Áegis Living prices reflect our Washington, California, and Nevada footprint and the hospitality-grade service that comes with it. Want the number for your specific community? Pricing varies by market, apartment, and care assessment. Our family care advisors will quote a real total for the community you are considering. What a typical Assisted Living month looks like Consider a parent moving into a one-bedroom Assisted Living apartment in a Seattle-area Áegis Living community. She is largely independent, but needs help with medication management, evening bathing, and an escort to dinner three nights a week. Apartment rent: one-bedroom, includes utilities, dining, housekeeping, transportation, activities Care points: a moderate level — medication management, bathing assistance two evenings a week, escorts to dinner Community fee: a one-time charge at move-in (not monthly) Her monthly total lands inside the $6,500–$9,500 Assisted Living planning range above. If physical therapy reduces her fall risk and she no longer needs evening escorts, the next reassessment lowers her care points — and her monthly total — automatically. If a new diagnosis means she needs a two-person transfer, points scale up the same way. That is the point of separating the three numbers: care follows the resident. Where families sometimes get surprised — and how Áegis Living handles it Medications Medication management is a care-points service. The actual prescription costs are billed by the pharmacy your family chooses — Áegis Living does not mark them up. Physician visits Áegis Living coordinates with your parent's existing physicians and on-site visiting providers. Routine medical care is billed through their insurance, not the community. On-site therapy Restore in-house rehabilitation and occupational and physical therapy are billed separately from community rent. Our team helps verify any insurance or therapy coverage before sessions begin. Personal incidentals Hair appointments at the salon, beverages from the bistro, ticketed outings, or specialty items are billed à la carte. Most are optional. Annual rent adjustments Like any housing, rent can adjust annually. Áegis Living communicates increases in writing well before they take effect — not as a surprise on the next invoice. Five sources most Áegis Living families combine 1. Retirement income and Social Security The steady base — pensions, Social Security, IRA or 401(k) distributions. For most families this funds rent and a portion of care points. 2. Home-sale proceeds Selling the family home often releases six- or seven-figure equity that can fund years of care while preserving other retirement assets. 3. Long-term-care insurance Policies purchased years ago can reimburse a meaningful portion of monthly care. Áegis Living can help families read the policy and submit benefit claims. 4. VA Aid & Attendance Wartime veterans and surviving spouses who meet medical and financial criteria may qualify for a monthly Aid & Attendance benefit on top of standard VA pension. 5. Bridge loans and reverse mortgages Short-term financing can cover the gap between move-in and a home sale closing. We can connect families with senior-living-specific lenders on request. The hospitality layer most families do not factor in It is easy to compare Áegis Living to keeping a parent at home and assume home is cheaper. It rarely is — once you tally a part-time aide, meal delivery, transportation, home modifications, utilities, and the unpaid hours of family caregiving. And the home does not include: Three chef-prepared meals a day with seasonal menus A full calendar of activities, designed by activity directors at every community On-site nursing seven days a week and 24/7 care managers Restore in-house rehabilitation and on-site physical therapy Designed-for-aging architecture (Áegis Development LLC builds many of our communities) Dementia-trained teams and Life's Neighborhood memory care if needs change A community of peers — one of the strongest predictors of healthspan in late life The right level of care is the one that fits your loved one today. Start with an honest nursing assessment, then choose the level that matches this season of life — and trust that it can flex with them as things change. Áegis Living family care advisor team Recognized for the way we operate Tour with the right questions Our tour checklist walks through the 14 questions our advisors wish every family asked — including the cost questions families forget to ask until move-in. Get a written cost breakdown — no pressure. Tell us the community you are considering and what you are seeing at home. A family care advisor will email a real cost breakdown, with the three numbers separated the way they should be. FAQ: - Q: What is included in Áegis Living rent? A: Rent at Áegis Living covers the apartment, all utilities, three chef-prepared meals a day plus snacks, weekly housekeeping and laundry, scheduled transportation, on-site activities, the on-call team, and access to community amenities. It does not include personal care assistance — that is billed separately through care points. - Q: What are care points and how are they billed? A: Care points are à la carte units that map to specific support: medication management, bathing assistance, dressing, escorts, two-person transfers, and similar tasks. After an in-person nursing assessment, the team assigns the resident a care-points level. The level is reassessed as needs change so you only pay for the support actually being used. - Q: What is the one-time community fee? A: The community fee is a one-time charge at move-in that covers apartment preparation, the initial nursing assessment, and onboarding into the community. It is paid once per resident, not annually. - Q: Is memory care priced the same way? A: Yes — the same rent + care points + one-time community fee model applies. Life's Neighborhood memory care typically carries a higher, steadier care-points level because of the specialized staffing, dementia-specific programming, and 24/7 support, but you still pay for the care actually provided, reassessed as needs change. - Q: What does assisted living cost at Áegis Living? A: Áegis Living is private-pay, and the total depends on the apartment, market, and care assessment — so the most accurate number comes from an advisor. As a general planning estimate for our Washington, California, and Nevada markets, monthly totals commonly range from roughly $5,000 for Light Assisted Living up to about $12,500 for memory care, with premium markets such as Seattle, the Bay Area, and Orange County toward the upper end. Your written quote reflects your specific community and assessment. - Q: How do families typically pay for assisted living? A: Most Áegis Living families combine some or all of: retirement income and Social Security, home-sale proceeds, long-term-care insurance benefits, and VA Aid & Attendance where the veteran qualifies. Áegis Living advisors walk through the math on a tour. --- ## The Assisted Living Tour Checklist URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/assisted-living-tour-checklist/ Focus keyword: assisted living tour checklist Schema type: WebPage Summary: The 14 tour questions Áegis Living advisors love to help families ask — covering staffing, dining, care points, memory care, and what to notice between 5 PM and bedtime. What to look for when you walk in. Fourteen questions our advisors love to help families ask — plus the things you can only learn by visiting at 5 PM, not 11 AM. Tour with the questions, not the brochure. The brochure will tell you the community has chef-prepared dining, an activities program, and 24/7 caregivers. So will every other brochure. The real differences live in the things a brochure cannot capture: team tenure, what dinner looks like on a Tuesday, how warmly a call light is answered, and whether the team can name every resident in the room. This is the checklist Áegis Living family care advisors actually use when they help families compare communities — including ours. Three things to do in the week before your tour Tour two communities, not one. Even if you already love the first community, the second tour is what makes you confident. Comparing builds your eye for what matters. Schedule the second visit between 4 PM and 6 PM. Morning tours show the community at its rested best. Late-afternoon tours show shift change, dinner setup, and how the team keeps its warmth through one of the busiest stretches of the day. Bring the right people. Ideally: the prospective resident, one adult child, and a sibling on speakerphone. Bring a notebook. Bring an appetite — Áegis Living tours include a meal. What to ask the executive director, the caregiver, and the chef 1. What is the caregiver-to-resident ratio on each shift? Ask separately about day, evening, and overnight ratios. They differ. Áegis Living staffs care managers around the clock with on-site nursing seven days a week. 2. How long has the executive director been at this community? Director tenure is one of the clearest signs of a stable community. Ask the same about the lead nurse and the head of dining. 3. What is the average tenure of the care team? Long-tenured caregivers know residents by name and notice subtle changes early. Áegis Living communities are intentionally built to retain team members — culture is one of the reasons we have been recognized by Glassdoor's Top 50 Best Places to Work and Fortune's Best Workplaces in Aging Services. 4. How is care assessed and re-assessed? Ask who does the assessment (licensed nurse), how often it is repeated (Áegis Living reassesses care points as needs change), and what triggers an off-cycle reassessment. 5. Walk me through the pricing — slowly. Get the three numbers separately: monthly rent, the care-points scale, and the one-time community fee. Ask what is NOT included. Ask about annual rent adjustments and how they are communicated. 6. What does dinner look like on a Tuesday? Not the photo on the brochure — actual Tuesday. Look at the menu rotation. Ask whether residents can request alternatives. Ask how the chef handles a resident who is having an off day. 7. Eat a meal here today. If a community cannot accommodate a meal on a tour, that is information. Áegis Living tours include a meal whenever possible. 8. What activities ran yesterday — and how many residents came? Áegis Living communities offer rich daily programming, but the better question is participation. Ask about activities that run at 7 PM on a Tuesday, not just the highlight reel. 9. May I see a typical apartment — not the model? The model apartment is always pristine. Ask to see one that is move-in ready or vacated within the last 30 days. Look at finishes, lighting, bathroom safety features, and apartment layout for mobility. 10. Show me the memory care neighborhood. Tour Life's Neighborhood or the community's memory-care neighborhood even if it is not needed today. Look for warm, secure entrances that feel residential and welcoming, calm lighting, contrasting tableware, and dementia-trained caregivers who greet residents by name. Ask about science-based cognitive programming, music therapy, and how gentle, non-pharmacologic approaches come first. 11. What happens when needs change? Ask whether the community can support Light Assisted Living all the way through Memory Care and comfort-focused care, so a resident can stay surrounded by familiar faces and family. Áegis Living offers six care options so most residents do not have to move communities when needs change. 12. How are couples with different care needs supported? Many Áegis Living communities support couples with different care levels in the same apartment, with individual care plans for each spouse. Ask about current resident couples and how their plans differ. 13. What technology supports safety and care? Ask about call-light response times, electronic medication records, and fall management. AUGi smart fall-management technology — Áegis is among only a handful of senior living organizations to implement true AI technology — is available across communities; residents choose whether to activate it. 14. Who do I call when I have a question or concern? Ask for a name, a phone number, and an after-hours protocol. The answer should be specific and reassuring. A clear, confident answer tells you a lot about how the community cares for families. Want our advisor to come with you? Family care advisors can join your first tour (yours or a competitor's) and translate what you are seeing. It is free and there is no obligation. Six things you can only learn by walking in Some things never show up in a brochure or on a website. They are what tours are for. The welcome you can smell. Walk in through the front entrance and breathe. A well-run community smells like fresh food, coffee, and clean laundry — the scent of a place that feels like home. Eye contact. Notice whether the team makes eye contact with residents as they pass — and with you. Hospitality starts in the hallway. Call-light response. Ask the executive director the average call-light response time, then watch how warmly a light is answered while you are touring. The sound of meals. A great dining room sounds like conversation and laughter. Inside memory care it should sound calm and unhurried — smaller table groupings and dementia-informed cueing. Bulletin boards and family photos. Vibrant communities have wall after wall of resident moments — birthday parties, music nights, grandchildren visiting. How residents are addressed. First name with warmth, last name with respect — never "sweetie" or "honey." Listen for it on the tour. The best tour is the one between 4 PM and 6 PM. By late afternoon, the day's shift change is happening and dinner service is gearing up. You see how the community keeps its energy and warmth through one of its busiest hours. You see which teams are still bright and engaged at 5 PM, and whether the dining room is set with genuine care. Always book your second tour in that window. Touring Life's Neighborhood — what to ask If your parent has any signs of cognitive change, tour the memory-care neighborhood even if you do not think you need it today. Look for: Warm, secure entrances that feel residential and welcoming — discreet keypads, homelike design Dementia-trained caregivers using gentle, non-pharmacologic approaches first (redirect, validate, environment) Calm lighting and contrasting tableware that bring clarity and make mealtimes easier Smaller dining groupings so residents can eat with comfort and dignity Science-based cognitive programming , music therapy, and reminiscence work Family communication — Áegis Living families get real-time updates through the Áegis Living app Áegis Living's memory care has been recognized as a Best Memory Care Community by U.S. News & World Report, and Life's Neighborhood earned the National Association of Home Builders (NAHB) Gold Award for memory-care quality. The best way to understand Áegis Living is to spend an afternoon in one of our communities. We will match you with the right community for your situation — no pressure, no sales script. Áegis Living family care advisor team Recognized for the way we host families After the tour Three things to do that night, while it is fresh Compare notes within 24 hours. Memory blurs fast. Sit down with the family member who toured with you and rank what you saw against the 14 questions while details are sharp. Call one current family. Ask the executive director for a current resident-family reference. A two-minute call is the single most useful thing you can do after a tour. Request the cost breakdown in writing. Get the three numbers — rent, care-points scale, one-time community fee — in writing. Áegis Living advisors will follow up promptly. Before you tour: get the cost model in your head. Our pricing guide explains rent + care points + community fee with a real example. Read it before your visit so you can ask informed cost questions on the tour. Tour with intention. Pick two communities. Visit one in the morning and one between 4 PM and 6 PM. Bring this checklist. We are confident in what you will find when you walk into ours. FAQ: - Q: What is the best time of day to tour an assisted living community? A: Tour once in the morning and once between 4 PM and 6 PM. Morning tours show breakfast, activities, and a lively front desk. Late-afternoon tours show shift change, dinner setup, and how the community keeps its warmth through one of the busiest stretches of the day. Both reveal something different. - Q: What should you ask about staffing on a tour? A: Ask the caregiver-to-resident ratio on day, evening, and overnight shifts. Ask how often a licensed nurse is on site. Ask about team tenure — long tenure is one of the clearest signs of a well-run community. At Áegis Living, on-site nursing is available seven days a week and care managers are on-site 24/7. - Q: How can you tell if dining is actually good? A: Eat a meal during your tour. Look at the menu rotation, not just the day you visit. Ask whether residents can request alternatives and how special diets are handled. At Áegis Living, chefs lead each community kitchen and menus are seasonal — and inside Life's Neighborhood memory care, dining is adapted with smaller table groupings and dementia-informed cueing. - Q: What questions should families ask about cost? A: Ask for the three numbers separately: monthly rent, the care-points pricing scale, and the one-time community fee. Ask how often care points are reassessed (Áegis Living reassesses as needs change). Ask what is NOT included. Ask about annual rent increases and how they are communicated. - Q: Do I have to tour memory care if my parent doesn't have dementia yet? A: Tour it anyway. The quality of a community's memory care is often the truest measure of how that community cares overall — and it is far easier to make a confident, unhurried choice now than to be touring memory care for the first time if your parent's needs change down the road. ═══ BLOG ═══ ## Are anxiety medications linked to Alzheimer’s? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/are-anxiety-medications-linked-to-alzheimers/ Focus keyword: medications Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, depression-anxiety, sleep, medication-management, fall-prevention, for-seniors Summary: Discover how certain medications may increase dementia risk and how aging changes drug processing. Learn alternative options from Áegis Living. As the medical community continues to delve further into the field of Alzheimer’s diagnosis and treatment, scientists and doctors have been proposing new potential causes. According to [Harvard Health Publishing](https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/two-types-of-drugs-you-may-want-to-avoid-for-the-sake-of-your-brain), reports link two common classes of drugs to dementia. Benzodiazepines and anticholinergics, both which may be used for anxiety and depression, among other conditions, and may be associated with an increased risk of dementia. ## Medications and Alzheimer's The ability for our bodies to process medication changes as we get older. Drug levels may remain higher in our body for a longer time as our liver and kidneys take longer to clear drugs through the system. Drugs are also dispersed and broken down differently due to how we gain fat and lose muscle mass as we age. Since we may have more body fat, where the medications are stored, they can have a longer effect than in someone with a less body fat. The American Geriatrics Society has already been [warning health care providers](http://www.americangeriatrics.org/where-we-stand/geriatrics-research) of putting seniors on benzodiazepines, as they can increase the risk of confusion, accidents and dizziness. In fact, as the society reports, falls, hip fractures and car accidents leading to hospitalization and even death can more than double among seniors on benzodiazepines. People with Alzheimer’s may be better off undergoing alternative, natural treatments for anxiety and insomnia, such as therapy, under the recommendation of a health care provider. If you have a loved one experiencing anxiety and living with dementia discuss all of your options with their physician. Or speak with one of our nurses as the [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you. --- ## Áegis Living Becomes Official DAISY Award Partner URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/aegis-living-becomes-official-daisy-award-partner/ Focus keyword: award Category: Resources Tags: Summary: Aegis Living joins the DAISY Award program to honor extraordinary nurses for compassionate care and launches AUGi Awards for team members companywide. ## Áegis Living Becomes Official DAISY Award Partner BELLEVUE, Wash., Jan. 27, 2026 /PRNewswire/ -- [Aegis Living](https://edge.prnewswire.com/c/link/?t=0&l=en&o=4604695-1&h=707745066&u=https%3A%2F%2Faegisliving.com%2F&a=Aegis+Living) announced today that it has been selected as a participating organization for the internationally respected DAISY Award for Extraordinary Nurses®, a program that recognizes nurses who deliver exceptional, compassionate care to residents and families. The DAISY Award—now celebrated in thousands of healthcare organizations worldwide—was created in memory of J. Patrick Barnes, whose family established the DAISY Foundation after experiencing the profound impact of nursing care during his battle with an autoimmune disease. The award honors nurses who exemplify clinical excellence, kindness, and humanity in the moments that matter most. "At Aegis Living, our nurses are the heart of our communities," said Julie Ambachew, RN, Vice President of Clinical Operations. "They provide not only medical care, but dignity, comfort, and connection. We are proud to join the DAISY Award program to ensure our nurses know how deeply their work is valued and how profoundly it impacts the lives of residents and families." Through this partnership, Aegis Living residents, families, and team members can now nominate nurses year-round for extraordinary acts of care. Honorees will be recognized at celebrations across Aegis Living communities and will receive: - The official DAISY Award for Extraordinary Nurses® certificate - A signature DAISY Award pin - A Healer's Touch, the award's internationally renowned hand-carved sculpture created by Shona artists in Zimbabwe "The DAISY Award exists because extraordinary nursing deserves to be seen, honored, and celebrated," said Bonnie Barnes, FAAN, Co-Founder of The DAISY Foundation. "The compassion shown daily by nurses at Aegis Living embodies exactly why this recognition matters." The DAISY Foundation honors nurses at every career stage and across multiple categories, including Nurse Leaders, Nurse-led Teams, Nurse Educators, Nursing Students, those advancing health equity, and recipients of the J. Patrick Barnes Nursing Research and Evidence-Based Practice Grants. Building on this commitment to recognize exceptional care, Aegis Living is also partnering with [Inspiren](https://edge.prnewswire.com/c/link/?t=0&l=en&o=4604695-1&h=1369264319&u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.inspiren.com%2F&a=Inspiren), a leader in AI-powered solutions redefining senior living, to launch AUGi Awards. These awards allow non-clinical staff to be nominated and celebrated, honoring their daily dedication to residents' support, safety, and care, in the same spirit as the DAISY Award for nurses. By participating in these global recognition programs, Aegis Living joins leading healthcare organizations committed to elevating excellence and shining a light on all caregivers whose work defines quality senior living. For more information about The DAISY Foundation or to nominate an Aegis Living nurse, visit[](https://edge.prnewswire.com/c/link/?t=0&l=en&o=4604695-1&h=1161750396&u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.daisyfoundation.org%2F&a=+www.DAISYfoundation.org)[www.DAISYfoundation.org](http://www.DAISYfoundation.org). SOURCE Aegis Living ## [Read the full article on Yahoo Finance →](https://finance.yahoo.com/news/aegis-living-becomes-official-daisy-194800244.html) --- ## Understanding and Managing Repetitive Behaviors in Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-and-managing-repetitive-behaviors-in-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, depression-anxiety, emotional-wellness, social-connection, for-caregivers Summary: Explore compassionate strategies to manage repetitive behaviors in loved ones with dementia. Learn how understanding and empathy can transform caregiving experiences. If you’ve ever spent an afternoon answering the same question dozens of times, you’re not alone - and you’re not a bad caregiver for feeling overwhelmed. Repetition is one of the more maddening parts of dementia care. It’s exhausting to respond patiently when your loved one keeps asking if it’s time to leave, if they’ve eaten, or where someone is - especially when they asked just five minutes ago. For caregivers, these moments can trigger guilt, sadness, and even anger. You know your loved one isn’t doing it on purpose, but that doesn’t make it easier in the moment. And when the repetition lasts all day, it can feel like you’re unraveling. But repetitive behaviors, while challenging, often hold hidden messages. They can be rooted in confusion, anxiety, boredom, or an unmet need the person isn’t able to express directly. When we begin to understand what might be behind the behavior, we’re better equipped to respond with both compassion and practical tools. **Why Repetition Happens With Dementia** Repetition is one of the most common - and confusing - behaviors in dementia. Whether it’s repeating questions, movements, or even entire conversations, these behaviors are often linked to how the brain is changing. In conditions like Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia, the hippocampus, which plays a major role in forming new memories, is often one of the first areas affected. That means a person may not remember asking a question - or hearing the answer - just moments before. Because the brain isn’t “recording” new information, the individual may return to the same thought or concern repeatedly, unaware it’s already been addressed. Repetitive behavior can also be a response to cognitive stress, especially when the environment is overstimulating or unfamiliar. It may be an attempt to self-soothe or express discomfort, confusion, or fear. In some cases, it’s a way of creating structure when the world around them feels unpredictable. Understanding this helps shift our reaction. Instead of seeing the behavior as annoying, we can start to see it as a signal: *something is happening internally - and they need support.* **Strategies for Managing Repetitive Behaviors** When repetition takes hold, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of frustration. But with the right tools, you can move from reacting to responding - and even to preventing some repetitive patterns before they escalate. The following strategies are designed to help you manage repetitive behaviors with greater confidence and compassion. Some focus on *responding* in the moment; others are about *prevention*, creating an environment that feels safer and more predictable for your loved one. - **Stay Calm and Patient** It’s hard - but essential. Keep your tone gentle and avoid showing frustration. Reacting negatively can increase the person’s stress and lead to more repetition, not less. - **Provide Simple, Consistent Answers** Use brief, direct responses. Repeat your answer in the same calm way each time, even if the question is asked over and over. Consistency creates reassurance. - **Use Visual Aids** Signs, written notes, clocks, and calendars can be incredibly effective. For example: “You have a doctor’s appointment at 3 PM” written on a board helps reduce uncertainty and repeated questioning. - **Engage in Meaningful Activities** Repetition can sometimes stem from boredom. Offer engaging, familiar activities your loved one enjoys - folding towels, sorting playing cards, looking through photo albums, or simple art projects. - **Identify and Address Underlying Needs** Ask yourself: Could they be hungry, cold, in pain, or need to use the restroom? Physical needs often show up as repetition when words are harder to find. - **Gently Redirect Attention** Rather than telling someone to “stop,” try redirecting them to something else: “Let’s take a walk,” or “Can you help me with this?” A change of focus can reset the loop. - **Establish a Daily Routine** [A predictable routine](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-gift-of-routine-how-structure-supports-people-living-with-dementia/) builds a sense of safety. When a person knows what to expect next, it can reduce anxiety and the need to ask the same questions repeatedly. **Understanding the Emotional Landscape** Behind the repetition is a person who may feel lost, uncertain, or scared - and a caregiver who feels overwhelmed, worn thin, and sometimes on the edge. These moments test even the most patient hearts. Try to remember that the repetition is not personal. Your loved one isn’t trying to annoy you; they may be trying to make sense of their world, find connection, or soothe discomfort. From their perspective, this is the first time they’re asking the question, or the first time they’ve felt this worry. But your experience matters too. It’s okay to step away for a moment. It’s okay to need help. It’s okay to feel what you feel. Showing compassion to yourself is just as important as showing compassion to your loved one. **When to Seek Support** If repetitive behaviors become constant, escalate into distress, or begin affecting safety - either for the person or the caregiver - it may be time to consult a medical professional or dementia care specialist. Sometimes a shift in medication, a new medical issue, or increased anxiety can contribute to changes in behavior. Getting support early can help reduce your stress and protect your loved one’s well-being. **A Calmer Way Forward** Caring for someone with dementia asks more of you than most roles ever will. It requires patience you didn’t know you had, strength you never asked for, and love that keeps showing up - again and again. Managing repetitive behaviors isn’t about solving a problem once and for all. It’s about learning how to meet your loved one with presence and gentleness, even in the hard moments. Some days will stretch you. Others will surprise you with laughter or grace. Every repeated question is a chance to offer reassurance. Every repeated moment is an opportunity for connection. You won’t get it perfect - but you’re doing something extraordinary. *“Consistency and empathy are key in managing repetitive behaviors in dementia care.”* **Let’s Find the Right Rhythm for Your Family** At Áegis Living, we understand how repetitive behaviors can impact daily life, not just for your loved one, but for you. That’s why our [transitional](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/transitional-memory-support/) and [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) communities are designed with structure, support, and compassion at the center. We’d love to meet you, show you around, and learn more about your family’s needs. Schedule a tour and enjoy a complimentary meal at [one of our communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). During your visit, you’ll experience our thoughtful environments firsthand and talk with care professionals who understand the nuances of dementia. If you have questions about what care might look like for your loved one, we’re here. Let’s talk. *This blog is part of our Care & Support series for dementia caregivers. Each post offers practical tips and compassionate insights to help you care for your loved one - and yourself.* --- ## 5 Ways to Honor Veterans this 4th of July URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-to-honor-veterans-this-4th-of-july/ Focus keyword: veterans Category: seasonal-holidays Tags: veterans, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: The Fourth of July holiday is a great time to honor those who have bravely served in the military. Áegis offers 5 ways that you can honor veterans. Before you fire up the grill and settle into your July 4th barbecue festivities, take a moment to appreciate the men and women in uniform who have fought for your freedom. Think of our veterans who have come home wounded and scarred from war, and for those who may never have made it home. As you celebrate this Independence Day with your friends and family, we encourage you to honor those who have served our country. At Áegis Living, we are so proud to care for many veterans and their family members. They are special heroes to us. This Fourth of July holiday, here are five ways to honor those who have bravely served in the military - both young and old. ### Participate in the Áegis Living Wall of Honor Inspired by our many residents who have served in the military, Áegis Living is proud to announce a new way to honor our veterans. We are introducing the Áegis Wall of Honor on our Áegis Living Facebook page. It is our way to recognize those who have served in the military for all to see. If you would like to honor a friend, family member, or loved one, submit a photo of that person with a short paragraph describing their service and why they are special to you. Visit our Áegis Living Facebook to submit your information and to see our growing Wall of Honor. ### Visit the memorial of a loved one If your grandparents or relatives have served in the armed forces but are no longer with us, honor their life and service with flowers or a U.S. flag at their gravesite or memorial. Whether they lost their life on the battlefield or long after returning home, they deserve to be remembered on this special day. ### Donate to a charity for veterans There are so many worthy charities that honor our veterans. Give your time or money to support the powerful work of these organizations. Make it a family event and share it with your children as a wonderful learning experience. [Find a charity in your community](http://www.charitynavigator.org/) and find out how you can support them. [Honor Flight Network](https://www.honorflight.org/) is a charity dedicated to providing our veterans with honor and closure. The goal of the Honor Flight Network is to transport American veterans to Washington, DC to visit those memorials dedicated to honor their service and sacrifice. Top priority is given to those senior veterans of World War II. This aging generation of heroes is passing away, so there is little time left to express our gratitude to these brave men and women. ### Write a thank you Take a few moments to write to a veteran and thank them for their service. Whether it’s is your grandfather or someone you don’t know, a card of appreciation can mean so much to the recipient. An easy way to find a member of the military to write to is through the organization, A Million Thanks. This organization will pair you up with a member of the military and the address to send a note. Involve your kids to make colorful cards. [Visit A Million Thanks here](http://amillionthanks.org/). **Honor their request** Remember this Fourth of July holiday is not always pleasant for everyone. Soldiers who have returned with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) may find the holiday noise and fireworks stress inducing. [Military with PTSD](http://www.militarywithptsd.org/) is an organization providing yard signs to ask for your courtesy with fireworks in neighborhoods that include veterans living with PTSD. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we are proud to care for our veterans with the dignity and respect that they deserve. We wish you and your families a happy and safe Fourth of July holiday weekend! --- ## Senior housing options explained: a guide for families URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/a-you-can-compare-specific-communities-through-a-href-find-a-location-egis-livin/ Focus keyword: senior housing options Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, hospice-end-of-life, in-home-care, choosing-a-community, for-adult-children Summary: Senior housing options include retirement communities, assisted living, memory care, and hospice. See how each works and find the right fit. Senior housing options range from independent retirement communities to assisted living, memory care, skilled nursing, and hospice. Each type serves a different level of need. Many families use more than one option as a parent or loved one's needs change over time. Áegis Living operates assisted living and memory care communities across Washington, California, and Nevada. Our care teams assess each resident individually to match support to the right stage of life. ## What are the main senior housing options available today? A generation ago, an aging parent who could no longer live alone had one real choice, often called the old folks' home. That has changed. Today's senior housing options include retirement communities, assisted living, memory care, skilled nursing, continuing care retirement communities (CCRCs), short-term respite care, hospice, and in-home care. Each serves a different stage of need, and families often use several as circumstances shift. Áegis Living focuses on assisted living and memory care, and each of our communities has its own personality and amenities. We recommend touring a few communities in person before deciding, since the right fit often comes down to daily feel as much as services offered. You can browse [Áegis Living communities near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to see options firsthand. ## What is a retirement community, and who is it for? A retirement community, often age-restricted to residents 55 and older, suits an active older adult who can generally care for themselves. Homeowners typically pay into an association that handles landscaping, building maintenance, and shared amenities like a fitness center or golf course. A retirement community is one of the more independent senior housing options available. It suits someone who wants less upkeep without giving up autonomy. Social calendars are often full of activities designed to build friendships among neighbors. Pricing and amenities vary widely between communities, so it pays to compare a few in person before signing anything. ## How does assisted living work? Assisted living suits a parent or loved one who is struggling to manage daily life alone. Care teams are available around the clock to help with activities of daily living (ADLs), including dressing, eating, bathing, grooming, toileting, and transferring. Áegis Living's on-site registered nurses (RNs) typically oversee each resident's care plan and supervise the caregivers who manage medications and daily needs. For example, one resident might need only a reminder to take medication, while a neighbor down the hall may need help with nearly every ADL. Care plans flex to match each person's changing needs. Assisted living runs on a social model. Residents usually keep a private apartment but spend much of the day in shared spaces, joining scheduled activities, outings, and meals with neighbors. Meals, housekeeping, laundry, and transportation are typically included in the monthly fee. You can learn more about daily support through [Áegis Living's resource library](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/). ## What makes memory care different from assisted living? Memory care is one of the more specialized senior housing options families consider. It is built around each resident's stage of memory loss. It may exist as a dedicated neighborhood within assisted living or as its own standalone community. Care is personalized to wherever a resident is in their memory journey. Modified apartments, specially trained care teams, and thoughtful safety measures, such as discreetly secured entrances, motion sensors, and emergency call buttons, support this personalization. The goal is comfort, safety, and as much independence as possible. Families often ask how care plans adjust as memory needs change. The [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures) (Alzheimer's Association, 2024) publishes background on dementia progression that many families find useful early in the search. For a plain-language look at how residential care options differ, the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/assisted-living-and-nursing-homes) (National Institute on Aging, 2024) is a good starting point. ## How do skilled nursing, transitional care, and CCRCs compare? A skilled nursing community suits a parent or loved one who needs 24-hour medical monitoring or has a complex condition. Licensed nurses and therapists provide care in a more clinical setting than assisted living. [Medicare](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care) (Medicare.gov, 2024) covers only limited stays, not most long-term custodial care, so it helps to plan ahead financially. Ask directly about staffing ratios and how emergencies are handled overnight. Many skilled nursing communities also offer transitional care units (TCUs) for short-term rehabilitation after surgery, a stroke, or a hospital stay. This lets a parent recover before heading back home. A Continuing Care Retirement Community (CCRC), also called a life-care community, combines independent living, assisted living, and skilled nursing on one campus so residents can age in place without moving. CCRCs typically require an entrance fee plus a monthly fee that may rise with care needs, depending on the contract terms. We recommend consulting an attorney and an accountant before signing, since contract structures vary and can meaningfully affect a family's long-term costs. OptionBest forLevel of careRetirement communityActive, independent older adultsMinimal to noneAssisted livingHelp with daily activities24/7 non-medical supportMemory careAlzheimer's disease or dementia24/7 specialized supportSkilled nursingComplex medical needs24/7 licensed medical careCCRCAging in place over many yearsIndependent living through skilled nursing ### Key terms to know ADLsActivities of daily living, such as dressing, bathing, eating, and grooming.TCUA transitional care unit for short-term rehabilitation after a hospital stay.CCRCA Continuing Care Retirement Community offering a full continuum of care on one campus.POA[Power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), a legal document naming someone to make decisions for a parent or loved one. ## How do short-term care, hospice, and in-home care fit in? Short-term, or respite, care lets a parent or loved one stay in an assisted living community briefly, often while a family caregiver travels or takes a needed break. Residents receive the same 24-hour care, meals, and activities as full-time residents. Some enjoy it enough to make the move permanent. Hospice is not a place. It is a philosophy of care focused on comfort and dignity, where stories are cherished and pain is gently managed rather than cured. Hospice also supports the whole family through counseling and social work. The National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO, 2024) offers helpful guidance on how [hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/) works across different settings. It can be delivered at home, in an assisted living community, or in a hospital. In-home care keeps a parent in familiar surroundings, with help ranging from a weekly visit to round-the-clock supervision. Because a caregiver becomes part of the household, we suggest a trial period, thorough reference checks, and honest conversations about whether the home can truly meet a loved one's needs. ## How should you choose the right senior housing option? Comparing senior housing options gets easier with a clear process. Here is how we recommend families approach it. - List a parent or loved one's current needs, from mobility to memory to medical care. - Tour a few communities in person and ask about care team ratios and care planning. - Review contracts carefully, and involve an attorney for anything with an entrance fee. - Ask how care plans adjust if needs increase over time. - Trust your instincts about warmth, cleanliness, and how residents seem to feel. A short conversation with our care team can help clarify which path fits your family right now. Many families start their search through [Áegis Living's resource library](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/), which covers assisted living, memory care, and related topics in more depth. When you are ready to see a community firsthand, you can [schedule a tour](https://www.aegisliving.com/#tour) to ask these questions in person. --- ## How to talk to your parent about assisted living: a guide URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/assisted-living-2/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, fall-prevention, social-connection, choosing-a-community, when-its-time, for-adult-children Summary: Struggling to raise assisted living with your parent or loved one? Get real signs, scripts, and comparisons to help them embrace the move with confidence. Assisted living is a residential care option where trained care teams help older adults with daily tasks like bathing, meals, and medication while helping them stay as independent as possible. If your parent or loved one is skipping meals, missing bills, or withdrawing after giving up driving, these signs often point toward a bigger conversation about care. The right approach leads with specific observations and treats the move as a solution that restores safety and connection, not a loss of control. ## What are the signs your parent needs assisted living? Watch for a pattern, not a single incident. A parent or loved one who once kept a tidy home may now let mail pile up without noticing. Adult children often minimize these changes because acknowledging them feels painful, but naming the pattern early can prevent a bigger problem later. - An overgrown yard or a home falling into noticeable disrepair - A fridge stocked with little more than crackers and cheese, suggesting cooking has stopped - Bills that go unopened or unpaid for weeks at a time - Isolation after giving up driving, with fewer visits from friends or neighbors - Vision or hearing loss that begins to affect everyday safety - A recent fall, or noticeably unsteady balance while walking Any single sign may be manageable with extra help at home. Several together typically point toward a safer, fuller option. If you're unsure, a visit with your parent's doctor can help confirm whether these changes reflect a temporary issue or a longer-term need for support. Our [resources](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/) library also has checklists for spotting these patterns early. ## How do you start the conversation with your parent or loved one? Choose a calm moment, not a moment of crisis. Sit down together, describe what you've noticed, and ask how they feel before offering a plan. Avoid ultimatums, since even a loving suggestion can feel like a loss of control if it arrives without warning. - Pick a private, unhurried time to talk - Describe specific observations, like the empty fridge or a recent fall - Ask open questions about how they are managing day to day - Listen to their fears before presenting solutions - Offer to tour a community together, with no pressure to decide that day Expect the first conversation to be uncomfortable. Most families need more than one talk before a parent feels ready to consider assisted living. A tour often does more convincing than any conversation, since seeing real apartments and neighbors socializing tends to dissolve outdated assumptions fast. ## Isn't assisted living just an old folks home? No. That image reflects institutions from decades ago, not today's communities. Older adults sometimes picture the cold institutions of the past, but the reality has changed a great deal. At Áegis Living, communities are built around comfort and connection. Depending on the location, residents may find movie theaters, demonstration kitchens, swimming pools, pool tables, or tea rooms. Residents live in real apartments, eat meals prepared by a chef, and take part in a full calendar of activities. Everyday moments, from a shared coffee in the morning to a favorite show in the evening, look and feel like life continued and celebrated. And family members and visitors are always welcome. ## Will your parent make new friends after the move? Often, yes, and faster than families expect. Isolation is common for older adults who no longer drive or who have lost a spouse. A community setting puts them back around people every day, and group meals, scheduled outings, and shared common areas create natural chances to connect that don't exist when someone lives alone. For example, a parent who hasn't had a partner in months may find new friendships within days. A card game group or a walking buddy can appear within the first week. Social connection tends to rebuild quickly within a community of peers. ## What amenities and care come with assisted living? Amenities vary by community, so match them to your parent's actual personality and needs. Some families prioritize dining and social calendars, while others care more about transportation, housekeeping, or personal care support. Understanding your parent's priorities before you tour makes comparing communities much easier. CategoryWhat it typically includesWhy it mattersDaily living supportHelp with ADLs like bathing, dressing, medication managementReduces missed medications and safety risksMealsChef-prepared dining, healthier menu optionsAddresses poor nutrition from skipped cookingHousehold servicesHousekeeping, laundry, transportation to appointmentsRemoves the demands of home upkeepLife enrichmentDaily activities, outings, classes, multigenerational eventsRebuilds social connection and routineCare team availabilityTrained care teams available 24 hours a day, seven days a weekProvides safety and dignity at any hourAt Áegis Living, Life Enrichment directors plan a rotating daily calendar that may include local outings, crafts, cooking classes, and exercise sessions. Activities are customized to the interests and passions of the individuals within the community. When you tour a [community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), ask to see the activity calendar and compare it to your parent's interests. ## How does assisted living give families peace of mind? Families often carry quiet, constant worry about a parent's frailty long before anyone says it out loud. That worry doesn't disappear after a move, but it typically changes shape. Families often describe the shift as trading anxiety for reassurance. Knowing that meals are handled and health is monitored brings relief. A care team present overnight lets adult children shift from managing crises to simply visiting. Our care teams include nurse oversight and 24/7 care managers, and we assess each resident's needs at move-in and adjust support as those needs change over time. ## What key terms should families understand? Assisted living A residential community offering help with daily activities like bathing, dressing, and medication, alongside meals and social programming. Activities of daily living (ADLs) Basic self-care tasks such as bathing, dressing, and eating, often used to gauge how much support a resident needs. Life enrichment Scheduled activities and outings designed to keep residents socially and mentally engaged. Care team Trained team members available around the clock to support residents' daily and personal needs. Cost can be a factor in these decisions, and coverage rules can be confusing. According to [Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), Medicare generally does not cover most long-term care costs. Families often research private pay, long-term care insurance, or veterans' benefits ahead of time. The [Genworth Cost of Care Survey](https://www.genworth.com/aging-and-you/finances/cost-of-care) (Genworth, 2024) is a useful starting point for understanding regional cost ranges. Per the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/assisted-living-and-nursing-homes) (NIA), assisted living differs from other residential options mainly in the level of daily support provided. The [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures) (Alzheimer's Association, 2024) covers how memory-related needs can affect the right level of care. ## How do you choose the right assisted living community together? Start by listing what matters most to your parent, not what's most convenient for you. A parent who loves gardening or music may respond better to a community with a courtyard or a music room. That may matter more than choosing the closest zip code. - Tour in person and observe how team members interact with residents - Ask to see the activity calendar and dining menu - Notice whether residents look engaged, not just supervised - Ask how care needs are assessed and adjusted over time - Bring your parent along so they can react to the actual environment **The strongest case for assisted living rarely comes from a conversation alone.** It comes from a tour that lets your parent see and feel the difference. You can [find a location](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near your family and [schedule a tour](https://www.aegisliving.com/#tour) to see daily life firsthand. ## Key takeaways - Look for patterns like poor nutrition, unpaid bills, isolation, or a recent fall - Talk during a calm moment and lead with specific observations, not ultimatums - Modern assisted living communities emphasize comfort, activity, and social connection - Amenities and care levels vary, so match communities to your parent's personality - Touring together often reassures a hesitant parent more than words alone --- ## Áegis Living Named One of the Greatest Workplaces in Health Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/aegis-living-named-greatest-workplaces-health-care-2026/ Focus keyword: Workplaces Category: Resources Tags: Summary: Áegis Living has been named one of America's Greatest Workplaces in Health Care 2026 by Newsweek, recognizing our team's commitment to building a supportive, mission-driven culture across our communities. Áegis Living has been named one of America's Greatest Workplaces in Health Care 2026 by Newsweek, recognizing our team's commitment to building a supportive, mission-driven culture across our communities. [View the ranking on Newsweek →](https://rankings.newsweek.com/americas-greatest-workplaces-in-health-care-2026) --- ## 800 Mission Ave – Aegis Senior Living San Rafael Now Open URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/800-mission-ave-aegis-senior-living-now-open/ Focus keyword: senior living Category: Resources Tags: Summary: Aegis Living San Rafael opens 101 new senior living residences downtown, bringing wellness, dining, gathering spaces, and new energy to San Rafael. ## Senior Living at Aegis Living San Rafael On Friday August 22, Aegis Senior Living San Rafael officially opened its doors, introducing 101 new studio, one-bedroom, and two-bedroom residences in the heart of downtown. The Mission-style building, which was designed to echo San Rafael’s historic architecture transforms a site that had been vacant for years. When fully occupied, Aegis will welcome over 100 residents and employ approximately 200 staff members, adding new vitality to downtown San Rafael. Aegis will provide its older adult residents and their families a wellness center, theater, dining facilities, and shared gathering spaces. For the community, this project represents meaningful progress towards achieving the City’s housing goals, while also enriching the fabric of daily life in San Rafael. Residents will be moving in starting September 2nd, with a Grand Opening scheduled for September 6th. --- ## Positive Aging In A Beautiful, Welcoming Aegis Living Community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/positive-aging-in-a-beautiful-welcoming-community/ Focus keyword: Aegis Living Category: Resources Tags: Summary: Meet longtime “Good Morning America” host Joan Lunden and fitness celebrity Fabio at the September 6 Grand Opening of Áegis Living San Rafael. More than a senior living community, Áegis Living raises the bar on what it… Meet longtime “Good Morning America” host Joan Lunden and fitness celebrity Fabio at the September 6 Grand Opening of Áegis Living San Rafael. More than a senior living community, Áegis Living raises the bar on what it means to age well, with restorative, science-backed wellness amenities and care plans tailored to residents’ individual needs. The 49er’s Sourdough Sam kicks things off with a ceremonial ribbon-cutting at 2 p.m., ushering in an afternoon of interactive experiences for all ages. Kid-friendly activities, live music, and VIP tours of the new community will accompany celebrity talks on positive aging and achieving vitality at every stage of life. Guests can explore the beautifully designed living spaces, sample local chef-prepared tastings, and see firsthand how innovative wellness amenities like red light therapy and the healing power of nature are seamlessly woven into daily life. --- ## WTWH Healthcare Announces the DISHED Senior Living Dining Innovation Awards Inaugural Class of 2025 URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/wtwh-healthcare-announces-the-dished-senior-living-dining-innovation-awards-inaugural-class-of-2025/ Focus keyword: Category: Resources Tags: Summary: WTWH Healthcare, a WTWH Media, LLC company, is pleased to announce the inaugural DISHED Senior Living Dining Innovation Awards Class of 2025. The DISHED Senior Living Dining Innovation Awards program recognizes… WTWH Healthcare, a WTWH Media, LLC company, is pleased to announce the inaugural DISHED Senior Living Dining Innovation Awards Class of 2025. The [DISHED Senior Living Dining Innovation Awards](https://seniorhousingnews.com/2025-dished-innovation-awards/) program recognizes individuals who are visionaries within their organizations and the senior living sector at-large. They spotlight culinary experts whose creativity and passion are transforming senior living dining – from menu creation and innovating the resident dining experience, to leveraging new technologies and implementing new operational models, and more. --- ## DISHED Senior Living Dining Innovation Awards: Woo Seo, Culinary Services Director, Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/dished-senior-living-dining-innovation-awards-woo-seo-culinary-services-director-aegis-living/ Focus keyword: Category: Resources Tags: Summary: Woo Seo, Culinary Services Director at Áegis Living, has been named an inaugural member of the DISHED Senior Living Dining Innovation Awards Class of 2025 by Senior Housing News. As an Elevating the Experience Award… Woo Seo, Culinary Services Director at Áegis Living, has been named an inaugural member of the DISHED Senior Living Dining Innovation Awards Class of 2025 by Senior Housing News. As an Elevating the Experience Award winner, Senior Housing News recognized Seo for spearheading transformative changes within the senior living dining experience. Resident satisfaction and engagement have significantly improved due to the introduction of personalized menus that prioritize nutrition, variety, and cultural relevance – fostering deeper social engagement and community spirit among residents. For staff, these innovations have translated into greater job satisfaction, with improved training programs and opportunities for creative input. Operational efficiency has improved through streamlined procurement processes with clearly defined inventory and production schedules. Moreover, Seo’s initiatives have positively shaped residents’ and families’ perception, positioning his community as a leader in a progressive, resident-centered dining experience. --- ## Dwayne Clark named 3rd annual McKnight’s Pinnacle Awards Career Achievement Award honoree URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/dwayne-clark-named-3rd-annual-mcknights-pinnacle-awards-career-achievement-award-honoree/ Focus keyword: Category: Resources Tags: Summary: Almost three decades ago, Dwayne Clark began putting an indelible stamp on the senior living and care environment by founding one of the most well-respected companies in the sector today, Áegis Living, after a career… Almost three decades ago, Dwayne Clark began putting an indelible stamp on the senior living and care environment by founding one of the most well-respected companies in the sector today, Áegis Living, after a career including experience at Sunrise Senior Living and Leisure Care. Since the company’s beginning in 1997, Áegis Living and Clark have become well-known for their innovative approaches in areas such as employer recruitment and retention, community design and resident care. Áegis Living also has been key in the development of industry professionals through involvement with the [Granger Cobb Institute for Senior Living](https://www.mcknightsseniorliving.com/news/new-senior-living-management-major-under-cobb-institute-to-address-industry-need/) at Washington State University. --- ## Senior Housing Messaging Shifts as Boomers Embrace Tech and Optimism URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/senior-housing-messaging-shifts-as-boomers-embrace-tech-and-optimism/ Focus keyword: Category: Resources Tags: Summary: Baby Boomers may be entering retirement, but they aren’t slowing down—and seniors housing operators risk missing the mark if their marketing still leans on outdated stereotypes. At the recent NIC Conference, industry… Baby Boomers may be entering retirement, but they aren’t slowing down—and seniors housing operators risk missing the mark if their marketing still leans on outdated stereotypes. At the recent NIC Conference, industry leaders urged operators to rethink how they reach this critical demographic, which is more connected, active, and forward-looking than many assume. Consider this: about 70% of Baby Boomers own smartphones and spend nearly two and a half hours on their devices each day. Among those in their 50s, smartphone adoption climbs to 91%, with an average of seven connected devices in their homes. More than a third use voice assistants like Alexa. They are not only online—91% in total—but actively engaged, with more than half on Facebook daily. TikTok use among Boomers has jumped from 2.9% in 2020 to 13.8% today, and 13% are even experimenting with ChatGPT. --- ## With New Leaders On Board, Áegis Living, Pacific Retirement Plan Next Chapters URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/with-new-leaders-on-board-aegis-living-pacific-retirement-plan-next-chapters/ Focus keyword: Aegis Living Category: Resources Tags: Summary: In the last 12 months, several new senior living operators have named new leaders from a handful of backgrounds, both in and out of the industry. What they are planning now will help shape their next chapters. Among… In the last 12 months, several senior living operators, including **Aegis Living**, have appointed new leaders from a range of backgrounds both inside and outside the industry. These leadership changes could help shape how organizations such as Aegis Living approach growth, hospitality, resident experience, and operations in the years ahead. Among the operators making leadership changes are [Pacific Retirement Services](https://seniorhousingnews.com/2025/07/09/movers-and-shakers-dennis-gradillas-joins-prs-pointclickcare-appoints-president/), which named Dennis Gradillas as CEO, and [Aegis Living](https://seniorhousingnews.com/2025/07/21/aegis-living-names-former-four-seasons-leader-as-new-president/), which hired Dirk Burghartz as president. Their backgrounds bring experience across senior living and hospitality, including roles with HumanGood, Platinum Hotels, Four Seasons, and Arcus Golf. --- ## How Áegis Living Leans On Its GPO Partner For Big Savings URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/how-aegis-living-leans-on-its-gpo-partner-for-big-savings/ Focus keyword: GPO partner Category: Resources Tags: Summary: See how Áegis Living works with GPO partner Team Four Foodservice to simplify vendor management, streamline purchasing, and find cost-saving opportunities. With too many vendors supplying goods and services across its communities, Áegis Living recognized that its purchasing process had become unsustainable. The Bellevue, Washington-based senior living provider, which operates more than 38 communities across California, Nevada and Washington, turned to [Team Four Foodservice](https://www.teamfourfoods.com/) to simplify vendor management, particularly for food service and medical supplies. Team Four specializes in [food service group purchasing](https://www.teamfourfoods.com/healthcare.html), helping senior living operators evaluate vendors, manage contracts and [find opportunities to reduce costs](https://www.teamfourfoods.com/senior-living.html). --- ## Aegis Living Names Former Four Seasons Leader as New President URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/in-the-news/aegis-living-names-former-four-seasons-leader-as-new-president/ Focus keyword: Aegis Living Category: Resources Tags: Summary: Aegis Living names Dirk Burghartz president, bringing over 35 years of experience to advance service, innovation, and support for residents and families. Aegis Living has found its new president in Dirk Burghartz, who brings more than 35 years of experience to the position. Burghartz’s appointment follows the retirement of Sandra Preyale, who served Bellevue, Washington-based Áegis Living with distinction for seven years, according to a press release. His arrival at the position marks “an exciting new chapter … elevating service standards, deepening cultural alignment, and accelerating innovation centered around residents and families,” the release states. --- ## How to Talk to Someone With Dementia: A Caregiver's Guide URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-words-are-hard-communicating-with-a-loved-one-living-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, communication, emotional-wellness, moving-in, legal-planning, for-caregivers Summary: Practical, expert-backed ways to communicate with a loved one living with dementia, including Teepa Snow's VVT method and validation techniques. When a loved one living with dementia struggles to find words, the most effective response is to slow down, lower your body to their eye level, and lead with a calm visual cue before you speak. Communication shifts as the brain changes, but connection does not have to. By adjusting tone, pace, and body language, you can reduce frustration on both sides and protect the relationship even as language fades. Alzheimer's disease and related dementias affect roughly 1 in 9 Americans aged 65 and older, and progressive language loss (aphasia) is one of the most common symptoms families notice ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). If you are still learning what to watch for, start with our pillar guide on the [Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/). ## Why does dementia make conversation so hard? Dementia damages the regions of the brain that retrieve words, follow multi-step sentences, and filter background noise. The person in front of you is not being stubborn or rude; their wiring is changing in real time. Communication difficulties, including word-finding problems and trouble following conversations, are listed among the core warning signs of Alzheimer's disease (National Institute on Aging, 2023). Hearing loss, fatigue, pain, and a noisy environment can each compound the problem. The Cleveland Clinic notes that untreated hearing loss is a modifiable risk factor that worsens cognitive symptoms, so a hearing check is one of the first practical steps for a struggling conversationalist ([Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9170-dementia), 2024). ## What are Teepa Snow's three rules for dementia communication? As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: your brain still works the way it always has, theirs is changing, so the responsibility to adjust falls on you. Her three core moves are simple, but they reset almost every interaction. - **Check your own state first.** Take a slow breath. If you are rushed or frustrated, your loved one will mirror that energy before you say a word. - **Give a visual cue and get low.** Pause about six feet away, wave near your face so they see you, then lower yourself to their eye level. Standing over someone reads as a threat. - **Use the VVT sequence: Visual, Verbal, Touch.** Smile first, then speak in short calm words, then (only if welcomed) offer your hand. Skipping straight to touch, Teepa Snow says, feels like a sneak attack. ## Which communication techniques actually work day to day? Short sentences, warm tone, and one instruction at a time will outperform long explanations every time. The Mayo Clinic recommends speaking slowly, maintaining eye contact, and offering two simple choices instead of open-ended questions ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/caregivers/in-depth/alzheimers/art-20047538), 2024). Instead of...Try...Why it helps "It's late, we need to get ready, brush your teeth, and put on pajamas.""Let's walk to the bedroom." (pause) "Now, toothbrush."One step at a time prevents overload. "What do you want for breakfast?""Eggs or oatmeal?"Two visible options preserve autonomy. "Mom, I'm your daughter, not your sister.""I'm right here with you."Correcting facts increases distress; validation calms. Calling from another room.Enter the visual field first, then speak.Disembodied voices startle a dementia brain. ## What words and habits should you avoid? Arguing, quizzing ("Do you remember me?"), and correcting almost always backfire. AARP's caregiver guidance emphasizes entering the person's reality rather than dragging them back into yours (AARP, 2023). Consider a family whose 82-year-old mother insists she has to go pick up the kids from school. Telling her the kids are grown adults sparks tears every time. When her daughter instead responds, "The kids are safe, and you took such good care of them," the agitation eases within a minute. The emotion was real; the timeline was not the point. For an example of redirection, imagine your dad asks the same question about lunch four times in twenty minutes. Sighing or saying "I just told you" reads as rejection. Answering the feeling behind the question, hunger, anxiety, or boredom, often resolves the loop faster than answering the literal words. For more on this pattern, see [Understanding and Managing Repetitive Behaviors in Dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-and-managing-repetitive-behaviors-in-dementia/). ## Key terms every dementia caregiver should know Validation therapy A communication approach that acknowledges the emotional truth of what a person says, even when the facts are inaccurate, rather than correcting them. VVT (Visual, Verbal, Touch) Teepa Snow's layered approach: show yourself first, speak second, and only then make physical contact. Sundowning Increased confusion, agitation, or verbal difficulty in late afternoon and evening. Learn more in our guide to [easing sundowning in dementia care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-and-easing-sundowning-in-dementia-care/). Aphasia Loss of the ability to produce or understand language, a common feature of moderate to advanced dementia. ## How does environment shape what your loved one can say? A blaring TV, overlapping voices, or harsh overhead lighting can collapse a person's ability to follow even a simple question. The CDC lists environmental modification as a core non-drug strategy for reducing behavioral symptoms of dementia (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). Predictable daily rhythms also reduce the cognitive load on conversation. When meals, walks, and rest happen at the same times each day, your loved one spends less energy orienting and more energy connecting. Our companion piece on [how structure supports people living with dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-gift-of-routine-how-structure-supports-people-living-with-dementia/) walks through how to build one. Lifestyle factors matter too. Alcohol can blunt language and worsen confusion in someone with cognitive impairment; if you are weighing whether to keep wine on the table at dinner, our overview [Does Alcohol Cause Dementia? What Families Should Know](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/) lays out the evidence. ## Frequently asked questions ### What is the best way to start a conversation with someone who has dementia? Approach from the front, pause within their line of sight, and offer a small wave near your face before you speak. Lower yourself to their eye level and use their name in a calm, warm tone. This visual handshake gives the brain time to register that a conversation is beginning. ### Should you correct a loved one with dementia when they say something untrue? No. Correcting facts tends to produce shame, anger, or tears without changing what they believe. Validate the underlying feeling and gently redirect. The Alzheimer's Association calls this entering their reality rather than insisting they enter yours ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/communications), 2024). ### How do you respond when the same question is asked over and over? Answer the emotion, not the words. Repetition usually signals anxiety, hunger, boredom, or a need for reassurance. Offer a brief answer, then redirect with a small task, a snack, or a walk. ### Is it okay to use therapeutic fibs? Used kindly, yes. Telling your mother that her late husband is "at the store" can be more humane than reminding her he has died, only to have her grieve fresh each time. The goal is comfort and dignity, not deception for convenience. ### When should we consider professional memory care? When safety, nutrition, or sleep are slipping, when [caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) sets in, or when communication breakdowns are causing daily distress, a memory care community trained in dementia-specific communication can help. Specialized programs reduce isolation for both the person and the family. ### How can I take care of myself as the caregiver? Build in respite, accept help, and treat your own rest as part of the care plan. As Teepa Snow puts it, caregivers often feel guilty for needing rest, but rest is what makes care possible. **Looking for daily support?** Áegis Living communities are built around dementia-trained teams, calm environments, and the kind of routines that make conversation easier. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through your family's next step. --- ## How to Talk to Your Parents About Long-Term Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/ Focus keyword: long-term care Category: family-communication Tags: nutrition, emotional-wellness, social-connection, safety-at-home, legal-planning, when-its-time Summary: A compassionate, step-by-step guide to talking with aging parents about long-term care - what to say, when to say it, and how to avoid common pitfalls. The best way to talk to your parents about long-term care is to start **before a crisis forces the conversation** - ideally in a calm, private setting, with empathy first and logistics second. Lead with what you've observed, ask what matters most to them, and frame support as a way to *extend* independence, not end it. Plan for several conversations over weeks or months, not one big sit-down. If you're reading this, you're likely noticing something has shifted - maybe your mom is repeating questions, your dad's mail is piling up, or a recent fall has rattled the family. You're not overreacting. You're paying attention. Here's how to turn that attention into a conversation your parent can actually hear. ## Why should you start the conversation now instead of later? Waiting until a hospital discharge planner is asking where your parent will go next removes nearly every good option from the table. The numbers underscore why early planning matters: an estimated 7 million Americans aged 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), and roughly 70% of adults turning 65 today will need some form of long-term care during their lifetime ([Administration for Community Living](https://acl.gov/ltc), 2024). Atul Gawande, MD, surgeon and author of *Being Mortal*, has long argued that the families who fare best are those who ask the hard questions early - what matters most to you, what trade-offs are acceptable, what does a good day look like? Those answers, gathered while your parent can still give them, become the compass for every decision that follows. Starting early also means your parent participates as the **author** of the plan, not the subject of one. That single shift changes how the rest of the journey feels. ## How do you know it's actually time to talk? You don't need a diagnosis to justify a conversation. You need a pattern. Watch for changes across daily living, finances, safety, and mood. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention notes that subtle shifts in routine often precede a more visible decline. Common early signals include: - Unopened mail, unpaid bills, or duplicate purchases - Weight loss, expired food, or the same meal eaten daily - Burn marks on cookware or scorched pot bottoms - New dents on the car your parent can't quite explain - Withdrawing from friends, church, or hobbies - Wearing the same clothes for days, or skipping showers If several of these ring true, it's time. For a deeper checklist, see [the seven signs your mom may need more help](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-seven-signs-that-your-mom-may-need-more-help/). ## What should you do before you bring it up? Preparation reduces panic - yours and theirs. Spend a week or two gathering facts so you can speak from observation, not anxiety. - **Document specific incidents.** Write down dates and details: "March 14 - Dad called twice asking the same question about the thermostat." - **Talk to siblings first.** Align on tone and goals so your parent isn't ambushed by conflicting opinions. - **Learn the care landscape.** Know the difference between in-home care, assisted living, and memory care before you suggest any of them. - **Check the legal basics.** Confirm whether a durable [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) and healthcare proxy exist. If not, read our guide on [helping a parent with dementia sign legal documents](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/advising-your-parent-when-signing-legal-documents/). - **Pick the right setting.** A quiet weekday afternoon at the kitchen table beats Thanksgiving dinner every time. ## What words actually work in the first conversation? Avoid opening with the word "care." Open with curiosity. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often emphasizes, the older adult's experience of feeling respected matters more than the information you're trying to convey - if they feel cornered, the conversation is already lost. Try phrases like: - "I want to understand what's working well for you and what feels harder than it used to." - "What would make life easier this year?" - "If something changed health-wise, what would you want me to know?" - "I noticed the stairs seemed tough last weekend - how are they feeling?" Avoid: "We need to talk about your future," "You can't keep living like this," or anything that begins with "Mom, you have to…" ## How should you respond when your parent pushes back? Resistance is almost always fear wearing a different outfit. Fear of losing the house. Fear of being forgotten. Fear of becoming the person they once cared for. Consider a family whose 82-year-old mother insists, "I'm fine - I don't need any help," even after a kitchen fire. The instinct is to argue with evidence. The better move is to validate the feeling first: "I hear you. You've run this house for 50 years, and the idea of someone else stepping in feels wrong. Can we talk about what kind of help would feel *right* to you?" For example, an 84-year-old who fell while making coffee may resist assisted living but accept a medical alert pendant and a weekly housekeeper as a first step. Small yeses build trust for bigger conversations later. ## What are the main long-term care options, and how do they compare? Knowing the landscape lets you discuss real choices instead of vague worries. Costs below reflect national medians as of 2025. Care OptionBest ForTypical Monthly Cost (2025)SourceIn-home care (non-medical caregiver, 44 hrs/week)Mostly independent seniors needing help with bathing, meals, or errands~$6,673[CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025Assisted livingSeniors needing daily support but not 24-hour medical care$6,200[CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025Memory careAdults with Alzheimer's or other dementias$6,000 - $8,000[Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/care-options), 2024Nursing home (semi-private)Complex medical needs requiring skilled nursingabout $9,600[CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025Pricing varies widely by region - major metros on the coasts often run 30 - 50% above these medians. ## What do these care terms actually mean? **In-home care**Non-medical help delivered at your parent's residence - bathing, dressing, meal prep, light housekeeping, companionship. Usually paid hourly.**Assisted living**A residential community where your parent has a private apartment plus access to meals, medication management, and help with daily activities.**Memory care**A secured neighborhood within (or separate from) an assisted living community, staffed and designed specifically for residents with Alzheimer's or other dementias.**Light Assisted Living**An Áegis Living level of support for residents who are largely independent but want the safety net of a community - help available when needed, not by default.**Skilled nursing**24-hour care provided by licensed nurses for residents with significant medical needs. Sometimes called a nursing home. ## How do you keep your parent at the center of the decision? The fastest way to lose your parent's cooperation is to make them feel *managed*. Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has been clear that older adults are most likely to thrive when their preferences - not their adult children's anxieties - drive the plan. Practical ways to share the wheel: - Let your parent choose which two or three communities to tour. - Ask them to write down three "non-negotiables" (a window facing east, a small dog, Catholic Mass nearby). - Bring them to advisor meetings; don't relay information secondhand. - If they prefer staying home, take that seriously - read our guide on [how to age in place](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-age-in-place/) and build a plan around it. ## How can you avoid the most common mistakes families make? A few patterns trip up well-meaning adult children again and again: - **Holding the conversation at a holiday.** High emotions, too many opinions, and zero privacy. - **Presenting one option as the only option.** If your parent feels cornered, they'll dig in. - **Speaking in absolutes.** "You can never drive again" lands very differently than "Let's talk to your doctor about driving." - **Skipping the legal and financial groundwork.** Decisions made under crisis are rarely the best ones. - **Going it alone.** Geriatric care managers, elder-law attorneys, and senior living advisors exist for a reason. For a broader planning checklist, see our [six tips to prepare for your aging parents' future](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/six-tips-to-prepare-for-your-aging-parents-future/). ## What if your parent has dementia and can't fully engage? If cognitive changes are already advanced, the conversation shifts. Your goal is no longer to negotiate - it's to honor what your parent valued *before* the disease changed their ability to weigh trade-offs. Imagine your dad calls asking for the same recipe three times in one afternoon, or your mom can't recall whether she took her morning medication. At that stage, lengthy discussions about pros and cons can increase anxiety. Instead, make small, concrete invitations: "Let's go to lunch at this community on Tuesday - I think you'll like the garden." The National Institute on Aging recommends simplifying choices and using visits, not brochures, to help a person with dementia experience a setting firsthand. ## Where do you go from here? Whatever you decide, you don't have to decide everything today. The single most important outcome of the first conversation is that the door stays open for the second one. If you'd like to walk a community, ask questions, or just talk through where your family is, our team can help. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [reach out to an advisor](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) - we'll meet you wherever you are in the process. ## Frequently asked questions ### At what age should I start talking to my parents about long-term care? There's no magic age, but the conversation is easier when it starts in your parent's late 60s or early 70s - before health events force the issue. The [Administration for Community Living](https://acl.gov/ltc) estimates that roughly 70% of people turning 65 today will need long-term care at some point, so treating it as a normal planning topic (like retirement or estate planning) reduces the emotional weight. ### How do I bring up long-term care without upsetting my parent? Lead with curiosity, not concern. Ask what's working and what feels harder than it used to, and listen longer than you speak. Frame support as something that protects independence rather than ending it, and expect to revisit the topic across several conversations rather than resolving it in one. ### What if my parent refuses to talk about it at all? Resistance is usually fear in disguise. Step back, validate their feelings, and try again later with a smaller ask - a medical alert device, a weekly housekeeper, or a visit to a friend who lives in a community. Small agreements build the trust needed for bigger ones. ### Who should be involved in the conversation? Start with your parent and one trusted adult child or spouse. Align with siblings privately first so your parent doesn't feel ambushed. Bring in a geriatric care manager, elder-law attorney, or senior living advisor when you're ready to evaluate specific options. ### How much does long-term care cost in the United States? According to the [CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care) (2025), national median monthly costs are about $6,200 for assisted living, about $6,673 for 44 hours per week of non-medical in-home care, and about $9,600 for a semi-private nursing home room. Memory care typically runs $6,000 - $8,000 per month. Costs vary significantly by metro area. ### Does Medicare pay for long-term care? Generally, no. [Medicare](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care) covers short-term skilled nursing and rehabilitation after a qualifying hospital stay, but it does not pay for ongoing assisted living, memory care, or custodial in-home care. Medicaid, long-term care insurance, veterans' benefits, and private pay are the more common funding sources. --- ## Understanding and Easing Sundowning in Dementia Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-and-easing-sundowning-in-dementia-care/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, nutrition, sleep, emotional-wellness, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: Learn what sundowning is, why it happens, and how caregivers can respond with empathy and structure. Explore practical strategies and discover how Áegis Living supports residents through thoughtful approaches like light therapy. As the day transitions into evening, many caregivers observe a noticeable change in their loved ones with dementia. This phenomenon, known as sundowning, is characterized by increased confusion, agitation, and restlessness during the late afternoon and evening hours. These changes can be unsettling, especially when they disrupt what might otherwise be a calm end to the day. But understanding why sundowning happens - and learning how to respond with confidence and compassion - can ease the strain for everyone involved. ### What is Sundowning? Sundowning refers to a pattern of increased confusion and agitation that occurs in the late afternoon and evening of many individuals with dementia. While the exact cause is not fully understood, several factors that may contribute include: - **Circadian Rhythm Disruption:** Dementia can affect the body’s internal clock, leading to confusion about the time of day. - **Fatigue:** As the day progresses, individuals may become tired, making it harder to cope with stress. - **Low Light and Shadows:** Reduced lighting can cause misinterpretations of the environment, leading to fear or confusion. - **Hunger or Thirst:** Unmet physical needs can exacerbate irritability and restlessness. - **Overstimulation:** A busy or noisy environment can overwhelm someone with dementia, especially later in the day. Symptoms of sundowning can vary but often include: - Increased confusion or disorientation - Agitation or irritability - Restlessness or pacing - Mood swings - Hallucinations or delusions - Attempts to leave or “go home” These behaviors can be challenging, but with patience and the right approach, they can be managed effectively. *“Empathy and consistency are key in navigating the challenges of sundowning.”* ### Strategies for Managing Sundowning Managing sundowning requires a compassionate and proactive approach. The following strategies are designed to address common triggers, promote comfort, and create a soothing rhythm to the day and evening. **1. Establish a Consistent Routine** A predictable daily schedule provides a sense of structure and security. Aim to: - Keep waking, meal, and bedtimes consistent. - Schedule more stimulating activities earlier in the day. - Limit daytime naps to avoid interfering with nighttime sleep. Consistency helps anchor the day and reduce the anxiety that often fuels sundowning behaviors. **2. Create a Calming Environment** Environmental cues can significantly impact a person’s mood and behavior: - Use soft, steady lighting in the evening to reduce shadows. - Close blinds before dusk to reduce visual confusion. - Keep background noise low and eliminate clutter. - Choose soothing music, familiar scents, or comforting textures. These environmental adjustments can make the space feel more secure and less overwhelming. **3. Address Unmet Physical or Emotional Needs** Sometimes agitation is a sign that something else is wrong: - Is your loved one hungry, thirsty, in pain, or needing the bathroom? - Are they overstimulated, bored, lonely, or scared? Responding quickly and gently to these cues helps resolve discomfort and restores calm. **4. Engage in Meaningful Daytime Activities** Staying engaged throughout the day can help reduce pent-up energy that surfaces later. Try these activities to help release the energy: - Folding towels, sorting objects, or watering plants. - Looking through photo albums or listening to favorite songs. - Doing light exercises or going for a short walk outside. Activities should match your loved one’s abilities and interests and end well before evening. **5. Use Reassuring Communication** What you say - and how you say it - can make all the difference: - Speak slowly and gently, using short, simple sentences. - Maintain eye contact and use calming gestures. - Validate emotions instead of arguing or correcting. Reassurance, presence, and tone are often more important than exact words. **6. Monitor Diet and Hydration** Poor nutrition and dehydration can contribute to irritability and confusion: - Offer balanced meals on a predictable schedule. - Encourage water intake throughout the day. - Avoid caffeine after mid-afternoon, and limit alcohol intake altogether, especially in the evening hours when its effects can contribute to restlessness or disrupted sleep. Nutrition habits affect not only physical health but emotional balance as well. **7. Encourage Exposure to Natural Light** Natural light helps regulate the sleep-wake cycle: - Open blinds to let in daylight. - Sit outside for fresh air and sunshine. - Use full-spectrum light bulbs during darker months. A well-lit environment helps cue the brain that it’s daytime and supports better sleep later. ### How Áegis Living Uses Light Therapy to Support Residents At Áegis Living, we’ve found that light therapy can be a gentle yet powerful way to support residents experiencing symptoms of sundowning. By aligning daily lighting with natural circadian rhythms, we help create a sense of stability and ease that’s especially important for individuals living with dementia. Our communities often use specialized light boxes or natural-spectrum lighting in the morning hours to help cue the brain that it’s time to wake up and engage. As the day progresses, lighting is gradually softened to mimic the setting sun, reinforcing the body’s natural winding-down process. Families have shared that their loved ones seem more settled in the evenings and better able to rest at night. While light therapy isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution, it’s one of many thoughtful approaches we use to create a calm, supportive rhythm to the day. *“You don’t have to fix the person - you just need to be curious about what’s causing the distress, and gentle in how you respond.”* ### A Calmer Way Forward Sundowning presents unique challenges in dementia care, especially for caregivers who are already stretched thin. But with a combination of empathy, consistency, and simple daily adjustments, it is possible to create greater peace and predictability as the day winds down. As dementia care educator Teepa Snow reminds us, “It’s not about fixing the person. It’s about figuring out what’s causing the distress, and then being a detective to make things better.” That shift - from control to compassion - is often the turning point in how we respond to sundowning. With the right tools and mindset, caregivers can find moments of calm, build trust, and support their loved one with greater confidence - even when the evenings are tough. ### Discover Supportive Memory Care at Áegis Living At Áegis Living, we understand the complexities of dementia caregiving. Our [specialized memory care programs](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) are designed to provide compassionate support for both residents and their families. We invite you to [experience our community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) firsthand. Schedule a tour and enjoy a complimentary meal with us. During your visit, you’ll meet our dedicated team, explore our thoughtfully designed spaces, and learn how we tailor care to meet individual needs. If you have questions or need assistance finding the right community, please don’t hesitate to contact us. We’re here to support you every step of the way. *This blog is part of our Care & Support series for dementia caregivers. Each post offers practical tips and compassionate insights to help you care for your loved one - and yourself.* --- ## Routines: How Structure Supports People Living with Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-gift-of-routine-how-structure-supports-people-living-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, nutrition, sleep, brain-health, emotional-wellness, for-caregivers Summary: Learn how daily routines support people living with dementia, with practical tips and a sample schedule to encourage comfort, confidence, and connection. When someone you love is diagnosed with dementia, the world can feel like it’s been turned upside down. The person you’ve always known may start forgetting details, losing track of time, or struggling with once-simple tasks. Everyday life - getting dressed, preparing meals, moving through the day - can suddenly feel unpredictable. For the person living with dementia, this unpredictability isn’t just frustrating. It’s disorienting, sometimes even frightening. That’s why one of the most impactful tools a caregiver can offer is structure. Routines don’t just help organize the day, they provide something deeper: stability, familiarity, and emotional reassurance. For individuals whose memories are becoming less reliable, a daily rhythm can offer a sense of safety in a world that increasingly feels unfamiliar. Let’s explore how daily routines benefit people living with dementia and how caregivers can use this gentle, powerful strategy to foster connection and calm. ## Why Structure Matters in Dementia Care As dementia progresses, the brain’s ability to sequence events, adapt to changes, and remember even short-term information begins to decline. This can make everyday life overwhelming. A familiar routine helps simplify things. When a person knows what to expect - waking up at the same time each day, brushing teeth after breakfast, enjoying a walk before lunch - it reduces decision-making pressure. It also cuts down on confusion and agitation, which can easily arise from sudden changes or overstimulation. Even if your loved one doesn’t consciously remember the routine, their body and emotions often do. That sense of rhythm, even unspoken, offers comfort and reassurance. *“Even if your loved one doesn’t remember the routine, their body and emotions often do.”* **Emotional Benefits of a Consistent Routine** Daily routines support emotional stability by creating a sense of flow. Transitions become smoother when they follow a predictable order, and caregivers often report fewer outbursts or moments of distress when a consistent schedule is in place. For instance, someone who routinely listens to music after lunch may begin to anticipate it as a natural pause in the day. That sense of anticipation - of knowing what comes next - can lower anxiety and create positive emotional associations. This predictability also provides caregivers with opportunities to gently guide and redirect when challenges arise, reducing the need for confrontation or correction. **Physical and Cognitive Support** In addition to emotional stability, routines also play a vital role in maintaining physical health and supporting cognitive function. Even as dementia progresses, many individuals retain muscle memory and respond positively to familiar, repeated activities. A consistent structure helps engage both the body and the brain in gentle, purposeful ways. - **Sleep-Wake Regulation:** When meals, activities, and rest occur at the same times each day, it helps regulate the body’s internal clock. That consistency supports better sleep hygiene, which in turn can reduce the risk of nighttime wakefulness, sundowning behaviors, or wandering episodes. - **Preserved Functioning:** Including meaningful activities like brushing hair, folding towels, or setting the table reinforces remaining abilities and provides a sense of contribution. These familiar tasks help maintain procedural memory - the type of memory that holds onto learned actions like riding a bike or making coffee. - **Physical Engagement:** Scheduled movement, even if light, supports mobility, balance, and circulation. A short morning walk or stretching routine can become a valued part of the day. **How to Build a Supportive Daily Routine** The most effective routines are consistent but flexible, designed to offer rhythm without rigidity. Here are a few guidelines to help you build one that fits: - **Start With What’s Familiar** Anchor the routine with tasks or rituals your loved one already knows and enjoys. This could be something as simple as a cup of tea in the morning, a favorite radio station after lunch, or evening quiet time with a blanket and soft lighting. Familiarity builds comfort. - **Use Visual and Environmental Cues** As dementia progresses, verbal explanations may not be enough. Visual signals and environmental prompts can help guide transitions. For example, dimming the lights may signal winding down for bed, while opening curtains could indicate the start of the day. Layouts, objects, and sounds can serve as gentle nudges. - **Keep Choices Simple** When including decision-making in the routine, offer two clear options: “Would you like oatmeal or eggs?” This gives the person a sense of control without overwhelming them. - **Make Space for Flexibility** Even the best routine won’t go perfectly every day. Build in room for rest or spontaneous needs. Watch for cues - like body language or tone - that indicate a shift in energy or mood, and respond with compassion. - **Balance Activity and Rest** Rotate between active, engaging tasks and restful, calming ones. Morning might include grooming and a walk; afternoon could bring puzzles or music followed by a quiet rest. A balanced day helps avoid overstimulation or fatigue. **Sample Routine (Adapted for Moderate Dementia)** **Morning:** - Wake and bathroom routine - Light breakfast - Gentle movement or short walk - Mid-morning rest or music **Midday:** - Lunch - Familiar chore (folding laundry, sorting cards) - Cognitive activity (puzzle, conversation, memory box) **Afternoon:** - Rest period - Snack - Leisure activity (art, reading aloud) **Evening:** - Dinner - Low-stimulation time (TV, calming music, hand massage) - Bedtime hygiene - Lights out at consistent time This structure helps the body and brain fall into a natural rhythm that supports calm and connection. **Aligning with Best Practices** Teepa Snow is a leading dementia educator, the founder of the Positive Approach to Care® (PAC), and frequent speaker at Áegis Living. With decades of experience in occupational therapy and a global following among families and professionals alike, she’s known for her deeply compassionate, practical methods for supporting people living with all forms of dementia. Care strategies that support independence and dignity are key. Snow emphasizes the importance of **“doing** ***with*, not for.”** When incorporating activities into a routine, invite participation at whatever level is possible. Offer hand-over-hand assistance when needed, model tasks slowly, and use positive encouragement. It’s also important to observe and adjust. A routine should feel like a framework, not a set of rules. If a particular activity consistently triggers stress or fatigue, try shifting it to another time of day - or replacing it with something gentler. At Áegis Living, we take great care to help residents establish patterns that reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed and encourage a sense of ease. Creating thoughtful pathways and structuring activities for individuals at similar cognitive levels allows residents to maintain more independence as they move through the community. When a loved one transitions to a smaller, more supportive setting like Life’s Neighborhood®, families often tell us how much more relaxed and at home their loved one seems - thanks to programming designed specifically to meet them where they are. *“A daily rhythm offers what dementia takes away - something to count on.”* **A Calmer Way Forward** Caring for someone with dementia asks more of the heart than almost anything else. But in the midst of the unknown, a routine can be one of the most loving gifts you offer. It’s a way to say, *“You are safe. You are seen. And together, we have a rhythm we can count on.”* Small steps - repeated with care - can turn into something beautiful. A more peaceful day. A deeper connection. A moment of joy, even in the hard times. And that’s more than enough. **Let’s Build a Supportive Routine Together** At Áegis Living, we understand that establishing a consistent daily routine can be transformative for individuals living with dementia. Our specialized [transitional](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/transitional-memory-support/) and [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) programs are designed to provide the structure and support your loved one needs to thrive. We invite you to experience the Áegis Living difference firsthand. Schedule a tour at one of our [communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), enjoy a complimentary meal, meet our compassionate team, and learn how we can tailor routines to meet your loved one’s unique needs. We’re here to help. *This blog is part of our Care & Support series for dementia caregivers. Each post offers practical tips and compassionate insights to help you care for your loved one - and yourself.* --- ## Making the Move to Memory Care: Guidance for Families URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/making-the-move-to-memory-care-guidance-for-families-facing-the-next-step/ Focus keyword: memory care Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, memory-care, nutrition, brain-health, emotional-wellness, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: Get guidance for moving a loved one to memory care, from compassionate conversations and handling resistance to easing relocation stress and settling in. When her mother began forgetting to take medications, missing meals, and calling several times a day in a confused state, Megan knew something had to change. The tipping point came when her mom wandered outside one night, confused and barefoot, unable to find her way back inside. Megan had been doing everything she could - driving over daily, managing doctor visits, arranging help - but it was no longer enough. She knew her mom needed more care than she could safely provide on her own. Sound familiar? Perhaps you’re experiencing some version of this now - recognizing that your loved one needs more than you can provide, and arriving at the difficult, loving decision to pursue memory care. Even when it’s clear that memory care is the right next step, the actual *move* can be emotionally complex - for both the individual and the family. How do you talk about it? What if your loved one resists? How can you ease the emotional impact of the transition? And how do you know if memory care is truly the right fit? If you’ve already identified signs that it may be time for long-term care - like those covered in our recent blog, [“Is It Time for Long-Term Care? 7 Signs Your Loved One May Need Support”](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/is-it-time-for-long-term-care-7-signs-your-loved-one-may-need-more-support/) - then you may be facing the next phase: *making the move.* This blog offers guidance, support, and next steps to help you navigate the journey with clarity and compassion. ## How to Talk About the Move to Memory Care [Having this conversation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/) with your loved one can seem daunting and overwhelming. This can be an emotional topic. One of the most important things to understand is that this isn’t a one-time talk. It’s a process. The first conversation opens the door. Over time, follow-up talks can build understanding, reduce fear, and help your loved one gradually accept the idea of transitioning to memory care. Start with empathy. Acknowledge that the idea of moving is scary or overwhelming. Use gentle language like, “Let’s explore some options together,” or “I want to make sure you’re getting the support you need.” Listen more than you talk. Their fears - about losing independence, being forgotten, or not belonging - are real and deserve space. It’s also helpful to normalize the situation. Share that many families go through this exact same journey and that it’s okay to feel conflicted. In some cases, older adults are relieved to discover that memory care isn’t about giving up independence; it’s about gaining support where it’s needed most. Try to see the conversation from their perspective - what may feel like helpful planning to you might feel like a loss of control or a fear of being forgotten to them. Meeting those feelings with patience and reassurance can make all the difference. *“Even when it’s clearly time, making the move to memory care takes courage, compassion, and support.”* **What Can You Do if Your Loved One Is Resistant to Move?** Resistance is common. Dementia can make change feel threatening, and even older adults without cognitive decline often cling to what they know. If your loved one is reluctant, try these strategies: - **Normalize the fear of change.** Instead of pushing back, validate their emotions: “It makes total sense that this feels hard.” Let them know you understand and that you’re there to walk through this together, not make decisions for them. - **Offer choices wherever possible.** Even small choices can help someone feel more in control - like deciding which day to visit a community, which comforter to bring, or how to decorate their new room. - **Bring in support.** Doctors, therapists, clergy, or close friends can reinforce your message. Hearing the same compassionate suggestion from multiple sources can help build trust and lessen resistance. - **Be patient.** Acceptance doesn’t always come right away. It may take several conversations - or several weeks. Keep showing up, listening, and gently offering reassurance that the goal is greater peace, safety, and well-being. - **Also consider your own emotional readiness.** Sometimes family members unintentionally project their anxiety, which can make the loved one feel even more uncertain. Breathe, ground yourself, and approach with the steady confidence of someone advocating for a better quality of life. **Try a Respite or Day Stay** If your loved one - or your family - isn’t quite ready to commit to a permanent move, a short-term experience can be a helpful next step. At Áegis Living, we offer [respite stays](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/) that give both the caregiver and the loved one a valuable opportunity: The caregiver can step back and reconnect with their role as a spouse, child, or friend rather than a full-time caregiver, while their loved one receives personalized care and experiences the community in a supportive way. We also offer [day stays](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/), where your loved one can spend time at Áegis during the day - engaging in social activities, receiving individualized support, and becoming comfortable in the environment. These options can ease the transition and help everyone feel more confident about next steps. **What Is Transitional Trauma?** Even when a move to memory care is the right decision, the emotional and psychological adjustment can be difficult for your loved one. Understanding what that stress looks like - and how to ease it - can make a big difference in how the transition unfolds. Transitional trauma (or relocation stress syndrome) refers to the psychological and physical stress that can happen when a person with dementia is moved from a familiar home into a new care setting. This stress can manifest as increased confusion, depression, agitation, refusal to eat, or even withdrawal. For individuals living with dementia, transitions can be especially disorienting - not just because the place is new, but because the people, sounds, smells, and routines are unfamiliar. Their brain is working hard to make sense of the world, and changes in care partners, environment, or rhythm can interrupt what little feels predictable. That’s why relational consistency, soothing sensory cues, and simple, repeated routines are so essential to easing this adjustment. Transitional trauma not uncommon, but it can often be minimized with thoughtful planning: - **Preserve routines.** Try to maintain similar wake times, mealtimes, and evening habits. If your loved one always has a cup of tea at 3pm or listens to the same music each morning, continue that routine. - **Recreate familiarity.** Bring favorite blankets, photos, books, or even a beloved armchair to the new space. Familiarity can reduce confusion and help the space feel safe. - **Limit overstimulation.** Moving day should be calm and simple - avoid crowds and keep interactions minimal. One or two familiar faces is better than a group. Give them time to adjust. - **Stay connected.** Frequent visits, phone calls, or even video chats can help your loved one feel grounded. During the early weeks, even a quick 5-minute check-in can be meaningful. - **Lean on staff support.** Communities like Áegis Living have team members trained specifically to ease transitions. They can help establish new routines, provide reassurance, and offer structured activities that help your loved one feel engaged. Remember: transitional trauma is usually temporary. With time and support, your loved one can settle into a new rhythm, find comfort in new surroundings, and even begin to thrive again. **What Memory Care Offers - and When It Might Be the Right Fit** Even if your loved one doesn’t need memory care today, chances are they will at some point in their journey with dementia. That’s why it’s so important to begin exploring long-term care options early - before a crisis limits your choices or forces a rushed decision. When your loved one is still able to share their thoughts and preferences, including them in the process helps them feel heard and respected. These early conversations can create clarity, reduce anxiety, and lead to more thoughtful transitions when the time comes. Understanding what memory care truly offers can help bring those conversations into focus. It’s not just about finding a secure place to live - it’s about creating a purposeful, supportive environment tailored to the unique needs of those living with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia. These communities are thoughtfully designed to reduce confusion, promote comfort, and foster meaningful connection, even as cognitive abilities shift. If your loved one is experiencing moderate to advanced memory loss, they may benefit from an environment that offers both structure and consistency - where staff are not only trained in dementia care, but skilled in approaching behaviors with compassion, creativity, and patience. In memory care, daily routines are simplified but deeply intentional. Residents are gently guided through each day with activities designed to engage the senses, evoke memories, and preserve a sense of dignity and self-worth. You may be wondering, “How is this different from assisted living?” While both provide support with everyday tasks like meals, bathing, and medications, memory care takes it a step further. It offers specialized support for behaviors like wandering, sundowning, anxiety, and confusion - common symptoms of dementia that require a different level of attention and response. And it’s not just about managing symptoms - it’s about helping your loved one experience joy and calm in their present moment. If you’re seeing signs that your loved one’s needs are growing beyond what can be managed at home or even in [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/transitional-memory-support/), memory care may offer the stability and peace of mind your family has been looking for. [Áegis Living’s Life’s Neighborhood® program](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) is specifically designed for individuals living with moderate to advanced [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/). From personalized care plans to sensory-rich environments, the goal is to ensure each resident lives with dignity, safety, and moments of joy. **Support for the Journey Ahead** Transitions like this are rarely simple. They come with emotional weight, logistical challenges, and the need to reimagine what care and connection will look like in this next stage. But you don’t have to figure it out on your own. At Áegis Living, we specialize in memory care that centers on compassion, connection, and dignity. Our team is here to support your family throughout the entire journey - before, during, and after the move. If you’re considering memory care or want to learn more about how to make the transition smoother for your loved one, we invite you to check out our page on [Transitioning Seniors with Dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/where-to-begin/) or schedule a tour of [one of our communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). --- ## 7 Signs It's Time for Long-Term Memory Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/is-it-time-for-long-term-care-7-signs-your-loved-one-may-need-more-support/ Focus keyword: long-term care Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, brain-health, emotional-wellness, social-connection, safety-at-home, when-its-time Summary: Wondering if it's time for long-term care? Learn the 7 signs - from medication errors to caregiver burnout - that signal your loved one needs more support. If you're asking whether it's time for long-term care, the honest answer usually lies in seven observable signals: daily memory lapses, personality shifts, hygiene decline, safety incidents, medication errors, disorientation about time or place, and [caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/). When two or more of these show up consistently over a few months, it's time to evaluate a memory care community. Below is how to recognize each sign, what the data says, and what to do next. Roughly 1 in 9 Americans aged 65 and older is living with Alzheimer's disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), and about 11.5 million family members provide unpaid care for them ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). If you're noticing changes, you're not imagining things - and you're not alone. Start by reviewing the [early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/could-it-be-dementia-cognitive-behavioral-and-subtle-early-clues/) so you can separate normal aging from something that needs attention. ## What counts as "long-term care" for memory loss? Long-term care Ongoing personal, medical, and supportive services for someone who can no longer safely manage daily life alone. It can happen at home, in assisted living, or in a dedicated memory care community. Memory care A specialized form of long-term care for people with Alzheimer's or other dementias. Staff are trained in dementia-specific communication, environments are secured to prevent wandering, and daily routines are designed to reduce confusion. Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) Bathing, dressing, toileting, eating, transferring, and continence - six basic self-care tasks ([National Institutes of Health](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470404/), 2023). When two or more ADLs become unsafe to do alone, professional support is usually warranted. ## 1. Is memory loss interfering with daily life? Misplacing your phone is normal. Forgetting that you own a phone, or how to use it, is not. The Alzheimer's Association draws a clear line: occasional forgetfulness is aging; memory loss that disrupts daily life is a warning sign ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs), 2024). Watch for repeating the same question within an hour, forgetting how to operate a microwave they've used for 20 years, or missing bill payments that lead to shutoff notices. Imagine your dad calls asking for your mother's pumpkin pie recipe three times in one afternoon, each time as if it's the first - that's the pattern, not the volume, that matters. ## 2. Have personality, mood, or social patterns shifted? Dementia changes more than memory. A previously easygoing parent may become suspicious, withdrawn, or quick to anger. Apathy - not sadness, but a flat lack of interest - is one of the most common early neuropsychiatric symptoms of Alzheimer's ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-symptoms-and-diagnosis), 2023). As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, frames it: what looks like a personality change is often the person trying to communicate fear or discomfort with the only tools they have left. Responding with patience instead of correction usually de-escalates the moment. ## 3. Is personal hygiene slipping? Bathing involves dozens of sequenced steps: undressing, water temperature, soap, rinsing, drying, dressing again. When sequencing breaks down, hygiene goes with it. - Same clothes worn for several days in a row - Noticeable body odor, food stains, or soiled garments - Unwashed hair, untrimmed nails, or skipped dental care despite reminders - Refusing showers because the process has become frightening or confusing For example, an 82-year-old retired teacher who once dressed sharply for church now wears the same stained sweatshirt three Sundays in a row - and bristles when her daughter asks about it. That's not stubbornness; that's a cognitive task she can no longer complete. ## 4. Are safety incidents adding up? This is often the sign that ends the debate. One in four adults aged 65+ falls each year ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/facts-stats/index.html), 2023), and the risk climbs sharply with cognitive impairment. Wandering is just as serious: about 6 in 10 people with dementia will wander at least once ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/wandering), 2024). Consider a family whose mother left a gas burner on overnight - twice in one week. The smoke alarm caught it the first time; a neighbor smelled gas the second. That's the moment a conversation about [making the move to memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/making-the-move-to-memory-care-guidance-for-families-facing-the-next-step/) stops being hypothetical. Red flags include unexplained bruises, dents in the car, getting lost on a familiar route, doors left unlocked at night, and missing or hoarded items. ## 5. Are medications being mismanaged? Older adults take an average of 4 or more prescription medications, and adverse drug events send hundreds of thousands of seniors to emergency rooms each year ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/medication-safety/about/index.html), 2023). For someone with memory loss, a pill organizer is rarely enough. Signs the system has broken down: - Pills left in the organizer days after they should have been taken - Double-dosing because they forgot they already took it - Blood pressure, blood sugar, or pain control that suddenly worsens - Refilling prescriptions far too early - or far too late ## 6. Are they disoriented to time or place? Losing track of the day of the week is common; losing track of the year, the season, or which house you're in is not. Disorientation to place can turn a 2 a.m. bathroom trip into a fall, or a familiar neighborhood walk into a missing-person report. Pay attention if your loved one: - Doesn't recognize their own living room or believes it belongs to someone else - Refers to a long-deceased spouse or parent as if they were alive - Becomes panicked at sundown (a pattern often called sundowning) - Can't reliably say the month or year Reviewing [the 7 stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/) can help you place where your loved one is on the trajectory and anticipate what's next. ## 7. Is the primary caregiver burning out? About 59% of dementia caregivers report high or very high emotional stress, and 38% report high physical stress ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). Burnout is not weakness - it's a measurable health condition with cardiovascular, immune, and mental-health consequences. Signs you've crossed the line: - You've canceled your own doctor or dental appointments more than once - You feel resentment, then guilt about the resentment - Sleep is broken nightly because you're listening for them - You've withdrawn from friends, work, or hobbies you used to love As Atul Gawande, MD, argues in *Being Mortal*, the goal of late-life care isn't simply safety - it's a life worth living, for both the person receiving care and the person giving it. When one is collapsing under the weight of the other, the arrangement isn't working. ## How do home care, assisted living, and memory care compare? Care settingBest forTypical 2026 cost (national median)Dementia-trained staff? In-home care (non-medical caregiver, 44 hrs/week)Early-stage needs, strong family backup~$6,673/monthVaries by agency Assisted livingADL help, low fall/wander risk~$6,200/monthSome Memory careModerate - severe dementia, wandering risk~$6,200 - $7,500/monthYes, specialized Skilled nursingComplex medical needs~$9,600/month (semi-private)Some Cost ranges reflect national medians published by the [CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care) (2025) and may vary by state by 30 - 50%. ## What should you do in the next 30 days? - **Document specifics.** Keep a dated log of incidents - missed meds, falls, repeated questions. Patterns are more persuasive than impressions when you talk to a doctor or sibling. - **Schedule a cognitive evaluation.** Ask the primary care physician for an in-office assessment (such as the Mini-Cog or MoCA) and rule out reversible causes like vitamin deficiency, thyroid issues, or medication interactions ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-symptoms-and-diagnosis/how-alzheimers-disease-diagnosed), 2023). - **Have the safety conversation.** Driving, the stove, finances, and door locks are the four common pressure points. Address them before a crisis forces the issue. - **Tour two or three communities.** Visit at different times of day. Watch how staff speak to residents who are confused. - **Bring in support for caregivers.** Respite care, a support group, or even a few hours a week of in-home help can prevent the burnout cliff. If communication is becoming difficult, our guide on [communicating with a loved one living with dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-words-are-hard-communicating-with-a-loved-one-living-with-dementia/) offers practical phrasing you can use today. ## What does long-term memory care actually provide? A well-designed memory care community offers more than supervision. Expect secured outdoor courtyards, life-enrichment programs calibrated to cognitive stage, medication management by licensed nurses, dementia-trained caregivers around the clock, and an environment engineered to reduce overwhelm - soft lighting, contrasting plate colors at meals, clear sightlines to bathrooms. Daniel Levitin, PhD, neuroscientist and author of *Successful Aging*, points out that older brains thrive on routine, social engagement, and purposeful activity. A good memory care program builds those three ingredients into the day. ## Ready to talk it through? If even two of these seven signs sound familiar, it's worth a conversation - not a commitment, just a conversation. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to learn what specialized memory care looks like up close. ## Frequently asked questions ### How do I know if my parent needs memory care versus assisted living? Assisted living supports residents who need help with daily tasks but can still navigate their environment safely. Memory care adds secured spaces, dementia-trained staff, and structured routines for people who wander, become disoriented, or experience significant behavioral changes. If safety incidents are recurring, memory care is usually the right level. ### What if my loved one refuses to consider long-term care? Resistance is common and often rooted in fear of losing control. Start with smaller steps - a tour positioned as "just looking," a respite stay of one to two weeks, or in-home help. Involve their physician, who often carries more authority on health decisions than adult children do. ### Does Medicare pay for long-term memory care? Generally no. Medicare covers short-term skilled nursing and rehab, not custodial long-term care ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), 2024). Medicaid may cover memory care for those who qualify financially, and long-term care insurance, VA benefits, or personal assets typically fund the rest. ### Is it ever "too early" to move someone to memory care? Moving earlier in the disease course often produces better outcomes because the person can participate in choosing the community, form relationships with staff, and adjust to routines while still cognitively flexible. Waiting until a crisis usually means a harder transition. ### How long does it take to adjust to a memory care community? Most families see meaningful adjustment within 30 to 90 days. The first two weeks are typically the hardest. Resist the urge to judge the move by day three - watch how your loved one is eating, sleeping, and engaging by week six. ### What questions should I ask when touring a memory care community? Ask the staff-to-resident ratio on day and night shifts, what specific dementia training caregivers receive, how the community handles behavioral changes without over-medicating, what happens if care needs increase, and whether you can visit at any time. Trust how staff speak to current residents more than what they say to you. --- ## Caregiver Frustration: How to Manage It with Grace URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/ Focus keyword: caregiver Category: caregiver-support Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, communication, emotional-wellness, for-caregivers Summary: Practical, expert-backed strategies to manage dementia caregiver frustration - including communication scripts, redirection techniques, and when to ask for help. Frustration as a dementia caregiver is normal, expected, and manageable. When your mom asks the same question for the tenth time before lunch, or your husband insists he needs to drive to a job he retired from in 2003, your patience will fray. The fix isn't trying harder - it's changing your approach: shorter sentences, validation instead of correction, redirection toward purpose, and accepting help before you're depleted. Caregiving for someone with dementia is one of the most demanding roles a family member can take on. An estimated 11.5 million Americans provide unpaid care for people with Alzheimer's or other dementias ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), and roughly 6 in 10 of those caregivers report high emotional stress. If you're feeling worn thin, you're in a very large, very human group. ## Why does dementia caregiving feel so frustrating? Frustration rarely comes from one moment. It builds from a thousand small adjustments - repeating yourself, redirecting, watching abilities slip away, and grieving someone who is still physically present. The Centers for Disease Control notes that caregivers of people with dementia are more likely to report depression, anxiety, and poorer self-rated health than non-caregivers (CDC, 2023). Three common roots feed the frustration: **Communication breakdown** Damage to language centers in the brain makes it hard for your loved one to find words, follow long sentences, or remember the last exchange. Repeated questions aren't stubbornness - they're a symptom. **Behavioral change** Paranoia, accusations, or sudden agitation can feel like personal attacks. They almost never are. Brain changes alter perception, mood, and impulse control. **Anticipatory grief** You are mourning someone who is still sitting across the table. That grief is real, even when it has no funeral to attach itself to. Naming the source of your frustration doesn't erase it. It does give you a half-second of space - enough to respond rather than react. ## What does an expert say about responding instead of reacting? As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often explains: a person with dementia is doing the best they can with the brain they have right now, and the caregiver's job is to adjust the environment and approach - not to demand the brain change. Snow encourages caregivers to slow down, get to eye level, use a calm hand under (not over) the person's hand, and offer one short choice at a time. That reframe matters. When you stop trying to argue someone back into a brain they no longer have, the temperature in the room drops - for both of you. ## How can you reword what you say to reduce conflict? Most caregiver frustration ignites in the gap between what you said and what your loved one understood. Shorter, warmer, and more visual usually works better. Compare the two columns below. Instead of saying…Try…Why it works "I already told you three times - we're going to the doctor.""We're going for a ride. I'll be with you."Removes correction; adds reassurance. "Your mother passed away ten years ago.""You really miss her. Tell me about her."Validates feeling without reopening grief. "Put your shoes on, we're late.""Let's slide this foot in. There you go."One step, hands-on, no time pressure. "Stop asking me that.""You're safe. I'm right here."Answers the feeling underneath the question. ## How do you redirect without dismissing your loved one? Redirection works when it offers a new, dignified focus - not when it brushes someone off. Consider a family whose mother, a retired schoolteacher, paces the hallway every afternoon insisting she has to "get to the classroom before the bell." Arguing about the year does nothing. Handing her a stack of construction paper and saying, "Could you help me sort these for tomorrow?" channels the same identity into a calming task. Or imagine your dad calls asking for the same chili recipe three times in one afternoon. Instead of sighing, "Dad, I just told you," you could say, "Let's make it together this weekend - I'll bring the beans." The repetition stops being a problem to solve and becomes a chance to connect. ## What environmental changes lower agitation fastest? The Mayo Clinic notes that overstimulation - noise, clutter, glare, too many people - is a leading trigger for dementia-related agitation ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alzheimers-disease/in-depth/alzheimers/art-20047577), 2024). Small adjustments often beat any verbal strategy. - **Turn off background noise.** Mute the TV during meals and conversation. - **Reduce choices.** Offer two outfits, not a full closet. Two food options, not a menu. - **Use warm, even lighting.** Shadows and glare can be misread as people or hazards, especially in late afternoon ("sundowning"). - **Clear walkways.** Remove throw rugs and clutter to reduce both falls and visual overwhelm. - **Build a predictable rhythm.** Same wake time, same meal times, same bedtime ritual. Predictability calms a confused brain. ## What basic needs hide underneath "difficult" behavior? Behavior is communication. When a person can no longer say "I'm cold" or "my hip hurts," they may pace, shout, or refuse care instead. Before you assume defiance, run a quick check: - Hungry or thirsty? - Needs the bathroom? - In pain - joints, teeth, urinary tract, constipation? - Too hot, too cold, too bright, too loud? - Bored, or under-stimulated? - Tired, or having slept poorly? For example, an 84-year-old who suddenly becomes combative at bath time may have an undiagnosed urinary tract infection - a common, treatable cause of acute behavior change in older adults, per the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-changes-behavior-and-communication) (2023). A call to the primary care doctor can resolve in days what felt like a personality shift. ## How do you protect your own nervous system in the moment? When you feel your jaw clench or your voice rise, that's the cue to step out - not push through. Chronic caregiver stress is linked to elevated cortisol, weakened immunity, and higher risk of depression, as outlined by the CDC (2023). Walking away for two minutes is not abandonment; it's maintenance. Try a 90-second reset: leave the room if it's safe to do so, run cold water over your wrists, breathe out longer than you breathe in (four in, six out), and name one thing you can see, hear, and feel. Then come back. For more on the long-term toll of pushing past your limits, see [the detrimental health effects of chronic caregiver stress](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiving-the-detrimental-health-effects-of-chronic-stress/). ## What if you feel guilty for being frustrated? Guilt is the shadow that follows caregiving everywhere. You snap, then you spiral: *I shouldn't have said it that way. What kind of daughter am I?* Atul Gawande, MD, surgeon and author of *Being Mortal*, writes that the goal of caring for someone in decline is not perfection but a life with meaning - and that includes the caregiver's life, not just the patient's. Two sibling reads can help if guilt is the loudest voice in your head: [Dementia Whisperer: Family Caregivers and Guilt](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/family-caregivers-and-guilt/) and [From Guilt to Grace on the Long-Term Care Journey](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/from-guilt-to-grace-on-the-long-term-care-journey/). ## When should you bring in outside help? Sooner than you think. The [AARP](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/) reports that family caregivers provide an average of about 24 hours of care per week, with dementia caregivers often providing significantly more (AARP, 2023). That math doesn't leave room for sleep, work, or your own doctor visits - and it isn't sustainable alone. Signs it's time to expand the care circle: - You're losing sleep more nights than not. - You've snapped or cried in front of your loved one more than once this week. - You've canceled your own medical appointments. - Safety incidents are increasing - wandering, falls, the stove left on. - You feel resentment more often than affection. Help can look like a respite stay, an adult day program, in-home support, or a move to memory care. Learning to [set boundaries as a caregiver](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/set-boundaries-as-a-caregiver/) isn't selfish - it's how the care keeps going. ## How do you compare your support options? OptionBest forTypical cost (2024, U.S.) Adult day programDaytime supervision, social engagement, caregiver work hours$80 - $100 per day ([Genworth Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2023) In-home care aideHelp with bathing, meals, medication reminders at home$30 - $35 per hour ([Genworth Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2023) Respite stay (short-term)Caregiver vacation, surgery recovery, or trial runVaries; often billed at memory-care daily rate Memory care community24/7 dementia-specialized care and secure environment$6,000 - $9,000+ per month ([Genworth Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2023) ## What does "a calmer way forward" actually look like? It looks like adjusting your expectations to match today's brain, not yesterday's. It looks like shorter sentences, softer lighting, and a sandwich offered instead of a question demanded. It looks like asking your brother to take Tuesday nights, joining a support group, and saying yes when the memory care community offers a tour. You are doing demanding, tender, often invisible work. The goal isn't to stop feeling frustrated - it's to recognize the feeling, respond differently, and stop carrying the whole load by yourself. ## Ready to talk with someone who understands? Áegis Living's memory care teams are trained in dementia-specific communication, redirection, and behavior support - including approaches grounded in Teepa Snow's Positive Approach to Care. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a tour and a complimentary meal with people who get it. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is it normal to feel angry at a parent with dementia? Yes. Anger and frustration are common, expected responses to chronic caregiving stress and grief - not signs that you don't love the person. The [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving) lists caregiver anger as one of the most frequently reported emotions, alongside guilt and sadness. ### How do I respond when my mom asks the same question over and over? Answer briefly and warmly each time, as if it's the first time. If the question reflects an underlying worry ("When is my husband coming?"), respond to the feeling: "You're safe. I'm here with you." Then redirect to a calming activity - folding laundry, looking at photos, a snack. ### What is the "don't argue" rule in dementia care? Correcting a person with dementia about facts they can no longer hold - the date, who has died, where they live - typically increases agitation without changing their belief. Validating the emotion ("You really miss him") and redirecting to the present moment is more effective and more compassionate. ### When is it time to consider memory care? Common triggers include unsafe wandering, frequent falls, aggression that puts the caregiver at risk, incontinence the family can't manage, and caregiver burnout severe enough to affect health or employment. A geriatrician or care manager can help assess readiness. ### How can I get a break without feeling guilty? Use respite care, adult day programs, or family rotations and remind yourself that rest is what makes ongoing care possible. As Teepa Snow puts it, caregivers who don't refuel eventually run out - and the person you love loses their primary support. Scheduled breaks protect the relationship. ### Does dementia behavior get worse at certain times of day? Yes - late afternoon and early evening agitation, known as "sundowning," affects a substantial share of people with Alzheimer's, according to the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-changes-behavior-and-communication) (2023). Brighter daytime light, a consistent routine, limited caffeine, and quiet evenings often reduce it. --- ## From Guilt to Grace on the Long-Term Care Journey URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/from-guilt-to-grace-on-the-long-term-care-journey/ Focus keyword: long-term care Category: caregiver-support Tags: dementia, memory-care, exercise-fitness, emotional-wellness, when-its-time, for-caregivers, for-adult-children Summary: Find compassionate ways to manage caregiver guilt, navigate long-term care decisions for a loved one with dementia, and care for your own well-being. When Jenna first began noticing changes in her father’s behavior - missed appointments, confusion about familiar tasks, increasing agitation in the evenings - she told herself it was just part of aging. But as the months went on, the signs became harder to ignore. He was leaving the stove on, forgetting to take his medications, and occasionally mistaking her for her sister. Jenna did everything she could to support him at home, but eventually, she realized his safety - and her own well-being - were at risk. Making the decision to explore long-term care wasn’t easy. She questioned whether she had tried hard enough, waited too long, or acted too soon. Like many adult children caring for aging parents, Jenna didn’t just grieve the loss of her dad’s independence; she carried the weight of *guilt*. If you’re walking this same road, you’re not alone. Guilt is one of the most common - and often least acknowledged - emotions that surface during the caregiving journey. Whether you’re currently caring for a parent with dementia, weighing the move to long-term or memory care, or recovering from the aftermath of that decision, guilt can creep in, even when you’ve done everything “right.” But guilt doesn’t have to define your caregiving experience. With awareness, support, and compassion - for your loved one *and* yourself - it’s possible to move from guilt to grace. ## Understanding Guilt on the Long-Term Care Journey Guilt is a complex emotion that often comes from a good place: a deep love and sense of responsibility for someone you care about. But it can become overwhelming when it’s fed by unrealistic expectations, cultural pressures, or the false belief that you must be able to “do it all.” As dementia care expert Teepa Snow puts it: “You’re trying to be everything to somebody who’s changing every day… and that’s not realistic,” she says. “Letting go isn’t giving up - it’s shifting to a kind of support that works better for both of you.” Caregiver guilt can take many forms: - Guilt over moving a loved one to a memory care community - Guilt about losing your patience - Guilt over needing time for yourself - Guilt that stems from comparing yourself to others or to an idealized version of what caregiving “should” look like The first step toward healing is recognizing that guilt, while common, often isn’t a reflection of actual wrongdoing. It’s a signal that you’re carrying more than one person can hold. Dementia doesn’t just affect memory; it changes how the brain processes information, communicates, and navigates the world. These shifts can make familiar situations unexpectedly challenging - for your loved one and for you. Understanding that these behaviors come from changes in the brain, not a lack of effort or love, can help you release guilt and begin responding with more grace. **Common Signs of Caregiver Guilt** Sometimes guilt is obvious, but other times, it shows up in subtle ways. You might: - Second-guess every decision, even after careful consideration - Feel emotionally drained or physically unwell without realizing why - Isolate yourself from friends or family out of shame - Avoid conversations about care decisions to prevent conflict or judgment These are signs that guilt is no longer a passing feeling; it’s taking up space in your daily life. And that’s when it’s time to step back, breathe, and consider what’s really driving it. **How to Manage Guilt in Dementia Caregiving** Letting go of guilt doesn’t mean ignoring it. It means understanding where it’s coming from, and then gently shifting your mindset toward one rooted in reality, compassion, and support. While guilt may never fully disappear, there are meaningful ways to quiet its voice and reclaim a sense of steadiness in your caregiving role. **1. Reframe the Narrative** Instead of “I’m giving up,” remind yourself: *“I’m making the most compassionate choice I can with the resources I have.”* When your loved one’s needs exceed what you can provide safely or sustainably, seeking help is not abandonment; it’s love in action. Even if your loved one doesn’t remember every interaction, they can still feel your presence, your tone, and your intention. Emotional memory often remains intact even as other abilities fade - meaning that the kindness, calm, and care you offer still make a lasting impact. **2. Include Your Loved One When You Can** If your loved one is still cognitively able to express preferences, [involve them in conversations](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/) about care planning. This not only helps them feel respected, but it also gives you peace of mind that you’re honoring their voice. Even small questions like, “What would make you feel most comfortable?” can foster a sense of collaboration that eases guilt later on. **3. Talk About It** Whether with a trusted friend, support group, therapist, or spiritual advisor, speak your guilt out loud. Saying “I feel guilty” in a safe space often reveals the deeper truth: you’re grieving, scared, or simply exhausted. You’ll likely find you’re not alone, and hearing other caregivers’ stories can help you see your situation more clearly and with more grace. **4. Let Go of the Myth of Perfection** There’s no such thing as the perfect caregiver. You will lose your patience sometimes. You will feel overwhelmed. And you might make decisions that, in hindsight, you would approach differently. That doesn’t make you a bad child, spouse, or sibling. It makes you human. And humans can still offer care, comfort, and love, even with flaws. **5. Practice Rest and Renewal** Guilt thrives in exhaustion. When you’re running on empty, everything feels heavier - including your conscience. Build small habits of self-renewal: take a walk, talk to a friend, keep a gratitude journal. Caring for yourself doesn’t subtract from your caregiving; it strengthens it. **When Is It Time to Consider Other Options?** One of the biggest sources of guilt comes when families begin to ask: *Is it time to consider memory care?* This question often brings up a wave of self-doubt. Shouldn’t I be able to keep caring for them at home? Am I doing this for them - or for me? These are valid questions. And while there’s rarely a perfect or obvious answer, the most important one may be: *Is my loved one safe, supported, and thriving in their current environment?* These shifts don’t always arrive in a single moment. Often, it’s a gradual change in the rhythm of daily life - what once felt manageable begins to feel uncertain or unsustainable. As your loved one’s needs evolve, the kind of support that once worked may no longer be enough. When that happens, it may be time to consider whether memory care can offer more stability, safety, and peace - for both of you. The decision to move a loved one to memory care should be guided by: - **Safety concerns**, such as wandering, forgetting medications, or falling - **Unmet emotional and social needs**, like increased isolation or depression - [Caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/), when your own health, relationships, or livelihood are suffering - **Changes in dementia symptoms**, such as increased confusion, anxiety, or aggression When these issues arise, memory care can offer a structured, secure, and compassionate setting tailored to the progression of dementia. It’s not about giving up. It’s about making a loving choice that honors *everyone’s* wellbeing. *“Letting go is not giving up. It’s making space for grace and the care that truly fits.”* You didn’t cause this disease. You can’t control its progression. But you can choose to care wisely, lovingly, and sustainably. That includes knowing when it’s time to ask for help - and letting go of the guilt that says you shouldn’t. Whether you’ve already made the move or are just starting to consider it, remember: You don’t have to carry guilt alone. There are people, resources, and communities - like Áegis Living - ready to walk beside you. [Explore our guide to coping with guilt](https://www.aegisliving.com/where-to-begin/) and learn more about how Áegis Living supports both families and residents with dignity and compassion. --- ## What Is Vascular Dementia? Causes, Symptoms & Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-vascular-dementia-understanding-the-second-most-common-type-of-dementia/ Focus keyword: vascular dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, vascular-dementia, brain-health, exercise-fitness, alzheimers, depression-anxiety, incontinence Summary: Vascular dementia is the second most common dementia type. Learn its causes, symptoms, progression, and how it differs from Alzheimer's disease. Vascular dementia is the second most common form of dementia after Alzheimer's disease, caused by reduced blood flow to the brain from strokes, mini-strokes, or small vessel disease. It accounts for roughly 5 to 10 percent of dementia cases in older adults ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-dementia/types-of-dementia/vascular-dementia), 2024). Unlike Alzheimer's, symptoms often appear suddenly after a stroke or progress in noticeable steps rather than a slow, steady decline. If your parent's thinking changed abruptly after a hospital stay, or their walking and judgment have slipped in stages, vascular dementia may be why. Catching it early matters: the same habits that protect the heart also protect the brain. For a broader symptom checklist, see our pillar guide on the [Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/). ## What causes vascular dementia? Vascular dementia happens when brain cells are starved of oxygen and nutrients because blood vessels are blocked, narrowed, or damaged. This can occur from a single large stroke, a series of silent mini-strokes (transient ischemic attacks), or chronic small vessel disease deep in the brain ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/vascular-dementia), 2024). Risk factors mirror those for heart disease and stroke. Roughly 1 in 4 stroke survivors develops some degree of cognitive impairment within a year (CDC, 2024). - High blood pressure (the single biggest modifiable risk factor) - Diabetes and high cholesterol - Smoking and heavy alcohol use - Atrial fibrillation and other heart rhythm disorders - Obesity and physical inactivity - Advancing age and family history of stroke Many of these risks are modifiable. Our guide to [8 Science-Backed Ways to Reduce Your Alzheimer's Risk](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/8-ways-combat-alzheimers-disease/) applies directly to vascular dementia prevention as well. ## What symptoms should families watch for? Because damage can occur anywhere in the brain, symptoms vary widely. Executive function and processing speed usually decline before memory does, the opposite pattern from Alzheimer's. **Executive dysfunction** Trouble planning, organizing, or following multi-step tasks like cooking a familiar meal or balancing a checkbook. **Slowed processing** Longer pauses before answering questions, difficulty keeping up in conversation. **Gait and balance changes** Shuffling, unsteadiness, or new falls, often appearing earlier than in Alzheimer's. **Apathy and emotional flattening** Loss of motivation or interest that can be mistaken for depression. **Urinary urgency or incontinence** Often emerges sooner than in other dementias due to small vessel damage in deep brain structures. Consider a 78-year-old retired accountant who returns from the hospital after a mild stroke. Within weeks, his wife notices he can no longer follow his own tax-filing routine, walks more slowly, and seems indifferent to his grandchildren's visits. Memory is intact, but planning is not. That stepwise pattern is classic vascular dementia. Before assuming dementia, rule out reversible causes. Thyroid disease, B12 deficiency, medication side effects, and depression can mimic these symptoms. See [8 Conditions That Mimic Dementia (And Are Often Treatable)](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/before-you-assume-its-dementia-consider-these-conditions-that-can-cause-dementia-like-symptoms/). ## How is vascular dementia diagnosed? Diagnosis typically combines medical history, cognitive testing, bloodwork, and brain imaging. An MRI or CT scan can show stroke damage, white matter changes, or reduced blood flow ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/vascular-dementia/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20378798), 2024). - **Start with the primary care physician** for a baseline cognitive screen and bloodwork to rule out reversible causes. - **Request a referral to a neurologist or geriatrician** for detailed neuropsychological testing. - **Get brain imaging** (MRI preferred over CT) to look for stroke evidence or small vessel disease. - **Review the medication list** with a pharmacist; sedatives and anticholinergics can worsen cognition. - **Build a care plan** that addresses both cognition and cardiovascular health. For a deeper look at the diagnostic workup, see [Alzheimer's Tests: How Doctors Diagnose It in 2024](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/suspect-alzheimers-tips-and-tests-for-detection/). The same tests apply to vascular evaluation. ## How does vascular dementia differ from Alzheimer's? Both conditions cause cognitive decline, but their fingerprints are different. FeatureVascular DementiaAlzheimer's Disease Underlying causeReduced blood flow, strokesAmyloid plaques and tau tangles OnsetSudden or stepwiseGradual, slowly progressive First symptomsSlowed thinking, poor planningShort-term memory loss Physical signsGait problems, weakness, incontinence earlyPhysical changes appear later Typical courseStable periods punctuated by dropsSteady downward slope Average survival after diagnosis5 to 10 years4 to 8 years About half of people with dementia have mixed pathology, meaning both vascular damage and Alzheimer's changes coexist ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-and-dementia/what-dementia-symptoms-types-and-diagnosis), 2024). Heavy alcohol use compounds risk for both; see [Does Alcohol Cause Dementia? What Families Should Know](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/). ## What treatments and lifestyle changes help? There is no cure, but aggressive management of vascular risk factors can slow progression and prevent further strokes. The Lancet Commission identified 14 modifiable risk factors that account for nearly half of dementia cases worldwide, with hypertension and physical inactivity among the most important ([Lancet Commission on Dementia](https://doi.org/10.1016/S0140-6736(24)01296-0), 2024). As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, frames it: treating an older brain well means treating the whole body well, because the brain depends on every other organ system to function. For vascular dementia, that means controlling blood pressure, blood sugar, and cholesterol with the same urgency you would after a heart attack. Core interventions include: - **Blood pressure control** (target often below 130/80 per cardiology guidelines) - **Antiplatelet or anticoagulant medication** when prescribed to prevent further strokes - **Statins** for cholesterol and diabetes management - **Regular aerobic exercise**, ideally 150 minutes per week - **Mediterranean or MIND diet** patterns - **Cognitive engagement** and social connection - **Treatment of sleep apnea**, which independently worsens cognition Imagine a family whose 82-year-old mother was diagnosed after a small stroke. With her cardiologist tightening her blood pressure goal, a walking routine, and weekly art classes at her senior community, her decline slowed enough that she remained largely independent for four more years. That trajectory is realistic when vascular risk is controlled early. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is vascular dementia hereditary? Vascular dementia itself is not directly inherited, but the conditions that cause it, like high blood pressure, diabetes, and stroke risk, often run in families. Knowing your family history helps you and your doctor act earlier on prevention. ### Can vascular dementia be reversed? Brain damage that has already occurred cannot be reversed, but progression can often be slowed by controlling blood pressure, treating diabetes, quitting smoking, and preventing additional strokes. Some cognitive function may improve in the weeks after a stroke as the brain heals. ### How long do people live with vascular dementia? Average survival is 5 to 10 years after diagnosis, though this varies widely based on age, overall cardiovascular health, and whether additional strokes occur ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-dementia/types-of-dementia/vascular-dementia), 2024). Tight risk-factor control can meaningfully extend both lifespan and quality of life. ### What is the difference between vascular dementia and a stroke? A stroke is an acute event where blood flow to part of the brain is suddenly blocked or bleeds. Vascular dementia is the chronic cognitive decline that can follow one or more strokes, or that develops from long-term small vessel disease. ### Does memory care help people with vascular dementia? Yes. Memory care communities provide structured routines, medication management, fall-prevention environments, and staff trained to support both cognitive and physical changes, all of which are especially relevant in vascular dementia. ### Can exercise really slow vascular dementia? Regular aerobic activity improves blood flow, lowers blood pressure, and supports brain health. The CDC and National Institute on Aging both list physical activity among the strongest modifiable factors for cognitive aging. If your family is navigating a vascular or mixed dementia diagnosis, you don't have to figure it out alone. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through next steps and care options. --- ## Understanding Dementia: A Family Guide to Types & Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-dementia-a-guide-for-families-and-loved-ones/ Focus keyword: understanding dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, sleep, brain-health, for-caregivers, for-spouses, communication Summary: Learn what dementia is, how it's diagnosed, and the most common types - from Alzheimer's to Lewy body - with expert guidance for families. Dementia is an umbrella term for a group of symptoms - memory loss, confusion, language trouble, and changes in judgment or behavior - caused by damage to brain cells. It is not a normal part of aging, and it is not one single disease. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's, the most common form ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). This guide explains what dementia is, how doctors diagnose it, and the differences between the most common types so your family can plan with clarity. ## What exactly is dementia, and how is it different from normal aging? Forgetting where you parked is normal. Forgetting that you drove is not. Dementia describes a decline in thinking skills severe enough to interfere with daily life, and it stems from physical changes in the brain ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-and-dementia/what-dementia-symptoms-types-and-diagnosis), 2024). **Dementia** An umbrella term for symptoms - memory loss, impaired reasoning, language difficulty - caused by disease or injury to the brain. **Alzheimer's disease** The most common cause of dementia, marked by amyloid plaques and tau tangles in the brain. **Mild cognitive impairment (MCI)** Cognitive changes that are noticeable but don't yet disrupt daily independence; some, but not all, cases progress to dementia. If you're still in the noticing-changes stage, our overview of the [Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/) walks through what to watch for before a diagnosis. ## Why does understanding dementia matter for the whole family? As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: when caregivers don't learn the skills to cope, they create their own distress cycle - poor sleep, chronic stress, and burnout that can raise their own health risks. Snow's three reasons families need dementia education: - People are living longer, and age is the single biggest risk factor for dementia. - Untreated [caregiver stress](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) raises the caregiver's own risk of chronic illness, including dementia. - Learning what works shifts the experience from frustration to confidence. Roughly 1 in 3 caregivers of people with dementia report their own health has gotten worse since taking on the role ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). Education is not optional - it's protective. ## How do doctors actually diagnose dementia? There is no single dementia test. Diagnosis is a process that pieces together history, exams, lab work, and imaging ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/dementia/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20352019), 2024). For a deeper walk-through, see our guide on [Alzheimer's Tests: How Doctors Diagnose It in 2024](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/suspect-alzheimers-tips-and-tests-for-detection/). - **Medical and family history** - including a frank conversation with someone who knows the person well. - **Cognitive screening** - short tests like the MoCA or Mini-Cog that assess memory, language, and reasoning. - **Bloodwork** - to rule out thyroid disease, B12 deficiency, or infection that can mimic dementia. - **Brain imaging** - CT or MRI to look for strokes, tumors, or atrophy; PET scans can detect amyloid. - **Specialist referral** - to a neurologist, geriatrician, or memory clinic when the picture is unclear. For example, an 84-year-old who began missing her own grandchildren's names was found, after bloodwork, to have severe B12 deficiency - reversible with injections. That's why ruling out treatable causes matters before assuming the worst. ## What are the most common types of dementia? Each type damages the brain differently, which is why care plans aren't interchangeable. TypeShare of casesHallmark symptomsTypical onset Alzheimer's disease60-80%Memory loss, word-finding trouble, disorientationAge 65+ [Vascular dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/vascular-dementia/)~10%Slowed thinking, planning trouble, stepwise declineAfter stroke or small-vessel disease Lewy body dementia5-10%Visual hallucinations, fluctuating alertness, Parkinson-like movementAge 50+ Frontotemporal dementia~10% of under-65 casesPersonality and behavior change, language lossAge 45-64 Mixed dementiaVery common in 80+Overlap of Alzheimer's and vascular changesAge 75+ Source: ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-dementia/types-of-dementia), 2024). Vascular changes often coexist with Alzheimer's pathology, which is why [understanding vascular dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-vascular-dementia-understanding-the-second-most-common-type-of-dementia/) matters even after an Alzheimer's diagnosis. ## What about rarer forms - and dementia in people under 65? **Alcohol-related dementia** and Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome stem from heavy long-term drinking and thiamine deficiency. About 75% of people with alcohol-related dementia experience some degree of recovery when alcohol use stops and nutrition is restored ([Alzheimer's Society](https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/types-dementia/alcohol-related-brain-damage-arbd), 2024). Our article on [whether alcohol causes dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/) goes deeper. **Parkinson's disease dementia** develops in some people years after motor symptoms appear. **Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease** is rare and progresses in months rather than years ([NINDS](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/disorders/creutzfeldt-jakob-disease), 2024). **Huntington's disease** is inherited and typically appears between ages 30 and 50. **Early-onset dementia** affects people under 65 and is often misread as depression or burnout. Consider a 58-year-old executive whose colleagues notice he can no longer follow meetings he used to lead - that's a scenario that warrants a neurology referral, not a vacation. ## What should families do after a diagnosis? As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, frames it: the goal isn't to fight aging but to age well, with care that fits who the person has always been. Practical first steps: - **Stabilize the legal basics** - durable [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) and a healthcare proxy while the person can still sign (AARP, 2024). - **Build the care circle** - primary doctor, neurologist, social worker, and at least two family decision-makers. - **Plan for safety** - driving evaluation, stove shut-offs, medication management. - **Learn the communication shifts** - shorter sentences, fewer choices, validation over correction. If you're weighing what level of support fits today, our team can help you compare options - from light support at home to specialized memory care in [Life's Neighborhood®](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). [Contact Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) or [find a community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to talk through next steps. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is dementia the same as Alzheimer's disease? No. Dementia is the umbrella term for symptoms; Alzheimer's is the most common disease that causes those symptoms, accounting for 60-80% of cases ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). A person can have dementia from vascular, Lewy body, or frontotemporal causes instead of, or alongside, Alzheimer's. ### How long does someone live after a dementia diagnosis? It varies by type and age at diagnosis. Average life expectancy after an Alzheimer's diagnosis is roughly 8 to 10 years, though some live 20 years and others much less ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-and-dementia/what-alzheimers-disease), 2024). Frontotemporal and Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease typically progress faster. ### Can dementia be reversed? Most dementias cannot be reversed, but conditions that mimic dementia - B12 deficiency, thyroid disease, depression, medication side effects, normal pressure hydrocephalus - sometimes can ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/dementia/symptoms-causes/syc-20352013), 2024). That's why a thorough workup matters before accepting a diagnosis. ### What is the difference between memory care and assisted living? Assisted living supports daily activities like bathing and medication; memory care adds secured environments, dementia-trained staff, and structured programming designed for cognitive impairment. Many families start with assisted living and move to memory care as needs change. ### When is it time to consider memory care? Common triggers include wandering, leaving the stove on, falls, weight loss, social withdrawal, or caregiver exhaustion. If safety at home requires near-constant supervision, a memory care community is usually the more sustainable option for both the person and the family. ### Does insurance pay for dementia care? Medicare covers diagnosis, doctor visits, and short-term skilled care but does not pay for long-term custodial care in assisted living or memory care ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), 2024). Long-term care insurance, veterans benefits, and Medicaid (in some states) may help. --- ## Understanding Alzheimer's: Signs, Stages, and Care Options URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-alzheimers-signs-progression-and-comfort-through-care/ Focus keyword: Alzheimer's Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, depression-anxiety, brain-health, communication, emotional-wellness, social-connection Summary: Learn what Alzheimer's is, how it differs from dementia, early and late symptoms, current treatments, and how to find compassionate memory care. Alzheimer's disease is a progressive brain disorder that gradually destroys memory, thinking, and the ability to carry out daily tasks. It is the most common cause of dementia, accounting for 60-80% of cases ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). If a doctor has just spoken those words to your family, understanding what comes next, medically and practically, is the first step toward making confident decisions. ## What is Alzheimer's disease, and how is it different from dementia? Dementia is the umbrella term for cognitive symptoms like memory loss and impaired reasoning. Alzheimer's is the specific brain disease behind most of those cases, marked by amyloid plaques and tau tangles that damage neurons over time ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-causes-and-risk-factors/what-happens-brain-alzheimers-disease), 2024). **Dementia**A general term for a decline in memory and thinking severe enough to interfere with daily life. **Alzheimer's disease**The specific neurodegenerative illness that causes most dementia, driven by abnormal protein buildup in the brain. **Mild cognitive impairment (MCI)**A noticeable change in memory or thinking that does not yet disrupt independence, sometimes an early precursor to Alzheimer's. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's today ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). For a broader overview of what families notice first, see our guide to the [10 Early Signs of Dementia Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/do-you-know-10-signs-of-dementia/). ## What are the early symptoms families notice first? Early Alzheimer's rarely announces itself. It often hides behind ordinary forgetfulness, stress, or aging. Consider a 72-year-old grandmother who has hosted Thanksgiving for 40 years suddenly asking her daughter, three times in one afternoon, what time guests are arriving. That repetition, not the missed appointment, is the signal. - Memory loss that disrupts daily life (repeating questions, missing payments) - Trouble planning or following a familiar recipe - Confusion with time, place, or recent events - Difficulty finding the right word in conversation - Misplacing items in odd locations (keys in the freezer) - Poor judgment with money or hygiene - Withdrawal from work, hobbies, or friends - Mood or personality changes, including new anxiety or suspicion As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: the person isn't giving you a hard time, they're having a hard time. Recognizing that shift changes how you respond. ## How does Alzheimer's progress through stages? Alzheimer's typically unfolds over four to eight years after diagnosis, though some people live 20 years with the disease ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-and-dementia/alzheimers-disease-fact-sheet), 2023). The pace varies, but the trajectory is predictable enough that families can plan. StageWhat you may seeCare needs Early (mild)Word-finding lapses, missed bills, mild disorientationReminders, safety check-ins, legal and financial planning Middle (moderate)Significant memory loss, wandering, help with dressing and bathingDaily structured support, secure environment Late (severe)Limited speech, full assistance with eating and mobility24/7 skilled memory care, comfort-focused support For example, a husband in the middle stage may try to drive to a job he retired from a decade ago. Practical responses, like securing car keys and reviewing home safety, matter more than correcting the memory. Our guide on [dementia wandering and preventative tips to secure your home](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/wandering-woes-preventative-tips-to-securing-your-home/) walks through the specifics. ## What about early-onset Alzheimer's before age 65? Roughly 200,000 Americans live with younger-onset Alzheimer's, sometimes appearing in the 40s or 50s ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers/younger-early-onset), 2024). Because symptoms are easily mistaken for stress, depression, or menopause, diagnosis often takes years. If a working-age parent is missing deadlines, getting lost on familiar commutes, or struggling to follow a meeting, ask a primary care doctor for a referral to a behavioral neurologist. ## What treatments and lifestyle steps actually help? There is no cure yet, but several FDA-approved therapies can slow decline or ease symptoms (U.S. Food and Drug Administration, 2023). - **Talk to a memory specialist early.** A geriatrician or neurologist can confirm the diagnosis and rule out reversible causes like thyroid issues or B12 deficiency. - **Discuss medications.** Cholinesterase inhibitors (donepezil, rivastigmine, galantamine) help in mild to moderate stages. Memantine is used in moderate to severe stages. Lecanemab and donanemab target amyloid plaques in early Alzheimer's. - **Build daily habits that protect the brain.** Regular walking, Mediterranean-style eating, social engagement, and quality sleep are linked with slower decline (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). - **Plan legally and financially.** [Power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), healthcare directives, and a long-term care budget are easier to set up while your loved one can still participate. - **Address nutrition and self-care.** Our tips on [encouraging healthy eating in dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-eating-in-those-with-dementia/) and [supporting independent dressing](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/) help preserve dignity during daily routines. Geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, makes the case that good Alzheimer's care is as much about meaningful daily life, music, movement, friendship, as it is about prescriptions. ## When is it time to consider memory care? Families often wait until a crisis, a fall, a wandering incident, a [caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) episode, to consider professional support. The median [cost of memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-memory-care/) in the U.S. runs between $5,000 and $8,000 per month depending on region ([SeniorLiving.org](https://www.seniorliving.org/memory-care/costs/), 2024). Consider a daughter who has been driving 45 minutes each way to check on her father twice a day. When his medications start being missed and he leaves the stove on overnight, a secured memory care community often becomes safer and less stressful for everyone. Áegis Living communities offer Life's Neighborhood® memory care designed around engagement, safety, and dignity at every stage. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through what care might look like for your family. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is Alzheimer's hereditary? Most cases are not directly inherited. A specific gene, APOE-e4, raises risk but does not guarantee the disease, and rare familial forms account for under 1% of cases ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-causes-and-risk-factors/alzheimers-disease-genetics-fact-sheet), 2023). Family history is one factor among lifestyle, age, and cardiovascular health. ### How is Alzheimer's diagnosed? Doctors use cognitive testing, a medical history, blood work, and brain imaging (MRI or PET) to rule out other causes and identify Alzheimer's patterns. Newer blood biomarker tests can also detect amyloid changes years before symptoms appear. ### Can lifestyle changes prevent Alzheimer's? No proven prevention exists, but managing blood pressure, staying physically and socially active, treating hearing loss, and avoiding smoking are linked to lower dementia risk (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). ### What's the difference between assisted living and memory care? Assisted living supports adults who need help with daily tasks but are largely independent. Memory care is a secured, specialized environment with staff trained in dementia care, structured routines, and programming designed to reduce confusion and agitation. ### How do I talk to a parent who refuses a diagnosis? Lead with concern, not confrontation. Frame the doctor visit as a routine check-up or as something the whole family is doing, and bring a written list of specific changes you've noticed. Working with the primary care doctor first often reduces resistance. ### Does Medicare cover Alzheimer's care? Medicare covers diagnostic evaluations, doctor visits, and some home health and hospice services, but it generally does not pay for long-term residential memory care ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), 2024). Medicaid, long-term care insurance, and private pay typically fund those costs. --- ## Protecting Your Brain: Lifestyle Changes That May Prevent Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/protecting-your-brain-lifestyle-changes-that-may-prevent-dementia/ Focus keyword: Dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, exercise-fitness, brain-health, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Explore lifestyle changes that may lower dementia risk, including exercise, brain-friendly foods, quality sleep, hearing care, and staying socially active. Can we really take steps today that reduce our risk of developing Alzheimer’s tomorrow? For many people, the idea that lifestyle choices can impact cognitive decline feels both hopeful and overwhelming. The hopeful part: emerging research shows we have more influence than we once thought. The overwhelming part: with so much advice out there, where do you start? In just the past few decades, our understanding of Alzheimer’s disease has evolved dramatically. Once considered purely a disease of aging, we now know that a complex interplay of genetics, lifestyle, and environmental factors shapes our brain health. While there’s no guaranteed way to prevent Alzheimer’s, there is growing consensus around the behaviors that protect - and even strengthen - our cognitive function over time. ## 10 Lifestyle Changes That May Reduce Dementia Risk **1. Protect Your Head** Certain types of head injuries can increase your risk of developing Alzheimer’s or other dementias as you age. Traumatic brain injuries (TBIs) are a well-established risk factor for Alzheimer’s disease. Even a single moderate or severe injury can increase vulnerability later in life. Preventing these injuries is critical at any age, but especially for older adults. Small changes in your environment and routine can make a big difference. - Always wear a helmet when biking, skating, or playing contact sports. - Buckle your seatbelt every time you get in a car. - Use grab bars, non-slip mats, and proper lighting to reduce falls at home. - Eliminate slipping risks, such as loose rugs or tripping hazards, at home. **2. Quit Smoking** If lung cancer, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) and asthma can’t convince you to quit smoking, maybe this will. Studies show that people who smoke are at a much higher risk of developing dementia, and specifically, Alzheimer’s disease. Smoking causes inflammation and oxidative stress that can damage brain cells. It also restricts blood flow, compounding the risk of cognitive decline. The sooner you quit, the greater the benefit. It’s never too late to stop. Former smokers can, over time, lower their risk to near that of nonsmokers. **3. Exercise Regularly** Prioritize your physical health! Regular exercise that elevates your heart rate and increases blood flow to the brain reduces the risk of cognitive decline. Physical activity supports heart health, boosts circulation, and encourages the release of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), a protein that supports neuron survival and growth. Exercise is also one of the best ways to prevent or manage chronic diseases that contribute to dementia risk. You don’t have to join a gym to get the benefits. Consistency and movement are what matter. - Aim for at least [150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity per week](https://www.cdc.gov/physical-activity-basics/adding-older-adults/what-counts.html) (roughly 20-25 minutes/day). - Include strength training twice a week to support balance and muscle mass. - Try walking, dancing, yoga, swimming, cycling, or tai chi. **4. Prioritize Quality Sleep** A proper night’s sleep is imperative to protecting your brain’s overall health. It plays a critical role in memory consolidation, emotional regulation, and the removal of neurotoxic waste. During sleep, the brain clears away waste proteins, including beta-amyloid, which is associated with Alzheimer’s disease. Chronic sleep deprivation can disrupt this process and contribute to long-term damage. Interestingly, both too little and too much sleep have been linked with higher dementia risk, making the right amount of rest essential. If you’re struggling with restlessness, insomnia, or sleep apnea, professional support can help. - Aim for 7 - 9 hours of sleep each night (7 - 8 for adults 65 and over). - Create a dark, quiet, cool sleep environment. - Drown out noise with a white noise machine or sleep-friendly music. *“There’s no guaranteed way to prevent Alzheimer’s - but the steps you take today can shape a healthier brain tomorrow.”* **5. Eat Brain-Friendly Foods** The foods you eat have a direct impact on brain health. Researchers from Rush University Medical Center developed the [MIND diet](https://www.rush.edu/news/healthier-diet-can-slow-brain-aging) by combining elements of the Mediterranean and DASH (Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension) diets. This hybrid eating plan was shown to reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s by up to 53% when followed closely, and by 35% even when followed moderately. The MIND diet emphasizes foods that reduce oxidative stress and inflammation while supporting brain cell function. Prioritizing these foods can nourish your brain and protect cognitive function as you age. - Leafy green vegetables (e.g., spinach, kale) at least six times a week - Other vegetables daily - Berries (especially blueberries and strawberries) at least twice a week - Nuts nearly every day - Olive oil as the primary cooking fat - Whole grains three times a day - Fish once a week - Poultry at least twice a week - Beans every other day Limit intake of red meat, butter and margarine, cheese, pastries, sweets, and fried or fast food to no more than once per week when possible. **6. Stay Socially Engaged** Social engagement has positive effects on both mental health and dementia. Interacting with others can help someone feel a sense of belonging, increasing their self-worth. Social interaction also stimulates cognitive processing and helps build emotional resilience. Isolation, especially in older adults, has been shown to significantly increase dementia risk. Whether it’s a casual phone call or a group activity, consistent social engagement matters. It provides connection, purpose, and joy - all of which nourish the mind. So, join a club, volunteer somewhere, or schedule regular visits or calls with friends and family. **7. Manage Chronic Conditions** Diseases like high blood pressure, diabetes, and high cholesterol don’t just affect your heart, they also damage blood vessels in the brain. Over time, this vascular damage can impair cognitive function and increase the risk of Alzheimer’s. The sooner you manage these conditions, the better your brain will age. Be sure to: - Monitor your blood pressure, glucose, and lipid levels regularly. - Take prescribed medications as directed and attend routine checkups. - Maintain a healthy weight with a balanced diet and physical activity. **8. Challenge Your Brain** Challenging your brain with stimulating activities can have short- and long-term benefits for your brain health. Mental stimulation helps your brain form new connections, which can delay the onset of dementia symptoms. It doesn’t matter if you’re solving puzzles or learning guitar, what matters is that you’re stretching your thinking. These activities build cognitive reserve, a key factor in long-term brain health. - Try puzzles, reading, or games that require critical thinking. - Learn a new language, skill, or musical instrument. - Use brain-training apps or take a class online or in person. **9. Address Hearing Loss** Untreated hearing loss may lead to social withdrawal and reduced mental stimulation, both of which are risk factors for dementia. Midlife hearing loss in particular has been cited as one of the most significant modifiable risk factors. [Early detection and treatment](https://www.nia.nih.gov/news/hearing-aids-slow-cognitive-decline-people-high-risk) can help preserve not only communication but also cognitive function. - Schedule regular hearing screenings after age 50. - Wear hearing aids if recommended to stay engaged and aware. - Reduce background noise when having conversations. **10. Manage Stress and Mental Health** Prolonged stress floods the body with cortisol, a hormone that in high levels can shrink key brain areas like the hippocampus. Depression, too, is linked with memory issues and increased Alzheimer’s risk. Learning to cope with life’s challenges in healthy ways pays dividends far beyond mental well-being. - Practice mindfulness meditation, deep breathing, or journaling. - Seek professional help for anxiety or depression. - Build routines that support relaxation and social connection. **Taking the Next Step Toward Brain Health** At Áegis Living, we believe that informed choices today can lead to healthier tomorrows. Whether you’re caring for a loved one or looking ahead to your own future, making lifestyle changes to support brain health is one of the most empowering steps you can take. From nutrition and sleep to social engagement and lifelong learning, there are so many ways to nourish the mind and body. If you’d like to learn more about how Áegis Living supports cognitive wellness and memory care, we invite you to explore our Life’s Neighborhood® Memory Care Program or visit our [Resource Center](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/) for more tips, research, and compassionate support. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone - we’re here to help every step of the way. --- ## Meaningful Care Without Medication: Holistic Approaches to Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meaningful-care-without-medication-holistic-approaches-to-dementia/ Focus keyword: Dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, medication-management, communication, social-connection, hobbies-activities, for-caregivers Summary: Explore non-drug approaches to dementia care, from music and cognitive stimulation to movement and sensory activities that support comfort and connection. When someone you love is living with dementia, it’s natural to want to ease their symptoms and help them feel more like themselves. While there’s no single solution, many people are surprised to learn just how powerful non-medication approaches can be. Meaningful connection, tailored activities, and supportive routines often bring comfort, reduce distress, and create moments of joy - sometimes even more effectively than medication. Let’s explore the wide range of non-pharmacological strategies that support emotional well-being, cognitive function, and daily living. These approaches can be especially valuable in early and moderate [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/) and often play a central role even as the condition progresses. (*In our next blog, we’ll look at medical and pharmacological options - and how they can complement these holistic methods when needed.*) ## Non-Drug Approaches to Dementia Care Here are some of the most effective and widely used non-drug therapies available today: [Cognitive Stimulation Therapy (CST)](https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/stages-and-symptoms/dementia-symptoms/approaches-therapy-memory-loss) CST is one of the most researched and recommended non-drug therapies for individuals with mild to moderate dementia. It typically involves **small group sessions led by trained professionals**, focusing on engaging activities that stimulate memory, language, and problem-solving skills - such as word games, orientation discussions, and puzzles. Studies show that regular CST can lead to **improvements in cognition and quality of life** comparable to some medications. Importantly, it also fosters **social interaction**, which can reduce feelings of isolation and boost mood. Tailored CST programs can be adapted to an individual’s abilities, ensuring activities remain both challenging and enjoyable. **Reminiscence Therapy** Reminiscence Therapy centers around revisiting personal memories and life stories. Using **photos, music, scents, or objects**, caregivers or therapists prompt discussions about key life events - such as weddings, childhood homes, or favorite holidays. This type of therapy has been shown to **enhance mood, boost self-esteem, and strengthen the bond between caregivers and individuals with dementia**. Because long-term memory often remains intact longer than short-term memory, recalling the past can feel empowering and calming. Reminiscence sessions can be one-on-one or part of a group activity and are a wonderful way to celebrate the individual’s personal history. **Music and Art Therapy** Creative therapies like [music and art offer an expressive outlet](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/art-music) for those with dementia, especially when verbal communication becomes difficult. Music can spark recognition, lift mood, and even promote movement - people who struggle to speak may still be able to sing lyrics or dance to a familiar tune. Art therapy encourages expression through painting, drawing, or sculpting. These activities not only **stimulate the brain**, but also offer an outlet for expression, reduce anxiety, and foster a sense of accomplishment - especially for individuals who may no longer feel confident communicating with words. Research supports that engagement in these therapies can lead to **better sleep, reduced use of antipsychotic medications, and more meaningful interactions** with others. *“Sometimes, the most powerful medicine is human connection, creativity, and compassionate routine.”* **Physical Exercise** Physical movement is vital for brain and body health. Aerobic activity, resistance training, balance exercises, or even light stretching can help improve blood flow to the brain, reduce inflammation, and elevate mood through the release of endorphins. Exercise has also been shown to **slow cognitive decline and support mobility**, which in turn promotes independence. Structured programs, such as tai chi, walking clubs, or chair yoga, provide gentle yet effective ways to maintain strength, coordination, and confidence. When done in group settings, they also offer social benefits and a sense of routine. **Sensory Therapies** Sensory therapies address overstimulation, restlessness, or emotional distress by providing calming sensory input. Techniques may include **aromatherapy (using essential oils like lavender), massage therapy, soft lighting, textured fabrics, or even nature sounds**. For individuals in later [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/), sensory therapies can provide **comfort when verbal communication is limited**. Tactile stimulation - such as hand massages or fidget blankets - can offer a sense of calm and security and reduce anxiety. These therapies can be customized to personal preferences and are especially meaningful in later [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/), when nonverbal connection becomes essential. Gentle sensory cues - like touch, scent, or sound - can offer reassurance and help the person feel safe, seen, and soothed. **Technology-Assisted Therapies** Technology is playing an increasingly important role in dementia care. Tools like **GPS tracking devices** offer safety and peace of mind for caregivers, especially for those at risk of wandering. **Interactive apps and games** designed for cognitive training can support mental engagement and are often enjoyable for individuals in the early to mid-stages of dementia. In more advanced care, **virtual reality (VR)** is being explored for relaxation, reminiscence, and even pain management. Video calls and photo-sharing apps can help maintain emotional connections with family and friends - especially important when in-person visits are limited. As the field grows, technology is proving to be a **valuable tool for safety, enrichment, and connection**. **Gamma-Wave Therapy: A Look Ahead** An exciting frontier in dementia research is **gamma-wave therapy**, particularly at 40 Hz, a frequency linked to improved brain activity in preclinical studies. Known as **Gamma Entrainment Using Sensory stimulation (GENUS)**, this therapy uses **pulsed light and sound** to stimulate synchronized brainwaves that may help clear amyloid plaques and strengthen neural connections. MIT research has shown promising results in mice, and [early human trials](https://news.mit.edu/2022/small-studies-40hz-sensory-stimulation-confirm-safety-suggest-alzheimers-benefits-1213)** suggest that daily use of 40 Hz light and sound may improve memory, attention, and brain connectivity**. Devices like **Cognito Therapeutics’ Spectris system** are being tested in clinical trials and may soon offer a non-drug alternative for early-stage Alzheimer’s patients. While not yet widely available to the public, **gamma-wave therapy is an emerging field to watch.** For now, it may be accessible only through participation in clinical trials. ### Integrating Non-Drug Therapies - And When Medications May Help While non-pharmacological strategies often form the foundation of meaningful dementia care, there are times when medications may be introduced to complement these approaches. Finding the right combination - tailored to the person’s abilities, preferences, and needs - can offer the best support for comfort, engagement, and daily function. (*We’ll explore those medication-based options in our next blog.*) Just like medications, non-drug therapies work best when they’re personalized and consistent. A music-loving former teacher might thrive with sing-alongs and poetry readings. A retired gardener might light up during nature walks or flower arranging. The goal is always the same: to preserve dignity, foster joy, and keep the person connected to who they are. These strategies aren’t just “nice extras” - they’re often essential in helping a person feel safe, successful, and emotionally connected in their world. **A Final Word of Encouragement** At Áegis Living, our [Life’s Neighborhood® memory care program](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) is designed with these therapies in mind. Our team members use customized approaches that support residents’ identities, calm anxieties, and create moments of genuine joy. Living with dementia is hard - but meaningful, fulfilling days are still possible. Whether your loved one is in the early stages or needs more advanced care, non-pharmacological therapies offer a way to bring them peace, comfort, and connection. You don’t have to do this alone. If you’re exploring care options, our team is here to support you - with insight, compassion, and the tools to help your loved one thrive. --- ## Is It Just a Senior Moment - or Something More Like Dementia? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/is-it-just-a-senior-moment-or-something-more/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, depression-anxiety, nutrition, emotional-wellness, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: Learn how normal age-related forgetfulness differs from dementia, which warning signs to watch for, and when to talk with a doctor about memory changes. It’s natural to forget things from time to time - where you placed your glasses, why you walked into a room, or the name of someone you just met. Most of us laugh it off as a “senior moment.” But what if these lapses start happening more often? What if they’re accompanied by other changes in thinking or behavior? Knowing the difference between [normal age-related forgetfulness](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/memory-loss-and-forgetfulness) and the [early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/) can feel overwhelming. But understanding the distinction is key - and so is trusting your instincts. If you’re concerned about yourself or someone you love, it’s always better to err on the side of caution and speak with a healthcare professional. Early awareness can lead to earlier support, clearer planning, and better outcomes. **What’s Considered Normal as We Age?** As we grow older, changes in the brain - like reduced blood flow, decreased neurotransmitter activity, and minor shrinkage of brain tissue - can naturally affect memory and processing speed. Most of these changes are normal and don’t interfere with everyday life. A few examples of what’s typically considered *normal aging* include: - Occasionally forgetting names or appointments - but remembering them later - Needing help to remember how to use a setting on the microwave or TV - Slower recall when trying to find a word (the “tip-of-the-tongue” experience) - Misplacing items now and then but retracing steps to find them - Taking longer to learn new information These moments can be frustrating, but they are not usually cause for alarm. ## When to Be Concerned: Red Flags That May Signal Dementia Dementia involves more than occasional forgetfulness - it’s a progressive condition that interferes with daily living. Unlike normal aging, dementia is marked by [persistent challenges in memory, language, reasoning, behavior, and emotional regulation](https://www.cdc.gov/alzheimers-dementia/signs-symptoms/index.html). Here are examples of **when to take notice**: - **Consistently forgetting recently learned information** or asking the same questions repeatedly - **Getting lost** in familiar places or confused about time, dates, or seasons - **Difficulty completing everyday tasks**, such as paying bills or cooking a simple meal - **Trouble with language**, such as forgetting common words, mixing up terms, or following conversations - **Poor judgment**, like giving away large sums of money or dressing inappropriately for the weather - **Withdrawing from hobbies or social activities** - **Personality or mood changes**, such as becoming unusually anxious, irritable, or suspicious These signs may develop gradually or suddenly, and they often go unnoticed until they begin to affect daily life. **How to Tell the Difference** Recognizing early behavioral changes can be challenging. A team of international experts, collaborating under the auspices of the International Society to Advance Alzheimer’s Research and Treatment (ISTAART), developed the [Mild Behavioral Impairment Checklist (MBI-C)](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5652315/) to aid in early detection of dementia. It’s a standardized tool that captures subtle behavioral symptoms that may signal the onset of neurodegenerative diseases. The MBI-C is a [34-item questionnaire](https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2016/07/25/health/26brain-doc.html) designed to be completed by patients, caregivers, or clinicians. It assesses five domains of behavioral change: decreased motivation, emotional dysregulation, impulse control, social appropriateness, and perception or thought content. Each item is rated based on the presence and severity of symptoms persisting for at least six months, distinguishing them from transient or situational behaviors. *“Not all forgetfulness is dementia - but when it starts affecting daily life, it’s time to talk to a doctor.”* **When Memory Loss Might Be More Than Aging** Memory loss is not always a sign of dementia. Stress, depression, medications, thyroid issues, vitamin deficiencies, and sleep disorders can all contribute to forgetfulness. The good news? Many of these causes are reversible with the right treatment. However, memory loss that disrupts daily life - especially when accompanied by other symptoms - should never be ignored. If a person is repeating themselves often, struggling with basic tasks, or showing changes in mood or behavior, it’s time to talk with a doctor. A thorough exam may include cognitive tests, bloodwork, brain imaging, and a review of medications and medical history. Teepa Snow is one of the world’s leading dementia educators, bringing 40 years of clinical geriatric care in her trademarked “Positive Approach to Care” training. She recently shared this with our Áegis Living communities: *“The kinds of things you might notice is that Mom is having a hard time holding on to new data and she’s always been a data person, but now, she’s saying, ‘So, what time is that appointment?’ and you’re like, ‘We’ve talked about this, what time did I tell you?’ ‘I don’t know. Did you say? Oh, it’s on the calendar? Well, who put it on the calendar?’ That’s a very different response than with normal aging, when Mom would likely say, “Oh, that’s right, I wrote it on the calendar. Jeez. I need to pay attention to my calendar.’*” **When in Doubt, Get It Checked Out** It’s always better to seek help and find out it’s nothing serious than to wait and risk missing a critical window for intervention. Early diagnosis allows families to: - Understand what’s happening and why - Access treatment options that may slow progression - Plan for future care, legal, and financial needs - Reduce stress and uncertainty for both the individual and their loved ones If you’re not sure how to start the conversation with a loved one, consider expressing concern with care, such as: “I’ve noticed you’ve been having a hard time remembering things lately. I’m a little worried, and I thought we could bring it up with your doctor - just to be safe.” **A Note on Emotional Well-Being** Memory changes - whether due to aging or something more - can be frightening. Many people fear losing their independence, being a burden, or facing stigma. That’s why it’s so important to approach the topic with compassion, patience, and respect. If you or your loved one is struggling with anxiety, confusion, or isolation because of memory concerns, there are support groups, counselors, and memory care communities that can help lighten the emotional load. **Support That Starts with Understanding** At Áegis Living, we know how difficult it can be to face the unknown. Whether your loved one is simply aging normally or beginning to show signs of dementia, you don’t have to walk this road alone. For individuals experiencing early memory changes, our [transitional care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/transitional-memory-support/) offers personalized support in a vibrant, assisted living setting. For those with a confirmed diagnosis of moderate to advanced dementia, our [Life’s Neighborhood® memory care program](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) provides structured, compassionate care in a secure, calming environment tailored to individual needs. Most of all, we’re here to listen, to guide, and to walk alongside you with warmth and reassurance - because that’s what families deserve. --- ## The 7 Stages of Dementia: What to Expect at Each Step URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/from-early-signs-to-advanced-care-the-seven-stages-of-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, brain-health, social-connection, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: Understand the 7 stages of dementia, typical timelines, and how to support your loved one from early forgetfulness through advanced care. Dementia typically progresses through seven stages, from no noticeable symptoms (Stage 1) to very severe cognitive decline (Stage 7), as described by the Global Deterioration Scale developed by Dr. Barry Reisberg. Most families first notice changes around Stage 3, and a clinical diagnosis often arrives at Stage 4. Knowing where your loved one falls on this scale helps you anticipate needs, plan finances, and choose the right level of care. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's disease, the most common cause of dementia ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). If you're just starting to notice changes, our companion guide on the [10 Early Signs of Dementia Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/do-you-know-10-signs-of-dementia/) walks through the symptoms that show up earliest. ## What is dementia, and why are stages useful? Dementia is an umbrella term for a decline in memory, reasoning, and daily function severe enough to interfere with independent living (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). It isn't a single disease. Alzheimer's accounts for 60-80% of cases, with vascular dementia, Lewy body dementia, and frontotemporal dementia making up most of the rest ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-dementia), 2024). **Global Deterioration Scale (GDS)**A 7-stage framework created by Dr. Barry Reisberg at NYU to describe how cognitive decline typically unfolds, from no impairment to total dependence.**Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI)**Memory or thinking changes greater than normal aging but not yet interfering with independence. Roughly corresponds to GDS Stage 3 ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/memory-loss-and-forgetfulness/what-mild-cognitive-impairment), 2024).**Activities of Daily Living (ADLs)**Basic self-care tasks: bathing, dressing, eating, toileting, and transferring. The need for ADL help usually begins around Stage 5. ## What happens at each of the seven stages? StageNameWhat you'll noticeCare needed1No declineNormal function, no symptomsNone2Very mild declineOccasional word-finding lapses, misplaced itemsNone; monitor3Mild decline (MCI)Trouble concentrating, repeating questions, missed appointmentsReminders, planning support4Moderate (early dementia)Difficulty with finances, complex tasks, mood shiftsDiagnosis, light supervision5Moderately severeForgets address or date, needs help dressingDaily ADL assistance6SevereForgets family names, incontinence, sundowning24/7 memory care7Very severeLoss of speech, mobility, swallowingTotal care, often hospiceFor example, an 82-year-old grandmother who calls asking for the same Thanksgiving recipe three times in one afternoon is likely showing Stage 3 symptoms. By contrast, an 84-year-old grandfather who leaves the stove on twice in a week and forgets his daughter visited yesterday is closer to Stage 5 and needs hands-on supervision. ## How fast does dementia progress? The average life expectancy after an Alzheimer's diagnosis is 4 to 8 years, though some people live as long as 20 years depending on age at diagnosis and overall health ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/stages), 2024). Progression is rarely linear, and the type of dementia matters: - **Alzheimer's disease:** slow, steady decline over 8-10 years on average. - **Vascular dementia:** step-wise drops after strokes or small-vessel damage ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/vascular-dementia/vascular-dementia-causes-symptoms-and-treatments), 2024). - **Frontotemporal dementia:** faster progression, often striking adults in their 50s and 60s. - **Lewy body dementia:** day-to-day fluctuations in alertness and visual hallucinations are common ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/lewy-body-dementia/symptoms-causes/syc-20352025), 2024). As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: the goal isn't to fix what's been lost, but to meet your loved one where they are right now and protect the abilities that remain. ## How should you support your loved one at each stage? - **Stages 1-2:** Focus on prevention. Exercise, Mediterranean-style eating, sleep, and social connection are linked to lower dementia risk (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2022). See our guide on [8 Science-Backed Ways to Reduce Your Alzheimer's Risk](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/8-ways-combat-alzheimers-disease/). - **Stage 3:** Get a baseline neurology workup. Begin legal and financial planning while your parent can still participate, including [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) and advance directives (AARP, 2023). - **Stage 4:** Simplify the home. Set up bill autopay, label cabinets, and consider a medical alert device. - **Stage 5:** Bring in scheduled help with dressing and meals. Our [tips to support independent dressing](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/) can preserve dignity longer. - **Stage 6:** Plan for 24/7 supervision. Evening agitation is common - our piece on [calming sundowning in dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-ways-to-handle-sundowning/) offers practical techniques. - **Stage 7:** Shift the focus to comfort. [Hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/) is appropriate when life expectancy is six months or less ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care), 2024). ## When is it time to consider memory care? Most families consider a move to memory care between Stages 5 and 6, when supervision needs outpace what a spouse or adult child can safely provide at home. Warning signs include wandering, falls, weight loss, [caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/), and unsafe behaviors like leaving the stove on. The national median cost for memory care runs roughly $5,000 to $7,500 per month depending on region ([Genworth Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2023). At Áegis Living, our Life's Neighborhood® memory care program is built around the specific cognitive and emotional needs of each stage, with secure environments, trained caregivers, and purposeful daily engagement. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through where your loved one is today and what comes next. ## Frequently asked questions ### Who created the seven stages of dementia? The seven-stage framework is the Global Deterioration Scale, developed by Dr. Barry Reisberg at NYU Medical Center in 1982. It remains one of the most widely used tools clinicians and families use to describe Alzheimer's progression. ### What stage of dementia requires 24-hour care? Most people need 24-hour supervision by Stage 6, when memory loss, incontinence, and behavioral changes make independent living unsafe. Some families bring in round-the-clock home care; others move to a dedicated memory care community for the consistency and security it provides. ### Can someone skip stages or move backward? People don't move backward, but progression isn't always orderly. Vascular dementia often advances in sudden steps after a stroke, and Lewy body dementia can produce day-to-day swings in alertness, making someone appear to fluctuate between stages. ### How long does Stage 7 typically last? Stage 7 generally lasts one to two and a half years, though duration varies widely based on overall health, infection risk, and goals of care ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/late-stage), 2024). Hospice support is often appropriate during this phase. ### Is mild cognitive impairment the same as dementia? No. MCI involves changes in memory or thinking that are noticeable but don't yet interfere with daily independence. Roughly 10-15% of people with MCI progress to dementia each year, but some remain stable or even improve ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/memory-loss-and-forgetfulness/what-mild-cognitive-impairment), 2024). ### What's the best time to start planning for care? As early as Stage 3. Once your loved one reaches Stage 4 or 5, their ability to sign legal documents, express care preferences, and tour communities is limited. Early planning gives the whole family more options and less crisis decision-making. --- ## Could It Be Dementia? Cognitive, Behavioral, and Early Clues URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/could-it-be-dementia-cognitive-behavioral-and-subtle-early-clues/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, vascular-dementia, brain-health, communication, emotional-wellness, when-its-time Summary: Learn the early signs of dementia, from memory and thinking changes to shifts in mood and behavior, and how early recognition can help families plan care. We all have moments when we lose our train of thought or forget why we walked into a room. But what happens when those moments become more frequent - or when they start to interfere with daily life? Could these small shifts be something more? ## Recognizing the Early Signs of Dementia Recognizing the [early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/) isn’t always easy. They can appear gradually and often resemble normal aging or stress. They can also be easy to miss because many people instinctively try to hide their memory loss - especially from those they love the most. In the early [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/), it’s very common for individuals to cover their memory lapses by pretending to remember details, offering vague responses, or quietly withdrawing from conversations that feel too difficult to follow. This isn’t about denial or dishonesty - it’s an attempt to preserve dignity and navigate a world that’s becoming less predictable. That’s why subtle signs can be so important to notice. Changes in thinking, behavior, or mood often appear long before a diagnosis - but recognizing these signs early can open the door to greater understanding, meaningful connection, and the right kind of support when it’s needed most. **Understanding Dementia** Dementia is a broad term used to describe [a decline in memory, thinking, and reasoning skills](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/what-dementia-symptoms-types-and-diagnosis) that interferes with daily life. It’s not one specific disease - in fact, there are several types, including Alzheimer’s disease, vascular dementia, Lewy body dementia, and frontotemporal dementia. While each form has unique features, many share overlapping symptoms in their early stages. If you’re unfamiliar with the basics of dementia, we invite you to check out our recent blog, *Understanding Dementia: A Guide for Families and Loved Ones*, which covers causes, types, and diagnosis in greater depth. For now, let’s turn our attention to early signs that something may be changing. **Cognitive Signs of Dementia** Cognitive signs are often the earliest and most noticeable changes, affecting how someone thinks, remembers, or communicates. - **Short-Term Memory Loss** Frequently forgetting recent conversations, appointments, or events is a hallmark sign. You may notice someone asking the same question multiple times or needing frequent reminders for daily tasks. - **Difficulty Finding Words** Struggling to come up with the right word or calling common objects by the wrong name. This may show up in conversation as frequent pauses or substitutions (“that thing you write with” instead of “pen”). - [Trouble with Planning or Problem-Solving](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs) Managing bills, following recipes, or organizing a grocery list may suddenly become overwhelming. These tasks require concentration and executive functioning - skills that are often affected early on. - **Confusion with Time or Place** Losing track of the day, forgetting how they got somewhere, or thinking it’s morning when it’s evening can be disorienting for both the person and their loved ones. - **Poor Judgment** Falling for scams, mismanaging money, or making unusual purchases may be signs of cognitive decline - especially if the person has always been cautious or financially responsible. **Behavioral and Emotional Signs of Dementia** While memory loss is often the first thing people associate with dementia, changes in behavior, mood, or personality can be just as significant - and sometimes show up first. - **Mood Swings or Apathy** A once-joyful person may become withdrawn, irritable, or anxious. Losing interest in hobbies or isolating from friends and family can be subtle signs of a deeper cognitive shift. - **New Social Challenges** An individual may begin interrupting others, saying inappropriate things, or misreading social cues. These behaviors can be confusing or even embarrassing, but they’re often symptoms - not character flaws. - **Increased Frustration or Anger** Dementia can impair reasoning and the ability to process multiple stimuli at once. This can make even small challenges - like being asked to choose from a menu - feel overwhelming and lead to agitation. - **Disrupted Sleep Patterns** Waking in the night confused, mixing up day and night, or showing signs of restlessness in the evening (sometimes called “sundowning”) may signal early cognitive changes. **Other Early Signs to Watch** Some symptoms don’t fit neatly into cognitive or behavioral categories but can still offer early clues that something is changing. - **Misplacing Items in Unusual Places** Not just losing keys - but finding them in the freezer or a sock drawer. Even more concerning is when the person can’t retrace their steps or becomes suspicious that others moved or stole the item. - **Decline in Personal Hygiene** Skipping showers, wearing the same clothes repeatedly, or forgetting basic grooming tasks could point to confusion or loss of routine - not laziness or depression. - **Difficulty Navigating Familiar Environments** Getting lost in a familiar neighborhood, forgetting how to get home from the store, or struggling to recognize landmarks may reflect spatial and orientation difficulties. - **Vision or Depth Perception Changes** In some cases, early dementia affects the brain’s ability to interpret visual information. This may lead to problems judging distances, reading, or navigating stairs. *“Recognizing the *[early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/)* isn’t about panic - it’s about possibility. Early action opens the door to better care and more meaningful time together.”* **A Note on “Senior Moments”** We’ve all walked into a room and forgotten why we went there. Or searched the house for our glasses, only to realize they’re on our head. These kinds of lapses are often called “senior moments,” and for many people, they’re a normal part of aging - not a sign of something more serious. In fact, we’ll discuss “senior moments” in our next blog. But it’s also true that for some individuals, forgetfulness can be the beginning of a deeper change in cognition. And that gray area - between normal aging and early dementia - is where fear often takes hold. One of the world’s leading dementia educators, Teepa Snow, who regularly speaks at Áegis Living communities, recently shared: *“Right now, across the nation, the scariest thing you can have is dementia, or Alzheimer’s, or Lewy body, or frontal temporal lobe dementia. This thing about it is that ‘I’m going to lose my mind,’ is a scary proposition. And as long as we’re scared of it, we’re scared to look at it, we’re scared to listen about it, we’re scared to talk about it. Dementia is what cancer was 10, 15 years ago, where nobody wanted to talk about ‘the big C.’ Now nobody wants to talk about ‘the big D.’ And what I’d say is once we get on the other side of that, we can make progress. And until we get on the other side, we’re blocking our own progress. Because we think there’s going to be this little magic cure that’s going to take it all away, and the reality is it’s probably going to be awhile before we get anywhere near a cure for all dementias.”* Her message is a powerful reminder: fear and stigma can delay understanding, diagnosis, and support - and those are the very things that can improve quality of life, even without a cure. Talking openly about dementia allows families to prepare, connect, and seek help sooner. And early attention can lead to better outcomes, more peace of mind, and moments of joy even in the face of change. **Support for the Journey** While there’s no cure for dementia, [early detection allows for symptom management, better planning](https://www.alzint.org/about/symptoms-of-dementia/importance-of-early-diagnosis/), and access to supportive environments like memory care. At Áegis Living, we offer both [transitional care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/transitional-memory-support/) for those in the early stages and [Life’s Neighborhood®, our specialized memory care program](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) designed for individuals with moderate to advanced dementia. Our compassionate teams partner closely with families to provide personalized care that promotes dignity, safety, and connection - no matter where a person is on their journey. --- ## Beyond the Diagnosis: How Medications Can Help with Dementia Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/beyond-the-diagnosis-how-medications-can-help-with-dementia-care/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, sleep, medication-management, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: Explore how medications can support dementia care, including treatment options, potential benefits and risks, and the value of a coordinated care team. When someone you love is diagnosed with dementia, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. Questions arise quickly: What can be done? Is there a treatment? Will things get better? In an earlier blog, we explored the many non-medication strategies that can help individuals with dementia feel more comfortable, connected, and engaged. While these therapies often serve as a first line of support, there are times when medication can offer meaningful relief - especially when symptoms interfere with safety, sleep, or quality of life. ## How Medications Can Support Dementia Care While dementia currently has no cure, several medications and emerging therapies can offer meaningful relief. These medical options don’t reverse the condition, but they can reduce symptoms, enhance quality of life, and, in some cases, slow progression - especially when started early. Let’s walk through the most common and promising medical treatments available today: **Cholinesterase Inhibitors** Medications like ***donepezil (Aricept), rivastigmine (Exelon),*** **and** ***galantamine (Razadyne)*** are widely used for Alzheimer’s and sometimes other types of dementia. These drugs work by [increasing levels of acetylcholine](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/how-alzheimers-disease-treated), a chemical essential for learning and memory. They are generally prescribed in the early to moderate [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/) and can lead to temporary improvements in memory, language, and focus. Common side effects include nausea, upset stomach, and poor appetite, but these often ease with time or adjustment. **Memantine** ***Memantine (Namenda)*** is typically prescribed for moderate to severe dementia. It works differently than cholinesterase inhibitors - by regulating glutamate, another neurotransmitter involved in memory and learning. Memantine may help with attention, daily functioning, and delay the need for more intensive care. It’s often used alongside a cholinesterase inhibitor. Side effects may include dizziness, constipation, and confusion, though many people tolerate it well. **Disease-Modifying Drugs** A new category of treatments **targets the biology of Alzheimer’s disease itself**. These drugs - ***lecanemab (Leqembi)*** **and** [donanemab](https://www.fda.gov/drugs/news-events-human-drugs/fda-approves-treatment-adults-alzheimers-disease) - are monoclonal antibodies that bind to amyloid plaques in the brain and help clear them away. These plaques are one of the hallmark signs of Alzheimer’s. Approved only for early-stage Alzheimer’s, these therapies are given via infusion and monitored closely due to potential risks, such as brain swelling or bleeding. Still, they represent a **hopeful step forward in slowing the disease**, not just managing the symptoms. “Medications can’t cure dementia - but the right ones can offer better days, clearer moments, and calmer nights.” **Medications for Behavioral Symptoms** As dementia progresses, behavioral and psychological symptoms may emerge: **agitation, depression, anxiety, paranoia, even hallucinations**. These can be deeply distressing to both the individual and their caregivers. Because behaviors often stem from unmet needs or discomfort, medications are usually considered **after** trying [personalized, non-drug strategies](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/treatments/treatments-for-behavior). When used thoughtfully and with consent from care partners, they can reduce distress and help the person feel safer in their surroundings. Doctors may recommend: - **Antidepressants** to improve mood and reduce anxiety - **Antipsychotics** (used cautiously) to address hallucinations or extreme agitation - **Anxiolytics** or sleep aids for persistent restlessness or sleep disturbances These drugs require close monitoring due to side effects like sedation, increased fall risk, or changes in heart rhythm. But when used appropriately, they can restore calm, improve sleep, and help individuals feel more secure in their environment. It’s important to remember that **not every individual with dementia will need medication - and that’s okay**. The decision to use medication should always be based on the person’s needs, preferences, and how they respond to other care approaches. **Who Should Be Leading Dementia Care?** Managing dementia medications requires expertise, ongoing monitoring, and a coordinated approach. Typically, **a primary care physician** is the first to notice cognitive changes and may begin the diagnostic process. From there, a **neurologist** - who specializes in brain disorders - often takes the lead in confirming a diagnosis and recommending treatment. **Geriatricians**, who focus on older adult health, are also valuable for managing medications in the context of other age-related conditions. In more complex cases, **psychiatrists** may assist with behavioral symptoms or co-existing mood disorders. Regardless of who is prescribing the medications, communication among all providers is essential. A collaborative team - including the family and care staff - helps ensure that treatment is safe, tailored, and regularly reviewed. For families navigating this process, having a dedicated doctor to coordinate care - especially as the disease progresses - can offer both stability and peace of mind. **A Word of Encouragement** Medical treatments for dementia won’t cure the disease, but they can support comfort, clarity, and safety when used as part of a broader, personalized care plan. When thoughtfully combined with non-pharmacological therapies, medications may offer a meaningful boost in quality of life. Reactions to medications vary widely, so regular review and input from trusted care partners is key to ensuring the best outcome. If you haven’t yet read our blog on holistic approaches to dementia care, we encourage you to start there. At Áegis Living, we believe in supporting the whole person, and working together to find what brings out the best in every individual. --- ## 8 Conditions That Mimic Dementia (And Are Often Treatable) URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/before-you-assume-its-dementia-consider-these-conditions-that-can-cause-dementia-like-symptoms/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, sleep, brain-health, medication-management, emotional-wellness, for-seniors Summary: Memory loss isn't always dementia. Learn 8 treatable conditions, from UTIs to B12 deficiency, that can cause dementia-like symptoms in older adults. If your parent is suddenly forgetful, confused, or acting out of character, it may not be dementia. Several treatable conditions, including urinary tract infections, vitamin B12 deficiency, thyroid disease, depression, sleep apnea, medication side effects, normal pressure hydrocephalus, and untreated hearing loss, can produce dementia-like symptoms in older adults. A thorough medical workup can identify a reversible cause in a meaningful share of cases. Before assuming the worst, it helps to know what else could explain the changes. For a side-by-side look at the warning signs that genuinely point to cognitive decline, see our pillar guide on the [early signs of Alzheimer's and tests for detection](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/suspect-alzheimers-tips-and-tests-for-detection/). ## Why do so many conditions look like dementia? The aging brain is sensitive to inflammation, low oxygen, hormone shifts, and disrupted sleep. When any of those go wrong, the first symptoms often show up as memory lapses, slowed thinking, or personality change, which is exactly how dementia begins. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026), but a substantial fraction of older adults referred for memory evaluation turn out to have a different, reversible problem. As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, older patients are routinely misdiagnosed because clinicians treat aging as a single disease rather than asking which specific, fixable thing has changed. That mindset matters: a missed UTI or untreated thyroid problem can look identical to early Alzheimer's at the bedside. ## Which 8 conditions most often mimic dementia? Here is a quick comparison of the most common imposters, what they look like, and how they are evaluated. ConditionHallmark symptomsHow it's diagnosedTypical reversibilityMedication side effectsNew confusion after a prescription changePharmacist-led medication reviewOften fully reversibleUrinary tract infection (UTI)Sudden agitation, delirium, no feverUrinalysis and cultureDays to weeks with antibioticsDepression (pseudodementia)Apathy, slowed speech, "I don't know" answersPHQ-9 screening, clinical interviewTreatable with therapy and/or medicationSleep apneaDaytime fog, irritability, loud snoringHome or in-lab sleep studyCPAP improves cognitionVitamin B12 or thiamine deficiencyMemory loss, tingling, unsteady gaitSerum B12, methylmalonic acidReversible if caught earlyThyroid diseaseFatigue, slowed thinking, weight changeTSH blood testReversible with hormone therapyNormal pressure hydrocephalusWobbly gait, incontinence, confusionMRI, large-volume lumbar punctureShunt surgery can helpUntreated hearing lossWithdrawal, missed conversations, frustrationAudiogramHearing aids restore function ### 1. Medication side effects Drugs with anticholinergic effects, including some bladder medications, tricyclic antidepressants, and over-the-counter sleep aids like diphenhydramine, can blunt cognition in older adults. The American Geriatrics Society maintains a list of medications that pose elevated risk in people 65 and older ([American Geriatrics Society Beers Criteria](https://www.americangeriatrics.org/), 2023). Ask the prescriber or pharmacist for a brown-bag review of every pill, patch, and supplement. ### 2. Urinary tract infections In seniors, a UTI may skip the burning and fever and present as sudden delirium instead (CDC, 2024). For example, an 84-year-old who suddenly cannot remember her grandchildren's names after a weekend of mild incontinence may simply need a urine culture and a course of antibiotics. ### 3. Depression (pseudodementia) Roughly 1 in 7 adults aged 65 and older experiences clinically significant depression ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/mental-and-emotional-health/depression-and-older-adults), 2024). Unlike dementia, people with pseudodementia often complain loudly about their memory rather than hiding it. Treatment with therapy, SSRIs, or both frequently restores cognition. ### 4. Sleep apnea and other sleep disorders Repeated overnight oxygen drops starve the hippocampus. Consider a 72-year-old retired teacher whose wife reports thunderous snoring and morning headaches; after a sleep study and CPAP, his "memory problem" disappears within a month. Poor sleep is also a modifiable risk factor for later dementia, which is why we cover it in [8 science-backed ways to reduce Alzheimer's risk](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/8-ways-combat-alzheimers-disease/). ### 5. Vitamin B12 and thiamine deficiency Older adults absorb B12 less efficiently, and long-term use of metformin or acid blockers worsens it ([NIH Office of Dietary Supplements](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminB12-HealthProfessional/), 2024). A simple blood panel catches it; oral or injectable replacement reverses symptoms in weeks for early cases. Heavy alcohol use depletes thiamine and can cause similar confusion, a topic explored in our piece on [whether alcohol causes dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/). ### 6. Thyroid disease Hypothyroidism affects a notable share of older women and produces fatigue, weight gain, and a sluggish mind that looks just like early dementia ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hypothyroidism/symptoms-causes/syc-20350284), 2024). A TSH test costs little and treatment is a daily pill. ### 7. Normal pressure hydrocephalus (NPH) NPH classically presents with the triad "wet, wobbly, and wacky": incontinence, gait trouble, and confusion. Brain MRI shows enlarged ventricles, and a surgically placed shunt can dramatically restore function in selected patients. NPH is sometimes mistaken for [vascular dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-vascular-dementia-understanding-the-second-most-common-type-of-dementia/) because both can begin with walking changes. ### 8. Untreated hearing loss When the brain strains to decode muffled speech, it has less bandwidth for memory and conversation. Hearing loss is the largest modifiable midlife risk factor for dementia identified by the Lancet Commission ([Lancet Commission on Dementia Prevention](https://doi.org/10.1016/S0140-6736(24)01296-0), 2024). Hearing aids do not just help the ears; they protect the mind. ## What should a thorough workup include? DeliriumA sudden, fluctuating change in attention and awareness, often from infection, medication, or dehydration. Reversible if the trigger is found quickly.PseudodementiaCognitive symptoms caused by severe depression that resolve with mental health treatment.Reversible cognitive impairmentAn umbrella term for memory or thinking problems caused by a treatable medical condition rather than a degenerative brain disease.If you are worried, take these steps in order: - Schedule a same-week visit with the primary care provider and bring every medication bottle. - Request basic labs: CBC, TSH, B12, electrolytes, glucose, and a urinalysis. - Ask for a depression screen (PHQ-9) and a hearing test. - If symptoms persist after treating any findings, ask for referral to a geriatrician or memory clinic for neuropsychological testing and brain imaging. - Track changes in a notebook with dates so the clinician sees the timeline. ## When is it time to call a specialist? If memory or behavior changes persist beyond a few weeks after addressing infections, sleep, mood, and medications, push for a formal evaluation. The Alzheimer's Association maintains a 24/7 Helpline at 800-272-3900 for families navigating next steps ([Alzheimer's Association Helpline](https://www.alz.org/help-support/resources/helpline), 2024). ## How Áegis Living can help Our on-site nurses regularly help families sort treatable causes from progressive disease before assumptions take hold. To talk with a nurse or schedule a tour, [find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/). ## Frequently asked questions ### Can a UTI really cause dementia-like symptoms? Yes. In older adults, a urinary tract infection often skips the classic burning and instead causes sudden confusion, agitation, or hallucinations. Once treated with the right antibiotic, mental clarity typically returns within days to a couple of weeks. ### How do doctors tell depression apart from dementia? People with depression-driven cognitive symptoms tend to complain about their memory and say "I don't know" rather than confabulate. Onset is also usually faster, and treatment of the depression restores thinking. A geriatric psychiatrist or memory clinic can sort it out with screening tools and history. ### What blood tests should be ordered first? A reasonable starting panel includes TSH, vitamin B12, complete blood count, comprehensive metabolic panel, and urinalysis. Your clinician may add folate, vitamin D, HIV, or syphilis testing based on history. ### Is normal pressure hydrocephalus really reversible? It can be. When patients are carefully selected and respond to a high-volume spinal tap, a surgically placed ventriculoperitoneal shunt can meaningfully improve walking, continence, and thinking. Outcomes are best when NPH is caught early. ### Do hearing aids actually protect against dementia? Treating hearing loss reduces the cognitive strain that worsens memory and social withdrawal, and the Lancet Commission identifies hearing loss as the largest modifiable midlife risk factor for dementia. Hearing aids will not cure Alzheimer's, but they support brain health and quality of life. ### When should I push for a memory clinic referral? If symptoms persist or worsen after treating obvious medical causes, or if your loved one is getting lost in familiar places, mishandling money, or showing personality change, ask the primary care provider for a referral to a geriatrician, neurologist, or memory clinic. --- ## Spend Father’s Day in an assisted living community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/fathers-day-in-an-assisted-living-community/ Focus keyword: father's day Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, assisted-living, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living helps you navigate Father's Day, which can be an emotional time when Dad has transitioned to assisted living or memory care. Read more here. As you prepare to celebrate your father and all he means to your family, you may wonder how to fit your usual celebrations into an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community. Not only does nothing have to suffer from your dad’s transition, but you can also reap benefits from it. Senior living communities and the people who work there understand how important time with family is for seniors and do everything they can to facilitate it. Whether you’re interested in a larger gathering of fathers and families organized by dad’s assisted living community or in reserving a room to laugh and talk together in, you can make a wonderful Father’s Day happen. Here are a few things to keep in mind as you plan: ## Father’s Day can be an emotional time For many men, feeling needed and competent comes with supporting and raising a family. Now that your father is no longer actively in that role, he may feel less necessary or vital. It’s important to honor the contributions he made when he was raising you, and to remind him he’s still your father and an important support in your life. If you have special circumstances - perhaps your father lost a child, or is now a widower - Father’s Day can bring up some intense emotions for your dad. The best thing you can do is create an environment where it’s OK to express those feelings. Kind words, a loving card and plenty of hugs mean more than you might imagine in this situation. If your father requires additional help managing his emotions or becomes agitated, there are always staff members on hand to help. ## Think about gifts of time and love, not necessarily objects No matter how much space dad has in his assisted living apartment, it’s likely he’s not too interested in accumulating more possessions. Instead, think outside the box about what he might like. Is there a restaurant in the neighborhood he often goes to? A gift card to use there may be a lovely idea. For many dads, pictures of their children and grandchildren are the perfect present. If you have the means and your dad has the skills, a tablet computer is a wonderful gift. It can help him stay involved in the lives of family members near and far and even connect him to like-minded friends who share his hobbies. Consider which gifts would enhance his days and foster connection, and focus on those. ## Consider your dad’s circumstances If your father’s health prevents him from going out much, there is still plenty you can do to celebrate Father’s Day. You can make the day special even if your dad is living with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) and may not understand what the holiday is or why a celebration is happening. All it really takes is love and attention in both cases. Bring the whole family to dad’s assisted living community to spend time with him and no one will miss going out. Similarly, just showing up to be present with your father if he has dementia will mean the world to him - even if he’s not entirely clear on the details of the day. Of course, your dad may be able to take excursions into the community with you, which can be a fun way to spend the day. Make sure you understand any limitations he has before you plan an outing, but also be sure to make it fun. Maybe you could spend a day fishing or even just driving through the part of town where you grew up. With a little creativity and a lot of love, Father’s Day at an [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) can be a wonderful time. --- ## Memorial Day: A Day of Honor URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/memorial-day-a-day-of-honor/ Focus keyword: memorial day Category: seasonal-holidays Tags: arthritis-mobility, assisted-living, memory-care, veterans, moving-in, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: At Áegis Living, It has been our privilege and pleasure to care for many veterans and their family members over the years in our communities. Read more here. At Áegis Living, it has been our privilege and pleasure to care for many veterans and their family members over the years in our assisted living and memory care communities. We are grateful to serve and support our veterans with dignity, for the many sacrifices they have made in their lifetime. They are truly our heroes. On this Memorial Day, we honor our military - both young and old - for their brave service. **The History of Memorial Day** Observed the last Monday of May, Memorial Day is the day that Americans honor the brave men and women who have faithfully served in the United States military. It was originally called Decorations Day following the Civil War in 1868. Claiming more lives than any other U.S. conflict, the U.S. Civil War led the government to establish the country’s first national cemeteries. During the spring, many cities and towns throughout the country were inspired to honor their fallen soldiers by decorating their graves with flowers. Originally, it was to honor the soldiers lost while fighting in the Civil War. But during WWII with America embroiled in another conflict, the holiday evolved to honor all American military personnel lost in battle. This holiday, now known as Memorial Day, became a federal holiday in 1971. **Seniors Can Participate in Memorial Day** Whether your senior parent served in the military or not, many have family and friends who were killed in the war. Most seniors would like to observe Memorial Day and you can help. Drive them to the cemetery so they can place flowers or a flag on the gravesite of a fallen veteran or family member. Check with your local community to see if they will be holding a parade or attend a special service or event. Host a gathering with family and friends to celebrate those we love. And for those with mobility issues, they would appreciate hanging an American flag to honor our veterans on the front of their home or making a donation in their name to a veteran’s organization. It’s never too late to thank and acknowledge our brave veterans. --- ## 12 Mother’s Day Activities for Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-celebrate-mothers-day-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, nutrition, pets, legal-planning, moving-in, for-seniors Summary: Coronavirus can put a damper on Mother’s Day, especially for seniors. Here are 12 ways to honor your dad, whether he is at home with you or in assisted living. Image by [Freepik](https://www.freepik.com/free-photo/close-up-decorative-flower-with-paper-heart-mother-s-day_1084052.htm#page=4&query=mothers%20day&position=35&from_view=search&track=ais) ### Ideas for Mom at an Assisted Living Community For those of us with a mother living in an assisted living community, we have a few ideas to make her day even brighter. #### Here are a few other ideas to celebrate the day: **Family Serenade.** Mom would be excited to hear a favorite song sung by her children and grandchildren on video. You might not have the best voice or be in tune, but your enthusiasm is sure to bring mom a lot of joy! Warm up your pipes and tune up your kazoos, it’s showtime! **Send a Box of Sunshine.** Working with limited shopping options, make mom a box of sunshine! Every item in the box should be in shades of yellow. These can be inexpensive items that you pick up from the grocery store, but the impact is big, bold, and fun. We suggest yellow napkins, candy in yellow packaging, Juicy Fruit gum, creamy lotions, sunny dishtowels, Golden Oreos, or lemon tea, to name a few! And what a fun way to get the kids involved to create sunny cards and drawings for their grandmother in shades of yellow and gold. Hello, Sunshine! **Cookie Care Package.** Baking up a favorite family treat will bring back fond memories, and you will feel closer together. Do you have a family recipe for cookies that mom loves? She will appreciate the time and effort you spend in your kitchen! Don’t worry if you are not a baker. [Cheryl’s Cookies](https://www.cheryls.com/mothers-day-cookie-gifts) has you covered with beautiful bouquets of delicious buttery cookies for Mother’s Day! Every mom deserves a yummy treat! **Artwork in the Parking Lot.** If you have small children, grab a box of colorful chalk and head over to your mom’s assisted living community. With an empty parking lot, your family has a blank canvas to fill with hearts, rainbows, and lovely messages for your mom and her fellow residents to see and enjoy. **Give a Warm Hug (*sort of*).** A warm [neck and shoulder wrap](https://bucky.com/collections/hot-cold-therapy) is a lovely gift to give your mom a warm hug. A buckwheat seed-filled neck and shoulder wrap can be heated in the microwave to soothe muscles and alleviate aches. Many seniors tend to feel cold, and a Bucky wrap can warm them right up! **Virtual Party.** If you don’t live nearby set up a Zoom video call for the entire family to wish mom a wonderful day and share smiles together. Decorate the space behind you in your video with balloons, streamers, and handmade signs. Or have each family member make a short video to send to mom in an email that she can see throughout the day. You can even get the family dog involved with a [funny talking app](https://laughingsquid.com/my-talking-pet-app/), which is sure to bring a smile! ### Ideas for Mom at Home Here are some creative ideas on how to spend your day together at home and clever gift ideas to make this holiday special. **Support Local Restaurants.** Plenty of local restaurants create special menus just for Mother’s Day. Make your reservations early and take the scenic route on your way to enjoying a delicious meal to share together. **Bon appétit!** **Picture Puzzles.** Indoor activities and entertainment are always fun. Give your mom a 500-piece jigsaw puzzle with an image of those she loves most! [I See Me](https://www.iseeme.com/) allows you to upload a favorite photograph, which they will then create into a jigsaw puzzle. She will love it to pieces! **Personalized Gift from the Heart.** If you have a way with words or can write from your heart, share a handwritten letter expressing what she means to you. Or craft a poem that’s either silly or sweet, and she will love the gesture. If you are crafty, you could create a family scrapbook with photos and fond memories with little notes. And if you have a talent for painting or sketching, consider making her a painting or drawing to frame. Nothing says, “I love you” like creating something with your hands. **The Perfect Pillow.** Give your mom the comfort of a restful night’s sleep on a pillow customized just for her! You can adjust the plumpness by adding or removing the fill. It’s available [on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EINBSEW?linkCode=ogi&tag=popularmechanics_auto-append-20&ascsubtag=%5bartid%7C10060.g.31472818%5bsrc%7C%5bch%7C%5blt%7C) and delivered to your door. **Plant an Herb Garden.** Create an herb garden kit for your mom. Small herb plants can be easily bought from many grocery stores. Pick up a few plants like basil, mint, oregano, and rosemary, along with cheery colored pots, or have your children paint simple terracotta pots you may have on hand. Choose an area in the garden with colorful homemade plant markers, plant pots on a garden bench at a height she can easily reach, or place pots on a sunny table in the kitchen. [Seed packets](https://www.westcoastseeds.com/collections/herb-seeds) are in big demand, but you may be able to find a few to include with your gift. Herbs will bring wonderful smells into the home and tasty additions to your meals. **Sign up for an Online Class Together**. You are never too old to learn something new, so kick-off a new class on Mother’s Day with your mom. You can choose from [over 450 classes taught by Ivy League universities](https://www.classcentral.com/collection/ivy-league-moocs) that are free! Learn more about modern poetry or Italian Opera together. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we want to take this opportunity to wish all the strong and loving moms a wonderful day where you are celebrated! From our residents to our staff, we are surrounded by caring mothers who make our lives better. Happy Mother’s Day! --- ## Earth Day: Let’s get planting! URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/earth-day-lets-get-planting/ Focus keyword: earth day Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: dementia, alzheimers, hobbies-activities, social-connection, legal-planning, for-seniors, emotional-wellness Summary: The daunting task that a large garden poses can deter seniors with physical limitations. Consider keeping up a smaller garden instead. Read more here. Remember those satisfying afternoons of working outdoors in the garden? Covered in dirt, sweating from the work and smelling like fresh soil, these are happy memories for many of our Áegis Living residents. Due to physical limitations, many seniors will give up on the demands of a large garden. But keeping your aging loved ones involved in gardening, no matter how small, can have an impact on their health and personal wellbeing. Gardening is a wonderful stimulating activity for our residents. It can help improve joint health in their hands, reduce stress, encourage social interaction, help with mobility, and give them a sense of purpose as they nurture a growing garden.” Researchers are studying how activities that involve nature, such as gardening, are proving to be therapeutic. They’ve found that a basic [horticultural activity](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4469628/), as simple as maintaining a house plant, can have a positive effect on their quality of life, feeling less lonely, and a greater sense of happiness when caring for a living plant. Further research has included findings on the impact of gardening for seniors with dementia and Alzheimer’s. The study by Midori Yasukawa in 2009 found that the activity of gardening and horticultural therapy can alleviate symptoms of dementia, provide a higher quality of life, and improve cognitive function. **This Earth Day, how can you integrate more activities involving nature into your home and daily life with your aging loved one?** - **Think small.** Starting plants from seed or starters can easily be done indoors at a table so your loved one is comfortable to sit and work. They will find joy watching their little plants grow before being taken out into the garden. - **House plants.** Shop with them for a house plant for their room. Give them the responsibility and satisfaction of its care and watering. - **Herb garden.** Herbs are wonderful plants to touch and smell. They easily grow in small areas either indoors or outdoors. Plant a few herbs and work together on incorporating your crop into recipes for meals, snacks, or salads. - **Go outside.** The therapeutic effects of nature and fresh air is proven, so find ways to encourage your loved one to go outside. Perhaps start a small garden area or plant pots on a balcony or patio. Involve your loved one is selecting the plant choices, colors, and their care. At Áegis Living, we have incorporated raised garden beds that are high enough for our residents to reach easily from a wheelchair or to sit and garden to reduce stress on their backs. You may want to consider a vertical wall garden or trellis in your home, so seniors don’t have to stoop over for long periods. - **The right tools.** Seniors can assist you in your garden by watering, raking, sweeping, or planting but you may want to make sure they have the right tools to make their time more enjoyable. Paint gardening tool handles in a bright color for those with poor vision to find much easier. Purchase seed and seed tape to make planting much easier. Provide them with a portable chair, stool, or bench to work from while outside. Long handled or curved handled tools can also provide better grip for arthritic hands. - **Time at the park.** Not everyone has a green thumb or the space for a garden, so a good alternative to enjoy nature is a walk in a local park or public garden. Bring along a pair of binoculars and a plant guide-book to make the walk more interactive. Light walking can also have a positive impact on their health and longevity. - **Fresh flowers.** Depending on your loved one’s mobility, they can cut flowers from the garden or you can bring inside your home-grown cut blooms or flowers from the market to arrange together. Flower arranging is a creative activity that can’t go wrong. Your loved one with dementia may find it soothing to sort flowers by type or color. - **Stay protected.** If you are going to garden outside, remember to apply plenty of sun block for both you and your loved one, stay hydrated, avoid the hottest parts of the day, wear sunglasses, long sleeves, a wide-brim hat, and gardening gloves. Enjoy the bounty of your garden, herbs from your window sill, or the beauty of a house plant to brighten your day and improve the health of your family and older loved ones. Find out all of the outdoor activities we offer our residents at [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) communities. --- ## How do springtime routines affect a senior with Alzheimer's? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-does-springtime-affect-alzheimers/ Focus keyword: alzheimer's Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, memory-care, exercise-fitness, sleep, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: Learn how seasonal changes and daylight saving time can affect people with Alzheimer’s and discover supportive memory care tips from Aegis Living. [Seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) with Alzheimer’s disease are heavily affected by fluctuations in their regular routines, and they can experience issues when seasons change. This is a common concern during the onset of winter, which can greatly exacerbate sundowning, an increase in restlessness and confusion caused by decreased sunlight that upsets the body’s circadian rhythm. The body’s natural clock must also adjust to other seasonal changes, including the onset of spring. ## Adjusting to daylight savings time for those with Alzheimer's Those who serve as caregivers for people with Alzheimer’s may experience frustration during daylight savings time, as setting the clocks forward comes with a change in schedule and routine. Maintaining consistent sleep and wake habits is important for people living with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/), and sudden alterations in this schedule can worsen symptoms. It may lead to heightened confusion and irritability, making it important to provide increased care and attention to help ease the senior into an altered routine. An increase in hours of sunlight, though generally a positive thing, can also require special attention on part of the caregiver. After all, light plays an important role in a person’s circadian rhythm, and this natural clock must adjust accordingly. In general, all humans tend to feel tired and drained as the day goes on, whether from exhaustion or too much stimulation. For people with dementia, this is even more true. The impact can cause seniors to want to go to bed earlier, and they may eat more or sooner than usual as their bodies require more energy. It may also cause a [Sundowning](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/sleep-issues-sundowning) affect in seniors with dementia. ## Taking advantage of sunnier days With more sunlight and the warm weather of spring comes the potential for increased activity. Caregivers should embrace this opportunity and encourage seniors to get outside and soak up some sun and engage in physical activity, whether it’s a simple stroll or some more intense gardening. As the Alzheimer’s Association emphasizes, such activity is an essential part of a [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) plan, as physical activity is linked to a decreased risk of cognitive decline. Áegis Living allows seniors the freedom to spend their time outdoors without the risk of them wandering away. Each community has a secured outside flower garden, walking paths and even outdoor installations, like antique cars and bird feeders, to provide stimulation. Áegis Living makes the transition between seasons a smooth, more enjoyable experience. Seniors receive care around the clock, providing the increased professional attention they need to adjust to daylight savings time and alterations in their regular routines. [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) communities also implement the Life’s Neighborhood program into the [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) process, providing a means for easing symptoms that may be heightened by a change in season, such as Sundowning affect. For example, each has a Life’s Haven room, a space in which the lighting, textures, shapes, music and aromas create a calming environment. This can help decrease restlessness and agitation. --- ## Sundowning in Dementia: 4 Ways to Calm Evening Agitation URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-ways-to-handle-sundowning/ Focus keyword: sundowning dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, depression-anxiety, sleep, brain-health, when-its-time, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: Sundowning causes late-day confusion and agitation in dementia. Learn 4 caregiver-tested strategies, triggers to watch for, and when to seek help. Sundowning is a pattern of confusion, restlessness, or irritability that appears in the late afternoon and evening in people living with Alzheimer's or another dementia. You can ease it by tracking triggers, simplifying the environment, increasing daytime light exposure, and redirecting attention with a familiar, low-stress activity. Roughly 1 in 5 people with Alzheimer's experience sundowning symptoms ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/sleep-issues-sundowning), 2024), and small daily adjustments often make a meaningful difference. If your parent is showing new evening agitation, it's worth reviewing the [10 signs of dementia families notice first](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/do-you-know-10-signs-of-dementia/) to put the behavior in context. ## What is sundowning, and why does it happen at dusk? Researchers at the National Institute on Aging link sundowning to disruption of the brain's internal clock, the suprachiasmatic nucleus, which regulates the sleep-wake cycle ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-changes-behavior-and-communication/coping-agitation-aggression-and-sundowning), 2023). As damage accumulates in dementia, the brain struggles to read cues like fading daylight, leading to disorientation just when the household is winding down. SundowningA cluster of late-day behaviors, agitation, pacing, calling out, suspicion, or wandering, common in middle-stage Alzheimer's and Lewy body dementia.Circadian rhythmThe body's roughly 24-hour internal clock, set largely by morning light exposure and meal timing.Trigger logA written record of time, food, activity, and behavior used to identify what sets off agitation.Common physical triggers include hunger, thirst, full bladder, pain, fatigue, low light with deep shadows, and overstimulation from television or visitors ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alzheimers-disease/expert-answers/sundowning/faq-20058511), 2024). ## What are the 4 strategies that actually help? - **Recognize the pattern early.** Keep a simple trigger log for two weeks. Note time, last meal, last bathroom visit, room lighting, and what was happening when agitation began. For example, if your mother becomes tearful every day around 4:30 p.m. after the television news comes on, the news, not the hour, may be the real culprit. - **Listen and meet the unmet need.** Approach calmly, get to eye level, and ask one question at a time. Consider an 82-year-old father who paces and shouts every evening; a care team discovers his hearing aid battery dies around 4 p.m. daily, leaving him isolated and frightened. The fix was a fresh battery at lunch. - **Engineer a calmer environment.** Close blinds before shadows lengthen, turn on warm overhead lighting, lower the TV, and play familiar music. Reduce the number of people in the room. Offer a light snack and water around 4 p.m. - **Redirect with a purposeful activity.** Folding washcloths, sorting buttons, pairing socks, or wiping the table gives a sense of contribution. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, teaches, people with dementia retain procedural memory long after words fade, so hands-on, repetitive tasks soothe better than reasoning ever will. ## How does light therapy fit in? Bright morning light helps reset the circadian clock and reduces evening agitation in dementia ([National Institutes of Health](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4254467/), 2014). Aim for 30 to 60 minutes of natural light by 10 a.m., or use a 2,000 to 10,000 lux therapy lamp during breakfast. At Áegis Living, our Life Enhancing Light Therapy program delivers 2,000 to 4,000 lux during breakfast and early afternoon, with dawn-simulator lighting in apartments to ease the transition into evening. ### Daytime habits that reduce evening flare-ups HabitTargetWhy it helpsMorning light exposure30 to 60 min before 10 a.m.Anchors circadian rhythmCaffeine cutoffBefore noonProtects evening sleep driveMain meal timingLunch as largest mealLighter dinner reduces reflux, restlessnessDaytime nap20 to 30 min, before 2 p.m.Prevents overtiredness without disrupting nightHydration6 to 8 cups spread through dayDehydration mimics and worsens agitation ## When should you call the doctor? Sundowning that appears suddenly, worsens within days, or includes hallucinations or fever often signals something else, commonly a urinary tract infection, medication side effect, dehydration, or pain. Older adults with UTIs frequently present with confusion rather than typical urinary symptoms (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). Call the primary care provider the same day if behavior changes are abrupt. Sleep disorders also overlap with sundowning. Untreated sleep apnea is associated with worsened cognition in older adults ([National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/sleep-apnea), 2024), and treating it can quiet evening agitation. ## What if home strategies aren't enough? If your parent's evening agitation is escalating, if they're wandering after dark, or if you're losing sleep to the point of exhaustion, it may be time to consider memory care. Family caregivers of people with dementia provided 18.4 billion hours of unpaid care in 2023 ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), and burnout itself worsens outcomes for the person you love. Reviewing the [seven stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/from-early-signs-to-advanced-care-the-seven-stages-of-dementia/) can clarify where your family is, and small wins like [supporting independent dressing](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/) or following [8 ways to combat Alzheimer's](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/8-ways-combat-alzheimers-disease/) can extend quality time at home. ## Frequently asked questions ### At what stage of dementia does sundowning start? Sundowning most often appears in middle-stage Alzheimer's, though it can show up earlier in Lewy body dementia ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-changes-behavior-and-communication/coping-agitation-aggression-and-sundowning), 2023). It typically eases in late-stage dementia as activity overall declines. ### Can medication help sundowning? Behavioral and environmental strategies are first-line. Antipsychotics carry a black-box warning for increased mortality in older adults with dementia (U.S. Food and Drug Administration, 2023), so they're reserved for severe, dangerous agitation under a physician's supervision. ### Does melatonin work for sundowning? Low-dose melatonin (0.5 to 3 mg) one to two hours before bed may help some adults with dementia sleep through the night, but evidence is mixed ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/drugs-supplements-melatonin/art-20363071), 2024). Ask the prescribing clinician before starting it. ### How long does an episode of sundowning last? Episodes commonly last one to three hours but can stretch longer if triggers aren't addressed. Consistent daily routines shorten and soften them over weeks. ### Should I argue or correct my parent during an episode? No. Reasoning increases distress. Acknowledge the feeling ("You seem worried"), offer reassurance, and redirect to a calming activity or familiar object. ### Is sundowning a sign dementia is progressing? Not always. It often signals a treatable trigger like infection, pain, or poor sleep. Persistent, worsening sundowning despite good routines does warrant a medical reassessment. ## Talk with an Áegis Living memory care expert If evenings have become the hardest part of your day, you don't have to figure this out alone. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through what your family is seeing and what support could look like. --- ## Caring for a parent with Alzheimer's related behavioral changes URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caring-for-a-parent-with-alzheimers-related-behavioral-changes/ Focus keyword: alzheimer's Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, depression-anxiety, brain-health, legal-planning, for-caregivers Summary: Recognizing the changes that will occur in your parent living with Alzheimer's or other dementia is crucial to being able to care for them. Read more here. As a caregiver trying to take care of a parent living with [Alzheimer’s,](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) some of the most frustrating things you might run into are behavioral changes. Although many people know that this illness can affect memory and cognitive health, Alzheimer’s can also have a major impact on the way your loved one[reacts to certain situations](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-deal-with-a-parent-whos-experiencing-dementia/). Alzheimer’s attacks the brain cells, which can cause them to deteriorate. According to [the Alzheimer’s Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers/causes-and-risk-factors), there are several other influences that can progress the breakdown of these cells, including certain medications, other illnesses and environmental factors. When this happens for the first time, these actions can be very disheartening to family members. The father who has always been kind and pleasant toward you all of the sudden becomes angry, irritable, agitated, anxious or depressed. Or in some severe cases, shows aggression, raises his voice or experiences delusions. ## Find your inner calm when dealing with Alzheimer's When these situations occur, the first thing you need to realize is that you are not going to win an argument with your father. Because the illness has broken down his practical thought process, there is little hope of having a rational or reflective discussion, especially in the later stages of Alzheimer’s. Becoming irritable or upset on your own will only make matters worse. The best thing you can do is [find an inner calm](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-for-caregivers-to-relax-and-rejuvenate/) and redirect these behaviors so that they don’t escalate. Keep in mind that it’s OK to feel a bit sad or frustrated when this happens, but know that you shouldn’t take any insults or aggressive behavior personally. As a caregiver, it is your responsibility to change the environment so that you can properly regulate the behavior to a reasonable state. ## Seek patterns that trigger unreasonable behavior It’s important to be intuitive to triggers that result in aggressive behavior. Anger and frustration can manifest itself in a variety of ways, including a need for privacy, just plain boredom, physical pain, tiredness or the struggle to find independence. The actions your father takes likely come from some kind of emotion that he is unable to verbally express, so you will have to seek out the patterns that result in these outbursts. If it helps, you can even keep a log of his behavior so that you can successfully narrow it down. ## Redirect with activities they enjoy The next time your loved one begins to show inappropriate behavior, try to diffuse the situation. For instance, your mother might accuse you of taking personal items she misplaced, such as her keys or checkbook. Tell her that you will both look for them later and then change the topic to a pleasurable activity to handle the issue. When this happens, it’s important not to argue your point - simply change the conversation and suggest doing something that she always loved. If she enjoyed cooking, suggest that you make dinner together. If she always had a passion for the great outdoors, help her lace up her shoes and go for a walk or hike through the park. ## Minimizing clinging Alzheimer’s is a disease that can be very isolating, so it’s likely that your dad might cling to you and grow irritable or angry if you leave him, even for a short period of time. If your father becomes very upset when you announce that you are leaving for a period of time, experts recommend setting a timer, telling him that you will be back before it sounds off and allow him to enjoy a task that keeps him occupied. ## How to handle wandering One of the more dangerous behaviors that people living with Alzheimer’s face, especially in the later stages of the disease, is the tendency to wander off. While the risk lessens if your dad lives in an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community, there are things you need to look out for. Wandering may also be a sign that your dad needs exercise, so be sure to spend some time taking walks together, enjoying an afternoon bike ride or going for a swim at the local gym or community center. If he recently moved in with your family or to an assisted living community it may take him awhile to get used to his new living arrangements and he might try to find his way back home. ## Seek help from a professional If the outbursts become so severe that he begins to experience hallucinations or extreme delusions, it’s important that see a health care professional. This can result in wandering into dangerous situations or possibly harming himself or others. ## Caregivers need “breathers” too Many caregivers feel guilty if they take time for themselves. Be aware that it’s difficult to take care of someone else if you’re not feeling patient or healthy yourself. Part of your job is to give yourself permission to take a breather and de-stress so that you can calmly deal with issues when they arise. Although these situations can be frustrating, you can evaluate them in a healthy way. Contact one of our professionals at the Áegis Living [community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to receive more information on how we can help. --- ## Volunteering: A Great Sense of Purpose for Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/a-sense-of-purpose-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: seniors Category: family-communication Tags: nutrition, social-connection, veterans, pets, hobbies-activities, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Discover meaningful volunteer ideas for older adults from Aegis Living, from mentoring and knitting to helping local charities and neighbors. As seniors, we all want to feel like we are contributing to society and leaving our mark on the world. There is a drive in many of us to volunteer for causes that we feel passionate about or support local charities. And this impulse doesn’t necessarily end as we age. At Áegis Living Aptos, near Santa Cruz, a resident knitting group has made hats for Jacob’s Heart Children’s Cancer Support Services. Each colorful cap is lovingly crafted and given to a child with cancer who may lose their hair due to chemotherapy. Efforts such as these not only benefit the community but also significantly benefit the residents. Using their skills to give back to the greater community provides a sense of accomplishment and personal satisfaction. This holiday season, think of ways that your parent can give back. Check with your local senior center or place of worship to find a program or cause that might interest your parent and where they can contribute with their unique skills. ## Seniors make great volunteers: - Use their personal and professional experience to mentor at-risk youth. - If your parent is an animal lover, volunteer at a local animal shelter or foster a pet. - If you parent is a veteran or veteran’s spouse, they might want to volunteer for the USO. [USO volunteers](https://volunteers.uso.org/) can assist with a variety of tasks based on their physical ability, from greeting troops as they return from overseas tours to making coffee and warm meals to providing blankets to troops at the airport during long layovers. - Crochet lap blankets for hospitals, nursing home residents, or the Red Cross. - Knit slippers with non-skid pads for [Meals on Wheels](https://www.mealsonwheelsamerica.org/) or older adults. - Create backyard habitats for local wildlife or build birdhouses during the winter months. - Bake and deliver cookies or holiday treats to local first responders or homebound neighbors. - Read books or letters to a person who is visually impaired. - If your parent has a green thumb, plant flowers in bare public areas or volunteer to docent at a local botanical garden. This sense of purpose is important for seniors now, as much as when they were younger. No matter how small, volunteering can spread cheer to those you help and in return, benefit your parent. Visit one of your local [Áegis Living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) today to find out about volunteer opportunities and how our residents give back to your community. --- ## Hypothermia in Elderly: A Winter Hazard URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hypothermia-a-winter-hazard-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: hypothermia Category: health-conditions Tags: parkinsons, arthritis-mobility, costs-funding, for-seniors Summary: Many seniors, especially those over the age of 75, are at greater risk of hypothermia. Áegis Living discusses the dangers of colder weather. Learn more here. The temperature is dropping colder at night. The chill can be felt through your coat as you wrap your arms around yourself to keep warm. You bundle up just to run out to the mailbox. Winter can be an inconvenience or a nuisance for those who dislike cold weather. But for older adults, cold weather can be a serious health hazard. As we get older, our bodies become less efficient at regulating our body temperature. This puts many seniors, especially those over the age of 75, at risk of hypothermia. And getting hypothermia doesn’t necessarily mean they are outside for long periods of time, but it can happen within their own homes. Hypothermia is a dramatic drop in body temperature. Normal body temperature averages 98.6 degrees, while hypothermia is when the core body temperature drops below 95 degrees. If you suspect your loved one has hypothermia, they must get immediate care. ## The risks of hypothermia for seniors. - **Slower metabolism.**Seniors have a more difficult time maintaining a normal body temperature. Even in their home, the risk for hypothermia increases if the room temperature dips below 65 degrees. - **Chronic medical conditions**. Many common diseases among older adults can make it more difficult for seniors to stay warm. Conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, stroke, Parkinson’s disease, or an underactive thyroid can increase the risk factor. - **Medications can affect body temperature**. Some medications may change how the body regulates temperature. Seniors taking antidepressants, nausea medications and some over-the-counter cold medications can be more vulnerable to cooler temperatures. - **Fixed income.** Seniors on a tight budget or in an effort to save money or be frugal may not use the heat or may not keep their home warm enough. ### How can hypothermia be prevented inside the home? Of course, the obvious answer is to keep their home warm. Check that their house is well-insulated and never let the thermostat dip below 65 degrees. Talk to their physician to see if their health, medical conditions, or medications are putting them at greater risk of hypothermia. Keep plenty of warm blankets handy and sweaters within an arm’s reach. If they have a fireplace or wood-burning stove, double-check their wood supply. ### How can hypothermia be prevented when outdoors? When outdoors, encourage your loved one to bundle up in proper attire to protect them from the cold, moisture, and wind using multiple layers of clothing. We suggest they wear a warm hat since large amounts of body heat can escape through your head. Consider getting them a holiday gift of wool socks, hats, gloves, scarf, and thermal base layers for under their clothing to keep them extra warm and comfortable. During these cold months, it’s not advised for older adults to work outside for long periods of time. Offer to help with yard work or hire help during the winter to assist them. Many of us would not think twice about hypothermia on a 60-degree day. But for our older loved ones, they are at risk of hypothermia. On a day that you might not even wear a coat, they could be in danger. --- ## Driving Danger: When to take away your parents keys URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/driving-danger-when-to-take-the-keys-away/ Focus keyword: driving Category: safety-emergency Tags: alzheimers, dementia, vision-hearing, sleep, driving, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: As your parents age, there comes a day when it's time to take away their keys. Read more as Áegis discusses whether it safe for a senior to continue driving. Whether your loved one should still be driving a car should be based on their physical and mental condition, not only on their age. Many people in good health can drive in their old age, but there are signs to look for and reasons why driving may not be safe. Understand that the subject of driving can be met with resistance. Your loved one may feel like they are losing their independence. You should be prepared before you enter into this discussion. ### How to determine if your loved one should no longer be driving? **Declined vision.** Cataracts, glaucoma, poor depth perception, deteriorated night vision, narrowed peripheral vision, and blurred vision are all very common in older adults and have dangerous consequences for their ability to safely operate a car. Make sure your loved one has a regularly schedule eye appointment to keep on top of any possible issues. **Hearing loss.** If an older loved one is experiencing hearing loss, this can affect their ability to hear warning signs while driving, such as an ambulance siren or a honk from another driver. **Physical limitations and flexibility.** It takes strength in both arms, legs, and feet to properly control a vehicle when driving, especially in difficult weather conditions. A driver also needs to be able to turn their head and body with some flexibility to see their blind spots. **Disease.** Many health conditions can greatly affect person’s driving physically and mentally. If your parent has Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, they can easily become disoriented and run the risk of actually getting lost while driving. Other conditions, like sleep apnea, diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, Parkinson’s disease, and heart disease, can physically limit a driver. In many cases, their condition can change suddenly with no warning. **Medications.** Prescription drugs can have side effects that cause drowsiness and greatly slow reaction time. **Take a ride.** This is an opportunity to observe how your loved one reacts and handles driving, navigating, and parking. Are they competent to drive at night? Can they drive at a higher speed? Do they have trouble reading signs? Do they drift into other lanes? Do they drive erratically - hitting curbs, abruptly changing lanes, not signaling, braking too quickly, or over accelerating? ### How to have the difficult discussion? Set aside some uninterrupted time to have a candid talk about your concerns. Here are few tips: **Be empathetic.** Giving up your driver’s license can be traumatic. Approach this conversation with love and concern for their safety. Do not accuse them or belittle their ability. Consider how you might feel in their situation and understand their concerns. **Involve them in the decision.** Your loved one may understand that it is time to give up the keys to the car, but they may feel that they are losing their independence. It is important to hear and address their concerns. **Encourage them to seek medical advice.**Encourage them to visit a doctor to check on their alertness, vision, and physical ability to drive. A doctor, who concurs with you, may give them a reason to stop. **Legal options.** Legally, there are ways to revoke their driver’s license. You should see this as a last resort, but it is available if they are endangering themselves or others. We suggest trying to have a discussion with them and involving family members and medical professionals first. ### Once the decision has been made for them to stop driving, how can you help? **Research transportation options**. See what is available in their local community. Public transportation, door-to-door services, or volunteer networks are all possible options. Involve available family and friends who may want to help, too. **Make a schedule**. Determine what appointments they have, events they want to attend, errands to run, religious services, and meetings with friends. You do not want them to feel isolated or unable to leave the house. Make a schedule and help them figure out who can drive, combine activities in one trip, or use services to support them. As with [any difficult conversation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/a-conversation-to-have-with-your-mom-that-cant-wait/), keep to the facts, try to see it from their side, and understand that they deserve dignity and respect. This is a life-changing event, and they will need your support beyond just giving them a lift somewhere. If you need additional advice contact an [Áegis](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) professional at the community nearest you. --- ## PTSD in Elderly Veterans Years After Service URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/ptsd-in-elderly-veterans-years-after-service/ Focus keyword: PTSD Category: family-communication Tags: depression-anxiety, dementia, veterans, emotional-wellness, when-its-time, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Read about how Áegis Living offers support for older veterans who suffer from PTSD long after they have returned home and years after combat. Is your dad having difficulty sleeping due to nightmares? Does he seem distracted and uneasy since he retired? Is he taking the death of a friend especially hard and doesn’t seem to be coping with the loss? Is your dad a veteran? Your dad may be experiencing symptoms of PTSD. Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, or commonly known as [PTSD](https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/ptsd/what-is-ptsd), is something we frequently see covered in the news. Most of the time, the stories are referring to younger vets coming back from war - those who have bravely served more recently in Afghanistan and Iraq. But less frequently discussed is the fact that older veterans can also experience PTSD long after they have returned home and years after combat, sometimes even decades later! An entire older generation of veterans from World War II, Korea, and Vietnam are now showing signs of PTSD years after serving. During midlife, these veterans have held down careers, had families, established homes and friendships in their communities. From all accounts, they seemed to have moved past their dark days in the war and adjusted to life outside of the military. But [researchers are finding](https://www.ptsd.va.gov/understand/what/aging_veterans.asp#:~:text=Many%20older%20Veterans%20find%20they,loss%20of%20interest%20in%20activities.) that the aging process for some can trigger PTSD. Whether it’s retirement, losing a loved one, facing their own mortality, diagnosis of a health issue, dementia, or simply having more free time to think about these memories, these stressors can unleash trauma that they have been fighting all their lives to keep a lid on. Mental health professionals have now found a common pattern of symptoms among these older veterans that they have named [Late-Onset Stress Symptomatology or LOSS](https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/assessment/adult-sr/loss_scale.asp). LOSS is similar to PSTD in that the symptoms are alike - nightmares, flashbacks, painful memories, or panic attacks. But LOSS is different from PTSD because these symptoms are often less severe, directly related to the aging process, and linked to a later in life trigger. But as an older veteran begins to feel the effects of their age, some can’t keep their traumatic memories bottled up anymore. **How to Fight LOSS:** - **Talk to a professional.** If you are worried that your dad is showing signs of PTSD, even though he has long been retired from the military, consult with his physician if symptoms arise. They will be able to refer him to a mental health professional. - **Find a [support group](https://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/treatment/cope/peer_support_groups.asp).** Find a local support group that is geared toward helping veterans and those with PTSD. If your dad can no longer drive, offer to drive him or arrange for transportation. - **Involve your family and friends.** Tell your dad’s network of friends and family what is going on with him and ask for their support when needed. - **Live a healthy life.** Encourage your dad to eat a balanced diet, get plenty of sleep, exercise regularly, and try to keep his stress low. If you think your loved one (no matter their age) is living with PTSD, get help. Contact your local [VA hospital](https://www.va.gov/directory/guide/division.asp?dnum=1) or physician to discuss his symptoms and possible treatment options. And for more resources, visit the website for the [U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs](https://www.va.gov/). The staff at [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) would like to thank the men and women who serve or have served to protect our country. It is our extreme honor to care for many of these great veterans within our communities. We wish you a happy and safe Fourth of July! --- ## Vascular Dementia: Symptoms, Causes & Treatment URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/vascular-dementia/ Focus keyword: vascular dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, vascular-dementia, brain-health, legal-planning, for-seniors, alzheimers Summary: Vascular dementia is the second most common form of dementia. Learn the symptoms, causes, diagnosis steps, treatment options, and when memory care is needed. Vascular dementia is cognitive decline caused by reduced blood flow to the brain, most often from a stroke or a series of small strokes. It is the second most common form of dementia after Alzheimer's, and its progression typically happens in sudden "steps" rather than a steady slide. Because it is tied to cardiovascular health, some of its risk factors are within your control. If you are also tracking subtler red flags, start with our pillar guide on the [Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/early-clues-of-dementia/). ## What is vascular dementia, and how is it different from Alzheimer's? Vascular dementia happens when narrowed, blocked, or bleeding blood vessels starve brain tissue of oxygen. A major stroke can cause symptoms overnight. Smaller strokes, sometimes called silent strokes or TIAs, can accumulate damage over years before anyone notices. Roughly 1 in 9 Americans aged 65 and older lives with Alzheimer's or another dementia ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), and vascular changes are a leading contributor. Vascular cognitive impairment is recognized as the second most common cause of dementia in older adults ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/vascular-dementia), 2024). FeatureVascular dementiaAlzheimer's diseaseOnsetOften sudden, after a stroke or TIAGradual, over months to yearsProgressionStep-like, with plateaus between eventsSteady, predictable declineEarliest symptomsSlowed thinking, planning problems, gait changesShort-term memory lossMain risk driversHigh blood pressure, diabetes, smoking, stroke historyAge, genetics, lifestylePrevention potentialPartly preventable through cardiovascular careLimited; lifestyle helps but cause unclearThe two conditions can overlap. When both are present, it is called mixed dementia, and the more dominant pattern usually guides treatment. For a broader overview of dementia types, see our guide to [understanding dementia for families and loved ones](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-dementia-a-guide-for-families-and-loved-ones/). ## What symptoms should you watch for? Unlike Alzheimer's, vascular dementia often hits executive function before long-term memory. Consider an 82-year-old retired accountant who suddenly cannot balance her checkbook the week after a minor stroke. Her recall of childhood vacations is intact, but planning a grocery list now feels impossible. That pattern is classic vascular dementia. Common symptoms include: - Slowed thinking and trouble concentrating - Difficulty planning, organizing, or following instructions - Confusion that worsens at night - Unsteady gait, falls, or new weakness on one side - Mood swings, depression, or apathy - Difficulty finding words or speaking clearly - Bladder urgency or incontinence As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: behavior changes are communication. A parent who suddenly becomes irritable after a stroke may be struggling to process the world at the speed they used to, not "being difficult." ## What causes vascular dementia and who is at risk? The underlying mechanism is always the same: brain cells die when blood flow is interrupted. The triggers vary. StrokeA blocked or burst artery that abruptly cuts off blood to part of the brain.Transient ischemic attack (TIA)A brief blockage, sometimes called a "mini-stroke," that resolves within minutes but can leave cumulative damage.Small vessel diseaseGradual narrowing of tiny brain arteries, often from years of high blood pressure or diabetes.Mixed dementiaVascular damage occurring alongside Alzheimer's pathology in the same person.About 1 in 4 U.S. adults has high blood pressure controlled to target levels ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/high-blood-pressure/about/index.html), 2024), meaning a substantial number of older adults carry uncontrolled risk for vascular brain injury. Heart disease remains the leading cause of death in the United States ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/heart-disease/data-research/facts-stats/index.html), 2024), and the same risk factors that damage the heart, including high cholesterol, smoking, and physical inactivity, also damage the brain. Heavy alcohol use is another contributor; see [Does Alcohol Cause Dementia? What Families Should Know](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/) for the full picture. ## How do doctors diagnose vascular dementia? There is no single blood test. Diagnosis combines history, exam, cognitive screening, and brain imaging. - **Schedule a primary care visit.** Bring a written list of symptoms, when they started, and any stroke or TIA history. - **Expect a cognitive screen.** Tools like the MoCA or Mini-Cog take 10 to 15 minutes and flag attention and executive-function problems. - **Get cardiovascular labs.** Blood pressure, cholesterol, A1C, and homocysteine help map the risk picture. - **Request brain imaging.** An MRI is more sensitive than CT for detecting small strokes and white-matter changes ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/vascular-dementia/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20378798), 2024). - **Ask about a specialist.** A neurologist or geriatrician can rule out other causes and refine the diagnosis. For families weighing additional testing, our companion article on [Alzheimer's tests and how doctors diagnose it](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/suspect-alzheimers-tips-and-tests-for-detection/) walks through overlapping diagnostic steps. ## What treatments can slow the progression? Vascular dementia has no cure, but unlike most dementias, you can slow it by treating what caused it. Tight control of blood pressure, cholesterol, and blood sugar reduces the chance of another stroke (Cleveland Clinic, 2024). Cholinesterase inhibitors such as donepezil are sometimes prescribed off-label when symptoms overlap with Alzheimer's. Lifestyle changes carry real weight. The AARP-backed Global Council on Brain Health identifies physical activity, the Mediterranean-style diet, sleep, and social engagement as the most consistently supported brain-health levers ([AARP Global Council on Brain Health](https://www.aarp.org/health/brain-health/global-council-on-brain-health/), 2023). In selected cases, procedures like carotid endarterectomy can restore blood flow. Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has argued that older adults benefit when medicine treats the whole person rather than a single diagnosis. For vascular dementia, that means managing blood pressure and depression and gait safety together, not as separate problems. ## When does a memory care community become the right choice? Early on, families can do a lot at home: simplify routines, reduce noise, break tasks into smaller steps, and post written cues. As cognition declines, supervision needs grow. Consider a 79-year-old father who lives alone and has had two small strokes. He forgets whether he took his blood pressure medication, drives to the store and gets lost, and falls twice in a month. At that point, a community designed for cognitive impairment is safer than continued solo living. Memory care offers 24/7 trained staff, secured outdoor spaces, medication management, and programming built around dementia behaviors. Áegis Living's Life's Neighborhood® memory care program is purpose-built for these needs. Want help comparing options near you? Visit [find a location](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk with a memory care advisor. ## Frequently asked questions ### How long do people live with vascular dementia? Average life expectancy after diagnosis is often cited as three to five years, though it varies widely based on stroke severity, age, and how well underlying conditions are controlled ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/vascular-dementia), 2024). Aggressive cardiovascular care can extend stable periods. ### Can vascular dementia be reversed? No. Brain tissue lost to stroke does not regrow. Symptoms can sometimes improve modestly after a single stroke as the brain adapts, and progression can be slowed, but the underlying damage is permanent. ### What is the difference between vascular dementia and Alzheimer's? Alzheimer's typically starts with short-term memory loss and progresses steadily. Vascular dementia often starts with planning and attention problems and progresses in step-like jumps tied to vascular events. The two frequently coexist as mixed dementia. ### Is vascular dementia hereditary? The dementia itself is not directly inherited, but family history of stroke, high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart disease raises risk. Lifestyle and medication can offset much of that inherited risk. ### What's the first step if I suspect vascular dementia in a parent? Book a primary care appointment and ask specifically about cognitive screening and stroke risk assessment. Bring written notes about symptoms, falls, and any episodes of confusion. Early diagnosis opens the door to treatments that protect remaining brain function. ### Does Áegis Living provide memory care for vascular dementia? Yes. Our Life's Neighborhood® memory care program supports residents with vascular dementia, Alzheimer's, mixed dementia, and other cognitive conditions, with 24/7 trained caregivers and individualized programming. --- ## Balance: Keeping Steady on Your Feet and Preventing Falls URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/keeping-steady-on-your-feet/ Focus keyword: balance Category: health-conditions Tags: arthritis-mobility, vision-hearing, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Learn common causes of balance issues in older adults and practical fall-prevention tips from Aegis Living, including exercise, hydration, and home safety. Many older adults experience issues with balance as they age. Issues with balance can greatly affect an elderly person’s ability to live on their own. It can interfere with their ability to handle daily tasks such as bathing, cooking, cleaning, or even walking around their home. Balance issues can lead to falls, broken bones, and hospitalization. Being unsteady on their feet can threaten an older adult’s independence. Balance issues seem to be among the medical leading concerns for many older adults. ## The most common balance related symptoms are: - Vertigo, the feeling of moving or spinning - Lightheadedness - Unsteadiness, feeling shaky, weak, and disoriented ## What causes issues with balance? For many adults over the age of 65, it can be one or a combination of these: - Inner ear function - Cardiovascular disease - Arthritis - Headaches and migraines - Panic or stress - Allergies or infections - Nutrition - Leg and feet nerve problems - Low blood pressure - Dehydration - Impaired vision Many older adults may experience dizziness and balance issues that may only be a temporary concern that lasts only a couple of days or weeks. In fact, this can happen at any age. But the real concern is when older adults experience persistent and acute balance issues that cause falls. Balance disorder seems to affect women and men equally, but you don’t need to accept that dizziness is part of normal aging. If properly diagnosed, many balance issues can be treated or diminished with lifestyle changes. ## Healthy lifestyle choices can improve balance and reduce fall risks: - **Proper nutrition.** A balanced diet rich in nutrients from fruits, vegetables, proteins and calcium will help with bone strength and reduce bone fractures. - **Staying active** throughout your life with regular exercise has proven to show a reduced fall risk in older adults. Walking, tai chi, yoga, and swimming are good [low-impact options](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/overcoming-barriers-to-exercise-among-the-elderly/) to improve balance, build strength, and stay active. - **Your home environment.** Take precautions to make your home environment [safe from fall risks](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-dangers-of-falling/). Remove clutter and loose area rugs. Install proper lighting, handrails, and grab bars in the bathroom. - **See the doctor regularly.** Make sure to get regular checkups. Report any changes in your health or concerns about your stability to your medical professional. - **Check your glasses.** See your eye doctor regularly for an up-to-date prescription. Sometimes bifocals or progressive lens can distort vision if the person is looking at their feet. Get screened for cataracts. Poor eyesight can greatly affect your balance and fall risk. - **Hydration.** Many older adults do not drink enough water or fluids throughout the day. Dehydration can cause many health issues in older adults including feelings of lightheadedness and imbalance. If you are experiencing doubts of being unsteady on your feet or falling, speak with your medical professional. Your doctor can explore the medical conditions that may be contributing to your symptoms. To learn more about the risks poor balance contact your nearest [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community. --- ## 5 ways for a caregiver to stay healthy themselves URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-for-caregivers-to-relax-and-rejuvenate/ Focus keyword: caregiver Category: family-communication Tags: depression-anxiety, nutrition, exercise-fitness, emotional-wellness, for-caregivers Summary: Discover caregiver relaxation tips from Aegis Living, including exercise, deep breathing, self-care, and simple ways to reduce stress and recharge. You work hard as a caregiver, but let’s face it; we all need a break from time to time. It can be tough to recharge your batteries when you are looking after your parent, especially on those days when you are exhausted from life’s other mental and physical drains. Releasing tension, stress and anxiety is important for everyone. You need to be fully present and at ease when you are focusing attention on those who need you most. Feeling overwhelmed and tired isn’t just difficult for you; it’s also not the best situation for your loved one’s well-being. You may think that you shouldn’t enjoy free time if you’re loved one needs care, or you may worry that something bad might happen if you take time for yourself. Constantly filling your mind with “what if?” situations isn’t going to help either of you. ## Caregiver Relaxation Tips: ### 1. Go for a hike or walk Exercising is perhaps the healthiest way to deal with unwanted stress. Taking a walk or hike in a local park allows you to unplug, enjoy nature and work up a sweat. Serotonin, your body’s all-natural “feel good” hormone, is released when you exercise, which can definitely help you feel more positive. You can either take in the relaxing sounds of nature or plug in your ear buds and listen to your favorite song as you wander along the path. ### 2. Enjoy a nice meal If you have always wanted to check out that new restaurant everyone is raving about, go for it. Sometimes it is important to treat yourself to those little things that brighten up your day. Next time you feel like the stress of caregiving is too much, head to your favorite bakery, eatery or ice cream shop and enjoy your favorite food, even if it is just for a few minutes. If you are watching what you eat or don’t have the time or expenses for fine dining, drink a warm cup of herbal tea or coffee and clear your head for a few minutes. ### 3. Get lost in a book or watch a movie Sometimes we all need a little escape when we feel overwhelmed, and catching up on a good story is a great way to do so. Whether you are buried deep in a novel, spending some time with your tablet or watching an old movie, escaping from the pressures of caregiving for a few hours could be just the thing you need to relax. ### 4. Have a spa day You love taking care of others, but it’s good to pamper yourself once in a while. You can make a day of it with a facial or massage or relax with a pedicure and manicure. If you can’t spring for a spa day, bring the rejuvenation home by spending an hour in a warm and luxurious bubble bath, then get cozy in your favorite pajamas. ### 5. Breathe deep There are many natural ways to calm your nerves if you feel overwhelmed. Many health experts agree that light yoga, meditation and deep breathing exercises can reduce stress and allow you to focus on the present. This can keep you focused, calm and centered on the moment rather than worrying about things you can’t control. Don’t let your role as a caregiver be overrun with stress and exhaustion. Although caring for your parent is important, you need to take personal time to better your well-being and give your parent the support he or she needs. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you need a short break. Contact the Áegis Living [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you and ask about short term stays. --- ## How to Find the Right Power of Attorney Lawyer URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/ Focus keyword: power of attorney lawyer Category: financial-legal Tags: dementia, alzheimers, assisted-living, brain-health, veterans, legal-planning, costs-funding Summary: How to choose the right power of attorney lawyer for an aging parent - what to ask, what to bring, costs, and when to start before capacity slips. To find the right **power of attorney (POA) lawyer** for an aging parent, hire a state-licensed **elder law attorney** - ideally a member of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (NAELA) or a Certified Elder Law Attorney (CELA) - who routinely handles incapacity planning, Medicaid, and long-term care. Schedule the first consultation as soon as a cognitive diagnosis is suspected, bring a full financial inventory and existing legal documents, and get all fees in writing before signing an engagement letter. ## Why does choosing the right POA attorney matter so much? A power of attorney is the legal hinge on which your parent's later years swing. A poorly drafted POA - or one signed too late - can leave your family unable to pay bills, sell a home, or qualify a parent for Medicaid without a costly court guardianship. The stakes are not abstract. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026), and cognitive decline directly affects the legal capacity required to sign a valid POA. As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, the most important planning conversations should happen *before* a crisis - because once capacity is gone, your options narrow to court intervention. ## What is a power of attorney, in plain English? Power of Attorney (POA) A legal document in which one person (the "principal") gives another person (the "agent" or "attorney-in-fact") authority to act on their behalf. Durable POA Stays in effect even if the principal becomes mentally incapacitated. This is the version most families need for dementia planning. Springing POA Takes effect only when a triggering event occurs - usually a doctor's certification of incapacity. Useful, but can cause delays at the worst possible moment. Healthcare POA (or Healthcare Proxy) Authorizes the agent to make medical decisions. Often paired with a living will or [POLST form](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-a-polst-form/). Financial POA Authorizes the agent to handle banking, taxes, real estate, and benefits applications. For a deeper primer on roles and limits, see our complete guide to [power of attorney for seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-power-of-attorney/). ## When should you start looking for a POA lawyer? Start the moment a doctor mentions mild cognitive impairment, early Alzheimer's, or any condition likely to affect decision-making. To sign a valid POA, your parent must still have **legal capacity** - meaning they understand what the document does and who they are appointing. The Alzheimer's Association recommends beginning legal planning immediately after diagnosis, while the person can still participate meaningfully ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/financial-legal-planning), 2024). Two examples illustrate the timing problem: - **Too late:** Consider an 82-year-old father with moderate dementia who can no longer name a clear preference for his agent. The family must file for court-appointed guardianship - a process that can take 3 to 6 months and cost several thousand dollars in legal and filing fees. - **On time:** Imagine a 76-year-old mother diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment who meets with an elder law attorney within six weeks, signs a durable POA naming her daughter, and includes Medicaid-planning language. When her condition worsens two years later, her daughter steps in without ever entering a courtroom. If your family is still in the earlier stages, our overview on [when to start planning for long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/start-planning-for-long-term-care/) walks through the broader timeline. ## Why hire an elder law attorney instead of a general practice lawyer? A general practitioner can draft a basic POA. An elder law attorney does that *and* integrates it with Medicaid eligibility rules, veterans benefits, special needs planning, asset protection, and long-term care contracts. The median cost of a private room in a nursing home is about $10,800 per month ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). A POA drafted without Medicaid-friendly gifting language can disqualify your parent from benefits for years. That single drafting choice can cost a family six figures. ### Comparing your attorney options Attorney typeBest forTypical flat fee for POA packageWatch-outs Elder law attorney (NAELA member or CELA)Dementia, Medicaid, VA Aid & Attendance, complex estates$500 - $2,500Higher upfront cost; worth it when medical or financial issues are complex Estate planning attorneyWills, trusts, healthy seniors with straightforward assets$300 - $1,500May not know current Medicaid look-back rules General practice attorneySimple POA, no cognitive concerns$150 - $600Limited depth on long-term care planning Online legal serviceHealthy adults with simple needs only$35 - $150No personalized advice; not recommended after a dementia diagnosis Ranges reflect typical national pricing as of 2024 and vary by state and case complexity ([National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys](https://www.naela.org/), 2024). ## How do you actually find a qualified elder law attorney? - **Search the NAELA directory.** Use the [NAELA lawyer finder](https://www.naela.org/findlawyer) ([NAELA](https://www.naela.org/), 2024) to locate members in your parent's state. - **Check for CELA certification.** A Certified Elder Law Attorney has passed a rigorous exam through the National Elder Law Foundation - the gold-standard credential in the field. - **Call the Eldercare Locator.** Dial 1-800-677-1116 or visit the federal [Eldercare Locator](https://eldercare.acl.gov/home) ([Administration for Community Living](https://acl.gov/), 2024) for free referrals to your local Area Agency on Aging. - **Ask your state bar association** for its lawyer referral service. Most vet for malpractice insurance and good standing - see the [American Bar Association directory of state referral services](https://www.americanbar.org/groups/legal_services/flh-home/flh-bar-directories-and-lawyer-finders/) ([American Bar Association](https://www.americanbar.org/), 2024). - **Get two warm referrals from people who've been through it** - a geriatric care manager, your parent's primary care doctor, or a senior living community's family advisor. - **Interview at least two attorneys** before signing an engagement letter. Most offer a free 15- to 30-minute consultation. ## What questions should you ask in the consultation? - What percentage of your practice is elder law? - Are you a NAELA member or CELA-certified? - How do you charge - flat fee, hourly, or hybrid? Get the answer in writing. - Have you handled cases involving Alzheimer's or dementia in the past year? - Do you draft Medicaid-compliant POAs with explicit gifting powers? - Who in your office will I actually work with - you, a paralegal, or an associate? - How quickly can documents be ready, and how are signings handled if my parent can't travel? As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, has long emphasized, everyone on a dementia journey - including attorneys - needs to meet the person where they are. A lawyer who can sit calmly with a parent who repeats questions or needs extra time is worth more than one with a shinier office. If you sense impatience or condescension in the consultation, keep looking. ## What documents should you bring to the first appointment? Arriving organized cuts billable hours and helps the attorney spot planning gaps quickly. Bring: - Government-issued photo ID for your parent - Copies of any existing POA, will, trust, or advance directive - The last two years of federal tax returns - Real estate deeds and current mortgage statements - Bank, brokerage, and retirement account statements (most recent) - Life insurance policies, including cash-value figures - Long-term care insurance policy, if any - Health insurance cards: Medicare, Medigap, Medicare Advantage, or Medicaid ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/), 2024) - Veterans discharge papers (DD-214) if your parent served - An itemized list of assets, debts, and beneficiary designations - Names, addresses, and phone numbers of proposed agents and successor agents ## How much should you expect to pay a power of attorney lawyer? For a stand-alone durable POA, flat fees commonly run $200 to $500 nationally as of 2024. A comprehensive elder law package - durable financial POA, healthcare POA, HIPAA release, living will, and a simple will - typically costs $1,000 to $2,500. Full Medicaid asset-protection planning with an irrevocable trust can run $4,000 to $10,000. Ask whether the firm offers a **life-care planning** retainer that bundles legal work with care coordination. For families navigating dementia, that integrated model often pays for itself in avoided crises. For more on the strategic value of a properly drafted POA, see [why do we need a power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/). ## What red flags should make you walk away? - Refuses to put fees in writing - Pressures you to also buy an annuity or insurance product through an affiliated firm - Drafts a generic POA without asking about Medicaid, gifting, or real estate transfers - Won't meet privately with your parent to confirm understanding - Has open disciplinary actions with the state bar (always search the bar's online directory) - Promises guaranteed Medicaid approval - no ethical attorney guarantees an outcome ## What happens after the POA documents are signed? Signing is not the finish line. Take these steps within 30 days: - Give the original document to the named agent and store a notarized copy in a fireproof location. - Deliver copies to your parent's primary care physician, hospital system, and Medicare or insurance carriers. - Submit the financial POA to your parent's bank, brokerage, and pension administrator - some institutions require their own internal form on top of the legal POA. - If real estate is involved, record the POA with the county recorder's office where the property sits. - Calendar a review every 3 to 5 years, or sooner after any major life change such as a move, new diagnosis, or death of an agent. ## Frequently asked questions ### Can a person with dementia still sign a power of attorney? Yes - if they still have legal capacity at the moment of signing. Capacity is decision-specific, not all-or-nothing, and early-stage dementia does not automatically disqualify someone. An elder law attorney will typically meet privately with your parent to confirm understanding, and may ask a physician to document capacity that same week. ### What's the difference between power of attorney and guardianship? Power of attorney is chosen voluntarily by your parent while they still have capacity. Guardianship (called conservatorship in some states) is imposed by a court after capacity is lost, often costing thousands of dollars and several months of delays. A timely POA is the single most effective way to avoid guardianship. ### Do I need a lawyer, or can I use an online template? For a healthy adult with simple finances, a state-specific online form may be adequate. For anyone with a dementia diagnosis, real estate in multiple states, blended families, business interests, or potential Medicaid needs, an elder law attorney is strongly recommended by the [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/financial-legal-planning/legal-documents). Drafting errors are usually discovered at the worst possible moment. ### Can one person hold both financial and healthcare POA? Yes, and it is common. Some families split the roles - for example, the daughter who lives nearby handles healthcare decisions while the son who is a CPA handles finances. Whichever you choose, always name a **successor agent** in case your first choice is unavailable. ### How long does the whole POA process take? From first call to signed documents, expect 2 to 6 weeks for a standard POA package. Medicaid planning with trusts can take 2 to 4 months. If your parent's capacity is declining quickly, tell the attorney up front - most firms can expedite when medically necessary. ### Does a POA from one state work in another? Usually, yes - but financial institutions sometimes resist out-of-state forms. If your parent has homes or accounts in multiple states, ask the attorney to draft a POA that complies with each relevant state's statute, or to prepare a second state-specific version. ## Get support beyond the legal documents Legal planning is one piece of a bigger picture that includes care setting, daily support, and family caregiving capacity. If you're weighing the next step for a parent with memory loss or rising care needs, our team can help you compare options. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through what comes next. --- ## Hydration is a Must for a Healthy Brain URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-for-a-healthy-brain/ Focus keyword: brain Category: healthy-aging Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, sleep, fall-prevention, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: A hydrated brain is a healthy brain, which is why Áegis Living strives to keep seniors with Alzheimer's quenched and their minds sharp. Learn more here. You learn from a young age the importance of drinking enough water every day. Staying hydrated is essential for balancing bodily fluids, cleansing the body of toxins and maintaining bowel function, but for people with Alzheimer’s, water’s effects on the brain may be the most important. A young and healthy brain cannot function properly without enough water, and people with this [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) can be affected even more, as a lack of liquids can cause symptoms to worsen. Dehydration and Alzheimer’s are a dangerous combination. Áegis Living understands how essential it is to avoid dehydration among seniors - each [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community takes action with this information by putting initiatives into effect to ensure that residents keep their brains well hydrated. Learn more about keeping seniors hydrated and how Áegis works to promote hydration: ## How dehydration and Alzheimer’s affect the brain About three-fourths of the brain is made up of water, and the organ requires an ample supply of the liquid to work at peak capacity. Gray matter actually shrinks, and consistent dehydration can cause the brain to age more quickly than normal. It’s a growing concern among older adults in general, and [government research shows](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3415810/) that dehydration is one of the primary reasons that people 65 and older are sent to the emergency room. For a person who has trouble remembering or often feels disoriented, even mild dehydration can be detrimental to his or her health and quality of life. A lack of water can aggravate symptoms of dementia, causing mental fatigue, sudden changes in mood, confusion and trouble processing information as well as nausea, loss of balance and headache. In severe cases, it can lead to heat stroke and unconsciousness. A well hydrated brain, on the other hand, benefits from enhanced concentration, memory function maintenance, mood balance and even better sleep quality. Water is also essential for heart health and muscle and joint function, all of which are necessary for staying physically active - another way to keep the brain oxygenated and sharp. Unfortunately, people with dementia are at a heightened risk of becoming dehydrated. They may simply forget to drink, and some have trouble communicating their needs to their caregivers. Additionally, certain medications can decrease the body’s levels of liquids. Seniors with incontinence issues have even purposefully avoided drinking in order to urinate less often. It doesn’t help that, as people get older, their sense of thirst gradually diminishes. ## Keeping Áegis residents hydrated Since signs and symptoms of dehydration in individuals with Alzheimer’s are similar to those of dementia, unknowing caregivers too often overlook dehydration as simply the effects of the condition. But the staff at Áegis Living are trained to recognize dehydration. Along with experiencing enhanced dementia symptoms, seniors may have dry mouth, fatigue, muscle weakness, lightheadedness, dizziness and rapid breathing as well as low urine output or yellow urine. Knowing how to spot dehydration is great, but avoiding it altogether is the real goal at Áegis Living. The Alzheimer’s Association recommends keeping those with Alzheimer’s hydrated by making fluids easily accessible. That’s why there are hydration stations located throughout each assisted living center, making water accessible to seniors at all hours of the day. These beverages are made more attractive for seniors with natural flavors such as slices of lemon and strawberry. Additionally, there are visible notes that remind residents to drink at least 8 ounces of water five times per day. Áegis Living also makes staying hydrated fun and delicious in other ways. For example, the assisted living leader teamed up with Michele Clarke-Mason, previously a nutritionist for the Seattle Seahawks, to come up with an engaging way to quench thirst. She developed a healthy smoothie that not only provides nutrients and liquids to the body but also enhances brain health. The Stealthy Green Smoothie combines essential antioxidants with the natural superfood kale, among other ingredients, to create an anti-inflammatory effect and building blocks for minerals and neurotransmitters that enhance brain function. ## The Áegis commitment to brain health Keeping residents quenched is just one of the many ways that [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) strives to boost cognitive wellness. Each community ensures that seniors eat a balanced diet for optimal mental function. By incorporating brain-boosting superfoods, such as salmon, blueberries and whole grains, into meals, communities aim to enhance quality of life by keeping the mind alert and body healthy. --- ## Planning for retirement: 6 Tips for saving now URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/planning-for-retirement-tips-for-saving-now/ Focus keyword: retirement Category: financial-legal Tags: fall-prevention, social-connection, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living assisted living and memory care communities offers tips for getting a start on saving for retirement. Read more here. Most of us want to begin saving for retirement but don’t know where to begin. For [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/), there’s a lot more that goes into retirement than just finances. There are many steps that require planning and commitment, and most of these begin years before you decide to retire. Despite how important this phase of one’s life is, the U.S. Department of Labor states that fewer than one-half of Americans have determined how much they actually need to save for retirement. These facts are astounding considering that the average American spends 20 years of their life in retirement. ### Consider your spending habits Do you enjoy a few nice dinners out during the month? Can’t live without that morning latte every day? Do you and your spouse always plan on a week-long vacation during the summer? Whatever those little extras are, you will need to factor them into your savings plan so that you can balance your finances accordingly. ### Know your Social Security benefits Everyone’s benefits package will be different depending on their salary and how long they worked. Determine what your Social Security will be beforehand so that you know how much additional savings you will need for the long-term. You can find out more about your benefits by visiting [www.ssa.gov](http://www.ssa.gov) or calling the Social Security Administration at 1-800-772-1213 for a free statement. ### Life expectancy is getting longer, plan accordingly Although you will never actually know how long you are going to live, one thing is for certain: Life expectancy is getting longer. You should keep this in mind when investing your savings. According to the Employee Benefit Research Institute, a man retiring at age 65 has a 50 percent chance of living to age 81. For women, the age is 85. This means that you will need to start thinking about 20+ years of investment into savings. ### Expect the unexpected There’s a chance that you may have to retire earlier than you would like, perhaps due to health problems or an unexpected downsize at work. If you have enough capital invested in your rainy day fund, you can afford to add a few more years to the standard retirement age. Keep in mind that even though you may take all the necessary steps toward your retirement, you may still have to work part-time to earn extra spending cash. ### Become versed in your company’s 401(k) plan Many companies offer 401(k) programs for their employees, and it’s never too early to sign up and start contributing to it, even in your 20s and 30s. This way, you can figure out how much interest will accumulate, your employer’s contribution and the amount of time you will need to add to the plan to enjoy the amount of money you need to retire comfortably. ### Be smart and invest in an IRA Starting now, Americans can add as much as $6,000 per year into an IRA, and you can increase that number once you hit age 50. Not only is this a smart way to plan out your future spending, these types of programs provide tax advantages as well. There are two kinds of IRAs: Traditional and Roth, both of which have their perks. You can even speak to an accountant about which one is best for you and have an amount automatically deducted from your checking or savings account without fuss. If you need a referral for a financial adviser or retirement planning professional contact the [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community near you and ask for the Marketing Director who should have a contact for you. --- ## Is it time for your parent to stop driving? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-its-time-for-your-parent-to-stop-driving/ Focus keyword: stop driving Category: family-communication Tags: vision-hearing, dementia, driving, safety-at-home, when-its-time, costs-funding, for-adult-children Summary: As your parents grow older, one day it will be time to take away their keys. Learn about the signs that it might be time to have that difficult conversation. Some of the most difficult talks you can have with an aging parent are those that may make them feel like you are stepping too far into their independence. One of those is “the driving talk.” Although this conversation may be tough, it’s definitely one worth having, especially considering the [possible danger](http://fitnesstodrive.phhp.ufl.edu/us/questionnaire.php) to him or herself and other drivers on the road. Whether your parent has been diagnosed with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) or not, there are some signs that they may need to hand over the keys. The last thing that they would want is to have a car accident decide whether or not they are suitable to drive. ## Common signs that the risks are too great for your parent to be behind the wheel: ### Hearing loss While on the road, your mother needs to be able to hear sirens, horns and other noises that are in place for public safety. If your mother is affected by hearing loss, this can make things quite difficult - not to mention unsafe. Typically, hearing impairment is something that gradually develops over time, so be sure that your mother undergoes frequent hearing tests and talks to her physician to see if she is still fit to drive. ### Vision problems Besides the ability to hear, the most crucial aspect of your senses when it comes to driving is vision. There are many things a driver needs to see while on the road, from the speedometer on their dashboard to road signs to pedestrians crossing the street. Unfortunately, as they get older, many seniors experience vision problems, including cataracts, glaucoma and just poor eyesight. In addition to auditory tests, be sure that your older loved one is visiting an eye doctor for more insight into her ability to see the road. If they encounter sensitivity to bright lights or is losing their peripheral vision, they may have issues yielding or understanding right of way, which can definitely cause problems behind the wheel. ### Memory problems and dementia If your father is in even the early [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/), it is probably best that he stays off of the road. There are several reasons why memory loss can create problems while driving. For example, your father may forget major safety issues, such as putting on his seat belt, turning on lights, using the turn signal or reacting quickly enough to oncoming traffic. ### Damage to the car If you are starting to see dents and scratches that you have never noticed before on your mother’s car, it’s an indication that she might be having problems with depth perception or may have caused an infraction with another motorist without even noticing it. While you are checking for damage, it’s probably a good idea to double check her car insurance rates and find out if she has received any recent warnings or tickets from police officers due to traffic violations. Your loved one’s safety is of the utmost importance. If you feel the need to have “the driving talk” it’s best that you do so soon to avoid a potentially dangerous situation down the line. Contact one of our [professionals](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) for more advice on how to have this difficult conversation. --- ## FREE Download: Emergency Preparedness “About Me” Form URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/free-download-disaster-preparedness-about-me-form/ Focus keyword: emergency kit Category: safety-emergency Tags: dementia, alzheimers, safety-at-home, for-seniors Summary: If you have an older loved one with dementia or Alzheimer's, be prepared for any situation. Download and keep this form to help a loved one if disaster strikes. ### You never know when a natural disaster could strike. So be prepared. If you are the caretaker of a senior with dementia, and you are unable to be with them or somehow get separated, make sure this free downloadable form is packed with their survival necessities that include: A 4-day supply of medicines, energy bars, bottled water and clothes, and out-of-town contacts - all in a backpack to grab and go if necessary. Keep this form in your emergency kit to help a loved one with dementia or Alzheimer’s if disaster strikes. Contact us to download the form. Contact the [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community near you to learn more about planning for a crisis or emergency. --- ## How Seniors Can Avoid Tax Scams URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-avoid-tax-scams/ Focus keyword: tax scams Category: financial-legal Tags: safety-at-home, social-connection, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors, fall-prevention Summary: Tax scammers often target seniors, preying on the open and trustworthy nature of this vulnerable population. Read about some ways you can avoid tax scammers. There are three letters that can strike fear in our hearts - IRS, the Internal Revenue Service. If you were to pick up the phone and a professional voice is stating their official sounding “IRS badge number” to you, would you question it? Would you push your luck with the supposed “IRS representative” if they knew your name, address and last 4 digits of your social security number? Would you hang up if they were demanding your bank account number? These tax scams are intimidating scenarios that happens repeatedly to seniors every year with tragic results. As tax day quickly approaches, tax scammers are in full gear targeting senior citizens. They prey on the open and trustworthy nature of this vulnerable population. There are two types of tax scams that commonly target our senior population: - Identity fraud where a thief will impersonate someone and file a false tax return as that person. - Phone or email scams where they [impersonate the IRS](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0y5z0kWgBcM) and either ask for payment on a claim or offer to send you the refund. “As professionals who work with seniors daily, [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) wants to help this vulnerable population not fall victim to these heinous scams,” says Tom Laborde, Chief Operating Officer at Áegis Living. “Sadly, many of these crimes go unreported because the victim is embarrassed and ashamed. We want to empower seniors with information on how to avoid these scams.” ### Identity Fraud Identity fraud can occur when someone uses your personal information, such as your name, address, and social security number, without your permission to commit fraud. In the case of tax fraud, a thief will use your identity to file a fraudulent tax return to claim a refund. ### How to protect yourself: - **Protect sensitive information.** The best advice to avoid this scam is to protect your personal information, account numbers, social security number, credit card information, and other identifying personal information. Shred your [sensitive documents.](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-to-protect-seniors-from-financial-fraud/) - **File your taxes early.** Beat them to the punch with your paperwork submitted to the IRS as early as possible. If you file your taxes with the IRS before a thief, you are less vulnerable to a false tax return being filed. - **Contact the IRS.** If you believe that you are at risk of identity theft, contact the IRS immediately so they can secure your tax account. Contact the [IRS Identity Protection.](https://www.irs.gov/Individuals/Identity-Protection) ### Phone or Email Tax Scam If you are contacted by phone or email by the IRS, then you are being targeted by a tax scam. Aggressive individuals that contact you for immediate payment or claim that you are getting a refund and need your bank account are not part of the IRS. ### How to avoid phone or email tax scams: - **The IRS is calling you**. A phone call from the IRS should be the first and most important sign that this is a tax scam. IRS representatives do not call if you owe money or if they owe you a refund, they will first contact you by certified mail with a written notice. And if you have a refund, they will send it to you. - **The IRS is sending you an email.**Again, these are tax scams. The IRS will contact you first by certified mail if there is an issue with your taxes. - **Aggressive and threatening tone.** If the caller threatens to call the police, evict you from your home, revoke your driver’s license, or not process your refund, this is a scam. - **They may know your name, address, and last four digits of your social security number.** Unfortunately, scammers are getting better at their scams. They may have your information but this does not prove that they are with the IRS. - **Require payment method immediately.**The thief will often ask for a specific type of payment like a wire transfer or a prepared debit card. The real IRS accepts many forms of payment and would never ask for a credit card or debit card number over the telephone or through an email. - **Offer no chance to dispute a claim**. If they give you no time to verify the claim or amount owed, this is not legitimate. - **Some scams will claim to have a refund for you.**A red flag should go up if anyone is asking you for a bank account and routing number over the phone. They are interested in getting more information from you to access your money. If you have a refund from the IRS, they will send it to you. - **Looks are not always what they seem.**They may appear to have an IRS phone number on your caller id or their bogus email may look professional but a scam artist will take the time to look like they are with the IRS as part of the scam. Be skeptical. - **Call the IRS yourself.**If you have a concern about your tax return, contact the IRS directly yourself. If the person is legitimately with the IRS, they will have no problem if you ask to call them back. Visit the [IRS official website](https://www.irs.gov/) to find contact information and more information about tax scams. --- ## Respite Care to Support the Caregiver URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/short-term-care-to-support-the-caregiver/ Focus keyword: respite care Category: caregiver-support Tags: respite-care, emotional-wellness, social-connection, legal-planning, moving-in, for-caregivers, for-adult-children Summary: As the caregiver of an aging parent, the stress of care giving can be emotionally and physically exhausting. Time to consider respite care. At one time or another, you may feel like you are about to hit a wall. As the caregiver of an aging parent, the stress of caregiving can be emotionally and physically exhausting. This is a tremendous responsibility filled with emotional hurdles, financial pressure, health concerns, and uncertainty. It’s no wonder many family caregivers will face burnout at some point. How do you deal with balancing your personal life, work, children, and caring for a parent? At Áegis Living, we understand the patience and energy that it takes to be a full-time caregiver. We’ve hired a host of skilled staff with expertise in managing the unique challenges of caring for an older family member. Our communities are set up to support our senior residents with all the comforts of home. If you are feeling over-stressed, there are options to make sure your loved one is cared for and gives you the relief and break that you may need. **Respite Care**. If you need a much-deserved break or if you are leaving town and need a temporary place for your mom to stay while you are gone, respite care can be your solution. [Respite care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/) allows for your mom to stay at one of our communities on a temporary basis. She will stay in a well-appointed private apartment for her very own “staycation.” During her time with us, she will enjoy fine dining, luxurious amenities, enriching activities, and newfound friendships. A short-term stay is also helpful to provide extra assistance after your parent has been discharged from the hospital. This will give them additional time to heal. Some family members enjoy their stay so much that they choose to move into a community. Our trained staff will care for your mom as if she is a permanent part of our community. Although filled with joy and gratitude, caring for your mom can also be difficult at times. Don’t wait until you are at a breaking point to ask for help. Support is available. [Visit an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to meet our staff and find a solution to fit your needs. --- ## New Year’s resolutions of a caregiver URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiver-new-years-resolutions/ Focus keyword: dedicated caregiver Category: seasonal-holidays Tags: respite-care, assisted-living, nutrition, medication-management, legal-planning, moving-in, for-caregivers Summary: At Áegis Living, our wish as we go into the new year is that our dedicated caregivers remain happy and healthy. Read more about our new years resolution here. As we sing “Auld Lang Syne” at midnight on New Year’s Eve, many caregivers for their aging parent or elderly loved ones will make their resolutions for the upcoming year. At Áegis Living, our wish is these dedicated caregivers are happy and healthy in 2021. We hope that you successfully master the tasks of your daily life, balanced with the care needs of your elderly loved one. As you make your resolutions, here are a few ideas that we hope will help you through this coming year: ## Don’t judge yourself too harshly. No one is completely prepared for caring for their aging parent or loved one. You may find yourself on a steep learning curve, depending on their level of care. Take it day-by-day and know that you are doing the best that you can. This is not the time to berate yourself but to focus on the list of the most important tasks at hand. ## Ask for help. Don’t feel like you have to do this alone. Asking for help can be difficult, but you need to think about this as a marathon and to pace yourself. Friends and family can be a huge resource for support, whether near or far. Allocate small tasks like grocery shopping, house cleaning, driving to appointments, or researching care facilities or doctors online. Often friends and family want to help but they just don’t know how. It may be up to you to ask for help. ## Join a support group. You may be thinking to yourself ‘where is the time for that?’ Trust us, finding support from those who understand is invaluable to your wellbeing. Support groups can offer tips and assistance that you did not even to know to ask for. Learn from others who have been there. Find support from those who can empathize. ## Research online. There are many resources online, such as the [Áegis Resource Center](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/), which can offer your information, tips, and advice from seasoned professionals in the industry. We know that caregiving can be overwhelming but there are many articles and associations online that can assist on your search for information and support. ## Give yourself a break. Try a [short term stay](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/) to care for your loved one at an assisted living community. You may need to take a short trip, plan a staycation at home, reconnect with your family and friends, or just give yourself a few days to recharge. Many assisted living communities offer short term stays for your loved one, where care staff can administer medication, provide meals throughout the day, accommodate them in a comfortable private room, and assist with the activities of daily living (ADL). Your loved one will participate in activities and meet other seniors. A short term stay can also be a great alternative for seniors who are resistant to move into an assisted living community. A short term stay gives them an opportunity to try living in a community for a short amount of time to see how they like it. ## Keep organized. This may sound like a daunting project, but taking the time to organize your caregiving tasks can help to relieve your stress. [Organize your loved one’s medications](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/be-medical-advocate-for-aging-parent/) at the beginning of each week, keep a complete list of your parent’s doctors with contact information, update your calendar with appointments, or manage their finances into a spreadsheet. Taking time to organize will help you feel in control of your situation. ## Keep Safe Finally, make sure your home is safe. Pay particular attention to the kitchen; you may have to remove the knobs from the stovetop, or add a lock to the knife drawer. Car keys made need to be secured as well. If there are firearms in the house it is essential that they are locked in a safe. Remove obstacles if your loved one is prone to falls, this includes throw rugs and especially glass topped coffee and end tables. Put yourself in their place. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) we hope that you and your family find health, happiness, and peace in the new year. --- ## Honoring and Helping our Aging Veterans URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/honoring-and-helping-our-aging-veterans/ Focus keyword: honoring veterans Category: healthy-aging Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, veterans, for-spouses Summary: At Áegis Living, it has been our privilege and pleasure to care for many veterans and their family members over the years. Read about how we honor veterans. Veterans Day is our opportunity to honor the men and women in uniform who have bravely fought for our freedom and served our country. At Áegis Living, it has been our privilege and pleasure to care for many veterans and their family members over the years in our assisted living and memory care communities. We are grateful to serve and support our veterans with dignity for the many sacrifices they have made in their lifetime. They are truly our heroes. On this special day, we honor our military - both young and old - for their brave service. It is our honor to care for the veterans in our communities and hopefully, make a difference in the lives of your loved ones. Here are two of the many ways we honor our veterans living at Áegis Living: **Bringing Awareness to Veterans Benefits** Veterans over the age of 65 now number more than 12.6 million. These veterans have seen conflicts around the world, including World War II, the Korean War, the Vietnam War and even the Persian Gulf War. The Department of Veteran Affairs is committed to providing benefits and services to these aging veterans, including their changing healthcare needs. But many are not getting the benefits they are eligible for because veterans and their families are unaware of the [available programs](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/) and how to file for these benefits. Did you know the VA Aid and Attendance program benefits may be available to you to help pay for assisted living and memory care expenses? Under the VA Aid and Attendance Special Pension, also known as the [A&A Pension](http://www.benefits.va.gov/pension/aid_attendance_housebound.asp), qualified veterans or their surviving spouses can receive tax-free monthly sums meant to help defray the costs of [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). To be eligible, you must be a veteran who has served at least 90 days in active duty with at least one day during wartime. You must have been honorably discharged, and some income restrictions may apply. For more information and to see if you are eligible, contact a Veterans Service Officer at a [regional VA office](http://www.va.gov/directory/guide/home.asp?isFlash=0) or call 1.800.827.1000. **The Áegis Living Wall of Honor** Inspired by our many residents who have served in the military, Áegis Living is proud to offer families a special way to honor our veterans. The Áegis Wall of Honor on our Áegis Living [Facebook page](https://www.facebook.com/AegisLiving/). It is our way of recognizing those who have served in the military for all to see. --- ## Five Fun Fall and Holiday Crafts for Senior Adults URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/five-fall-crafts-for-senior-adults/ Focus keyword: crafts Category: seasonal-holidays Tags: fall-prevention, hobbies-activities, moving-in, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: Keep your aging loved one engaged indoors. Explore 5 budget-friendly fall crafts for seniors and see how Áegis Living promotes creative expression As the leaves begin to change color and the chill of fall is in the air, we are spending more of our days indoors where it’s warm and toasty. If you are a caregiver caring for an elderly parent, you may want a few suggestions on how to spend your time inside with craft projects for adults. So put the kettle on and brew a cup of tea or cocoa to review these fun ideas you can enjoy with your elderly parent and invite the kids to join in too. ### 5 Fall Crafts for Seniors #### 1.**Pumpkin Spice** Fall is an excellent time of year to get into the pumpkin spirit by making pumpkin crafts that can be displayed at Halloween and carry your décor through to Thanksgiving. With a few simple supplies, you can make these spinning [paper pumpkin](https://meaningfulmama.com/day-276-paper-pumpkin-craft-tutorial.html#_a5y_p=2484789) ornaments in a sweet design that you can keep hanging up through your Thanksgiving turkey dinner. Hang a cluster of these at different heights from the ceiling or over a dining room table for impact. Alternatively, this [wine cork pumpkin](https://decorbytheseashore.com/diy-wine-cork-pumpkin-tutorial/) can make a darling centerpiece, using what you currently have around the house. #### 2.**Welcoming Wreath** A perfect fall item to display on the front door is a wreath to welcome your guests. A wreath can set the tone for the décor that is inside and easily be changed out to meet each new season. Heat up your glue gun, gather supplies from your local craft store or items like acorns and leaves from your backyard, and get creative! The muted color and texture using [unbleached coffee filters](http://www.recapturedcharm.com/2012/09/fall-coffee-filter-wreath.html) to make a wreath sets the tone for the season in this unique design. #### 3.**Bang for Your Buck** Crafts don’t need to be expensive to look expensive. You can make inexpensive craft projects from items that you can pick up at the dollar store. Here is a [wonderful collection of fun projects](https://www.prudentpennypincher.com/dollar-store-fall-decor-ideas/) that won’t break the bank! #### 4.**Rock Painting** Join this fun craze that would be perfect to participate in during the fall season: [painting rocks and hiding them](https://www.parentmap.com/article/painted-rocks-treasure-hunt-kid-craze)! You can even join a rock painting Facebook page to see if your creations are found. Then take a walk through the leaves and hide them. Tip: After your rock is painted and dry, spray your rock outdoors with a clear acrylic UV resistant coating, to keep your paint from fading. #### 5.**Holiday Gifts** If you are planning to make holiday presents by hand or decorations for the winter season, fall is a good time to start these projects to give you plenty of time to finish and wrap. So you are ready to deck the halls, here is a clever [paper ornament design](https://www.allthingspaper.net/2012/11/christmas-ornament-diy-layered-circles.html) to cheer up plain, tired bulbs for your holiday décor. ### Crafting Benefits Crafting has many benefits for seniors. Working on small objects can improve hand-eye coordination, and detailed work can help with dexterity. Crafting can help with focus and wake up parts of the brain that haven’t been used since art class. Through crafting, you can learn a new skill, feel a sense of accomplishment, and it can even lift one’s mood. If you choose to join a local class or knitting circle, it can also be social and get your loved one out of the house to share their skills with others. Other than a little mess and clean up, there is no downside for your elderly loved one to tap into their creativity and express themselves through arts and crafts. ### More **Craft Ideas** If you are looking for more ideas on crafting that you can share at home, Pinterest is loaded with craft ideas for whatever might interest you. Or, try a [crafting kit](https://www.adultsandcrafts.com/collections/kits) with all the necessary materials and simple directions to create an art piece without having to run back to the store for forgotten supplies. At our Áegis Living communities, our Life Enrichment team creates a calendar filled with activities to keep our residents active and engaged. We provide creative spaces stocked with supplies to express their creativity and passions. [Contact one of our communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to learn how our residents indulge their creative pursuits and hobbies for a rich, full life. --- ## Six Holiday Planning Tips for Caregivers URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/six-holiday-planning-tips-for-caregivers/ Focus keyword: caregiver tips Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, alzheimers, nutrition, sleep, legal-planning, moving-in, for-caregivers Summary: If you are a primary caregiver, the holidays mean even more demands on your time and energy than normal. Learn about six holiday planning tips for caregivers. During the best of times, the holidays can be overwhelming. But if you are a primary caregiver, you will be faced with even more demands on your time and energy. Caring for a parent with dementia is a full-time responsibility that not only includes caring for your parent’s well-being, but also juggling your duties at work, maintaining your home, caring for children, and making time for your spouse and friends. So how can you all enjoy the holidays? Plan ahead. If you are caring for an aging parent with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, what should you consider and prepare for? ### 6 Tips for Caring for a Loved One with Dementia - **Ask for Help.** Often your relatives and siblings are more than willing to help but don’t know how. Make a list of items that you need assistance with and ask for help. Whether that is watching mom while you get some shopping done, asking them to make an extra dish to bring to a holiday meal, or driving your dad to a medical appointment. Assisting with simple tasks can amount to a timesaver for you and be gratifying for them to spend time with your parent. - **Deck the Halls.** Let the smell of fresh pine fill your home, brew hot chocolate, and pull out the holiday decorations and wrapping paper. Decorating a tree, hanging lights, playing their favorite [holiday music](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-powerful-impact-of-music-on-memory-care/) and displaying sentimental treasures is a great way to get into the spirit of the holidays and rekindle memories for you and your parent. This is also an opportunity to involve them in the preparations and get their help with simple tasks - wrapping gifts, rolling out cookie dough, or hanging ornaments. - **Set Limits.** It’s okay to say, “no.” If you are tired and rundown, you risk getting sick and missing holiday festivities. It’s okay to order a meal for a family dinner and not cook from scratch. It’s fine to skip a party that is just too difficult to manage. As a caregiver, give yourself a break if you need one. - **Prep for Event**. If you will be away from your home plan ahead to determine what they might need. Your parent will be out of their routine, so make sure they rest during the day and are well [hydrated](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/). Pack a bag with a spare change of clothing, extra sweater or jacket, comfort foods that they enjoy, and any medication they might need. - **Talk to the Host.** You also may want to ask the host if there is a quiet spot that your parent can retreat to if they need to lay down or take a break from the noise and activity. When possible, talk to your family about holding events during the best time of day for your parent. Many people living with dementia experience [sundowning](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/sundowning-tips-for-managing-difficult-behavior-in-the-evening/) in the evening, so a daytime event might be more comfortable. - **Be Flexible.** Everyone puts pressure on themselves to create the “perfect holiday.” But life is messy and doesn’t always go as planned, so try to be flexible. If your parent is having a bad day, you may need to leave an event early or cancel plans. Your friends and loved ones will understand. For help planning a great holiday season with your loved one living with dementia, visit one of your local [Áegis Living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) and speak to our caregiving experts. --- ## Managing the Parent - Child Role Reversal URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/parent-child-role-reversal/ Focus keyword: parent role reversal Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, fall-prevention, social-connection, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-adult-children Summary: There comes a time as adult children when we need to step into a caregiver role for our aging parents. Read more and prepare for your aging parents' future. There comes a time as adult children when we need to step into a caregiver role for our aging parents. As they get older, you could face a change in traditional roles where you are taking on more tasks for your parent. Finding time to discuss their wishes while they can still make difficult decisions for themselves can alleviate many frustrations for both of you. Are you prepared for your [aging parents’](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/six-tips-to-prepare-for-your-aging-parents-future/) future? ## Talk Early and Often No one wants to talk to their parents about end-of-life planning but having a conversation with them about their wishes for their later years while they’re still relatively young will set an important precedent. Do you know what your parents want if they fall ill or find the family home too overwhelming to take care of anymore? Invite your parents and other involved parties (siblings, spouses, etc.) for a sit-down discussion. Reassure them that you respect what they want as they’re getting older and begin to need more help. Prepare to listen and take notes if necessary. If your parents are on the younger side, ask them about the decisions they made for their parents. They may not be ready for assisted living themselves, but it will open the conversation and give you an idea of what they want as they age. When it’s time for “the talk,” arm yourself with questions: - Do you feel safe living alone? - How are you feeling about driving? - Are you having a hard time managing bills? - Would you ever consider getting help with housekeeping and laundry? - Would it be less stressful if you didn’t have to worry about taking care of a large house? Continue to check in when they hit milestones or new health concerns. The subject may be overwhelming, allowing them time to think things over will be helpful. The more informed you are about what they want, the easier the decisions will be when it’s time to make them. ## Housing Options When the time comes for your parent to require assistance, where do they want to go? Do they want to stay in their house with an in-home caregiver, or move in with you? Are they open to an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-what-assisted-living-offers/) or memory care community if they need it? Discuss the scenarios with them so that when the time comes, you’ll be able to navigate your parent to the living situation they desire. ## Review Finances Before you can make any decisions on your parent’s living or care arrangements, you should review their net worth to get an idea of what they can afford. Calculate retirement savings, debt, Social Security, pensions, assets and any other income. Do they have [long-term care insurance](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/plan-ahead-long-term-care-insurance/)? What debt do they need to pay off? Has your parent assigned a [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/)? This information will be imperative to making sure your parents are well cared for as they require more assistance. ## Final Wishes The most uncomfortable subject to discuss is what your parents want when they pass away. And while no one wants to discuss it, you should be aware of your parents’ wishes in a medical situation. If they have not already, suggest your parents set up a living will. A living will is a written statement detailing a person’s desires regarding their medical treatment in circumstances where they are no longer able to express informed consent. This will help you understand exactly what your parents’ wishes are in a medical emergency. ## Becoming a Caregiver As your parents age, you will likely step into more of a caregiver role. If you have siblings, define expectations around what caring for your parents means. If you all live in the same area, make sure you are splitting the functions of a caregiver, so no one experiences burn out. If your family is spread nationally/globally, make sure you are asking for the help you need. Setting [clear boundaries](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/set-boundaries-as-a-caregiver/) up front can help eliminate some of the frustrations that come with caregiving. If the caregiver responsibilities fall on a sibling, how can you help? Step in where you can. Offer to transport your parent to and from appointments from time-to-time; pick up mom or dad for dinner so your sibling can have a break; offer to take over for a weekend so they can get some time away. Caregivers often forget to take care of themselves while taking care of loved ones, so be the person to care for the caregiver. We understand the conversations around end-of-life wishes and expectations of where to live if they can no longer care for themselves are uncomfortable. However, delaying it until it’s an emergency adds more stress to an already stressful situation. If you’d like more information about preparing for your aging parent, visit our [directory](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/) of educational resources or stop by your nearest Áegis Living [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to speak with one of our directors. --- ## Understanding the Difference Between Alzheimer’s and Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-the-difference-between-alzheimers-and-dementia/ Focus keyword: Alzheimers and Dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, vascular-dementia, brain-health, communication, choosing-a-community, for-seniors Summary: What is the difference between Alzheimers and dementia? Learn the key definitions, symptoms, and treatment plans in this guide from Áegis Living. At Áegis Living, we care for many residents with Alzheimers and dementia. When referring to a person with memory loss, the terms “Alzheimer’s" and "Dementia” are often used interchangeably. But, there is there a difference between Alzheimer’s and Dementia. Let us help clarify. Dementia is a catchall term that encompasses several disorders that describe a decline in cognitive function that may result in chronic memory loss, impaired reasoning, inability to perform daily activities, impact on communication skills, or changes in personality. Alzheimer’s is the most common form of dementia. ## Defining Dementia Dementia is an umbrella term that describes a group of symptoms associated with memory loss. There are many different types of dementia. Alzheimer’s is the most common type of dementia, and the second most common is vascular dementia caused by a blockage or lack of blood flow to the brain. Other types include Lewy body dementia, frontotemporal dementia, Parkinson’s dementia, Huntington’s disease, Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease, mixed dementia, and [alcohol induced dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/). Certain medical conditions such as dehydration, [hearing loss](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/causes-and-symptoms-hearing-loss/) and urinary tract infections (UTI), can produce dementia-like symptoms. Dementia is not considered to be a normal part of the aging process. It’s caused by damage to a person’s brain cells and can affect their personality, feelings, behaviors, and thought process. As a person’s dementia progresses, it can impact their ability to function independently and safely. According to the [World Health Organization](https://www.who.int/docs/default-source/infographics-pdf/dementia/dementia-symptoms.pdf?sfvrsn=7ef38c21_2), recent estimates state that 47.5 million people are currently living with dementia, and this number is projected to grow significantly as baby boomers continue to age. ## Alzheimer’s Definition Physicians have estimated that Alzheimer’s disease accounts for approximately 60-80% of all dementia cases. Alzheimer’s disease irreversibly destroys one’s memory and can take away the ability to perform the simplest of tasks over time. Researchers are still determining what exactly causes Alzheimer’s. Most research focuses on two changes in the brain: plaque buildup between nerve cells, and tangles of built-up twisted fibers. Most brains form plaques and tangles with age, but in Alzheimer’s disease, these changes happen in a particular order that affects memory first. The greatest known risk for getting Alzheimer’s is advanced age. The majority of those diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease are 65years and older, but there are over 200,000 cases of [early-onset Alzheimer’s disease](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers/younger-early-onset) in a younger population. The hardest part of learning of an Alzheimer’s diagnosis is that there is no cure. ## Symptoms of Alzheimers and Dimentia Our brains change with age. You may hear an older family member complain about a “senior moment” when they are unable to recall a recent event or can’t remember why they walked into a room. We all notice some slowness in our thinking with age, but a common symptom of Alzheimer’s is being unable to recall newly learned information and with time, experiencing serious memory loss and confusion. As symptoms progress, memory decline can include disorientation, mood swings, behavioral changes, unfounded suspicions, difficulty with word fining, swallowing, stability, and changes in personality. Every person is unique, so their symptoms can present in various ways. Symptoms of decline can also depend on the type of dementia that a person is diagnosed with. ## Treatment Plans for Alzheimers and Dementia Treatment plans will vary depending on the type of dementia that your loved one is diagnosed with. For those with Alzheimer’s, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved [two types of medications](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/treatments/medications-for-memory): cholinesterase inhibitors and memantine. These drugs help to delay and lessen symptoms. It is always preferred to institute redirection techniques or environmental changes before exploring medication treatments. For other types of dementia, few drugs help with the progression of their symptoms. Most often, physicians look at strategies to improve a person’s comfort and quality of life. Scientists hope to one day find a cure. There are currently numerous new treatments that are being researched and in various stages of clinical trials. Two informative resources for the latest, up-to-date treatment research and news are the [Alzheimer’s Association](https://www.alz.org/?_ga=2.239148224.2119113632.1575494112-1993517757.1575494112) or the [Dementia Society of America](https://www.dementiasociety.org/). ## Next Steps If you suspect that your family member is living with memory loss or dementia-like symptoms, it’s essential to schedule an appointment with their physician as soon as possible. Delaying this physician evaluation can place your family member in a vulnerable situation until the situation is properly addressed. Don’t wait. Early detection can help them get the optimal care needed quickly to detect and treat any behaviors and symptoms, as well as rule out any medical reasons or issues for their symptoms. [Aegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) provides memory care options if your loved one has memory loss and can no longer live at home safely. Aegis provides expertise in managing and caring for residents with dementia and in addition provides support for their families. Tour a community near you and see how Aegis Living can make an impact on your loved one’s quality of life. --- ## The Dangers of Falling URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-dangers-of-falling/ Focus keyword: fall risks Category: family-communication Tags: arthritis-mobility, fall-prevention, exercise-fitness, legal-planning, for-seniors, medication-management, safety-at-home Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well-being is a top priority. Read about the dangers of falling, and what you can do to minimize your risk. Did you know that the leading cause of injury among older adults is the result of a fall? In fact, falls send over two million people to the ER every year! Some falls cause minor bruises and scratches, while other falls can result in an acute injury like a broken hip, immobility, brain injury, or possibly, death. And most falls happen in the home. To lower your parent’s risk of falling, we suggest a few areas to evaluate to make them safer. ## Safety Evaluation First, if you are watching your parent become increasingly unsteady on their feet or they have experienced a fall, you should make an appointment with their physician to help rule out any causes that [might be preventable.](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4125318/) Drug interaction (both prescription and OTC) and the side effects of certain medications can cause dizziness, numbness, shortness of breath, and loss of muscle strength. Issues, like pain and discomfort, can affect their walking gait or an ear or eye disorder can impact their balance. Their physician can be a valuable partner to help you assess your parent’s risk of falling and how to treat their mobility issues. Once you have ruled out any medical reason for their falls, then you will want to look at their home and prevention. ### Good Lighting This idea may seem simplistic. But, keeping your loved one’s home well-lit (inside and outside) can be highly effective and shouldn’t be neglected. As their eyesight begins to dim and fade with age, a well-placed light can make a noticeable difference. Replace broken or burnt-out bulbs to prevent dark corners, especially on staircases and outdoor steps. Place nightlights in the bathrooms and hallways. Add extra lamps to brighten a room and always make sure they can reach a bedside lamp during the night. Keep all pathways to their light switches clear of furniture and obstructions. And especially during the darker winter months and with the risk of power outages, keep flashlights charged and located throughout the home with additional batteries on hand. ### Sensible Footwear Don’t underestimate the importance of proper footwear in fall prevention. With age, your parent’s feet will change, invest in nonskid footwear. Many seniors lose the fat padding on the bottom of their feet, which can cause discomfort, so make sure their shoes fit comfortably with support and cushion. If you are concerned about their feet, we suggest your parent meets with a podiatrist to help them determine a strategy for their footwear. The technology in shoes has improved, lighter weight, better treads, easy closure, sturdy support, and softer cushioning. Buy new footwear that meets their needs and will keep them more active. We also suggest that you clear out closets of outdated footwear and heels that they should no longer use. ### Physical Activity Now that they have the right footwear, let’s put it to use! [Exercise can help improve](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-activities-for-seniors-may-reduce-falls/) balance by strengthening their core, helping with flexibility, and improving coordination. When you meet with their physician, discuss what types of activities might be appropriate for your parent. In our Áegis Living communities, we offer balance classes to encourage residents to be active and strengthen their core. If your parent is living at home, suggest they take part in classes at a local senior center. Or, if approved by their doctor, try low-impact activities like walking, chair exercises, yoga, and swimming. Physical strength and stamina can help in preventing falls. ### Safety Around Their Home This step means taking a close evaluation of your parent’s home. Walk around their entire house (both inside and outside). Check that all pathways are unobstructed and free of issues that could cause a fall. Outside the home, you may want to trim hedges, rake leaves, sweep pathways, and check for loose pavers that could cause a fall. Tuck away electrical cords, move furniture, and cut down on clutter, so they can easily walk around inside their home. Pay close attention to rickety floorboards or wrinkles in the carpet that should be secured. Remove area rugs that slip or place on a nonskid rug pad. Install treads on wooden steps for sure-footedness. One point of hazard for many seniors is [the bathroom](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/bathroom-safety-for-your-aging-parent/), where they can slip on wet tiles or a loose bathmat. And typically, in a smaller bathroom, they may find maneuvering the space harder. Here are a few tips to secure the bathroom: try nonslip bathmats, install grab bars in showers, anchor towel bars so it can hold their weight if grabbed, buy a shower stool or bench, ensure toiletries are within easy reach, consider a handheld shower nozzle to use while sitting, and a raised toilet seat with supportive armrests. ### Medical Alert Device If your parent falls one time, it doubles their chances of falling again. You and your family can rest assured that if your parent falls and is unable to get up that a medical alert device can call for help. These systems are typically small, battery-operated devices worn as a necklace or wrist band. If your parent falls, they can press a button to connect with an emergency response center. Newer devices on the market can detect a fall and automatically alert. Some seniors are resistant to wearing a medical alert device or feel they don’t need it. In this case, encourage them to carry a cell phone in their pocket. And show them how to charge their phone. If they fall, they will be able to call 911 for help. There are many alert systems and cell phone plans available to fit their lifestyle and price range. ### Use Support If your parent has experienced several falls, their physician may recommend a cane or walker to help them. Keep in mind, a transition to a cane or a walker can be difficult for some seniors. They may resist using them because it makes them “feel old” or less independent. They can be awkward to adjust to at first but encourage them to use these for their safety. [Canes](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-properly-use-a-cane/) are suggested more often for mild to moderate balance issues, and a walker is needed for greater stability for those with significant balance concerns. If your parent does use a walker, it is important that the pathways within their home are clear and will accommodate the broader base of a walker. You can’t prevent a fall 100% of the time, but you can take preventive measures to help keep your parent as safe as possible. If your parent is frequently falling, they may no longer be healthy or safe living on their own. An assisted living or memory care community offers your parent the companionship and assistance they need to live a full life and maintain their independence as long as possible. If you are interested in an [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), stop by for a tour and see the safety features we offer to prevent falls, including our safety chair rails and balance classes. --- ## What are ADLs? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-adls/ Focus keyword: ADLs Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, exercise-fitness, moving-in, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: A term you'll hear frequently when researching assisted living or memory care communities: ADLs. ADL stands for Activities of Daily Living. Learn more here. There is a common term that you will hear if you are researching assisted living or memory care communities: ADLs. ADL stands for Activities of Daily Living. These are everyday tasks that, as we age, may become impossible or extremely difficult for one to do without assistance. Often when ADLs are mentioned, it’s because your loved one or parent can’t perform these tasks daily. If your loved one has difficulty with one or several of these basic tasks, they may find great comfort, relief, and better safety in an assisted living or memory care community or with in-home care where a caregiver can support them. ## Common tasks that are termed ADLs are: **Walking:** The ability for one to walk independently around their home inside and outside **Eating:** Whether a person can feed themselves or if they need help holding a utensil or need to be fed. **Toileting:** Which means getting on and off the toilet and the ability to properly use the restroom and clean themselves. **Bathing:** Able to bathe and wash, care for their nails, hair, and teeth, and grooming and managing one’s appearance. **Dressing:** Able to select appropriate clothing for the weather and/or an occasion and able to put on clothing (in the correct order) and remove clothing. **Transferring:** Ability to move from one position to another, including from a bed to a chair (or wheelchair) or from a chair to standing. Seniors value their independence. It’s important that if they need assistance, that help is given with dignity and sensitivity. Not being able to perform these basic tasks can leave seniors feeling helpless, frustrated, and even scared. But there are options to address these care needs, which can help a senior to thrive. When a senior can no longer care for themselves, this is when a caregiver needs to step in, whether that is a family member, in-home care, or moving to an assisted living or memory care community. In addition to ADLs, there is a second category: IADLs. IADLS stands for Instrumental Activities of Daily Living. These tasks are often grouped with or also referred to as ADLs, but these are more complicated skills needed for your loved one to live independently and thrive. ## Examples of IADLs include: **Basic Home Maintenance:** Able to maintain the upkeep of their home inside and out, and housework like doing laundry, folding clothing, cleaning, taking out the garbage. **Financial Management:** Ability to pay their bills, manage their finances, and balance their checkbook. **Transportation:** Driving a car safely or successfully navigating public transit or getting rides. **Shopping:** Ability to grocery shop and keep household stocked with necessary personal items and food. **Meal Prep:** Ability to prepare meals for good health, healthy weight, [hydration](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/), and nutrition. **Communication with Others:** Whether they can use the telephone or other devices to stay connected. Able to get the mail. **Medication Management:** Taking medications as prescribed on time and in the correct dosage and replacing empty prescriptions. ## Time for Care Assistance These more complex tasks are activities that, as adults, we have done all our lives. But when an aging loved one manages multiple medications, illness, frailty, mobility issues, memory loss, or even a lack of stamina, they may be less able to handle these tasks that we take for granted. Difficulty with ADLs and IADLs is often the signal to many families that their loved one is no longer healthy or safe living on their own. And keep in mind, your parent may be scared to ask for help or embarrassed to raise the issue. It’s important to understand ADLs, so you know what to look for in your parent’s or loved one’s current living situation. At Áegis Living, our goal is to assist seniors with the care that they need - whether that is getting dressed in the morning, managing their medications throughout the day or supporting them in other personal tasks. Because if we can help them with these tasks, then they are free to live as independently as they can and enjoy their days with new neighbors and friends. Families also enjoy the peace of mind knowing that care staff is available around-the-clock to assist their parent or loved one if they need help. If your parent needs assistance with ADLs or IADLs, tour an [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community and see how your loved one can thrive. --- ## A Conversation With Your Parent That Can’t Wait URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/a-conversation-to-have-with-your-mom-that-cant-wait/ Focus keyword: assisted living talk Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, in-home-care, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-caregivers, for-adult-children Summary: "The President of Áegis Living assisted living and memory care communities discusses "the talk" you may need to have with your parent." By [Judy Meleliat](https://www.aegisliving.com/the-aegis-difference/leadership/), President Emeritus of Áegis Living As my mom blew out the candles on her 90thbirthday cake at Áegis Living, she looked up at me and smiled. It was the moment where I finally let my breath out too. We had made it. We had weathered the storm of doubt, guilt, and denial. She was safe in her new assisted living community and I was at peace with our decision. Ten years ago, my mom was living in Chicago and I was 2,000 miles away in Seattle. I distinctly remember one visit to her home when it hit me that she had significantly aged since the last time I had seen her. She had more physical limitations. She looked frail. After that visit, I began to listen to our phone conversations closely for clues about her health. I asked her more questions and checked with my extended family living in Chicago. I became more aware. It was at this point that I started a discussion that took nine years. And it wasn’t always easy. Many people ask me for advice on how to have “the talk” with your aging parent when they can no longer live on their own. I strongly suggest starting this discussion much earlier than you may think. It can’t be a single talk. It will take time and lots of loving patience. Preparation and research will be the key to a smooth transition. It is a difficult conversation, but an important one to honor your parent. ## Careful Understanding. The first step is to collect information. Does your parent have a will? Who have they designated as their [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/)? How are their finances? Do they have long-term health insurance? These are the facts and the paperwork that you want to have in order, before there is a crisis. Asking about these issues can also open the door for a more intimate discussion about their future health and possible care needs. If you couldn’t live on your own, where would you want to live? How do you feel about in-home care? This information can give you a baseline understanding of how your parent feels about their independence. As a Holocaust survivor, my mom was fiercely protective of her independence, which had once been stolen from her as a child. This was in the back of my mind during every conversation that we had about her moving into an assisted living community. It was something unique to our relationship that needed to be handled with sensitivity. I always wanted her to feel part of the decision-making process. And I knew that I had to help her maintain her sense of independence, so long as it was safe for her. ## **Loving Preparation**. Take the time to research care options. [Get recommendations](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) from family members and friends. If you can, [visit communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) and meet with administrators and caregivers. See firsthand how the residents appear. Are they engaged in activities? Are they happy? Are they dressed and groomed? Understand the different options for care and the limitations that each location provides. The more prepared you are, the more confident you will be in this important decision of who will care for your aging parent. While my mother lived in Chicago, we had in-home healthcare aides that assisted with her daily needs. I had researched and visited many assisted living communities with her during my visits, including several where her friends lived. She was not ready to move at that time, but I had a short list of communities that I knew could meet her needs. There was comfort in this knowledge. **A Unified Family.** It is extremely important for siblings and families to come together and share in the process of relocating a parent to meet their care needs. Families should visit assisted living communities separately on different days and at different times to see a variety of activities. Be prepared that the decision to move your parent to an assisted living community can be charged with feelings of guilt and denial, making the process even harder. If your parent has a living spouse, the decision can be particularly sensitive and more complicated. Families who are not united about their decisions will cause much more anxiety for themselves and their parent. Be gentle with each other. Focus on what is the best for your loved one. As an only child, I was fortunate to have a strong network of extended family to support us as I planned to move my mother near my home in Seattle. I also had the unique situation of working in the assisted living industry and could move her into one of our communities. Despite all of this support, she still was hesitant to move. Change is hard and you must be patient. **Crisis Management**. Many families don’t prepare or have the discussion with their aging parent until there is a crisis. At this point, you are forced to make a decision under great stress. If this is the case, I strongly suggest that you move your parent to an assisted living community for a short-term stay (also called respite). This is a great place for a parent to heal after a hospital stay. Often times, when a loved one tries out a community they are more willing to stay on a permanent basis. My mother had a series of hospital stays for chronic UTI’s and pneumonia. Both are conditions common in older adults that can be treated with better oversight - avoiding dehydration, better hygiene, monitoring nutrition, and physical activity. The last hospital stay forced the issue that my mom needed more care than an in-home healthcare aide could provide. Together, we made the decision that living closer to me at Áegis Living was in her best interest. Take the time to have this important conversation with your loved one. --- ## Managing Your Parent’s Finances URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/managing-your-parents-finances/ Focus keyword: Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, legal-planning, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: As your parent gets older, they may struggle with their finances. Learn about some tips on how you can help them manage their money. As your parent gets older, they may struggle with their finances - paying their bills, managing their accounts, filing their taxes, or balancing a checkbook. Financial concerns are common for many families with elderly parents, particularly if they are living on their own. Perhaps your parent is widowed, and their spouse handled the finances for the household, so they are overwhelmed. Your parent may be more forgetful with age, showing the effects of dementia, or you worry about their decision-making skills. Managing money is often a task that a family member will need to step up to assist with at some point. How can your family prepare for this possibility? ### Safeguarding your parent’s finances as they get older. **Start a Dialog.**Discussing your parent’s money might be the hardest part. Families can feel a lot of emotions around the fact that their parent is getting older and may need more assistance. Your parent may feel like they are losing their independence. They may be embarrassed to discuss their financial situation with their children. Although this can be a [difficult discussion](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-to-talk-with-your-parent-about-financial-planning/), it is important to have an open and honest conversation about their retirement plans, if they are prepared in the case of a medical emergency, and if they need assistance with managing their money or perhaps, they need money. Regardless of where they are financially, it is still best to understand their circumstances and work together in their best interest. Approach this discussion with sensitivity and break up the discussion over time if they are not prepared to disclose their finances or are feeling intimidated or overwhelmed. **A [Power of Attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/).** Setting up a [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/) is key to safeguarding your parent’s finances in the event they can no longer make the decisions for themselves. This legal document will allow you to step in on their behalf and handle financial and legal matters. We suggest, as part of anyone’s retirement planning, that they include and plan for whom they trust to be their power of attorney. And note, your parent does have control over the decisions or selected issues that a power of attorney can make for them. By setting up a power of attorney, you are empowering them and giving them peace of mind for the future. **Gather All Documentation.** Imagine that your parent is incapacitated in the hospital, and you need to manage their finances and pay their bills. Do you know where everything is? If you are lucky, your parent is an organized neatnik. If not, you may need to be a bit of a detective to find all their paperwork and accounts. And in the middle of a crisis, the last thing that you want to do is riffle through papers and their computer to find what you need. If you need a place to start, find their most recent tax return, which can help you track down their listed dividends, interest income, and financial institutions. If your parent is able to assist you with gathering [their necessary documentation](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/getting-your-affairs-order), suggest that they organize a master folder of all their account information, list of bills and expenses, contact names for financial advisers, attorney, or accountants, mortgage information, copies of their will, living will, and power of attorney, long term care policy, life insurance policy, and any other relevant documentation. These can either be placed in a safety deposit box if you are listed on the account or in a fireproof box that you can access. This important folder can serve as a financial road map for your parent. **Consider a Third Party.** Because money can be a touchy subject, a third party can help to get your parent’s finances organized and ready in the event you need to step in. A financial planner or [eldercare attorney](https://www.naela.org/) can give their professional advice to cut through any emotions and provide valuable recommendations specific to your situation. A third party can help get a handle on their finances and guidance on what needs to be done. And honestly, a parent may be more willing to open up about their finances to a professional in a way that they wouldn’t to their children. You may be very fortunate, and your parent is able to manage their money properly well into their 90s. But others may not be as fortunate, and many families are forced to take over their parent’s financial affairs at some point. Whatever the future may bring, the time that you spend preparing for a crisis or for when you may need to intervene in your parent’s finances is a worthwhile investment of your time and energy. If you feel that your parent can no longer live on their own, moving them to an assisted living or memory care community may be the solution. Our [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) communities offer around-the-clock care and support, along with new friends, great food, and engaging activities. Tour a community near you and see for yourself! --- ## Senior Loneliness Epidemic URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/senior-loneliness-epidemic/ Focus keyword: Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, alzheimers, social-connection, emotional-wellness, for-seniors, for-caregivers, depression-anxiety Summary: Senior isolation is one of the most over looked health threats to elderly Americans. Read about how the pandemic is making things even worse. Senior isolation is one of the biggest health threats to older Americans that is often overlooked. It can have devastating effects physically, emotionally, and mentally. The British have recognized a loneliness epidemic among their older population for years - coined the *silent killer.* They have launched [intense ad campaigns](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGY-T4W-BOc) and outreach programs to connect with the forgotten. The UK even appointed a [Minister of Loneliness](https://www.forbes.com/sites/brucelee/2018/01/21/uk-has-a-minister-of-loneliness-this-is-how-bad-loneliness-has-gotten/#5ffe2da76cc5). In recent years, [the U.S. government](https://www.aging.senate.gov/press-releases/senate-aging-committee-examines-the-mental-and-physical-effects-of-social-isolation-and-loneliness) has begun to explore the effects of senior isolation and loneliness. Research finds that loneliness is a growing epidemic with greater health risks than obesity and as damaging as smoking! Research is also showing, even though we carry our iPhones everywhere, and technology means we are one-click away from connecting with a loved one, that as a society, we are lonelier than ever. And older adults feel the effects most keenly. ### The statistics on loneliness in the U.S. is staggering: - Of those 65+ years old, 18% live alone, and 43% reported feeling lonely regularly. - Older women are twice as likely to live alone than older men because women’s life expectancy is longer. By age 75, about 45% of women live alone. - 1 out of 7 people with Alzheimer’s live alone, and loneliness is [linked to a 40% increase](https://academic.oup.com/psychsocgerontology/advance-article/doi/10.1093/geronb/gby112/5133324) in a senior developing dementia. - Among the LGBTQ community, seniors are twice as likely to live alone. - An estimated 6 million Americans age 65+ have a disability and cannot leave their homes without assistance. - And surprisingly, senior caregivers report being among the loneliest. Although they are rarely alone when caring for another; they have less time and energy to develop their social network. ### With age comes change. Friends and relatives may pass away, and social circles becomes much smaller. Perhaps your older loved one has lost a spouse and is less likely to want to leave the house or feel out of place without their other half. This can leave them feeling not only socially isolated but also emotionally isolated. Older adults face greater restrictions to being social when they can no longer drive, have mobility issues, difficulty with hearing or following a conversation, or pain and discomfort may make them less likely to take part in social events. Many seniors complain that the quality of their relationships suffer with age. And sometimes, they are embarrassed or feel like the effort is too much. Every person is different, and the reasons they withdraw from others can vary greatly. ### Being lonely can take a mental and physical toll on health. Research shows that loneliness has a [negative effect](https://www.aginglifecarejournal.org/health-effects-of-social-isolation-and-loneliness/) compared to chronic stress. Increased levels of stress hormones can raise a senior’s risk for a stroke, heart attack, dementia, and premature mortality. Lonely seniors, not surprisingly, suffer from a higher rate of depression. Many seniors report engaging in risky behaviors like a poor diet, smoking, or drinking in excess. And lonely people have weaker immune systems. According to [Dr. John Cacioppo](https://news.uchicago.edu/story/john-t-cacioppo-pioneer-and-founder-field-social-neuroscience-1951-2018), a neuroscientist who studied social isolation for the past 30 years, feelings of loneliness are linked to poor cognitive performance, cognitive decline, and a higher risk of dementia. ### How to combat loneliness among seniors? **Offer to Drive.** Many seniors feel stranded at home because they no longer drive, and they need assistance to leave their home. If you can offer to provide them a ride to a senior center, family gathering, or an outing with friends, they can stay more connected to their community. **Volunteer Opportunities.** Volunteering as a senior is a terrific way to get out of the house and help others. Help your loved one find a cause near them that they are passionate about. Another wonderful way to make friends and to give back is for seniors to volunteer to help other seniors! **Adopt a Pet.** If your loved one is an animal lover, help them adopt a pet companion. This may not be right for every senior, so you will need to consider if this will fit their lifestyle. But a furry friend could be a great solution for many lonely seniors. **Technology to Keep in Touch.** If you live far away or if you have had a hectic week and cannot visit in person, use Facebook or Skype to be in contact and see your loved one face-to-face. If your loved one is not tech-savvy, a phone call, letter, or card are always appreciated to stay connected. **Close the Generation Gap.** Children and teens can play a significant role in providing loving care and attention to lonely grandparents. Ideally, it is wonderful if the younger generation can spend time with the oldest generation in person, but again, phone calls and letters are great options to stay in contact. **Assisted Living.** If you cannot break your loved one out of their shell or if they are just not happy or healthy living on their own, assisted living may be a great solution. Assisted living allows your loved one the independence to live in their own apartment within a community of peers who can engage in activities and meals throughout the day. They will regularly interact with care staff, and the community is open to visits by family and friends. Also, most communities provide transportation, a community pet, assistance with the tasks of daily living, and supervision of their physical health, nutrition, medication, and mental well-being. [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) has communities throughout Washington, California, and one in Las Vegas to serve your loved one. If you are aware that your loved one is lonely, don’t dismiss your concern. Loneliness can have detrimental effects on a senior’s physical and mental health. Please get involved and help them find resources to allow them to remain socially active and engaged with others. It’s essential for their quality of life and well-being. --- ## What Matters at the End of Life URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-matters-at-the-end-of-life/ Focus keyword: life Category: family-communication Tags: hospice-end-of-life, fall-prevention, communication, social-connection, choosing-a-community, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Most of us are unprepared to face end-of-life decisions - either for ourselves or for our family. Sharing what matters with family is important. Read more here. Elder care today is not a simple equation of getting a diagnosis and scheduling treatment. It is more about having a quality of life discussion and how treatment might tip the balance - negatively or positively. Most of us are woefully unprepared to face end-of-life decisions - either for ourselves or for our family. Improvements in medicine, treatments, and technology means that seniors are living longer lives. Because of their advanced years and physical condition, many seniors have multiple diagnoses, a tray filled with medications, juggling different side effects, various therapies, and frailty. If your older father is diagnosed with cancer an oncologist might prescribe radiation and chemotherapy to help prolong his life. At his advanced age, these treatments may negatively impact his quality of life. A care plan, such as this, might mean time in the hospital, recovery, pain, fatigue, discomfort, and nausea. Intervention might cost him valuable time that he could spend with his family or doing something that he loves to do - like taking that trip that he has put off. And often, there is no guarantee it will prolong his life or that he will survive the treatment. Most importantly, what will it leave for his quality of life? These are important issues - the benefits and the risks - to weigh and discuss openly as a family. This scenario in no way advocates whether to undergo a treatment plan or not. It shows the importance of having a discussion that is open and honest about quality of life when facing an end-of-life decision. Your father’s priority may not be to live longer but live better and on his terms. The information and understanding that he has about his life should be how you make the best medical decision with him or for him. Because this is a difficult conversation to have, many families miss this step. ### Questions to ask about end of life preferences: - What do you understand about your health? - Do you understand the benefits and the risks of a care plan? - How do you want to live out your life? - What is the best outcome as you look at the end of your life? - What are your fears? - Do you have goals? - What do you value, or what gives your life meaning and purpose? - How would you like to spend your remaining time? - Where would you ideally like to be? At home? In a hospital? In a care facility/hospice? Whatever your parent expresses as their priority should be honored as you make important decisions together. If they are very social or love to be surrounded by family, then a treatment that leaves them too fatigued and unable to communicate may not be a good outcome. Perhaps they want to see a final season of their favorite baseball team or spend the next holiday with their family as a goal; they might be unable to do these things if they cannot get out of bed or are in the hospital. And sometimes, their quality of life standards are even simpler - reading the morning newspaper, talking to grandchildren, or enjoying a favorite chocolate chip ice cream? Everyone’s life is different, and no assumptions should be made. Lifelong experiences may bring them to a decision different than you wish in their final phase of life. These are not easy decisions, and there are no guarantees. You need to partner with their physician and medical team to ask direct questions about the risks and potential outcomes of a treatment. And make sure you and your family are satisfied that your questions have been sufficiently answered. Will treatment take away their ability to do something that they want to do? Will a treatment extend their life? At what cost? These factors should be part of a thoughtful decision that you make about care options in partnership with their doctors. What matters to your parent and their care options should be connected. If a treatment won’t save their life, [hospice or palliative care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/) can help their quality of life. Medical intervention may not be the best decision for your parent. Hospice can redirect the focus to pain control, safety, or improved strength to live out their life comfortably. Hospice may allow a patient to say what they want to say and connect with the family in the time that they have remaining. ### P**revent leaving difficult decisions to your family at the end of your life?** End-of-life decision making is overwhelming. When you come to the end of your life, what is your priority? This is an evolving discussion that we need to have with our spouse or loved ones. If someone else must make the decision on your behalf at the end, do you think they truly know your intentions? The discussion needs to expand beyond “should you be resuscitated?” to include a real understanding of how you want to live. [Advanced directives](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/free-printable-advance-directives/?CMP=KNC-DSO-Adobe-Bing-Caregiving-AdvancedDirectives-Caregiver&s_kwcid=AL!4520!10!73255175294414!73255123973167&ef_id=XK_AggAAEx9Ofie-:20191029203655:s) are useful to have in place, but your family should understand your goals. And these documents often fall short of that. Some doctors are making the argument that a living will is not enough information for a family to make these challenging decisions. Also, you may feel one way at 40 years old with dependent children; then you might at 90 years old facing the last phase of your life. In the end, both you and your family will find comfort in following your wishes - so have the discussion, document and update your intentions, and don’t leave these important decisions to fate. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we care about the health and wellbeing of all seniors. We want every senior to be honored and treated with dignity. Tour a community today to see how we support residents with communities designed to meet their changing needs. --- ## Retirement Planning for Childless Baby Boomers URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/retirement-planning-for-childless-baby-boomers/ Focus keyword: Retirement Planning Category: financial-legal Tags: emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Boomers without children should assemble a team of professionals, family and friends to assist with retirement planning. Read more here. What’s a RINK? You may be hearing this term more frequently. RINKs: Retired, Independent, No Kids. This demographic is shifting how families approach **retirement planning**, as an [overwhelming number of baby boomers](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/senior-growth-drives-development/) are now reaching retirement age without children. In fact, AARP estimates that more than 20% of retirees by 2040 will not have children. If you are a baby boomer, many are now wondering who will care for them as they age or look after their affairs if they don’t have children of their own. ### Who will provide eldercare for childless baby boomers? With advancements in healthcare and medical technology, our average life expectancy is increasing. Baby Boomers will be living longer and need more care services to live on their own, or they will require long-term care. Many older parents entrust that their children will look after their finances, help with their healthcare, and oversee their personal needs. But what if you don’t have children? What should you be considering as you plan your retirement? The best way to think about planning for your future and your changing needs as you age is to assemble a team who will assist you - made up of professionals, family, and friends. Who should be on your team and what is their role? ### Your Spouse As many will advise, the first rule of retirement planning is to start early. You and your spouse will need to consider plans together and discuss what life would look like if one passed away before the other. Since you won’t have children to rely on, preparing for the death of one spouse is important. It’s a difficult topic to discuss and to think about, but it can be made easier by making plans when you are both in good health. ### Family You may not have children of your own, but you might be close to a loving niece or nephew or even a younger cousin. It is a plus to have someone younger, stronger, and healthier to rely on if the need arises. You may have a sibling or siblings who can care for you or assist you. Don’t be shy to bring up this topic or ask for what you might need. It is better to have an awkward conversation and make alternative plans now, rather than during a crisis. ### Friends Many people consider close friends like family. These are individuals whom you have cultivated a long and healthy relationship over time. They can become the people who you can count on when you need it most and be a key part of your team for emotional support. ### Power of Attorney If you don’t have children, you need to ensure that you have an individual whom you choose and trust wholeheartedly to look out for your best interests if you are unable to handle your own affairs. We suggest that you set up a [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/) to determine how they can assist and to understand your wishes. It’s important to put your intentions in writing. This person may be a family member or a friend, but they play a very specific and essential role on your team. ### Financial Professionals Depending on your financial situation and assets, you will need to consider what type of resources should be part of your team. A lawyer can help with your will, trust, [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), estate planning, and advanced medical directive. Perhaps you worked with a trusted accountant over the years who can help with your finances or you may want to hire a financial adviser who can help you strategize for your [financial future](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/missing-from-retirement-plan/). Whomever you feel you need on your financial team, it’s best to find them early so they can help you save for retirement and work through what your financial picture should look like as you age. ### Healthcare Seniors without children, according to many experts, on average need more healthcare services than other seniors with adult children. Although the reasons aren’t clearly understood, it’s assumed that less family assistance means changes in a person’s health may go unnoticed. Without this support, simple tasks can be much harder, such as getting to a doctor’s appointment, preparing healthy foods, and staying active. Overall, they may be more isolated and less likely to ask for help. Think about what services you may need and ask for referrals or do online research to find resources in your area for in-home care, help around your home, and transportation services. And if you feel like you may need long-term care, research [assisted living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-difference-between-assisted-living-and-independent-living/) within your neighborhood. ### Planning for the Future Everyone needs to make plans for their future. Even if you have children, there is no guarantee that they will be able to care for you. Your children may live in a different city, or perhaps they have a family of their own and financially are not able to help. Whatever the reason or the specifics of your family dynamics, making plans for your future can relieve that burden on your children or family and bring you great peace of mind that you can live out your golden years in a way that you choose. Don’t leave your future to chance. If you can no longer live on your own or if your parent needs long term care, visit [an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to see for yourself. We would love to show you our community to determine whether it is a fit for you now or in the future. --- ## What is Sundowning? And why does it occur? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-sundowning-and-why-does-it-occur/ Focus keyword: sundowning Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, sleep, brain-health, costs-funding, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: Sundowning can affect people with dementia and shows in the form of agitation, discomfort, confusion and other symptoms. Read more about coping with sundowning. If you care for a loved one with dementia, you may experience a noticeable change in your loved one’s behavior in the evening hours. As the sun begins to set, your loved one may act in ways that are out of character for them. This behavior change is referred to commonly as sundowning. Sundowning is a group of symptoms - including agitation, restlessness, irritability, and confusion - that can occur in someone with Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia as daylight begins to fade. Sundowning typically starts around dinnertime and continues into the night. Although the exact reason why sundowning happens is not known, researchers believe it’s a disruption in [circadian rhythms](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/circadian-rhythm) - in other words, a disruption to a person’s natural body clock. Circadian rhythms signal when to wake up and to sleep at night. When this is disrupted, it can be both irritating and frustrating, which is acted out through their behaviors. ## Symptoms of Sundowning As unique as the individuals themselves, behaviors can range. However, some of the most common symptoms of sundowning include: - Agitation - Extreme anxiety - Discomfort - Suspicion - Hallucinations - Confusion - Bad mood, anger, temper - Ignoring - Can’t follow directions - Demanding Often, if a person has poor eyesight or difficulty hearing, these behaviors are compounded. The duration of these symptoms can stop abruptly, fade over time, or change. There are no clear predictors to the sundowning behavior. But as a caregiver, you are not alone. Sundowning is not a simple condition, but it is a common occurrence that many caregiver struggle with during their course of caring for a loved one. ## Factors that Aggravate Sundowning Because individuals with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia can become easily disoriented, they are often more susceptible to sundowning and the challenging behaviors associated with it. While the exact cause of sundowning is unknown, some factors tend to worsen symptoms. These aggravating factors can include: - Lack of sleep, fatigue, or mental exhaustion - Caffeine and alcohol close to bedtime - Faded light, low light, and increased shadows that cause confusion and fear - Upset in their circadian rhythms, confusing day and night - Underlying health issues, such as an infection, discomfort, or pain - [Dehydration](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/) or hunger - Stress, depression, or boredom ## How to Cope with Sundowning A variety of factors can worsen an individual’s symptoms, however there are proven methods for minimizing sundowning behavior. Paying attention to what is aggravating the individual’s symptoms can help you decide which of the following caregiver tips is most appropriate. ### Light Therapy A dawn simulator is a user-friendly and affordable way to help reset a person’s circadian rhythms by signaling the start and end of their day with increasing and decreasing light intensity. ### Regular Schedule During the Day and Evening Establish a regular and habitual routine every day. People with memory loss find comfort in a [daily routine](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/benefits-daily-routine-for-those-with-dementia/), which can help start the day and, more importantly, signal when it’s nighttime. ### Go Outside Whether it is sunny or overcast, exposure to natural light will help set their internal clock. ### A Good Night’s Sleep Focus on getting your loved one the best night’s sleep possible by reducing stimulants in the evening, avoiding caffeine and alcohol, and establishing a calming [bedtime ritual](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/changes-in-sleep-patterns/). ### Talk to Their Doctor Consult with your loved one’s doctor about their evening sundowning issues, especially if these have come on quickly. You want to rule out if there is an underlying issue causing these symptoms. Áegis Living has over two decades of experience in memory care and caring for people with advanced dementia. We can offer your loved one a stable routine, exercise during the day, mental stimulation, and support in comfortable surroundings to help alleviate the symptoms of sundowning. [Contact your local Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to find out how we can help your loved one. --- ## Signs of Depression in Your Parent URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-of-depression-in-your-mom-or-dad/ Focus keyword: depression signs Category: health-conditions Tags: depression-anxiety, sleep, social-connection, when-its-time, for-caregivers, for-seniors, nutrition Summary: Depression is not a normal part of the aging process, however it is a serious issue. Learn more about knowing the signs of depression and how to seek help. Your daily juggling act as the caregiver to your aging parent can be a challenge. There are so many things that you are balancing between family, work, and caregiving that you might not be aware of subtle changes in your parent’s mood. Do you see them napping often, or worse, sleeping all day and uninterested in interacting with members of the family? Are you sensing a change in their personality that’s out of the norm? These may be some of the subtle signs of depression that can creep up over time. Depression is not a normal part of the aging process, and you should address issues with depression as you would with any adult. According to the [National Institute of Mental Health](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml), your aging parent is less likely to confide their feelings of sadness, loss, or despair with you. Perhaps they don’t want to burden you further or are just too overwhelmed. Many seniors with depression don’t show clear signs and symptoms of depression, making it difficult for a caregiver to notice or might be confused as normal changes due to age. If your parent has a physical illness, medical condition, or [chronic pain](https://www.aarp.org/health/conditions-treatments/info-2019/chronic-pain-depression.html), which many seniors do, they are at a higher risk of depression. Depression can make their illness symptoms even worse. Depression is a recurrent disorder. If your mom or dad has experienced depression in the past, you should be especially vigilant. Symptoms of depression to watch for include: ### 1.**Extreme feelings.** Is your parent experiencing feelings of deep sorrow, something that they cannot seem to manage or overcome? Do you find they have a loss of hope or sadness? Do they feel isolated, or are they experiencing feelings of self-loathing? Everyone can have a bad day, and that is normal. But depression cumulates to a deep sense of helplessness or despair that feels out of control over an extended period. ### 2. **Loss of interest**. Is your parent losing interest in hobbies and activities that they were passion about or fond of doing? Do they wish to be isolated and have lost interest in socializing with others? Do they no longer want to attend social events or holiday celebrations? Do they have a lack of energy or motivation? For someone with depression, life can feel like an uphill battle, and pleasurable activities can be pushed aside. ### 3. **Physical symptoms.** Are they neglecting their appearance or hygiene? Have they lost weight or loss their appetite? Are they experiencing [insomnia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/solving-senior-sleep-problems/)? Do they sleep all day or have difficulty sleeping through the night? Are they experiencing unexplained aches and pains? Has their speech slowed? Depression can come with feelings of fatigue and lack of energy which can lead to poor eating, insomnia, and affect all aspects of their life. ### 4. **Behavioral changes**. Are they experiencing more memory problems? Are they having bouts of confusion or overly demanding behavior? Are you noticing changes in their personality? Do they forget to take their medications? Are they having thoughts of suicide? Or have they attempted suicide? Depression manifests differently in everyone from difficulty concentrating, to poor decision making, and even outbursts of anger or frustration. Since you know your loved one well, you will be able to flag changes in their behavior perhaps better than anyone. ### 5. **Increased use of alcohol and/or drugs.** Are they drinking much more, over drinking, or abusing alcohol? Are they using drugs or alcohol as an escape? Alcohol is a depressant, so it can add to feelings of being blue and even lead to depression. It can be part of a vicious cycle. ### Holistic Approach [Áegis Livin](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)g has a holistic approach to caring for our aging residents. To ensure their mental health, we have partnered with a medical professional who provides geriatric psychosocial services for our Washington residents. Through scheduled appointments within their communities, our residents can meet to address symptoms they may experience due to depression or other mental disorders. Our goal is to maximize their quality of life and help treat their unique issues. Your dad’s mental health is just as important as his physical health. Your parent does not have to suffer from depression. They are just as able to bounce back from depression as someone half their age. If you suspect your parent is depressed, consult with their [physician](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/using-the-expertise-of-a-geriatrician/) who will be able to recommend the appropriate treatment for your loved one. --- ## Now is the time for your family to get power of attorney URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/now-is-the-time-for-power-of-attorney/ Focus keyword: Category: financial-legal Tags: dementia, alzheimers, fall-prevention, social-connection, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-seniors Summary: Legal planning ensures your parent's wishes are met. Learn more about how designating a power of attorney is a good first step. Perhaps your mom is newly widowed, your dad has been diagnosed with dementia, or your parents have let their house fall in disrepair. You may be realizing that your parent’s ability to care for themselves is changing as they get older. At this stage in life, a change in health or mobility can cause a real disruption to a person’s lifestyle. It can be unpredictable; therefore, planning is important. Proper legal and financial planning for your parent will ensure their wishes are met. Then your family can confidently make decisions on their behalf. Designate a [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) as a good first step to help your family be better prepared for the future. ### What is a Power of Attorney? The general concept of a **[power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/)**[,](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/) although legal specifics may vary by state, allows a spouse, family member, trusted friend, or caregiver to make legal decisions for someone who is unable to make these critical decisions on their own. This written document allows health, legal, financial, or real estate matters to be handled by someone that your parent designates and trusts without hesitation. A power of attorney will handle all legal and financial concerns for your parent. They can be selected to make decisions on separate issues based on your parent’s wishes and thoughtful decisions. For example, your parent may want you to be their **[healthcare power of attorney](https://estate.findlaw.com/living-will/healthcare-power-of-attorney.html)**, where you are responsible for decisions regarding medical care. Or your parent might choose to designate you as power of attorney with the responsibility of their healthcare, finances, and property needs. ### When Is It Time for Power of Attorney? Important decisions will need to be made on your parent’s behalf, choices that should not be left to chance. So, to answer the question: when should you set up a power of attorney? I would suggest that you consider designating your power of attorney as part of your retirement planning. Establishing a power of attorney is a good idea for any retired person or senior at any time. And it’s important to understand that signing a power of attorney does not deprive you of control over your affairs. It’s a contingency plan that becomes a powerful tool when needed. ### How to Set Up Power of Attorney? Start first by [finding a knowledgeable lawyer](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) who understands the limitations and restrictions in your state. A competent lawyer in this area of expertise will be beneficial to your family, especially for a loved one newly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia. In addition to setting up a power of attorney, an elder law attorney can assist with issues like how to pay for long-term care, preparing will or trusts, estate planning, and assistance with Medicare, Medicaid, and social security. To find an appropriate lawyer, ask your friends and family for a recommendation or search online organizations, such as the**[National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys](https://www.naela.org/)**, to find a lawyer in your city. ### Dementia Planning You should start legal planning immediately if your parent is diagnosed with dementia, and a power of attorney has not been decided. The **[Alzheimer’s Association](https://alz.org/help-support/i-have-alz/plan-for-your-future/legal_planning)** recommends meeting with a lawyer as soon as they are diagnosed so they can participate in planning before their decline. Hire an elder law attorney who will ensure your parent’s health, property, and legal matters are correctly handled. Setting up a power of attorney can bring you and your parent valuable peace of mind, so don’t delay. If they want their financial and medical decisions to be fulfilled, then setting up a power of attorney who understands their wishes is essential. Their future should not be something that is left to chance, but a decision made while they are able to participate in the process. Contact an [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community and speak to the Marketing Director who may have referrals they can share with you to get started on your planning. --- ## 10 Longevity Tips for Seniors: How to Live Better, Longer URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-longevity-tips-for-a-better-life/ Focus keyword: longevity Category: healthy-aging Tags: nutrition, exercise-fitness, sleep, brain-health, fall-prevention, social-connection, for-seniors Summary: Doctor-backed longevity habits for older adults: movement, nutrition, sleep, social connection, and purpose. Science-based steps you can start this week. Living longer and living *well* rarely comes down to one miracle habit. It comes from stacking small, daily choices: moving your body, eating real food, sleeping deeply, staying connected, and finding a reason to get out of bed. Older adults who combine these habits can add healthy years to their lives, according to the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/healthy-aging), 2023. Below are ten longevity tips you can start using this week, no matter your age. ## What actually moves the needle on lifespan after 65? Roughly 1 in 3 adults over 65 falls each year, and falls are the leading cause of injury death in older Americans ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). That single statistic reframes longevity: it is not just about avoiding disease, it is about staying strong, balanced, and engaged. If you only do one thing after reading this, start with our [5 Safe Exercises for Seniors: A Doctor-Backed Guide](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-five-safe-exercises-for-seniors/) and build from there. As Daniel Levitin, PhD, neuroscientist and author of *Successful Aging*, has explained, the strongest predictors of a long, sharp later life are conscientiousness, curiosity, and social engagement, not genetics alone. In other words, your daily routine matters more than your family tree. ## Why does movement beat "exercise" alone? A 30-minute gym session cannot undo 10 hours of sitting. Adults aged 65+ should aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity weekly, plus muscle-strengthening on 2 days and balance work ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/physical-activity-basics/guidelines/older-adults.html), 2024). Consider an 82-year-old who walks the dog twice a day, gardens for 20 minutes, and does a seated strength routine while watching the news. She hits her weekly minutes without ever stepping into a gym. For something gentler on the joints, try [Practicing the Ancient Art of Tai Chi](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/practicing-tai-chi/), which the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/exercise-and-physical-activity), 2023 highlights for balance and fall prevention. ## What does "eat real food" mean in practice? The world's longest-lived populations, studied across five Blue Zones, eat mostly plants, beans, whole grains, and small portions of fish ([Blue Zones](https://www.bluezones.com/recipes/food-guidelines/), 2024). They stop eating at about 80% full, a habit Okinawans call *hara hachi bu*. Food GroupAim ForLimitVegetables & fruit5+ servings/day-Beans, lentils, nuts1/2 cup beans daily-Whole grainsDailyRefined flourFish2-3 times/weekFried fishRed & processed meat-Less than 2x/monthAdded sugar-Less than 7 tsp/dayFor specific guidance on brain-protective foods, see [Eat Smart for Your Head and Your Heart](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/eat-smart-for-your-head-and-your-heart/) and [Nutritional Needs of Seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/nutritional-needs-of-seniors/). ## How much do sleep, doctor visits, and medication timing matter? Adults 65+ need 7 to 8 hours of sleep nightly, and chronic short sleep raises risk of heart disease, diabetes, and cognitive decline ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/sleep/sleep-and-older-adults), 2024). Going to bed and waking at the same time, even on weekends, is the single most effective sleep habit for older adults. Routine checkups, screenings, and medication reviews catch problems early. If your parent takes 4+ prescriptions, ask the pharmacist about timing; for the basics, read [The best time of day for administering medications](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-best-time-of-day-for-administering-medications/). ## Why are purpose and social connection longevity "vital signs"? Loneliness carries a health risk comparable to smoking 15 cigarettes a day, per the U.S. Surgeon General's advisory ([U.S. Department of Health and Human Services](https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf), 2023). Imagine a recently widowed 78-year-old who joins a Tuesday bridge group, calls one grandchild each Sunday, and volunteers at the library on Thursdays. That schedule is medicine. The Japanese concept of *ikigai* - a reason to get up in the morning - is associated with lower mortality in older adults (National Institute on Aging, 2019). ## Key longevity terms, defined Blue ZonesFive regions worldwide (Okinawa, Sardinia, Nicoya, Ikaria, Loma Linda) where people routinely live past 100 with low rates of chronic disease.IkigaiA Japanese word meaning "reason for being" - the intersection of what you love, what you are good at, and what the world needs.SarcopeniaAge-related loss of muscle mass and strength. Strength training and adequate protein slow it dramatically.Hara hachi buOkinawan practice of stopping eating when you are about 80% full. ## A 10-step longevity routine you can start this week - **Fill your calendar with people.** Schedule at least 3 face-to-face social touches per week. - **Move every hour, not just at the gym.** Stand, walk, or stretch every 60 minutes. - **Eat mostly plants.** Half your plate vegetables, a quarter whole grains, a quarter protein. - **See your doctor on schedule.** Annual physical, dental twice yearly, eye exam yearly after 65. - **Protect 7-8 hours of sleep.** Same bedtime, dark room, no screens 60 minutes before. - **Name your purpose.** Write one sentence: "I get up because ___." - **Practice optimism.** End each day listing 3 good things that happened. - **Tend your spirit.** Five minutes of meditation, prayer, or quiet nature time daily. - **Manage stress actively.** Try the Mayo Clinic's 4-7-8 breath or a daily walk ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-relievers/art-20047257), 2024). - **Find daily joy.** Hug the dog, call a grandkid, finish a crossword. Small wins compound. ## Where can you get support putting these habits in place? At Áegis Living, daily life is built around these ten longevity elements: chef-prepared meals, fitness and tai chi classes, social programming, sleep-supportive routines, and Life's Neighborhood® for residents with memory loss. To see how it works in person, [find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a visit. ## Frequently asked questions ### What is the single most important longevity habit for seniors? Daily movement and strong social connection tie for first place. The CDC recommends 150 minutes of moderate activity weekly plus strength and balance work, and the U.S. Surgeon General's 2023 advisory frames loneliness as a major health risk. Combining the two beats either one alone. ### How many hours of sleep do adults over 65 need? 7 to 8 hours per night, per the National Institute on Aging. The myth that older adults need less sleep is not supported by research; they simply have a harder time getting it, which makes consistent bedtimes and a dark, cool bedroom essential. ### Are Blue Zones diets realistic for American seniors? Yes, with small swaps. Replace red meat with beans 4 days a week, snack on nuts instead of chips, and treat fish as the main protein twice weekly. You do not have to move to Sardinia to eat like a Sardinian. ### Can you start these longevity habits in your 70s or 80s? Absolutely. Research summarized by the National Institute on Aging shows that adults who begin walking, strength training, or quitting smoking even in their 70s see measurable improvements in mobility, mood, and disease risk. It is never too late. ### How does purpose actually extend life? A sense of purpose is linked with lower rates of stroke, heart attack, and cognitive decline, according to research highlighted by the National Institute on Aging in 2019. Purpose drives the daily behaviors - getting up, getting dressed, getting out - that protect physical and mental health. ### What if my parent has memory loss? Do these tips still apply? Yes, with adaptation. Routine, movement, social contact, and good sleep are even more protective for adults living with dementia. Áegis Living's Life's Neighborhood® program is designed to deliver these longevity elements safely for residents with memory loss. --- ## 7 Options to Pay for Senior Housing Now and Later URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/pay-for-care-now-and-future/ Focus keyword: pay for care Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, veterans, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-spouses Summary: Is your family prepared financially for the expense of assisted living care? Learn the options avaiable to pay for senior housing. Your parent’s future might be a topic that they don’t want to face, or perhaps you have been in denial. It can be a complicated issue, filled with challenges and difficult decisions. However, many families find that in the end, their parent is happier and healthier having made decisions ahead of time. One of these decisions may be about if and when they should move into senior housing, or the supportive services of an assisted living or memory care community. When this happens your family will have to discuss how to pay for this expense. The cost of senior housing can be challenging for some families with fixed incomes or who have not planned for future care. Don’t panic; there are ways to overcome financial hurdles and get to a happy ending. This article will walk you through the best options and resources for your family to pay for senior housing. ### How to Pay for Assisted Care Here are a few options to consider when determining [how to pay for assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-pay-for-assisted-living/) for your parent now. #### Private Pay: If you have savings or investments that can be used to pay for care this is the best option. Of course, this may not be possible for all families. As you assess your assisted living or care options, it’s a good idea to have a budget in mind. First, have a clear understanding of your parent’s financial picture and what **[finances and assets](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/advice-on-paying-for-assisted-living/)**may have available. If they own their home, you may want to consider selling the house or renting it for additional income. Second, determine if you or any other family members are able to contribute money towards expenses. Once you have this determined, you will be able to create a budget. Like any search for housing, the cost of an assisted living community can vary. The location, the types of amenities that are offered, and the quality of care are all things that may affect cost. We strongly suggest that you tour and meet with multiple assisted living communities to compare costs and savings. #### Veteran’s Benefits: Under the VA Aid and Attendance Special Pension, or **[A&A Pension](https://www.benefits.va.gov/pension/index.asp)**, qualified veterans or their surviving spouses can receive tax-free monthly sums to help defray the costs of assisted living. These benefits may not cover the entire rental expense, but it can supplement the long-term care costs and medical expenses in an assisted living community. We suggest that you contact your local VA office to see if your parent qualifies. #### Life Insurance: If your parent has a life insurance policy, your family may be able to cash out the policy for a lump sum to pay for senior housing expenses. The first step is to contact their life insurance company directly to ask about accelerated benefits. The insurance company that issued the policy will typically purchase the policy back for 50% to 75% of its total value. This amount can be determined by the monthly premiums, policy amount, the policyholder’s age, or their health. Each insurance company is unique and must be contacted directly to understand their specific rules and procedures to comprehend this option thoroughly. Be aware that there are advantages and disadvantages of cashing out the policy. It can negatively affect the financial future of heirs. We suggest that you research your options to understand if this is a fit for your circumstance and a good strategy for your family. #### Medicaid: Medicaid is a federal program for older adults with low income and limited assets. The Medicaid program is administered by each state, with each state setting its guidelines regarding support services and eligibility. Over forty states allow some type of funding for senior housing and assisted living, but coverage can differ significantly. To best understand what may be covered under Medicaid within your parent’s specific state, visit the **[Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services](https://www.cms.gov/)** online. Many assisted living communities do not accept Medicaid. You’ll want to check first with any communities you are considering as well. ### Planning for Future Care Expenses It’s best for everyone to plan for the future and the care needs that you may face later in life. Here are a few suggestions to save and plan for those expenses. #### Long-Term Care Insurance: If **[long term care insurance](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/plan-ahead-long-term-care-insurance/)** has been purchased, you will want to review the specifics of their policy. Typically, this type of insurance covers assisted living. Long term care insurance is not traditional health insurance. It’s specifically designed to cover the costs of supportive services when the policyholder is no longer able to care for themselves. These care services may be provided in home, at an assisted living community, for respite care, in a skilled nursing facility, or [hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/). Long term care insurance usually covers what is not covered by health insurance, Medicare, or Medicaid. The bad news is only 3% of Americans have long-term care insurance. It’s recommended to purchase this insurance during middle age or younger. Otherwise, it can be prohibitively expensive later in life. This purchase should be considered as part of retirement planning. When you select your policy, you will have a range of benefits to choose from and decide upon. We suggest that you shop multiple options so you can compare what each policy offers and what you are most comfortable paying #### Retirement and Savings Planning for retirement and saving for your future housing or care needs is essential. If you are just starting to put away money for retirement, start saving and investing as much as you can now. Investing when you are young will give your compound interest an opportunity to generate more earnings. Also, contribute to your company 401K if offered by your employer. A 401K will enable you to contribute pre-tax money to a significant advantage with less of an impact on your monthly budget. #### Catch-Up Contributions The benefit of saving early is that yearly contribution to your 401K and IRA plans are limited, but it allows you to save money over an extended period of time. If you have not been able to save enough, the good news is you can catch up once you reach 50 years old. At 50, you are eligible to invest beyond the usual limits with catch-up contributions to IRAs and 401Ks. [Catch-up contributions](https://www.irs.gov/retirement-plans/plan-participant-employee/retirement-topics-catch-up-contributions) can give a significant boost to your retirement savings. There are many options available to families to help find the best assisted living care for their loved one. It is always advised to speak with a professional. Choose a professional in each of the areas of financial and estate planning to ensure you fully understand the advantages and disadvantages of using the options available. Also discuss the best way to plan for the future. If your parent can no longer live on their own, an [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community may be the right fit for your family. Our staff would love to give you a tour and discuss your needs in person. Schedule a tour today at a community near you. --- ## Technology for Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/technology-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: technology for seniors Category: financial-legal Tags: social-connection, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: The senior housing industry is preparing for the technology that this savvy group of seniors will expect in their new homes. Although there remains a great divide between the older generation and younger Americans adopting technology, that divide is becoming narrower as baby boomers reach retirement age. In fact, with a boom in our aging population on the horizon, this next senior generation owns and uses technologies at the same rate as those under 65. The senior housing industry is preparing for the innovations and upgrades that this tech-savvy group of seniors will expect in their new homes. The baby boomer generation has been accustomed to carrying a smartphone, reading a book on their Kindle, asking Alexa to turn on the lights, and following their grandkids on Facebook. They may not be early adopters, but this generation understands that technology can make their lives easier, which they embrace. Áegis Living has taken steps to integrate technology into our communities and will continue to evaluate technology that will better aid our residents, families, and staff into the future. ### Áegis Living wellness tool - Family Link No other senior housing company uses technology like Áegis Living to provide our families with a window into their loved one’s daily activities. We provide families with access to an online wellness tool that tracks their loved one’s participation levels in activity programs and trends in their behavior. For families, our wellness reporting tool answers the important question of how residents spend their days. This information can be easily shared among family members. Our wellness tool gives our families peace of mind knowing how their parent is adapting to their home. Even greater than insight for our families, we know that socialization is vital to the health of aging loved ones, both physically and mentally. Our wellness tool gives us an awareness of our residents’ overall levels of happiness and wellbeing, at our fingertips. A resident may find an activity that really piques their interest and gives them more vitality. We can build on this interest with more programming. Or we may notice a decline in participation, which could be a sign of something bigger going on with their health that we can follow up on. Beyond understanding the activities that they like to do; we can track their overall wellbeing through participation levels. Not only do we want to create engaging programs that our residents love to participate in, but through collected data, we can better track their quality of life. We can easily see how engaged they are in the community, and if their behavioral changes should be flagged. ### How does technology play a role at Áegis Living? Over the past decade, the senior housing industry has changed dramatically from the stale definition of an “old folk’s home” to vibrant communities. Áegis Living has been a leader offering innovative activity programs that engage our senior residents in often unexpected ways. #### Alexa One of those ways is Áegis Living uses voice-activated technology, [Amazon’s Alexa](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/seniors-engaging-with-amazon/), in all our assisted living and memory care communities. Our Life Enrichment team uses this resource throughout the day to pull from a myriad of current events, games, topics of interest, and music. Our staff never wants an opportunity to pass by to actively interact with a resident. Alexa is a great tool to start a conversation, answer a question, or spark a memory in real-time. When we have gaps in our programming, we can lose momentum and opportunity. Alexa allows our Life Enrichment team to engage with our residents in the moment to recall a forgotten name, date, fact, or even play a favorite song without missing a beat. #### Innovative Technology Tools In addition to Alexa, we use technology to play trivia or brain fitness games to help with mental agility and improve cognition. Or we can use an online program to lead them through meditation or deep breathing exercises. Residents can stay connected to current events and news with community-wide internet access. Áegis Living’s use of Virtually Reality, in some communities, provides experiences for residents like visiting the Louvre museum, hiking mountains and fishing. Technology has transformed how many seniors communicate, using Skype or a mobile phone to chat with and stay connected to loved ones with ease. And our common computer rooms are available for our residents to utilize, check emails, or touch base with their family. #### Technology’s Role in Resident Safety Currently, we use check-in kiosks at the front reception desks to track visitors within the community. Motion sensors in the senior apartments help track movement if a resident is up during the night and medical alerts are worn to keep them safe. Our medication managers track residents’ health and medication information electronically for accuracy and to avoid drug interactions. Our around-the-clock care staff is supported by technology to better monitor keep residents safe and healthy. And as “smart home” technology evolves, we know there will be even more options within each senior apartment in the future. Our lives are being transformed by technology that not only benefits young families, but these advancements include options for grandma and grandpa too. Technology continues to evolve and change. As an industry, senior housing needs to include these changes and innovations where necessary, especially when serving a more tech-savvy audience in the future. At Áegis Living, we are committed to integrating new technology for our residents that enhances their quality of life. Come see Áegis Living for yourself. Schedule a tour at [a community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)**.** --- ## 5 benefits of respite care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-benefits-of-respite-care/ Focus keyword: respite care Category: caregiver-support Tags: depression-anxiety, dementia, respite-care, assisted-living, emotional-wellness, social-connection, legal-planning Summary: "Respite care can give you a chance to relieve stress so you can return to the job of looking after your mom refreshed & rejuvenated." Providing care for an aging parent with escalating health issues can be an overwhelming task that is exhausting not only mentally and emotionally, but also on a physical level. That’s why it’s important for caregivers to take time away from this responsibility and focus on themselves, which is where respite care benefits can help. ## What is respite care? Respite, or short-term, care is temporary residential care that is planned in advance to give the caregiver a little time off from their family caregiver responsibilities, while the older parent receives care from a trained professional in a safe environment. These stays can last as little as a week or as long as a month. ## Benefits of respite care. *“You may take great pride in looking after your mom; however, this doesn’t mean you don’t need a break every once in a while.”* A caregiver may take great pride in looking after a loved one with dementia; however, this doesn’t mean you don’t need a break every once in a while. Respite care can provide a plethora of benefits, including: ### 1. Stress Relief The demanding situation can cause chronic stress, which is detrimental to all aspects of your health. It can deteriorate your physical well-being as well as your mental health, potentially leading to anxiety, depression and other issues. Respite care gives a little relief from the stress of your responsibilities by providing the time and space you need to heal and recuperate. ### 2. Staycation Providing care to a person with many health issues doesn’t just take away from your work and social life - you may also find yourself neglecting your day-to-day responsibilities. Even a short staycation away from your caregiving responsibilities can allow you the time you need to take care of errands, chores, social visits and quiet time you have missed. ### 3. Tend to Family Focusing your attention on your mom may draw your attention away from other members of the family. By taking a week away on occasion, you can spend some valuable bonding time with your significant other, children, siblings and others. ### 4. **Caregiver Returns Refreshed** One can get quickly burned out by providing care, especially if the caregiver must also balance work and a family. Respite care allows the caregiver time to heal from the stress so that they can return to the role refreshed, rejuvenated and ready to take on the duties involved. In fact, a short break can help prevent unintended neglect and feelings of resentment. ### 5. **Benefits for the senior** While respite care is designed to provide the caregiver a break, respite care benefits your parent as well. In addition to adding a little excitement by providing a break from your mom’s daily routine, respite care at an **[assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/)** community immerses her in a warm and welcoming environment. She will have the chance to meet other people her age and engage in activities geared toward seniors. It can be such a rewarding experience that many seniors even find that they prefer spending their time at an assisted living community over receiving at-home care. It’s important to recognize that there is no shame in taking a break. In fact, with a little support, you may feel a new sense of joy in taking care of your loved one, yet another**[respite care](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)** benefit. --- ## Solving Senior Sleep Problems URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/solving-senior-sleep-problems/ Focus keyword: senior sleep problems Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, dementia, sleep, nutrition, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: Getting enough sleep is crucial for your overall well-being. Identifying sleep disrupters and addressing them at their root will go a long way. Learn more here. As you reach for your eyeglasses to read the morning newspaper or think twice about ordering a spicy meal, you may be aware of the physical changes happening to you as you age. Some changes are small and bothersome, while others can greatly affect your daily life. One of the most significant, age-related changes for seniors are sleep problems. Insomnia, feelings of fatigue, and brain fog due to a lack of sleep can be normal with age. However, these symptoms can negatively impact your quality of life, and there are ways to curtail these sleep problems. Sleep disturbances are often attributed to the physical and psychiatric changes in older adults and the side effects of the medications used to treat these changes. Some seniors will deal with short periods of insomnia, but chronic insomnia (insomnia lasting over three weeks) is not a normal part of the aging process. We suggest that you consult with your physician to rule out any medical reasons for your restless sleep or chronic insomnia. If you are the primary caregiver for a senior, you may be aware they are having sleep problems. Perhaps you hear your parent walking around several times throughout the night, or you can see they are fatigued after a night’s sleep. ### Medical issues that can cause senior sleep problems: - **Pain.** Lower back pain, headaches, arthritis, surgery, or illness can cause pain in older adults, making it difficult to fall asleep and remain soundly asleep. - **Dementia**. Researchers do not entirely understand why Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia disrupt sleep patterns. **[Sundowning](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-sundowning-and-why-does-it-occur/)** is another issue related to dementia that causes agitation during the hours around dusk, making it difficult to relax before bedtime. - **Heart Disease.** The symptoms of heart disease, such as angina, fluid buildup in the lungs, or abnormal heart rhythm, can cause poor sleep. - **Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (GERD).** GERD, also known as acid reflux, causes irritation and pain that can make it challenging to get to sleep and remain soundly asleep. - **Sleep Apnea.** Obstructive Sleep Apnea (OSA) can cause an individual to stop breathing and interrupt their sleep patterns. The fatigue and sleep deprivation of OSA can cause significant health issues, putting your loved one at risk for cardiovascular disease, depression, and even memory loss. - **Depression.** Chronic insomnia is a leading cause of depression in older adults. In turn, depression disrupts the sleep pattern, causing a vicious cycle of insomnia for your parent. - **Frequent Urination**. Visiting the bathroom often at night or incontinence can be signs of diabetes, a side effect of medication, a urinary tract infection, or a kidney infection. - **Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS)** Characterized by unpleasant tingling or twitching feelings in your legs, a neurological disorder causing one to move their limbs. Once you have consulted with a doctor to address any medical issues or the medications that might impact sleep, how can you help your parent or spouse get a better night’s sleep? We suggest a nightly routine that is adhered to regularly for best results. It may sound simple, but **[studies have shown](https://www.webmd.com/healthy-aging/news/20100401/daily-routines-help-seniors-sleep-better)** this can have significant results for your aging parent. A nightly routine has also been shown to increase a sense of security and reduce anxiety. ### Try these steps to help solve senior sleep problems: - Stick to a routine where your parent regularly goes to bed at the same time every night and wakes up at approximately the same time each morning. - Have a relaxing nighttime routine that includes dimming the lights, turning off the television, powering down the computer, and don’t bring a smartphone or iPad to bed. - Reading a book or listening to soothing music can help your loved one wind down and feel drowsy. - Try a warm, soothing bath in the evening to help to calm and relax your parent. - A glass of warm milk contains a natural, sedative-like amino acid that may help your loved one feel sleepy and get to sleep faster. - Try a light, healthy snack that has shown to help some seniors sleep more soundly during the night. - Avoid drinking alcohol, which may cause your spouse to fall asleep quicker but can disrupt their sleep throughout the night and lead to poor quality sleep. - Avoid tobacco use close to bedtime. - Moderate exercise, such as a walk during the day, can lead to a more restful night’s sleep. - Exposure during the day to natural daylight or bright light has shown to help with better sleep by setting one’s circadian rhythms and melatonin levels that signal the brain when to rest. - Avoid coffee, chocolate, tea, and caffeinated sodas at least four hours prior to bedtime. - Suggest to your parent that they do not nap during the day. But if they must, limit the naps to a half-hour. - Some find that ambient noise machines can be helpful or an eye mask or blackout shades to keep out the light. - Try deep breathing exercises or **[meditation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meditation-to-improve-brain-health/)** to wind down before bedtime. Lack of sleep can be difficult for a senior - hard on their sense of well-being and their health. Taking steps to make your loved one comfortable, calm, and relaxed may help them get to sleep quicker and sleep better throughout the night. And don’t hesitate to consult with a medical professional if you are concerned about your parent’s lack of sleep and its effect on their health. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)**,** we offer comfortable, private apartments where our residents can get a restful night’s sleep. Contact a community near you to set up a tour. We wish you sweet dreams! --- ## From a Busy Life to a Sudden Family Caregiver URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-family-caregivers-need/ Focus keyword: caregiver Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, respite-care, nutrition, sleep, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-caregivers Summary: Balancing a busy life and family caregiver duties can lead to burnout. Learn how to support a stressed caregiver with specific time, task, and financial help. Our lives are busy. Most Americans seem to be juggling a family, household chores, working out, eating healthy, full-time employment, and maybe, squeezing in some personal time. Our delicate spinning-plates act can come crashing down when mom suffers a stroke or dad has a bad fall. Adding primary caregiving to your responsibilities may seem almost insurmountable. However, you adjust your schedule, set up a room in your house, and address what needs to be done - often sacrificing your health, finances, and sleep in the process. Being the primary caregiver for a parent or spouse places a lot of unexpected demands on maxed out caregivers. Caregivers are great at helping but are often the last person who asks for help. Family members and close friends can play a key role in supporting a caregiver. The first step is to offer help in a specific way. Don’t ask, “Do you need anything?” But rather, “I can take mom to her weekly physical therapy appointment and out to lunch every Tuesday.” Committing your time and following through will give the caregiver a much-needed break. Overwhelmed caregivers may not know what they need help with, so offer to help with a date, time, or task. Once they accept your help, they may be willing to ask for help more frequently. ### Financial Cost Many siblings or family members, who are not in the same city as you and your loved one, may feel helpless. We suggest that if you can’t give of your time due to location, that perhaps you can help financially. According to a **[study by AARP](https://www.aarp.org/content/dam/aarp/ppi/2015/valuing-the-invaluable-2015-update-new.pdf)**, the average family caregiver for a senior spends $5,531 per year on out of pocket expenses. Moreover, if the primary caregiver is employed, they will often reduce their hours or quit to provide full-time care to a loved one. A **[MetLife study](https://www.caregiving.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/mmi-caregiving-costs-working-caregivers.pdf)** estimates of income-related losses sustained by family caregivers ages 50 and older, who leave the workforce to care for a parent, are $303,880, on average, in lost income and benefits over a caregiver’s lifetime. Of course, everyone’s financial situation is different. Whatever your means, consider thoughtful ways that you can support a stressed-out caregiver. A gift card for a day at the spa or an hour massage could help melt away tension. Paying for a weekly meal delivery could benefit the entire family to eat healthier and remove the burden of shopping and menu planning. Arrange a time for the caregiver to pick-up prepaid groceries or arrange a grocery delivery. And if you are in the financial position, offer to help or pay for an hourly caregiver to come to their home, a temporary respite stay at an assisted living community, or a portion of the expense of assisted living. Many families are afraid to talk about expenses and how to handle **[care costs](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/pay-for-care-now-and-future/)**. However, financial assistance may be what a primary caregiver needs help with most. ### Emotional Cost Although caregiving can be fulfilling, and bring family closer together, it can also take an emotional toll. The caregiver may be riding a rolling tide of emotions between feeling alone, overwhelmed, sad, frustrated, and sometimes, even angry. Also, their parent can be feeling an array of emotions. They may be caring for a loved one whose health is in decline, or they may be in **[denial](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dementia-whisperer-denial-a-survival-mechanism/)** to protect themselves from the pain. Often the **[parent/child role](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/parent-child-role-reversal/)** has reversed - this strange, new dynamic shouldn’t be underestimated. Caregiving is not always a comfortable situation. To help an emotionally taxed caregiver, we suggest that you create a safe place and an opportunity for them to vent, rant, cry, and take a deep breath. Give them uninterrupted time on the phone or take them on a walk and listen to their concerns. They need to share and work through their mix of emotions. Lending an ear may be all they need to release their frustration. Be kind to them and offer them your time to talk about how they feel, without judgment. Watch for signs of depression or anxiety in the caregiver. A grueling schedule and a swarm of demands can lead to negative feelings. They may also be neglecting their health - skipping personal medical appointments, not exercising, eating fast food out of convenience, and experiencing high levels of stress. This emotional toll may not only affect the caregiver but all who live in the household. Perhaps you can offer to temporarily stay to watch your parent while your sibling takes a family vacation or arrange for **[respite care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-benefits-of-respite-care/)** for them to get a break. [Caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) is a concern. Every caregiver needs time for themselves to reconnect and recharge. Reassure your family caregiver it’s not selfish, but necessary for them to focus on their health too. At **[Áegis Living,](https://www.aegisliving.com/)** we offer temporary care for families who need someone to care for their loved one on a short-term basis. Your loved one will enjoy all the activities, amenities, and cuisine that the community offers while staying in a private, furnished apartment. Our Áegis Living care staff are experts in memory care, making our program a great option if your parent has Alzheimer’s’ or another form of dementia. Your family will have the peace of mind knowing they are in expert hands. [Contact a community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) today to find out more about our respite care program. --- ## Safety at Home: A Family's Guide to Aging URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-age-in-place/ Focus keyword: Aging Category: family-communication Tags: arthritis-mobility, vision-hearing, assisted-living, nutrition, brain-health, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Learn what aging in place means, when home modifications work, and when assisted living becomes the safer choice for your aging parent. Aging in place means living in your chosen home as you grow older, with support added as needs change. It works well when a home is safe, accessible, and connected to community. It becomes risky when falls, isolation, medication errors, or unmet daily-care needs start to outpace what family and home modifications can cover. This guide walks through how to evaluate the choice honestly, what it costs, and when assisted living becomes the kinder option. ## What does "aging in place" actually mean? The U.S. Centers for Disease Control defines aging in place as "the ability to live in one's own home and community safely, independently, and comfortably, regardless of age, income, or ability level" (CDC Healthy Aging, 2024). The key word is *safely*. Staying home isn't a goal in itself; staying healthy, social, and supported is. AARP surveys consistently find that the large majority of adults over 50 prefer to remain in their current home as they age ([AARP Home and Community Preferences Survey](https://www.aarp.org/pri/topics/livable-communities/housing/2021-home-community-preferences/), 2021). Preference and feasibility, though, are different questions. Before you promise your parent they'll never have to move, work through the next four checks together. For the conversation itself, our pillar guide on [how to talk to your parents about long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/) can help. ## Is your parent's home actually safe for aging in place? Falls are the leading cause of injury death for adults 65+, and most happen at home ([CDC Older Adult Falls Data](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). Walk through the house with fresh eyes: - **Stairs and thresholds:** any step without a railing, any rug edge that lifts - **Bathrooms:** tub entry height, grab bars near toilet and shower, non-slip flooring - **Lighting:** motion-sensor nightlights on the path from bed to bathroom - **Kitchen:** reachable shelving, an auto-shutoff stove if memory is slipping - **Outside:** uneven walkways, icy steps, mailbox distance Consider an 84-year-old who falls reaching for a coffee filter on a top shelf. A $40 step stool didn't cause the fall; a kitchen that was never reorganized after her hip surgery did. Small redesigns prevent big hospitalizations. ## What does aging in place cost compared to assisted living? Home isn't free. Once you add in-home care, modifications, and lost informal-caregiver wages, the math shifts. The CareScout Cost of Care Survey reports the following national medians ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025): Care settingMedian monthly cost (2025)What's included In-home care (non-medical caregiver, 44 hrs/wk)about $6,673Cooking, cleaning, errands, plus bathing, dressing, mobility help Assisted living community$6,200Housing, meals, 24/7 staff, social programming Private nursing-home roomabout $10,800Skilled nursing, medical oversight The surprise for most families: 24/7 home care can cost more than assisted living, because you're paying retail for every hour. Home modifications add up too, with a walk-in shower retrofit typically running $3,000 to $15,000 and a stair lift $3,000 to $5,000 ([AARP Caregiving Resources](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/home-care/), 2024). ## When is aging in place no longer the right call? Geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has argued that older adults deserve environments designed around how their bodies and minds actually work, not just nostalgic preferences. A home that worked at 70 may quietly stop working at 84. Watch for these tipping points: - **Two or more falls in a year**, even without injury - **Medication errors**: missed doses, doubled doses, expired bottles - **Weight loss or empty fridge** indicating skipped or simplified meals - **Unopened mail, unpaid bills**, or new scam vulnerability - **Wandering, leaving the stove on, or getting lost** driving familiar routes - **[Caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/)** in the adult child or spouse providing daily support Consider a family whose mother has started leaving the stove on twice a week and forgot to take her blood pressure pills for four days. No single incident is a crisis. Together they signal that the house, however beloved, has become a job she can no longer hold down. ## What support services make aging in place work longer? Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) The basic self-care tasks of bathing, dressing, toileting, eating, and transferring (for example, bed to chair). Trouble with two or more ADLs is a standard trigger for considering assisted living. Instrumental Activities of Daily Living (IADLs) The more complex tasks of independent life: cooking, managing money, taking medications correctly, shopping, and using the phone or transportation. Aging Life Care Manager A licensed professional (often a nurse or social worker) who assesses needs, coordinates services, and acts as a local point person when family lives far away. PACE Program The Program of All-Inclusive Care for the Elderly, a Medicare and Medicaid benefit that delivers medical and social services to keep nursing-home-eligible adults at home (Medicare.gov, 2024). Pair these with a Meals on Wheels delivery, a medical alert button, a weekly housekeeper, and a regular driver, and a determined senior can extend independence by years. The Mayo Clinic emphasizes that social connection is as protective as physical safety, since isolation raises the risk of depression and cognitive decline ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/loneliness/art-20566901), 2024). ## How does assisted living compare to staying home? Today's assisted living looks nothing like the nursing homes your parent remembers. Communities offer private apartments, restaurant-style dining, transportation, daily activities, and care staff who scale services up as needs change. As dementia care educator Teepa Snow, founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: the right environment doesn't take independence away, it removes the obstacles that were stealing it. If a move is on the table, our guides on [what to expect moving to Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/expect-moving-to-aegis-living/), [helping your parent adjust to their new home](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/help-parent-adjust-to-new-home/), and [meaningful family visits in assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/family-visits-in-assisted-living/) walk through the transition step by step. ## Ready to weigh your options? Aging in place can be the right answer, until it isn't. If you'd like a candid conversation about where your parent falls on that spectrum, [contact an Áegis Living advisor](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) or [find a community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to tour. Bring your questions; we'll bring the honest answers. ## Frequently asked questions ### What is the difference between aging in place and assisted living? Aging in place means staying in your private home with support brought in as needed. Assisted living means moving into a community designed around aging, with 24/7 staff, meals, and social programming included. Both aim for independence; they just deliver it differently. ### How do I know when my parent should stop living alone? Watch for repeated falls, medication mistakes, weight loss, neglected bills, or new safety incidents like leaving the stove on. Two or more unmet activities of daily living (bathing, dressing, eating, toileting, transferring) is a standard signal to consider a higher level of care. ### Does Medicare pay for aging in place services? Medicare covers short-term skilled home health after a hospitalization but does not pay for long-term custodial care, homemaker services, or home modifications ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/home-health-services), 2024). Medicaid, the PACE program, and VA Aid and Attendance may help lower-income or veteran families. ### What home modifications matter most for safety? The highest-impact changes are bathroom grab bars, a curbless walk-in shower, improved lighting (especially on stairs and the bedroom-to-bathroom path), removal of throw rugs, and a single-floor living setup if possible. An occupational therapist can do a home safety assessment, often covered by Medicare with a physician referral. ### Is it cheaper to age at home than move to assisted living? It depends on hours of care needed. Light help (a few hours a week) at home is cheaper than assisted living. Once a senior needs 8+ hours of daily hands-on care, in-home costs typically exceed assisted living costs in the same region ([Genworth Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2023). ### How can I reduce my parent's loneliness if they stay home? Schedule recurring social contact rather than relying on "checking in." Senior center programs, faith communities, adult day programs, and video calls on a simple tablet all help. The Mayo Clinic notes that chronic loneliness carries health risks comparable to smoking, so treat connection as preventive medicine, not a nice-to-have. --- ## Part-Time Job Opportunities for Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/part-time-job-opportunities-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: senior jobs Category: financial-legal Tags: arthritis-mobility, safety-at-home, hobbies-activities, for-seniors, nutrition Summary: If you are looking to make a little extra money to add to your retirement part-time work may be a great fit for you. Read more here. Just because you have retired, your skills are not obsolete. As a senior, you bring a wealth of experience, maturity, creativity, and expertise to a job. If you are looking to make a little extra money to add to your retirement or perhaps you are interested in keeping your skills sharp, part-time work may be a great fit. We have a few suggestions, but there are many more possibilities to explore. ### Do What You Know: Consulting Work You have spent your career honing your skills, building your resume, and becoming an expert in your field, now use this skill set to become a consultant in your expertise. The difficulty with starting a consulting business is finding a steady stream of projects, which are typically short-term assignments. It’s time to tap into your network of resources - past employers, clients, former colleagues, and professional contacts - for referrals or recommendations. Depending on your field, you may be able to find work through an industry association or perhaps your alma mater. You may want to consider creating a website to promote your services, updating your LinkedIn profile to show you are available for consulting work, or using a website such as **[Patina Solutions](http://patinasolutions.com/)** to find opportunities to apply your experience. ### From the Comfort of Your House: Work from Home If you have mobility issues or feel more comfortable joining the work pool from home, home-based jobs are available. Plenty of websites have been created to support remote workers such as [Upwork](https://www.upwork.com/) and [ZipRecruiter](https://www.ziprecruiter.com/). #### Beware of Scams The downside is that for every legitimate home-based job, there are hundreds of job scams to be cautious about. These scams range from phishing for personal information, to sending in money with the promise of reimbursement, to package processing of stolen products. Often, these scams prey on the vulnerable. Be **[savvy about scams](https://www.ziprecruiter.com/blog/how-to-avoid-job-scams/)** and careful when asked for your personal information. #### Creative Skills from Home You can also find opportunities around your home. If you are good at sewing, consider providing alterations or creating crafts that could be sold on Etsy. Are you a green thumb who could help a neighbor establish their garden? Alternatively, are you a great cook who could help prepare meals for a young family or baker to make birthday cakes? Could your woodworking hobby make you some extra money or are you a handyman with time to spare? Brainstorm with your friends and family members who may see your strengths and be able to help with suggestions and ideas. ### Change with the Seasons: Seasonal Work Job opportunities can be more abundant with the changing of each season. Many snowbirds find flexibility with seasonal jobs wherever they may reside temporarily. In the summer, you might discover part-time openings at a local city tourist attraction, in a gift shop, or with the [National Park Service](https://www.aarp.org/work/job-hunting/info-03-2012/seasonal-park-jobs-for-older-workers.html) or botanical gardens for those who want to get outdoors. Summertime means families leaving on vacation (as well as spring break and holidays). Many families would find great comfort in a seasoned adult watching over their furry friends and housesitting. Do you have a classic car? April through summer is wedding season, and plenty of couples are looking to arrive in style. The fall is a good time of year to look into substitute teaching or tutoring opportunities as children return to school. And the holiday season is an excellent time to consider part-time work in retail, customer service, or at the local mall. First of the year, tax preparers are in big demand. Wherever you live, each season offers unique opportunities to stay busy. ### Keep Your Eye on the Clock: Hourly Jobs Are you organized? Can you juggle tasks for a busy mom or harried professional? A personal assistant or an errand service might be a great fit for you. Advertise in your local paper, community bulletin board, or spread the word with friends and family. For one busy person, you could handle a variety of tasks on their behalf: shopping, managing mail, paying bills, running errands, walking their dog, making a meal, or picking up their groceries. You will need to define a payment based on the task or charge an hourly rate. Think about giving discount rates to those who refer new customers to get your business started. And this same idea could be applied to any hourly work, such as a dog walker, babysitter, private tutor, interior designer, proofreader, or housekeeping. Hourly jobs work well for seniors who want flexibility in their schedule or to limit the amount of time that they work. ### Spending Your Time with Others: Volunteer Some seniors continue to work not necessarily for the money but the companionship or a sense of purpose. Seniors who are alone may crave interaction, which a job can fulfill, but consider unpaid opportunities too. If you are comfortable in your retirement, consider volunteering your time and talents to a [nonprofit organization](https://www.guidestar.org/) that could benefit from your expertise and experience. Visit your local senior center or contact a charity that you are interested in supporting to see what positions or volunteer opportunities they have available. Volunteering will get you out of the house but would not tie you down into a paid job or permanent schedule. You can feel a sense of accomplishment and commitment, but with the freedom to volunteer on your terms. At Áegis Living, we support a sense of purpose in our residents. We offer volunteer opportunities and meaningful ways for our residents to engage with others and make connections - much like they did before retirement. If you or your parent needs assistance and can no longer live alone, contact a community near you to [schedule a tour](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). --- ## Seven Myths About Aging URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/seven-aging-myths/ Focus keyword: Aging Myths Category: healthy-aging Tags: vision-hearing, exercise-fitness, nutrition, legal-planning, sleep, fall-prevention, emotional-wellness Summary: The aging process is as unique as the individual. Áegis Living takes a realistic look at 7 common myths about aging. Read more here. As baby boomers gracefully age into retirement and their next phase of life, we want to dispel some of the common myths about aging. Myths that may keep you up at night worrying needlessly. Your age is a number, just candles on a cake. This number doesn’t take into consideration your activity levels, healthy eating, and genetics. These myths are not predictions of your future. If you have taken precautions throughout your life to live healthy and fit, you can feel free to ignore some of these bothersome myths and continue your healthy lifestyle. And if you may not have been as disciplined as you would have liked, the aging process is as unique as the individual. Let’s take a realistic look at common myths about aging. ### Myth #1: I will lose my eyesight. As you search for your reading glasses to read this article, I am sure you have noticed your eyesight has changed with age. Weaker vision doesn’t mean that you will go blind in your advanced years. Your best prevention from eye issues is a healthy lifestyle, like avoiding direct sunlight and smoking. Many are surprised that a healthy diet also plays a crucial role in eye health. A diet rich in vitamin C and E, zinc, and omega-3 fatty acids can help prevent cataracts and age-related macular degeneration (AMD). It’s important to visit your optometrist regularly to discuss any changes in your vision, issues in your family history, and what medications you are taking. An eye doctor can be instrumental in helping you to maintain your good eye health and function. ### Myth #2: How I age is already determined by my genes. Do you fear that your health is fated by your parents, and the genes passed along to you? Your genetics may be in place, but your health is equally influenced by your lifestyle and healthy choices. If your parents lived a long life, you shouldn’t take this for granted. And if your parents were in poor health, making healthy changes can influence your longevity. Take control of what you can impact - sleep, nutrition, stress levels,**[exercise](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/exercise-as-you-age/)**, and attitude - to live a longer, healthier life. Your health is not written in the stars but yours to improve upon and maintain. ### Myth #3: Advanced age means I will be weak and frail. Frailty is not a requirement of old age, but exercise is! Staying active into your golden years will keep you fit. Lifting light weights, walking five times per week, stretching, gardening, and **[even playing with the grandkids](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/6-activities-for-grandparents-with-grandchildren/)** can help you build muscle mass, stay flexible, improve your bone density, and boost your stamina. Before starting any exercise routine, we strongly encourage you to consult your physician. They can help direct you on what is safe for your body and fitness level. A few small active changes can positively impact your strength, stamina, and balance. ### Myth #4: I will become senile. You may experience moments of forgetfulness or times when you are unable to recall a person’s name. This is normal. With prevention, some age-related mental decline can be avoided. More scientists are finding vitamin deficiencies can cause the symptoms of senility. Often, these nutrient deficiencies can go undetected for years. And while some seniors may be deficient in a single vitamin, most often they are lacking in multiple vitamins. Even mild vitamin deficiencies in older adults can cause cognitive impairment and other issues such as poor wound healing, anemia, and propensity to infections. Eating a balanced diet can also help with keeping one mentally sharp and focused. Consult with your doctor before making changes to your diet or increasing your vitamin **[supplements](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/list-all/)**. ### Myth #5: I will no longer be able to eat my favorite foods. With a less active lifestyle, you will want to be aware of the calories that you consume. This doesn’t mean you can no longer indulge in the foods that you love. But it may mean cutting back or adjusting your eating habits. We suggest you eat throughout the day, so your blood sugar levels don’t drop, which can lead to feeling shaky, weak, or a headache. Focus on making healthy choices and having a balanced diet. Some seniors find their sense of taste and smell will change, or they may experience **[oral health issues](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/oral-health-for-the-elderly/)** that can affect their ability to chew. If this is the case, we suggest that you consult with your physician or dentist. ### Myth #6: I will be grumpy, cranky, and unpleasant to be around. The truth is there are unpleasant, cranky younger people in this world too. A bad attitude isn’t reserved for the elderly. You can control your viewpoint on aging, and an **[optimistic attitude](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-for-longevity-on-centenarian-day/)** can lead to a better quality of life. But that’s only half of the equation. A good outlook can’t overcome the discomfort of pain, lack of sleep, or feelings of chronic depression, which may make you feel irritable and uncomfortable. Consult with your physician to address your concerns and get to the root of your physical pain. It will be easier to address your outlook when you feel more like yourself again. ### Myth #7: I will be lonely. If you live alone or have been widowed, isolation can be a real problem for many seniors. You need to be aware of this fact and make an effort to **[stay socially engaged](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-staying-social-keeps-you-healthy/)** in your community and with friends and family. If you can’t get to them, invite others to visit you. Participate in activities at the local senior center, your place of worship, or volunteer at a local charity. Staying active and social is good for your health, both physically and mentally. At Áegis Living, we understand the importance of a full social life for our residents. We encourage time together during activities, at meals, and making new friendships. Senior living is an excellent option for seniors to stay engaged with others while receiving assistance with their daily needs. If you or your parent needs assistance and can no longer live on their own, visit an Áegis Living community near you. Discover what it is like to age gracefully with compassionate care in a welcoming community of new friends. **[Schedule a tour](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)** today and see what we have to offer. --- ## What’s Missing from Your Retirement Plan? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/missing-from-retirement-plan/ Focus keyword: retirement Category: financial-legal Tags: alzheimers, dementia, veterans, emotional-wellness, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses Summary: As you age, its important to ensure that your future is secure. Read more about what may be missing from your retirement plan. Congratulations! You’ve worked your entire adult life for this moment: you finally get to retire! What’s next? Volunteer work? Travel? Quality time with the grandkids? While you’re dreaming about your very active next 20-30 years, have you thought about the “what ifs” of your twilight years? Government statistics estimate that seven-in-ten Americans 65 or older will need long-term care during their lifetime. The “what ifs” might be stress-inducing, but they are essential to help you prepare for any potential medical surprise down the road. - What if you have an accident with long-term effects? - What if you lose your **[hearing](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/causes-and-symptoms-hearing-loss/)**? - What if you have a **[stroke](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/warning-signs-of-a-stroke/)**? - What if you develop **[dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/do-you-know-10-signs-of-dementia/)**, Alzheimer’s, or Parkinson’s disease? ### Unprepared for Retirement Hopefully, none of these things will *ever* apply to you, but it’s better to be safe than sorry. As reported by the Insured Retirement Institute (IRI), only 55% of baby boomers have retirement savings, and of that group, half have less than $250,000 saved. The **[IRI](https://www.plansponsor.com/baby-boomers-insufficiently-prepared-retirement-need-access-advisers/)** “…estimates that a 65-year-old couple retiring in 2018 can expect to pay $363,946 in lifetime Medicare and supplemental insurance premiums, as well as out-of-pocket costs - not including the costs of long-term care.” While working with a financial advisor is a great way to prepare for retirement, only 36% of people working with one have included **[long-term care costs](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-u-s-annual-long-term-care-costs/)** into that equation. Unfortunately, Medicare, Medicaid, and health insurance don’t typically cover the costs of care options. So, what can you do to cover long-term care costs? ### [Long-term care insurance](https://www.nerdwallet.com/blog/insurance/long-term-care-insurance/#cost) Long-term care (LTC) insurance can help fill the financial gap for future care needs. Rates depend on variables such as your age and health, your gender, marital status, and amount of coverage. If you decide to invest in LTC insurance earlier, when you’re in good health, the costs will be lower than if you try to pick it up past the age of 65. LTC insurance does not set a standard price, so the cost of your insurance can go up. However, some LTC insurance premiums are tax deductible as medical expenses. You can ask the insurance provider if they have a tax-qualified policy. ### [Reverse mortgages](https://www.reversemortgage.org/About) We do not advise for or against reverse mortgages, but it’s good to understand how they work. Reverse mortgages allow homeowners 62 years or older to receive cash against the value of their home without selling it. Homeowners are still responsible for the taxes, insurance, and home repairs required for the house, but are not required to repay the loan until the house sells or the remaining homeowner leaves. There are specific requirements for using a reverse mortgage. You must use the funds to pay off any existing mortgage or debt against the home. The money does not count as income for Medicaid eligibility. ### [Veterans benefits](/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/) If you are a veteran, spouse, or widow of a veteran, you may be eligible to receive Veterans Administration (VA) benefits to offset the costs of care. A vastly underused program is the Veterans Aid & Attendance Pension Benefit, also known as an “A&A benefit.” You may be surprised to know that these funds exist, and you’re not alone! Only 5 percent of funds are applied for because people don’t know they have access to them. Per the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, veterans and survivors who require the aid of another person, or are housebound, may be eligible for additional monetary payment. The benefits are in addition to monthly pension, and not paid without eligibility to pension. There are requirements a veteran or spouse must meet to qualify for the benefit. **[VeteranAid.org](https://www.veteranaid.org/about.php)** has a questionnaire that can help you determine if you’re eligible. It’s always a good idea to revisit the topic of retirement and long-term care planning from time to time. Whether you currently work with a financial advisor or are planning to consult with one, asking about long-term care options can take the pressure off stressful situations down the road, and ensure you’re better prepared for retirement. --- ## Senior Drivers: How to Take Away the Car Keys URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-take-the-car-keys-away/ Focus keyword: drivers Category: safety-emergency Tags: vision-hearing, brain-health, driving, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Spot signs that your parent’s safety as one of our senior drivers is declining. Learn how to identify driving difficulties with Áegis Living. If you have been the **driver** or a passenger with your parent lately, you may have noticed they are having trouble changing lanes or that their reaction time has slowed. Look for new scrapes and dents on the car that hadn’t been there before, or notice if they have forgotten a route home they’ve driven for the last thirty years. These are tell-tale signs that your parent or loved one is having difficulty behind the wheel. We’re eager to get our licenses as teens for the same reason we’re afraid to have them taken away - driving represents mobility and independence. If you are concerned about the safety of your loved one (and other drivers) while they’re behind the wheel, it’s best to approach the conversation with sensitivity instead of frustration. ### ‘The Talk’ As we age and experience vision loss, hearing loss, or memory loss, it puts us at risk for accidents. Some seniors will self-correct by not driving at night, during inclement weather, or by avoiding the freeway. Applaud their effort to be safe on the road, and ask them how they feel driving at other times. Their answer may help you transition into ‘the talk.’ ‘The talk’ is best facilitated by one person. Multiple parties will seem like you’re ganging up on your loved one. Focus on discussing solutions, so they know it’s not an attempt to take away any autonomy they have. #### Recommendations: - If your parent hasn’t self-corrected, suggest they only drive during the day, and avoid driving during rush hour or bad weather. If they have trouble seeing or hearing, they probably won’t object to staying off the road when the stakes are higher. - Present alternate methods of transportation. In the age of Uber and Lyft, it’s easy for everyone to get where they need to go. Some seniors are mobile-savvy, so showing them how to use these apps will help show them they can get to where they need to be without trouble. If they’re not using a smartphone, or struggle with apps, program the number for a local taxi company in their phone. - If your loved one is living with memory loss, traveling without a companion could be challenging if they forget where they’re going or how to get there. Several programs will help your loved one get around, like shuttles, and volunteer transportation. Here are some handy links to find transportation services in your area: - [Bay area](https://resourcelist.weebly.com/senior-services.html) - [Seattle area](https://soundgenerations.org/get-help/transportation/) - [Orange County](http://www.ocgov.com/residents/health/seniors) - [Los Angeles](https://wdacs.lacounty.gov/programs/aaa/) - [Las Vegas](http://adsd.nv.gov/Programs/Seniors/Seniors/) - When you are available to transport your loved one, let them know what times work best for you? If they prefer to do their grocery runs on Sunday, make a day of it! Or you can call a good friend or another relative to make the trip with them. Remember to practice patience and give your parent or spouse time to come to terms with these changes to their lifestyle. ### Alternative Options #### Hide or “lose” the car keys. Hiding the keys is best to do when they’re sleeping or perhaps out of the house without their car. Help them look for the keys, and when you can’t ‘find’ them, offer to get a new set, but let them know it might take time. That will buy *you* time to show them they don’t need a car. #### Take the car for “repairs.” If you’re driving with your loved one, you can note an issue you see with the car and volunteer to take it to the shop for them. You can blame long waits on parts, or let them know the mechanic has deemed the vehicle unfixable. #### Have a friend or relative “borrow” the car. Out of sight, out of mind? Create a cover story to get the car away from your loved one. They might get used to alternate transportation and willing to entertain the idea of giving up the keys. #### Anonymously report them to the DMV. Worst case scenario - you can report your loved one to the DMV anonymously. The DMV may call them in to retake a driving test, and will handle the rest from there. Though it may be challenging to take something from someone you love, you’re acting with the best intentions. Don’t feel guilty! Their safety and the safety of others is the top priority. If you’re having trouble starting the conversation, we can help! [Contact](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) one of our expert staff for advice on having this tough conversation. --- ## Senior Population Growth Drives Development URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/senior-growth-drives-development/ Focus keyword: population Category: aegis-stories Tags: alzheimers, assisted-living, memory-care, choosing-a-community, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: America’s aging population is transforming all aspects of healthcare. Read about how this population growth requires more senior housing development. America’s aging population is transforming all aspects of healthcare, including senior housing. You’ve likely noticed new senior housing popping up in your neighborhood, maybe even new Áegis Living communities! That’s because senior living operators are preparing for what’s known as the ‘silver tsunami.’ By 2050, seniors 65+ will outnumber children younger than 15, and a projected 13.8 million people will be living with Alzheimer’s disease - seven million of those 80 and older. Like many other senior housing operators, Áegis Living is growing to accommodate the rising senior population. To meet the growing need for care in the coming years, we are developing seven new buildings in the Greater Seattle area, and one in San Rafael, CA. Our newest community, **[Áegis Living Mercer Island,](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-living-mercer-island-wa/)** opens July 2019. Brian Palmore, our senior development manager, shares our healthy growth plan, and how we innovate in senior housing. In fact, you should notice a difference the moment you walk in the door! ### Q:** **How do we innovate in development? **BP:** We like to stay ahead of the curve, taking lesson’s we’ve learned in previous communities, implementing new technologies, and researching new developments in assisted living. Some of our achievements come from merging luxury hospitality with service necessities. It pushes us to innovate the way we design so that our buildings are customized to provide for various levels of needed care, from light assisted living to memory care, while also creating beautiful experiences each day. For example, our upcoming **[South Lake Union](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-living-lake-union-seattle-wa/)** building will be built in accordance with the **[Living Building Challenge](https://living-future.org/lbc/)**. It incorporates green building practices and initiates massive reductions in consumption. Since green-living is important to many in the communities we’re in, we’re excited to offer a green solution. ### Q: Why are our buildings themed and how are they selected? **BP:** Our buildings are themed to support a variety of different lifestyles. Some people are attracted to the grand hotel-like buildings. Other’s like a cozier community that has a country cottage or bed and breakfast feel. The themes are very community specific. Architecturally, the buildings are designed to fit the surrounding neighborhood. The interior amenities are like other communities, but their décor will vary depending on the theme of the building. While some assisted living communities directly reflect the immediate area, such as the Pacific Northwest lodge décor at Mercer Island, some generate from a feeling our founder’s trying to evoke. The two communities that opened last summer were inspired by Italy - **[Áegis Living Ravenna](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-living-ravenna-seattle-wa/)** is a nod to the Ravenna Opera House and a ‘Roman Holiday.’ **[West Seattle](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-living-west-seattle-wa/)** draws inspiration from a nautically themed hotel in Capri. Though the themes can vary, they always feel warm and homey. ### Q: How do we choose where we’ll build our next community? **BP:** There’s a vetting process when choosing our locations. We look to see if the area is experiencing growth or if there’s a population of seniors who might age into needing care. We have a lot of residents who have lived in their neighborhoods for decades and don’t want to leave. Our goal is to find locations where there’s a growing need for senior services that would enable people to stay in the neighborhoods they love. ### Q: What’s planned beyond 2022? **BP:** More growth, especially in California. We have a significant brand presence in our markets, but we’d like to increase our footprint in our California clusters. Our customers are continuously asking us when we’re planning on building in their neighborhoods, and we’re always looking at ways to meet that growing need. - **Our newest community, Áegis Living Mercer Island, opens July 20**th**, with a Grand Opening celebration from 1:00-4:00 pm. Please join us if you’re in the area!** If you’re interested in learning more about our upcoming communities, visit our [website](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), or follow us on [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/AegisLiving/) to get real-time updates about new developments. --- ## Dementia Denial From the Experts URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dementia-denial-from-experts/ Focus keyword: dementia denial Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, emotional-wellness, safety-at-home, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-spouses Summary: Caring for a family member with dementia is difficult. Read more about how the prevailing emotion people feel when learning of a dementia diagnosis is denial. Caring for a family member with dementia is difficult. Not only do you grapple with the added responsibilities of monitoring another person’s life, but you also must come to terms with the idea that someone you love is going through a difficult change. It’s not uncommon for caregivers to experience mixed emotions when caring for a loved one with dementia. Though we don’t immediately lose someone, we still experience the stages of grief: feeling anger, guilt, and sadness before we reach acceptance. Naturally, the prevailing emotion people feel when learning of a dementia diagnosis - their own or a loved one’s - is denial. ### Laura Wayman - Dementia Whisperer **[Laura Wayman](https://www.laurawayman.com/)**, better known as The Dementia Whisperer, is a popular speaker in our communities whose ‘Loving Approach to Dementia Care’ seminar helps caregivers cope with new dementia diagnoses and changing conditions. She notes that denial kicks in when there’s something our mind can’t wrap itself around and figure out. The thought of watching a parent or spouse lose themselves can be too much to bear, so we use denial to cope with a change we can’t accept. Wayman acknowledges a caregiver needs to feel their feelings regarding dementia diagnoses. It’s perfectly acceptable to experience the wave of emotions that can accompany a hard day or a successful day. She stresses that caregivers need to acknowledge the fact that we can’t stop, fix, or change dementia. [Dementia Whisperer Video](https://youtu.be/kXX_1tJsYMM) Though your loved one might have moments of clarity that make it easy to convince yourself they’re okay, it’s critical to recognize that changes are happening. Denying a diagnosis can cause your loved one harm, from operating a vehicle when they shouldn’t to becoming the victim of **[fraud](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-to-protect-seniors-from-financial-fraud/)**. Accepting your parent or spouse is changing, and that your life is changing as a result, will help you to see the bigger picture. Right now, one in five families deals with a dementia diagnosis. In the next ten to fifteen years, one in two families will have a loved one with dementia. Think of all the people who can relate to your struggles and frustrations. ### Teepa Snow - Positive Approach Dementia expert **[Teepa Snow](https://teepasnow.com/)**, one of the world’s leading educators on dementia and care, finds the challenge in acceptance for many families is that they never volunteered for their new reality. The fear of the unknown is overwhelming but imagine the roller coaster of emotions your loved one is feeling. “You can get on and off the train because you don’t have dementia, but you’re losing someone you care a lot about to it. Do you want to be on the train with them, or do you want them to travel alone?” [Teepa Snow Video](https://youtu.be/0vbrK9S_UqE) ### Care for Yourself Once you’re ready to face your new reality, take steps to care for yourself. Join a support group to share experiences with other family caregivers or a trusted confidant. If you prefer to see a mental health professional, some counselors specialize in helping seniors and their family cope with change due to cognitive impairment. Don’t forget to **[take care of yourself](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregivers-put-yourself-first/)**. Caregivers tend to ignore their needs. You have permission to ask for help or accept when someone offers support. You need to remain healthy to be the best caregiver for your loved one. One great way to provide care for your loved one when you need time to work, travel, or take care of yourself is short-term care. Respite stays offer you peace of mind that your parent or spouse is in good hands when you need a little extra assistance. They’ll enjoy making new friends during meals, excursions, exercise classes, and programs catered to individuals with memory loss. If you’d like to learn more about respite stays, contact a Marketing Director at an [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you. --- ## The Importance of Staying Hydrated URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-importance-of-staying-hydrated/ Focus keyword: hydration Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, incontinence, brain-health, fall-prevention, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: As we age, physiological changes put us at higher risk for dehydration. Learn more about the importance of healthy senior hydration. Pour yourself a tall glass of water to sip while you read this hot topic for seniors on dehydration. The definition of dehydration is that you lose more fluid than you take in. Many of us believe dehydration is prevented by our body’s natural sense of thirst to remind us to pour ourselves a glass of H2O. But the fact is, as your loved one gets older, their sense of thirst will diminish significantly. And if they have dementia, they may not remember to drink liquids throughout the day. All caregivers should be aware of dehydration concerns and take preventive measures when caring for a loved one. Hydration is vital because it keeps electrolytes balanced, blood volume normal, aids in digestion, transportation of nutrients, and kidney functioning. And if your aging loved one becomes dehydrated, they have the added risk of mental confusion. It is recommended that adult men drink about ten cups of water per day (2500 ml), and women should drink roughly eight cups (2000 ml) per day. ## Signs of dehydration to look for in older adults: - Dry skin or cracked lips - Confusion - Fatigue - Mobility difficulty - Dizziness - Dry mouth - Sunken eyes - Inability to sweat or produce tears - Rapid heart rate - Low blood pressure ### 5 reasons seniors needs H2O: As we age, several physiological changes can put seniors at a higher risk of dehydration, such as increased fluid loss, reduced body water content, and a decrease in fluid consumption. Let’s look at these closer: - **Decreased Thirst.** It’s a fact that we lose our sense of thirst with age. While you may feel parched and reach for the nearest water bottle, our older loved ones may not notice their need for hydration. Ensuring that your loved one is keeping up with their daily water or fluid intake will help prevent a major medical emergency. - **Kidney Function.** Our kidneys are responsible for filtering out blood by removing waste, controlling the body’s fluid balance, and keeping electrolytes at the right levels. Kidney function can diminish as we age, leading to a decrease in the body’s ability to create urine or remove waste. Staying fully hydrated helps to keep kidneys functioning to the best of their ability. - **Brain Power.** Dehydration symptoms in seniors can mimic signs of dementia. Why is that? Because dehydration is just as critical for brain function as it is for body function. Cognitive function is enhanced when brain cells get the proper amount of hydration. - **Urinary Incontinence.** It is uncomfortable and frustrating. Some seniors avoid drinking to avoid the experience, which can lead to other health risks. Reduction in fluids can cause urinary tract infections, which can cause pain and sometimes dementia-like confusion. 5 **Digestion.** Dehydration can cause constipation. Staying hydrated and consuming the proper amount of fiber helps seniors stay regular. Lack of water can lead to gastritis, acid reflux, and in some cases, ulcers, as the stomach doesn’t have enough water to produce digestive acid. Research has shown that drinking water can help limit acid reflux symptoms by temporarily raising the stomach pH. ### How Dehydration and Alzheimer’s Affects the Brain? You may be surprised to learn that about three-fourths of the brain is made up of water, and the organ requires an ample supply of liquid to work at peak capacity. Gray matter actually shrinks when the body is dehydrated. And consistent dehydration can cause the brain to age quicker than normal. It’s a growing concern among older adults in general. [Government research shows](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3415810/) that dehydration is one of the primary reasons people age 65 and older are sent to the emergency room. For a person who has trouble remembering or often feels disoriented, even mild dehydration can be detrimental to their health and quality of life. A lack of water can aggravate symptoms of dementia, causing mental fatigue, sudden changes in mood, confusion, and trouble processing information. They can also experience feelings of nausea, loss of balance, and headaches. In severe cases, dehydration can lead to heatstroke and even unconsciousness. On the other hand, a well-hydrated brain can enhance concentration, memory function maintenance, mood balance, and even better sleep quality. Water is also essential for heart health and muscle-joint function, which are necessary to stay physically active to keep the brain oxygenated and sharp. Unfortunately, people with dementia are at a heightened risk of becoming dehydrated. They often simply forget to drink. Some have trouble communicating what they need to their caregivers. Additionally, certain medications can decrease the body’s hydration. ### How Can I Help My Loved One Stay Hydrated? Prevention is the key to avoiding dehydration in your aging loved one. You might assume that your sedentary parent or loved one consumes more water than they could possibly lose in a day. But that is simply not the case. Dehydration is common in seniors, regardless if they use a wheelchair or are up and moving on their own. Here are a few helpful tips to keep your loved one fully hydrated: - **What do they like?** Provide your aging loved one with plenty of fluids throughout the day that appeal to them. These can include flavored water, plain water, juices, or smoothies. And even coffee and tea are largely made up of water (although some have caffeine), but they can help hydrate to some degree. Especially during the warmer months, encourage them to drink small quantities more often throughout the day. - **Fruits & Veggies**. Fruits and vegetables are a terrific way to sneak in some added water. Cucumbers, watermelons, grapefruit, strawberries, celery, pineapple, kale, lettuce, grapes, and tomatoes are great options. Vegetable broth or soups are great with a meal or as a snack to replenish their hydration. - **Create Opportunity.** Try to strategically place a water bottle or cup next to their bed or favorite chair to remind them to drink liquids. Assist seniors throughout the day who cannot drink independently. And when you leave the house together, remember to bring with you a bottle of water or juice for your aging loved one to sip. - **Set a Timer.** If your loved one has dementia you should monitor them closely. You may need to remind them to drink throughout the day and track their consumption. Setting a timer during the day works as an excellent reminder for both you and them. - **Create an Activity.** Make an occasion out of drinking with an afternoon tea service, iced drinks on an outdoor patio, or warm beverages on a chilly day. Try adding fresh fruit to flavor plain water or blend a mocktail or smoothie and add a paper umbrella and fresh fruit for fun! - **Senior Living.** If your parent or loved one lives in an assisted living community, make sure the community has a hydration program in place. At Áegis Living, we provide a [hydration station](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-stations-healthy-relief-from-summer-heat-wave/) in each community with flavored waters to quench a resident’s thirst. We provide afternoon smoothies as a tasty way for our residents to make sure they are drinking a healthy amount of liquids. Coffee, tea, and beverages are always available to our residents and staff. And we keep an extra close eye on our residents during the warmer months and residents with memory loss who may forget to drink enough water. If you are worried about your loved one’s health, staying hydrated, and living on their own, maybe it’s time to consider a move to an Áegis Living community. Your loved one’s health and safety is our top priority. Find a [community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to schedule a tour and see the level of care we provide our residents for yourself. --- ## 6 Activities for Grandparents to Play with Grandchildren URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/6-activities-for-grandparents-with-grandchildren/ Focus keyword: Playing with Grandchildren Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: hobbies-activities, exercise-fitness, legal-planning, for-seniors, social-connection, driving Summary: There’s nothing like the bond between grandparent and grandchild, and summer vacation provides ample opportunities for grandparents to spoil their little… There’s nothing like the bond between grandparent and grandchild, and summer vacation provides ample opportunities for grandparents to spoil their little ones with attention and affection. Instead of planning long days at the zoo or beach, try these activities that can easily be done at home. ### Play Ball! Football. Baseball. Soccer. Golf. Basketball. Pick your favorite! A game of catch, a trip to the driving range or mini-golf, practicing drills in the backyard, the possibilities are endless. Sharing the love of a favorite pastime with the next generation offers them some insight, and some great stories, of what grandma and grandpa loved in their youth. Playing a sport is also great exercise and gets both kids and seniors adequate time outdoors, breathing in the fresh air and loading up on Vitamin D. ### Let it Fly Do you have great memories of fun with your parents flying kites or paper airplanes? Though the world is much more digital these days, kids can still appreciate the magic of learning to fold and throw a paper plane or watching a kite take off. It’s also an excellent opportunity to introduce grandparents to drones or remote-controlled vehicles. These electronic flyers also help to improve hand-eye coordination, which is a benefit to both kids and seniors. ### It’s in the Cards Card games are the quintessential grandparent game - it’s the perfect rainy-day activity. Start with Go Fish for little ones and work up to the card shark classics like Rummy or War. These games improve logic skills, memory, and concentration. ### Hit the Books Reading with grandkids of any age is both an excellent way to share time, and essential for their brain development. Reading aloud stimulates children’s imagination and expands their understanding of the world. As they learn to read themselves, moving into stories beyond their reading level helps them to improve their skills and broaden their concept of language. Sharing meaningful family books will help connect them to both their grandparent and their parent. ### X Marks the Spot There is magic in the hunt to find treasure. From discovering a map to finding clues, scavenger, or treasure hunts provide kids with the opportunity to use their imagination, solve problems, and feel victorious as they successfully solve riddles and clues. Because this is an indoor or outdoor activity, it’s great for grandparents of all mobility levels. Treasure hunts are also the perfect way to share some family history by incorporating heirlooms or even landmarks that have sentimental meaning. ### Stay Social! What do grandparents love more than anything? Showing off their grandkids! For grandparents who still live at home, encourage the kids to come to a favorite activity like a volunteer opportunity. If your parent lives in a senior living community, have the kids accompany them to an activity or outing. Áegis Living Life Enrichment Directors plan hours of engaging programs for their residents that would be educational for children. They could also join grandma or grandpa for the weekly outing, which can be anything from a trip to the local park to browsing a local museum. Joining grandparents for lunch or dinner also allows them the opportunity to share their treasured grandsons and daughters with their friends. Plus, they fill up on a delicious meal before coming home and can practice their best table manners. There are many ways to keep kids entertained at [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/), from watching a game in the sports den, to creating a masterpiece in art class to proudly hang on grandma’s wall. We invite you to stop by a [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you to experience our grand common areas and ask to speak with a Life Enrichment Director to discover one of the many activities the residents enjoy each day. --- ## Gardening Benefits and Safety for Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/benefits-of-gardening-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: gardening benefits Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: depression-anxiety, alzheimers, hobbies-activities, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-spouses Summary: At Áegis Living, we want our residents to lead happy, fun, and fulfilling lives. Learn about gardening for seniors, and the benefits associated with it. There is nothing like the feeling that summer brings. Warmer temperatures make it hard to resist the great outdoors and all the activities the longer days allow. One such activity, gardening, has multiple benefits, especially for our older loved ones. ### Health Conscious Gardening is a moderate intensity workout - perfect for hitting your recommended thirty minutes of cardio per day, which improves cardiovascular health and reduces risk of heart attack and stroke. Bonus, if you enjoy gardening, it doesn’t feel like a workout! The motions of gardening also help mobility and flexibility, supporting strength and balance. Fifteen to thirty minutes of sun exposure is also the ideal amount of time to increase Vitamin D levels. Vitamin D is essential for bone health, boosts the immune system, and reduces the risk of diabetes and heart disease. Just don’t forget the sunscreen! ### Peace of Mind Gardening uses critical brain functions like sensory awareness and problem-solving, providing significant stimulation that can lead to mental clarity. Not only is gardening known to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, but studies have suggested it can reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s disease. Additionally, gardening doesn’t have to be a solo project! It’s a great way to **[socialize](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-staying-social-keeps-you-healthy/)** with friends and family - and a great skill to pass down to the grandkids. Quality time with the ones you love is excellent food for the soul. ### Safety First Before spending a lot of time outdoors, remember your sunscreen! The body’s natural ability to repair damaged DNA diminishes with age, there’s a higher likelihood of abnormal cell growth that leads to cancer. Use an SPF 15 or higher sunscreen and reapply every couple of hours. A large brimmed hat will protect your face, scalp, and neck from sun overexposure, and sunglasses will protect your eyes from the light. Protecting yourself from chemicals and sharp equipment is equally as important. Did you know tetanus lives in the soil? Paired with sharp gardening tools, it’s a real threat to gardeners. Wear gloves, sturdy shoes, and appropriate clothing to keep yourself safe from dangers in the garden. Make sure your tetanus/diphtheria vaccination is up-to-date. All adults should be vaccinated every ten years. If you take a medication that causes side effects like fatigue or dizziness, don’t push it. Stay away from machinery, climbing ladders, or other activities that could cause injury. Repeated kneeling and bending over low beds can cause significant strain and present a fall risk. Raised beds or vertical gardens allow you the opportunity to continue to do a hobby you love while keeping you safe from physical harm. Take breaks, especially in hot weather. Keep **[healthy snacks](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/nutritional-needs-of-seniors/)** on hand to recharge and drink lots of water. **[Dehydration](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/)** is particularly damaging for older adults and can mimic the symptoms of dementia, cause urinary infections, and more. Finally, don’t forget to clean up after yourself. Equipment and uncoiled hoses are a fall hazard for anyone who isn’t paying attention to their surroundings. Keep yourself and your loved ones safe by tucking everything away before you turn in for the day. Overall, the benefits of gardening far outweigh the risks. Not only do you get the exercise and Vitamin D you need to remain healthy, but the outcome is a colorful, beautiful landscape for your home or fresh fruits and veggies for your meals! If you’re interested in learning how Áegis Living communities incorporate gardening into their life enrichment programs, call your nearest [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to chat with a Life Enrichment Director. --- ## Longevity Clues: Current Life Expectancy in the U.S. URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/u-s-current-life-expectancy/ Focus keyword: life expectancy Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, nutrition, exercise-fitness, brain-health, emotional-wellness, social-connection, legal-planning Summary: U.S. life expectancy is rising, and today's seniors are redefining aging. Learn 5 essential tips to add years to your life and feel your absolute best. Today’s baby boomers are rebels. They are defying the typical stereotypes of aging and redefining what is considered age-appropriate. The 60+ generation is more vibrant, active, and youthful than past generations. Technology benefits the youth, but older generations are more connected too, and on top of current trends in self-care, clothing, and health. Technological advancements have also dramatically increased our life expectancy. Baby boomers are heading into their golden years happily, and that’s reflected in how they look and feel. Per **[Statista](https://www.statista.com/statistics/274513/life-expectancy-in-north-america/)**, the average life expectancy in the United States is 81 years for women and 76 years for men, a far cry from generations before who were only expected to live until 50. Ready to find out how to add years to your life? Here are five tips to extend your lifespan and feel great doing it! ## Tips for longevity: ### 1. Go Outside! Vitamin D is an essential part of regulating and protecting your immune system. Did you know that approximately 50% of adults don’t get enough vitamin D? Just 15 minutes of sunlight per day is enough to maintain vitamin D levels, so go outside! If you’re concerned about your levels, consult with a medical professional to be tested. Vitamin D helps to prevent cancer, raises your immunity to the common cold, reduces the risk factors for diseases like diabetes and heart disease, and reduces depression. ### 2. Stay Social People who have meaningful relationships have better health and life expectancy. Why? We know that isolation leads to depression, which shortens life expectancy. Creating memories, stories, and laughter with friends and family is great for **[mental health](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-staying-social-keeps-you-healthy/)**. Socializing is a critical part of Áegis Living’s Life Enrichment program. Activities are designed to bring residents together to encourage interaction, forging new relationships, and leading to richer experiences. ### 3. Diet and Exercise Tried and true diet and exercise are the most important elements of a healthy lifestyle. Per **[VeryWellHealth](https://www.verywellhealth.com/simple-steps-to-increase-your-life-expectancy-2223907)**[,](https://www.verywellhealth.com/simple-steps-to-increase-your-life-expectancy-2223907) a study found that people who get 3 hours of vigorous exercise per week had DNA and cells that were NINE years younger than those who don’t exercise. That’s a little over a half hour per day. If you can’t commit to that much time or perhaps that much energy, any exercise will help to keep medical conditions at bay. Pairing a regular exercise routine with a healthy diet is about the only guarantee for extending your lifespan. Most research points to a **[Mediterranean diet](https://www.nextavenue.org/can-the-mediterranean-diet-delay-or-prevent-dementia/)** to reduce risk of disease. It’s plant-based, rich in fruit and veggies, whole grains, legumes and moderate in fish and nuts. Not only is a Mediterranean diet encouraged for vascular health, but research also finds that it benefits cognitive health as well. ### 4. Don’t Risk It The common cause of death for young people are accidents, injuries, and violence, which all bring down life expectancy. There are also certain behaviors (i.e., smoking) that are proven to shorten life expectancy. Avoid risks! Wear a seat belt, follow the rules of the road, quit smoking, and maintain a healthy weight. ### 5. Go to the Doctor Science has come a long way, and physicians can test and screen for diseases long before someone shows any symptoms. We know it’s scary to find out you have an illness, but early detection makes it easier to treat and extends life expectancy. Healthy living and longevity is a significant focus in Áegis Living communities. Our Life Enrichment activities promote daily exercise, lifelong learning, and various excursions to remain active and engaged. Our culinary program offers a wide array of menu options, appealing to all different tastes while recalling the flavors of the residents’ past and preferences. Stop by an [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/) community near you to see how we promote healthy living! --- ## How Áegis Living Prepares for Natural Disasters URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/preparing-for-natural-disasters/ Focus keyword: natural disasters Category: safety-emergency Tags: dementia, hospice-end-of-life, safety-at-home, nutrition, legal-planning, for-seniors, medication-management Summary: What happens when an emergency touches down near one of our communities? Chief Operating Officer, Tom Laborde shares how we manage emergency preparedness at Áegis Living. Being a West Coast company has its perks. Beautiful weather, access to the ocean, lakes, mountains, and desert climate, you’ll find it here. Though we’re lucky to avoid hurricane season, we have our own set of potential natural disasters to prepare for each year: earthquakes, fires, and unpredictable snowfall. We are also incredibly fortunate to employ a group of compassionate, dedicated people who commit to resident safety in the most trying of circumstances. During this past February’s snow storm in Western Washington, many members of the teams packed up and hunkered down for multiple nights to care for their seniors. General Managers shuttled their staff to and from work so they could get in and home safely. When [wild fires](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/smoky-air-quality-and-seniors/) spread throughout California, evacuated communities were welcomed with open arms by their nearest sister community. The [care and safety](https://www.redcross.org/get-help/how-to-prepare-for-emergencies/seniors.html) of your loved one is our number on priority. And we love to serve. What happens when an emergency touches down near one of our communities? Chief Operating Officer, Tom Laborde shares how we manage emergency preparedness at Áegis Living. ### **Training procedures for staff in emergency evacuations**. At Áegis Living, we have recently updated our Emergency Manual that identifies the process for emergency evacuations and relocation. We orient all new staff to our emergency and disaster processes and train the existing team quarterly. ### Reasons evacuation is mandatory: - Local authorities call for an evacuation, - State licensing requires that we evacuate, - The General Manager, in consultation with the Vice President of Operations decides - out of an abundance of caution - that the residents must leave the community for safety or security reasons. ### Emergency plan when evacuation is necessary and what events start these procedures? Though we can never predict all circumstances, we have very clear protocols for safeguarding residents in case of fire, power outages, natural disasters, and other situations that threaten resident safety. The General Manager or their proxy initiates specific services needed to ensure resident safety. Plans address such vital needs as care and medication services; emergency food preparation and hydration; and addressing the specific needs of more frail residents - oxygen, [hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/), and dementia. ### How does the community communicate the emergency plan with the residents and their families? With the updated Emergency Manual, we are rolling out new emergency response training for residents and family members. We will stage mock resident evacuations annually, and provide a summary of the drill to residents and their family members with plenty of advanced notice. We send family members a letter quarterly with their billing statement, asking for updated cell phone numbers. This allows us to update our emergency text messaging system. This system provides family members with information on community emergencies and informs them where they can find additional information. ### Partial list of resources available at our communities to sustain residents in an emergency: - Emergency text system to alert family members, powers of attorney, and staff of community emergency and where they can find additional information. - Disaster kit, including lighting, batteries, special tools and supplies to use when comforting and evacuating residents. - Evacuation chairs at each stairwell to safely assist moving residents downstairs when the elevator is not to be used. - Satellite phone is used when cell towers are down. - A comprehensive 72-hour self-reliance procedure booklet. - Evacuation plans, including local bus agreements to arrive at the community for relocation to evacuation sites - both within Áegis Living and at local hotels. - Seven days of drinkable water. - Food to sustain residents up to seven days. We take a multi-channel approach to update families since we can’t guarantee what platforms will be working. Our comprehensive emergency communications strategy includes the text message program, as well as real-time updates to our social media channels. These help to keep families informed about new developments. The Áegis Living website will show an emergency notification section on the homepage that families can refer to for updates when situations occur. Áegis Living is dedicated to investing in new technologies and practices that ensure the safety of our residents, families, employees, and visitors. To tour a community near you, **[contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)** to schedule a visit. --- ## What Are U.S. Annual Long-Term Care Costs? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-u-s-annual-long-term-care-costs/ Focus keyword: long-term care Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, in-home-care, nutrition, social-connection, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: As you narrow down long-term care (LTC) options for you and your loved ones, you may have questions and concerns about the monthly costs associated with all of the possibilities. As you narrow down **[long-term care (LTC)](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/guide-to-long-term-care/)** options for you and your loved ones, you may have questions and concerns about the monthly costs. What type of assistance will be required immediately? What are future needs? How much will that add to a monthly payment? Genworth’s annual **[Cost of Care Survey](https://pro.genworth.com/riiproweb/productinfo/pdf/131168.pdf)** gathers the national median costs for long-term care options across the nation. Per their findings, the yearly national medians are: - Homemaker Services: $48,048 - Home Health Aide: $50,336 - Adult Day Health Care: $18,720 - Assisted Living Community: $48,000 - Nursing Home - Semi-Private Room: $89,297 - Nursing Home - Private Room: $100,375 DISCLAIMER: Genworth’s survey covers 440 regions and is based on data collected from more than 15,500 completed surveys. These numbers are the national average and vary per state and region. Genworth’s cost of care **[calculator](https://www.genworth.com/aging-and-you/finances/cost-of-care.html)** allows you to check the averages in your area. Here are the monthly national averages for each service: ### Homemaker Services For anyone who needs a little help around the house, homemaker services include cooking, cleaning, and running errands. These services are entirely “hands-off,” and the provider won’t be able to offer personal care. When an individual’s abilities decline, costs may increase. **Average monthly cost: $4,004.** ### Home Health Aides Home health aides offer personal care, such as bathing, dressing, meal preparation and household tasks the individual can no longer manage. They also provide transportation assistance and companionship for isolated seniors within their own home. Declining health issues will increase costs. **Average monthly cost: $4,195.** ### Adult Day Health Care Adult day health care centers are community-based programs that provide health services in a protective setting. For older adults struggling with isolation and loneliness, they offer socialization and structured activities. They may also supervise the individual’s care and health needs. Adult Day Health Care is not a live-in situation but allows the senior to visit for several hours each day. **Average monthly cost: $1,560.** ### Assisted Living Communities Residential communities like assisted living and memory care provide personal and health care services that include activities of daily living (bathing, dressing, laundry services, and prepared meals.) In addition, assisted living options manage residents’ medications and various health care needs. **[Costs](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/know-about-assisted-living-expense/)** depend on many factors including the location of the community as well as the level of care needed. As a resident’s health declines, costs tend to increase. Memory care requires a higher level of care as the resident can do less independently. **Average monthly cost: $4,000.** ### Skilled Nursing (Nursing Homes) Nursing homes provide a high level of supervision 24/7, with nursing care from registered nurses and licensed practical or vocational nurses. In addition to ADLs and housekeeping tasks, the staff can provide a higher level of medical care, including pain management, dialysis, intravenous drug therapy, and rehabilitation. Nursing homes offer two types of rooms: semi-private and private rooms. **Average monthly cost (semi-private room): $7,441 (private room): $8,365.** ### Medicare/Medicaid As you weigh the costs of different LTC options, you may be curious as to what is covered by Medicare or Medicaid. If you meet certain requirements **[Medicare](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-medicare-or-medicaid-cover-the-costs-of-assisted-living/)** will help pay for a short stint in a nursing facility. These requirements include: a hospital admission and inpatient stay of at least three days; a move to a Medicare-certified nursing home within thirty days of your hospital stay; need for skilled care like nursing services, physical or other therapies. Medicare will only pay for a portion of the costs and will not pay for anything past 100 days. Medicaid covers considerably more. Nursing home services are covered, as well as home and some community-based services, such as adult day health care centers, are also included. Personal care services in your home are eligible as well. Because it’s a joint federal and state government program, requirements vary from state to state. Medicaid does not pay for most assisted living and memory care communities which are generally private-pay. ### What’s Next? As you plan for future care or need to make an immediate decision, refer to Genworth’s calculator tool to find the average costs in your area. It shows you predictions for the cost of care over the next ten, twenty, and thirty years, and will help to give you a better idea of what the best option is for you and your family. **[Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/)** communities provide assisted living, memory care, and day stay services (WA only). If you’re interested in learning more about care options in our communities, contact a Marketing Director at a [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)near you. --- ## 9 Signs Your Spouse Needs More Care at Home URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/9-signs-your-spouse-needs-care/ Focus keyword: spouse Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, arthritis-mobility, nutrition, fall-prevention, when-its-time, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Spot the 9 warning signs your spouse needs more care, from weight loss to wandering, plus when to call in respite, assisted living, or memory care. If your husband is skipping meals, your wife is losing her balance, or arguments now erupt over small routines, those changes are data, not personality flaws. Caregiving spouses are often the last to notice decline because it happens slowly under the same roof. Below are nine evidence-based signs your spouse needs more help, what each one means, and when to escalate from spousal support to professional care. Before you have the conversation, read our pillar guide on [how to talk to your parents about long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/) - the same scripts work for spouses. ## What are the 9 warning signs a spouse needs more care? Use this quick-reference table to match what you're seeing to the likely cause and next step. SignWhat it can meanFirst action 1. Unintended weight lossMedication side effects, dental pain, dementia, depressionSchedule primary care visit; log meals for one week 2. Decline in hygieneADL difficulty, depression, cognitive changeRequest an occupational therapy evaluation 3. Hearing lossIsolation, safety risk, dementia misdiagnosisAudiology referral; consider hearing aids 4. Falls or mobility lossSarcopenia, arthritis, neuropathy, blood pressure swingsPhysical therapy; home safety check 5. Forgetfulness beyond namesMild cognitive impairment or early dementiaCognitive screening with primary care 6. Confusion or disorientationDementia, UTI, medication interactionRule out infection first, then neuro workup 7. New aggression or agitationFrontal-lobe changes, pain, fearGeriatric psychiatry referral 8. Unsafe cooking or drivingExecutive function declineDriving evaluation; remove stove knobs 9. [Caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) (you)The system has reached capacityRespite care within 2 weeks ## Why weight loss, hygiene, and hearing changes matter first These three are early, visible, and often dismissed as "just getting older." They aren't. Unintentional weight loss in older adults is linked to higher mortality risk and can signal dysphagia, depression, or dementia ([CDC National Center for Health Statistics](https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/older-american-health.htm), 2024). If your spouse has dropped a belt notch without trying, weigh them weekly and bring the log to their doctor. Hygiene decline usually points to Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) becoming too hard. Hearing loss affects roughly 1 in 3 adults aged 65 to 74 and is independently associated with social isolation and accelerated cognitive decline ([National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders](https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/age-related-hearing-loss), 2024). Untreated hearing loss is sometimes misread as dementia. ## When do falls, forgetfulness, and confusion cross into "need help now"? Falls are the leading cause of injury and injury death in adults 65+, with one in four older adults falling each year ([CDC STEADI Initiative](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). One fall is a warning. Two falls in a year is a pattern that needs intervention. Forgetting a name is normal. Forgetting *how* to drive home from the grocery store is not. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, frames it: the question isn't whether your spouse is forgetting, but whether the forgetting is changing what they can safely do. Mild cognitive impairment (MCI)Noticeable memory or thinking changes that don't yet interfere with independent living. DementiaCognitive changes severe enough to disrupt daily tasks - cooking, paying bills, managing medications. SundowningLate-afternoon confusion or agitation common in mid-stage dementia. Respite careShort-term professional care (a few days to a few weeks) that gives the spouse caregiver time off. For example, an 82-year-old who reheats the same cup of coffee four times in one morning is showing executive-function loss, not absent-mindedness. Consider a husband whose wife has begun accusing him of stealing her purse, which she hid herself - that's a classic mid-stage dementia behavior, not a marital problem. ## How do you handle aggression, unsafe cooking, and driving? New aggression in a previously gentle spouse is almost always driven by pain, fear, or a brain change, not by intent. Atul Gawande, MD, surgeon and author of *Being Mortal*, has argued that the medical system tends to optimize for safety at the expense of autonomy; the goal is to find the smallest intervention that restores both. - **Document specifics for one week.** Date, time, trigger, behavior, duration. Patterns reveal causes. - **Rule out reversible medical issues first.** A urinary tract infection alone can mimic dementia in an older adult. - **Remove the highest-risk task.** Disable the stove, hide the car keys, or install a GPS tracker. - **Get a formal driving evaluation** through an occupational therapist certified in driver rehabilitation. - **Bring in respite care** before you reach crisis - not after. - **Tour two or three communities** while you still have time to choose, not when an ER discharge forces it. Review [how to manage medications safely](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/managing-medication-for-your-parents/) as part of step 2 - polypharmacy is a frequent and reversible driver of confusion. ## What does "caregiver burnout" actually look like in a spouse? Around 1 in 5 American adults provides unpaid care to an adult, and spouse caregivers report the highest emotional strain of any caregiver group ([AARP Caregiving in the U.S.](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/), 2020). Warning signs in you: weight changes, broken sleep, snapping at your spouse, missed medical appointments of your own, or fantasizing about disappearing for a weekend. Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, points out that caregivers who collapse rarely produce better outcomes for the person they love - they produce two patients instead of one. Read [what family caregivers need](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-family-caregivers-need/) and [the seven signs your mom may need more help](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-seven-signs-that-your-mom-may-need-more-help/) if you want a structured self-check. ## What does professional care cost, and what are your options? The national median for assisted living is $6,200 per month, and a private room in a nursing home is about $10,800 per month ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). Memory care typically runs 20 to 30 percent above assisted living because of staffing ratios and secured environments. Care levelBest forTypical 2024 cost range In-home aide (part-time)Help with 1 to 2 ADLs$25 to $35 per hour Adult day programDaytime socialization, respite for spouse$75 to $100 per day Assisted livingHelp with ADLs, no major cognitive issues$4,500 to $7,000 per month Memory careMid-stage dementia, wandering, sundowning$6,000 to $9,000 per month Respite stayShort-term while you recover$150 to $300 per day Original Medicare does not cover long-term custodial care, only short rehab stays after a qualifying hospitalization ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), 2024). Plan funding through long-term care insurance, VA Aid and Attendance, or private pay. See [six tips to prepare for an aging loved one's future](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/six-tips-to-prepare-for-your-aging-parents-future/) for a planning checklist. ## Ready to talk to someone? If three or more signs above describe your spouse, schedule a tour. Áegis Living offers respite stays, assisted living, and Life's Neighborhood® memory care designed around your spouse's stage of memory loss. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our care team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through what your spouse needs next. ## Frequently asked questions ### How do I know if my spouse has dementia or is just aging normally? Normal aging includes slower recall and occasional name slips. Dementia interferes with daily function - getting lost on familiar routes, repeating questions within minutes, or struggling to follow a recipe they've cooked for decades. A primary care visit with a cognitive screening (MoCA or Mini-Cog) is the right first step. ### When should a caregiving spouse consider assisted living? Consider it when your spouse needs help with two or more ADLs, when you're losing sleep or your own health, or when safety incidents (falls, leaving the stove on, wandering) have happened more than once. Touring early gives you choice; waiting often forces a rushed placement after a hospital stay. ### Is respite care only for end-of-life situations? No. Respite is short-term professional care, typically a few days to a few weeks, designed specifically to give the family caregiver a break. Spouses use it for vacations, surgery recovery, or simply to sleep through the night for a week. ### Will Medicare pay for assisted living or memory care? Original Medicare does not cover long-term custodial care in assisted living or memory care. It may cover short skilled-nursing rehab after a qualifying hospital stay. Most families fund long-term care through private pay, long-term care insurance, VA benefits, or Medicaid waivers depending on the state. ### What if my spouse refuses help? Refusal is common, especially with cognitive change. Focus on one concrete safety issue at a time rather than the whole picture. Bringing in a trusted physician, adult child, or clergy member to deliver the same message often breaks the impasse. ### How quickly can dementia progress once symptoms appear? Progression varies widely by type and individual, ranging from a few years to over a decade. Alzheimer's, the most common form, typically progresses over 4 to 8 years after diagnosis but can extend to 20 ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/stages), 2024). Planning earlier, while your spouse can still participate in decisions, almost always produces better outcomes. --- ## 8 Science-Backed Ways to Reduce Your Alzheimer's Risk URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/8-ways-combat-alzheimers-disease/ Focus keyword: reduce alzheimer's risk Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, sleep, brain-health, legal-planning, for-seniors, fall-prevention Summary: Discover 8 evidence-based habits - from the MIND diet to sleep and social connection - that can lower your risk of Alzheimer's and protect brain health. You can't change your genes, but you can change the daily habits that shape your brain. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's, and roughly 40% of dementia cases are linked to modifiable risk factors like physical inactivity, smoking, hearing loss, and high blood pressure ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). The eight habits below, supported by neurology and geriatrics research, give you practical ways to protect memory now, no matter your age. Before you assume cognitive changes mean Alzheimer's, it's worth reviewing the [Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/), since other treatable conditions can mimic the disease. ## Why do lifestyle habits matter for Alzheimer's prevention? Alzheimer's develops over decades. Brain changes begin 15 to 20 years before symptoms appear ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-causes-and-risk-factors), 2023). That long runway is also your opportunity. As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, healthy aging is built through ordinary daily choices, not heroic interventions. The earlier you start, the more compound benefit you get. ## How can you protect your head and prevent falls? Moderate and severe traumatic brain injuries raise the long-term risk of Alzheimer's and other dementias ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/traumatic-brain-injury/), 2024). Falls are the leading cause of TBI in adults 65 and older. For example, an 82-year-old who slips on a loose rug while getting up at night can sustain a concussion that takes months to recover from. A few practical safeguards make a real difference: - Wear a helmet when cycling and a seat belt every ride. - Get vision checked yearly and update prescriptions. - Review medications with your pharmacist for dizziness side effects. - Use a cane or walker if your balance is unsteady. - Remove throw rugs, add grab bars, and improve lighting in hallways and bathrooms. ## Does quitting smoking really lower dementia risk? Yes. Smokers have a meaningfully higher risk of Alzheimer's, and quitting brings risk back toward that of non-smokers within years ([World Health Organization](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/tobacco), 2023). It's never too late. A 70-year-old who quits today still benefits cardiovascularly and cognitively. ## How much exercise protects your brain? Aerobic activity increases blood flow to the hippocampus, the brain region most affected by Alzheimer's. The federal physical activity guideline is at least 150 minutes per week of moderate-intensity exercise for adults (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2023). Walking briskly five days a week for 30 minutes meets that target. Daniel Levitin, PhD, neuroscientist and author of *Successful Aging*, has argued that walking is the single most underrated brain intervention available. It costs nothing and stacks well with social time. ## How much sleep do older adults actually need? Deep sleep is when the brain clears beta-amyloid, a protein that builds up in Alzheimer's. Adults 65 and older should aim for 7 to 8 hours per night ([National Sleep Foundation](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/how-sleep-works/how-much-sleep-do-we-really-need), 2024). Sleeping less than 6 or more than 9 hours is both associated with higher dementia risk. If your father is up four times a night or your mom is dozing 11 hours and still tired, talk with a physician. Untreated sleep apnea is a fixable contributor, and disrupted nighttime sleep can also worsen evening confusion. For caregivers managing that pattern, see [Sundowning in Dementia: 4 Ways to Calm Evening Agitation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-ways-to-handle-sundowning/). ## What is the MIND diet, and does it work? MIND dietA hybrid of the Mediterranean and DASH diets developed at Rush University, emphasizing leafy greens, berries, nuts, beans, whole grains, fish, poultry, and olive oil while limiting red meat, butter, cheese, pastries, and fried food.Beta-amyloidA protein fragment that forms plaques in the brains of people with Alzheimer's; sleep and diet influence how efficiently the brain clears it.Cognitive reserveThe brain's resilience against damage, built through education, learning, and social engagement, which can delay dementia symptoms.Research from Rush University Medical Center found the MIND diet was associated with a substantial reduction in Alzheimer's risk, with even moderate adherence showing benefit (National Institute on Aging, 2023). Eat oftenLimitLeafy greens (6+ servings/week)Red meat (under 4 servings/week)Berries (2+ servings/week)Butter and stick margarineNuts, beans, whole grainsCheese (under 1 serving/week)Fish (1+ serving/week)Pastries and sweetsOlive oil as primary fatFried or fast food ## How do brain games and learning build cognitive reserve? Challenging the brain with novel tasks, learning an instrument, taking a language class, doing math in your head, builds cognitive reserve. Higher education levels are associated with slower cognitive decline ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/brain-health/cognitive-health-and-older-adults), 2023). Consider a 72-year-old who signs up for a community college Spanish class. The novelty, social contact, and weekly homework all stimulate neural networks that crossword puzzles alone don't reach. If you're concerned about early changes, the article [Suspect Alzheimer's? Tips and Tests for Detection](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/suspect-alzheimers-tips-and-tests-for-detection/) walks through screening options. ## Can treating depression and anxiety lower dementia risk? Untreated depression in midlife and later life is linked to a higher risk of developing dementia ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/mental-and-emotional-health/depression-and-older-adults), 2023). The good news is that depression is treatable at any age through therapy, medication, exercise, and social connection. If a parent has withdrawn since losing a spouse, or your aunt seems persistently anxious, ask her physician for a screening. Sometimes what looks like cognitive decline is depression, and sometimes it's a vascular issue worth ruling out. Review [conditions that can cause dementia-like symptoms](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/before-you-assume-its-dementia-consider-these-conditions-that-can-cause-dementia-like-symptoms/) and [What Is Vascular Dementia?](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-vascular-dementia-understanding-the-second-most-common-type-of-dementia/) before drawing conclusions. ## Why does staying social matter so much? Social isolation is associated with a roughly 50% increased risk of dementia in older adults (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). Conversation, shared meals, and group activities exercise memory, attention, and emotional regulation at the same time. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, has explained, connection is medicine; even brief, regular interactions help older adults feel anchored to time and place. A weekly card game, a church choir, or a walking club all count. ## Ready to put these habits into daily practice? Áegis Living communities are built around these eight pillars, chef-prepared MIND-aligned menus, daily fitness, brain-stimulating programming, and rich social calendars. [Find a location near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to tour a community and see how brain-healthy living looks in practice. ## Frequently asked questions ### Can you actually prevent Alzheimer's disease? You can't guarantee prevention, especially with genetic risk factors, but you can substantially lower your risk and delay onset. The Lancet Commission estimates around 40% of dementia cases are tied to modifiable factors ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). ### What is the single best habit for brain health? Regular aerobic exercise has the strongest, most consistent evidence base. Walking briskly 30 minutes a day, five days a week, meets federal guidelines and benefits cardiovascular and cognitive health together. ### Is the MIND diet hard to follow? No. It builds on familiar foods: leafy greens, berries, nuts, fish, olive oil, and whole grains. Even partial adherence has been linked to lower Alzheimer's risk in Rush University research, so progress matters more than perfection. ### Does doing crossword puzzles really help? Puzzles help maintain skills you already have, but learning something new, an instrument, a language, a craft, builds more cognitive reserve. Combine novelty with social interaction for the biggest benefit. ### How much sleep should a 70-year-old get? Adults 65 and older should aim for 7 to 8 hours per night. Both short sleep (under 6 hours) and long sleep (over 9 hours) are associated with higher dementia risk, so consistency matters. ### When should I talk to a doctor about memory concerns? If memory changes interfere with daily life, repeating questions within an hour, missing appointments, getting lost in familiar places, schedule an evaluation. Early assessment rules out treatable causes and opens access to therapies that work best in early stages. --- ## Simplified Guide to Long-Term Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/guide-to-long-term-care/ Focus keyword: long term care Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, brain-health, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses Summary: While you may have mapped out your travels after retirement, have you considered your long-term plans, or what you may want when you need a little extra help? It’s never too early to start thinking about the future. When you’re young and just setting out on your own, it’s not uncommon to set goals for your home, your career, your family, etc. Planning for a future following retirement is just as important. While you may have mapped out your travels after retirement, have you considered your long-term plans, or what you may want when you need a little extra help? While it’s easy to go down the rabbit hole of all possible outcomes as you age, start your planning by outlining your main goals post-employment without having to worry about immediate choices. ### What are your long term care options? Various living options are available within long term care: home care, supportive housing programs, assisted living, continuing care retirement communities (CCRCs), memory care and skilled nursing, also known as a nursing home. A common misconception is that senior or assisted living equals nursing home. Skilled nursing centers provide round-the-clock nursing care by licensed and trained nursing professionals for residents who have higher care needs and more complex medical conditions. Assisted living communities offer 24/7 care, and aim to keep residents as independent as possible for as long as possible, and encourage socialization through activities, meals and shared spaces. If you experience cognitive decline, memory care communities provide more care and security to ensure you are living the fullest life you can. If you desire to stay in your house, home care providers assist with Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) in the senior’s own home. Home care can present challenges if you require extensive assistance. ### Financial Planning Taking a realistic look at your finances is an important step in planning your retirement. Whether it’s in-home or in [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/know-about-assisted-living-expense/)**,** there are many costs associated with care. As a reminder, Medicare does not cover long-term care needs. However, Medicaid does cover some care options. [Long-term care insurance](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/plan-ahead-long-term-care-insurance/) plans can be pricey, but they can be beneficial if you have a family history of diseases that require care assistance in the future. Premiums for long-term care policies may increase with age, so investing sooner rather than later is imperative if you have the means. A traditional insurance premium for a 55-year-old couple can cost about $2,100 annually. The cost rises to $3,700 annually if a couple waits ten years to invest. There are also hybrid policies that will return the money to your heirs if you don’t end up requiring long term care. Those policies are the most expensive, but because you lock in your premium upfront, might be the best option for those who are older or have known health problems. ### Know What You Want for the Future As you research options for your parent or loved one, take note of what you want for yourself. Do you want to stay in a bustling city environment, or would you like to be in a quiet area? Would you prefer a one-bedroom over a studio? Right now, you’re young and can make decisions for yourself. Do you dream of staying in your home forever? Maybe you imagine downsizing to a smaller home to avoid having to do home tasks like yard work. Put your long term care desires in writing so that your decision makers know what you want. Don’t forget, assisted living is not a nursing home. If you haven’t toured any communities, and the antiquated ideas of senior living deter you, get out there and check a few out. You’ll be surprised by how active and lively these communities are. Not sure what to expect from senior living? [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/)communities are always open for tours! Come by, check out some activities, grab a snack and cup of coffee, and chat with some residents who are defying the stereotypes of assisted living. --- ## Start Volunteering with Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/start-volunteering-with-seniors/ Focus keyword: volunteering Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, assisted-living, nutrition, social-connection, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Volunteering with seniors enriches lives and feeds the soul. Learn how sharing your time, transportation, or talents can bring joy to lonely older adults. *“The interior joy we feel when we have done a good deed is the nourishment the soul requires.” - Albert Schweitzer* If you are someone who enjoys working with seniors, sharing stories, discovering history, and cultivating relationships, our aging population may provide the perfect volunteer opportunities you are searching for. Volunteering feeds the soul and enriches the life of lonely seniors. Whether you connect with an older neighbor or volunteer with a local organization, the impact of spending a couple of hours a week with a senior could be life-changing. ### Socialize Many seniors become isolated as they age due to mobility issues, or the loss of friends and family. They could benefit from a visit with a new friend! As a volunteer socializing with seniors, you get the opportunity to learn about someone’s life in a time very different from your own. The senior gets the opportunity to share life lessons and beloved memories. Social interactions may also lower the risk of dementia and anxiety in seniors that stems from loneliness. Some senior centers have programs that provide companionship for isolated seniors in the neighborhood. If you’re a member of a religious organization, the staff may know of a senior member who needs some assistance. ### Deliver Meals If there’s a senior in your neighborhood who lives alone, they may need help in the kitchen. You can volunteer to cook for them at their house or bring them meals throughout the week, providing them with the good nutrition they may be lacking. If you’re able to take on a bigger commitment, **[Meals on Wheels](https://www.mealsonwheelsamerica.org/americaletsdolunch)** provides seniors with nutritious meals, safety checks, and the socialization many of them living alone need. As a volunteer, you’ll receive a route where you’ll deliver meals to your seniors, becoming a face they trust and look forward to seeing. ### Transportation Many seniors need assistance getting around when it’s no longer safe for them to get behind the wheel. If you’re aware of a senior in your neighborhood who could use some help getting around town, check in and see if you can take them to the store with you, or drive them to an appointment. Additionally, there are programs like Washington’s Sound Generations **[Volunteer Driver](https://soundgenerations.org/get-help/transportation/volunteer/)** program that allows you the opportunity to connect with a senior and help them run errands. ### Volunteering in Assisted Living Assisted living communities tend to have activity programs to keep residents active and healthy. Áegis Living’s robust Life Enrichment program develops a calendar around the needs of the residents. By creating unique opportunities for seniors to relish a hobby they love, they develop friendships with their neighbors who share similar interests. Lend your talents! If you’re a skilled painter, find out how you can volunteer with an art class. If you enjoy leisurely walks, volunteer to facilitate a walking club. Even something as simple as playing Scrabble can make someone’s day. ### Seniors Volunteering Volunteering has great mental and physical benefits for the seniors as well. If you know a senior who could benefit from doing volunteer work or is passionate about a cause and wants to give back to their community, find something you can do together. Not only will it strengthen your bond, but it will provide the senior with a sense of purpose they may no longer feel in retirement. **Several organizations** match seniors with volunteer opportunities, like Senior Corps, and AARP Foundation Experience Corps. ### Intergenerational Volunteering If you have a child or teen, who could use some community service hours or needs a good afternoon activity that doesn’t involve video games, sign them up to help a senior in your neighborhood. Seniors who still live independently may have a hard time with laborious tasks like yardwork or lifting and moving items. Not only will your child have the chance to help someone out, but they’ll learn valuable life lessons in the process. Volunteering connects you to others, increasing your social and relationship skills and broadens your network. It can help to combat depression and increase self-confidence. A volunteer position could even lead to a new job opportunity! [Áegis Living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) always welcome volunteers. If you’re interested in spending some time with our residents, contact a General Manager or Life Enrichment Director at your nearest Áegis Living location to see how you can give back. --- ## 10 Things to Know When Touring Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-things-touring-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: touring assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: depression-anxiety, assisted-living, nutrition, social-connection, legal-planning, choosing-a-community, for-seniors Summary: A senior-care expert's checklist for touring assisted living: questions to ask, red flags to spot, costs to compare, and how to judge fit in one visit. Touring an assisted living community is the single best way to judge whether it's right for your parent. Plan to visit at least three communities, spend 60 to 90 minutes at each, and evaluate ten specific things: cleanliness, staff warmth, resident engagement, food quality, safety systems, transportation, activity calendars, care pricing model, nursing coverage, and your own gut response. This guide walks through each one. For broader context on narrowing your search before you tour, start with [How to Find the Best Assisted Living Near You](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/assisted-living-near-me/), then use the checklist below on every visit. ## What should the community look and feel like the moment you walk in? First impressions matter, but go deeper than the lobby chandelier. Look at baseboards, handrails, and dining room tables between meals. Are surfaces wiped? Do you smell food cooking, or do you smell urine and bleach masking it? Notice the soundscape. A healthy community has gentle background noise: conversation, music, a piano, laughter. Total silence at 11 a.m. on a Tuesday usually means residents are isolated in their rooms. ## How do you judge the staff in a single visit? Watch how care managers speak to residents, not to you. Do they kneel to eye level? Do they use the resident's name? Staff turnover is the single strongest predictor of resident well-being in long-term care settings, according to the federal regulator overseeing nursing facilities ([Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services](https://www.cms.gov/), 2024). Ask directly: "What's your caregiver-to-resident ratio on day shift and on night shift? What's your annual staff turnover?" A community that won't answer is telling you the answer. For more on roles you'll meet, see [Meet Your Assisted Living Staff](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meet-your-assisted-living-staff/). As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, frequently emphasizes, the quality of moment-to-moment interactions between staff and residents matters more than the building's amenities. Watch for those small moments on your tour. ## What questions should you ask about care, nursing, and emergencies? - Is a licensed nurse on site 24/7, on call, or only during business hours? See [Nursing Care in Assisted Living Communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/nursing-in-assisted-living/) for what's standard. - How are medications managed and documented? - What happens if my parent falls at 2 a.m.? - How do you handle a change in condition, hospitalization, or return from the hospital? - At what point would my parent need to move out, and where would they go? Roughly 1 in 4 adults age 65+ falls each year, and falls are the leading cause of injury in this age group ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). The community's fall-response protocol is not a small detail. ## How do you evaluate the food without being rude? Stay for a meal. Most communities will host you free of charge if you ask. Look at what's actually on residents' plates, not just the printed menu. - Is there a real choice at every meal, or one entree? - Are diabetic, low-sodium, pureed, and allergy-aware options handled quietly at the table? - How is hydration tracked? Dehydration is a leading cause of avoidable hospitalization in older adults ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health), 2024). - Do staff sit with residents who need cueing, or are they rushed? ## What does assisted living actually cost, and how is it billed? The national median cost of assisted living is $6,200 per month, with wide regional variation ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). Memory care typically runs 20% to 30% higher. Communities price care in one of three ways. Ask which model applies and get the math in writing. Pricing ModelHow It WorksBest ForAll-inclusiveOne flat monthly rate covers rent and all carePredictable budgeting; residents whose needs may increaseCare levelsTiered pricing (Level 1, 2, 3) based on assessed needsResidents with stable, moderate needsCare points / a la carteBase rent plus charges per service usedResidents who need minimal help todayFor a deeper breakdown, see [Understanding Assisted Living Expenses](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/assisted-living-expenses/). Also confirm what triggers a rate increase and how much notice you'll get. ## How do you read residents and their families? Talk to residents without staff present. There is almost always a friendly resident near the front lobby who will tell you the truth about the food and the bingo caller. Ask: "What would you change if you could?" If family members are visiting, ask them what surprised them, good or bad, after move-in. They're your most candid source. Consider a family whose 82-year-old mother kept leaving the stove on at home. They toured three communities. Two felt institutional; the third had residents playing cards in the living room and a staff member who remembered the mother's name on the second visit. That detail, not the chandelier, made the decision. ## What safety and security features should be in place? Emergency call systemA pendant or in-room pull cord that summons staff 24/7, with documented response times.Wander managementDoor alarms, delayed-egress locks, or secured memory care neighborhoods to prevent unsafe exits.Sign-in / sign-out logA simple front-desk record of who enters and leaves the building.Sprinklers and life-safety systemsRequired under most state assisted living regulations; ask when the last fire marshal inspection occurred.Medication storageLocked, with documented administration by trained staff.For example, an 84-year-old with early dementia who tends to wake at 3 a.m. and walk outside needs a community with delayed-egress doors and overnight awake staff, not just a call button. ## Should you tour twice, and what about a drop-in visit? Yes. Tour each community at least twice: once scheduled, once unannounced. Visit on a weekend, in the evening, or during a meal. Communities that welcome a drop-in are usually the ones worth choosing. Attend a public event if they host one. Watch how the community engages residents who aren't on the tour route. ## Frequently asked questions ### How long should an assisted living tour take? Plan for 60 to 90 minutes. That's enough time to see apartments, common areas, the dining room during a meal, and to speak with two or three residents. Anything shorter and you're seeing a sales pitch, not a community. ### What is the biggest red flag on a tour? Residents lined up in wheelchairs in front of a television with no staff engagement. Other warnings: strong odors, staff who can't quote their turnover rate, and a refusal to let you drop in unannounced. ### Does Medicare pay for assisted living? No. Medicare does not cover room and board in assisted living. It may cover specific medical services delivered there, such as short-term skilled therapy. Long-term care insurance, VA benefits, and Medicaid waivers (in some states) are the main funding sources ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/providers-services/original-medicare), 2024). ### How many communities should I tour before deciding? Three is the practical minimum. Touring fewer means you have no basis for comparison; touring more than five usually creates decision fatigue. Use the same checklist at each so your notes are comparable. ### Should my parent come on the first tour? Usually no. Pre-screen two or three finalists yourself, then bring your parent to the top one or two for a meal and a longer visit. This protects them from the emotional exhaustion of touring places that aren't a fit. ### What documents should I bring? A current medication list, recent physician notes, any existing care assessment, and a list of your parent's daily routines and preferences. These help the community give you an accurate care quote on the spot. **Ready to see one in person?** Áegis Living welcomes scheduled tours, drop-in visits, and shared meals. [Find an Áegis community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to arrange a visit on your schedule. --- ## Caffeine and its Effect on Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caffeine-and-its-effect-on-seniors/ Focus keyword: caffeine effects Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, dementia, sleep, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-spouses Summary: At Áegis Living, your health is our top priority. Read about caffeine's effect on seniors, and how too much of it may pose threats to your health. *America runs on Dunkin.* *Good till the last drop. The best part of waking up is Folgers in your cup.* Sound familiar? 56% of Americans are coffee drinkers and consume an average of [3.1 cups a day](https://www.hamiltonbeach.com/facts-about-coffee-consumption-infographic). From age 18-64, the typical full-time employee will drink 47,840 cups of coffee. And that’s just coffee alone! We haven’t dug into caffeine consumption from soft drinks, energy drinks, tea, chocolate, or even medications. The Food and Drug Administration notes that 80 percent of adults in the United States consume caffeine in some form. It is the most used drug in our country. And of caffeine consumers, adults between 50 and 64 consume the most, which begs the question: how does this rapid consumption of this drug affect our health as we age? ## Caffeine Sensitivity As we age we may become more sensitive to the effects that caffeine has on our body. Older adults may need to keep their consumption to earlier in the day. Seniors often have sleep disorders due to medications, dementia, depression, and anxiety. Cut off caffeine at least four hours before bed to ensure caffeine won’t contribute to any sleep interruptions. If you’ve ever over-caffeinated, you’ve likely felt the jittery, anxious, and mildly nauseous sensation that can come with it. The FDA’s [recommended](https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/spilling-beans-how-much-caffeine-too-much) limit is 400 milligrams a day per person, which is about four cups of coffee. If your parent or spouse is an 8-cup a day kind of person, you may want to discuss cutting back on their intake. More than the recommended daily amount of caffeine can cause insomnia, fast heart rate, headaches or feelings of unhappiness, though there are many people who are unfazed by the effects of caffeine and can drink their green teas and coffees until late into the evening. ## Hydration Though many people contribute caffeinated beverages like coffee and tea with dehydration, caffeine is a diuretic. You may need to urinate more frequently, but it won’t dehydrate you. If your loved one relies on coffee to quench their thirst, try introducing them to water[infused](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-stations-healthy-relief-from-summer-heat-wave/) with berries, fruits and herbs as a flavorful and hydrating alternative. ## Increased Stress Caffeine also increases emission of the body’s main stress hormone, cortisol. Cortisol is most commonly known for driving the fight or flight instinct in stressful situations, increases heart rate, blood pressure, blood glucose, respiration and muscle tension. If your loved one is monitoring heart or blood pressure conditions, you may want to encourage them to cut back their caffeine intake. If you’re concerned about a loved one’s coffee or tea intake, consult with a physician. ## Benefits For all the potentially negative outcomes caffeine can have on your system, there are some benefits. - **Keeps you alert** Most people need a cup of coffee in the morning to “wake up.” Caffeine increases alertness in the brain, helps you pay better attention and reduces the feeling of being tired. - **Gives you a performance edge** Caffeine can increase strength. It’s popular among athletes as it improves muscle strength, improves training intensity and endurance. - **Boosts your metabolism** Consuming 200mg of caffeine increases your metabolic rate by 7% within three hours of consumption, so you burn more fat. It’s why you’ll find caffeine in weight loss supplements. - **A beneficial antioxidant** The antioxidants in caffeine play a key role in fighting diseases like adult-onset diabetes, colon and liver cancers, Parkinson’s, and Alzheimer’s. Americans receive more antioxidants from coffee than any other nutrition source! At Áegis Living, there’s always a fresh cup of coffee or tea waiting for you in our bistro! We would loved to talk to you about the services we can offer your family. To learn more, stop by for a cup of coffee and meet our staff at an [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/) near you. --- ## Exercise as You Age URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/exercise-as-you-age/ Focus keyword: older exercise Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, alzheimers, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors, nutrition Summary: At Áegis Living, your health is a top priority. Read about how exercise and a healthy lifestyle can benefit your well-being and longevity. By now you know how important a healthy lifestyle is for your well-being and longevity. And while a healthy diet is a major contributing factor, exercise is just as important and often overlooked. According to a CDC report in 2018, only 23% of U.S. adults get the proper amount of exercise. Adults 18-64 should be exercising for 2.5 hours each week. That includes aerobic physical activity and muscle-strengthening activities. Older adults who can no longer commit to 2.5 hours per week should be as physically active as they can be. While health conditions can get in the way of a vigorous routine, seniors can still participate in [low-impact](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/senior-activities-to-stay-healthy/) exercises that will have impactful benefits over time. #### Reduced Fall Risk Falls are the leading cause of head injuries and broken hips in adults 65 and older. However, falls may be preventable! Balance-centric and flexibility focused exercises such as yoga and [tai chi](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/practicing-tai-chi/) improve muscle strength and bone density. Additionally, range of motion and flexibility degenerate over time. If a joint can’t operate as needed, the body will put pressure on another part to pick up the slack, which could lead to additional strain or injury. #### Increases Cardiovascular Health Both cardio and strength training exercises increase blood flow to the heart and lowers blood pressure. Seniors will find their endurance and energy levels increase, making it easier to perform daily chores, hobbies, and activities. Exercise also improves respiratory function, leading to strong lungs and airways. #### Disease Prevention Even gentle exercise has a major impact on the development of disease. Regular exercise sends oxygen to muscles and organs and removes waste. Both [vascular dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/most-common-types-of-dementia/) and Alzheimer’s disease are attributed to a buildup of plaque in the brain. Studies have found that older adults who don’t exercise are more likely to develop dementia than those who do exercise. Other chronic conditions can be regulated or managed with exercise. A [stroke](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/warning-signs-of-a-stroke/) can be prevented through diet and exercise. Those with Parkinson’s can maintain balance and coordination, extending their independence. Exercise has also been shown to lower blood sugar in those with type 2 diabetes. #### Better Bone Health Fifty-four million Americans have osteoporosis, a disease of the bone where those afflicted lose too much bone mass and make too little bone tissue. While losing bone density is a normal part of aging, those with osteoporosis have an increased risk of fracture due to the disease - one in two women and one in five men will break a bone as a result. Regular exercise such as walking, or jogging can help increase bone strength. Arthritis is one of the most common causes of disability among U.S. adults. Not only will exercise help you lose weight, which will take stress off your joints, but it will strengthen the muscles that support those joints. #### Socialization, Confidence and Independence Group exercise such as walking clubs, water aerobics, yoga, etc. offer a great opportunity to socialize. Isolated seniors can experience loneliness and depression, which can lead to other health issues. Exercise also releases endorphins triggering a feeling of euphoria, which has been known to help reduce stress, ward off anxiety and depression, boost self-esteem and improve sleep. Áegis Living’s Life Enrichment program offers many daily exercise options for seniors of all abilities to improve strength, coordination, and balance for healthy aging. To learn more about how our programs improve the body, mind, and spirit, contact a Life Enrichment Director at your nearest Áegis Living [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). --- ## Hearing Loss in Seniors: Causes, Signs, and Help URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/causes-and-symptoms-hearing-loss/ Focus keyword: hearing loss Category: health-conditions Tags: depression-anxiety, vision-hearing, fall-prevention, communication, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: Spot the causes and symptoms of age-related hearing loss in your parent, learn the dementia link, and find treatment options that protect quality of life. If your parent cranks the TV to volume 40, asks "what?" three times per conversation, or has quietly stopped going to restaurants, age-related hearing loss is the most likely culprit. Roughly 1 in 3 adults aged 65 to 74 has hearing loss, and nearly half of those over 75 do ([NIH National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders](https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/age-related-hearing-loss), 2024). The good news: most cases are treatable, and catching it early protects memory, balance, and social connection. ## What causes age-related hearing loss? Presbycusis, the medical term for age-related hearing loss, develops gradually as the tiny hair cells in the inner ear wear down. It usually affects both ears equally and makes high-pitched sounds (consonants like *s*, *f*, and *th*) the first to go. Common contributors include: - **Cumulative noise exposure** from decades of loud workplaces, power tools, or concerts - **Cardiovascular disease and diabetes**, which reduce blood flow to the cochlea - **Ototoxic medications** - over 200 drugs, including some antibiotics, chemotherapy agents, and high-dose aspirin, can damage hearing ([American Speech-Language-Hearing Association](https://www.asha.org/public/hearing/ototoxic-medications/), 2024) - **Earwax impaction**, a surprisingly common and fully reversible cause - **Genetics** and family history of early hearing loss If hearing changes arrive suddenly or come with dizziness, treat it as urgent. Sudden hearing loss can share early symptoms with stroke; review the [warning signs of a stroke](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/warning-signs-of-a-stroke/) and call 911 if any are present. ## What are the warning signs you should watch for? Older adults rarely announce that they can't hear. The signals are behavioral. Consider an 82-year-old grandmother who suddenly stops hosting Sunday dinner because the chatter "gives her a headache," or a dad who nods politely through phone calls but can't recall what was said. Those are classic compensations. Watch for: - Television or radio volume that's uncomfortable for everyone else - Frequent requests to repeat, or answers that don't match the question - Withdrawal from restaurants, group gatherings, or places of worship - Trouble following conversation when the speaker is out of sight - Complaints of ringing or buzzing (tinnitus) in one or both ears - New irritability, fatigue after social events, or low mood Because hearing loss and mood changes travel together, also review the [signs of depression in your parent](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-of-depression-in-your-mom-or-dad/). The two are often tangled. ## How is hearing loss connected to dementia? Untreated hearing loss is now considered the largest *modifiable* risk factor for dementia in mid to late life ([Lancet Commission on Dementia Prevention](https://www.thelancet.com/commissions/dementia2020), 2020). When the brain works overtime to decode muffled speech, it borrows resources from memory and attention. Social isolation accelerates the decline. Geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has long argued that treating sensory loss is one of the highest-leverage things families can do for an aging parent's brain health. A hearing aid is a cognitive intervention, not just an audio one. For families also weighing later-stage care decisions, our guide on [Palliative vs. Hospice Care: What's the Difference?](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/) explains how sensory and comfort care fit into the bigger picture. ## What does treatment cost, and what are the options? Treatment depends on severity. Mild loss may need only earwax removal or an over-the-counter (OTC) device, now legal for adults nationwide ([U.S. Food & Drug Administration](https://www.fda.gov/medical-devices/hearing-aids/otc-hearing-aids-what-you-should-know), 2022). Moderate to severe loss usually requires a prescription device fitted by an audiologist. OptionBest forTypical cost (2024)Where to get itEarwax removalSudden muffled hearing$0 to $100Primary care or ENTOTC hearing aidsMild to moderate loss$200 to $1,000 per pairPharmacy, onlinePrescription hearing aidsModerate to severe loss$2,000 to $7,000 per pairAudiologistCochlear implantSevere to profound loss$30,000+ (often covered)ENT surgical centerOriginal Medicare does not cover routine hearing aids, but many Medicare Advantage plans do ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hearing-balance-exams), 2024). The VA covers hearing aids for eligible veterans at no cost. ## Who treats hearing loss? A quick glossary AudiologistA doctoral-level clinician (AuD) who tests hearing, diagnoses loss, and fits hearing aids. Start here for most age-related cases.Otolaryngologist (ENT)A medical doctor who treats ear, nose, and throat disease. See an ENT for sudden loss, drainage, vertigo, or suspected tumors.OtologistAn ENT subspecialist focused exclusively on the ear, including cochlear implant surgery.Hearing instrument specialistA licensed technician who fits and adjusts hearing aids but does not diagnose medical conditions. ## How can you communicate better with a parent who can't hear well? As dementia care educator Teepa Snow puts it, when someone can't hear you, raising your volume rarely helps; changing your approach does. Try these habits: - **Get their attention first.** Say their name and wait for eye contact before speaking. - **Face them in good light** so they can read lips and expressions. - **Lower the pitch** of your voice rather than the volume. High frequencies are what they've lost. - **Rephrase, don't repeat.** If "Did you take your pills?" didn't land, try "Your morning medicine, did you take it?" - **Cut background noise.** Mute the TV, move away from the dishwasher, pick the quiet booth. - **Text and email** for anything important, like appointment times or medication changes. Sensory health rarely travels alone. If your parent is also coping with smoke days, vision changes, or balance issues, our resources on [smoky air quality and seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/smoky-air-quality-and-seniors/) and [the effects of hearing loss in the elderly](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-effects-of-hearing-loss-on-the-elderly/) go deeper. ## When does hearing loss mean it's time for more support? Hearing loss alone is rarely a reason to leave home. But layered with falls, missed medications, or growing isolation, it tips the balance. Imagine a widower who can no longer hear his smoke alarm, his phone, or the neighbor knocking; the safety math changes quickly. At Áegis Living, our caregivers are trained to communicate clearly with residents who have hearing loss, and our communities are designed to reduce the noisy chaos that makes hearing harder. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a visit. ## Frequently asked questions ### At what age does hearing loss usually start? Subtle high-frequency loss can begin in the 50s, but most people notice changes in their late 60s or 70s. By age 75, about half of adults have measurable hearing loss ([NIDCD](https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/age-related-hearing-loss), 2024). ### Can hearing loss be reversed? Some causes are fully reversible, including earwax impaction, ear infections, and side effects from certain medications. Sensorineural loss from aging or noise damage is permanent, but hearing aids and cochlear implants restore most function. ### Does Medicare pay for hearing aids? Original Medicare (Parts A and B) does not cover routine hearing exams or hearing aids. Many Medicare Advantage plans offer hearing benefits, and the VA covers devices for eligible veterans ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hearing-balance-exams), 2024). ### Will treating hearing loss prevent dementia?Treatment isn't a guarantee, but addressing hearing loss is the single largest modifiable dementia risk factor identified to date ([Lancet Commission](https://www.thelancet.com/commissions/dementia2020), 2020). Hearing aids appear to slow cognitive decline in adults at higher risk. ### What's the difference between an audiologist and an ENT? An audiologist tests hearing and fits devices. An ENT is a medical doctor who diagnoses and treats ear disease, performs surgery, and manages conditions like sudden hearing loss or chronic infections. Most age-related cases start with an audiologist. ### How loud is too loud for headphones? Use the 60/60 rule: no more than 60% of maximum volume for no more than 60 minutes at a time (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). Sustained exposure above 85 decibels causes permanent damage over time. --- ## Warning Signs of a Stroke URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/warning-signs-of-a-stroke/ Focus keyword: stroke Category: health-conditions Tags: nutrition, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, when-its-time Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well being is a top priority. Learn more about the warning sign of stroke, prevention methods, and what recovery looks like. Did you know that a cerebrovascular incident is the leading cause of serious long-term disability and the fifth leading cause of death in the United States? While the physical risk increases as we age, these medical emergencies can strike anyone at any time. Fortunately, they are highly preventable and treatable if you know how to act F.A.S.T. ## **What is a Stroke?** An attack occurs when vital blood flow to the brain is suddenly blocked or disrupted. Brain cells begin to die within minutes when deprived of oxygen, immediately causing recognizable **stroke symptoms**. There are two major variations: - **Ischemic:** Making up 87% of cases, this happens when a blood clot blocks circulation to the brain. - **Hemorrhagic:** This occurs when a weakened blood artery within the brain ruptures. **Key Risk Factors** Several underlying medical conditions can trigger an event. A Transient Ischemic Attack (TIA), often referred to as a "mini-stroke," serves as a critical warning sign of a future occurrence. While TIAs only block blood flow for a brief window, they require urgent attention; over a third of individuals who experience a TIA without treatment suffer a major emergency within a year. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, heart disease, diabetes, and sickle cell disease all elevate your vulnerability. According to the official [CDC Stroke Data and Statistics](https://www.cdc.gov/stroke/data-research/facts-stats/index.html), monitoring these underlying health conditions is critical to understanding overall national and personal risk profiles. If you are managing these conditions, partner with your physician or a senior-focused **geriatrician** to build a preventive care plan. Your family history, age, sex, and race or ethnicity also play a role in your baseline risk. **Act F.A.S.T. to Save a Life** The most efficient method to memorize the four primary **stroke symptoms** is the **F.A.S.T.** acronym. If you notice someone exhibiting these warning signs, call 9-1-1 immediately: - **F — Face:** Ask the person to smile. Look to see if one side is drooping or uneven. - **A — Arm Weakness:** Ask them to raise both arms. Does one arm drift downward? - **S — Speech:** Ask the individual to repeat a simple phrase. Listen for slurred or difficult speech. - **T — Time to Call 9-1-1:** If they display any of these indicators, seek emergency hospital care right away. ## **Other Stroke Symptoms You Should Know** Beyond the F.A.S.T. protocol, secondary neurological indicators can surface. Be on high alert if you observe: - Sudden numbness or weakness in the face, arm, or leg (especially on one side of the body). - Sudden confusion or difficulty understanding spoken language. - Sudden vision problems in one or both eyes. - Difficulty walking, dizziness, or a sudden loss of balance and coordination. - A sudden, severe headache with no known cause. - Difficulty swallowing, sudden muscle stiffness, or involuntary eye movements. **Lowering Your Total Risk** Up to 80% of these medical crises are preventable by implementing healthy lifestyle choices. As outlined by the [American Stroke Association Guide on Stroke Prevention](https://www.stroke.org/en/life-after-stroke/preventing-another-stroke), lifestyle modifications are your strongest defense. Prioritize a diet low in saturated and trans fats but high in fiber. Limit your daily sodium intake and aim for 2.5 hours of moderate physical activity each week. If you smoke, seek cessation resources, and limit alcohol consumption. **The Path to Rehabilitation** Recovery timelines vary significantly. Some individuals recover within weeks, while others manage long-term disabilities for years. Speech, physical, and occupational therapies are crucial for regaining daily functions. Because survivors face a high risk of recurrence, working closely with your primary care provider or a specialized **geriatrician** is essential to address the root causes and protect your long-term health. If you suspect someone is experiencing sudden **stroke symptoms**, do not hesitate. Your fast action can save a life! --- ## Finding the Right Assisted Living Community For Your Loved One URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/right-assisted-living-community/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, social-connection, pets, moving-in, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Finding the right assisted living facility could come down to minor details that make a new community feel like home. While some needs are obvious: great staff, With so many assisted living options available, finding the right fit for your loved one could come down to minor details that make their new community feel like ‘home.’ While some needs are obvious, like great staff, quality care, and well-cared for campus, it’s the little touches of an individual community that can make all the difference. Maybe your dad, a life-long Seahawks season ticket holder, will fall in love with the sports den. Or your mom, a Southern Californian native, will make the move to Napa because she prefers to be closer to her children and grandchildren. What is most important for your parent and family when looking for the right assisted living community. ### Location, Location, Location Whether your loved one stays in the neighborhood they’ve lived in for the past 40 years, or they’re moving to a brand-new state to be closer to you, finding a convenient location is an important factor. If a community is nowhere near your normal routine or convenient for your siblings, it may be more difficult to take your parent to appointments or stop by for a visit. Make sure the location works for the entire family. Depending on where you live and what your parent needs, a decision may come down to the little details, like adequate parking if they still drive, if it sits on a busy street or hidden in a quiet neighborhood, or for our lucky Californians, proximity to the beach. ### Level of Care While your parent might only require some basic assistance right now, it’s difficult to predict what your loved one will need as they age. Finding a community where they can age in place will help with transitions down the line. As an advocate for your loved one’s health needs, make sure you know the ins and outs of the levels of care the community offers. If you suspect your parent will need memory care in the future, find a community that also provides memory care. ### Lifestyle Affinity housing has grown in popularity in recent years. Áegis Living has two [Áegis Gardens](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-gardens-fremont-ca/) locations that cater to all seniors, especially Asian populations, providing culturally authentic food, staff that speaks their native language, and activities inspired by the customs and rituals of their home countries. For many immigrant elders, living in a community where there is nothing familiar can result in isolation and loneliness. Finding a community that’s a cultural fit will help your loved one feel part of the group. Many communities have different religious groups that meet, activities that cater to individual hobbies, etc. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about cultural sensitivity. It’s important for your parent to feel comfortable in their new home, and new friends with similar interests are vital to staying social. What about pets? If your parent is attached to their little terrier, the last thing you’ll want to do is move them into a community that doesn’t allow pets. Make sure their furry friend is welcome when considering a new community. If you’re concerned about dietary restrictions, or specific diets due to religious beliefs, ask to speak with the chef. Many communities will invite you for a meal when you tour so you can get an idea of what is served. ### Listen to Your Parents At the end of the day, this is your mom or dad’s new home, and the most important thing is that THEY love it. Discuss what they’re looking for in a community before shopping. Is your mom a mall-walker? Make sure the community has a walking club. Is your dad a film buff? Find out what kind of movies they show or if there’s a film society he can join. If getting out in the fresh air each day is part of their daily routine, make sure there’s a courtyard. Help make this next stage in their life as fulfilling as possible by finding a place where they’ll thrive. If you’re looking for an assisted living community, Áegis Living’s warm and friendly staff is always happy to show you around - you can even stay for a meal! Contact your nearest [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to schedule your tour. --- ## Caregivers: Put Yourself First! URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregivers-put-yourself-first/ Focus keyword: self care Category: caregiver-support Tags: depression-anxiety, emotional-wellness, nutrition, for-caregivers, exercise-fitness, sleep Summary: Caregivers, you have taken on the most difficult job you've likely ever had, and you deserve recognition. Now, let's talk about how you can practice self-care. Caregivers. First thing’s first. Take a moment to be proud. You’ve taken on the most difficult job you’ve likely ever had, and you deserve recognition. Second, it’s time to talk about self-care. What are you doing for yourself? Are you taking time for self-care? According to a **[2017 survey](https://www.aarp.org/content/dam/aarp/research/surveys_statistics/ltc/2017/family-caregiving-roles.doi.10.26419%252Fres.00175.001.pdf)** conducted by AARP, four in ten caregivers say they were not prepared to take on the family caregiver role. Caregivers providing round the clock care are a vulnerable population, more likely to feel emotional stress, and physical and financial strain. They are also more likely to be in fair or poor health and are at risk of their health getting worse. Caregivers have [reported](https://www.embracingcarers.com/content/dam/web/healthcare/corporate/embracing-carers/media/infographics/us/Embracing%20Carers%20US%20Survey%20Results%20KGaA_FINAL.pdf) feelings of depression, sleep troubles, weight loss or gain, and lack of time to exercise because of caregiving. The statistics about caregiver health is staggering: - 48% of unpaid caregivers felt they needed medical help or support for a mental health condition due to their caregiver role. - 45% of unpaid caregivers don’t have time to attend their own medical appointments. - 43% of unpaid caregivers put the health of the person in their care above their own. Actor [Rob Lowe](https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/voices/2019/01/13/rob-lowe-caregivers-social-security-self-care-column/2539450002/) says it best, “From my own experience, I can assure you: The person you’re caring for needs you to be at your best. If you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t have the energy or the means to provide the reliable care that your loved ones need. “ ### How Can You Care for Yourself? **Set realistic expectations.** Being a caregiver is a 24/7 job, you don’t need to take on additional projects because you feel obligated. If you’ve been asked to do something, even by the person you’re caring for, that you can’t realistically fit into your schedule, don’t do it. **Prioritize your time.**You don’t have to try to be Martha Stewart! If you’re feeling up to having the whole family over to enjoy a meal, you do not (I repeat, DO NOT) have to prepare a 5-course meal, with a perfectly set table and hand lettered table settings. Keep meals simple. You can enjoy time together with takeout or pizza delivery. If you also have kids in the house, don’t be star PTA mom/soccer coach/primary kid shuttler. What little downtime you have is important, make sure it stays open. **Stop Feeling Guilty.**It might feel selfish to preserve a little time for yourself, but guess what? It’s not. The person you’re caring for needs you to be healthy. You can’t be at your best if you’re overexerting yourself. Do you have a trusted friend you can vent to? Share your guilty feelings and then give yourself permission to get over your guilt. Caregiver support groups are also great for sharing your feelings. And in return you’ll get great tips from other caregivers going through similar emotions. **Ask for help.**You don’t have to do this by yourself! If you have older children in the home, it’s a great opportunity to bond with their grandparent. If you have extended family in the area (brothers, sisters, etc.) ask them to help you with tasks like taking your parent to doctor’s appointments or entertaining them for the afternoon. For those taking care of spouses, asking your children (if they’re in the area) is not a burden. Don’t be afraid to ask them for help. If you don’t have children, or they’re not in the area, it’s more than likely your close friends are willing to help. If you are a caregiver in need of a well-deserved break, Áegis Living communities offer [respite care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/) and day stay programs. Your loved one will take part in our extensive Life Enrichment program, enjoy delicious meals from our superb chefs, and receive the best care from our loving care staff so that you can take time for yourself and trust that they’re in the best hands. --- ## Food Health: Eat Smart for Your Head and Your Heart URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/eat-smart-for-your-head-and-your-heart/ Focus keyword: Eat Smart Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, nutrition, brain-health, emotional-wellness, hobbies-activities, choosing-a-community, for-caregivers Summary: Celebrate American Heart Month and learn to eat smart. Discover heart- and brain-healthy foods like fresh fruit, kale, and fish from Áegis Living. This February, kickstart a plan to **eat smart** and protect your heart. While we celebrate Valentine’s Day with chocolate, February is also American Heart Month. Tragically, over 600,000 Americans die of heart disease annually, making it the leading cause of death for both men and women in the United States. This month, prioritize a healthy diet plan to prevent heart disease for yourself and those you care for. What better way to show your affection for those you love than with a good meal? As a caregiver, choosing heart-healthy options for your loved one is the perfect way share the love of good health this month. And an added benefit is what is good for the heart is also good for your parent’s aging brain. Add these smart foods to your daily diet and help maintain a healthy heart and head. ### Fresh Fruit. Keep snacks healthy with fresh fruit. Berries are rich in heart-healthy phytonutrients and soluble fiber. Researchers found that blueberries can help protect the brain from oxidative stress and may help lessen the effects of age-related conditions, such as dementia. Add fresh berries to low-fat yogurt or cereal for a vitamin boost in the morning or eat washed berries from the carton. Fruits such as oranges, cantaloupes, and papaya are jam-packed with beta-carotene, potassium, magnesium, and fiber. Freeze fruit slices and berries for your [smoothie](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) to add an extra vitamin punch and to chill down your blend. ### Crispy Veggies. Add crisp vegetables as a side to any meal or to top off a salad. Red, yellow, and orange vegetables are packed with carotenoids, fiber, and vitamins. Add red peppers to a stir-fry or use sweet potatoes or acorn squash to bring a burst of color to your plate. Ripe tomatoes provide alpha and beta-carotene, and sun-dried varieties are available during the winter months. Fresh broccoli florets are great with low-fat dip or hummus as a heart-healthy snack filled with vitamin C, potassium, calcium, and fiber. And up your salad game with kale, instead of iceberg. Considered a “superfood,” kale is a powerful antioxidant. It’s an anti-inflammatory and creates building blocks for specific neurotransmitters and minerals to boost brain health. ### Go Nuts. Nuts can be a part of heart-healthy and brain-healthy diet if eaten in the appropriate proportions. Although high in calories, nuts are packed with protein and are a satisfying snack to have on hand. Nuts are beneficial in two ways to your health. Nuts, such as almonds and walnuts, can lower your “bad” cholesterol levels (low-density lipoprotein or LDL). Second, inflammation has been linked to heart disease, and nuts can reduce levels of inflammation. Also, nuts are an excellent source of vitamin E that can lessen cognitive decline as we age. Learn how to [incorporate nuts](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/lets-go-nuts/) into a heart-healthy diet. ### Indulge in Dark Chocolate. Dark chocolate has received a lot of good press over the last few years. The reason is due to the cocoa bean being rich in flavonoids, compounds in unsweetened chocolate that cause dilation of the blood vessels. Besides the potent antioxidant properties, dark chocolate contains several natural stimulants, including caffeine, which enhance concentration. And dark chocolate can stimulate the production of endorphins to improve mood. This Valentine’s Day, indulge in dark chocolate-dipped strawberries and get a double dose of vitamins and antioxidants. But before you grab the chocolate bar, make sure it is at least 70% cocoa. You want to consume chocolate with the lowest amount of sugar and the highest amount of cocoa. ### One Fish, Two Fish. The American Heart Association recommends eating a serving of fish at least two times per week, particularly fatty fish like salmon, trout, sardines, tuna, and mackerel which are loaded with Omega-3 fatty acids. Omega-3 is a healthy form of fatty acids that helps prevent dangerous heart rhythms that could lead to heart attack and is essential for brain function. To find heart-healthy recipes that also benefit brain function, visit the [American Heart Association collection of healthy recipes](https://recipes.heart.org/categories). Plan a 3-course meal for your spouse for Valentines Day or whip up a healthy dinner for your family using these recipe ideas. These dishes will not only tempt their taste buds, but also help maintain brain function, keep weight down, reduce blood pressure, and boost energy. Visit the [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you and ask about the nutritious and delicious culinary menu we provide for our residents and their families. --- ## The Rise of the Millennial Caregiver URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/rise-of-the-millennial-caregiver/ Focus keyword: millennial caregiver Category: caregiver-support Tags: alzheimers, dementia, fall-prevention, social-connection, moving-in, legal-planning, for-caregivers Summary: As their parents move into the senior population, millennials are becoming the family caregiver. Learn more about the numbers behind this shift. The impending silver tsunami raises many [questions](https://www.forbes.com/sites/jodygastfriend/2018/08/10/caregiver-shortage-who-will-care-for-us/#4c875846532d) about who will take over the caregiver role the boomer generation has assumed. Though most headlines put baby boomers at war with millennials - criticizing work ethic, food trends, and residential choices - millennial children are largely the product of boomer parents. As their parents move into the senior population, millennials are becoming the family caregiver. In fact, of the over 40 million people in the U.S. who serve as unpaid caregivers for family members (most often a parent or grandparent), 10 million of these caregivers are millennials. #### Millennial caregivers by the numbers - 15% of millennial caregivers provide care for someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s - The average age of the millennial caregiver is 27 - Millennial caregivers spend 21 hours a week on care responsibilities #### Caregiving and Economic Pressure Caregiving is a stressful and costly job. Where baby boomer and Gen X caregivers have the advantage of established careers and larger savings accounts, their millennial caregiver counterparts are just starting out. A whopping 73 percent of millennial caregivers work full-time jobs on top of their care duties, facing more pressure to balance their young careers and familial duties. In an [AARP](https://www.aarp.org/ppi/info-2018/millennial-family-caregiving.html) study, of the 1,200 millennial caregivers surveyed, the average reported spending on caregiving expenses per year was roughly $6,800 out of their own pocket, a higher portion than any other generation. Luckily, many companies, and even [states](https://www.seattletimes.com/business/employers-would-be-parents-get-set-for-new-washington-state-medical-and-family-leave/), are instilling caregiving leave to help employees balance work requirements with care duties. #### Gender Shift Millennials are making progress in one area when it comes to caregiving: this generation’s men are almost equal to women in providing care. Of surveyed caregivers who have a loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia, 53% are women, and 47% are men, where (as of now) the typical unpaid family caregiver is a 49-year-old female. #### Intergenerational Experience One benefit to millennials providing care for their elder loved ones is the opportunity for intergenerational activity. As many reports have noted, we tend to stick to our peer groups rather than fostering relationships with younger and older generations, causing a greater gap between the generations. Time outside of their own peer groups provides millennials with different perspectives and new understanding of challenges others have faced. #### Providing Support The U.S. is already seeing a caregiver shortage, and this is before most boomers have hit 65. What can you do to support these new, young caregivers? #### Offer help Millennial caregivers are often overlooked by national advocacy organizations, community support groups, and even in public policy. Like all caregivers, they’re at risk for social isolation. Without programs directed to their needs, they lack the comradery and support that older caregivers get from their cohorts. Creating a more inclusive conversation about caregiving can open opportunities for younger caregivers to find a supportive community. If you know a millennial caregiver, a simple visit could provide them with the socialization they’re needing and taking a moment with their parent or grandparent could be an appreciated break. #### Education There are online [memory care resources](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) about Alzheimer’s/dementia symptoms and care that millennials can refer to, so they’re prepared to take on caregiving responsibilities when the time comes. Additionally, libraries, senior centers, and assisted living/memory care communities (such as Áegis Living) host guest speakers who are experts in the Alzheimer’s/dementia field. Many of these are completely free to attend and offer valuable information. Show your support by offering to accompany them. Áegis Living is lucky to have dedicated millennials working in our communities. With the number of individuals over the age of 65 set to double in the next few years, the senior living industry needs wonderful caregivers, nurses, activity directors and more. If you know someone interested in a meaningful, rewarding career, please visit our [careers](https://www.aegisliving.com/careers/) page to view open positions. --- ## What You Need to Know About Assisted Living Expenses URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/know-about-assisted-living-expense/ Focus keyword: assisted living expenses Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: arthritis-mobility, assisted-living, nutrition, medication-management, legal-planning, costs-funding, emotional-wellness Summary: If you’ve been researching assisted living, you may have noticed that the costs of assisted living aren’t as simple as a monthly rent. With 24/7 care, and… If you’ve been researching assisted living, you may have noticed that the costs of assisted living aren’t as simple as a monthly rent. With 24/7 care, and amenities such as housekeeping, provided meals and snacks, community maintenance, and enriching activities, it’s no surprise that costs vary depending on the residence. Some online [calculators](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/info-2017/long-term-care-calculator.html) can help you with a rough estimate of expenses, but the best way to find out is to shop the communities directly. Assisted living communities include health care oversight and supportive care like help with Activities of Daily Living (ADLs). A professional assessment is required before your loved one moves in to determine the appropriate care they need. Assessments evaluate the needs of your loved one from mobility issues and dietary restrictions, to medication management and emotional health. Again, online [resources](https://www.assistedlivinglocators.com/) can provide you with a rough idea of the services you can expect, but the assisted living community will provide the evaluation for required care. ## Assisted living pay options: ### Care Points or Fee-For-Service Care points or fee-for-service charges rent plus the itemized care services your loved one will receive. Through this system, the resident receives a personalized plan specific to their unique needs and payments are based on those services. While the price of services could change over time depending on the addition of new services, you’ll have an itemized account of the care received daily. ### Care levels Some communities will offer three or four levels of care, where each level has a package of care regardless of the specific needs of the individual. Cost is determined by the amount of care your parent or loved one requires, which will, in turn dictate the “care level.” While some appreciate knowing the packaged cost of services each month, if a resident is at the line between levels, they could end up paying for more than they need, or not getting the proper assistance they require. ### All Inclusive Some communities offer a single fee per month that includes the price of rent and all care and services provided. Just like any other apartment-type community, you can expect the same payment month to month. The services are pre-packaged and set for all residents, but the community may have less ability to care for specific needs. One concern with this model is that your parent or loved one could require more care than what is provided. If you find that a community guarantees a set price monthly, ask how additional services offered will be covered, and ensure that a higher level of care will be given if it becomes necessary. ### Expense Cap Some communities will also offer a maximum cap. If your care expenses reach a certain level, they will promise to never charge you more than that amount. Be sure to ask again if you will continue to get the same amenities, services and especially increased level of care as it is needed and how they manage those expenses. Like any other rental complex, month-to-month rent is also determined by the size of the apartment, neighborhood, age of the building, and on-site amenities. Most assisted living communities roll the costs of basic services like housekeeping, meals, transportation, and basic utilities into the base rent. It’s always a good idea to ask each community as you tour what the baseline rent covers. Most communities charge month-to-month, but you may be able to lock in a rental rate for one year. Make sure to find out what to expect from annual rental rate increases, change in services if your parent or loved one’s health declines, or other added fees. We have [20 suggested questions](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/20-questions-for-the-director-of-an-assisted-living-community/) that you can take with you as you tour to help you get the most information from your visit. Visit your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to learn more about assisted living, fees, payment options, and the specific and exceptional services they provide. --- ## Independent and Assisted Living Differences URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-difference-between-assisted-living-and-independent-living/ Focus keyword: independent and assisted living differences Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, hobbies-activities, for-seniors, exercise-fitness, medication-management Summary: Áegis Living is a national leader in senior assisted living and memory care facilities. Specialized programs are available to accommodate numerous special cases Have you noticed that your parents are having a harder time keeping up with their family home and could benefit from downsizing? Senior living communities are a great way to ensure your parents remain active and social. We recently broke down the differences between assisted living and nursing homes, for those seniors who need a little more medical assistance. But what if your parents still fairly healthy? Would they benefit more from independent living or do they need the additional support of an assisted living community? Let’s weigh the options. ### Independent Living Independent living communities are great options for seniors who are still able to care for themselves but need to downsize for financial reasons or because they don’t want to deal with the responsibilities of home ownership. Independent living communities range in structure and style - from apartment complexes to subdivisions - with residences similar to small homes, townhouses or apartments. They offer a safe environment with minimum assistance, and services such as dining, housekeeping, and laundry. For those who no longer drive, these communities also provide transportation services to get their residents where they need to go. Services are designed to minimize seniors’ daily responsibilities, but not take them over completely. ### Assisted Living Some seniors may have a more difficult time living on their own due to developing health issues. In this case, assisted living is the best option. Assisted living communities offer private living spaces, like independent living, with the addition of 24/7 care staff to help with activities of daily living (ADLs). These communities also focus on making sure their residents live active, social lifestyles. Áegis Living’s Life Enrichment Directors plan full calendars of activities that their residents can attend daily. Seniors can enjoy exercise programs like yoga or dance; music therapists lead sing-alongs to combine music and movement and games like musical Jeopardy; art teachers lead painting classes to help unleash their inner artist; and fun outings open doors to new experiences. Good nutrition is an important aspect of assisted living. Áegis Living’s fine dining program guarantees three delicious and nutritious meals daily that range from comfort food to seasonal specials prepared by our celebrated chefs. We take extreme care to make sure our residents receive the best nutrition, daily vitamins, and needed caloric intake, and are well hydrated to stay healthy and active. Residents are also welcome to celebrate special occasions in the community’s private dining room. Assisted living communities employ various specialists to tend to all medical needs. Medication care managers can aid with medication if needed, and licensed nurses are available to monitor health needs. Áegis Living and other assisted living communities also offer specialized memory care neighborhoods that provide expert care for seniors with advanced cognitive decline. These dedicated areas of the community have added security to keep people with Alzheimer’s and dementia safe. Activities are tailored to flow with the needs of the residents, and group activities provide enriching experiences. Licensed nurses monitor health needs, and resident monitoring systems include staff available 24/7 to respond to emergencies. Memory gardens provide the residents with a safe space to take in the fresh air. ### Next Steps Get out there and see these communities for yourself! Touring the different options will help you decide where your parent will be more comfortable. Sitting in on activities, sampling a meal, and getting a feel for the community can be the difference between mom and dad moving with excitement, or prolonging the inevitable. Help them see that their next move will be a great one! --- ## 10 Early Signs of Dementia Families Notice First URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/do-you-know-10-signs-of-dementia/ Focus keyword: 10 signs of dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, brain-health, social-connection, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: Learn the 10 early signs of dementia, from memory lapses to financial confusion, plus when to call the doctor and how to plan next steps. The 10 [early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/) include memory loss that disrupts daily life, growing confusion about time and place, trouble concentrating, personality shifts, apathy, social withdrawal, struggles with cooking or bathing, word-finding problems, mismanaged finances, and unexplained bruises from falls. If your parent shows several of these for more than a few weeks, schedule a cognitive evaluation with their primary care doctor. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's, the most common form of dementia ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). For a deeper walkthrough of what to look for first, see our pillar guide on the [Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/). ## What counts as a warning sign versus normal aging? Forgetting where you put your keys is normal. Forgetting what keys are for is not. The Alzheimer's Association draws that line clearly: occasional lapses are typical, but a pattern of disruption to daily life warrants a workup ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs), 2024). **Dementia**An umbrella term for a decline in memory, reasoning, or other thinking skills severe enough to interfere with daily life. Alzheimer's disease causes 60 to 80 percent of cases ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-and-dementia/what-dementia-symptoms-types-and-diagnosis), 2024).**Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI)**Noticeable changes in memory or thinking that do not yet disrupt independence. Some, but not all, people with MCI progress to dementia.**Sundowning**Late-afternoon agitation, confusion, or restlessness common in mid-stage dementia. See our guide on [Sundowning in Dementia: 4 Ways to Calm Evening Agitation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-ways-to-handle-sundowning/). ## What are the 10 early signs of dementia? - **Memory lapses that disrupt daily life.** Repeating the same question within an hour, or forgetting recent events entirely. - **Growing confusion about time and place.** Preparing for an appointment that is months away, or losing track of the season. - **Reduced concentration.** Trouble following a recipe or balancing a checkbook that used to be routine. - **Personality or behavior changes.** A reserved parent becomes irritable, suspicious, or socially disinhibited. - **Apathy or depression.** A flat affect, loss of motivation, or neglected hygiene. - **Withdrawing from favorite activities.** Skipping book club, church, or weekly card games out of embarrassment. - **Struggles with everyday tasks.** Difficulty with bathing, dressing, or meal preparation. See our [Tips to Support Independent Dressing](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/). - **Word-finding and language problems.** Substituting unrelated words ("hand clock" for "wristwatch") or losing the thread of a conversation. - **Mismanaged finances.** Piles of unopened bills, duplicate payments, or unusual charity withdrawals. - **New bruises or falls.** Falls are the leading cause of injury-related death among adults 65 and older ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). ## Which sign is the biggest red flag? Repetition combined with poor judgment is the strongest signal that something neurological, not just stress or grief, is happening. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often teaches families: the question isn't whether someone forgets, but whether they recognize they've forgotten. Loss of self-awareness around mistakes points toward dementia rather than normal aging. Consider a family whose 82-year-old mother calls her daughter four times in one afternoon asking about the same Thanksgiving plans, then insists she never called. Or imagine your dad leaving the gas burner on twice in a week and brushing it off as no big deal. Both scenarios warrant a same-month visit to the primary care doctor. ## How do dementia symptoms compare to normal aging and depression? BehaviorNormal AgingDepressionDementiaMemoryOccasionally misplaces items, recalls laterComplains about memory, tests normalForgets recent events, cannot retrace stepsMoodStablePersistent sadness, hopelessnessFlat affect, apathy, sometimes irritabilityDaily tasksIndependentSlowed but capableSkipped, unsafe, or incompleteLanguageTip-of-the-tongue momentsSlowed speechSubstitutes wrong words, loses threadResponse to treatmentn/aImproves with therapy or medicationProgressive without disease-modifying careDehydration, urinary tract infections, thyroid issues, and certain medication interactions can also mimic dementia and are reversible when caught, which is why an evaluation matters ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/dementia/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20352019), 2024). ## What should you do if you recognize several signs? - **Write down what you've observed** with dates and specific examples. Doctors need patterns, not impressions. - **Schedule a visit with the primary care physician** and ask for a cognitive screening such as the Mini-Cog or MoCA. - **Request bloodwork** to rule out reversible causes: B12 deficiency, thyroid dysfunction, infection. - **Ask for a referral to a neurologist or geriatrician** if screening flags concern. - **Begin legal and financial planning** while your parent can still participate. The American Bar Association recommends durable [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), healthcare proxy, and an updated will ([American Bar Association](https://www.americanbar.org/groups/law_aging/resources/health_care_decision_making/), 2024). - **Safety-proof the home**, especially for wandering and falls. Our guide on [dementia wandering prevention](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/wandering-woes-preventative-tips-to-securing-your-home/) walks through specifics. - **Map the disease trajectory** so the family knows what to expect. Review [the seven stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/from-early-signs-to-advanced-care-the-seven-stages-of-dementia/). ## What does memory care cost, and when is it time? The national median for memory care runs roughly $5,000 to $7,500 per month as of 2024, with significant regional variation ([SeniorLiving.org](https://www.seniorliving.org/memory-care/costs/), 2024). It's typically time to consider memory care when safety risks (falls, wandering, stove use) outpace what family caregivers can manage at home, or when [caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) starts affecting health. For example, an 84-year-old who has fallen twice in six months and twice left the front door open overnight has crossed a safety threshold that round-the-clock supervised care addresses, but a typical family home does not. ## Frequently asked questions ### How quickly do early dementia signs progress? Progression varies widely. Alzheimer's-type dementia typically advances over 4 to 8 years from diagnosis, though some people live 20 years ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers), 2024). Vascular and Lewy body dementias can move faster or in step-wise drops. ### Can dementia be reversed if caught early? True dementias like Alzheimer's are not reversible, but conditions that mimic dementia, including B12 deficiency, thyroid disease, depression, and medication side effects, often are. That's why a full medical workup matters before assuming the worst. ### What's the difference between Alzheimer's and dementia? Dementia is the umbrella term for symptoms; Alzheimer's disease is the most common underlying cause, accounting for 60 to 80 percent of cases (National Institute on Aging, 2024). ### Should I tell my parent I'm worried about their memory? Yes, with warmth and specifics. Avoid "You're losing it" and try "I noticed you asked about Thanksgiving a few times this week, and I want to make sure we rule out anything treatable." Frame the doctor visit as routine. ### What testing confirms dementia? Diagnosis usually combines cognitive screening (MoCA or Mini-Cog), bloodwork, neurological exam, and sometimes brain imaging (MRI or PET). There is no single blood test, though newer biomarker panels are emerging ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-symptoms-and-diagnosis/how-alzheimers-disease-diagnosed), 2024). ### Does memory care really help, or just delay decline? Specialized memory care provides safety, structured routines, social engagement, and trained staff. Daniel Levitin, PhD, neuroscientist and author of "Successful Aging," emphasizes that social connection and predictable routine help preserve function longer than isolation at home. ## Talk with someone who does this every day If you're seeing several of these signs in someone you love, you don't have to figure out the next step alone. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) for a candid conversation about what care might look like. --- ## Nursing Home or Assisted Living? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/nursing-home-or-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: nursing home or assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, pets, nutrition, moving-in, for-seniors, for-spouses Summary: Have you noticed that your parent could use a little help? They’re missing their medications; maybe they’ve had a fall that requires . Have you noticed that your parent could use a little help? They’re missing their medications; maybe they’ve had a fall that requires they have more assistance day to day. Now it’s the time to decide where to go, but you’re not sure what kind of care they need. Do they need a nursing home? Do they need assisted living? What’s the difference? We’re breaking down these two senior living options to help make your search a little easier. ### Assisted Living Assisted living communities typically have a nurse on staff, as well as 24/7 care managers who are trained to handle care with dignity for older residents who need assistance with ADLs (Activities of Daily Living). Besides providing care and support, communities schedule numerous daily activities for residents to participate in and amenities like fine dining, housekeeping and laundry services. It’s a great option for the loved one who can’t quite live independently anymore but doesn’t need constant medical care. At Áegis Living our Health Services Directors meet with each resident to assess their needs prior to move in to ensure each person receives the right amount of care. As most of our communities are assisted living & memory care, cognitive decline is taken into consideration as well. Residents in assisted living have their own apartments, so there is still a level of privacy while they receive care. Though microwaves and small fridges are available in each apartment for any specific snacks a resident may want, there are rarely full kitchens to encourage residents to eat in the bistro or dining room with their neighbors and friends. The assisted living community you choose should have an excellent culinary program with amazing chefs who make dining a real 5-star experience! There are a variety of activities planned daily, and residents can attend excursions to anywhere from the drug store to a local farmers market. Pets are welcome at most assisted living communities, if they are well-behaved. If you don’t have a furry friend of your own, most communities have a community pet to keep you company. ### Skilled Nursing Facility Skilled nursing homes provide the highest level of care (next to a hospital). If your parent or spouse is living with a complex medical condition or requires 24/7 medical care from a licensed nurse, they would benefit from a nursing home. Additionally, certain medical conditions legally can’t be addressed in assisted living and would require the care a nursing home provides. Residents in skilled nursing have constant access to rehabilitative care. Rooms are set up in a hospital like setting, individual or shared, providing a safety net of constant supervision. Meals are provided and delivered to each resident in their room, rather than expecting them to meet in a dining room. Because they are medical facilities, proper furniture is usually provided. Sadly, pets are not allowed in nursing homes, so make sure your loved one has a photo or stuffed animal version of their best pal to keep them company. Many people require nursing care stays after incidents such as strokes or heart attacks to receive rehabilitative care. About a quarter of nursing home residents only stay for a few months while they’re recovering. ### Next Steps Now that you have an overview of these two care options, it’s time to find the best community for your loved one. Start touring! While websites are more comprehensive these days than they used to be, the best way to get a feel for where your parent’s potential new home is by seeing where the magic happens. We even have a handy [list](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/20-questions-for-the-director-of-an-assisted-living-community/) of the 20 questions you should ask when touring an assisted living community. Áegis Living communities schedule tours daily - you can even stay for lunch! --- ## Do’s and Don’ts for Visiting Your Loved One with Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/visiting-a-loved-one-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, sleep, brain-health, legal-planning Summary: It's important to visit loved ones who live in memory care communities. If you're unsure of what to do with them during your visit, read these suggestions. Visiting a loved one with dementia may present interesting challenges. Depending on what stage they are in their dementia diagnosis, a good day can be a joyful reminder of the loved one you’ve always known, while a bad day can be discouraging. It is important to visit a parent or loved one if they are living in a memory care community. Make it a habit to visit when they’re in their best mood (after a meal, not late in the afternoon if they experience [Sundowning](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-sundowning-and-why-does-it-occur/). Another good tip is to recognize the stage of dementia your loved one is in. As dementia progresses, sight, fine motor skills, and verbal skills decline along with cognitive function. Understanding how far along they are will help you focus on what they can do and bring joy to the moment. The best way to prepare is to arm yourself with knowledge. It’ll allow you to be empathetic to what your mom or dad are experiencing, empowering you to absorb difficult situations better. Many assisted living communities offer free educational seminars with dementia experts where you can address any questions or concerns you may have about what your loved one is experiencing. If you’re not sure what’s best to do with your loved one living in a memory care community, we have some handy do’s and don’ts for you below. ### Do’s - Do keep your tone and body language positive and friendly. - Do make eye contact and stay at their level. Eyesight goes as dementia progresses so making sure they can see you helps them to focus. - Do share photos. Áegis Living’s Life’s Neighborhoods have photo books from a time in our residents’ pasts to help recall stories from childhood, their working days, or even as a young parent. You may also want to bring in a family photo album to let them look through their own past. You never know what stories may come up! - Do be ok with sitting in silence. Something as simple as taking their hand may be especially soothing to them. - Do take a walk. If they’re up to it, take a stroll through the garden. It gets your loved one up and moving and can help to trigger memories. - Do bring favorite foods! Whether it’s a cherished family recipe or their favorite milkshake from Dairy Queen, it’s another opportunity to evoke a story from their past. - Do use smart tech! Each Áegis Living community has an Echo device so that you can utilize [Alexa](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/seniors-engaging-with-amazon/) to access information faster than you can by searching Google. ### Don’ts - Don’t ask them to “remember.” All this will do is cause them frustration or embarrassment. - Don’t get upset if they get something wrong, or point out mistakes. Go with the flow of the conversation. While it may hurt your feelings if a loved one doesn’t remember you in a moment, they’re confused and likely frustrated that they’re having troubles recalling. - Don’t talk about your loved one as if they aren’t there. Instead of asking a Care Manager if your mom has had a good day, ask her directly. - Don’t grill your loved one. Asking continuous questions such as “What day is it?” Or “Who am I?” can only lead to frustration. Eager to learn more about a dementia diagnosis and what it means for your loved one? Contact your nearest Áegis Living community to find out when their next public speaking engagement is, and visit our [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAcdZqmIRFXk484wcXFOZV93DF4IeNOze) page for videos from expert speakers such as The Dementia Whisperer, Laura Wayman, and leading dementia expert Teepa Snow. --- ## Most Common Types of Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/most-common-types-of-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia types Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, brain-health, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-seniors, vascular-dementia Summary: Getting a call that a loved one has been diagnosed with dementia can be difficult and confusing. Learn about some common types of dementia and what they mean. Getting a call that a loved one has been diagnosed with dementia can be difficult and confusing. What does it mean? How will this affect their life? How can I help them? A great way to start is by understanding the diagnosis itself. For starters, did you know dementia isn’t a disease? Dementia is a syndrome, unlike Alzheimer’s which is classified as a disease. A syndrome is when a group of symptoms doesn’t lead to a specific diagnosis. It’s the umbrella term used to describe symptoms that impact memory. There are also reversible dementia, where negative drug interaction or vitamin deficiency cause the symptoms but can be reversed with the right treatment. A great example of this is [dehydration](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/). Dehydration symptoms in seniors can mimic the symptoms of dementia, like confusion. Not only is this easy to reverse with proper hydration, it’s easy to prevent. Then there are the non-reversible dementia. These are the ones that have the greatest impact. It’s important to know the difference between them, and how they affect each person. Because these dementia all have their own set of symptoms, staying educated about the different types of dementia can help us recognize and treat the symptoms before they get worse. ### 9 dementia diagnoses #### Alzheimer’s Currently, Alzheimer’s disease is degenerative and incurable. However, there are new scientific discoveries made frequently about the disease and medical interventions it responds to. The average life expectancy following an Alzheimer’s diagnosis is eight to 10 years. However, everyone diagnosis is unique. With recent [additions](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) to the National Institutes of Health’s budget for 2019, we can hold out hope that more positive discoveries will be made. ### Vascular Dementia The second most common dementia is vascular dementia. Symptoms occur from blood vessel blockage or damage, leading to strokes or bleeding in the brain. These symptoms can occur suddenly and include impaired judgment, difficulty concentrating, and problems with planning, organizing or making decisions. ### Lewy Body Dementia Lewy body Dementia is a progressive brain disorder in which abnormal deposits of a protein called alpha-synuclein build up in areas of the brain that regulate behavior, cognition, and movement. These deposits interrupt chemical messages in the brain and cause memory loss and disorientation. LBD also affects body functions such as blood pressure control, temperature regulation, and bladder and bowel functions. As it progresses, people diagnosed with LBD can experience visual hallucinations or act out their dreams. ### Mixed Dementia Mixed dementia combines two or more disorders, one being dementia, with the most common combination being Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia. The [Jersey Alzheimer’s Association](https://www.jerseyalzheimers.com/types-of-dementia/mixed-dementia.aspx) reported that up to 45 percent of people with dementia have signs of both Alzheimer’s disease and vascular dementia. ### Frontotemporal Dementia Frontotemporal dementia was once known as Pick’s disease, several disorders that affect the frontal and temporal lobes of the brain. The symptoms of frontotemporal dementia depend on the areas of the brain affected: behavioral or language. Behavioral symptoms like inappropriate actions, lack of inhibition, neglect of personal hygiene and compulsive behavior are most common. Language related symptoms include difficulty speaking or understanding, language recall problems, and difficulty with social interactions. ### Wernicke-Korsakoff Syndrome Most commonly caused by [alcohol abuse](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/), Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome is a chronic memory disorder caused by severe deficiency of thiamine (vitamin B-1). This deficiency causes bleeding in the lower section of the brain, affecting muscle control, the ability to remember things, and trouble learning and processing information. Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome’s not technically a type of dementia but has been categorized with other dementia because of shared symptoms. ### Parkinson’s Disease While Parkinson’s disease isn’t a form of dementia, nearly 1 in 5 people diagnosed with Parkinson’s will develop dementia. Look for early warning signs like difficulty understanding visual information or remembering how to do simple daily tasks. As the disease advances, an individual with Parkinson’s could become more depressed, paranoid, or have trouble speaking or recalling words during conversation. ### Huntington’s Disease Like people living with Parkinson’s disease, individuals with Huntington’s disease often develop dementia. A defective gene causes brain cells to break down prematurely, which causes dementia symptoms including difficulty thinking, focusing and reasoning, or learning new things. Movement can also become impaired, making essential activities like walking, talking and swallowing challenging. ### Creutzfeldt-Jakob Disease One of the rarest forms of dementia, Creutzefeldt-Jakob Disease, occurs in only one in 1 million people each year. The brain is infected by an abnormally shaped protein called a prion. While the symptoms mimic those of other types of dementia (confusion, memory loss, agitation, depression) those diagnosed with the disease also experience muscle stiffness and twitching. Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease progresses rapidly. Áegis Living’s nationally recognized memory care program Life’s NeighborhoodTM, improves the quality of life and increases enjoyment for people living with memory loss. If you are interested in learning more about this program, contact your nearest [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)community. --- ## Best Activities for Seniors to Stay Healthy in 2024 URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/senior-activities-to-stay-healthy/ Focus keyword: activities for seniors Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, hobbies-activities, exercise-fitness, for-seniors, fall-prevention, social-connection Summary: Discover the best activities for seniors to stay healthy, from walking and yoga to music, gardening, and puzzles, with expert-backed benefits and tips. The best activities for seniors to stay healthy combine gentle physical movement, social connection, and cognitive challenge in roughly equal parts. Walking, yoga, gardening, music, puzzles, meditation, and volunteering each hit at least two of those three pillars, and together they help lower fall risk, ease depression, and slow cognitive decline. Below is a practical guide to what to try first, how often, and why it works. ## Why does a mix of activities matter more than any single workout? Adults aged 65 and older are encouraged to get at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity per week, plus muscle-strengthening and balance work on two or more days (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2023). Hitting that target with one type of exercise is hard on aging joints, which is why variety matters. Falls remain the leading cause of injury among older adults, with about one in four people 65+ falling each year (CDC STEADI program, 2023). Balance-focused activities like yoga and tai chi directly address that risk, while social activities like walking clubs and volunteering counter the loneliness that the U.S. Surgeon General has linked to a higher risk of dementia and heart disease ([U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory on Social Connection](https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/priorities/connection/index.html), 2023). For a deeper look at one of the most accessible pillars, see our guide to [How Does Music Benefit Senior Health? 4 Proven Ways](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-ways-music-benefits-your-health/). ## What are the seven best activities for healthy aging? Here is how the most evidence-supported options compare on effort, social value, and brain benefit. ActivityPhysical effortSocial factorBrain benefitSuggested frequency WalkingLow to moderateHigh (with a group)Moderate5 days/week, 20-30 min Chair or gentle yogaLowModerateModerate2-3 days/week GardeningLow to moderateModerateModerate3 days/week Music and singingLowHighHighDaily if possible Jigsaw and word puzzlesVery lowLow to moderateHighDaily, 20 min MeditationVery lowLowHighDaily, 10 min VolunteeringVariesVery highHigh1-2 days/week ## How do walking and yoga protect against falls and frailty? A brisk daily walk lowers blood pressure, improves blood sugar control, and supports heart health ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/fitness/in-depth/walking/art-20046261), 2024). Even a 10-minute loop around the block counts. Consider an 82-year-old who joins a neighbor for a morning walk three times a week; within two months she may notice steadier balance on stairs and better sleep. Yoga, especially chair yoga, builds the hip and ankle strength that prevents stumbles. As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has explained in interviews, the goal of later-life movement is not athletic performance but preserving the everyday function that keeps an older adult independent at home. A gentle pose held for 30 seconds counts. ## Which activities help the brain and mood most? About 6.9 million Americans aged 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's dementia ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), and lifestyle activities are one of the few tools shown to slow cognitive decline. Music therapyListening to familiar songs activates memory and language networks even in advanced dementia, often unlocking conversation that had gone quiet (National Institutes of Health, 2022). Jigsaw puzzlesEngage visual-spatial reasoning and short-term memory at the same time. A 1,000-piece puzzle on the kitchen table also invites a grandchild to sit down and help. MeditationSlow, paced breathing lowers cortisol and eases the anxiety that often accompanies hearing loss or a recent move into senior living ([National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health](https://www.nccih.nih.gov/health/meditation-and-mindfulness-effectiveness-and-safety), 2022). GardeningCombines light resistance work, vitamin D exposure, and sensory stimulation, scent, texture, and color all at once. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: a person living with dementia can still access rhythm, melody, and movement long after spoken language fades, so music and dance belong in the daily routine, not the special-occasion folder. ## How do you start a new routine without overdoing it? For a parent who has been mostly sedentary, ramping up too fast invites soreness and discouragement. Use this sequence: - **Get medical clearance.** Ask the primary-care doctor which activities are safe given current medications and joint health. - **Pick two activities, not seven.** Choose one movement-based (walking) and one cognitive or creative (puzzles, painting, music). - **Start at 10 minutes.** Build by five minutes a week until you reach 20-30 minutes per session. - **Anchor it to an existing habit.** A walk right after breakfast sticks better than a vague "sometime this afternoon." - **Add a social layer.** Invite a friend, join a community walking club, or sign up for a group art class. - **Track and adjust.** A simple paper calendar with a checkmark each day is enough. For example, a recently widowed 78-year-old might pair a morning chair-yoga video with a Thursday afternoon volunteer shift at the library. Within a month, that is two consistent anchors for the week, and a built-in reason to leave the house. ## What role does social connection play? Loneliness raises the risk of premature death at a level comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day ([U.S. Surgeon General](https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/priorities/connection/index.html), 2023). That is why activities done with other people, walking clubs, group gardening, choir, intergenerational volunteering, often outperform the same activity done alone. For more on this pillar, see [5 Ways Staying Social Keeps Seniors Healthy](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-staying-social-keeps-you-healthy/), our roundup of [the best memory games for seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-best-memory-games-for-seniors/), and the surprising research on [The Health Benefits Of A Pet](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-health-benefits-of-a-pet/). ## Frequently asked questions ### How much exercise do seniors actually need each week? The CDC recommends at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity per week for adults 65 and older, plus muscle-strengthening on two days and balance work on two or more days (CDC, 2023). That can be broken into 20-minute chunks across the week. ### Is it ever too late to start exercising? No. Adults who begin walking or resistance training in their 70s and 80s still gain measurable strength, balance, and mood benefits, according to the National Institute on Aging ([NIA](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/exercise-and-physical-activity), 2023). Start with 10 minutes and build gradually. ### What activities are safest for someone with early dementia? Music, simple gardening tasks, supervised walking, and large-piece puzzles all work well. Avoid activities with sharp tools or complex multi-step rules unaccompanied. The Alzheimer's Association notes that familiar, predictable routines reduce anxiety ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/activities), 2024). ### How do I get a reluctant parent to participate? Tie the activity to something they already value, faith, family, a favorite era of music, or a pet. Invite rather than instruct, and start with a 10-minute trial rather than a full class. ### Are senior-living communities better for staying active? Often yes, because daily programming removes the friction of organizing transportation, partners, and equipment. At Áegis Living, the Life Enrichment Director plans group activities across mind, body, and spirit so residents always have an option within walking distance. Ready to see a full activity calendar in action? [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a visit and meet the Life Enrichment Director in person. --- ## When is the Time to Start Planning for Long-Term Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/start-planning-for-long-term-care/ Focus keyword: long-term care Category: financial-legal Tags: fall-prevention, moving-in, costs-funding, legal-planning, when-its-time Summary: Start long-term care planning in your 50s or early 60s. Learn costs, insurance options, legal documents, and how to protect retirement savings. The right time to start planning for long-term care is in your 50s or early 60s, well before a fall, a diagnosis, or a hospital discharge forces rushed decisions. Roughly 7 in 10 adults turning 65 today will need some form of long-term services and supports during their lifetime ([U.S. Administration for Community Living](https://acl.gov/ltc), 2024). Planning early gives you more options, lower insurance premiums, and the legal documents your family will need if you cannot speak for yourself. ## Why does timing matter so much for long-term care planning? Long-term care insurance underwriters price policies based on age and health. Apply at 55 and you'll likely qualify; apply at 72 after a stroke and you may be declined outright. The same logic applies to legal paperwork. A durable [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) must be signed while you still have legal capacity, which is why families often pair financial planning with a visit to an elder law attorney. If you're starting that step, our pillar guide on [how to find the right power of attorney lawyer](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) walks through what to ask. As Atul Gawande, MD, surgeon and author of *Being Mortal*, has argued, the goal of late-life planning is not just survival but preserving the things that make life worth living. That requires conversations and documents prepared before a crisis, not during one. ## What does long-term care actually cost in 2026? Costs vary dramatically by care setting and geography. The national median figures from the most recent CareScout Cost of Care Survey (formerly Genworth) give a useful baseline. Care settingNational median monthly costAnnual cost In-home care (non-medical caregiver, 44 hrs/wk)about $6,673$80,080 Adult day health care (2023)$2,058$24,700 Assisted living community$6,200$74,400 Nursing home (semi-private room)about $9,600$114,975 Nursing home (private room)about $10,800$129,575 Source: ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). Memory care typically runs 20 to 30 percent higher than standard assisted living because of staffing ratios and secured environments. ## What are the core terms every family should know? Long-term care (LTC) Help with daily activities such as bathing, dressing, medication management, or supervision for cognitive decline. It is not medical treatment, which is why traditional Medicare does not cover it long-term ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), 2024). Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) The six basic self-care tasks: bathing, dressing, toileting, transferring, continence, and eating. Most LTC insurance pays out when you need help with two or more. Durable [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) A legal document naming who can make financial decisions for you if you lose capacity. See [Why Do We Need a Power of Attorney?](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/) for a deeper walkthrough. Elimination period The number of days you pay out of pocket before an LTC insurance policy starts reimbursing, typically 30, 60, or 90 days. ## How should you sequence your planning steps? - **Map your income and expenses.** Track a full year of spending. Use a retirement calculator from a major firm such as Fidelity or Vanguard to project Social Security, pensions, and savings withdrawals. - **Stress-test for a care event.** Model what happens if one spouse needs $7,000 per month in memory care for four years. The Alzheimer's Association notes the average person lives four to eight years after a dementia diagnosis ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). - **Sign legal documents.** Durable financial [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), healthcare power of attorney, HIPAA release, advance directive, and an updated will. Do this while you are healthy. - **Decide on funding.** Self-pay, traditional LTC insurance, hybrid life/LTC policies, VA benefits if eligible, or Medicaid spend-down planning. - **Tour communities before you need them.** Visit two or three assisted living or memory care communities in your area so you know what you'd choose if a hospitalization forced the issue. - **Revisit the plan every two years** or after any major health change. ## How do real families get caught off guard? Consider an 82-year-old widow in Bellevue who falls while reaching for a coffee mug, fractures her hip, and is discharged from the hospital needing 24-hour help. Her daughter discovers there is no power of attorney, no LTC insurance, and a $380,000 IRA that must now fund $9,000-per-month care. Within 18 months the savings are halved. Now imagine a different family. A 64-year-old husband and his 62-year-old wife sit down with a fee-only financial planner, buy a hybrid life/LTC policy at preferred-health rates, sign powers of attorney, and tour three communities. When dementia surfaces eight years later, the plan activates without a financial crisis. The difference is not income. It is timing. ## What funding sources can you actually use? - **Personal savings and investments.** The 4 percent withdrawal rule remains a common starting point, though AARP recommends adjusting based on market conditions ([AARP](https://www.aarp.org/), 2024). - **Long-term care insurance.** Premiums rise sharply after age 60. Underwriting tightens after a chronic diagnosis. - **Veterans benefits.** Wartime veterans and surviving spouses may qualify for Aid and Attendance. Review [veteran and spouse benefits](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/) to see if your family qualifies. - **Home equity.** A reverse mortgage or sale-leaseback can fund in-home care, but the math deserves a CFP's review. - **Continued earnings.** Working three to five extra years often closes the gap. See [part-time job opportunities for seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/part-time-job-opportunities-for-seniors/) for ideas. - **Medicaid.** A last-resort safety net with strict asset limits and a 5-year lookback on transfers (Medicaid.gov, 2024). ## How do you protect a parent who is already aging? Financial exploitation surges as cognition declines. The FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center reported $7.7 billion in losses to adults 60 and older in 2025 ([FBI IC3 Annual Report](https://www.ic3.gov/AnnualReport/Reports/2025_IC3Report.pdf), 2025). Review our checklist on [how to protect seniors from financial fraud](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-to-protect-seniors-from-financial-fraud/), set up account alerts, and consolidate accounts where possible. Name a trusted contact at each financial institution. Confirm beneficiary designations match the current will. ## Frequently asked questions ### What age should I buy long-term care insurance? Most planners suggest applying between ages 52 and 60, when you can usually pass underwriting and lock in lower premiums. Waiting until your late 60s often means higher rates, riders dropped, or outright denial after a chronic diagnosis. ### Does Medicare pay for long-term care? No. Traditional Medicare covers short post-hospital skilled rehab (up to 100 days with conditions) but not custodial help with bathing, dressing, or supervision ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), 2024). That gap is the reason LTC planning exists. ### How much should I budget for a care event? Plan for at least three years of care at the median rate in your state. In 2024 that means $200,000 to $300,000 for assisted living and $300,000 or more for nursing home care, using Genworth medians as a baseline. ### What documents do I need before a crisis? A durable financial power of attorney, healthcare power of attorney, HIPAA release, advance directive, updated will, and ideally a revocable living trust. An elder law attorney can usually prepare the full set in two to three appointments. ### Is it ever too late to start planning? No. Even after a diagnosis, families can update legal documents (if capacity remains), pursue VA benefits, restructure assets within Medicaid rules, and choose a community that fits the budget. The options narrow but they do not disappear. **Talk through your options with a team that has seen thousands of families navigate this transition.** [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our advisors](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) for a planning conversation, no pressure attached. --- ## Managing the Frustration of Dementia Caregiving URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/frustration-of-dementia-caregiving/ Focus keyword: dementia caregiving Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-spouses, alzheimers Summary: Caring for someone with Alzheimer's can be challenging and overwhelming. Learn to recognize when you're becoming frustrated and cope with negative thoughts. Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia can be challenging and overwhelming on the best of days. Your parent with dementia will develop uncharacteristic behaviors, have bad days, or ask questions repeatedly. Frustration is a valid feeling, but it shouldn’t define how you always feel about caregiving. These negative emotions can lead to [stress](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiving-the-detrimental-health-effects-of-chronic-stress/), depression, and even anger. They won’t benefit you as a caregiver or be helpful in managing the care of your parent. Learn to recognize when you are getting frustrated and how to handle those negative feelings by caring for yourself, asking for help and taking a break. ### Managing Frustration #### Take a break. The behaviors associated with dementia come with a lot of uncertainty. One day your loved one might be lucid and enjoying their day, and the next day filled with anxiety and discomfort. You cannot predict one day to the next. If you find yourself irritated after they refuse to eat or keep repeating behaviors, take a break. Walk out of the room and count backward from 10 to one. Focus on breathing in deeply and slowly exhaling. Grab a glass of water or splash some water in your face. Your parent is not trying to upset you - this is part of the disease. But before you say or do something that you will later regret, take a short break. And if you fear they will be offended if you leave the room, tell them that you need to use the restroom. Acknowledging that you are frustrated and taking a moment to clear your head and regroup is important. #### Adjust your thinking. You may not be able to change an irritable behavior that your parent is displaying, but you can change your reaction to that behavior. We understand this can take some practice but try approaching your situation with gratitude. [Gratitude](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-benefits-of-gratitude/) can help you turn the negative into a positive. None of us are perfect. We are not mind readers, and we can’t predict the future. Be gentle with yourself. You are in a stressful situation, and we know you are doing the very best that you can. Try not to add to the stress of the situation by blaming yourself. You are not responsible for a disease that is beyond your control. But you are in control of how you think, which can affect how you feel. #### Ask for help. Knowing your limitations and asking for support when you need help is not a weakness. But you must also be open to accepting help when offered. What you do for your parent or spouse day in and day out takes commitment, courage, sacrifice, and love. It can also be physically exhausting, mentally draining, and financially difficult. No one expects you to take on this responsibility alone, but you must be assertive and ask for what you need. Somethings may be simple, like asking a friend to let you vent or going for a walk together to get a break. More significant requests like asking for a few days off to recharge, adjusting your work schedule, or accepting financial help can be much harder to ask. Good communication with your family members, friends, and even your boss or coworkers will allow you to ask for what you need and express how you are feeling. People can’t help you when they don’t know that you need help in the first place. #### Say no. Saying “no” can be very difficult for many caregivers. Guilt stops many of us from putting limitations on our time, energy, or finances. But saying no is a valuable tool to not overextending yourself, which can lead to or add to your level of frustration. Your friends and family understand your plate is full with caregiving. If they don’t understand, you need to share with them how you are feeling. Part of [saying no](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/set-boundaries-as-a-caregiver/) is keeping things simple at home. Everyone will enjoy a purchased pizza as much as a meal made from scratch when shared with family and friends. Maybe this year you limit the amount of holiday decorating or events that you attend. Focus on what is necessary and what adds to the health and happiness in your home. #### Self-care so you don’t get lost. We all know that you cannot care for others if you first have not cared for yourself. Self-care may be easier said than done. But don’t let yourself get lost in caregiving. Take time off to recharge when you need it - whether that is a massage, haircut, afternoon coffee with friends, or a few days break. Try to continue pursuing your hobbies, interests, and passions to feel good about yourself. And try to maintain an exercise program, eat well, get a good night’s sleep, and visit the doctor for your medical needs. If you don’t take care of yourself, you will be prone to higher levels of stress and frustration. Caregiving for a loved one with dementia may feel like you are just keeping your head above water. Don’t underestimate how draining this can be on you and your family. It’s important to care for yourself before you can care for others. Hopefully, these tips will help you decrease the stress and lower your frustration. For more information about how to take a short break contact your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/). --- ## How to Stay Confident as You Age: 7 Proven Strategies URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-stay-confident-as-we-age/ Focus keyword: confident aging Category: family-communication Tags: arthritis-mobility, vision-hearing, fall-prevention, social-connection, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-adult-children Summary: Confidence in later life comes from connection, safety, and purpose. Here are 7 research-backed ways to help your parent feel self-assured as they age. Confidence in later life is built through three things: social connection, physical safety, and a felt sense of purpose. When any one of those wobbles, self-esteem dips, and the risk of isolation and depression rises. The good news: small, specific changes at home and in daily routine can restore a parent's confidence within weeks, even after a fall, a diagnosis, or a major life transition like widowhood. If you're starting these conversations for the first time, our guide on [how to talk to your parents about long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/) is a good companion to this article. ## Why does confidence decline with age? Aging brings real losses: retirement removes a daily identity, friends move or pass away, and the body changes in visible ways. Roughly 1 in 4 adults aged 65+ is considered socially isolated, which is linked to higher rates of depression, dementia, and heart disease (CDC, 2024). Hearing loss compounds the problem: about 1 in 3 people between 65 and 74 has measurable hearing loss, and the rate climbs after 75 ([NIH NIDCD](https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/age-related-hearing-loss), 2023). As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, points out, much of what looks like decline is actually a mismatch between an older adult's environment and their changing needs. Adjust the environment, and confidence often follows. ## What are the biggest threats to a senior's self-esteem? **Fear of falling** About 1 in 4 adults 65+ falls each year, and fear of a repeat fall is itself a leading cause of activity restriction ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). **Sensory loss** Untreated vision or hearing loss makes people withdraw from conversations and social events, which erodes self-image. **Loss of independence** Giving up driving, cooking, or managing finances can feel like a demotion in identity, not just a logistical change. **Ageist messaging** Roughly 80% of adults 50+ report regularly encountering ageist stereotypes in daily life (AARP, 2023). ## Which 7 strategies actually boost confidence? - **Strengthen social connection.** Drive your mom to her book club. Program one-touch dialing for her three closest friends. Host Sunday dinner so she's the center of something predictable each week. - **Reduce fall risk before it becomes fear.** A balance class, strength training twice a week, or chair yoga measurably improves stability. The CDC's STEADI program offers a free home checklist ([CDC STEADI](https://www.cdc.gov/steadi/index.html), 2024). - **Treat hearing and vision early.** Over-the-counter hearing aids are now FDA-authorized and cost a fraction of prescription models ([FDA](https://www.fda.gov/medical-devices/hearing-aids/otc-hearing-aids-what-you-should-know), 2023). - **Renovate the home for autonomy.** Grab bars, non-slip mats, brighter lighting, and a walk-in shower turn risky daily tasks back into routine ones. - **Ask for their input.** Bring her a real problem, a work decision, a recipe question, a parenting dilemma. Being needed is a confidence multiplier. - **Keep them engaged with the wider world.** Daily news, a current-events group at the senior center, voting, volunteering. Cognitive engagement is protective against decline ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/brain-health/cognitive-health-and-older-adults), 2024). - **Practice patience.** Slower processing isn't stubbornness. Speak face-to-face, lower background noise, and give time for a response. ## What does this look like in real life? Consider an 82-year-old widow named Marian. After her husband died, she stopped driving at night, then stopped going to her Tuesday lunch group, then stopped answering the phone. Within six months her daughter noticed Marian was wearing the same sweater daily and apologizing constantly. The fix wasn't dramatic: a senior-center ride share, a hearing-aid fitting, and her grandson asking her to teach him to make her pierogi recipe on FaceTime every other Sunday. Within two months she was hosting lunch again. Or imagine an 88-year-old father who fell once in the garage and now refuses to walk to the mailbox. Installing two grab bars, replacing the throw rugs, and walking with him daily for two weeks rebuilt the confidence the single fall had taken. ## How do small environmental fixes compare in cost and impact? ChangeTypical cost (2024)Confidence impact Grab bars (bath + toilet)$150 to $400 installedHigh - reduces #1 fall location OTC hearing aids$200 to $1,000 per pairHigh - restores conversation Better lighting (LED + motion)$50 to $300Moderate to high Balance/strength class$0 to $20 per sessionHigh - cuts fall risk Medical alert pendant$25 to $50 per monthModerate - reduces fear ## What everyday habits protect confidence long term? Hydration, sleep, and movement form the floor. Dehydration alone can mimic confusion and fatigue, which an older adult may interpret as cognitive decline; our guide on [dehydration concerns for your parent](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/) covers the warning signs. Familiar, comforting sensory cues matter too; [a comforting scent](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/follow-your-nose-to-a-comforting-scent/) in the home can stabilize mood and memory. If your parent still smokes, helping them [quit smoking](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-help-your-elderly-loved-one-quit-smoking/) improves stamina and skin within months, which often shows up as renewed willingness to be in photos and at gatherings. And for veterans, unaddressed [PTSD that resurfaces in later years](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/ptsd-in-elderly-veterans-years-after-service/) can quietly drain confidence; treatment helps. ## When is it time to consider more support? If your parent is canceling plans they used to love, hiding mail, losing weight, or making safety mistakes in the kitchen, the home environment may no longer match their needs. A move to a supportive community is not a loss of independence; for the right person it's the return of it. Daniel Levitin, PhD, neuroscientist and author of *Successful Aging*, makes the case that purpose and social engagement are stronger predictors of late-life wellbeing than any single medical intervention. To see how Áegis Living's Life Enrichment programs help residents stay connected, active, and self-assured, [find an Áegis community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) for a personal conversation. ## Frequently asked questions ### At what age does confidence typically decline? There's no fixed age. Confidence tends to dip around major life transitions: retirement, widowhood, a first fall, or a new diagnosis. The decline is situational, not biological, which means it's reversible with the right support. ### How can I rebuild my parent's confidence after a fall? Get a physical therapy referral for gait and balance work, install grab bars and better lighting, and walk with them daily for two to four weeks. The combination of physical recovery and supervised repetition is what rebuilds trust in their own body. ### Does social isolation really affect physical health? Yes. The CDC links social isolation in older adults to a 50% higher risk of dementia and significantly higher risk of heart disease and stroke (CDC, 2024). Regular social contact is a medical intervention, not just a nice-to-have. ### What if my parent refuses to wear hearing aids? Start with a hearing test so the loss is documented, then try over-the-counter models that look like earbuds. Many older adults reject hearing aids because of stigma; modern designs and a trusted audiologist help bridge that gap. ### Is it ageist to suggest assisted living? Not if it's framed around what your parent gains: meals, friends, transportation, and 24-hour peace of mind. Assisted living can restore confidence by removing daily logistics that have become exhausting at home. ### How do I talk to my parent about confidence without offending them? Ask, don't tell. Lead with curiosity: "What's been feeling harder lately?" Listen without rushing to solutions, and offer one specific, small fix at a time rather than a comprehensive plan. --- ## Healthy Benefits of Gratitude for Caregivers URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-benefits-of-gratitude/ Focus keyword: benefits of gratitude Category: financial-legal Tags: dementia, social-connection, exercise-fitness, for-caregivers, for-adult-children, emotional-wellness, nutrition Summary: Gratitude lowers stress, improves sleep, and protects caregiver health. Learn 5 daily practices backed by Harvard Health, the NIH, and Mayo Clinic. Practicing gratitude is one of the most evidence backed habits a family caregiver can adopt. A daily gratitude practice is linked to lower stress, better sleep, stronger immune response, and improved heart health, according to clinicians at Harvard Medical School and the Mayo Clinic. For the roughly 1 in 5 American adults providing unpaid care to an older relative (AARP and National Alliance for Caregiving, 2020), even five minutes of gratitude journaling a day can blunt burnout. If you are also juggling legal paperwork for an aging parent, pair this practice with the practical planning steps in our guide on [How to Find the Right Power of Attorney Lawyer](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) so the emotional and logistical work move forward together. ## What does gratitude actually mean in caregiving? Gratitude is more than saying "thanks." In positive psychology research it is defined as a sustained recognition of goodness in your life, often originating outside yourself. For caregivers, it is the deliberate practice of noticing what is working, even on a hard day. **Gratitude**A felt appreciation for people, moments, or circumstances that contribute to your well being, expressed in thought, writing, or action.**Gratitude journaling**Writing 3 to 5 specific things you are thankful for, typically once a day, to retrain attention toward positive experiences.**[Caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/)**A state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion from prolonged caregiving, recognized by the Cleveland Clinic as a treatable condition ([Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9225-caregiver-burnout), 2024). ## What are the proven health benefits of gratitude? Gratitude works on the body and brain at the same time. Harvard Health Publishing reports that people who keep a weekly gratitude list exercise more, report fewer physical complaints, and feel better about their lives overall ([Harvard Health Publishing](https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier), 2021). The National Institutes of Health describes gratitude practices as a low cost tool that supports emotional well being in older adults and their caregivers (National Institute on Aging, 2024). DomainWhat gratitude can shiftSourceSleepFalling asleep faster, longer sleep durationHarvard Health, 2021Heart healthLower blood pressure, reduced inflammation markersAmerican Heart Association overviewMoodFewer depressive symptoms, more resilienceMayo Clinic, 2024SocialStronger family bonds, less isolationCDC mental health guidanceAs Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has argued, caregiving is most sustainable when families build small daily rituals that protect the caregiver's own health, not just the patient's. A gratitude habit is one of the cheapest and most portable of those rituals. ## How does gratitude help an overwhelmed caregiver? Chronic caregiver stress raises cortisol and increases the risk of depression, sleep disorders, and cardiovascular disease ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/caregiver-stress/art-20044784), 2024). Gratitude practices appear to interrupt that loop by shifting attention away from threat and toward connection. For example, picture a 58 year old daughter caring for her mother with mid stage dementia. After a rough afternoon of repeated questions and a missed medication dose, she writes down three things in a small notebook: her mother laughed at a cardinal in the yard, a neighbor dropped off soup, her own back pain felt better today. The day is not erased, but it is reframed. Consider a second scenario: a husband caring for his wife after a stroke says one specific thank you to the home health aide each visit. Within a month, the aide's engagement deepens and the husband reports feeling less alone. Small expressed gratitude compounds. ## How do you build a daily gratitude practice? - **Pick a time anchor.** Tie the habit to something you already do, like the first sip of morning coffee or brushing your teeth at night. - **Keep a 3 item gratitude journal.** Write three specific items, not generic ones. "Mom recognized my voice on the phone" beats "family." - **Send one thank you per week.** A text, a card, or a voicemail to someone whose help you have not formally acknowledged. - **Practice a 2 minute gratitude pause.** Before a hard task (a doctor's visit, a bath, a difficult phone call), name one thing you appreciate about the person you are caring for. - **Review weekly.** Re read the week's entries on Sunday. Patterns of meaning often appear that you missed in the moment. - **Pair it with movement.** A 10 minute walk while listing what you are grateful for combines two evidence backed mood lifters (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2023). ## What if you genuinely cannot feel grateful today? Force is not the goal. On the worst days, switch from "what am I grateful for" to "what is one thing that did not get worse today." This is sometimes called negative visualization, and it is a recognized cognitive behavioral technique. If low mood, hopelessness, or exhaustion persist for two weeks or longer, talk with your primary care provider; the Cleveland Clinic notes that caregiver depression is common and treatable ([Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9225-caregiver-burnout), 2024). Build gratitude alongside the other habits that protect older adults and the people who love them. See [7 Ways to Boost a Senior's Self-Esteem](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/7-ways-to-boost-a-seniors-self-esteem/), our piece on how [giving back keeps seniors healthy](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/giving-back-keeps-seniors-healthy/), and our guide on [myths about the flu vaccine](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/debunking-the-myths-about-the-flu-vaccine/) for the practical companions to a thankful mindset. ## Frequently asked questions ### How long does it take for a gratitude practice to work? Harvard Health Publishing reports measurable mood improvements after several weeks of consistent practice, with effects deepening over months ([Harvard Health Publishing](https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier), 2021). Most people notice better sleep and a calmer baseline within two to four weeks of daily journaling. ### Is gratitude journaling better in the morning or at night? Either works. Nighttime journaling is linked to improved sleep onset in research summarized by Harvard Health, while morning entries can set a more positive tone for the day. Pick the time you will actually do it. ### Can gratitude help someone with dementia? Yes, in adapted form. Simple verbal cues ("I'm so glad we are together right now") and shared sensory experiences like music, photos, or a familiar meal can elicit appreciation even in mid stage dementia. The Alzheimer's Association recommends emotion focused connection over fact based conversation in later stages ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/communications), 2024). ### What if my parent is difficult and I struggle to feel thankful for them? You do not have to be grateful for the person to benefit from gratitude. Direct your practice toward anything else in your life: a friend, your own resilience, a quiet moment. Many caregivers find that gratitude for unrelated things eventually softens the harder relationship. ### Does insurance or Medicare cover caregiver support? Medicare does not directly pay family caregivers, but it does cover counseling, certain respite services in hospice, and some chronic care management visits that include caregiver education ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/mental-health-care-outpatient), 2024). Ask your parent's primary care provider what is billable under their plan. ## Ready for support that lightens the load? Áegis Living communities build gratitude practices into daily life through our signature programming and Life's Neighborhood® memory care. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through what your family needs next. --- ## Nutritional Needs of Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/nutritional-needs-of-seniors/ Focus keyword: seniors nutrition Category: healthy-aging Tags: nutrition, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-caregivers, for-adult-children Summary: Whether you are a primary caregiver or just concerned about daily nutrition, read about these key things to keep in mind when it comes to your loved one's diet. It seems as the temperatures change that we find ourselves craving warm comfort foods - calorie-laden coffee drinks, pumpkin spice sweet treats, thick creamy soups, and cheesy casseroles. To indulge in a calorie-packed favorite treat every now and then is fine. The trick is keeping your meals balanced with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. As a caregiver, this means preparing a variety of lean proteins, complex carbohydrates, fiber-rich fruits and vegetables, with a bit of healthy fat for your loved ones, while keeping easy-to-grab healthy snacks around the house for your family. As we enter into a new season, it is a good time of year to examine the overall nutrition and health of your aging parent. Whether you are a primary caregiver who does the shopping and makes meals or if you are simply concerned about their daily nutrition, there are a few things to keep in mind when it comes to your aging loved one’s diet. ## Well-Balanced Meals Food rich in fiber, minerals, vitamins, and nutrients is vital to maintain good health at any age, but it can be particularly important for your aging parent. Creating balanced meals for your family may help your parent keep a healthy weight, energize them for the day, and may lower their risk of developing a chronic health condition like heart disease or diabetes. [Malnutrition](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/malnutrition-among-the-elderly/) in older adults can weaken bones, their immune system, and muscle tone leaving them vulnerable to illness and injury. When planning your meals, focus on foods that are nutrient-dense and high in fiber such as vegetables, fruit, whole grains, nuts, beans, dairy, and lean protein. Reducing sodium, and the excess calories of added sugar, may help prevent chronic conditions such as high blood pressure or diabetes. ## Cut the Calories In an effort to maintain a healthy weight, most seniors need to consume fewer calories throughout the day. As your parent ages, their activity level will drop significantly. They will burn fewer calories during the day. In addition, they often lose muscle mass and tone so their metabolism will slow down. This combination means that your parent’s daily caloric needs may decrease. Conversely your parent may also lose their appetite due to the side effects of some medications. A reduced sense of smell and taste that happens with age may also make food less appealing. If your loved one no longer enjoys the comforting aroma of a fresh pot of coffee, a Sunday afternoon stew, or warm cookies from the oven, this can decrease their appetite leading to poor nutrition, impaired immunity, weight loss, and may impact their quality of life. To improve the taste, many seniors will use excess salt or heaping spoons of sugar, which can lead to high blood pressure or diabetes. Try adding herbs and spices to increase flavor but not calories. It’s a balancing act to provide food that is appetizing, rich in nutrients, and not too high in calories. As you make your meal plans, consider the number of calories in the meals and if those calories are made up of quality ingredients with a nutritional punch. ## Hydration A normal part of the aging process that few caregivers may be aware of is thirst in seniors decreases with age. Your parent may no longer have this trigger to remind them to drink water or liquids throughout the day. Take extra steps to entice them to drink fluids. [Dehydration](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/) in older adults has been known to cause behavioral issues like increased confusion, depression, and anxiety. In your meal planning, serve foods like broth soups, low-fat milk, sliced fruit, flavored waters, and blended smoothies to encourage hydration. Whole fruits and vegetables like watermelon, celery, and bell peppers are also a great way to add fiber and hydration. ## Packed Full of Nutrients Two essential nutrients to keep in mind for your aging loved ones are Calcium and Omega 3 Fatty Acids. Foods that are rich in Omega 3 Fatty Acids include walnuts, canola oil, flaxseeds, and flaxseed oil, and many types of fish. The benefit of Omega 3 Fatty Acids is reducing inflammation. Inflammation has been proven to contribute to cancer, heart disease, joint pain, and painful arthritis. As you plan your meals for the week, try to incorporate a meal rich in Omega 3 at least two times per week. A second important nutrient is calcium. Calcium is the cornerstone for bone health. It is recommended by the [National Institutes of Health](https://www.niams.nih.gov/health-topics/calcium-and-vitamin-d-important-bone-health) that adults over the age of 50 get at least 1000 milligrams of calcium per day. Leafy greens such as kale, dairy products, and fortified fruit drinks are all rich in calcium. Also, keep in mind that vitamin D is essential for the body to absorb calcium. The easiest way to get a dose of vitamin D is to sit outside in the sunshine. We recommend that you consult with their physician to see if a supplement for Omega 3 or calcium and vitamin D would benefit your aging parent. When visiting your local [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) ask the Chef about their nutrition meal plans and stay for lunch. --- ## Making Plans for Your Aging Parents URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/making-plans-for-your-aging-parents/ Focus keyword: aging parents Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, nutrition, fall-prevention, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-adult-children, for-seniors Summary: "You may need to face the reality; your parents are not getting any younger. It is in the best interest of your family to prepare for your parents getting older" As children, your parents seem invincible. They are wiser, stronger, and more experienced than you. You expect that they will always be there. So, when the moment comes that you realize your parent is getting older and frailer, you may be in denial. Perhaps you are unprepared to be in this world without them, or you are frightened for their health/mobility/memory, or unsure if they should still be living on their own. You may need to face the reality; your parents are not getting any younger. It is in the best interest of your family to prepare for your parents getting older and the concerns that come with aging. Our wish is that your parents live in good health and pain-free together for as long as possible. But life can get in the way of these plans and intentions. How do you [prepare for your parents getting older](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/six-tips-to-prepare-for-your-aging-parents-future/) and their changing needs? ### Common Signs of Aging These signs of aging go beyond grey hair, wrinkles, and wearing reading glasses. Behavioral changes that affect their health or safety are what you need to be aware of and address. Here are a few signs that your parent may be too frail, overwhelmed, or mentally unable to live on their own. These are the signs of aging that may cause you and your family concern: - Lack of grooming and disheveled or dirty clothing, especially if they typically take pride in their appearance. - Weight loss and poor nutrition with nothing in their refrigerator or kitchen for a proper meal, or spoiled food being used. - Missed or late payment notices, bounced checks, and financial issues - Extreme mood swings or frustration over little tasks - Depression, extremely low energy, or unable to get out of bed - Forgetfulness or confusion when performing a familiar task - Trouble standing from a seated position - Missing important appointments or forgetting to take their medications - Unexplained bruising or cuts - Unkept house or an overgrown garden and yard work - Changes in vision, hearing, or taste that affects their daily life in a negative way - Bumps and scratches on their car with no explanation If their health or happiness is compromised by the changes due to aging, it is best to be prepared and understand their wishes as they get older. Denial will not turn back the hands of time, but preparation and planning can bring real comfort to a family. ### First, let’s talk about financial planning When you or your family is overwhelmed by the thought that your parent can no longer care for themselves, a first step may be to look at how they want to handle their future finances. We would encourage your parent to set up a [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/). A [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/) will authorize a trusted person to manage their finances in the event they can no longer. Working with an eldercare attorney, your parent can specify how they want their finances handled. If your parent suddenly falls ill, a power of attorney can take over their finances, so bills don’t fall behind and their medical bills are paid. ### Second, make health wishes known We suggest discussing a living will with your parent if they have not done this important step. A living will (also known as an advanced directive) is a legal expression of what treatment a person would want in a future situation. This important document will help your family clearly understand their medical wishes in the event that your parent can no longer communicate. This information may include resuscitation guidelines, whether they want dialysis, blood transfusions, palliative care, and when “extraordinary measures” should be taken. Like the power of attorney for financial decisions, a medical power of attorney can make medical decisions on your parents’ behalf for end-of-life care. It’s best to consult with an [eldercare attorney](https://www.naela.org/) for advice on how to handle these details. ### Last, prepare for role reversals As your parent gets older and their needs increase, you may be faced with changes in traditional roles. As you take on more and more daily tasks to care for your parent - caring for their home and pets, driving them to appointments, paying their bills and balancing their checkbook, cooking, shopping, and other household chores - you may soon feel like a parent more than a child. This can be emotionally frustrating or unsettling if you are unprepared to be the decision-maker for your parent. Don’t underestimate this challenge and the emotional toll it can take on an adult-child. Prepare for this possible reality and understand this is normal. Surround yourself with a network of support whether that includes other family members, siblings, trusted friends, or even a therapist. If these critical steps are in place, you and your parent can rest easier. Planning and preparation can bring peace of mind as your parent reaches their golden years. Contact your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to discuss future plans for caring for your aging parent. --- ## How Does Music Benefit Senior Health? 4 Proven Ways URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-ways-music-benefits-your-health/ Focus keyword: music Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: depression-anxiety, assisted-living, exercise-fitness, hobbies-activities, legal-planning, for-adult-children, for-seniors Summary: Music improves memory, mood, mobility, and creativity for older adults. Here's how to use it daily - backed by AARP, NIH, and Mayo Clinic research. Music benefits seniors in four measurable ways: it sharpens **memory recall** (especially for people with dementia), lifts **mood and reduces anxiety**, encourages gentle **physical activity**, and reopens channels for **creative expression**. Whether your parent hums along to Sinatra or taps their foot to Motown, a familiar song can do what conversation sometimes cannot - reach them where they are. Below is what the research says, and exactly how to put music to work today. ## Why does music affect older adults so powerfully? Songs are wired into autobiographical memory. The brain stores music in regions - including the cerebellum and motor cortex - that are often preserved even as Alzheimer's damages the hippocampus, which is why a person who can't recall their grandchild's name may still sing every word of "You Are My Sunshine" ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/art-music), 2024). Neuroscientist Daniel Levitin, PhD, author of *Successful Aging*, has argued that listening to music engages more parts of the brain simultaneously than almost any other activity - a kind of full-brain workout that becomes especially valuable as we age. That's the foundation for what care teams see every day: a quiet resident becomes animated when a favorite record plays. ## What are the 4 biggest health benefits of music for seniors? Here's a quick comparison of what music can do, and the evidence behind each benefit. BenefitWhat it looks likeBest supporting source Memory & cognitionRecalling lyrics, faces, life events when familiar songs play[Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/art-music), 2024 Mood & mental healthLess agitation, lower anxiety, better sleepAARP Global Council on Brain Health, 2020 Physical activityToe-tapping, dancing, improved gait and coordination[National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/exercise-and-physical-activity) Creative expressionSinging, drumming, playing along, songwriting[Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/healthy-aging/in-depth/healthy-aging/art-20046216) ## How does music improve memory in people with dementia? An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026), and music therapy is one of the most accessible non-pharmacological tools for reaching them. Familiar songs from a person's teens and twenties - typically ages 15 to 25 - trigger what researchers call the "reminiscence bump," the era our brains encode most vividly. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often emphasizes: when verbal language fades, rhythm, melody, and emotion remain - so a song can become the bridge a conversation no longer is. Consider a real-world scenario: an 82-year-old grandmother with mid-stage Alzheimer's stops responding to her daughter's questions during visits. The daughter starts every visit by playing three songs from her mother's wedding album. Within minutes, her mother is humming, tearing up, and reaching for her hand. Nothing about the disease changed - but the doorway opened. **Music therapy** The clinical, evidence-based use of music by a credentialed therapist (MT-BC) to address cognitive, emotional, or physical goals. **Therapeutic music listening** Informal use of personalized playlists by family or caregivers to soothe, energize, or reconnect - no certification required. **Reminiscence bump** The brain's tendency to most vividly encode and recall events, songs, and faces from roughly ages 15 - 25. ## Can music really lift mood and reduce anxiety? Yes - and the effect is often immediate. The AARP Global Council on Brain Health (2020) concluded that engaging with music supports mood, stress relief, and social connection in older adults. The NIH Sound Health initiative, run jointly with the Kennedy Center, has documented music's role in calming agitation and easing depression. For caregivers, music is also a redirection tool. If your father becomes agitated at sundown - a phenomenon called sundowning - switching the room's energy with a soft instrumental playlist can defuse the moment faster than reasoning ever will. For more on the mind-body connection in later life, see [5 ways staying social keeps you healthy](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-staying-social-keeps-you-healthy/). ## How does music encourage seniors to move more? The [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/exercise-and-physical-activity) recommends older adults aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity per week - but a gym membership is not the only path. Dancing, marching in place, and rhythmic chair exercises all count. Music makes movement feel like play, not prescription. Imagine your 78-year-old dad who hasn't exercised in months: put on Glenn Miller's "In the Mood," and within 30 seconds his shoulders are swaying. That's a cardiovascular event disguised as nostalgia. For other low-impact ideas, browse [the best activities for seniors to stay healthy](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/senior-activities-to-stay-healthy/). ## How can music unlock creativity later in life? You don't need to have been a musician to start now. Atul Gawande, MD, author of *Being Mortal*, has argued that wellbeing in later life depends less on extending years and more on giving older adults reasons to be active participants in their own days. Music offers that participation cheaply and immediately. Simple instruments - a tambourine, a harmonica, a hand drum, a kalimba - let someone with limited mobility or memory still create. For someone who once played piano but can no longer manage chords, a single-key xylophone or a digital app that fills in harmony can preserve the joy of making sound. ## What's a practical 7-step plan to add music to your day? - **Build a personalized playlist** of 20 - 30 songs from your loved one's teens and twenties. Free tools on Spotify, Apple Music, or YouTube make this fast. - **Anchor it to routines:** upbeat music with breakfast, calm instrumentals at sundown, lullabies before bed. - **Use headphones** for deeply personal listening - the effect is often more powerful than open speakers. - **Pair music with movement** for at least 10 minutes a day: chair dancing, marching, stretching. - **Schedule a weekly sing-along** with grandchildren - intergenerational singing builds bonds across cognitive levels. - **Attend live music** in your community: free park concerts, church choirs, school musicals. - **Keep instruments visible** - a harmonica on the side table is far more likely to be picked up than one in a drawer. ## What kinds of music work best at different times of day? Time / GoalMusic styleWhy it works Morning / energyBig band, early rock & roll, gospelUpbeat tempo (100 - 130 BPM) cues alertness Exercise / dancingSwing, Motown, polka, countryStrong, predictable rhythm supports gait Sundowning / agitationHymns, classical adagios, soft jazzSlow tempo lowers heart rate and arousal BedtimeInstrumental, nature sounds, lullabiesReduces stimulation, signals wind-down Reminiscence visitsSongs from ages 15 - 25 of the listenerTargets the reminiscence bump ## What does music look like inside an Áegis Living community? Inside Life's Neighborhood®, our memory care program, music is woven into the day - not saved for a weekly event. A resident who paces in the afternoon may be met with a curated playlist on a portable speaker. A husband visiting his wife is encouraged to bring her wedding song. Áegis Living's Life Enrichment teams use music alongside [memory games for seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-best-memory-games-for-seniors/), art, and animal visits - see also [the health benefits of a pet](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-health-benefits-of-a-pet/) - because no single tool reaches every resident every day. ## Frequently asked questions ### What type of music is best for seniors with dementia? Personalized music from the listener's teens and twenties - the "reminiscence bump" era - is typically most effective ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/daily-care/art-music), 2024). Genre matters less than personal meaning; a hymn, a polka, or a Beatles track can all work if it's *their* song. ### How long should a music session last? Start with 15 - 30 minutes once or twice a day. Watch for engagement cues - toe-tapping, humming, eye contact - and stop before fatigue sets in. Short, frequent sessions outperform long ones. ### Is music therapy covered by Medicare? Traditional Medicare does not generally cover music therapy as a stand-alone service, though it may be included as part of [hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/) or inpatient rehabilitation. Check current coverage at [Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/) or ask your plan directly. ### What if my parent says they don't like music? Often this means they haven't heard the right song yet. Ask about their first dance, their wedding song, the music their parents played, or songs from religious services they attended as children. The right cue usually appears within a handful of tries. ### Can music help with sleep problems in older adults? Yes. The [Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/expert-answers/music-and-health/faq-20058349) notes that calm music before bed can lower heart rate and ease the transition to sleep. A consistent 20 - 30 minute pre-bed playlist becomes a powerful sleep cue over time. ### Are headphones safe for seniors with hearing aids? Yes, with care. Over-ear headphones generally work better than earbuds for hearing-aid wearers, and many modern hearing aids stream Bluetooth audio directly. Keep volume moderate to protect residual hearing. ## Bring more music into your loved one's life Whether you're caring for a spouse at home or exploring memory care, music is one of the lowest-cost, highest-impact tools you have. To see how Áegis Living teams use music inside Life's Neighborhood® and our Life Enrichment programs, [find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) for a personal conversation. --- ## Understanding Assisted Living Expenses URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/assisted-living-expenses/ Focus keyword: assisted living cost Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, nutrition, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-spouses, choosing-a-community Summary: "Understanding fees for assisted living can be confusing. Care points, care levels, rent and services are all areas of discussion you should have when you visit" Shopping for the right [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-assisted-living/)community for your parent or spouse can be a daunting task. You want to find the perfect place where they will be cared for and comfortable. You may want to be close to your home or in their old neighborhood near friends. You want to consider the cuisine they are served, their apartment layout, the size of the community, the amenities, and the types of activities they offer. But once you have all that figured out, you need to understand what it will cost each month. When [comparing communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-tips-for-touring-an-assisted-living-community/), the monthly price may be confusing. Some communities may charge an all-inclusive charge for rent and services, while other communities may charge individually for only the services needed. What is the best fit for your family? The three typical ways that an assisted living community will charge are: - **Care points or fee-for-service.** This typically refers to charging for rent plus individually for the care services that the resident will receive. - **Care Levels.** Some communities will offer three or four levels of care, and the more care your parent needs, the higher level a family will pay for. - **All inclusive.** Some communities opt to charge a single fee per month that includes the price of rent and all care and services offered. This variety in pricing options can make the task of comparing costs from community to community more difficult. It can also make budgeting for families more confusing too. As a consumer, you will need to ask a lot of detailed questions to understand how the pricing works and how pricing can change as your parent’s needs change with age. Pricing is fundamentally broken down into two main costs: rent and services. ### Rent The rent is the cost of renting the apartment your parent will live in. As you would find with any purchase of a home or deciding on where to rent an apartment, the cost will vary with the location and size of the place. If you are looking at assisted living communities in upscale neighborhoods, this will cost more than less desirable areas of your city. And a large apartment with a separate bedroom will cost more than a studio or shared apartment. A no-frills assisted living community will generally cost less than a nicer community with more amenities and programs. Most assisted living communities roll the costs of basic services into the price of rent, such as housekeeping and laundry one time per week, meals, transportation, basic utilities, security services like a call button, and some basic personal assistance. But as you tour communities, this is something to keep an eye out for and ask questions about. You will want to make sure that your family clearly understands the services included as part of the rent of an apartment. ### Care Services Care services are the costs that can confuse consumers. At many communities, these services will be charged on top of the cost of their basic rent. These expenses may include the cost for assisting with ADLs (activities of daily living). ADLs include assistance with items such as dressing, grooming, bathing, or toileting. Other care services include medication management, escorting the resident to activities or meals, transfers for those with mobility limitations, or additional care needed for those with dementia and memory loss. To understand the care needed, and associated costs to the family, a qualified professional will conduct an [assessment](https://www.senioradvice.com/articles/the-needs-assessment-what-it-is-and-why-it-is-so-important-to-assisted-living-residents) of the resident before they move into the community. They will review their health history and determine the number of activities the resident will need assistance with. Care for different residents can vary widely, so this assessment is the best tool to understand what services your parent will need. #### Care Points And this is where the differences in paying for those services can be set up differently. In one scenario, a family may be charged individually only for the specific services provided; in this structure, each service has an associated number of care points, and the family will be charged a price per care point with the total care charge equaling the total care points for services provided, multiplied by the price per point. #### Care Levels Other communities may offer levels of care where tiered pricing is provided at three or four levels, and these levels are outlined with the services included. A resident may be at the lower end of the care level to start, and as they need more care the resident will be charged the same until they reach that next tier of care level and then will pay more in the next phase. #### All Inclusive Lastly, a community can offer an all-inclusive price for the rent, housekeeping, amenities, activities, transportation, and care services. Occasionally a community will set a limit for what you will pay. When you reach that maximum amount they will not charge more no matter how much care your loved one needs. In any situation where a community assures you they will charge no more than a certain amount, be sure to ask how they will cover expenses for the additional labor and services offered and guarantee the higher level of care needed will be given. When your family tours an assisted living community, each community will be able to share how their pricing is set up. ### What to Ask We suggest that as you tour communities, you ask very specific questions about what is included in the rent and what is additional. You will want to ask if there is an entrance fee or a community fee. Most communities are month-to-month, but many communities will guarantee a rent rate for one year. Ask about the annual rent increase that covers the increase in general expenses like food, utilities, etc. Discuss the costs of services if your parent declines or needs more help while they are living there and what that might look like. Make sure to review all contracts and understand the level of care that a community can provide. The care of your parent is not something that you want to be frugal about, but you need to be aware of the costs that comes with care, and budget accordingly. Your family will want to understand what the monthly cost is for each community that you tour - regardless of how they charge for their services. Knowing this number and being able to compare between communities can be helpful when making your final selection. Visit your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to learn more about assisted living and discuss fees and payment options. --- ## What Makes Áegis Living Different? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-makes-aegis-living-different/ Focus keyword: Áegis Category: aegis-stories Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, exercise-fitness, brain-health, fall-prevention, hobbies-activities, for-seniors Summary: "Áegis Living's staff are empowered to find unique ways to provide comfort, create new memories, and delight residents. Innovation is encouraged at every level." CEO and founder, Dwayne Clark, created Áegis Living with the determination of creating an alternative to the sad “old folks’ home.” With over 30 senior housing communities and growing, he has set new standards in the senior housing industry. Dwayne realized there was a better way to care for and serve our aging population. While working his way up in the assisted living industry as a young professional, he kept a box of dreams, ideas, and innovations that would later form the foundation of Áegis Living. Today, each community has a similar “black box” to collect these ideas and continue to revolutionize this industry. Dwayne empowers and challenges his staff to find unique ways to provide comfort, rekindle fond memories, and delight our residents. He encourages innovation at every level - whether that is the re-creation of a 1950’s campground in a memory care wing, chef-prepared seasonal menus of the best locally-sourced products, elegant interiors that rival five-star hotels, or investing in technology to provide the best care and entertainment for our residents. It is what sets Áegis Living apart. ### LIFE ENRICHMENT #### Every Day is a Celebration! Our Life Enrichment programming offers far from the typical, cookie-cutter activities. Our Life Enrichment Directors use their creativity and knowledge of the interests within each community to customize unique activities and special interest groups. In one community, residents have started a fly fishing club for a group of passionate anglers, and another participates in inter-generational activities at an on-site preschool. One community took on the ambitious goal of beer making from growing the hops to brewing and bottling their own bespoke blend. We don’t program activities based on age but instead based on passions and interests. We are continually evaluating and adding new programs to engage our residents in meaningful ways based on the preferences of the residents in each community. - Life Enrichment staff who plan a rotating calendar of engaging activities, including music therapy, arts and crafts, trivia, balance classes, exercise classes, Tai Chi, TED talks, and so much more! - Custom programs and special interest clubs to meet the unique interests that make up a community. - Planned excursions into the greater, surrounding community. - * Demonstration kitchen for cooking classes. - Friends and family events to share and welcome others into our community. - Special guest presentations and educational programs for family, residents, and professionals. - Memory care activities and programs catered to the cognitive level of our residents living with memory loss. - Leverage technology to enhance our programs. For example, we use Alexa in our communities to bring an immediacy of information to activities. - A tracking system to understand what programs are most popular, the level of participation by your parent, monitor decline or increase in participation, and family members can review reports to see how their parent is adapting to their new home. This tracking system is another tool for our staff to monitor the health and happiness of our residents. ### MEDICAL CARE AND SUPPORT SERVICES #### Our Compassionate Nursing Staff For our nurses, being employed at an assisted living community is much different than working at a clinic or in a hospital. Our staff forms tight bonds with the residents and their families while caring for them in their community home. Many of our nurses compare caring for our residents to caring for a member of their own family. - Each Áegis Living community employs a nurse on staff who oversees the care plans for each resident and customizes care plans to meet their individual needs - Every shift is covered by an on-staff nurse, whether they are in the building or on-call, including throughout the night. - Nurses engage with residents throughout the day during meals, activities, exercise, and in their apartment. They know our residents intimately. - Our nurses use their medical expertise to communicate and share any concerns in a resident’s health with their primary care physician. - Our nurses serve as the point person for family members to discuss changes or questions about a resident’s health and care plans. - The nursing staff teaches and coaches our residents to help them adapt to their changing needs. - Our nursing staff proactively care for our residents and notice changes in their condition quickly. - The nurses set the standard of care within each community and are responsible for maintaining this high level of healthcare. #### 24-Hour Care Staff Áegis Living strives to deliver the best quality geriatric care to every resident. We know that the heart of our business is the dedicated staff who lovingly care for your parent and other residents every day in our communities. Áegis Living has worked hard at nurturing and refining an employee-centric company culture. Happy employees will, in turn, make for happy residents. - Available around-the-clock to assist with the healthcare needs, activities of daily living, and comfort of your parent. - Our staff is trained with ongoing education in dementia care and skilled at redirecting difficult behaviors or agitation associated with memory loss. - Áegis Living actively recruits and retains the best staff, in a variety of creative and effective ways, to provide a consistency of care to our residents. - Áegis Living has innovative employee programs to reward our staff members for their countless hours of hard work and dedication. - Áegis Living is among the top-rated companies on Glassdoor.com, a global employer review website based on anonymous reviews by our current and previous employees. We are honored to be ranked as the #1 senior living company on Glassdoor.com by the overwhelmingly positive reviews from our staff. #### Other Care Services Áegis Living communities partner with local service providers to meet the unique needs of this aging population. The convenience of utilizing an in-house medical care provider allows your parent to receive compassionate health care within the comfort of their apartment. - * In-house primary care doctors - * Physical and occupation therapists - * Podiatrists - * Geriatric psychiatrists - Preferred pharmacy program - Blood work, labs, and x-rays scheduled as out patient ### UNEXPECTED AND LUXURIOUS AMENITIES #### Making Life Easier … And More Fun! Every property in the Áegis Living portfolio is unique and offers a variety of amenities and features. Because of this vast selection from intimate to large scale, there is a community to fit the personality of your parent. * *Specific amenities and features will vary by location.* - Concierge services to help answer your questions and arrange services - Housekeeping on a weekly basis - Scheduled transportation to doctor’s appointments or to run errands - Private furnished and unfurnished apartments - Elegant shared common areas for meeting with family, friends, and neighbors - Chef prepared meals that cater to dietary and food allergy requests and deliver a seasonally rotating menu of tasty meals - Spa services, including massage room, barbershop, hair and nail salon - Fitness center - Sports Den - Fresh juice bar - Cocktail lounge - Library - Arts, crafts, and music room - Swimming pool (limited locations) - Bistro or gastropub - State-of-the-art movie theater - Biophilia wall - Secured memory care wing with landscaped courtyard gardens * Not all communities provide the same services. Ask your General Manager or Health Services Director for clarification on what is offered. --- ## What Is a POLST Form? End-of-Life Orders Explained URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-a-polst-form/ Focus keyword: POLST form Category: financial-legal Tags: hospice-end-of-life, communication, legal-planning Summary: A POLST form turns end-of-life wishes into binding medical orders. Learn who needs one, how it differs from a living will, and how to complete it. A **POLST form** - short for Physician Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment - is a brightly colored medical order that tells paramedics, ER doctors, and nursing staff exactly which treatments a seriously ill patient does or does not want in an emergency. Unlike a living will, a POLST is signed by a clinician and is legally binding across every care setting. If your parent has advanced dementia, late-stage cancer, severe heart failure, or another life-limiting illness, completing a POLST with their doctor is one of the most concrete ways to protect their wishes. Below you'll find what the form covers, how it differs from an advance directive, and a step-by-step process for completing one. If you're also organizing legal paperwork, start with our guide on [How to Find the Right Power of Attorney Lawyer](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) - most families need both documents at the same time. ## What exactly is a POLST form? A POLST is a portable medical order, signed by both the patient (or their authorized surrogate) and a clinician - a physician, nurse practitioner, or physician assistant. It translates a person's care preferences into specific, actionable orders for first responders and hospital staff: whether to attempt CPR, whether to transfer to the ICU, whether to use a ventilator, antibiotics, or a feeding tube. The form was created in Oregon in 1991 and is now used, under varying names, in nearly every U.S. state ([National POLST Collaborative](https://polst.org/state-programs/), 2024). It is printed on vivid pink, green, or yellow paper so emergency personnel can spot it on a refrigerator, bedside table, or medical chart within seconds. ## Who actually needs a POLST? A POLST is not for healthy adults. It is designed for people whose clinician would *not be surprised* if they died within the next 12 months - patients with advanced frailty, terminal illness, or progressive conditions like late-stage Alzheimer's or COPD. Roughly 1 in 9 Americans aged 65 and older is living with Alzheimer's dementia ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), and for those in the final stages, a POLST helps prevent unwanted hospitalizations and intubations. Healthy adults should instead complete an advance directive or living will ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/advance-care-planning/advance-care-planning-advance-directives-health-care), 2023), which speaks to hypothetical future scenarios rather than current medical orders. ### Two scenarios where a POLST changes the outcome - **Example 1:** An 87-year-old woman with advanced dementia in an assisted living community chokes during dinner. Without a POLST, paramedics would attempt full CPR and intubation. With a POLST marked "Comfort Measures Only," staff can keep her calm and pain-free without invasive resuscitation she had clearly refused. - **Example 2:** A 79-year-old man with stage IV pancreatic cancer is found unresponsive at home. His daughter shows EMTs the bright pink POLST on the refrigerator instructing "Do Not Attempt Resuscitation" and "Do Not Transfer to Hospital." He dies peacefully at home, as he wanted, instead of in an ambulance. ## How is a POLST different from a living will? This is where families get confused. Both documents involve end-of-life care, but they function very differently. Living will (advance directive)A legal statement of your preferences for future, hypothetical medical situations. It is not a medical order. EMTs and ER doctors generally cannot act on it directly - it has to be interpreted by a physician.POLSTAn **active medical order**, signed by a clinician, based on a current diagnosis. EMTs, nurses, and ER staff must follow it immediately, without interpretation.Healthcare power of attorneyThe document that names a surrogate decision-maker. A POLST does *not* appoint a surrogate, which is why most families need both. Learn more in our [Power of Attorney for Seniors: A Complete Guide](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-power-of-attorney/).As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has argued, older adults are too often subjected to aggressive treatment that does not match their values - precisely the gap a POLST is designed to close by turning preferences into orders that travel with the patient. ## What does a POLST form cover? While the exact layout varies by state, most POLST forms address three core sections: SectionOptionsWhat it meansCPRAttempt CPR / Do Not Attempt Resuscitation (DNR)Applies only when the patient has no pulse and is not breathingMedical interventionsFull treatment / Selective treatment / Comfort-focusedCovers ICU transfer, intubation, ventilators, cardioversionArtificial nutritionLong-term / Trial period / NoneWhether to use feeding tubes if the patient cannot eatAntibiotics, hydration, and dialysis are addressed on most state versions as well. Importantly, **comfort measures - pain relief, oxygen for shortness of breath, repositioning - are always provided** regardless of which boxes are checked (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2023). ## Why are the names different from state to state? POLST goes by different acronyms depending on where your parent lives: - **POLST** - Physician Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment (California, Washington, Oregon) - **MOLST** - Medical Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment (New York, Maryland) - **MOST** - Medical Orders for Scope of Treatment (North Carolina, Colorado) - **POST** - Physician Orders for Scope of Treatment (West Virginia, Tennessee) - **TPOPP** - Transportable Physician Orders for Patient Preferences (Kansas, Missouri) Some states honor each other's forms; others do not. If your parent splits time between states or moves into a senior-living community across state lines, complete a new form in the state where they primarily reside ([National POLST Collaborative](https://polst.org/state-programs/), 2024). ## How do you actually complete a POLST? The conversation matters as much as the paperwork. The goal is a structured, unhurried discussion between the patient, family, and clinician about values, religious beliefs, prognosis, and what "a good day" looks like. - **Schedule a dedicated appointment** with your parent's primary physician, palliative-care doctor, or nurse practitioner. Mention in advance that you want to complete a POLST so the visit is billed and scheduled appropriately - Medicare reimburses advance-care-planning conversations as a covered service ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/advance-care-planning), 2024). - **Review the diagnosis and prognosis honestly.** The clinician should explain what to expect over the next 6 - 12 months and the realistic benefits and burdens of CPR, ventilators, and ICU care for someone in your parent's condition. - **Talk through values, not just procedures.** Is being at home more important than living longer? Does your parent fear pain more than death? Are there religious considerations? - **Complete each section with the clinician.** Do not leave boxes blank - unmarked sections default to "full treatment" in most states. - **Sign and date.** Both the patient (or surrogate) and the clinician must sign. Some states also require a witness. - **Distribute copies.** Keep the original with the patient, copies with the primary care doctor, healthcare power of attorney, assisted-living community, and any specialists. - **Review annually** or whenever health status changes significantly. A POLST can be revoked or rewritten at any time. As Atul Gawande, MD, surgeon and author of *Being Mortal*, has emphasized, the most important conversation is not about which interventions to refuse - it is about what makes life worth living for this particular person. The POLST is simply the legal vehicle for honoring that answer. ## Where should the POLST form be kept? Visibility is the whole point. A POLST locked in a safe-deposit box will not help when paramedics arrive. - **At home:** Post it on the refrigerator, the back of the front door, or above the bed - anywhere first responders will see it in under 30 seconds. - **In an assisted living or memory care community:** The original goes in the medical chart, with copies accessible to night staff. At Áegis Living, POLST forms are filed in each resident's medical record and reviewed at care conferences. - **In the hospital:** Attached to the front of the chart and uploaded to the electronic health record. - **While traveling:** A copy in the glove box or a digital photo on a caregiver's phone. If emergency personnel do not see a POLST, they are legally required to begin full resuscitation - every time. ## How does a POLST fit with the rest of your parent's planning? A POLST is one piece of a larger plan. Most families benefit from completing all of the following: DocumentWhat it doesWho needs itLiving will / advance directiveStates preferences for hypothetical future careAll adults 18+Healthcare power of attorneyNames a surrogate decision-makerAll adults 18+Durable financial POAAuthorizes someone to manage financesAll adults; urgent for seniorsPOLSTBinding medical orders for current illnessSeriously or terminally ill patientsHIPAA releaseAllows providers to share medical info with familyAll adultsHospice care is often paired with a POLST in the final six months of life and is covered for eligible Medicare beneficiaries with a terminal prognosis ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care), 2024). While you're organizing paperwork, review the [10 Tips To Protect Seniors From Financial Fraud](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-to-protect-seniors-from-financial-fraud/) and, for veteran households, [veteran and spouse benefits](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/) that may offset end-of-life care costs. ## Can a POLST be changed or revoked? Yes - at any time, by the patient. If your father's condition stabilizes, if a new treatment becomes available, or if his values shift, he can void the existing POLST and complete a new one with his clinician. Surrogates can also request changes if the patient has lost capacity, though the standard is that changes must align with what the patient would have wanted (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2023). ## Plan with confidence - and compassion A POLST is not about giving up. It is about making sure the medical system honors who your parent is, not just what their body can endure. Having the conversation early - over coffee, not in an ER hallway - is one of the most loving things a family can do. If you're exploring senior-living options that integrate clinical care, advance-care planning support, and family communication, [find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through your parent's needs. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is a POLST the same as a DNR? No. A DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) order addresses only CPR. A POLST is broader - it covers CPR *plus* intubation, ICU transfer, antibiotics, feeding tubes, and comfort measures. A POLST can include a DNR within it, but it goes much further in directing care. ### Does every state have a POLST program? Nearly every U.S. state has either an endorsed POLST program or a developing one, though the form's name and exact contents vary ([National POLST Collaborative](https://polst.org/state-programs/), 2024). Always use the form specific to the state where your parent receives care. ### Who can sign a POLST on behalf of a patient who cannot communicate? If the patient lacks decision-making capacity, their legally authorized representative - typically the person named in their healthcare power of attorney, or a surrogate identified by state law - can sign. The decisions must reflect what the patient would have wanted, not the surrogate's preferences. ### Will my parent's POLST be honored if they travel out of state? Some states honor out-of-state POLST forms under reciprocity, but not all. If your parent splits time between states, complete a POLST in each, or carry the original plus a doctor's letter confirming its validity. ### Does a POLST expire? POLST forms do not have a built-in expiration date, but the National POLST Collaborative recommends reviewing them annually, after any hospitalization, and whenever health status changes significantly. ### Can a healthy 70-year-old fill out a POLST? It is not recommended. POLST is designed for people with serious or advanced illness. Healthy adults should complete an advance directive and healthcare power of attorney instead, and revisit those documents over time. --- ## From Transitional Care to Memory Care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/transitional-care-to-memory-care/ Focus keyword: memory care Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, memory-care, transitional-care, brain-health, legal-planning, when-its-time Summary: At Áegis Living, we offer programs for residents who show signs of memory loss or dementia but are not yet ready for our memory care full time. Read more here. If your parent is showing mild or [early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/), do they need to move into memory care? At Áegis Living, we offer a program for our residents who may be showing signs of memory loss or dementia but are not yet ready to move to our memory care (Life’s Neighborhood) full time. Transitional care focuses on meeting unique needs early in the progression of their symptoms and providing them the support to move smoothly into memory care if needed. ### What is Dementia? Dementia is a general term referring to a decline in cognitive ability that interferes with the normal activities of one’s daily life. Dementia is not a specific disease but an overall term that describes a group of symptoms associated with a decline in memory. And the most common type of dementia is Alzheimer’s. Vascular dementia, which occurs after a stroke, is the second most common dementia type. Also, medical conditions can cause dementia-like symptoms, including depression, Vitamin B12 deficiency, hydrocephalus (water on the brain), tumors, UTIs, Thyroid disease, and alcoholism. Drug interactions can also cause symptoms of dementia. As we age, our liver is less efficient at metabolizing prescriptions drugs and our kidneys eliminate them for our bodies more slowly. Thus, medications tend to accumulate in the system. And older adults who take a cocktail of medications are especially vulnerable. Drugs that have been known to cause dementia-like symptoms include antihistamines, antidepressants, cardiovascular medications, and sedatives. ### How do dementia symptoms progress? There is no set path and symptoms will progress with each person differently. The type of symptoms and the order they are experienced will vary greatly as well. Some residents will experience a rapid change in their behavior and personality, while others could progress very slowly with gradual changes in behavior. There is no predictor. Either way, we will meet their needs. At Áegis Living, we have worked with thousands of residents living with memory loss. We understand that no two days are alike with a resident who has dementia. They will have good days, and they will have difficult days. But our expert staff is capable of redirecting, soothing, or managing difficult behaviors. They take joy in the little moments and celebrate every day with our residents. They keep a close eye on changes and adapt care plans to meet those new challenges. ### What is transitional care? Our Life’s Neighborhood is a warm, comforting and supportive environment that nurtures our residents living with memory loss and the effects that can come with it. Ultimately, this memory care area of the community may be the best place for your loved one. But we want to meet every resident where they are in the progression of their memory loss and provide a solution that is the best fit - and that solution might include an interim step of transitional care. If your parent is experiencing some symptoms of memory loss or has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, they may not need to move into memory care immediately. If they are forgetful, but their personality and behavior are relatively the same, then they could benefit from transitional care. Our unique transitional care services provide progressive assistance and a gradual transition for those with mild or early-stage memory loss from assisted living to memory care. This option can be a comfort and support, especially when surrounded by peers going through the same transition. The goal of transitional care is to allow residents to cope more successfully with their memory loss and changes in their behavior. We strive to slow the progress, if possible, or lessen the impact of these changes with a structure that socially engages our residents, reduces their anxiety, and increases self-esteem. ### What does transitional care provide? #### Activities and Socialization Focusing on smaller group settings that are less distracting, activities are specifically structured to meet each resident at their cognitive level, while still challenging and stimulating brain activity. We encourage interaction and participation from our residents to avoid the isolation that can sometimes happen with memory loss when a person tries to withdraw or is embarrassed. #### Specially-Trained Staff We provide an environment of constant supervision from specially trained staff**.**Our staff is keenly aware of the challenges that your loved one is facing. They can help to manage the confusion, nervousness, low self-esteem, and anxiety that can come with memory loss. #### Nutrition and Wellness Getting proper nutrition can be difficult for those living with memory loss. Residents with dementia may forget to eat or to drink to stay hydrated. We closely monitor our residents’ eating habits, ensure they get a balanced diet and enough liquids throughout the day. Dining is also a social event to bond with their neighbors and friends over a good meal, and we encourage this comradery. #### Elevated Security We take safety measures to make sure our residents are secure, especially at night. Motion sensors let us know if a resident gets up in the middle of the night and may need assistance. We also have precautions in place to help to ensure residents do not wander, which may be possible for those with memory loss. #### Stay Within the Community Your parent has settled into their new home. They have made friends and become attached to the staff. Moving them to another community can be very disruptive. If your loved one is living in our assisted living community, they can stay in their apartment while becoming more familiar with Life’s Neighborhood and the staff there, as necessary. It allows for a smoother, seamless transition from each level of care within the community. #### What is Life’s Neighborhood? The core of our Memory Care communities is Life’s Neighborhood - a nationally recognized program developed by Áegis Living. The program was designed to improve the quality of life and increase enjoyment for people living with memory loss. The goal is to reduce stress and anxiety by recreating fond memories in a comforting setting. The program creates a bond between the staff and the resident - whether chatting while strolling through the courtyard, interacting in the Julia Child’s kitchen, or looking at old photos in a scrapbook. Life’s Neighborhood encourages interaction in a secure environment where residents are safe from wandering. #### When will my parent need to move to Life’s Neighborhood? There may be a point where it is in the best interest of your parent’s health, happiness, and safety to move to Life’s Neighborhood. This is determined on a case-by-case basis with you and the staff of your parent’s community. But if the progression of their memory loss means that they are not safe, then they are still able to live within the community that they are familiar with but in the memory care area. Our [Life’s Neighborhood](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) community is designed to handle the unique needs of our memory care residents. A very common symptom of dementia is agitation or anxiety, our memory care staff is very familiar with these behaviors and skilled at redirecting or providing comfort to calm residents. Another common symptom of dementia is wandering or exit-seeking. Our memory care wings are secured so they cannot wander off and exits are camouflaged. If your parent begins to experience sundowning, they may be able to benefit from the light therapy offered in Life Neighborhood ™. [Sundowning](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-sundowning-and-why-does-it-occur/) is a noticeable change in behavior in the evening as the light outside changes. There are so many benefits to living in Life’s Neighborhood but we understand this can be an abrupt change for some of our residents. Transitional care can help provide a smooth transition to the next level of care. If you have more questions about transitional care connect with the [community nearest you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to learn more and they can share more details. --- ## Smooth Transition to Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/transition-to-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, assisted-living, nutrition, brain-health, moving-in, legal-planning Summary: "We never underestimate the impact a move to an assisted living community has on a loved one. As they settled into their new apartment, every community carefully" Change for anyone can be difficult. Today we talk about best practices to ensure your transition to assisted living is as smooth as possible. Imagine that you have lived in your family home for over 30 years, raised your children in the same neighborhood, and retired there with your late husband. This is where you know your mailman, butcher, florist, and neighbors by their first names. You need to downsize, sell a home, and [decide what to keep](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-decorate-an-assisted-living-apartment/). This is no small task. It can be daunting. And we never underestimate the stress and impact this has on a person moving into one of our assisted living communities. We’ve got it covered every step of the way - their care, comfort, and assistance. As your loved one gets settled into their new apartment, every community carefully orchestrates the introduction of a new resident. From scheduling the move into their new apartment, to meeting staff, introducing them to other residents, and integrating them into the community and activities; we want their first impression of the community to be positive and engaging. The community holds an all-employee staff meeting at every shift change, every day. During this meeting, details about the new residents are shared with the staff so they can become familiar with who is moving in. This is a big event, and we don’t take it lightly. Every director will make a special point to introduce themselves and get to know the new resident as soon as possible to make them feel welcome. Even when we put our best foot forward, some new residents are resistant and may complain that they want to move back home. This is [normal behavior](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dementia-whisperer-transitional-trauma-for-those-with-dementia/), particularly if your parent is living with dementia. They may be confused and anxious due to memory loss. This is a significant life change for them. ### How should this be addressed? #### Give It Time Keep a positive attitude and use encouraging language when you are together. This may be hard for you and difficult to hear that your parent is unhappy. But if they can no longer live on their own this is the best solution to keep them healthy, safe, and in the company of others. Give them some time to adjust and know that you are doing the right thing. Patience is key. #### Visit Often Studies have shown that family contact is one of the strongest predictors of satisfaction and happiness. Family involvement has been linked to lower mortality, less hospitalization, and earlier hospital discharge in a study of those living in long-term care. #### Making New Friends Staff will be particularly careful to introduce our new residents to other residents who they think are like-minded. They will ensure that they do not sit alone at meals. Our staff is diligent to make sure residents are up in the morning, groomed, and ready for breakfast with a table to sit at. We know that making a new friend can positively impact their attitude toward a community. #### Activities Our Life Enrichment Director plays a key role to encourage new residents to attend activities. Walking into a room of new faces can be intimidating, often caregivers will accompany new residents to activities to help them find their way around the community. Not everyone is a social butterfly, but everyone wants to feel welcome and included. Activities are a great way for new residents to meet their neighbors in a comfortable setting and get involved in hobbies, art, games, or exercise that they are interested in. Activities are also helpful to set up a daily routine. #### Health Issue or Depression Our Health Services Director monitors the health and well-being of all our residents carefully. If a new resident is not adjusting well to the move, they will make sure there isn’t any underlying health issue or [depression](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-of-depression-in-your-mom-or-dad/) that might be causing them discomfort. Anyone might react negatively to a new situation if they don’t feel well or are in pain. We will make sure that they get extra staff attention, feel supported, and health issues are treated appropriately. #### Keep Some Things the Same There are many opportunities to keep some things the same in their lives. For example, while at Áegis Living your parent can keep their same doctor. Many Áegis Living communities offer a visiting medical provider for convenience, but they are welcome to keep a physician who they are familiar with. We offer transportation to and from appointments. Also, the community is their home. They are welcome to have visitors - lunch with old friends, play dates with the grandchildren, or dinner with their children. Familiar plans, tasks, and company can help them better adjust to their new surroundings. To make your parent happy in their new home, we will make every effort to accommodate their adjustment. If you are concerned, speak with the Health Services Director or General Manager to see if there are things that can be done to make them more comfortable. The Chef can make a special family recipe, the Life Enrichment Director can add their favorite hobby to the activities calendar, the community can play their favorite movie in the private theater, or your family can host a brunch in the private dining room. We know that small things can have a significant impact on their happiness as they settle into their new home. --- ## Meet Your Aegis Assisted Living Staff Members URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meet-your-assisted-living-staff/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, nutrition, communication, legal-planning Summary: New to assisted living? Meet the key staff members at Áegis Living who manage your loved one's day-to-day care, activities, medical needs, and billing. ## Meet your assisted living Staff Your loved one has moved to Áegis Living. Now that they are settled, you may have questions about different aspects of the assisted living community. We are here to help. You already know the **Marketing Director **and though you won’t see them as often, they will always be available if you need direction on who to speak to. Let us introduce you to a few key individuals who can answer your questions and assist you. ### Your General Manager Let’s start at the top, overseeing all day-to-day community operations, staff, and family relationships is our general manager. This dynamic position in the community supervises our staff and recruits the team that keeps our residents happy. They ensure that everything in the community runs smoothly, including the kitchen, maintenance, activities, care, and more. Your customer satisfaction is of the utmost importance to our general manager. If you have questions for the General Manager, they are happy to set up a one-on-one appointment and review any of your concerns. ### Business Office Manager To make our business side of the community run efficiently, our Business Office Manager (BOM) works closely with the General Manager on the behind the scenes paperwork, vendor management, resident files, and administrative tasks. Our BOM handles all of our invoicing to families and manages payments. If you have questions concerning your monthly invoice or payment, the Business Office Manager can assist you. ### Your Concierge Every community has a concierge who works at the front desk. Your concierge is there to help answer questions for both the residents and family members. If you have any questions or need any services contact the concierge. They are happy to help you or can direct you to the correct person to assist you. If you are looking for a service for your parent, the concierge will be able to assist you with scheduling: - Transportation to a doctor’s appointment - An appointment with the salon or barbershop or massage services - Housekeeping or laundry services - A meal with your parent in our dining room - A request to our maintenance team to repair an issue in their apartment - A meeting with any of our directors: General Manager, Health Services Director, or Life Enrichment Director ### Our Health Services Director Each resident’s medical care is overseen by our Health Services Director (HSD) in every community. The HSD will first assess the needs of your parent and their current health concerns to create a comprehensive care plan. The HSD will manage the health of your parent, note any changes in their health, schedule and complete follow up assessments, and update their care plan as needed. Our HSDs are registered nurses so they can communicate medical concerns or changes with a resident’s physician. Residents can certainly use their current physician if they choose. Áegis Living has also partnered with visiting medical providers who make regularly scheduled visits within the community, so residents can be seen in the comfort of their own apartment. Our HSDs work directly with our visiting medical providers to update them on your parent’s health and assist in communicating those updates to you. Most of our communities also have working relationships with local physicians and medical centers that they can recommend. And we provide transportation for our residents to get a ride to their doctor’s appointment. **Contact the community HSD:** - To make an appointment with our visiting medical provider - If you have any questions regarding your parent’s health, changes in behavior, or general health concerns - For medication questions or questions about our preferred pharmacy - Regarding food allergies and dietary restrictions. The HSD will communicate these to our culinary services. - If you need the HSD to speak with your parent’s physician. ### Care Director As a partner to the Health Services Director, our Care Director manages all aspects of our care staff. The Care Director is in charge of recruiting, hiring, and retaining the best staff, so your parent has consistency in the care they receive. They work hand-in-hand with the HSD to make sure your parent gets the best quality care and attention. Our Care Director ensures our residents’ needs are being met every day. **Contact the Care Director:** - If you have questions or need more information about your parent’s day to day living experience, their health care or the care staff. - If you have any questions or concerns about the care staff, the Care Director oversees management of caregivers and medication managers ### Our Life Enrichment Director Your parent’s calendar will be filled with fun, enriching activities, unexpected programs, music, entertainment, local excursions, and more every day. But each community is as unique as the people who live there. Our Life Enrichment Directors create a rotating daily calendar of activities based on the hobbies, pursuits, and interests of the residents in each community. Our Life Enrichment Directors take great care in understanding the makeup of personalities in their community and catering activities, programs, and excursions to meet those interests. We have an exciting program that tracks the participation of our residents in our activities. Families can clearly see how much mom or dad is active in our Life Enrichment programs. We can also monitor if their behaviors change or participation increases or declines. This can help not only gauge their happiness, but also their health and energy level. The Life Enrichment Directors will directly email family members with reports, photos, and updates of their loved one’s participation. **Contact our Life Enrichment Director:** - If you are not receiving updates on your parent’s participation or would like to be included in - If you would like to inquire about including a favorite hobby or interest of your parent in the LE program - If you want to participate in an activity, attend an event, or go on a local excursion with your parent ### Maintenance Director The Maintenance Director is responsible for the maintenance and repair in your community. The maintenance team keeps the community looking nice and safe, prepares apartments for new residents, and fixes any issues that may occur in your loved ones home. You can contact the Maintenance Director or ask the concierge for any repairs needed. The comfort and health of your parent or family member are vital to us. We want to help direct you to the right person to answer any of your questions. But of course, our entire staff is very friendly and willing to help any way that they can. Don’t be afraid to ask. ### [Meet Aegis Living's Corporate Management Team](https://www.aegisliving.com/the-aegis-difference/leadership/) --- ## Gifts for Seniors Using Senses URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/gifts-for-seniors-using-senses/ Focus keyword: senior gifts Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, communication, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-spouses Summary: "When looking for a gift for an older family member, consider their five senses: sight, smell, taste, touch, and sound. Whether you want to bring them comfort or" When looking for a gift for your parent or older spouse, consider their five senses as inspiration - sight, smell, taste, touch, and sound. Whether you want to bring them comfort or assist them with one of their fading senses, this can be a creative way to shop for their next gift. If your loved one has dementia and may no longer be communicating, a gift for the senses can break through that limitation. Use your creativity to find a unique gift that will please one of their senses. ### Sight: Whatever you are giving as a gift, try to make the gift wrapping as precious as the present that you have thoughtfully selected. Use lovely wrapping paper, brightly colored ribbon, colorful tissue paper, silk flowers to adorn a gift, and a beautiful gift card. A beautifully dressed gift box shows that you have taken the time to make something special for them. The gift can be a treat for the eyes before the present is even opened. Giving them a gift of images from the past is a wonderful way to spark memories. A scrapbook, framed photographs, or photo album of past holidays or family gatherings is another thoughtful gift to reminisce and share stories. These captured moments can transport them to another place in time. If their eyesight is fading, gifts to assist them are appreciated. A clock with large type that displays both the time and date, a phone that [shows photos](http://www.alzstore.com/memory-picture-phone-p/0030.htm) of who they frequently call, or a large button universal remote for the television can help make everyday activities easier. If your parent has dementia, a digital clock that shows the day of the week along with the time of day (morning, afternoon, evening, or night) can help those who might be confused. ### Smell: Directly hard-wired in our brains is the sense of smell. When we smell an odor or fragrance, this is transmitted to your olfactory bulb which is in the part of the brain responsible for memory and emotion. That’s why the scent of fresh baked cookies can transport you back to your grandmother’s kitchen, or the scent of a dentist drill might make you recoil. A scent can instantly recall a memory and subconsciously trigger an emotion which can make a perfect gift. Give your mother a bottle of the fragrance that she wore when you were a child or aftershave that your father wore as a young man to evoke the feeling of nostalgia. Your mom might enjoy a scented lotion, floral bath gel, lavender sachet, or potpourri that reminds her of her flower garden or scented soap-on-a-rope for dad. A bundle of fresh, fragrant flowers can fill your parent’s apartment with days of cheer. Even the smell of fresh potting soil in a houseplant can remind them of digging in their garden. A fragrant gift can be more than a beautiful scent but can trigger pleasant memories. ### Taste: Who doesn’t appreciate a sweet treat? If you are looking for a fun gift to indulge their sweet tooth, prepare a gift of assorted treats to taste and compare. Purchase a gift basket of assorted cookies or an assortment of light, dark, and white chocolates with a variety of textures and fillings with a notecard to write down and track their favorites. They will enjoy comparing and savoring every bite! If they don’t like sweets, perhaps a sampling of different flavored teas, coffee blends, cheeses, or a variety of breads with olive oil. Take a favorite family recipe that has been passed down to you and bake or cook a dish that they haven’t had in years, but know that they will love. A tasting of treats is a great way to savor an afternoon together. ### Touch: For the gift of touch, think of items that are warm, cozy, or fuzzy. A softly textured blanket of faux fur can bring great comfort and warmth to your loved one. A warm scarf, fuzzy non-skid slippers, wooly sweater, soft sweatshirt, or a fluffy robe are appreciated by older adults who often are cold due to poor circulation and a slower metabolism. If your spouse is living with the painful effects of arthritis, a comforting manicure may be an appreciated gift. Or offer a neck or back massage. These indulgent and healthy treatments are excellent ways to soothe their feet and hands with warm water, a gentle massage, or beautifully painted nails. Many seniors, especially those who have lost a loved one, miss that companionship and holding hands together. A massage is a comforting sense of touch gift that can not only comfort, but also benefit their circulation, decrease muscle stiffness, and joint inflammation. If you choose a spa treatment make sure they understand how to massage an elderly person - often their skin is thinner so the pressure should be gentler and those with mobility issues may need to be positioned correctly. ### Sound: Music is a comfort to many that transcends age. Consider compiling a mix of their favorite artists or music from their youth, include meaningful songs like the waltz of their wedding dance or music that you sang to on road trips. Purchase a basic MP3 player with large buttons, such as the Sansa Shaker or this simple music player from the [Alzheimer’s store](https://www.alzstore.com/music-player-p/2115.htm) that is easy to operate. You can download music for free from Old Time Radio with favorites such as Frank Sinatra, Bing Cosby, Bob Hope and more. As you shop for gifts for a loved one, consider their five senses to inspire the perfect gift for their next birthday, holiday, or special surprise. --- ## Meaningful Family Visits in Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/family-visits-in-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: family visits Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, hobbies-activities, pets, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-spouses, exercise-fitness Summary: At Áegis living, we know how important it is for our residents to spend quality time with loved ones. We share some ideas to make your next visit meaningful. You have worked very hard as the primary caregiver for your parent or spouse. But now, after moving them to an Áegis Living community, you can hand over the tasks of cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, and more to us. Our care staff will tend to your parent’s needs with compassion and dignity. Relieved of the[stress of caregiving](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/), you will be more relaxed to enjoy the company of your parent and spending time together as a family. Visitors are always welcome in our assisted living communities - especially the energy that children or pets can bring. With a little preparation and a few creative ideas, there are plenty of ways to share quality time together in an assisted living community. Take advantage of the events and activities that the community plans. “We love to include family and friends in our activities and events at our communities,” says Chris Corrigall, Vice President of Life Enrichment at Áegis Living. “Our hard-working Life Enrichment Directors plan and schedule creative activities that often appeal to multiple generations. We welcome your participation, especially grandchildren who bring joy to all of our residents.” ### Below are a few ideas to make your next visit meaningful: #### Dine or Snack Together Our Áegis Living communities welcome guests during mealtimes. We suggest you contact your community ahead of your visit to reserve a spot for lunch or afternoon tea. Consider dining al fresco when the sun is shining or bring your son or daughter to share an after-school snack or smoothie with their grandparent. Dining with your parent is also a good time for your children to practice their best table manners and dining etiquette. #### Join a Community Activity Our Life Enrichment Directors are experts at planning daily activities and special events for our residents throughout the year. Many craft projects, cooking classes, [exercise programs](https://www.youtube.com/embed/sH8ywWOR63s), games, or local day trips have multi-generational appeal. We suggest that you contact your community Life Enrichment Director to propose an event or activity appropriate for you and your child to participate with your parent. Your parent will love sharing time as a family, and our other residents will enjoy the enthusiasm and energy of your children. #### Enjoy the Great Outdoors When the weather cooperates, go outside! Enjoy benches on the grounds of our communities, bring the dog to walk around the block together, or take your loved one to a nearby park. If you are visiting with your children, bring a game of croquet, a bottle of bubbles, or a ball to toss to keep them entertained. If you are heading outside to enjoy the day, remember to bring sunscreen, a hat, and sunglasses. #### Time for Show and Tell Just like you once did in grade school, bring a special object to the community to share. Share a short story about why the object is important or unique. Storytelling is an excellent way to share memories and to communicate. If you have a young child or grandchild, have them bring a favorite stuffed animal with them to introduce to the staff and other residents they meet. #### Color the Day Away With minimal mess, coloring is the perfect project for children and adults alike. Whether you are just learning to hold a crayon or have years of colorful experience, a pile of crayons, pens, and colored pencils can make for a beautiful afternoon of art. Adult coloring books are now trendy and offer a range of creative options, or a simple stack of white paper allows the imagination to run wild. Enjoy time creating your masterpieces together. #### Play Games There is no age limit to laughter, and a great way to start the fun and giggles is by playing a game together. For smaller children, we suggest old favorites like Go Fish or Memory. Teens may benefit from learning more challenging games like chess, cribbage, or bridge from a grandparent. Consider purchasing a unique game that stays in your parent’s apartment that is only played during your visits. This exclusive game will give something for your child and parent to look forward to playing together. #### Share a Book Like the special game, find a popular book that is kept in their assisted living apartment. Share a chapter together from this book each time you visit their home. Books are a wonderful way to transcend the gap between generations. Many seniors will enjoy hearing classic stories again such as *Charlie and the Chocolate Factory*or *The Chronicles of Narnia.* Classic books that they may have once read to you as a child are wonderful memories after all these years. If your parent has dementia, many of these same ideas will apply to a visit with them. Find a comfortable spot without distraction, determine the best time of the day for your visit, and adjust your expectations appropriately if they are tired or having a bad day. Being flexible and finding meaningful ways to connect through music, old photographs, comfort foods, or just holding their hand will enrich your visit. #### Life Skill Stations You may have seen the life skill stations in our Áegis Living [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) communities. We suggest interacting with these on your next visit. These are small vignettes that represent a space in time for your parent to revisit. They can watch episodes from *The* *Joy of Cooking* in our Julia Child’s kitchenette, polish the bumper of a vintage car, or visit a virtual lake cottage similar to your family vacations. These life stations are meant to ignite fond memories such as raising children or having a sense of purpose like waiting at the bus stop to head off to work. Use the props within our life skill stations to unlock memories or share stories together. Visiting your loved one in an assisted living community is not only good to share quality time with them, but an opportunity to meet the care staff, their new friends and neighbors, and other families. There is no prescribed duration of time for a visit. Keep in mind, their energy level and how you are feeling during the visit. Your loved one will welcome the visit from a familiar face, and you can be reassured they are good hands. --- ## What to Expect Moving to Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/expect-moving-to-aegis-living/ Focus keyword: understanding assisted living Category: family-communication Tags: alzheimers, dementia, memory-care, emotional-wellness, nutrition, legal-planning, moving-in Summary: "In the whirl of crossing tasks off your moving ""to do"" list or handling an emergency situation that required a quick move, you may not have stopped to think" Your longtime home may have been sold. The moving boxes have been emptied and discarded. Your loved one has moved into an Áegis Living community close to your home or conveniently located on the way to your work. Your mom’s bed has been made with a colorful quilt, her framed family photos placed around the room, and her new robe hangs in her bathroom. She is safely moved in, now what? In the whirl of crossing tasks off your moving “to do” list or worse, handling an emergency situation that required a quick move, you may not have stopped to think about what your parent or spouse will experience in our care and how your family will benefit. ### Your Parent-Child Relationship When your parent moves into an Áegis Living community, the effect on your relationship will be the single most significant change. As your parent became unable to live on their own, they have relied more and more on your assistance. Often, adult children will feel like your parent-child roles have reversed. Relieved of the daily burden and stress of caregiving, you can be the child again and heal your relationship. Your parent will be treated with dignity and compassion by our caregivers. They will have the support they need, and you can have your mom or dad back to love and cherish. Similar role returns can occur if it is your significant other who has moved. ### Personalized Care The care and attention that our staff devotes to our residents are as unique as they are. From unconventional activities to nutritional rotating menus and customized care plans, we offer one-of-a-kind care based on the individual needs, interests, comforts, and preferences of our residents. This type of personalized care takes dedication to deliver exactly what they need, when they need it, and correctly evaluating when their needs change. It also means providing your parent with familiar comforts that will make them feel part of the community and well cared for. Áegis Living doesn’t offer a cookie-cutter approach to care, rather our staff assesses the needs of each person - both physically and emotionally - and creates a care plan to support and engage them. If your loved one needs memory care, we have developed an innovative care program for residents with Alzheimer’s and memory loss to meet their unique needs. Our [Life’s Neighborhood](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) program is designed to help ease the symptoms of dementia and celebrate the life of the individual. Our dedicated memory care community is secured for your peace of mind and offers a more intimate setting to care for your parent. ### Care Staff Our highly-trained staff includes a licensed nurse to oversee the care of your mom or dad. Our compassionate care staff is available around-the-clock to assist with the healthcare needs, activities of daily living, and comfort of your parent. Áegis Living strives to deliver the best quality geriatric care to every resident. We have set high expectations for consistency of care by recruiting and retaining the most talented staff. Our staff is trained with ongoing education and work tirelessly to provide exceptional care to enhance quality of life and bring peace of mind to your family. ### Social Activities Research has shown that seniors who are isolated at home with little to no [social interaction](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-socializing-helps-the-brain-function-better/)can lead to early cognitive decline. Áegis Living staff have seen the benefits of engaging our residents in a variety of activities that foster relationships among their neighbors and friends. Our Life Enrichment team take great care to create a daily calendar of innovative activities with a wide appeal. These activities tap into our residents’ creative sides, bring them on interesting outings around their cities, and create unique interest groups. Socializing is vital to your parent’s health and sense of well-being. Your parent will be active and engaged in our care. Our Life Enrichment Directors are exceptionally skilled at introducing new residents within our communities. Our staff actively get to know each resident and can pair them with others who they feel are compatible. We understand that change can be difficult and our staff will take every opportunity to make your parent feel comfortable and included in their new home. ### Chef-Prepared Cuisine Áegis Living has an exceptional reputation in our industry for delivering delicious, seasonal cuisine to our residents. Our chefs take pride in the presentation, taste, and quality of ingredients served at every meal. At Áegis Living, our communities employ expert chefs who make meals that not only taste great but are visually appealing for our residents whose sense of smell or taste may have faded. Our mealtimes are social events where our residents enjoy time with each other while getting nutritious meals to boost their immunity. To keep our residents healthy and active, we offer snacks, smoothies, and beverages throughout the day to stimulate their appetites and keep them hydrated. Food has a central role of providing vital nutrition, as well as comfort to our residents. ### Community Amenities Each of our Áegis Living communities is unique in its style and design. But the one thing that each property has in common is the elegant decor and furnishings that is unexpected in senior housing. Our attention to detail and design aesthetics when creating each community is not only for the comfort of our residents but to create a place of pride. We offer amenities that rival some of the nicest condominiums, including state-of-the-art movie theaters, private dining rooms, sports dens, elegant lobbies with grand staircases, a concierge, workout rooms, crafts rooms, beauty salon, barbershop, and some locations have heated saltwater pools. We not only want to surprise and delight our residents with warm and elegant interiors but make your parent’s new home a welcoming place to share with friends and family. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/), we not only cherish each resident for the person they are today, but we honor them for their full and rich lives. Each resident is a multifaceted individual with unique talents, professional achievements, significant skills, earned wisdom, and gifts to share. We look beyond the wheelchair now used by the dancer, or the fashionista who needs help getting dressed each morning. We are genuinely curious about those we serve and encourage family members to share their stories. At Áegis Living, we are committed to learning your parent’s full history and understanding their needs to make them feel at home. Knowing your parent’s life story will make their stay with us richer. --- ## 11 Common Aging Health Issues URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/11-common-aging-health-issues/ Focus keyword: aging health Category: healthy-aging Tags: alzheimers, arthritis-mobility, exercise-fitness, when-its-time, legal-planning, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: If you are noticing concerning health symptoms in a loved one, it might be a sign of deeper issues. Read about 11 common health issues associated with aging. As we age, we notice more outward signs of the passing years such as deepening wrinkles, pronounced laugh lines, grey hair, or we pick up our reading glasses more frequently. But with age, we can also experience some health concerns that might not be as visible. If you are noticing concerning health symptoms in your loved one, they might be signs of more serious issues. Here are eleven of the most common aging health issues that you should be aware of. Speak with your General Manager or Health Services Director at your Áegis Living community if you have questions. ### Arthritis According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention [(CDC)](https://www.cdc.gov/arthritis/index.htm), almost half of all adults 65 years or older live with arthritis. As the nation’s number one cause of disability, arthritis can be a source of acute pain and impact quality of life. Because arthritis can discourage your family member from physical activity, it is important that you work with your their doctor to manage their condition and control any discomfort. ### Heart Disease According to the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute, Coronary Heart Disease is the number one cause of death in women in the United States. As the most common type of heart disease in seniors, atherosclerosis is the buildup of fatty deposits and plaque in the walls of the arteries. Depending on where the accumulation is located in the body, this blockage can disrupt the flow of blood and oxygen or lead to a heart attack or stroke. But heart disease is not a normal part of the aging process, maintaining a healthy lifestyle is the best prevention. ### Osteoporosis It is estimated that over two million bones are fractured due to [osteoporosis](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/osteoporosis-and-bone-loss-prevention/) every year in the U.S. With the aging baby boomer population reaching retirement age in the United States, this statistic will rise. The International Osteoporosis Organization estimates a bone is fractured worldwide every three seconds. Women are at higher risk due to the loss of estrogen as they age. In the five to seven years following menopause, women can lose up to 20% of their bone density. There are steps that you can take to prevent and monitor bone loss and bone density. ### Alzheimer’s Disease With an estimated 5.3 million Americans with Alzheimer’s disease, the baby boomer population will greatly impact this statistic over the next several years - especially among women who make up almost two-thirds of all diagnosed. Some of the most common symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease is forgetting recently learned information, repeatedly asking for the same information, relying on memory aides as a crutch, asking a family member to assist with tasks that they normally were able to handle, and confusion about time and place. If you are concerned that your parent or spouse is showing signs of Alzheimer’s disease, speak with your Health Services Director or make an appointment to meet with their physician. ### Pneumonia Pneumonia is a common and potentially serious illness for those who are more vulnerable. For adults over the age of 65, the annual incidence of pneumonia is four times greater than younger age groups, with a higher rate of hospitalization. It is currently the eighth leading cause of death in the United States. Pneumonia is an acute infection of the lungs and can be caused by a variety of microorganisms, including fungi, bacteria or virus. Approximately one-third of the cases of pneumonia in the United States are caused by viruses. Seniors are more susceptible to pneumonia because of the prevalence of both disability and comorbid diseases. Other known independent risk factors for pneumonia include alcoholism, asthma, immunosuppression, and heart disease. ### Diabetes According to the American Diabetes Association, more than one-quarter of the adults in America over the age of 65 have [diabetes](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-tips-for-an-elderly-parent-with-diabetes/) (types 1 or 2). Approximately one-half of older adults have prediabetes. Among the aging populations, type 2 diabetes is an increasing problem and a disproportionately large number of the newly diagnosed are older adults. Diabetes requires a significant amount of self-care which can be difficult for older adults to manage on their own. If your parent is diabetic, it is important to understand the barriers - both physically and mentally - so they get the necessary assistance to successfully manage their own care. ## Influenza The medical community has long recognized that the senior population is at higher risk for serious complications and hospitalization due to influenza. Because immune defenses weaken with age, this older age group contains the largest number of deaths attributed to the flu. If you are caring for an older family member or visiting them in an assisted living community, wash your hands frequently and get a flu shot during cold and flu season. And if you are sick, do not visit until you are no longer contagious to prevent the spread of the flu. ### Fall Injury A fall for an older person can be the cause of great concern because it can result in broken bones, abrasions, or worse. There are many factors attributable to a senior’s fall risk, including eye and ear disorders, medication interactions, numbness, joint pain, dizziness, muscle strength, and walking gait. It is important to take precautions to reduce the possibility of falls. In some cases, families find great comfort in moving their loved one to an assisted living community where care staff can help your parent, especially when walking, standing from a seated position, toileting, and carrying items. However, whether a senior is living in a private home or a community setting, fall risks are always a possibility. ### Oral Health Poor oral health can affect more than your parent enjoying a family meal. It can be detrimental to their health and quality of life. Tooth loss, gum disease, dry mouth, sensitive teeth, and poor oral health can contribute to significant weight loss, malnutrition, dehydration, pain, interrupted sleep, and communication issues. Although age contributes to oral health problems, there are ways for your parent to care for their mouth. Regular dentist visits are just as important as we age, as they are when we’re younger. ### Depression According to the National Institute of Mental Health, older adults with depression often show less obvious symptoms and are less likely to confide their feelings of sadness or despair. Also, they are at greater risk of depression if they have a physical illness and medical condition that can make symptoms worse. Therefore, it’s important to recognize the signs of depression to get the help needed. Depression is treatable through counseling, psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, medication, or a combination of these. Consult with your parent’s physician if you are worried they are experiencing depression. ### Shingles There are approximately one million estimated cases of shingles in the U.S. per year. This startling statistic estimates that one out of every three people will develop [shingles](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/need-to-know-shingles/) at some point in their lifetime, and older adults are particularly susceptible. Shingles is caused by the same virus as chickenpox. It is a painful, blistering skin rash that lasts about two to four weeks. Shingles is common in older adults due to a weakened immune system, stress, injury, certain medications, and other factors. The good news is that most will heal from shingles without recurrence. We are all aware of what we are supposed to do - eat well, stay active, maintain a healthy lifestyle, and see your doctor regularly. But sometimes, that can be easier said than done. Despite our best efforts there are many contributing factors to health issues. These are just a few of the common illnesses you may see in your aging loved one. If you suspect any changes in your parent speak to your Health Services Director, and know that our HSD, Care Director and staff are looking out for your loved one and will share any noticeable changes with you as well. --- ## Why Your Parent Needs a Power of Attorney Now URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/ Focus keyword: power of attorney for seniors Category: financial-legal Tags: legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-adult-children, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: A power of attorney lets a trusted person handle your parent's finances and healthcare if they can't. Here's how it works, who needs one, and when to act. A [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) (POA) is a legal document that lets your parent name a trusted person to make financial, legal, or medical decisions if they become unable to do so themselves. Without one, families often face court-supervised guardianship, which is slower, public, and costly. Setting up a POA while your parent is still competent is one of the simplest, most protective steps your family can take ([American Bar Association](https://www.americanbar.org/groups/law_aging/resources/health_care_decision_making/), 2024). If you're just starting this process, our guide to [how to find the right power of attorney lawyer](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) walks through what to look for in an elder law attorney. ## What exactly is a power of attorney? A POA is a written authorization. Your parent (the *principal*) names someone they trust (the *agent* or *attorney-in-fact*) to act on their behalf. The scope can be broad or narrow, and it can take effect immediately or only after a doctor certifies incapacity. **Principal** The person granting authority. Must be a competent adult at the time of signing. **Agent (attorney-in-fact)** The trusted person authorized to act. Does not need to be a lawyer. **Durable POA** Stays in effect even if the principal becomes incapacitated. This is the type most families need. **Springing POA** Takes effect only when a triggering event occurs, usually a physician's incapacity determination. **Healthcare POA** Also called a healthcare proxy. Authorizes medical decisions when the principal cannot speak for themselves. Roughly 1 in 9 Americans age 65 and older is living with Alzheimer's disease, and the number is projected to rise as the population ages ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). Once cognitive decline is well underway, signing legal documents becomes legally questionable and sometimes impossible. ## Which type of power of attorney does your family need? Most families need more than one document. Financial and medical authority are usually handled separately. POA TypeCoversWhen It's ActiveBest For Durable Financial POABanking, bills, real estate, taxesImmediately or upon incapacityAging parents with assets or property Healthcare POAMedical treatment, providers, end-of-life choicesWhen patient can't communicateEvery adult, regardless of age Limited (Special) POAOne transaction or topicFor a defined windowSelling a home, managing one account Springing POASame as durableOnly after incapacity is certifiedPrincipals worried about premature use Pair the healthcare POA with an advance directive and, when appropriate, a POLST form. POLST orders are recognized in nearly every state and translate end-of-life wishes into portable medical orders ([National POLST Collaborative](https://polst.org/), 2024). ## Why timing matters more than families realize Consider a family whose 82-year-old mother has started leaving bills unopened and forgetting to refill medications. If she waits until a hospitalization to act, her children may have no legal standing to speak to her bank, her doctors, or Medicare on her behalf. Without a POA, the next step is petitioning for guardianship, a court process that the AARP describes as emotionally draining and often expensive (AARP, 2023). For example, an 84-year-old widower who suffers a stroke and can no longer sign checks needs an agent who can pay his mortgage tomorrow, not in six months after a court hearing. As Atul Gawande, MD, surgeon and author of *Being Mortal*, has emphasized: the conversations families dread, about money, autonomy, and end-of-life care, are exactly the ones that protect dignity when a crisis arrives. Naming a POA forces those conversations to happen on your parent's terms, not a hospital's timeline. ## How do you set up a power of attorney, step by step? - **Have the conversation early.** Talk with your parent while they're clearly competent. The Alzheimer's Association recommends starting legal planning immediately after a dementia diagnosis ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/financial-legal-planning), 2024). - **Choose the right agent.** Pick someone who is organized, geographically reasonable, and willing. Name a backup. - **Hire an elder law attorney.** State laws vary. The National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys maintains a member directory by region ([NAELA](https://www.naela.org/), 2024). - **Decide on scope and triggers.** Durable or springing? Broad or limited? Gift-giving authority included? - **Sign with proper witnesses and notarization.** Most states require notarization for financial POAs; some also require two witnesses. - **Distribute copies.** Give the original to your parent, copies to the agent, the attorney, the primary bank, and the primary care physician. - **Review every three to five years** or after any major life event. ## How do you protect against POA abuse? Because no court automatically supervises an agent's actions, the document is only as safe as the person holding it. Older adults lose meaningful sums to financial exploitation each year, and a trusted family member is a frequent culprit (Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, 2019). - Require the agent to keep dated receipts and an itemized ledger. - Name co-agents or require dual signatures over a dollar threshold. - Designate a separate person to receive quarterly account statements. - Add specific language barring self-dealing gifts. For more, see our guides on [how to protect seniors from financial fraud](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-to-protect-seniors-from-financial-fraud/) and [how seniors can avoid tax scams](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-avoid-tax-scams/). ## How does a POA fit into broader care planning? A power of attorney is one piece of a larger plan that includes a will, an advance directive, beneficiary designations, and a long-term care strategy. Median assisted living costs reached the mid four figures per month nationally in recent surveys, so the financial picture matters ([Genworth Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2023). If your parent is a veteran, ask about [VA Aid and Attendance benefits](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/). And if you haven't mapped out the bigger picture, our guide on [when to start planning for long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/start-planning-for-long-term-care/) is a good next read. ## Frequently asked questions ### Can my parent sign a power of attorney if they already have dementia? Possibly, if they still understand what they're signing. Capacity is decision-specific and is evaluated at the moment of signing. An elder law attorney, sometimes with a physician's letter, will document that the principal understood the document. Once dementia is moderate or advanced, the window typically closes ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/financial-legal-planning), 2024). ### Does a power of attorney let me change my parent's will? No. An agent under a POA cannot create, change, or revoke the principal's will. Estate planning documents must be executed by the principal personally while they have capacity. ### What happens if my parent never signs a POA and becomes incapacitated? Your family will likely have to petition the probate court for guardianship or conservatorship. The process can take months, costs legal fees, and gives a judge, not your parent, the final say on who serves. ### Do I need a lawyer, or can I use an online form? Online templates exist, but state requirements for witnesses, notarization, and specific authority language vary. For anything beyond a narrow one-time task, an elder law attorney is worth the cost. Mistakes are often only discovered in a crisis, when they're hardest to fix. ### When should a power of attorney be updated? Review the document every three to five years, after a move to a new state, after a divorce or death of the named agent, or when your parent's health changes significantly. ### Is a healthcare POA the same as a living will? No. A healthcare POA names a decision-maker. A living will (advance directive) states specific treatment preferences. Most families need both, and they're often executed together. **Áegis Living communities partner with families navigating these decisions every day.** If you're weighing care options for a parent and want to talk through the legal, medical, and lifestyle pieces together, [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) or [find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). --- ## Value of Intergenerational Relationships URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/value-of-intergenerational-relationships/ Focus keyword: intergenerational Category: financial-legal Tags: depression-anxiety, communication, social-connection, hobbies-activities, choosing-a-community, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: September is Intergeneration Month, a time to connect generations to communicate gratitude. Read more about the value of Intergenerational relationships. Did you know that September is **Intergeneration Month**? This dedicated celebration encourages communities to intentionally connect generations, fostering meaningful communication about age-related gratitude and unique healthcare needs. This powerful social bond is known as an **intergenerational relationship**. Coincidentally, we revisit the historic opening of the Chinese Information and Service Center (**CISC Bilingual Preschool**) at **Áegis Gardens in Newcastle**. This innovative facility is one of the few **shared sites for youth and older people** in the U.S., beautifully blending early childhood education with senior care. Bringing book-end generations together in one location for targeted programming nurtures both populations, providing incredible short and long-term benefits. By embedding seniors into a preschool environment, children thrive under the added attention of an engaged elder. This unique **intergenerational relationship** makes children feel valued while building deep respect for older people. ## **Overcoming Age Segregation in Society** The generational separation mentality begins early. As we go through school, the job force, and perhaps even parenthood, we tend to stick to our immediate peer groups for social interaction. This structural division slowly pushes elder generations into isolation as they age out of family homes and transition into retirement. Non-profit groups Generations United and The Eisner Foundation published a landmark study titled *“I Need You, You Need Me: The Young, The Old, and What We Can Achieve Together.”* Every single participant surveyed admitted we live in an age-segregated society. In this study: - **53% of American adults** say they do not regularly spend time with individuals much older or younger than they are outside of their immediate family. - **Young adults (ages 18–34)** appear to be the most isolated from other cohorts, with 61% reporting a very limited number of much older or younger acquaintances. By dividing age groups, our society gives rise to ageism, stalls solidarity, and denies individuals the chance to learn from one another. A whopping 76% of surveyed adults believe ageism is a serious societal problem. The good news? Roughly 9 out of 10 adults believe community initiatives built around a shared **intergenerational relationship** benefit everyone. Furthermore, 92% of adults believe seniors experience profound mental and cognitive health advantages by building relationships with children. While young adults have recently felt vilified by older cohorts (such as millennials vs. baby boomers), introducing structural programming early in life opens healthy dialogue. It gives both a pediatrician and a senior-focused **geriatrician** a shared framework for holistic, lifelong community health. ## **How an Intergenerational Relationship Creates New Opportunity** Communities that mix generations, like the **CISC Bilingual Preschool at Áegis Gardens**, offer continuous opportunities for children and elders to co-learn. Sharing in activities like holiday festivals, cooking, reading stories, arts, crafts, and music helps combat isolation and senior depression. **Áegis Living** Founder, Dwayne Clark, knows this firsthand. For over 20 years, bringing children into **Áegis Living** communities has proven that the smiling faces of youth bring a vibrant energy that completely revitalizes seniors. Cultivating a continuous **intergenerational relationship** ensures seniors maintain a strong sense of daily purpose, enabling them to actively contribute to their local community and empower the next generation. --- ## Who Lives in Assisted Living? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/who-lives-in-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, nutrition, social-connection, moving-in, legal-planning Summary: "Maybe you thought that assisted living was just for the infirm or people living with dementia. Assisted living can be for anyone needing assistance with typical" Perhaps you never thought that one day your mom or dad may be unable to care for themselves. But is assisted living a good option for your family? Your mom was always fiercely independent. She never dreamt of moving from her house, even after dad passed away. Or perhaps dad just seemed content puttering around his small apartment with the dog, until you noticed he had lost weight. Maybe you thought that assisted living was just for the infirm or those with dementia. Assisted living can be for anyone needing some assistance with typical day to day activities or care. ## People Living in Assisted Living: According to The [National Center of Assisted Living](https://www.ahcancal.org/ncal/facts/Pages/Residents.aspx), this is what they found to be a “typical” assisted living resident: - 75% of assisted living residents are female, and 25% are male. - 54% are over the age of 84 years old - More than 835,000 people across the nation live in an assisted living community. - Most are mobile, but 38% of residents receive assistance with 3 or more activities of daily living. - Most have 2 or 3 of the top 10 chronic conditions like cardiovascular disease and diabetes. - 4 in 10 are living with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease But that is just an overview and statistics, assisted living communities have residents from all walks of life with a variety of needs to make them comfortable and keep them engaged. The reality is that people are living longer, due to medical advancements, but often frail with more ailments and a multitude of medications. They may not be able to manage on their own, and you may not be able to support them like they need. Your parent will need to find a place that is nurturing, helpful, and caring while giving them a semblance of independence. Assisted living can be the perfect fit. ## What is Assisted Living? First, we should cover the definition of an assisted living community. Assisted living is a long-term care housing solution if your mom or dad needs help and is no longer safe to live independently. An assisted living community provides 24/7 care by trained caregivers in a home environment. The caregivers can assist your parent with the activities of daily living (ADLs) such as bathing, dressing, toileting, personal hygiene, transferring, eating, and medication management. Most communities employ an on-staff nurse to oversee medical plans and assist with changes in care as needs increase. Assisted living communities are like homes, not a hospital. Residents eat meals together in a shared dining room, enjoy welcoming common areas, socialize in daily activities, and live in private apartments that they decorate to their taste. In addition to the expert care and support, assisted living communities are built on a social model to engage residents in activities and make new friends. Unlike a skilled nursing facility or a hospital, assisted living communities offer a wide range of activities including music therapy, entertainment, local excursions, exercise classes, arts and crafts, brain-teasers, lectures, and events to promote comradery. An assisted living community should offer a rotating schedule of daily activities organized by [Life Enrichment directors](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=taXC63bsD-k). These directors are skilled at creating unique activities to celebrate the unique individuals that make up a specific community. They create programs based on the interests, tastes, personalities, and traits of those who live there. It should be the mission of the staff to get to know residents and their families intimately so they can serve them better. ## Meet some of our residents: ### Our residents give back. At age 99, Lois, a retired nurse living at Áegis of Aptos is the anchor to the knitting group. As many as a dozen residents gathered every Friday to put their hands to work knitting hats for Jacob’s Heart Children’s Cancer Support Services. Each colorful cap is lovingly crafted and given to a child with cancer who may lose their hair due to chemotherapy. These knitting seniors have also donated their time and beautifully crafted creations to various charities in the area, including making baby blankets for the Santa Cruz women’s shelter. Each handmade item is a symbol of warmth and compassion for the recipient. ### Our residents are heroes. Retired USAF Colonel Dexter fulfilled his dream to take one more flight in a historic B-25 bomber. After 24 years of military service and piloting missions over the Pacific Ocean in WWII, resident of Áegis of Redmond, Baker, dreamed of flying again at the age of 93. And 71 years later, his friends and family surprised him at Everett’s Paine Field with a ride in a restored B-25. ### Our residents are young at heart. At age 92, hospice resident, Betty, wished to feel like a little girl again on Seattle’s Great Wheel. Her health had slowly been declining after suffering two bad falls and a broken hip. They were measuring her time left in months. Van Dyke had told one of her caregivers that wanted to “[do something wonderful](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPjpNkepIvY&list=PLAcdZqmIRFXlPLpZKv7XrMkO-limU46Ej&index=62)” in the time that she had left. She decided to ride the Seattle waterfront ferris wheel - something that she hadn’t done since the 5th grade. But don’t take our word for it, meet some of the people who [call Áegis Living home](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5IKvRMpBRNU) for yourself. Or visit in person to meet our residents, families and staff. --- ## Who Will Take Care of Mom? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/who-will-take-care-of-mom/ Focus keyword: Mom Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, fall-prevention, emotional-wellness, social-connection, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: "At Áegis Living, you can be comforted knowing that our staff approaches their work as more than just a job. It's a career with a deep sense of purpose that" When you ask, “Who will care for my mom or dad?” At Áegis Living, you can be comforted knowing that our staff approaches their work as more than just a job. As you know, this can be exhausting work, both physically and emotionally, but the rewards go far beyond a paycheck. It is our staff’s passion and honor to care for others. It’s a career with a deep sense of purpose that brings meaning to their lives. These are the type of people who will care for your parent. The work that we do is more than a simple job description. It is caring genuinely for seniors with dignity and respect. It’s maintaining a semblance of independence to someone who can no longer live on their own. It is delivering moments of joy, creating possibility, and encouraging laughter every day. It’s treating our residents like members of our own family. ## Our Compassionate Staff The DNA of our company culture is innovation, empowerment, and compassion. Áegis Living has nurtured and refined a company that is employee-centric focused. We understand that the heart of our business is the people who passionately care and love our residents. We want our staff to feel that same level of commitment and care from us as their employer. This is why Áegis Living is committed to attracting and keeping the best employees at every level of the company. We have created innovative employee programs to reward our staff members for their countless hours of hard work, including a company-wide [employee lottery](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03odV3BS32Y) with cash rewards and luxury trips to London, Hawaii, and Disneyland! We support pride in their workplace, work-life balance, and innovative new ideas to honor our employees for their boundless energy and dedication to our residents. Áegis Living is invested in the long-term retention and career fulfillment of our best staff members with clear channels to move up the ladder and attain their professional and personal goals. We commit that every employee will have the tools, training, and skill set to do their job to the best of their ability for success. And we know that happy, committed employees will provide consistent care that our residents and their family members rely on. ## Visionary Leadership Our CEO and founder, [Dwayne Clark](https://www.aegisliving.com/the-aegis-difference/leadership/), created Áegis Living with the determination of creating an alternative to the sad “old folks’ home.” With 31 senior housing communities and growing, he has set new standards in the assisted living and memory care industry. Dwayne realized there was a better way to serve our aging population. As a young man early in his career in the senior housing industry, he kept a box of creative ideas, lofty dreams, and innovations that would later form the foundation of Áegis Living. Today, each community has a similar “black box” to hold new ideas from staff and continue to transform the senior housing industry. Dwayne empowers and challenges his staff to find unique ways to provide comfort, create new memories, and delight our residents. He encourages innovation at every level - whether that is the recreation of 1950’s campground in a memory care courtyard, chef-prepared seasonal menus of the best locally-sourced products, elegant interiors that rival five-star hotels, or investing in technology to provide the best healthcare for our residents. It’s this approach that has won the hearts of our residents and families. Dwayne’s story is also personal after his mother became a resident at one of our memory care communities when diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. He understands what it is like for a mother to forget her own son. It is with this deep understanding that he is committed to hiring the most skilled staff, bringing the best care to our residents every day. ## Award-Winning Employees Áegis Living is its employees, and has been honored with a few [prestigious awards](https://www.aegisliving.com/the-aegis-difference/awards/). We have repeatedly been awarded Best Place to Work by King5 TV. Áegis Living employees have helped to make us one of the top-rated companies on Glassdoor.com, an employer review website based on anonymous reviews by our current and previous employees. Rated America’s #1 senior living company on [Glassdoor.com](https://www.glassdoor.com/Reviews/Aegis-Living-Reviews-E199051.htm), we are privileged to support and employ such caring and compassionate people. In 2017, we were honored to be named *Glassdoor’s Best Places to Work- Employees’ Choice* and one of the*Glassdoor’s Top 15 Best Places for Work-Life Balance*(amid 600,000 companies listed). Happy employees create happy communities for satisfied residents and their family members. It is our greatest honor to care for the senior residents in each of our communities. Our staff plays an integral part in the daily lives, continued health, and happiness of our residents. This is a great responsibility that we do not take lightly. [Please visit us](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) if you are searching for care for your loved one. --- ## Managing Medication for your Parents URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/managing-medication-for-your-parents/ Focus keyword: managing medication Category: family-communication Tags: medication-management, nutrition, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: As your parent gets older, their medication list can get more complicated. Read about ways that you can help manage your parents medications. As your parent gets older, their medication list can get longer and more complicated. Seniors face multiple ailments and illnesses which can come with a number of medications and different dosages. Sometimes it can get difficult to keep it all straight - the dosage, time of day, with food, without food, drug interactions, etc. This task can be daunting for a caregiver. The more prescribed drugs taken for the different conditions your parent develops, the higher the chance that they will experience dangerous side effects as the result of drug interactions. You want to avoid mistakenly giving the wrong drug or dosage. As a caregiver, you can help prevent these problems by being organized and making sure your parent’s physicians and pharmacist know about all of the prescription drugs that your parent is taking. ## As the medications stack up, here are a few tips to get organized: ### Make a list. It seems simple enough but keeping a printed list of all medications that your parent is currently taking is essential. This complete list should include all prescription medications along with over-the-counter medicines taken by your parent. Print multiple copies of this list. Keep a copy in your parent’s home and one updated list with you at all times. Update and share this list with your parent’s physician during their next appointment. This list should outline the medication name, the dosage, and the reason that it was prescribed. ### File medication information. We lead busy lives and are overloaded with information daily so we can easily forget the details associated with each medication. After you read the printed materials with their prescribed medication, file this documentation in a master folder. The information will be on hand if you have any questions regarding the side effects or dosage. ### Use a single pharmacy. If possible, have your parent’s medication fulfilled at one pharmacy. A single pharmacy can better track all the medications and flag any issues or potential drug interactions. This is an additional safeguard for your parent’s health. ## Here is how to organize their multiple medications and the correct dosages: ### **Set up a routine**. Repetition can help with remembering to take a medication. Determining what medications to take when they wake up, with a meal during the day, or before they go to bed will help your parent remember to take their medicines. ### **Create a chart**. Some of us like to check items off a list or prefer visual reminders, a chart or calendar can be helpful. Make a graph or daily calendar of their medications and chart the time of day and dosage that is clear to understand. Keep this posted in a central location and update as medications change. ### Use an organizer. There is a multitude of pill organizers on the market. They can be as simple as a pill organizer for the week or for the month. Some come with departments for 2 dosages per day, and others even have [alarms to alert](https://www.epill.com/organizer.html) your parent when a pill needs to be taken. A pill organizer is a clear way to know if a pill has been taken and to eliminate confusion. But before you sit down to fill your pill organizer, make sure you are clear on the dosage for each pill and where it needs to go. You don’t want the organizer to be set up incorrectly from the start. ### Use a reminder service. With the number of medications that you might be juggling for your parent, another option is to use a reminder service from a medical alert company. They can phone or text your parent to alert them when a medication needs to be taken. ### Use an app. There are several medication reminder [smartphone apps](https://www.pharmacytimes.com/contributor/christina-tarantola/2017/12/the-top-medication-reminder-apps-for-patients) on the market with helpful reminders at your fingertips. These apps can make taking medication as easy and automatic as possible. An app can keep medications organized clearly in one place and remind you when a refill is needed. Let modern technology make pill reminders easier. Now that you have the organizational measures in place to manage the medications for your parent, it’s important to also note how to [dispose of unused or outdated medications](https://www.fda.gov/Drugs/ResourcesForYou/Consumers/BuyingUsingMedicineSafely/EnsuringSafeUseofMedicine/SafeDisposalofMedicines/ucm186187.htm). Close to 40% of all medications purchased in the United States annually remain unused. Many of us are guilty of having expired over-the-counter medications sitting in our bathroom cabinets that are not needed or no longer useful. It is important to dispose of these medicines safely, so you do not harm others or the environment. Also, be proactive to avoid getting more medications than you need in the first place. Check with both your parent’s physician and pharmacist so you don’t receive more pills than your parent can use before the expiration date. If you purchase medications online, double check that the refill schedule does not leave you with too many. When buying over-the-counter medication, check your medicine cabinets and keep a list of what you are out of and only plan to use. Planning your medication appropriately will help you avoid expired medicines and help your family save money in the long run. --- ## Smoky Air Quality and Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/smoky-air-quality-and-seniors/ Focus keyword: air quality Category: health-conditions Tags: dementia, fall-prevention, exercise-fitness, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-caregivers, nutrition Summary: After another summer filled with smoke from wild fires that covered much of the West Coast, its time to talk about the effects poor air quality has on seniors. As another day of eerie smoke from wild fires covers much of the West Coast, we are closing our windows, staying inside, [not running the vacuum](https://www.kiro7.com/news/local/washington-health-officials-don-t-vacuum-during-smoky-air-without-hepa-filter/816958059), blowing our noses, and adding drops to our burning eyes. The discomfort is being felt by many, but perhaps the most vulnerable are older adults. The prediction is the smoke from the British Columbia wild fires will impact air quality through the end of the week in Western Washington. If you are the caregiver of an aging parent, you may want to take a few extra precautions while this haze continues to linger in the air. ## Health Air quality has reached unhealthy levels for vulnerable groups including older adults and those who have had a stroke, have diabetes, currently have a respiratory illness or cold, or those with heart or lung issues such as asthma or COPD. Health agencies are advising people belonging to these sensitive groups to stay indoors, limit physical activity both inside and outdoors, close all windows in your home and car, avoid using AC that intakes fresh air from outside, and use fans to circulate the airflow within your home. Keep a close eye on how your parent is feeling and acting. If your parent has asthma or COPD, make sure to follow their doctor’s directions for taking their medication and following their asthma management plan. Notify their physician if there is a change in their condition or their symptoms worsen. Stay healthyduring bad air quality. ## Dehydration As the smoke blocks out the sun, some older adults may not realize the weather is still warm outside and within the home. Encourage your loved one to [stay hydrated](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-stations-healthy-relief-from-summer-heat-wave/) to beat the heat. It’s recommended to drink at least 8 glasses of water or the equivalent per day. Entice your loved ones with flavored waters, lemonade, watermelon, fruit juices, or popsicles. Coffee and alcohol consumption should be limited because caffeine and alcohol are diuretics. Delay working out and physical therapy until the smoke clears. ## Confusion With the dark outdoor haze, some seniors may be disoriented by the low light whether it is morning or evening. This change in vision and poor air quality can lead to confusion, particularly for those living with dementia or memory loss. Try to keep their daily routine as regular as possible. Have them wake up and get dressed in the morning at the usual time. Keep their meals throughout the day on schedule. And make sure they get plenty of sleep and go to bed at their normal bedtime. ## Stability If your parent is experiencing vision changes, headaches, confusion, or dehydration due to the smoke, they may be more vulnerable to a fall. Falls can be very dangerous for older adults so keep items clear from walking paths, use rubber-soled shoes indoors, make sure rugs are secured, and encourage them to use their walkers, canes, or grab bars for stability. Fall prevention is just an extra precaution to keep in mind during this temporary change in their environment. ## Agitation The smoke is also known to cause irritation, anxiety, and impatience. The low light and feelings of sluggishness can lead to depression or feeling blue. Activities, music, and art can be great distractions from the dreary haze outside. Be there to listen to their concerns and offer a hand to hold as comfort. If your parent has dementia, they may experience symptoms similar to [sundowning](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-sundowning-and-why-does-it-occur/). The dark smoke and low light can concern them so offer your support and extra attention over the next few days. Until the winds change, the rain washes away the haze, or the wild fires are contained, keep an eye on your senior loved ones. A little prevention can make them more comfortable and keep them healthy before the smoke clears. To find updates on air quality and more information regarding wildfire smoke, visit the [Puget Sound Clean Air Agency](https://www.pscleanair.org/). --- ## What to expect of dining in assisted living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dining-in-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living dining Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: depression-anxiety, assisted-living, nutrition, social-connection, legal-planning, choosing-a-community, for-seniors Summary: "Families should try a meal when touring assisted living communities to taste the level of quality for themselves. Food can be a large part of the decision" One of the questions that are commonly asked during a tour with families is: *What does the food taste like here?* No matter your age, everyone wants to eat good food. It is a fundamental joy in our lives. Your parent should enjoy the food they are served in their new home. Families should [try a meal when touring](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-tips-for-touring-an-assisted-living-community/) potential communities to taste the level of quality for themselves. Food can be a large part of the decision-making process and families should have certain expectations about the dining program. ## Sense of Taste and Sense of Smell Many families are not aware that their parent’s [sense of smell and taste](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/) may have faded. This is a normal part of the aging process. If your parent can no longer smell the comforting scent of baked bread, the jolt of smelling a fresh cup of coffee, or the mouthwatering aroma of warm cookies from the oven, this lack of sense of smell can decrease their appetite dramatically. In an attempt to make food taste better, many seniors will heap spoonfuls of sugar on their food or use an excess of salt which can lead to diabetes or high blood pressure. A loss of appetite for frail seniors can have detrimental effects on their health. It can result in weight loss, poor nutrition, an impaired immune system, or weakness. But possibly the worst part of losing their sense of smell or sense of taste is the negative impact on their quality of life. The culinary program in an assisted living community should not only focus on the nutritional value and health benefits, but also food’s ability to comfort and bring joy. They should employ talented chefs who make every meal not only tasty but visually appealing to tempt residents and encourage their appetite. ## The Value of Good Nutrition Another benefit of living in an assisted living community is all shopping, prep, and cooking is done for your parent. No longer do they need to grocery shop, drive to the store, walk up and down the aisles, clip coupons, load and unload groceries, prep meals, and clean up after. This can be a monumental task. In many cases, seniors will opt for easy, quick, and less healthy options when on their own. This is one stress that your parent will no longer need to manage. Assisted living communities should provide three balanced nutritional meals each day, snacks throughout the day, and beverages to keep them well hydrated. Residents should get the nutrition they need to stay strong. ## Meals are Social Events For many seniors who live alone at home, they can feel very isolated during mealtimes. This isolation can lead to feelings of loneliness and depression which is common among older adults. One of the many benefits of living in an assisted living community is that residents will have a neighbor or friend to dine with and share their meals. Meals are social events where residents enjoy time together while getting nutritious foods to boost their immunity to keep them healthy and active. [Studies have shown](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3969105/) that seniors eat more food and make healthier food decisions when in the company of friends. Your loved ones community should offer healthy snacks and thirst-quenching beverages throughout the day to ensure they are getting enough calories and staying hydrated. And meals, snacks, and drinks should be included in the monthly rate. ## Áegis Living’s Culinary Program Sets Us Apart Our Corporate Director of Food and Beverage, Todd Moreau, ensures the highest level of culinary service and consistency of fresh produce and seasonal products across all Áegis Living communities. In this position, he understands that food and mealtimes mean not only nutrition but can be a comforting and satisfying part of each day. Meals are important for our residents, and we take great care in exceeding expectations in the kitchen. With 21 years of senior housing experience and serving thousands of meals to our residents, our culinary program has standardized favorite recipes that delight our many residents and their guests. Seasonal offerings utilize local vendors, using sustainable products, and supporting the greater community. And since variety is the spice of life, we offer rotating specialty menu items regularly to provide fresh, exciting options to try. But our recipes are not typical fare that you might expect in an assisted living dining room but rather elevated. Our culinary program aims to bring meal options to the level of fine dining that you might experience at a resort. For some seniors, eating can be difficult. Swallowing may be hard. We have created an offering of small bites for residents who need a simplified way of eating. And to offer a way to dine with dignity, we have a rotating menu of purees. We accommodate people with a variety of dietary limitations and food allergies, to ensure they can still enjoy fine dining with quality food. Visit your local [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) for a tour and lunch. --- ## Help Your Parent Adjust to Their New Home URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/help-parent-adjust-to-new-home/ Focus keyword: assisted living transition Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, nutrition, social-connection, legal-planning, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, hobbies-activities Summary: "Your family has toured communities, and now you have made your final selection on an assisted living community. It's important to prepare for a move so your mom" Your family has toured communities, spent lunches at assisted living options, met multiple residents and staff, and now you have made your final selection on a new assisted living community for your mom. But are you sure that she is going to like it? Are you worried that she will adapt? It’s key to [prepare for a move](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-to-pack-for-a-move-to-an-assisted-living-community/) into an assisted living community, so your mom will quickly learn to enjoy her new home. Having worked with thousands of residents and their family members over the past 21 years, we have some suggestions for starting off on the right foot, so she likes her new home. ### Let us take the lead. We understand that making a new friend or two can positively impact your mother’s attitude toward her new home. Our staff is skilled at introducing new residents to like-minded friends and neighbors. They encourage new residents to participate in activities and go on the local excursions. Our staff will ensure that your mom is not sitting alone at a meal. We take great effort to make her comfortable in her new home during the transition. ### Use the whole community. Encourage your mom to not stay in her apartment. The entire community is her home that she is welcome to spend time enjoying. Help her set up a morning routine of breakfast followed by coffee in the bistro to meet other residents. Once she is up, dressed, and out of her apartment, she will be more apt to participate in activities and interact with others. Encourage her to learn her way around all the different rooms and to explore the various areas within the community to see what they have to offer - lounging by the fireplace in the living room, participating in a balance class in the fitness room, learning to paint in the craft room, or enjoying a cup of tea in the library. ### Get involved in activities. Our [Life Enrichment](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) Directors work hard to create a rotating calendar of engaging events, activities, and special interest groups to encourage social interaction among our residents. They are keen to develop programs that spark the imagination or passions of our residents. Our Life Enrichment Directors love to learn about the interests of our residents and build programs that they will enjoy. Share your mom’s hobbies, interests, and passions with the Life Enrichment staff. They can suggest or cater programs to her interests. ### Make new friends at meals. Meals are a wonderful time of the day to meet neighbors and create new friendships. Encourage your mom to eat her three meals each day in the dining room. Even if she is not that hungry, she can get something small. It is an excellent opportunity to eat at different tables and introduce herself to other residents and staff. If she is shy, any staff member will help find her an open table and introduce her to those sitting with her. Many friendships have been made over a lingering cup of coffee after a good meal at Áegis Living. ### Invite friends and family to enjoy the community. We take great pride in creating communities that are comfortable, welcoming, and beautiful. We want our residents to share their home with friends and family members. Whether they are sitting by the fire in the living room, walking in the landscaped garden, or enjoying a cocktail in the lounge, your mom will feel at home when she is surrounded by those she loves. Our communities also provide private dining rooms that can be reserved for special occasions or family events. This is a great way to make your mom feel at home when hosting a birthday or celebration as she would have done in her previous house. Hosting an event can help her feel more ownership in her new home and a sense of independence. ### Visit your mom often. Plan to visit on a regular basis and feel free to explore the various spots throughout the community to share quality time together. Studies have shown that family contact is one of the strongest predictors of satisfaction and happiness. Family involvement has been linked to lower mortality, less hospitalization, and earlier hospital discharge in a study of those living in long-term care. ### Be proactive and ask for help. Your mom’s happiness is important to us. We will make every effort to help her adjust. If you are concerned that your mom is not adapting well, contact the General Manager to see if they are things that can be done to make her more comfortable. The chef can prepare a family recipe to comfort her, the Life Enrichment Director can add her favorite pastime to the activity calendar, or we can play her favorite movie in the theater. These little treats can make a significant impact on her happiness and comfort as she settles into her new home. ### **Make sure there are no health issues**. Our Health Services Director monitors the health, both physically and mentally, of our residents closely. If your mom is not adjusting well to her move, then they will make sure there are no issues of depression or underlying health concerns that might cause discomfort or pain. No one will react positively to a new living situation if they do not feel well. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we make sure that staff pay extra close attention to new residents and their health is monitored and treated appropriately. Áegis Living has so many opportunities for your mom to interact with her neighbors, meet new friends, learn new hobbies, stay active, and mentally engage in activities. We will try to make her transition as smooth as possible. With family encouragement, support, and a little time, she will ease into her new home successfully. --- ## How to Set Caregiver Boundaries Without Guilt URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/set-boundaries-as-a-caregiver/ Focus keyword: caregiver boundaries Category: caregiver-support Tags: emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: Learn how to set caregiver boundaries with scripts, examples, and expert guidance that protect your health while still giving your parent great care. Setting boundaries as a caregiver means deciding in advance what you will and won't do, then communicating those limits clearly to your parent, your siblings, and yourself. Clear boundaries protect your health, your relationships, and the quality of care you provide. If you've been running on empty, the fix isn't trying harder. It's drawing lines you can actually hold. This guide is part of our pillar on [Caregiver Frustration: How to Manage It with Grace](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/), and it focuses on the specific scripts and structures that make boundaries stick. ## Why do caregiver boundaries protect your health? Roughly 1 in 5 adults in the United States provides unpaid care to an adult or child with special needs ([AARP and National Alliance for Caregiving](https://www.aarp.org/pri/topics/ltss/family-caregiving/caregiving-in-the-united-states/), 2020). That work carries measurable health costs. Family caregivers experience higher rates of depression, anxiety, and chronic disease than non-caregivers (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). Without limits, caregiving expands until it crowds out sleep, work, marriage, and your own medical appointments. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: caregivers feel guilty for needing rest, but rest is what makes sustained care possible. Boundaries aren't a luxury. They're the operating system of long term caregiving. For a deeper look at the physiological toll, read [Caregiving: The Detrimental Health Effects of Chronic Stress](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiving-the-detrimental-health-effects-of-chronic-stress/). ## What does a caregiver boundary actually look like? A boundary is a rule about your own behavior, not a demand that someone else change. Three terms worth defining clearly: BoundaryA specific limit you set on your time, energy, money, or emotional availability, communicated in advance. [Caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/)Physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged caregiving stress, often accompanied by withdrawal, irritability, and health decline ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/caregiver-stress/art-20044784), 2024). Respite careShort term professional care for an older adult that gives the family caregiver a planned break, ranging from a few hours to several weeks. ## How do you say no without guilt or a long explanation? Saying no is a skill, not a personality trait. Adult daughters in particular shoulder a disproportionate share of unpaid care and face strong cultural pressure to say yes ([Family Caregiver Alliance](https://www.caregiver.org/resource/caregiver-statistics-demographics/), 2024). Use a short, warm, declarative sentence. No apology stack, no list of reasons. - **Pause before answering.** "Let me check my calendar and get back to you tonight" buys time to decide without pressure. - **Lead with appreciation, then the no.** "Thanks for thinking of me. I can't take that on this month." - **Offer one alternative if you want to.** "I can't drive Mom Tuesday, but I can call the senior transport line and book a ride." - **Stop talking.** Silence is part of the boundary. Don't fill it. - **Repeat the same sentence if pushed.** Therapists call this the broken record technique. Consider a daughter whose brother lives out of state and routinely volunteers her for every doctor visit. The boundary isn't a fight with her brother. It's one sentence: "I'll cover Monday and Thursday appointments. Anything else needs a paid aide or your time off." ## Which boundaries should every family caregiver set? Start with these five categories. Customize the scripts to your family. Boundary typeSample scriptWhat it protects Time"I'm available 5 to 8 pm on weeknights. Calls outside that go to voicemail unless it's an emergency."Sleep and job performance Money"I can contribute $300 a month. Anything beyond that we fund from Mom's accounts or split with siblings."Your retirement savings Tasks"I handle medications and doctor visits. I do not handle bathing. We need a home aide for that."Physical health and dignity Emotional"I love you, and I won't stay on the phone when you yell at me. I'll call back in an hour."Mental health Social"Saturday mornings are mine. Please don't schedule appointments then."Friendships and identity Imagine your father calls six times before noon asking the same question about his pills. A time boundary paired with a written medication chart on the fridge can cut those calls in half without making him feel dismissed. For an aging parent with memory loss, consistent routines and visual cues often work better than repeated verbal reminders ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving), 2024). ## How can you ask for help in specific ways? Vague requests get vague responses. "Let me know if you need anything" goes nowhere. Specific asks get yeses. - "Can you bring dinner Wednesday at 6?" - "Can you sit with Dad from 2 to 4 Saturday so I can go to the gym?" - "Can you handle the pharmacy refills this month?" Caregivers are encouraged to build a written list of tasks and match each one to a person, paid or unpaid (National Institute on Aging, 2023). If you're also holding down a job, our piece on [the working caregiver](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/burning-the-candle-at-both-ends-the-working-caregiver/) walks through how to negotiate flex time and use FMLA. Younger caregivers may also relate to [The Rise of the Millennial Caregiver](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/rise-of-the-millennial-caregiver/). ## When should you bring in respite or assisted living? Boundaries sometimes mean admitting the job is bigger than one person. Signs it's time to widen the circle of care: - You've missed your own medical appointments two or more times in six months. - You're relying on alcohol, food, or screens to cope most nights. - Your parent's needs now include transfers, incontinence care, or overnight supervision. - You feel resentment toward your parent more often than affection. Respite stays at a senior living community let your parent enjoy meals, activities, and supervision while you sleep, travel, or simply rest. For more on protecting your own wellbeing without guilt, see [Caregivers: Put Yourself First!](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregivers-put-yourself-first/) **Ready to talk to someone?** Áegis Living offers respite stays and full time assisted living and memory care. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to ask about availability. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is it selfish to set boundaries with an aging parent? No. Boundaries make sustained care possible. Unrelenting demands without limits are a top driver of caregiver burnout, which directly harms the person you're caring for ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/caregiver-stress/art-20044784), 2024). Protecting your health is part of the job, not a betrayal of it. ### How do I set boundaries with siblings who don't help? Stop hinting and start asking for specific tasks with deadlines. Send one written message: "I need you to cover two weekends a month or contribute toward a paid aide. Which works?" If they refuse, redirect your energy to paid help rather than the resentment loop. ### What if my parent gets angry when I say no? Acknowledge the feeling, hold the line, and exit the conversation if needed. "I hear you're upset. I still can't come Tuesday. I'll call you tomorrow." Anger usually softens once your parent learns the boundary is consistent. ### How much does respite care typically cost? Costs vary by region and care level. Short term stays at assisted living communities generally track close to the daily equivalent of monthly assisted living rates, which run several thousand dollars per month nationally ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/care-compare/), 2024). Long term care insurance, VA Aid and Attendance, and some Medicaid waivers may help offset the cost. ### Can I be a good caregiver and still have a life? Yes, and you should. Geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of "Elderhood," argues that caregiving works best when it's distributed across people, services, and time, not concentrated in one exhausted adult child. Protect a weekly block that is yours alone. ### What's the first boundary I should set this week? Pick the one that buys you sleep. For most caregivers, that means turning the phone to "Do Not Disturb" between specific hours and routing emergencies through a single trusted contact. Sleep is the foundation every other boundary rests on. --- ## Giving Back Keeps Seniors Healthy URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/giving-back-keeps-seniors-healthy/ Focus keyword: giving back Category: financial-legal Tags: dementia, nutrition, social-connection, moving-in, for-seniors, for-spouses, exercise-fitness Summary: Doing good and giving back to the community can be a win-win situation. Learn about the health benefits associated with giving back. Do Good, Feel Good. No matter your age, everyone wants to feel like they are a contributing member of society. This is what drives us to volunteer for charities that we are passionate about and support local causes that make our communities better places to live. This impulse to leave your mark and make the world a better place does not end with old age. ## Health Benefits **[Studies](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/08/140829135448.htm)** have clearly shown that there are definite health benefits for senior volunteers. These benefits include higher levels of a sense of wellbeing and reduction of stress. Volunteering helps to keep older adults engaged and their minds active which can positively contribute to a person’s cognitive health. The National Institution of Aging reported that seniors with a sense of purpose who contribute in meaningful ways can lower their risk of dementia and other health problems. Volunteering can promote physical activity and cardio health as they sort cans of food at a food bank, canvas the local neighborhood, or participate in organizing a charity event. Regular exercise can help to fend off illness and disease. And if they engage in an activity that they are passionate about or it is something they enjoy, then it won’t feel like exercise. Another great benefit for seniors who volunteer is an opportunity to **[socialize with other seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-staying-social-keeps-you-healthy/)** while doing something proactively that they care about. Through a shared sense of purpose, seniors can make new friendships and create special bonds with their neighbors. Feeling that you are accountable to others and contributing to something bigger than yourself can boost one’s sense of worth. And higher self-esteem can benefit a person’s overall well-being and positive outlook. ## Giving Back Opportunities Think of ways that your parent can use their unique skills and personality or for your family to give back as a team. Check with your local senior center, church, or local charities to see if there is a program to volunteer or contribute. Here are some volunteer opportunities and ideas to consider or look for within your local community: - Mentor an at-risk child or teen with personal or professional guidance and coaching. - If your parent loves animals, they can walk dogs at an animal shelter, foster an ill pet, groom furry friends, or volunteer during an adoption drive. - If your parent is a veteran or a veteran’s spouse, there are local opportunities to**[volunteer at USO](https://www.uso.org/)** - from greeting troops returning home, to making coffee and meals, to providing warm blankets for those troops during long layovers. Volunteer at a local USO center. Create and send cards to members of the military or decorate the local veterans’ hospital during holidays. - If your parent is creative, knit or crochet lap blankets for homeless shelters or the American Red Cross; or create non-skid slippers for elderly patients in the hospital or at a nursing home. - For the home chef, prepare and package food for Meals on Wheels; or bake cookies and treats for first responders in the community. - For the educator, practice reading skills with school-age children, start a pen pal program with a local school, or volunteer at the library or neighborhood historical society. - To support their peers, read personal letters or books to those who are visually impaired or volunteer as a companion. - If your parent is skilled in the garden, plant flowers in a local park, beautify their local neighborhood, or create a backyard habitat for local wildlife and construct protective birdhouses for the cold winter months. - For seniors who can still drive, deliver groceries to homebound neighbors or drive them to doctor’s appointments. - If they are politically-minded, volunteer to support a candidate or help at a polling station. ## Purpose Giving Programs **[Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)**has created programs to support local charities and continue volunteer efforts among our elderly residents. We create opportunities for our residents to feel connected, useful, and a part of the greater community where they live. These programs are unique for each community to participate in local causes that interest the residents in that community. There is no age limit to volunteering and charity work. As your parent reaches their golden years, they can adapt how they contribute. For example, at Áegis of Aptos, our knitting group makes hats for Jacob’s Heart Children’s Cancer Support Services. Each colorful cap is knitted and gifted to a child with cancer who have lost their hair during chemotherapy. A loving service such as this is not only beneficial to the child in need but also gratifying for the senior with a sense of purpose. Using their knitting skills to give back provides our residents with a greater sense of accomplishment and personal satisfaction. It’s never too late to get started as a volunteer and find a cause or charity that you are passionate about. Having a sense of purpose is as important for seniors today, as when they were much younger. No matter how small, volunteering can spread love and cheer to those who receive it and benefit the senior who gives of their time and talent. --- ## Have You Saved Enough for Retirement? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/saved-enough-for-retirement/ Focus keyword: retirement planning Category: financial-legal Tags: assisted-living, social-connection, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-seniors, choosing-a-community Summary: The big question on the minds of most aging people is whether they have saved enough for retirement. Read more as we attempt to answer this question for you. The generation born between 1946 and 1964 are referred to as the **[baby boomer generation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/)**, and they are now reaching retirement age. This large population is expected to live longer due to advanced medical diagnostics, treatments, and procedures. As this group ages, the assisted living industry demand will increase too as these seniors will need long-term care. This also means that this generation will need to save money for this necessary expense. The big question on the minds of many baby boomers is, Have I saved enough for retirement? ## Questions to ask to be financially prepared: **What will your cost of living be in retirement?** When retirement planning, you will need to first analyze how much you need to spend annually to live comfortably. This calculation is not the same for everyone. You will need to determine where you are on the lifestyle spectrum. Do you plan to live in a manicured community, drive a luxury vehicle, and travel? Or will you lead a simpler lifestyle where you buy used cars, eat at home most of the time, and live in a more modest neighborhood? How you expect to live during your retirement will impact how much you need to save now. If you are serious about your retirement planning, you need an understanding of how much it costs for you to live. To get an accurate picture, we suggest that you track your expenses for at least one year. There are many helpful **[online resources](https://www.aarp.org/money/budgeting-saving/home_budget_calculator.html)** to organize your expenses and determine your bare minimum or fixed expenses. [Quicken](https://www.quicken.com/), [Mint.com](https://www.mint.com/), an Excel spreadsheet, or using a paper journal are all options to help you assess your average monthly expenses. Also, the first phase of your retirement may include more travel, dining out, or leisure pursuits that you now have the time for. Don’t forget to budget in a few luxuries and be as realistic as possible of your ideal expenses. Overall in your retirement years the most substantial costs will be housing, healthcare and transportation. Determine the age of your car at retirement and if it will need to be replaced. Review the expense of your home. Do you need to move to a more affordable part of the country? Is your house paid off or will you have a mortgage? What is your health status? Are you already aware of health care issues you should plan for? If you’re relatively healthy you should still consider health care needs that come naturally with aging, as well as your family history. **Will your retirement funds last as long as you need?** Now that you have your realistic monthly expenses determined, then you need to assess where you are with your nest egg. As we said, life expectancies are longer today. According to the **[U.S. Social Security Administration](https://www.ssa.gov/benefits/retirement/estimator.html)**, the average male is estimated to live until 84.3 and the average female after age 65 is expected to live to 86.7 on average. And one in four seniors will live past 90, while one in ten 65-year-olds are expected to live past 95. So, a reasonable assumption to determine if your savings will hold up is 30 years. Again, there are useful online calculators to help you determine all the line items included in your nest egg. Determine what you will get from social security, what you have in savings, a pension, investments, and any other income. Many calculators are free to use online. According to a recent **[Allianz study](https://www.marketwatch.com/story/older-people-fear-this-more-than-death-2016-07-18)**, baby boomers surveyed are fearful of outliving their savings. One easy way to determine if your savings will last is to apply the 4% rule. The 4% rule is if you were to withdrawal 4% of your savings balance in your first year of retirement and then you regulate subsequent withdrawals to account for inflation, then your savings should last for 30 years. This rule is not perfect but can be a good starting point to evaluate your retirement savings. **Will your savings generate enough cash during your retirement?** To ensure that your money will last, one conservative solution is to avoid dipping into the principal of your savings. Instead, let the income and investment gains of your portfolio cover your living expenses, along with any other income sources, and social security. You want to safeguard that you have a sustainable spending rate in your retirement plans. But keep in mind, you don’t want to be so conservative that you miss out on the pleasures and rewards of a lifetime of hard work. A good certified financial planner can be an excellent partner to assess your financial situation and help you plan for splurges. **Can long-term care insurance help your financial picture?** When determining your retirement planning, long-term health insurance may be a consideration. According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, approximately 70% of seniors will need long-term care. When looking at your financial picture, long-term care insurance may be an option to pay for this needed care. It can be a pricey purchase. But if properly budgeted for, it can pay off if you are among the 70% that will utilize it. **[Long-term care insurance](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/plan-ahead-long-term-care-insurance/)**is intended to cover the expense of support and services when an individual can no longer care for themselves. It will help with costs whether that is in-home care, at an assisted living or memory care community, hospice, or a nursing home. The range of care options and benefits can be selected by the policyholder and typically covers what health insurance, Medicare, and Medicaid will not. It’s never too early to plan for your retirement income, but all is not lost if you are closer to retirement age and still have money to save. Determine a clear picture of where you are financially and make a realistic plan based on your situation. Consider getting a financial planner who can help you set goals and stick with a retirement plan. Retirement planning can be challenging, but there are many online resources and tools to help you. --- ## How Can You Help a Dementia Caregiver? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-help-a-dementia-caregiver/ Focus keyword: caregiver help Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, emotional-wellness, social-connection, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-spouses Summary: If you know someone caring for a loved one with dementia, there are many ways that you can support them. Letting them know you are there is the first and best If you have a friend or a sibling caring for a parent or loved one with dementia, there are many ways that you can love and support them. A caregiver to someone living with dementia or Alzheimer’s is experiencing not only the daily demand of their care but also the personal loss and heartbreak as their loved one slips away. Often a caregiver is reluctant and too overwhelmed to ask for help. Letting them know you are there to support them is the first and best way you can help. Here are a few specific ways you can support an adult-child or other family member caring for their loved one with dementia or other health needs. ### How Can You Help? 1. **Loss of Connection**. Many caregivers will experience loneliness, even though they are caring for a family member. At some point, their parent may become unable to contribute to or follow a conversation, less interactive with their caregiver, can’t recall memories or past events, less affectionate, uncommunicative, and withdrawn. Their parent-child, spouse or other, relationship can change dramatically leading to grief, frustration, guilt, deep sadness, and **[depression](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregivers-taking-care-of-yourself/)**over their loss. **How can you help?** The most important thing that you can do is to be present and available for the caregiver when they are in need. Give them a safe place to vent frustration, cry over the loss, or laugh to relieve the stress. Give them a hug, hold their hand, or rub their back - many caregivers miss the love and affection of their parent as they slip away. The sense of touch can be powerful and help fill the void that they may be feeling. Give them a gift certificate for a massage or a manicure or pedicure to relax in a healthy and comforting way. If they are experiencing depression, support them by helping to research professional help for their situation and finding support groups in their area. 2. **Experiencing a Change in Roles.** As the adult-child settles into their **[new role as caregiver](https://www.webmd.com/healthy-aging/features/role-reversal-caregiving-for-aging-parents#1)**for their parent, they will notice a significant change in their traditional roles. This can be unsettling and frustrating to emotionally handle as they become responsible for the care and decision-making for their parent. And as their parent’s health declines, the caregiver will need to take on more and more of their personal daily tasks - paying bills, managing the house, driving, cooking, household chores, and more. The role reversal should not be underestimated, and it can cause a toll on the mental health and stress of a caregiver as they adjust to their new reality. **How can you help?** Provide the caregiver with help planning and organizing the logistics of caring for their parent. Do whatever you can to roll up your sleeves and relieve their burdens like offering to drive, wash dishes, tend the garden, or grocery shop. These errands may seem like small tasks, but for an overwhelmed caregiver, it can make a significant difference in their stress level. If you do not live in the same city as the caregiver, offer to help them with researching online local health specialists in their area, layout a spreadsheet to track expenses or a budget, or shop for and send groceries online. 3. **Isolation from Friends and Family.** As a caregiver takes on this new role, they may be too overwhelmed juggling their own responsibilities to spend time with friends and family. They may even feel trapped at home and unable to leave their family member alone. And they might not be comfortable venturing out of the house with their parent’s unpredictable behaviors. The caregiver may become more withdrawn as memory loss progresses. **How can you help?** If you are noticing the caregiver is becoming more and more withdrawn, make an extra effort to stay engaged with them. Contact the caregiver through regular phone calls, visits, text messages, and offers to help. You will need to take the initiative to contact them and make suggestions on ways that you can support them. Once you find the best ways to help, it will be met with gratitude and relief. If the caregiver is a member of your family, family members should rotate their visits and keep track of the needs of the caregiver. And remember to continue offering support for the duration of caring for their parent. 4. **Caregiver’s Health.** The daily stress and burden of caregiving can adversely affect their health and sense of well-being. Caregiving can be all-consuming both mentally and physically. **[Research has shown](http://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0882-7974.18.2.250)**that caregivers can experience higher blood pressure, increased odds of heart attack, and a decreased immune function. Caregiving can be exhausting. It’s difficult for caregivers to admit that they need help. **How can you help?** One of the most generous gifts to give a stressed caregiver is a break. Offer to care for their parent or loved one with dementia, so the caregiver can go do something nice for themselves. Your dedicated time taking on the caregiver role may be the greatest gift that you can give. Seeking help is healthy and reasonable for a caregiver. It can feel decadent, but this would be an excellent opportunity to get their own health needs met by going to a medical appointment, visiting with friends, scheduling a massage, or meeting a chiropractor. If you recognize the caregiver needs a longer break recommend a short term stay at a local assisted living community. Offer to do the initial research for them and even schedules tours. A [short term stay](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/)can be a couple weeks up to a month and will give the caregiver the much deserved break they need, while offering peace of mind that their loved one is getting the attention and care they need from highly trained professionals in a friendly, welcoming community. Although most caregivers are grateful to be able to assist their loved one, it can be emotionally and physically exhausting. Caregiving can be fraught with emotional hurdles, **[financial pressures](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/pay-for-care-now-and-future/),** uncertainty about the future, health scares, and [caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/). Many caregivers will not ask for help or don’t know how to reach out for assistance. Be there for the caregiver as a shoulder to cry on and resource to draw from. --- ## Are Married Couples Healthier? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/are-married-couples-healthier/ Focus keyword: married health Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, assisted-living, memory-care, social-connection, pets, costs-funding, for-spouses Summary: Áegis Living discusses the link between marriage and good health, which can provide roughly the same benefits that a healthy diet can. Learn more here. Many studies support the link between marriage, good health, and mental wellbeing. Research has shown that married couples are more likely to **[survive cancer](https://www.theguardian.com/science/2016/apr/11/marriage-boosts-survival-chances-of-cancer-patients-say-scientists)** or a heart attack, less likely to suffer a stroke, and are often discharged from the hospital an average of two days earlier. Married couples are less likely to develop a mental illness or suffer from depression. Marriage seems to be equated roughly to the same benefits of a healthy diet or regular exercise. **Why are married couples healthier?** Generally, this is due to better social support and for practical reasons as well. A spouse is more likely to encourage healthier habits; and when done as a team, more likely to stick to these good habits. Emotionally, they are there for each other in times of stress or need for comfort and support. And practically, a spouse is often there during an emergency to call an ambulance or rush them to the hospital. Most married couples are covered by health insurance and less likely to engage in risky behavior. When you have another person looking out for you and your health, being married can even boost your chances of living a longer life. **How can one’s health benefit if they are not married?** Everyone can benefit from companionship whether married or not. Research has shown that non-married roommates have similar health advantages. And if you own a dog, cat, or other pet, you can enjoy some of the same health benefits as those who are married. Both married couples and pet owners have measured lower levels of cortisol, the stress hormone that can impair the immune system. Also, interacting with your spouse or cuddling with your pet releases oxytocin, often called the “love hormone,” that promotes a sense of calm. With several **[studies confirming](https://www.psyneuen-journal.com/article/S0306-4530(16)30805-8/abstract)** the fact that companionship (either marriage, friends, family, or a pet) promotes good health, then it is easy to see why your parent living in an assisted living or memory care community would benefit when surrounded with compassionate caregivers, neighbors, good friends, and even a community dog. The social aspect of a community and support of 24/7 care staff help residents live a more active life with less stress while surrounded by new friends. **How do assisted living and memory care communities encourage social interaction?** Assisted living and memory care communities are built on a social model. In addition to offering exceptional care and support, Áegis Living provides a daily, rotating calendar of activities, clubs, excursions, lectures, exercise classes, and much more. These planned activities are great ways for our residents to build lasting relationships and quickly meet their neighbors. Life Enrichment Directors understand the benefits of friendships and encourage social interaction among residents. They cater activities to reflect the interests of the community, offering clubs and hobbies that their residents would enjoy. Many assisted living communities are also purpose-built to support the interests of our residents. Fully-stocked art rooms and workshops engage residents’ artistic and creative sides. Open rooms are used for exercise classes, music therapy, lectures, or entertainment. Some communities have demonstration kitchens to teach a new recipe or cooking techniques. Every community has specifically designed communal rooms, amenities, and programming to support their interests and encourage group interaction and companionship. **How can the loss of a spouse affect your parent?** Many residents are widowed. When someone who has enjoyed the health benefits, comradery, and love of a spouse, this loss can be devastating. Their health can even decline with the ill effects of being alone and lonely. Your widowed parent may feel very isolated which can lead to feelings of despair and depression. We all crave social interaction and connectivity. Friends and relationships can never replace the loss of a spouse, but they can add to your parent’s quality of life and help them heal. Moving your parent into an assisted living or memory care community can give them back that sense of belonging and restore a sense of hope after a loss. Creating new friendships through shared experiences and activities is a meaningful way to build strong bonds with their neighbors. From the minute your parent moves into an assisted living community like Áegis Living, they are encouraged to participate in activities and meet their neighbors. They are introduced to others in the community. Making a new friend can often help residents adjust more quickly to their new home. Community staff are very adept at nurturing new friendships among residents. **Do married couples move into assisted living?** Although it is more common for one parent or a single person to move into an assisted living community, married couples are accommodated as well. Often there are two-person apartments for couples. It is important that your parents are not only comfortable living in a community but also have their health care and support needs individually met. In some cases, families place one parent with dementia in memory care and the other parent in assisted living within the same campus. They are able to spend a lot of time together, share meals, and live together within the same community, but their unique needs are addressed accordingly. The bottom line is we can all benefit from companionship. If your parents are still married, cherish it. Understand that their relationship can make them both healthier, mentally stronger, and happier. But if they are single or widowed, there are ways to fill that void and add to their health other than marriage. And never overlook the **[power of a pet](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-health-benefits-of-a-pet/)** to bring comfort and promote good health. Learn more about the social benefits of an assisted living community by visiting your local **[Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)**. --- ## Finding Diversity in Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/diversity-in-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living diversity Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, hobbies-activities, nutrition, legal-planning, moving-in, for-seniors Summary: "Our assisted living communities are highly diverse - both in the people we serve and the staff who care for them. At Áegis Living, we celebrate the differences" Our assisted living and memory care communities are highly diverse - both in the people we serve and the staff who care for them. Our residents are from different religions, cultures, nationalities, and lifestyles. And our staff in our communities come from over 50 countries that span the globe. The languages spoken, the backgrounds, traditions, and cultural norms are a melting pot within our walls. We believe that there is an excellent value from a diverse population who can learn from each other. **Celebrating Diversity** Culture can be a significant way in which someone defines who they are as an individual. Therefore, at Áegis Living, we celebrate the differences that make up our communities. There are a variety of ways that we do this daily through activities, excursions, recreational programming, lectures, crafts, and celebrations. Seasonal holidays or heritage months, in particular, are an excellent opportunity to share and experience a culture. Days leading up to the holiday, for example, Chinese New Year, or Shabbat, residents make traditional decorations, research the country of origin, share stories about their travels, share details about their culture in a discussion activity, or host cultural entertainment, music, or dancing. Our chef will make special treats or host a dinner with food from a specific country or region. Life Enrichment Directors will use these holidays to celebrate and honor individuals within the community and encourage them to share their stories and experiences. These holidays become an immersive cultural experience that can be enriched by authentic storytelling and sharing of traditions by our residents and staff. By exposing our residents and staff to elements and traditions of both their own culture and others, we promote a sense of belonging in the community. **A Community of Respect** Our philosophy at Áegis Living is to treat our residents as if they are part of our own family. This love and compassionate care for our residents and their families is what sets us apart. This means that our homes are welcoming of all people - no matter their race, color, national origin, religion, sex, disability, or lifestyle. We respect our residents and in fact, celebrate their stories. In 2017, Áegis Living created an original collection of short stories in film sharing our love of diversity. This project was called the Wisdom Diaries. We believe that diversity is a key part of the shared human experience. Sharing our unique stories can lead to empathy and a stronger sense of community. We not only respect our differences but also identify our similarities and appreciate how our staff and residents are alike. We believe the more we learn about each other, the wiser we become. **LGBTQ** In the past, some LGBTQ seniors who moved into traditional senior housing felt forced back into the closet after years of living openly. They didn’t want to be discriminated and often would hide their orientation when moving into an assisted living community. But with the surge of **[baby boomers](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/)** who are reaching retirement age, acceptance of diversity and lifestyles is expected by this enlightened generation. According to the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, it is estimated that nearly three million LGBTQ seniors (65 years and over) live in the United States. As baby boomers age, this number will double by 2030. This is a clear signal that there is a demand for LGBTQ-friendly senior housing options. The industry in some cases is building specific communities for LGBTQ seniors where residents can live without prejudice and instantly feel comfortable. But any community can be LGBTQ-friendly if openness and diversity are valued by the company and leadership. All senior housing options should offer welcoming homes and communities that are discrimination-free and supportive. **Culturally-Authentic Communities** Áegis Living opened their first Chinese culturally-authentic community in Fremont, California with massive success in 2001. Opening under the brand name of Áegis Gardens, this unique community has had a waiting list for apartments. In 2018, **[Áegis Gardens](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-gardens-fremont-ca/)**opened a second location in Newcastle, Washington. Besides the carefully curated interior and exterior décor, applying Feng Shui principles, chef-prepared Chinese cuisine, and engaging traditional activities, the multilingual care staff ensures that residents are clearly understood and able to express their needs. Some seniors feel comforted when surrounded by familiar sights, sounds, and tastes of home. At one time, it was unheard of that an immigrant family would move their aged parent into an assisted living or memory care community. Families often feel conflicted and guilty when the concept of moving a parent into an assisted living or memory care community clashes with their cultural expectations. But this attitude is clearly changing as more culturally-authentic communities open for niche markets. Every senior housing option should be inclusive and welcoming to all seniors. We encourage you to shop around for a community that is comfortable for your parent. Tour the community to meet the staff, other residents, and families. Taste the food, ask direct questions, and observe how residents spend their days. This is the best way to find the right home for your loved one where they feel comfortable, safe and able to continue to live their fullest life. --- ## Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/ Focus keyword: early signs of dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, social-connection, safety-at-home, when-its-time, vascular-dementia, parkinsons Summary: Learn the 10 earliest signs of dementia families notice first, how they differ from normal aging, and when to call the doctor for evaluation. The earliest signs of dementia rarely look dramatic. They look like a missed bill, a repeated question, a wrong turn on a familiar street, or a parent who suddenly seems quieter at family dinner. If you've noticed changes in your mom or dad that feel like more than normal aging, you're right to pay attention. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026), and early recognition gives families the best window to plan, treat reversible causes, and protect quality of life. ## What is dementia, in plain English? Dementia isn't a single disease. It's an umbrella term for a decline in memory, reasoning, or language severe enough to interfere with daily life. **Dementia** A group of symptoms - memory loss, confused thinking, poor judgment, personality change - caused by damage to brain cells. **Alzheimer's disease** The most common cause of dementia, accounting for 60 - 80% of cases ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers), 2024). **Vascular dementia** The second most common type, often caused by stroke or reduced blood flow to the brain. See our guide to [vascular dementia symptoms and causes](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/vascular-dementia/). **Lewy body dementia (LBD)** Caused by abnormal protein deposits; symptoms include hallucinations, movement problems, and shifts in alertness. **Frontotemporal dementia (FTD)** Shrinkage of the brain's frontal and temporal lobes; typically shows up first as personality or language changes rather than memory loss. ## What are the 10 early signs of dementia families spot first? The Alzheimer's Association outlines ten warning signs ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs), 2024). Here's how each one tends to look in real life: - **Memory loss that disrupts daily life.** Forgetting recently learned information, asking the same question repeatedly, or relying on sticky notes for things once handled from memory. - **Trouble with familiar tasks.** A lifelong cook can't follow a recipe she's made for 40 years. A retired accountant can't balance the checkbook. - **Difficulty with words.** Stopping mid-sentence, calling a wristwatch a "hand clock," or struggling to follow a conversation in a noisy room. - **Confusion with time or place.** Losing track of the day, the season, or how they got somewhere. - **Vision and spatial problems.** Trouble judging distance while driving, or misreading contrasts on stairs and curbs. - **Poor judgment with money.** Sending checks to telemarketers, falling for scams, or letting utility bills go unpaid. - **Misplacing things in odd spots.** Reading glasses in the freezer, car keys in the medicine cabinet - and being unable to retrace steps. - **Mood and personality shifts.** A formerly outgoing parent becomes suspicious, anxious, or withdrawn. - **Withdrawal from work or hobbies.** Quitting bridge club, skipping church, or losing interest in grandkids' activities. - **Changes in planning or problem-solving.** Trouble following a familiar route, sequencing steps, or managing a calendar. ## How is early dementia different from normal aging? Forgetting a name and remembering it later is normal. Forgetting that you ever met the person is not. The National Institute on Aging draws the line at function: when memory or thinking problems interfere with safety, finances, or daily independence, it's time for a medical workup ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/memory-loss-and-forgetfulness/memory-problems-forgetfulness-and-aging), 2023). BehaviorTypical agingPossible early dementia Forgetting namesRecalls them laterForgets close family members Misplacing itemsFinds them by retracing stepsItems appear in odd places (keys in fridge) Missing a billAn occasional slipMultiple unpaid bills, scam losses Word-finding"Tip of the tongue" momentsSubstituting wrong words, losing the thread DrivingSlower reflexesGetting lost on familiar routes MoodMinor crankinessSuspicion, anxiety, withdrawal ## What do early signs look like in real families? **Example 1: The stove.** Consider a family whose 82-year-old mother has started leaving the stove burner on after making tea. Twice in one month, a neighbor smelled gas. She insists nothing's wrong, but her daughter notices she's also stopped cooking the elaborate Sunday dinners she once loved. That combination - safety lapses plus withdrawal from a meaningful routine - is a classic early pattern. **Example 2: The repeated phone call.** Imagine your dad calls asking for the same brisket recipe three times in one afternoon, each call sounding like the first. He's a retired engineer, sharp his whole life. By itself, one repetition is nothing. A pattern across weeks is a reason to schedule a cognitive evaluation. ## What does a leading dementia educator say about responding early? As Teepa Snow, occupational therapist and founder of Positive Approach to Care, teaches families: the goal in early dementia isn't to correct or quiz your loved one - it's to reduce friction, preserve dignity, and meet them where their brain is right now. Arguing about whether mom already told you a story only fuels distress. Acknowledging what she's feeling, then gently redirecting, keeps the connection intact. That approach matters because emotional memory often outlasts factual memory. A parent may not remember your visit by Tuesday, but they remember how the visit made them feel. ## What causes dementia - and which causes are reversible? Dementia happens when nerve cells in the brain are damaged. The cause shapes the symptoms and the treatment. Some triggers are progressive (Alzheimer's, Parkinson's-related dementia, Creutzfeldt-Jakob). Others mimic dementia but can be reversed when caught: - **Medication interactions** - common with antihistamines, sedatives, and some antidepressants, especially as prescriptions stack up - **Vitamin B12 deficiency** - **Thyroid disease** - **Depression** (sometimes called "pseudodementia") - **Normal pressure hydrocephalus** (fluid on the brain) - **Dehydration or urinary tract infection** in older adults - **Heavy alcohol use** - see our explainer on [whether alcohol causes dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/) That's why a workup matters. A treatable cause shouldn't be missed. ## When should you call the doctor? Call your parent's primary care physician if you notice two or more of the warning signs above persisting for several weeks, or any single sign that involves safety - driving, medication, the stove, or money. Cognitive decline is not a normal part of aging and deserves clinical evaluation (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2023). A complete evaluation typically includes: - A detailed medical history and full medication review - A timeline of when symptoms began and how they've changed - A neurologic exam - Bloodwork for vitamin levels, thyroid, and infection - Cognitive testing (such as the MoCA or Mini-Cog) - Brain imaging (MRI or CT) when indicated There's no single definitive test for Alzheimer's outside research settings, but a skilled clinician can usually diagnose dementia with high confidence and narrow down the type. For a deeper look at the trajectory ahead, read our overview of [the 7 stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/). ## Can you lower the risk of dementia? Age and genetics can't be changed. But the National Institute on Aging points to lifestyle factors that appear to lower risk and slow progression (National Institute on Aging, 2023): - Control blood pressure, cholesterol, and diabetes - Stay physically active - aim for at least 150 minutes per week of moderate activity for older adults ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/physical-activity-basics/guidelines/older-adults.html), 2024) - Don't smoke, and limit alcohol - Eat a Mediterranean-style or MIND-style diet - Treat hearing loss - hearing loss is identified as one of the largest modifiable risk factors for dementia ([Lancet Commission on dementia prevention](https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(24)01296-0/fulltext), 2024) - Keep socially and mentally engaged - puzzles, classes, conversations, volunteering - Prioritize sleep and treat sleep apnea Daniel Levitin, PhD, neuroscientist and author of *Successful Aging*, makes the case that novelty matters as much as repetition: learning a new language, a new instrument, or a new route home challenges the brain in ways that crossword puzzles alone do not. ## How should you start the conversation with your parent? The first conversation is often the hardest. Aim for a calm setting, no audience, no ambush. Use "I've noticed" statements rather than "you always." Anchor the conversation in love and safety, not diagnosis. If your parent resists, sometimes a trusted physician, faith leader, or sibling can open the door more easily than you can. If you'd like more language and structure for that conversation, our guide to [understanding dementia for families](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-dementia-a-guide-for-families-and-loved-ones/) walks through what to say and what to avoid. ## What practical steps help at home in the early stage? - Set up automatic bill pay and add a trusted family member to financial alerts - Simplify the medication routine with a weekly pillbox or pharmacy blister pack - Install a stove shut-off device and smoke alarms with 10-year batteries - Post a single large-print calendar with the day, date, and appointments - Have the driving conversation early, before it becomes a safety crisis - Get legal documents in order - power of attorney, healthcare directive, will - Build a small, consistent routine; predictability reduces anxiety ## When is it time to consider memory care? Home works beautifully - until it doesn't. Signs the home setup is no longer safe include wandering, repeated falls, weight loss, medication mistakes, caregiver burnout, or a spouse-caregiver whose own health is declining. At Áegis Living, our Life's Neighborhood® memory care communities are built specifically for residents living with Alzheimer's and other dementias, with secured gardens, chef-prepared meals, and caregivers trained in person-centered dementia care. Vignettes throughout each community - a vintage Airstream, a lakeside scene, a familiar storefront - invite long-term memories to surface and spark joyful moments in the present. If you're starting to wonder whether it's time, you don't have to figure it out alone. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through what your parent needs next. ## Frequently asked questions ### What is usually the first sign of dementia? The first sign is most often short-term memory loss that disrupts daily life - repeating questions, forgetting recent conversations, or struggling with a familiar task like a recipe or a bill. This differs from normal age-related forgetfulness because it interferes with independence ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs), 2024). ### At what age do early signs of dementia usually appear? Most dementias are diagnosed after age 65, with risk roughly doubling every five years after that ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-and-dementia/alzheimers-disease-fact-sheet), 2023). Younger-onset dementia can appear in the 40s or 50s but is far less common. ### Can early dementia be reversed? Progressive dementias like Alzheimer's cannot currently be reversed, but symptoms that look like dementia can sometimes be fully reversed when caused by medication interactions, thyroid problems, B12 deficiency, depression, or infection. That's why a medical workup is essential - never assume. ### How quickly does dementia progress after the first signs? Progression varies widely. Alzheimer's typically unfolds over 4 - 8 years after diagnosis, though some people live 20 years with the disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). Vascular dementia often progresses in step-like declines tied to additional strokes. ### Should I tell my parent I think they have dementia? Rather than labeling it yourself, focus on specific changes you've observed and ask them to see their doctor with you. A clinician is the right person to deliver a diagnosis, and your role is to be the calm, loving presence walking in beside them. ### Does early-stage dementia mean my parent has to leave home? Not necessarily. People in the early stage often live safely at home for years with the right supports - automatic bill pay, medication management, a daily routine, and family check-ins. Memory care typically becomes the right choice when safety, wandering, or 24-hour supervision needs exceed what home can provide. --- ## Caregivers: Are you taking care of yourself? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregivers-taking-care-of-yourself/ Focus keyword: self care Category: family-communication Tags: depression-anxiety, respite-care, assisted-living, exercise-fitness, sleep, legal-planning, for-caregivers Summary: Caregivers, you have taken on the most difficult job you've likely ever had, and its time to ask: are you still taking care of yourself? A common piece of advice for caregivers is, to effectively take care of others you must first take care of yourself. *But when is there enough time?* If you are juggling a full-time job, spouse, children, friends, and a full calendar of obligations plus caring for an aging parent, you may just be trying to keep your head above water. But it is true. If you don’t take care of yourself, you will burn out. Caring for yourself may mean small breaks in your day or treats to keep you feeling refreshed. It might also mean taking a few days off for yourself or a vacation away from home. We are here to help. **Take Time Off**. This very idea may seem impossible for many. But giving yourself some much-deserved days off to either rejuvenate, take a vacation with your family, or just re-center yourself with a staycation is important. At Áegis Living, we offer short-term care for your parent. Also referred to as [respite care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-benefits-of-respite-care/), your parent can enjoy the amenities, activities, and friendship that assisted living communities offer, as if they were a full-time resident. They will stay in a fully-furnished apartment and be cared for by our nurses and 24/7 care staff. You and your family can enjoy a break knowing that your parent will be well-cared for. A respite stay is also a great way to introduce your parent to the idea of assisted living. It can ease a transition into a permanent move. Many enjoy their stay so much that they don’t want to leave. Contact your [local assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) and ask about their respite care option. Here are a few more suggestions to care for yourself: **Exercise.** Just this word “exercise” might intimidate you. *When could I possibly find time to exercise?* Don’t let the idea that you have to go to a scheduled class or a join a gym stop you. Try to make small changes to your routine to add exercise or activity throughout your day. Try to park further away from the grocery store or take the stairs instead of the elevator. Take a 30-minute walk during your lunch break. Perhaps you can get up a half hour earlier and follow an exercise class on your phone. Dance in the kitchen when making dinner, do lunges behind the vacuum, or squats as you blow-dry your hair or wait for the coffee to brew. Little changes can have a big impact on your health. Encourage your parent to join you for a stroll in the mall or a walk around the block. As little as 30 minutes of exercise per day can have a significant impact not only physically but beneficial to your mental health too. **Proper Sleep.** The restorative power of a good night’s sleep should not be underestimated. We suggest that your bedroom should be a haven for rest. Keep it dark, cool, and quiet. Keep it free of stimuli such as a computer monitor, TV, or even stressful paperwork like work from the office, medical bills or insurance documents. If your parent lives with you and you need to be able to hear them, we suggest a baby monitor for peace of mind. Also, set up a bedtime routine for both you and your parent. Try to go to bed and get up in the morning at the same time each day to keep your sleep cycle regular. Listen to music, read a book, turn off your phone, gently stretch, or try deep breathing to get yourself into a restful state of mind at least 30 minutes before you go to sleep. **Nutrition and Hydration**. You may pack lunches and plan meals for your loved ones, but often you grab a candy bar or can of Coke for a quick pick-me-up during the day. You spend so much time taking care of others that your ownnutritional needs may get overlooked. Starting today, make your nutrition a priority. Drink plenty of water and fluids throughout the day to stay hydrated. Eat plenty of vegetables and fruit for vitamins and fiber. Try to avoid fast food for real food and replace junk food with healthy snacks. These treats may be a quick comfort or sugar-kick, but in the long term, you don’t want to neglect your health. **Tend to Your Own Healthcare**. As our parents get older, their healthcare needs increase. Between a variety of doctor’s appointments and running to the pharmacy or physical therapy, you may forget to take care of your own health care needs. See your personal physician regularly, perhaps your appointments can be made near or coordinated with your parent’s appointments. Visit your dentist and eye doctor as needed. Also, the strain you are under caring for a parent can be stressful so consult with your doctor if you have any concerns about your health. And if the weight of this stress is bogging you down or causing depression, consider getting a therapist to talk to. **Reduce Stress.** Meditation, [tai chi](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/practicing-tai-chi/), and yoga can be effective ways to reduce stress and focus on yourself. Taking a few minutes out of your day to practice mindfulness can make you a better caregiver for your parent. These practices bring you into the present moment. It’s dedicated time to focus internally on your breath and how your body is feeling. And the best part is these take no specialized equipment, and these can be done almost anywhere. Also, guided meditations are as close as your phone. Many apps will lead you through the steps of a restorative meditation. Meditation, tai chi, and yoga can also be very beneficial to your parent so consider having your parent participate with you to get started. Caregiving is a tough job, and your effort may feel unappreciated at times. Don’t let this get you down. Helping your parent is a kind and honorable act. But it doesn’t mean that you must lose yourself. You will be a better caregiver if you are feeling healthy, strong, and rested. Take good care of yourself. Take a break when you need it and don’t be afraid or feel [guilty](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) to ask for help. You deserve it. --- ## Practicing the Ancient Art of Tai Chi URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/practicing-tai-chi/ Focus keyword: tai chi benefits Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors, hobbies-activities, emotional-wellness Summary: Tai Chi is an ancient Chinese martial art that involves the mind, breath, and motion. It is an ideal workout for people with limited mobility. Learn more here. You’ve most likely seen them at your local parks practicing as an individual or a small group moving slowly in a fluid routine. Their arms float over their heads in circular motions. They gaze softly at a point in the distance, concentrating and breathing deeply with each move. They look calm, focused, and relaxed. They are practicing the ancient martial art of tai chi. Tai chi is a series of repetitive movements in a very slow and deliberate manner. This low-impact exercise is an ideal workout for older adults with limited mobility. At Áegis Living, we have modified our tai chi classes to be practiced from a chair so our residents can get the benefits of the exercise without having to stand for an extended period of time. Tai chi is based on relaxation and coordination which can have a calming effect on our residents who are agitated or frustrated. And with continued practice, seniors can strengthen their muscles and increase their flexibility through this gentle aerobic exercise. **What is tai chi?** Originating from China as far back as 2,500 years ago, tai chi is practiced now around the world. As an ancient Chinese martial art, tai chi has descended from qigong, a discipline that focuses on the mind, breath, and motion to center oneself. Often described as meditation in motion, [tai chi](http://taichiforhealthinstitute.org/history-of-tai-chi-2/) is believed to clear your mind and reduce stress through concentration on each movement. **How can it benefit older adults?** At Áegis Living, we have seen many significant benefits for our residents who practice tai chi. These benefits have been backed by research in the field. Benefits for those who regularly practice tai chi include: - Steadier on their feet - Greater stability and balance - Less likely to suffer high blood pressure - Physically stronger - Improved hand/eye coordination - Increased circulation - Improved flexibility - Promotes a better’s night sleep - Improves their mood But the [benefits of tai chi](http://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/the-health-benefits-of-tai-chi) can be felt not only physically, but emotionally as well. Many of our residents come to us feeling unsteady on their feet and off balance. They have a real fear of falling and hurting themselves or perhaps they have already experienced a fall. Ironically, the most significant predictor of a fall is the fear of falling. This intense fear can be very stressful and may deter residents from exercising and participating in activities. Thus, they will lose muscle strength and coordination. Tai chi can be practiced safely and effectively from a chair, taking away that fear of falling. Tai chi will make them stronger and feel more stable, adding to their personal wellbeing and quality of life. **Can people living with dementia benefit from tai chi?** Any exercise or workout that gets someone off the couch and moving will benefit the person both physically and emotionally. Movements can be easily adapted by a skilled instructor to meet their physical limitations. Since this can be practiced safely from a chair, it is a great exercise to encourage your parent to try. And some promising studies have shown that exercise can help delay the progression of dementia. If you are concerned about getting your parent into an exercise program, discuss your concerns with their physician. **Can a stressed caregiver benefit from tai chi?** Although tai chi is great for seniors, it is also useful for any age, particularly for a stressed-out caregiver. We know busy caregivers who are juggling work, family, and caring for a parent can use a much-needed break. You will find the entire practice to be very meditative. It can quiet your mind, allow you to focus on one thing, and bring a sense of peace. It is also a great activity that you can share with your parent and practice together. **Where can I learn?** The best part of tai chi is there is no specialized equipment and can be done anywhere. The movements can be adapted by a skilled instructor to fit every age group and fitness level. Classes can be done outside on a sunny day or from the comfort of a chair indoors. It is also an excellent way for your parent to socialize with their peers. Search for a senior tai chi class online, stop by [Áegis Gardens](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-gardens-fremont-ca/) in Newcastle, WA to try one of our classes, or contact a local senior center to try a beginner’s course near you. At Áegis Living, we take a holistic approach to caring for our residents’ mind, body, and spirit. We find that tai chi can be a great way to meet their physical needs while stimulating their mind and improving their overall sense of wellbeing. If our parent can no longer live on their own, contact an Áegis Living community near you and schedule a tour. Our staff welcomes the opportunity to meet your family, give you a tour of our community, and show you the calendar of activities that we offer daily. --- ## 5 Ways Staying Social Keeps Seniors Healthy URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-staying-social-keeps-you-healthy/ Focus keyword: social Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: assisted-living, exercise-fitness, social-connection, hobbies-activities, moving-in, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Discover 5 evidence-backed ways social connection protects senior health, from lower dementia risk to stronger immunity and longer life expectancy. Staying socially connected in later life lowers the risk of dementia, heart disease, depression, and early death. Older adults with regular social contact tend to live longer, recover faster from illness, and report higher life satisfaction than peers who are isolated. Below are the five biggest health benefits of staying social after 65, what the research says, and how to build connection into daily life, whether your parent lives at home or in a senior community. For a related look at how shared activities boost wellbeing, see our pillar guide on [How Does Music Benefit Senior Health? 4 Proven Ways](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-ways-music-benefits-your-health/). ## Why is social isolation a serious health risk for older adults? Loneliness is not just an emotional state. The U.S. Surgeon General's 2023 advisory compared the mortality impact of chronic loneliness to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day ([U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory on Social Connection](https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/priorities/connection/index.html), 2023). About 1 in 4 adults aged 65 and older are considered socially isolated, raising the risk of dementia by roughly 50% and stroke by 32% (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2024). As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, often points out, connection is a clinical issue, not a lifestyle upgrade: a doctor who screens for blood pressure but ignores loneliness is missing one of the strongest predictors of how an older patient will fare. ## What are the 5 biggest health benefits of staying social? ### 1. Sharper memory and lower dementia risk Regular conversation, group activities, and new social experiences exercise the same brain networks that decline first in Alzheimer's disease. Older adults who report frequent social contact have a measurably lower risk of cognitive decline ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). Pair social time with brain-stimulating games for a compound effect, see our roundup of [the best memory games for seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-best-memory-games-for-seniors/). ### 2. Healthier hearts and lower stroke risk Strong social ties are linked to lower blood pressure, lower inflammation, and better recovery after cardiac events (National Institutes of Health, 2019). ### 3. Better mental health and less depression Socially active seniors report lower rates of depression and anxiety. The American Association of Retired Persons notes that older adults who participate in group activities weekly are significantly less likely to report symptoms of depression (AARP Public Policy Institute, 2023). ### 4. Stronger immunity and faster recovery Positive social interaction is associated with better immune function and lower stress hormones, helping older adults bounce back from colds, flu, and surgery ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/social-support/art-20044445), 2024). ### 5. A sense of purpose, and a longer life Volunteering, mentoring, or contributing skills inside a community boosts "purpose in life" scores, which are tied to lower mortality ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/loneliness-and-social-isolation/loneliness-and-social-isolation-tips-staying-connected), 2024). ## How does isolation compare to community living, side by side? Health factorLiving alone, isolatedLiving in a social communityDementia riskUp to ~50% higherReduced through daily engagementDepression ratesElevatedLower with weekly group activityHeart and stroke riskHigherLower with social supportMeals eaten aloneMost or allShared dining dailyMissed medical appointmentsCommon when driving stopsTransportation provided ## What does "socially connected" actually mean? Social connectionThe feeling of being part of a group, with regular two-way interaction. It is the opposite of simply being around people.Social isolationHaving few social contacts or interactions, regardless of how a person feels about it.LonelinessThe subjective distress of feeling alone, even in a crowd. A person can be married and still lonely.Sense of purposeA reason to get up in the morning. In seniors, this is one of the strongest predictors of longevity ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/), 2024). ## How can you help an older parent stay socially active? Consider an 82-year-old widow who stopped driving last year. She skips two of three meals, watches TV alone, and has not laughed out loud in weeks. Or picture an 88-year-old retired engineer who lives with his daughter but spends his days in a bedroom while the family works. Both are technically housed, both are isolated. Here is a practical sequence that works: - **Audit the week.** Count how many days your parent speaks with someone face to face for more than 10 minutes. Fewer than 4 is a warning sign. - **Anchor one social activity per day.** A walking group, a senior center lunch, a religious service, or a regular FaceTime call. - **Add a purpose project.** Knitting hats for newborns, tutoring a grandchild, or fostering a pet. The [health benefits of having a pet](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-health-benefits-of-a-pet/) include both companionship and routine. - **Layer in movement with others.** Tai chi, water aerobics, or chair yoga. Browse [the best activities for seniors to stay healthy](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/senior-activities-to-stay-healthy/) for ideas matched to ability level. - **Reassess at 60 days.** If isolation persists despite effort, a senior living community may be the most effective intervention. ## When is assisted living the right answer for loneliness? Assisted living is built on a social model. At Áegis Living, daily life is structured around shared meals, Life Enrichment programming, intergenerational visits, music therapy, fitness classes, art studios, and outings, so connection happens without anyone having to schedule it. For an older adult who has outlived friends or stopped driving, community living often reverses isolation within weeks. Ready to see what a social-first community feels like? [Find an Áegis Living location near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a visit and join residents for a meal. ## Frequently asked questions ### How much social interaction does an older adult actually need? There is no single number, but the National Institute on Aging suggests aiming for daily contact and at least one meaningful in-person interaction per week. Quality matters more than quantity. A 20-minute conversation with a trusted friend beats a crowded room of strangers. ### Can phone calls and video chats replace in-person connection? They help, especially for family who live far away, but they do not fully replace in-person contact. Face-to-face interaction triggers stronger releases of oxytocin and other bonding chemicals, and it is harder to fake engagement on a screen than in person. ### What are the warning signs that a senior is isolated? Look for weight loss, poor hygiene, declining house upkeep, missed medications, fewer phone calls, and statements like "I don't want to be a bother." Increased TV use and disrupted sleep are also common signals identified by the CDC. ### Does social connection help people who already have dementia? Yes. Dementia care educator Teepa Snow, founder of Positive Approach to Care, emphasizes that people with dementia still feel belonging, music, touch, and laughter long after words fail. Engagement reduces agitation and slows functional decline even in mid-stage disease. ### What if my parent says they don't like group activities? Start small and one-on-one. A coffee date with one neighbor, a shared hobby with one grandchild, or a pet visit can feel safer than a group. Many residents who resisted activities at move-in become regulars within a month once they have a friend who saves them a seat. ### Is loneliness really as harmful as smoking? According to the 2023 U.S. Surgeon General's advisory, chronic loneliness carries a mortality risk comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day, and exceeds the risk of obesity and physical inactivity. That is why screening for social connection is now considered a basic part of senior health. --- ## How to Find the Best Assisted Living Near You URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/assisted-living-near-me/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, emotional-wellness, choosing-a-community Summary: A step-by-step guide to finding quality assisted living near you: 2024 cost ranges, tour checklists, key questions, and red flags to watch for. To find the best assisted living near you, define your parent's care needs, set a realistic monthly budget, then shortlist 3 - 5 state-licensed communities within a 30-minute drive of family. Tour each finalist twice - once scheduled, once unannounced - eat a meal, talk to current residents and caregivers, and verify the most recent state inspection report before signing. The right community balances clinical capability, location, food, social life, and cost. ## What is assisted living, and is it the right level of care? Assisted living is residential housing for older adults who need help with daily activities but don't require 24-hour skilled nursing. According to the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/assisted-living-and-nursing-homes), it typically includes meals, housekeeping, medication management, and personal care like bathing and dressing - while preserving as much independence as possible. **Assisted living**Apartment-style senior housing with on-site caregivers, meals, social programming, and help with activities of daily living (ADLs). **Memory care**A secured neighborhood within or alongside assisted living, designed for residents with Alzheimer's or another dementia. Áegis Living calls this Life's Neighborhood®. **Skilled nursing**A licensed medical facility with RNs on duty around the clock for residents who need ongoing rehabilitation or complex medical care. **Independent living**Senior apartments or cottages with hospitality services but no personal-care staff. If your parent is forgetting medications, falling, losing weight, or becoming isolated, assisted living is usually the right starting point. The [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs) outlines 10 warning signs of dementia that can help you decide whether [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/types-of-assisted-living/) is also needed. For example, consider a family whose 82-year-old mother has started leaving the stove on twice a week and forgetting her morning insulin - that's beyond what a weekly home visit can safely manage. ## How much does assisted living cost in 2026? The national median cost of assisted living is approximately $6,200 per month ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025), with West Coast metros running notably higher. Memory care typically adds 20 - 30% on top of base assisted-living rent. Care typeTypical 2024 monthly range (national)What it covers Independent living$2,500 - $4,500Rent, meals, activities, housekeeping Assisted living$4,500 - $7,500Above + ADL support, medication management Memory care$6,000 - $9,500Above + secured unit, dementia-trained staff, specialized programming Skilled nursing (semi-private)$8,500 - $10,50024/7 licensed nursing, rehab services Veterans may qualify for the [VA Aid & Attendance benefit](https://www.va.gov/pension/aid-attendance-housebound/), and some long-term care insurance policies reimburse a portion of monthly fees. [Medicare](https://www.medicare.gov/providers-services/original-medicare/nursing-homes/payment) generally does *not* cover assisted living room and board. ## How do you choose the right neighborhood? Location shapes how often family visits - and visit frequency is one of the strongest predictors of resident well-being, according to caregiving research summarized by the AARP Public Policy Institute. Consider these factors before drawing your search radius: - **Drive time from primary caregiver** - aim for 30 minutes or less. - **Proximity to your parent's physicians and preferred hospital.** - **Familiar surroundings** - does your parent want to stay in their longtime neighborhood? - **Sibling logistics** - splitting visits is easier when the community sits between households. - **Climate and walkability** - outdoor courtyards and walking paths matter year-round. For example, imagine two adult daughters who both work full time - one in Bellevue, one in Tacoma. A community in Seattle splits the drive evenly and makes a Wednesday-evening dinner visit realistic instead of aspirational. ## What's the smartest way to start your search online? Typing "assisted living near me" returns two very different kinds of results: actual operators (like Áegis Living) and lead-generation directories that resell your contact information. Look at the URL before you submit a form. When you land on an operator's website, look for: - State license number and most recent inspection report - A clearly named executive director and director of nursing - Specific care offerings (memory care, Light Assisted Living, respite) - A transparent pricing structure - or a written cost sheet on request - Photos of real residents and staff, not stock imagery Cross-check what you read against neutral sources like the [Medicare Care Compare](https://www.medicare.gov/care-compare/) tool and your state's Department of Social and Health Services licensing database. ## Should you use an assisted-living referral service? Referral services such as A Place for Mom, Caring.com, and regional brokers can shortcut research, especially if you live out of state. They're free to families because the assisted-living community pays a placement fee - typically 60 - 100% of the first month's rent - when a referred prospect moves in. That fee model creates two things to watch: - **Your contact info gets shared** with multiple communities, often within minutes. Expect phone calls. - **Recommendations skew toward partner communities.** A quality community that doesn't pay placement fees may never appear on your shortlist. If you're early in research, contact operators directly first. Use a referral service when you're ready to tour and need help narrowing geography. ## What should you look for on a tour? Touring is non-negotiable - brochures don't reveal culture. Plan to tour every finalist twice: once scheduled, once unannounced at a different time of day. Our guide to [10 things to know when touring assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-things-touring-assisted-living/) walks you through what to observe room by room. During each visit, watch for: - **Staff-to-resident interaction.** Are caregivers using residents' names? Are they kneeling to eye level when speaking? - **Cleanliness and smell.** A faint food or laundry scent is normal; persistent urine odor is a red flag. - **Resident engagement.** At 10 a.m., are residents up, dressed, and doing something - or parked in front of a TV? - **Dining experience.** Eat a meal. Ask if menus rotate and whether a registered dietitian reviews them. - **Activities calendar.** Look for fitness, music, outings, lifelong learning, and spiritual life. As Teepa Snow, occupational therapist and founder of Positive Approach to Care, frequently teaches caregivers, the goal isn't to manage residents but to engage them as capable adults whose strengths still matter. You should see that philosophy in action within five minutes of walking in. ## Which questions reveal the most about a community? Bring this list. Ask the same questions at every community so you can compare apples to apples. - What is your caregiver-to-resident ratio during the day, evening, and overnight? - Is a licensed nurse on-site 24/7, or on call? - What is your staff turnover rate over the past 12 months? - How do you handle a change in condition - do you partner with hospice and home health? - What triggers a price increase, and what was your last annual rate adjustment? - What is your policy if my parent's needs exceed assisted living? - May I see your most recent state inspection report? - What dementia training does your team receive, and how often? Want to dig deeper into staffing? Our overview of how to [meet your assisted living staff](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meet-your-assisted-living-staff/) explains the roles you'll encounter on move-in day. ## How do assisted living and memory care differ? Roughly 1 in 9 Americans aged 65 and older is living with Alzheimer's disease ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). If your parent has a dementia diagnosis or is showing significant cognitive change, memory care offers safeguards that traditional assisted living doesn't. FeatureAssisted livingMemory care Building securityOpen campusSecured, alarmed exits Staff trainingADL support, basicsSpecialized dementia curriculum, ongoing ProgrammingBroad social calendarSensory, reminiscence, small-group activities Caregiver ratioLowerHigher - more 1:1 attention EnvironmentApartment-styleCued wayfinding, contrast lighting, soothing palette Áegis Living's memory-care neighborhoods - Life's Neighborhood® - use tools like Cognitive Compass and AUGi to personalize each resident's day around what still brings them joy. For example, an 84-year-old retired music teacher might begin each afternoon with a small-group sing-along built from her own playlist instead of generic group TV. Compare other models in our overview of the [types of assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/types-of-assisted-living/). ## Why try a respite stay before committing? A respite stay is a short-term residency - typically 1 to 4 weeks - that lets your parent experience a community fully furnished and fully cared for. It's also useful when a primary caregiver needs a break, recovers from surgery, or travels. Benefits of a respite stay include: - A real-world test of the community's care, food, and culture - A lower-pressure introduction for a hesitant parent - Time for family to evaluate without rushing a permanent decision - A smoother transition if your parent decides to stay The CDC's Healthy Aging program highlights respite as a key tool for sustaining family caregivers, who carry higher rates of depression and chronic illness than non-caregivers. ## What are the long-term benefits of choosing well? Social isolation in older adults is linked to roughly a 50% increased risk of dementia, along with meaningful increases in heart disease and stroke risk (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2021). A vibrant community reverses isolation almost immediately - your parent eats with others, exercises regularly, and re-enters a social rhythm. Read more in our companion piece on the [benefits of assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-the-benefits-of-assisted-living/). ## Frequently asked questions ### How quickly can my parent move into assisted living? Once a community has an opening and your parent passes a nursing assessment, move-in can happen within 1 - 2 weeks. Tours, paperwork, physician forms, and a TB test typically take 3 - 10 days. Most communities will hold an apartment with a deposit while you finalize logistics. ### Does Medicare or Medicaid pay for assisted living? Medicare does not cover assisted living room and board, per [Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/). Some states offer Medicaid waiver programs that help cover personal-care services in assisted living, but availability and waiting lists vary widely. Long-term care insurance, VA Aid & Attendance, and personal assets remain the most common funding sources. ### What's the difference between assisted living and a nursing home? Assisted living is residential, social-model care with caregivers helping residents stay independent. A nursing home is a medical facility with licensed nurses on duty 24/7 for residents with complex clinical needs or rehabilitation requirements. Cost, regulation, and atmosphere differ substantially. ### How do I know a community is licensed and safe? Every state licenses assisted-living communities through its health or social-services department. Ask for the most recent state inspection report on your tour, and verify the license online through your state's database. Persistent or unresolved deficiencies are a meaningful warning sign. ### What if my parent refuses to move? Resistance is normal and usually fear-based. Start with short visits, lunch in the dining room, or a respite stay rather than presenting the move as permanent. Looping in your parent's physician - who can frame the move as a health recommendation - often shifts the conversation. ### How many communities should I tour? Tour 3 - 5 finalists. Fewer than three doesn't give you a basis for comparison; more than five tends to blur details. Bring the same question list to each, take photos (with permission), and decide within two weeks while impressions are fresh. ## Find an Áegis Living community near you Áegis Living operates assisted-living and memory-care communities across Washington, California, and Nevada, with dementia programming built around Life's Neighborhood®, Cognitive Compass, and AUGi. To see what's near your family, visit our [find a location](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) page or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a tour or arrange a respite stay. --- ## Nursing Care in Assisted Living Communities URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/nursing-in-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living nursing Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, communication, for-caregivers, social-connection Summary: "In Áegis Living assisted living communities residents dine together, enjoy luxury amenities and enriching activities, and they are supported by 24/7 care staff." When your parent moves to an assisted living community, it is typically because you are concerned that they cannot live on their own due to illness, frailty, or forgetfulness. Perhaps you no longer feel that they are safe. At an assisted living community, you are moving them to a home that is not only a comfortable place to live but also includes care to keep them healthy. Care is an essential component in your decision making. **Who is caring for your parent in an assisted living community?** Our Áegis Living [assisted living and memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-what-assisted-living-offers/)communities are based on a social model, where residents live communally, dine together, enjoy planned activities, and comradery is encouraged. In addition to the luxury amenities and enriching activities that our residents enjoy, they are supported by our compassionate 24/7 care staff. The caregivers assist with ADLs (Activities of Daily Living) such as dressing, toileting, eating, transferring, or bathing. Most care staff are not RN’s but are trained to fulfill the daily needs of the residents and administer medications. Each of our communities employs an on-staff nurse who oversees the customized care plans of each resident and assists with changes in care. Every shift is covered by a nurse, whether they are in the community or on-call, including overnight. They use their medical expertise to communicate with a resident’s primary care physician about any concerns or changes in the resident’s health. Nurses are also the point person for the family to discuss health concerns. And the nurse sets the standard for healthcare within each community and is responsible for maintaining our high level of care. Our goal is to keep your loved one comfortable always. And our residents’ continued good health is our utmost concern. If your parent’s needs progress with illness, frailty, or age, our staff can adapt and change their health care plan to support these changes. Most of our residents can remain in their home at Áegis surrounded by the familiar faces of friends, staff, and nearby family while receiving flexible levels of service. But if a resident has a condition that Áegis cannot care for, they may need to move to a skilled nursing facility or hospital with on-site physicians, or at least stay until their condition improves. **Proactive Healthcare** For our nurses, being employed at an assisted living community is much different than working at a clinic or in a hospital. Our staff forms close bonds with the residents and their families while caring for them in their Áegis home. Many of our nurses compare caring for our residents to caring for a member of their family. “My favorite part of my job is that I get to be part of the story for my residents, says [Alexandra Lyle, BSN](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJwchz1csmM). “I get to live day in and day out in their home,” Our nurses are also hands-on throughout the day and interact with our residents during meals, exercise, and activities. They get to know our residents intimately. An important part of their job is to teach and coach our residents for better health. Our nurses help educate residents to adapt to their changing health needs. This kind of care cannot be compared to meeting a patient for a 15-minute checkup or only addressing health issues when they arise at a brief doctor’s appointment. Our nurses help to proactively care for residents’ changing health needs and foresee issues in their condition. **The Different Levels of Care** If you are actively looking for a care community for your parent, you may be encountering housing terms that you are not familiar with, or you may not clearly understand how these types of senior housing options differ. To give you an understanding, here is a brief description of some common senior housing options and the type of care that they typically provide. **Independent or Retirement Homes.**A retirement community does not usually offer any care services. The model is to provide a low-maintenance lifestyle in a community with their peers, typically at 55 and older. The focus of this option is concentrated on the amenities, such as a golf course, pool, tennis courts, restaurant, or clubhouse. This option is best suited for fit and active individuals, perhaps looking to downsize or retire. **CCRC.**A CCRC (Continuing Care Retirement Community) is a long-term care option that offers a continuum of care with independent living units, assisted living units, and in some instances, skilled nursing units on one campus. Residents will enter into a contractual agreement for care, services, and housing with a significant financial commitment upfront. The goal of a CCRC is a home where a resident can age in place. This is typically a costlier option because of all the services offered in one place. **Assisted Living and Memory Care.**An assisted living community, typically, has a nurse on staff and 24/7 care managers who are specially trained to handle care with dignity for older residents who need assistance with medication or ADLs (Activities of Daily Living). Besides providing care and support, your parent will have a calendar of activities to participate in and amenities to enjoy. And a memory care community offers services to support those with memory loss or dementia. If your parent can no longer live on their own and needs daily assistance, this is a good fit. **Skilled Nursing Home.**Next to a hospital, a skilled nursing facility will offer the highest level of care. A nursing home is best suited for your parent if they need a higher level of medical care or supervision. It’s a good choice if they are living with a complex medical condition or require around-the-clock medical care from licensed nurses. Also, certain medical conditions cannot legally be addressed in an assisted living setting; for those with such medical conditions, a nursing home is a more appropriate fit. To learn more about which senior housing options offer specific levels of nursing care we recommend you tour a variety of communities and including your nearby[Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). --- ## Palliative vs. Hospice Care: What's the Difference? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/ Focus keyword: palliative and hospice care Category: health-conditions Tags: depression-anxiety, alzheimers, hospice-end-of-life, emotional-wellness, nutrition, legal-planning, parkinsons Summary: Palliative care eases symptoms at any illness stage; hospice serves the final 6 months. Compare eligibility, costs, settings, and how to choose for your parent. Palliative care and hospice care both prioritize comfort, dignity, and quality of life - but they are not the same service. **Palliative care** can begin at any stage of a serious illness and is delivered alongside curative treatment. **Hospice care** is a form of palliative care reserved for people whose physician has certified a life expectancy of six months or less and who are no longer pursuing a cure ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care), 2024). Understanding the distinction helps your family make timely decisions instead of crisis decisions. ## What is palliative care, in plain terms? Palliative care is specialized medical support focused on relieving the symptoms, pain, and stress of a serious illness - not on curing the disease itself. A palliative team typically includes a physician, nurse, social worker, chaplain, and pharmacist who coordinate with your parent's primary doctors ([MedlinePlus, National Library of Medicine](https://medlineplus.gov/palliativecare.html), 2024). It is appropriate for anyone living with a chronic or life-threatening diagnosis, including cancer, heart failure, COPD, kidney disease, Parkinson's, ALS, or Alzheimer's. Roughly 1 in 9 Americans aged 65 and older lives with Alzheimer's dementia ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), and palliative consultations can help families manage agitation, sleep disturbance, and pain long before end-of-life care becomes the conversation. ## What is hospice care, and when does it start? Hospice is a philosophy of care, not a place. It begins when curative treatment has stopped and the focus shifts entirely to comfort, emotional support, and dignity in the final months of life. To enroll under Medicare, two physicians must certify a prognosis of six months or less if the illness runs its expected course ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care), 2024). Hospice services include nursing visits, medications related to the terminal diagnosis, durable medical equipment, home health aides, chaplaincy, social work, volunteer companionship, and 13 months of bereavement support for the family after death ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/hospice-and-palliative-care/what-are-palliative-care-and-hospice-care), 2024). ## How do palliative and hospice care actually differ? The clearest way to compare the two is side by side. FeaturePalliative CareHospice CareWhen it startsAny stage of serious illness, including at diagnosisPrognosis of 6 months or lessCurative treatmentAllowed alongsideDiscontinued; focus is comfortEligibilityAny serious or chronic illnessTerminal diagnosis certified by 2 physiciansSettingHospital, clinic, home, senior livingHome, senior living, hospice house, hospitalMedicare coveragePartial; varies by serviceComprehensive under the Medicare Hospice BenefitTeamMD, RN, social worker, chaplain, pharmacistMD, RN, aide, chaplain, social worker, volunteers, bereavement counselor ## Where does each type of care take place? Both palliative and hospice services are most often delivered wherever your parent already lives. That can be a private home, an assisted living apartment, a memory care neighborhood, or a skilled nursing facility. According to the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization, the majority of hospice care in the United States is delivered in the patient's place of residence ([NHPCO Facts and Figures](https://www.nationalcoalitionhpc.org/resources/nhpco-facts-figures-2023/), 2023). If symptoms become unmanageable at home, hospice teams can transition the patient to an inpatient hospice unit or a contracted hospital bed for short-term crisis stabilization, then return them home when comfortable. ## Who qualifies, and how do you start the conversation? For palliative care, the qualifying factor is simply a serious illness that affects quality of life - no prognosis requirement exists. For hospice, your parent's physician must document a six-month-or-less prognosis and your parent must choose to forgo curative treatment for the terminal condition. As *Atul Gawande, MD*, surgeon and author of *Being Mortal*, has argued: families who talk about goals of care earlier - what your parent is willing to endure, what makes a day worth living - tend to suffer less and feel more at peace with the decisions that follow. His core message is that medicine's job near the end is not to extend life at any cost but to support a life that still feels like one's own. ## What does palliative and hospice care cost in 2026? Medicare Hospice BenefitCovers nearly all hospice-related costs - nursing, medications for the terminal illness, equipment, aide visits, counseling - with little or no out-of-pocket expense for the family ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care), 2024).Palliative careBilled like other specialist visits. Medicare Part B, Medicaid, and most private insurance plans cover physician and nurse consultations; medications and equipment may have copays.Room and boardNeither Medicare hospice nor most palliative benefits pay for room and board in assisted living or memory care. Families continue to pay the community's monthly rate, which runs a national median of $6,200 per month for assisted living ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). ## What does a real-world transition look like? Two short scenarios illustrate the difference. **Example 1 - Palliative care, mid-illness:** Consider an 82-year-old woman with stage III heart failure who still drives to her grandson's baseball games. She is short of breath, exhausted after meals, and anxious about her medications. A palliative consult adjusts her diuretic schedule, adds a low-dose anti-anxiety plan, and connects her with a social worker. She continues seeing her cardiologist and remains a candidate for valve repair. The point is symptom relief, not surrender. **Example 2 - Hospice, final months:** Imagine an 88-year-old father with advanced Alzheimer's who has stopped eating, lost 14 pounds, and no longer recognizes his children. His geriatrician certifies a six-month prognosis. The family elects hospice in his memory care apartment. A nurse visits twice weekly, an aide bathes him three times a week, a chaplain sits with the family, and a volunteer reads aloud so his daughter can rest. He dies six weeks later in his own bed, with familiar staff nearby. ## How do you choose a palliative or hospice provider? - **Ask your parent's physician for a referral** and the names of two or three agencies that serve your zip code. - **Verify Medicare certification** on the provider through [Medicare Care Compare](https://www.medicare.gov/care-compare/). - **Interview the agency** - ask how quickly a nurse responds after hours, who provides weekend coverage, and whether they have experience with your parent's specific diagnosis (dementia, Parkinson's, cancer). - **Confirm coordination** with your parent's senior living community. Áegis Living's Health Services Director, for example, works directly with outside hospice and palliative teams so care plans align. - **Ask about bereavement support** for the family - Medicare-certified hospices are required to offer it for 13 months following the death. ## How does palliative care address mood, hearing, and other quality-of-life issues? Serious illness rarely arrives alone. Depression, anxiety, sensory loss, and cognitive change often travel with it. A palliative team can loop in geriatric psychiatry when mood symptoms interfere with treatment - see our guide to [what geriatric psychiatry adds to a care plan](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/geriatric-psychiatry-part-of-a-comprehensive-care-plan/) - and can help families spot [signs of depression in a parent](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-of-depression-in-your-mom-or-dad/) that are easy to mistake for the illness itself. Sensory health matters, too. Untreated hearing loss compounds isolation and confusion at end of life; reviewing the [causes and symptoms of hearing loss](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/causes-and-symptoms-hearing-loss/) and understanding [how hearing loss affects older adults](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-effects-of-hearing-loss-on-the-elderly/) can change how a hospice nurse approaches communication during a visit. ## What should families do this week? If your parent has a serious diagnosis, ask their physician one question at the next appointment: *"Would my mom benefit from a palliative care consultation?"* It costs nothing to ask, it does not commit you to anything, and it opens a door that families often wish they had opened sooner. If you are weighing senior living that can support a palliative or hospice partnership, [find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk with a Health Services Director about how on-site care coordinates with outside hospice providers. ## Frequently asked questions ### Can someone receive palliative care and curative treatment at the same time? Yes. Palliative care is designed to run alongside chemotherapy, dialysis, cardiac rehab, or any other active treatment. The goal is to reduce symptoms and side effects so your parent can tolerate treatment better, not to replace it ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/hospice-and-palliative-care/what-are-palliative-care-and-hospice-care), 2024). ### Does electing hospice mean giving up? No. It means shifting the goal from cure to comfort. Some patients actually live longer on hospice than expected because aggressive treatments and hospitalizations - which can be exhausting - are replaced with focused symptom care. If your parent improves, hospice can be discharged and re-elected later. ### Will Medicare pay for hospice in an assisted living or memory care community? Medicare's Hospice Benefit covers the hospice services themselves - nursing, medications related to the terminal illness, aides, equipment, chaplaincy - regardless of where your parent lives. It does not cover room and board at the senior living community; the family continues paying the monthly rate ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care), 2024). ### How long can someone stay on hospice? The initial certification covers two 90-day periods, followed by unlimited 60-day recertifications as long as a physician confirms the prognosis remains six months or less. There is no maximum time limit if the patient continues to qualify. ### Who pays for palliative care? Medicare Part B, Medicaid, the VA, and most commercial insurance plans cover palliative consultations and follow-up visits much like any specialist care. Copays and coverage for medications or equipment vary by plan - your palliative social worker can help verify benefits. ### Can my parent change their mind after starting hospice? Absolutely. A patient can revoke hospice at any time and return to curative treatment, then re-elect hospice later if they wish. This is one reason families should not view hospice enrollment as a permanent decision. --- ## Our employees are the heart of senior care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/employees-heart-of-senior-care/ Focus keyword: aegis living employees Category: aegis-stories Tags: fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: "The heart of Áegis Living is the people who care for our senior residents. Happy employees make for happy, well cared for residents." Innovation, empowerment, and compassion for our staff is the DNA of our company culture. Áegis Living has worked hard at nurturing and refining an employee-centric company culture. We know the heart of our business is the people who lovingly care every day for our residents. We want our employees to feel that same level of care from Áegis Living - as their employer. Therefore, we are focused on attracting and retaining the best staff at every level within our company. We know that happy employees make for happy, well cared for residents. **How do we keep our employees happy and satisfied working for us?** We offer unique rewards. We have created innovative employee programs to reward our staff members for their countless hours of hard work, including a company-wide employee lottery for lifestyle, travel and [cash giveaways](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B5qHHFodWv); the annual Winterfest event that celebrates the holidays and supports staff with gifts for themselves and family members, and community fun committee celebrations for all staff to engage and enjoy together. We support pride in our workplace, work-life balance, and innovative new ideas to honor our employees for their boundless energy and dedication. We take special care to appreciate the employees who have worked for Áegis Living from the start. **What separates Áegis Living as an employer for other companies in our industry?** We encourage career growth and carve out a path to success. Áegis Living invests in the long-term retention of our best staff members with clear channels for **[professional growth](https://youtu.be/vr-NPEbnVwk)**to move up the ladder and for employees to attain their personal goals. We commit that every employee will have the tools, training, and skills to do their job to the best of their ability. Each employee is also encouraged to be a part of the growth of Áegis Living by sharing their ideas to improve the company and how we care for residents. Every community has a Black Box where all employee recommendations and ideas are submitted. These ideas are all reviewed, considered and recognized if implemented, allowing each employee to have ownership in the improvements at Áegis. **What is one of the measurements of our success as an employer?** We have been proud to receive several industry awards on behalf of our employees.We dedicate the repeated awards that we have won, such as Best Places to Work 2017 Employees’ Choice Award - Glassdoor and Best Workplaces by the Puget Sound Business Journal, to our devoted staff members. We are privileged to employ many employees who have been with our company from the beginning. We believe it is because of these dedicated individuals that we have been able to develop a unique company culture built on a solid foundation. **Don’t take our word for it, what do our employees say?** Our finest honor is to be appreciated by our employees. Áegis Living is among the top-rated companies on Glassdoor.com, a global employer review website based on anonymous reviews by our current and previous employees. We are honored to be ranked as the #1 senior living company on Glassdoor.com by the overwhelmingly positive reviews from our staff. We are humbled to be ranked higher in employee satisfaction than much larger global companies who have the advantage of more resources. It’s our privilege to support and employ so many caring and compassionate people who treat our residents with dignity. **Explore our reviews on [Glassdoor.com](https://www.glassdoor.com/Reviews/Aegis-Living-Reviews-E199051.htm) for yourself, here are a few examples of what our employees are saying:** - “Where can you love the work you do and be loved for the work you do.” - “Hands down it’s the culture. People are positive, supportive and purpose-driven. It’s a diverse workplace that celebrates its people.“ - “Áegis really does put employees first. The staff here really enjoy being at work every day, and the residents are so appreciative of what we do. It is fulfilling and rewarding to know that we are making a difference in the lives of our residents every day!” **What is the most important measurement of our success?** The approval of our residents and their families is the most important measure of our continued success.As a company, Áegis Living is dedicated to the happiness of our residents and the satisfaction of the families who we serve. We regularly survey families to ask how we are doing in the communities and we are proud of the top marks we have received throughout the years. We believe that the dedication and longevity of our staff who deliver care with consistency and compassion are why we have high approval ratings from our residents’ families. **There for you.** Our home office senior team, starting with our CEO and founder, Dwayne Clark, and each of our community directors are available to **[answer questions](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/),** receive feedback and discuss how we can improve. Our company is based on service and the people who provide that service to our residents. We will never stop striving to make our communities a comfortable, secure place to live and a great place to work. We are dedicated to our employees’ success, as we know that the loving care they provide to our residents is at the heart of all we do. We know these goals go hand-in-hand. --- ## Types of Care Offered in Assisted Living? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/types-of-care-in-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, social-connection, legal-planning Summary: "If your parent can no longer live on their own, what are your options? We explain the type of care your parent can find in an assisted living community." *My mom has begun to slow down. She can no longer drive a car, and simple tasks seem to wear her out quickly. She has been losing weight because I don’t think she is eating enough or cooking for herself. I try to visit her and bring her groceries, but with a full-time job and a growing family, there are not enough hours in the day. I worry about her all the time.* This is a common scenario for many families who don’t know where to turn for help. If your senior parent can no longer live on their own, what are your options? How much or how little care does an assisted living community offer? And if your mom is showing signs of dementia, can they handle someone with Alzheimer’s or memory loss? These are often common questions, and we can help explain the type of care your parent or spouse can find in an[assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-assisted-living/) or memory care community. **What kind of care does an assisted living community provide?** Assisted living is a long-term care solution if your parent needs assistance and is no longer safe or healthy living on their own. An assisted living community provides around-the-clock care services by trained caregivers in a home-like environment. The care staff can assist the resident with ADLs (activities of daily living) like dressing, toileting, personal hygiene, bathing, eating, and transferring. Most assisted living communities employ an on-staff nurse who oversees the medical care plans of each resident and assists with changes in care. They work with the care staff who typically are not RN’s but are trained to administer medications and fulfill the daily care needs of the residents. Besides basic rent, residents pay for the care that they need or as their needs increase. Besides getting expert care and support, assisted living communities are built on a social model. Residents are encouraged to engage and interact with their neighbors and staff members throughout the day. The community offers a variety of entertainment options, daily activities, exercise classes, excursions, and events to promote friendships and comradery. In our Áegis Living communities, we have a staff of**[Life Enrichment](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/seniors-engaging-with-amazon/)** directors who schedule a full calendar of rotating activities based on the interests, hobbies, and make-up of the residents within each community. Residents in an assisted living community often live in a private apartment. But most residents will spend their waking hours in the communal areas, like the living room or coffee nook, with their new neighbors and friends. An assisted living community will handle everyday chores like cooking three meals per day, providing snacks and beverages throughout the day, and including house cleaning, laundry, and transportation to appointments. As your parent’s needs progress with age, illness, or frailty, our care staff can assist them with more care and support. We understand that their needs will change and we can adapt to meet those changing needs. Our goal is to keep them as comfortable and healthy as possible, while giving them the opportunity to continue living a vibrant life. If they require around-the-clock medical attention and monitoring, they may need to move to a hospital or skilled nursing facility until their condition improves. **Transitional Care Option** A transitional care option provides a gradual transition and progressive assistance for those with early-to-mild memory loss. Not all assisted living communities offer a formal transitional care program, or they may be created a little different from each other. This intermediate program may offer smaller group activities that are less challenging, yet still stimulate and maintain brain activity. They may provide an environment of close interaction and constant supervision from a staff member. They should also encourage participation and socializing to avoid isolation. Residents in transitional care benefit from the extensive memory care training that staff complete. **Transitional Care may provide:** - An environment of close interaction and supervision by highly trained staff. - Care givers who encourage socializing and participation in community events to avoid isolation. - Activities and dining options tailored to their comfort and ability levels. - Elevated security and safety measures. - Medical care, support services, and personal assistance options that are available based on residents’ needs. - An opportunity to age in place with dignity in a home of their own, reducing the possibility of yet another move if more care is needed. The goal of transitional care is to allow residents to cope more successfully with their Alzheimer’s or dementia and to maintain their independent lifestyle for as long as possible. A successful transitional care program should strive to slow the symptoms of memory loss with a structured environment that socially engages our residents, reduces their anxiety, and increases their self-esteem. A transitional care program enables residents to cope more successfully with their challenges and to maintain their assisted living lifestyle for as long as possible. **How are residents cared for in a memory care community?** Although some assisted living communities offer memory care wings within their community or on their campus, these are distinct care options for a parent with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia. **[Memory care communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-memory-care/)** can meet the specific needs of residents who have memory loss, and the challenges and behaviors that can accompany those issues. Either as part of an assisted living building or a stand-alone community, a memory care community will provide personalized care to meet the resident wherever they are in the progression of their memory loss. Also, activities, meals, and décor cater to the unique care needs of people living with memory loss. These secured communities offer 24-hour care by trained caregivers who assist the residents. Apartments are modified to meet their needs and keep them safe. Most communities provide additional security measures such as locked exterior doors, motion sensors, emergency call buttons, and camouflaged exits for those who try to wander. The goal is to offer a safe environment that is calm, healthy, and comfortable while encouraging the resident to be as independent as they can throughout the day. **What is short-term care?** Most assisted living communities offer short-term care as an option for your senior parent or spouse. It allows them to stay in an assisted living community for a short period of time while you travel or take a break from caregiving to care for yourself. Your parent will be cared for by trained professionals who can assist them with 24/7 care, including medication management and help with the tasks of daily living. In short-term care, your parent will be part of the community and able to participate in activities and engage with residents. They will be able to dine with other residents for three meals per day. They can relish in all the amenities including attending activities, participating in exercise classes, go to the movies, use the beauty salon, or utilize transportation to an appointment, to name a few. They can enjoy their own staycation while you enjoy a vacation. It is also an excellent option for a parent to try living in an assisted living community and ease their transition into being a full-time resident. Overall, an assisted living community is an excellent option for your parent if they need more assistance due to frailty, immobility, or age. It is not suited for a parent who needs a high level of medical care that requires 24-hour availability to medical personnel. Any qualified assisted living community will know their care limitations and should be able to guide you to a better option. And consult with your parent’s physician if you have any concerns about their living situation. Visit any one of our **[Áegis Living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)**to get a tour and see the levels of care we provide to our parent. Everyone is unique and meeting in person is the best way to assess how we can help. --- ## Seniors Engaging with Amazon’s Alexa URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/seniors-engaging-with-amazon/ Focus keyword: seniors using amazon's alexa Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, hobbies-activities, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living uses Echo devices in assisted living communities and senior residents engage with Alexa throughout the day to enhance activities. Read more here. Our Life Enrichment Directors, who manage all activities and outings for our residents, are a fountain of information. They have a repertoire of musical selections, jokes on hand, trivia to share, and a wealth of knowledge about the lives of each of our residents. It is no less than impressive. But now, with the help of Alexa in our communities, they are unstoppable. Áegis Living has placed Echo devices in each of our assisted living and memory care communities. These are used throughout the day during Life Enrichment programming particularly, as well as by staff and residents. The myriad of facts, figures, information, names, current events, and music are never further away than your voice - “Alexa!” Life Enrichment Directors know that to keep the rapt attention of this older generation, some with cognitive impairment, can be fleeting. No one wants to watch an opportunity go by, especially when you can engage with a resident, remind them of a fond memory, or bring a little joy to their day. For those of you who may not know, Alexa is the software behind the Amazon devices such as Echo. The Echo itself is a speaker with a built-in microphone. If you call out “Alexa,” the device is ready to answer, in real time, a question or command that follows. It does not rely on voice recognition, so anyone is able to use it. The goal of our Life Enrichment Program is to nurture the mind, body, and spirit of our residents. We find that [Alexa is a great tool](https://blog.aboutamazon.com/innovation/adopting-alexa) to support our staff in their efforts to do so. The immediacy of information is what makes the difference in our activities. There are no gaps. We can quickly build on an idea or find out more information to keep the conversation going within seconds. “When we have gaps in our programs we lose the energy and opportunity,” according to Chris Corrigall, Áegis Living’s Vice President of Life Enrichment. “Alexa is an important [vehicle for engagement](https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/05/what-alexa-taught-my-father/556874/) and sharing ideas, allowing our Life Enrichment team to spend more time with our residents.” Music is also an integral part of our Life Enrichment program. [Music is a valuable part](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) of our lives, no matter our age. Music has been known to open a pathway to a person’s life and unlock memories. Having access to music on demand with Alexa can instantly bring a room to life. Whether it’s Big Band, Swing, Cole Porter, George Gershwin or Pachelbel Canon in D, there is an amazing connection that sparks long term memories of amazing moments and events in their lives. Alexa is an excellent resource for seniors needing assisted living and memory care. We find that many assisted living seniors like to use Alexa for current events, while it makes a great tool to reminisce for our memory care residents. And we have found it particularly beneficial for those with visual impairments, who don’t need to read to use the device. “Our residents lose the ability sometimes to recall people, places, and things throughout the day,” said Corrigall. “Alexa is on hand at the moment to help them through these struggles and reconnect them with memories.” Alexa is quick to tell a joke, play 20 questions, report the weather, guide a class through meditation, or produce facts about the day, like famous birthdays, on this day in history, or #1 song on the charts in a particular year. The technology itself is only a few years old. New features are being added and automatically updated every week, so we are learning new and exciting ways to use this tool within each community. The future of how Alexa will be used within our assisted living communities is continuously evolving and growing. Áegis Living is so pleased with the technology that they will be adding an additional device to each community in Washington, California, and Nevada. The ultimate goal is to have an Alexa-enabled device in every apartment. For a generation that did not grow up using as much technology as current generations, this voice app makes it easy for them to engage with technology. Senior residents have adapted to using it very quickly. Alexa has seamlessly integrated into our programs throughout the day. Residents are amazed at the endless amount of information that Alexa can share. They try, but they can’t often stump *her* for facts and trivia. One of our residents likes to ask about the score of the upcoming baseball game. And more often, than not, Alexa seems to get close or guess the score correctly. Alexa has been a useful asset to our assisted living and memory care communities, but it can also help the caregiver at home. Alexa can be programmed to remind a caregiver to give their parent medication at a certain time each day. The device can answer simple questions about what time it is or the weather in a pleasant manner for those seniors who are forgetful. And if you care for a loved one with [dementia who is repetitive](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/managing-repetitive-behaviors-in-a-parent-with-dementia/), Alexa will happily answer a question over and over again with the same correct answer which can give a caregiver a break. It is also helpful for the elderly with mobility issues because it will obey commands such as turning off a light in a room or adjusting the temperature on the thermostat with only the sound of their voice. It is an intelligent companion for many caregivers at home who need more support. If your mom or dad can no longer live on their own, contact an [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near to you to take a tour. We are happy to show you everything we have to offer your parent. And you can see Alexa in action for yourself! --- ## Does Alcohol Cause Dementia? What Families Should Know URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, medication-management, social-connection, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: Heavy drinking can cause alcohol-related dementia in older adults. Learn the warning signs, how it's diagnosed, and what recovery looks like. Yes, heavy and prolonged alcohol use can cause dementia. Alcohol-related dementia (including Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome) results from neurological damage and thiamine deficiency tied to chronic drinking. Unlike Alzheimer's, it can often be halted or partially reversed if the person stops drinking under medical supervision. If you've noticed memory lapses, confusion, or unsteadiness in a parent who drinks daily, the next steps matter. Before assuming the worst, it helps to rule out other causes. Review our guide to the [8 Conditions That Mimic Dementia (And Are Often Treatable)](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/before-you-assume-its-dementia-consider-these-conditions-that-can-cause-dementia-like-symptoms/) and the [Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/) alongside this article. ## Why does alcohol affect older adults differently? A glass of wine at 75 hits harder than the same glass at 45. As we age, body water decreases, the liver metabolizes alcohol more slowly, and the brain becomes more sensitive to its effects. That means a senior's blood alcohol level climbs faster and stays elevated longer on the same dose. Older adults are also the fastest-growing group of problem drinkers, often tied to grief, retirement, isolation, or chronic pain (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, 2024). Alcohol also worsens diabetes, hypertension, and heart disease, and can interact dangerously with prescription medications common in later life ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alcohol-misuse-or-alcohol-use-disorder/facts-about-aging-and-alcohol), 2024). ## What is alcohol-related dementia? Alcohol-related dementia is cognitive decline caused by long-term excessive drinking. The most common form is Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome, a two-stage condition driven by severe thiamine (vitamin B1) deficiency because alcohol blocks the body from absorbing it ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-dementia/types-of-dementia/korsakoff-syndrome), 2024). **Wernicke's encephalopathy**The acute phase. Symptoms include confusion, abnormal eye movements, double vision, and loss of coordination. It is a medical emergency that responds to immediate thiamine treatment.**Korsakoff's syndrome**The chronic phase. Symptoms include severe short-term memory loss, inability to form new memories, confabulation (inventing details to fill gaps), and hallucinations.**Alcohol-induced major neurocognitive disorder**A broader diagnosis covering persistent cognitive impairment from chronic alcohol use even without classic Wernicke-Korsakoff features.As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, older adults are too often handed an Alzheimer's label when treatable contributors like alcohol, medications, or thiamine deficiency are the real drivers. Asking "what else could this be?" is essential. ## How is alcohol-related dementia different from Alzheimer's? The distinction matters because the trajectory and treatment are very different. FeatureAlcohol-related dementiaAlzheimer's diseasePrimary causeChronic heavy drinking, thiamine deficiencyAmyloid and tau buildup in the brainTypical onset age50 to 7065 and olderProgressionOften stabilizes or partially reverses with abstinenceProgressive and currently incurableHallmark symptomMemory gaps, confabulation, balance problemsShort-term memory loss, language and orientation declineTreatmentAbstinence, thiamine, nutritional supportCholinesterase inhibitors, anti-amyloid therapiesRoughly 1 in 9 Americans aged 65 and older lives with Alzheimer's ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024), but a meaningful share of dementia in older adults is linked to alcohol use, and that share is potentially reversible. ## What are the warning signs in an aging parent? Consider a family whose 78-year-old mother starts forgetting whether she took her blood pressure pill, repeats the same question across an afternoon, and has bruises from "bumping into things." She also empties a bottle of wine most evenings. That combination, memory loss plus unsteady gait plus daily heavy drinking, points toward an alcohol workup, not just an Alzheimer's screen. Watch for: - Repetitive questions and short-term memory gaps - Confabulation (filling memory blanks with confident, inaccurate stories) - Unsteady walking, frequent falls, or unexplained bruises - Abnormal eye movements or double vision - Poor nutrition, weight loss, neglected hygiene - Hiding bottles, drinking before noon, or defensiveness about alcohol For example, an 82-year-old widower who falls reaching for the coffee pot, then can't recall how he got the bruise on his hip, deserves both a fall assessment and a candid conversation about drinking. ## How is it diagnosed and treated? A primary care physician or geriatrician can screen with a neurological exam, cognitive testing, and labs. Typical workup includes serum vitamin B1, liver enzymes, serum albumin, and ruling out stroke or other causes per [Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/wernicke-korsakoff-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20355569) diagnostic guidance, 2024. - **Stop drinking under medical supervision.** Sudden withdrawal in an older adult can cause seizures or delirium tremens; hospital-based detox is often recommended ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/about-alcohol-use/index.html), 2024). - **Replace thiamine immediately.** High-dose B1, usually by injection at first, can reverse Wernicke symptoms within days. - **Restore nutrition.** Address protein, magnesium, and broader B-vitamin deficiencies. - **Treat the alcohol use disorder.** Inpatient programs, outpatient counseling, and senior-specific groups all help; older adults respond well to age-tailored treatment. - **Reassess cognition at 6 and 12 months.** A meaningful share of patients regain significant function with sustained abstinence ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-dementia/types-of-dementia/korsakoff-syndrome), 2024). ## How do you talk to a parent about their drinking? Pick a sober moment. Lead with what you've seen, not labels. "Dad, I noticed three empty bottles this week and you fell on Tuesday," lands better than "You're an alcoholic." The AARP caregiving resources, 2023, recommend a series of short, calm conversations rather than a single confrontation. Bring a trusted physician into the loop early; older adults often accept a doctor's recommendation more readily than a child's. If you're also weighing whether it's time for more support, our guides on [tips and tests for detection](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/suspect-alzheimers-tips-and-tests-for-detection/), [vascular dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-vascular-dementia-understanding-the-second-most-common-type-of-dementia/), and [science-backed ways to reduce Alzheimer's risk](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/8-ways-combat-alzheimers-disease/) can help you map next steps. ## Frequently asked questions ### Can alcohol-related dementia be reversed? Partial or substantial recovery is possible if drinking stops early and thiamine is replaced. The [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-dementia/types-of-dementia/korsakoff-syndrome), 2024, notes that a sizeable portion of patients improve with treatment, though severe, long-standing damage may be permanent. ### How much alcohol is too much for a senior? The National Institute on Aging suggests adults over 65 who choose to drink limit themselves to no more than one drink per day and no more than seven per week ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alcohol-misuse-or-alcohol-use-disorder/facts-about-aging-and-alcohol), 2024). Any amount can be risky when combined with sedatives, opioids, or blood thinners. ### Is alcohol-related dementia the same as Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome? Wernicke-Korsakoff is the most recognized form, but alcohol can also drive a broader alcohol-induced major neurocognitive disorder without the classic eye and balance findings. Both fall under the umbrella of alcohol-related brain damage. ### Will a doctor test for it specifically? Yes. A geriatrician can order serum B1, liver function tests, and a neurological exam, and use cognitive screening to distinguish alcohol-related changes from Alzheimer's or vascular dementia. Be candid about how much your parent actually drinks; under-reporting is common. ### Should I stage a formal intervention? For older adults, short, repeated conversations tend to work better than dramatic interventions. Loop in their physician and a licensed counselor experienced with geriatric substance use before escalating. ### What if my parent refuses to quit? Focus on safety: lock up medications, remove driving access if needed, and consult an elder-law attorney about decision-making capacity if cognition is severely impaired. Continue offering support without enabling, and care for your own health in parallel. **Need a nurse's perspective?** Our community nurses can talk through assessment, memory care options, and next steps for a parent whose drinking may be affecting their cognition. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to start the conversation. --- ## 5 Safe Exercises for Seniors: A Doctor-Backed Guide URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-five-safe-exercises-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: exercises Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, arthritis-mobility, exercise-fitness, sleep, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Discover 5 doctor-recommended safe exercises for seniors - including walking, tai chi, and swimming - to build strength, balance, and prevent falls. The five safest, most effective exercises for older adults are **walking, tai chi, chair or gentle yoga, swimming, and strength-and-balance training**. Each is low-impact, scalable to ability, and supports the two outcomes that matter most after age 65: preserving independence and preventing falls. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends that adults 65+ get at least 150 minutes of moderate activity plus two days of muscle-strengthening work each week ([CDC Physical Activity Guidelines](https://www.cdc.gov/physical-activity-basics/guidelines/older-adults.html), 2023). ## Why does exercise matter so much after 65? Falls are the leading cause of injury and injury death among older adults, and roughly one in four Americans 65+ falls each year ([CDC Older Adult Falls Data](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). Regular movement directly reduces that risk by strengthening leg and core muscles, sharpening reaction time, and improving confidence on the feet. Exercise also protects the brain. As neuroscientist Daniel Levitin, PhD, author of *Successful Aging*, has argued, consistent physical activity is one of the most powerful interventions for cognitive resilience - more reliable than any supplement currently on the market. Movement boosts blood flow to the hippocampus, improves sleep quality, and lowers rates of depression and anxiety in older adults ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/exercise-and-physical-activity/health-benefits-exercise-and-physical-activity), 2024). For more lifestyle context, see our pillar piece on [10 longevity tips for a better life](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-longevity-tips-for-a-better-life/). ## What should you do before starting a new routine? Before your parent laces up sneakers or signs up for a class, schedule a quick visit with their primary care physician. The American Academy of Family Physicians recommends a pre-exercise screening for anyone over 65 with cardiovascular risk factors, joint replacements, or balance concerns (AAFP, 2017). Light-intensity exerciseActivity you can do while easily holding a conversation - slow walking, gentle stretching, chair yoga.Moderate-intensity exerciseActivity that raises your heart rate and breathing but still lets you talk in short sentences - brisk walking, water aerobics, tai chi.Functional fitnessTraining that mimics daily tasks (standing from a chair, carrying groceries, climbing stairs) to maintain independence. ## How does walking 30 minutes a day change health outcomes? Walking is the most accessible exercise on this list. It requires nothing but supportive shoes and lowers risk for heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and dementia ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/physical-activity-basics/benefits/index.html), 2024). Build up gradually. For example, an 82-year-old who has been mostly sedentary should start with two 10-minute walks per day around the block, then add five minutes each week until reaching 30 continuous minutes. If weather or balance is a concern, indoor mall walking and senior community walking clubs are excellent alternatives. - Buy supportive, closed-toe walking shoes with non-slip soles. - Start with 10 minutes a day for the first week. - Add 5 minutes per week until you reach 30 minutes. - Use a cane or walker if recommended - these *extend* independence, they don't shorten it. - Walk with a buddy whenever possible for safety and accountability. ## Why is tai chi often called "meditation in motion"? Tai chi combines slow, choreographed movements with deep breathing. The National Institute on Aging highlights tai chi as one of the most evidence-supported activities for improving balance and reducing fall risk in older adults ([NIA](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/exercise-and-physical-activity/three-types-exercise-can-improve-your-health-and-physical), 2024). Consider a 78-year-old grandmother who started a 12-week tai chi class at her local senior center after a minor stumble in her kitchen. By the end of the program, she reported feeling steadier carrying laundry up the stairs and sleeping more deeply - outcomes consistent with what the Mayo Clinic describes in its tai chi overview ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/tai-chi/art-20045184), 2024). ## Is yoga safe if your parent has arthritis or limited mobility? Yes - particularly chair yoga and gentle Hatha yoga. The Arthritis Foundation lists yoga as one of the best low-impact options for stiff joints because poses can be modified or done seated (Arthritis Foundation, 2024). Yoga also doubles as a stress-management tool. The breathing skills learned on the mat translate to everyday calm - useful for sleep, blood pressure, and anxiety. Pair it with the nutrition strategies in our guide to [healthy eating for mental wellness](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-eating-for-mental-wellness/) for compounding benefits. ## What makes swimming uniquely good for older bodies? Water supports up to 90% of body weight, which means the joints get a break while the heart and lungs still do meaningful work (CDC Water-Based Exercise, 2024). For seniors with osteoarthritis, hip replacements, or chronic back pain, swimming and water aerobics are often the only cardiovascular workouts that don't trigger flare-ups. Most YMCAs and community pools offer senior swim or Aqua-Fit classes with lifeguards and instructors trained for older participants. If your parent hasn't been in a pool in decades, a one-on-one intro session is worth the cost. ## Why is strength and balance training non-negotiable after 70? Adults lose 3-8% of muscle mass per decade after age 30, and the rate accelerates after 60 - a process called sarcopenia ([National Institutes of Health](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2804956/), overview). Without resistance work, the legs and core that keep your parent upright simply fade. As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, strength training in later life isn't about aesthetics - it's about the ability to get up off the toilet, lift a grandchild, and recover from a stumble before it becomes a hospital stay. Imagine a 75-year-old father who has started gripping the counter when he stands from a kitchen chair. Eight weeks of twice-weekly chair-to-stand drills, light resistance bands, and a seated leg press at a senior fitness class can be enough to restore that confidence. The key is supervision: a certified senior fitness trainer or physical therapist sets the load and watches the form. ## How do the five exercises compare? ExercisePrimary BenefitImpact LevelBest ForTypical CostWalkingCardiovascular, moodLowAlmost everyone$0-$120 (shoes)Tai ChiBalance, fall preventionVery lowUnsteady gait, anxiety$0-$15/classYoga / Chair YogaFlexibility, stressLowArthritis, stiffness$0-$20/classSwimmingFull-body, joint-safeNone on jointsJoint pain, obesity$5-$75/monthStrength & BalanceMuscle preservationLow-moderateSarcopenia, post-fall$0-$50/session ## How can you tell if your parent is overdoing it? Soreness 24-48 hours after a new activity is normal. Chest pain, dizziness, shortness of breath that doesn't ease within a few minutes of rest, or sharp joint pain are not. The Mayo Clinic advises stopping immediately and contacting a physician if any of those occur ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/fitness/in-depth/exercise/art-20048389), 2024). Also watch for the quiet warning signs: a parent who suddenly avoids stairs, declines a favorite walk, or grips furniture indoors. Those can signal a balance change worth flagging to their doctor - and they push back against the assumptions covered in our piece on the [seven myths about aging](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/seven-aging-myths/). ## How does sleep and medication timing affect exercise safety? Poor sleep degrades balance and reaction time the next day. So does taking blood pressure or sedating medications right before a workout. Coordinating exercise around medication schedules matters - see our guide to [the best time of day for administering medications](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-best-time-of-day-for-administering-medications/) for practical timing tips. ## Ready to help your parent move with confidence? Every Áegis Living community offers Life Enrichment programming built around safe, supervised movement - from balance studios designed for fall reduction to chair yoga, walking clubs, and trainer-led strength classes. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a tour and see the fitness spaces in person. ## Frequently asked questions ### How much exercise do seniors actually need each week? The CDC recommends at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity (such as brisk walking) plus two muscle-strengthening sessions per week for adults 65 and older ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/physical-activity-basics/guidelines/older-adults.html), 2023). Balance-focused activities like tai chi should be added at least three days a week for anyone at risk of falling. ### Is it ever too late to start exercising? No. Research summarized by the National Institute on Aging shows measurable strength and balance gains even in adults in their 80s and 90s when they begin a supervised program ([NIA](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/exercise-and-physical-activity), 2024). Start slowly, get medical clearance, and progress gradually. ### What exercise is safest for seniors with arthritis? Water-based exercise and chair yoga are typically the gentlest on inflamed joints, according to the Arthritis Foundation (Arthritis Foundation, 2024). Warm-water pools (around 83-88°F) can also ease stiffness before stretching. ### Can exercise really reduce the risk of falls? Yes. The CDC lists evidence-based balance programs like tai chi and Otago among the most effective fall-prevention interventions for community-dwelling older adults (CDC STEADI, 2024). Combining strength, balance, and walking yields the best results. ### Should seniors lift weights? Yes - under guidance. Resistance training preserves muscle mass and bone density, but form matters more than load. A certified senior fitness trainer or physical therapist should design the initial program, and resistance bands or machines are often safer than free weights for beginners. ### What if my parent is afraid of falling during exercise? Fear of falling is itself a fall risk because it leads to inactivity and muscle loss. Start with seated exercises, supported standing drills (holding a sturdy counter), or a chair-based class. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often emphasizes about caregiving: meet the person where they are today, not where you wish they were - the same principle applies to fitness. --- ## Understanding What Assisted Living Offers URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-what-assisted-living-offers/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, social-connection, hobbies-activities, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Searching for the right senior care? Learn how an assisted living community supports independence with 24/7 care, social activities, and personalized help With over twenty years in the industry at Áegis Living, we live and breathe assisted living every day in our work. We work on new innovations, and we strive to make our communities unexpected. But if your parent can no longer live on their own and you are searching for a place where they will be safe and cared for, this industry is new to you and terms may not be familiar. Let’s cover some basics of how an assisted living community - whether that is at Áegis Living or another community - can support your parent. ## Assisted Living Communities are All Different Every assisted living community will have a different look and feel, and their services may vary, but fundamentally they will assist your parent with their personal and health care needs. An assisted living community allows your parent to have their own apartment and supports their independence with 24/7 assistance. They may be downsizing, but they are also receiving a combination of care services and safety with around-the-clock care staff. First and foremost, assisted living communities are a home, and the entire community is available to move about in and use. Residents will live in a private apartment, but the common areas like the dining room, movie theater, craft room, and living room are where they meet their neighbors. The communities are warm, friendly, and comfortable with décor and furnishings similar to what you might find in a gracious house. Support services like housekeeping, laundry, and transportation are available for the convenience of the residents. Having their own apartment allows for residents to determine their own level of privacy. Assisted living communities are based on a social model with daily, rotating activities to keep residents active and engaged. These activities will vary depending on the community and location, but common activities are local outings, exercise classes, games, and other forms of entertainment. Áegis Living has a robust Life Enrichment program with educational programs that include TED talks, travelogues, brain teasers, music and the arts, and exercise programs to focus on strength and balance to [help reduce falls](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-activities-for-seniors-may-reduce-falls/). Our programs are designed to encourage residents to make new friends and interact socially with their peers. ## Assisted Living Communities Are Dedicated to Caring The staff in assisted living communities are compassionate individuals who enjoy working with and caring for older adults. They assist with ADLs (Activities of Daily Living) as needed, such as dressing, toileting, eating, or bathing. And are on hand around-the-clock to assist your parent and to keep them safe. From our front desk staff to our chef, our staff understands that they are working in the resident’s home. They are professional yet close to our residents - more like caring for a family member. At Áegis Living, our communities have nurses on staff to oversee the healthcare and medication of our residents and if needed communicate with doctors and family members about changes in their health. Assisted living communities are a perfect fit for seniors who can’t manage a home on their own and need some level of assistance. It’s a safe place to transition out of their home but still remain engaged with others. An assisted living community will support their current needs and is there for them as their needs change. If you have more questions about what services assisted living communities offer, please contact your nearest[Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). Our expert staff would be happy to help. --- ## How do I Convince Mom it’s Time to Consider Assisted Living? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-do-i-convince-mom-its-time-to-consider-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living move Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, social-connection, nutrition, legal-planning, choosing-a-community, for-seniors, safety-at-home Summary: "There are some clear signs that your parent may need care and assistance. Moving them to an assisted living community may be a good option. But how do you" Is your elderly parent struggling to live on their own? The house is in disrepair, and their prized garden is overgrown. Their diet consists of crackers and cheese because they no longer cook. You aren’t certain if their bills are getting paid on time, or possibly, even paid at all. They are isolated because they no longer drive. When you were growing up, your mom knew all your neighbors, but no one is familiar now. Your dad has difficulty hearing, or his sight is poor which affects his safety. Or perhaps, they have experienced a bad fall or aren’t stable on their feet. Does any of this sound familiar? These are clear signs that your parent needs assistance. Moving them to an assisted living community may be a good option for them. But how do you convince them that a move would be helpful or necessary? The first step is to sit them down for [“the talk.”](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/a-conversation-to-have-with-your-mom-that-cant-wait/) It’s not always easy, but it may be necessary for their health and safety. They may need some convincing, so we have come up with a list of counterarguments and helpful points to use during your discussion. - **Not an “old folks home**.” Many seniors are unaware how much the assisted living industry has changed. Many people picture the cold institutions of yesteryear, but the reality is assisted living communities are very comfortable and homey. They are filled with activities, excellent amenities, delicious meals, engaging care staff, and are welcoming for family and friends. - **New friends.**An assisted living community is a great opportunity for seniors to meet their neighbors and make new friends. Seniors often become isolated when they age because they can no longer drive or they are widowed. Assisted living communities are very social, and they will meet a whole community of new people. - **Luxury amenities.** The variety of amenities offered in different communities will vary. You will want to understand what is most important to them and find a place with amenities that match their personality. From movie theaters to demonstration kitchens; from swimming pools to pool tables; or from tea rooms to teacup poodles, every community has a unique set of amenities and locations that can perfectly fit your parent. Communities will have chefs, transportation to appointments, laundry, and housekeeping services to alleviate the burden of a house. - **Schedule of activities.**At Áegis Living, we have Life Enrichment directors who plan a full calendar of rotating daily events to delight and entertain our residents. Assisted living communities will include local outings, crafts, multi-generational activities, cooking classes, exercise classes, and much more. When touring a community, ask to see their activity calendar and share with them what type of interests that your parent has. This is a great opportunity for your mom to learn a new hobby or pick up one she hasn’t tried in a long time. - **24/7 Care staff.** Round-the-clock care will provide for their safety and meet their personal needs. The specially-trained staff will understand the unique needs of older adults and how to care for them with dignity and patience. - **Peace of mind for the family.** So often family members spend so much time and energy stressing about the needs and frailty of their parent that moving into an assisted living community can give the family peace of mind. When you move your parent into an assisted living community, you will be provided with healthier menu options, their health will be monitored, and you can rest easier knowing they are being cared for. There is no doubt that moving to an assisted living community and leaving a long time home can be daunting. Starting slowly, if you are planning ahead of an emergency situation, can help ease those fears. View communities online with each other. Request to receive a few brochures that you can look through together. Set up a time to visit a few communities that seem like a fit for your parent. Easing your mom into the transition will make the move better for everyone involved. However, if you know the change needs to happen, completing each of these steps should be scheduled in quick succession so the transition isn’t put on hold until something occurs that requires a fast decision. At Áegis Living our staff has built relationships with thousands of families. Although each situation is unique, there are enough similarities that their expertise can help to ease the transition. [Contact one of our local communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) and speak with a director who can answer any initial questions you may have. --- ## Dementia Whisperer: Transitional Trauma for Those with Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dementia-whisperer-transitional-trauma-for-those-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia transition Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, memory-care, assisted-living, nutrition, brain-health, legal-planning Summary: "When your parent is no longer safe living with dementia in their home, your family may need to seek professional help and move them to a memory care community" What if you tucked yourself snuggly into your bed at night, only to be startled awake when you realize that you have woken up in a strange bed in an unfamiliar room? What would you do? Would you be scared, wondering how this happened? Perhaps even angry and anxious? This sudden shock may cause you to run through a host of emotions. This can be how many seniors with dementia feel when they move to a memory care community. They may be confused and unable to process clearly what has happened to them. When your parent is no longer safe living with dementia in their home, your family may need to seek professional help and move them to a memory care community. A professional long-term care option is equipped to meet their unique needs with 24/7 care staff who will ensure your parent is safe and well cared for. But this move can cause distress in someone with dementia, which is called “transitional trauma.” Transitional trauma is one of the unfortunate “side effects” of getting your parent professional care. It can last for a few hours, days, longer, or not at all, when they move into a memory care community. How or if they experience transitional trauma is individual. And how long it might last is on a case-by-case basis. Transitional trauma is part of the process that adult children should be aware may occur and is normal. According to Dementia Whisperer, Laura Wayman, by placing your parent in a home with professional help, you will ensure that your parent is safe and secure. By moving them to an assisted living community, they will receive the appropriate care they need - from nutrition and hygiene to making sure they do not wander from home or leave the oven on after use. Your parent will need to be cared for and loved through this sometimes tricky transition process. Understand this is a common occurrence that will change over time on their schedule. **Tips to Ease Transitional Trauma** - **Don’t Share Too Early.** You may want to share with them that they are moving when it gets close to the date of their move. Giving them a month or more in advance may cause undue anxiety or can be too difficult for them to properly You know your parent best, but if you try to build up excitement for the move with a long lead time, this can backfire. - **A Little Fib May Help.** Depending on the progression of their memory loss and confusion level, you may want to try a little fib to ease the transition. You may want to tell them that they are staying for a short time at a hotel. And as they spend more time in their “new hotel,” they will become more comfortable. - **Bring Familiar Comforts from Home**. Surrounding your parent with familiar items like a much-loved chair and family photos or comforts like their favorite blankets and well-worn teacups can help a new apartment [feel like home](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-decorate-an-assisted-living-apartment/) immediately. - **Take Care of Yourself**. During the best of times, a move can be stressful. But if you are caring for your parent and managing their move, this can place a lot of stress on a caregiver. [Treat yourself](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiving-the-detrimental-health-effects-of-chronic-stress/) to alone time, a manicure, or a walk in the fresh air. Try to get extra sleep and eat well to keep up your energy level for the move. Ask for help sorting through your parent’s items or hire assistance to ease your burden. - **It Will Take Time**. Change is hard, and the transition can take time. But over the course of a few days or weeks, your parent will bond with the staff, make new friends, and settle into a new routine. Be patient and gentle with your parent and to yourself. To learn more about what a move to assisted living may look like, contact the [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you and let our experts guide you through the process. --- ## Does Medicare or Medicaid Cover the Costs of Assisted Living? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-medicare-or-medicaid-cover-the-costs-of-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: pay for assisted living Category: financial-legal Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, veterans, nutrition, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses Summary: The costs of an assisted living or memory care community can vary greatly depending on the services offered, location, room type, amenities, and accommodations. Your parent can no longer live on their own, but what is the best fit for their care needs? The decision of where to you move your parent or how to care for them cannot be wholly based on economics, but the financial impact on a family needs to be accounted for. Your best option may not be the cheapest option. Families need to consider how they will cover these costs. The costs of an assisted living or memory care community can vary greatly depending on the services offered, location, room type, amenities included, and accommodations. A common question we are asked is: Does Medicare or Medicaid cover the costs of assisted living? **Medicare.** Medicare is most often used to cover the expense of home health care or for a skilled nursing facility. Medicare pays for only a limited amount of assisted living or long-term care services. Although there can be exceptions, most of the time Medicare will not cover “custodial care.” Custodial care is care that helps with daily activities such as bathing, dressing, walking, or eating. **Medicaid.** If your loved one has a limited income, Medicaid will pay some costs associated with assisted living in some states. Medicaid is a government program designed to pay for long-term care for people who can’t afford it on their own. It’s administered in cooperation between the federal and state governments. Each state has their own set of rules and regulations for Medicaid. To understand your state’s Medicare and Medicaid guidelines, contact the State Medical Assistance office at 1-800-MEDICARE or visit [www.medicare.gov](http://www.medicare.gov/). Or visit the Medicare and Medicaid Services website at [www.cms.hhs.gov](http://www.cms.hhs.gov/). We also suggest that you speak with an elder law attorney to help successfully complete a Medicaid application. They can be a valuable resource to navigate the nuances of this application process. **Other Funding Options:** **VA Aid and Attendance Special Pension** The Department of Veterans Affairs is committed to providing benefits and services for our aging veterans, including their changing healthcare needs as they age. But many veterans and their families are not getting the benefits they are eligible for because they are unaware of these available programs and how to file for these useful benefits. The [VA Aid and Attendance Special Pension](https://www.veteranaid.org/), also known as the A&A Pension, is for qualified veterans or their surviving spouses to receive tax-free monthly sums meant to help defray the costs of assisted living and memory care expenses. For more information and to see if you are eligible, contact a Veterans Service Officer at a [regional VA office](https://www.va.gov/directory/guide/home.asp?isFlash=0) or call 1.800.827.1000. **Long-Term Care Insurance**. Long-term care insurance is a helpful option to cover a portion of the costs of an assisted living community. [Long-term care insurance](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/plan-ahead-long-term-care-insurance/) differs from traditional health insurance. It helps cover the costs of healthcare services and support when your parent can no longer care for themselves whether that is in their home, at an assisted living community, memory care community, respite care, [hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/), or at a nursing home **Private Pay.** In most cases, residents and family private pay for assisted living. Selling their house and tapping into retirement savings and investments are used to pay for these costs. To learn more about options to pay for assisted living please visit the [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you and ask to speak with the Marketing Director or General Manager. --- ## How to keep your senior parents together. URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-keep-your-senior-parents-together/ Focus keyword: parents together Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, emotional-wellness, social-connection, legal-planning, choosing-a-community, for-spouses Summary: "The percentage of married seniors over 60 has increased. Therefore, more elderly couples may need to move into an assisted living community together." Life expectancy around the world continues to increase steadily. According to the National Institute on Aging, the nation’s 90-and-older population is projected to more than quadruple over the next four decades. And the U.S. Census Bureau reports that the percentage of married seniors over the age of 60 has increased over the past several decades, while the number of widows has decreased. Therefore, more elderly couples will be living longer and may need to move into an assisted living community together. Typically, more single individuals live in assisted living communities than couples. But an assisted living community can be the perfect solution to make each person in the marriage happy, healthy, and safe - especially when one spouse may no longer be able to continue to care properly for the other. Apartment options range from private studios to one- or two-bedroom units so they can choose a housing option that best fits their needs. Some assisted living communities have campuses to accommodate both assisted living and memory care. One spouse can live in assisted living while the other resides in the memory care wing. This arrangement allows them to be with each other while still getting their specific needs met. Perhaps the care needs are vastly different within the couple, each individual will pay for the services they require or no care services if that is the case. The spouse with little or no care needs would pay for only room and board or pay for the room plus the cost of an additional person. Most communities will be able to accommodate a couple based on their mix of unique needs and apartment types. It can be a difficult process to move one parent into assisted living, but moving a couple can increase your stress and complicate your decision. Make a list of what is most critical for their health and happiness. Preparation will help you focus and narrow your choices. Get recommendations for communities from friends and family. And try to plan ahead, this is not a decision to force during a crisis or health emergency. When [touring a community](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-tips-for-touring-an-assisted-living-community/) for your parents, keep in mind their needs as a couple but also their individual physical, medical, and emotional needs. Take the time to tour a variety of communities; it’s important they are both comfortable. Is one more social than the other? Is dad cognitively impaired? Is mom more active and mobile? The amenities, activities, and medical care should be considered for both. It will be a balancing act to get the appropriate care and accommodate their personalities. Compromises will be made but both can still be very happy. The thought of living apart after 50 years or more of marriage would be heartbreaking or devastating for any couple. But if they can no longer live on their own, an assisting living community can be an excellent fit for both. And with each other, the move into a new community can be made easier together. Tour an [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community near you to speak with a community professional or one of our happy couples. --- ## Compare the Costs of In-Home Care with Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/compare-the-costs-of-in-home-care-with-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, in-home-care, nutrition, exercise-fitness, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-caregivers Summary: When researching assisted living for a parent who can no longer live alone, evaluate these key factors to make the best choice for your family. As you research care options for a parent who can no longer live on their own, there are many factors to evaluate to make the best decision for your family. We know that your choice cannot be based simply on economics, but we understand that the cost is an important factor that needs to be considered. Does assisted living cost more or less than in-home care? We can provide you with some guidelines to help you compare the costs and educate yourself as a consumer. ## Evaluating the cost of an assisted living community Evaluating the cost of an assisted living community or memory care community is straightforward once you have toured a community. The community will assess your parent’s needs and provide your family with a breakdown of the costs and what that includes. But to make an “apples-to-apples” comparison with in-home care will take a little more work on your part. You will need to assess all the costs for your parent to live at home. In-home care services charge on an hourly basis, but it does not include living expenses such as rent or mortgage, property taxes, insurance, home maintenance, utilities, and food. These at-home living expenses should be part of your evaluation for a precise comparison. The average monthly cost for an assisted living community in California is $4,500 per month and $5,500 per month in Washington, according to [Genworth](https://www.genworth.com/aging-and-you/finances/cost-of-care.html). These fees include rent, plus amenities and basic services such as housekeeping, meals, transportation, and utilities. But if your parent needs around-the-clock care, an assisted living or memory care community will cost much less than a comparable 24-hour, live-in home health aide. When considering in-home care, you need to assess the number of hours of assistance your parent will need. If you are working full time and need someone to stay with your parent 40 hours per week, then it will cost approximately $5,339 - 5,815 per month in California and Washington State. Also, you will need to consider any [modifications to the home](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/bathroom-safety-for-your-aging-parent/) (ramp, handrail, grab bars, chair lift, and bathroom fixtures) for safety and comfort. As their caregiver, you would handle their care between scheduled hours, manage the schedules of your in-home care staff, and cover if help is not available or during holidays. And you need to prepare for increased hours if their needs change or health declines. As you evaluate your options, weigh the intangible benefits and amenities that come with living in an assisted living community: - Companionship and social interaction - Access to transportation, especially for medical appointments - Chef-prepared meals and nutritional programs for seniors - 24-hour security - Around-the-clock care staff - Medication monitoring - Housekeeping and laundry services - Entertainment and amenities, such as a movie theater or pool - Exercise and fitness programs - Activities and outings - Private or shared apartment ## Benefits of Assisted Living The additional benefit to consider when moving your parent to an assisted living or memory care community is your peace of mind. You can relax knowing they are well cared for when you are not there - no middle of the night phone calls from your parent or worry they are not taking their medication on time. And best of all, you will be able to work on your [relationship as parent/child](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-tips-to-transition-into-a-caregiver/) with less focus as their caregiver. This can be a beneficial move for their health and help lower your stress. If you have questions about comparisons between assisted living care and in-home care contact your nearest [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). --- ## Dementia Whisperer: Denial, A Survival Mechanism URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dementia-whisperer-denial-a-survival-mechanism/ Focus keyword: dementia denial Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, memory-care, brain-health, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-caregivers Summary: Áegis Living discusses that while dementia denial is a survival mechanism for caregivers, the best way to handle denial is to be dementia aware. Read more here. In denial, we find our comfortable place - where nothing is changing, and the alarm bells are silent. But denial is only a coping mechanism to avoid an uncomfortable or stressful situation. Denial is why a parent believes they can live on their own when they are clearly endangering themselves. Denial is how a sibling evades the responsibility of caregiving or delays getting assistance because they can convince themselves that mom’s health is not that bad. Or it’s your unconscious way of dodging the facts and ducking the truth of your parent’s declining health and mortality. Denial is easy to fall into because it makes you feel better temporarily. But denial won’t stop, fix, or change what is undoubtedly happening to your parent and their mental decline. According to the Dementia Whisperer, Laura Wayman, dementia denial is a survival mechanism for caregivers. “Dementia denial kicks in when there is something horrendous that our mind cannot wrap itself around or figure out,” Wayman says. As a caregiver, the best way to handle denial is to become “dementia aware” and educate yourself to best care for your parent. **For You.**Denial is a delay tactic. It may buy you a little time to confront what you don’t want to see or believe is happening to your parent. But if your parent has dementia or is experiencing early symptoms of memory loss, you need to act now to avoid serious consequences that can face your family down the road. You need to move quickly out of a place of denial and into acceptance. It is crucial for you to be an [advocate for your parent](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/be-medical-advocate-for-aging-parent/). Get them the medical attention they need, manage their symptoms, and find experts in your community who can help. Plan ahead and research local memory care communities that are better equipped to meet their unique needs - perhaps not now, but they will need more help as their dementia progresses. As their advocate, you will need to step in and make decisions on their behalf. Dementia denial can impede getting the help that your parent needs. If your parent’s memory is failing, it is time to get things in order while they still may be able to participate. Collect legal paperwork, organize their finances, and determine where they might live when they are no longer capable on their own. [An action plan](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caring-for-a-parent-in-crisis-whats-your-backup-plan/) will make you feel more in control and less likely to slip into denial. **For Your Siblings.** We have seen this often in many families where one or more siblings may be slower to face the truth about a parent’s mental decline. Perhaps they recently visited your mom on a good day, and she was okay. Or they know there are issues but don’t think professional help is necessary. Dementia brings not only confusion to the person living with it, but it can be confusing to those around them. Families can feel helpless as their parent drifts further from reality. Be patient and gentle with your family members in denial. They may not want to face the facts. Don’t use sarcasm, anger, or accusations when talking to your family, which may force them to resist more and dig in deeper. Education and dementia awareness is a substantial first step. Share information from a trusted source, like the [Alzheimer’s Association](https://www.alz.org/), or bring your sibling along to a medical appointment with your parent’s physician. If you are thinking of moving your parent into a memory care community, the staff is familiar with family issues and can serve as an impartial expert to help educate and reassure your family members. **For Your Parent.** Your mom or dad may be in denial of their own limitations - both physically and mentally. Your parent may feel embarrassed or ashamed to be a burden on their children. Pride, combined with denial, can make them stubborn to ask for help or receive assistance. Fear and powerlessness can spring from recognized signs of memory loss or a diagnosis. Seniors may experience depression which can cloud their judgment and lead to denial. Denial can also be a coping mechanism to hold on to their sense of self and identity. This mix of emotions can be a strong reason to give into the relief that comes with denial. We understand there is comfort in denial, but that does not change or stop the progression of dementia. Find confidence through education and move into acceptance to get your parent the help and care they need. These are a few tips to help you cope with your feelings of denial: - This is a healthy way to not only express your fears but to track and document changes in your loved one. Subtle changes over time may go unnoticed. By keeping a log of incidents, you will find their health issues more difficult to deny. - **Find a friend.** Find a friend who you can confide in. Someone from the outside may offer a more objective opinion about a situation. They may be able to point out your denial. - **Educate yourself.** Become dementia aware, education and research can empower you and your family to understand the sign and symptoms of dementia sooner. It’s not pleasant to have to face, but you can make your parent more comfortable with early intervention. - **Support group.** You may find comfort in the fact that you are not alone. A good support group can help you better cope and face the situation. At Áegis Living, our memory care communities are expertly staffed with caregivers specially-trained to handle the unique challenges that come with dementia. Our round-the-clock care staff provides families with the peace of mind that their loved one is safe and secure. Our amenities and décor create a warm, welcoming home for your loved one. Visit an [Áegis Living memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community to find out how we can help your parent. --- ## Dementia Whisperer: Family Caregivers and Guilt URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/family-caregivers-and-guilt/ Focus keyword: caregiver guilt Category: caregiver-support Tags: dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, emotional-wellness, brain-health, legal-planning, when-its-time Summary: "If you are a caregiver or an adult child concerned about the health of your parent, you may have experienced a common emotion: guilt." If you are a caregiver or an adult child concerned about the health of your parent, you may have experienced a common emotion: guilt. Guilt over if you’ve made the right decision about the care of your parent. Guilt that your parent or siblings won’t approve or think you’ve done enough. Guilt because you need to move them into an assisted living or memory care community. Or the guilt that you haven’t moved them out of their home sooner. Guilt that your home cannot accommodate them, or you cannot accommodate their wishes. There are many reasons you might feel guilty, but most are unfounded or inaccurate. When your aging parent can no longer live on their own, you and your family will face some difficult decisions. But those decisions can be exponentially more difficult when compounded with feelings of guilt. Guilt is a feeling that you will need to confront before it harms your parents or damages relationships with other members of your family. There is no clear roadmap to how to care for your parent and when to move them into an assisted living or memory care community. Every situation is as unique as the individuals involved. You cannot predict the future, but you can make a judgment call based on current facts and how their health is progressing. Often the best option is to move them into an assisted living or memory care community that is better equipped to handle their around-the-clock needs. And as you weigh your options, you may feel judged by others, or even, by your parent. This is when the feelings of guilt will creep in. **Negatively affects your self-worth.**According to Dementia Whisperer, Laura Wayman, you may have been the caregiver for your parent for a long time. You have [established a daily routine](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/benefits-daily-routine-for-those-with-dementia/) you are comfortable with. But as a parent’s care needs increase or their memory loss progresses, it may no longer be possible to meet their needs at home. Placing their care into the hands of professionals can leave some caregivers feeling as if they aren’t good enough. It can be hard and painful to ask for help, but it is in the best interest of your parent. **You may feel selfish.** Many caregivers neglect their own health while caring for a parent, but your well-being is important too. With your parent no longer in your full-time care, you can make yourself a priority again. You should not feel guilty about reclaiming some of your time and energy for yourself. Acknowledge that you have done a good job caring for your parent, and understand this is the next step needed for their health. **A delay of necessary care.** Guilt can cause you to avoid making a decision about their care. It can cloud your judgment. Waiting too long can cause a medical condition to progress or a home to deteriorate from neglect. Postponing a decision due to guilt won’t make it go away, and many cases can cause more harm. And remember, if you move your parent into an assisted living or memory care community, you are still part of their team. You can still take an active role in their care and should be informed and involved in their care decisions. You are not abandoning them. You are providing them more care and attention. You are changing direction on how you can best care for them. **Conflict among the family.**Perhaps you see your parent’s situation clearly, but other family members’ choices are veiled in guilt. You will need to acknowledge their emotions and help them see the facts to better inform their decisions. Every family member has the best intentions when it comes to the care of their parent, but don’t allow guilt to make a difficult choice harder. It may be time to have a frank family discussion with your parent and siblings. **Harm to your parent.** If you know that your parent cannot live on their own, leaving them in their home can put them in danger. Drug interactions could be avoided with oversight. A decline in health could possibly be avoided with good nutrition and activity. Your guilt can cause a bad situation to become worse if you do not get the care that your parent needs. In addition, your parent may make you feel guilty for moving them from their home. But their judgment about their own health may not be realistic. They may be in denial about their current situation. In some cases, you must carry the burden to make sure they are safe and healthy. **Limiting your parent’s happiness and well-being**. If guilt is limiting your housing and care options for your parent, you may be hindering their ability to thrive. Yes, your parent may be slower and frail, but they can still live a full life with necessary support. Moving into an assisted living or memory care community may mean new friendships, less stress, shared joy, and laughter. Assisted living and memory care communities have changed greatly from the sad, institutional homes of years past. They are now comfortable, warm, friendly homes to share with others in a similar situation. Why let your guilt get in the way of their happiness? **Feeling like you failed them.**Your parent may have said they never want to live in an assisted living community, but this is often said before they get sick, become immobile, or experience memory loss. As our parents are living longer, the fact is they may need more services and assistance as they age. We all hope to be in perfect health and to live independently, but that is not the case for most. With assistance from care staff, they can live more comfortably. You have not failed them if you make a smart decision based on their healthcare needs. [Educate yourself](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-tips-for-touring-an-assisted-living-community/) about the services senior housing can provide, and you will feel more confident in your choice. Release your feelings of guilt that can cloud your better judgment. You are not the cause of your parent’s health issues, frailty, or lack of mobility. You are problem-solving and making the best decision for your family based on the facts of their current situation. Never feel guilty about that! If you have questions about where to start reach out to your local [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)and ask to speak with the marketing director. They can answer your initial questions and help you take the next step for you and your parent. --- ## Holiday Review: Did you notice changes in your parents? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/holiday-review-did-you-notice-changes-in-your-parents/ Focus keyword: parents aging Category: family-communication Tags: depression-anxiety, assisted-living, in-home-care, nutrition, exercise-fitness, moving-in, when-its-time Summary: "As you celebrated with your parents or aging loved ones, you may have noticed signs that things have changed dramatically since your last visit." The holidays are over. The gifts are put away, tree has been taken down and you have returned home. It’s time to take a deep breath and relax, but one thing has you worried. *‘How is your mom doing back at home, alone? She seemed so forgetful and confused during our visit.’* As you celebrated with your parents or aging loved ones, you may have [noticed signs](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-your-parent-needs-care/) that things have changed dramatically since your last visit. Did your dad have difficulty standing or was he unstable when he was walking. Did you notice your mom’s house was unkempt, dirty clothes piling up, and old food in the refrigerator? You may be concerned that they need help or wondering if your senior parent should be living alone. “After the holidays, we receive an increase in inquiries about assisted living,” says Constance Schein, Senior VP of Clinical and Health Services at Áegis Living. “Adult children may have not seen their parents for a while and are alarmed by their living conditions, their limited mobility, or memory issues they noticed. If you saw changes in their typical behavior trust your gut.” After a holiday visit with your senior parent, it is a good time to assess the key factors about whether they can care for themselves? ### 8 Signs that your Parent Needs Help - **Weight loss**. Are they eating properly? Do they have fresh produce and food in the cupboards and refrigerator? Is food spoiled in their house? - **Dressing and Hygiene**. Are they wearing the same clothing over and over? Have they showered? Done laundry? Brushed their hair? Shaved? - **Doctor Visits.** Are they going to the eye doctor for a checkup? Have they gone to the dentist? Do they forget to take medication? Are they hard of hearing? - **Mobility**. Have they fallen and not told you? Can they get in and out of a chair or bed on their own? Are they stable when walking? Do they have unexplained bruising? - **Memory**. Are they forgetting things they should know? Are the confused? Are they having mood swings? Are they depressed? Are they missing appointments? - **Social Activity.**Have they lost interest in hobbies and activities? Are they lonely? Are they skipping time with friends? Do they seem [depressed](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-of-depression-in-your-mom-or-dad/)? - **Finances**. Are they forgetting to pay bills? Are they getting late notices? Are they bouncing checks? - **Home Maintenance.** Are appliances broken? Is the yard not maintained? Does their car have unexplained dents and scratches? If your senior parent’s health seems to be compromised, it is time to [have a discussion](https://www.aegisliving.com/where-to-begin/) about their living situation and care options. Depending on their needs, the options could be moving in with you or a family member, finding a senior housing or assisted living community, or arranging in-home care. These decisions are never easy, but delaying a decision can affect your parent and loved one’s quality of life. Make it your priority to get your parent the help that they need. If you need help reach out to your nearest [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). --- ## 4 Basic Health Tips for Caregivers and Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-basic-health-tips-for-caregivers-and-seniors/ Focus keyword: caregivers Category: healthy-aging Tags: alzheimers, dementia, exercise-fitness, sleep, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: With our busy lives we often forget the basics of good health. If you are a caregiver, try focusing on these simple, healthy habits. Read more here. With our busy lives and packed schedules, we often forget the basics of good health. In this article, we will remind you of four basic healthy habits that can be incorporated at any age and benefit everyone in the family. If you are a caregiver who needs to stay strong for your family or if you have an older parent with compromised health, try focusing on these simple, healthy habits. **Four Basic Habits for Good Health** **Get Your Zzzz’s.** It seems simple enough, but so many of us struggle to get enough sleep each night. Many of us assume that we can run on less sleep as we age, but this is not true. Older adults need at least 7-9 hours of sleep each night. Your aging parent may be getting less sleep or experiencing interrupted sleep due to frequent urination, pain from arthritis, medication side effects, sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome, heartburn, and stress, to name a few. It is essential to help them set up a bedtime routine that is conducive to good sleep - going to bed at the same time each night, avoiding alcohol and caffeine in the evening, sleeping in a dark and quiet room, turning the TV off, and not napping during the day. Find more tips for a good night’s sleep, visit the [National Sleep Foundation](https://sleepfoundation.org/)website. **Walk More.** Many people see exercise as all or nothing, which can lead to them feeling defeated before they even begin. As a simple change, try walking more in your daily lives. Purchase a Fitbit to monitor the number of steps you take throughout the day. Be aware of how often you grab the car keys when you could be walking instead. Can you walk to the school to pick up your kids or walk with your [mom around the mall](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/overcoming-barriers-to-exercise-among-the-elderly/) on a rainy day? Putting on your sneakers and hitting the pavement is free, convenient, and will leave you and your parent feeling energized. **Eat Healthy.** Eat at least five servings of fruits and vegetables each day. Seniors [sense of taste and smell](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/) can fade with age, so make your plates colorful with a variety of produce in deep green, yellow, and bright orange to visually stimulate their appetite. Remember to include nuts, beans, legumes and fiber-rich whole grains in your menu. Stick to lean meat choices and incorporate heart-healthy fish at least twice per week. For healthy bones, include sources of calcium and vitamin D. When cooking use healthy fats like olive or coconut oil. Add herbs and spices to reduce your need to add salt or more fat. **Stay Hydrated.** As your parent becomes older, their sense of thirst will fade. If they are living with dementia or Alzheimer’s, they may forget to drink or eat. It’s important to make sure your parent gets plenty of fluids throughout the day. Hydration is vital to one’s health to keep electrolytes balanced, blood volume normal, aids in digestion, transportation of nutrients, and kidneys functioning. And if your parent becomes dehydrated, they have the added risk of mental confusion. [Dehydration](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/) is common among older adults, so prevention is critical. If you have questions about how [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) helps our residents stay healthy visit one of the communities near you and speak with one of our expert staff members. --- ## Memory Care: Finding Safe, Specialized Dementia Support URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-memory-care/ Focus keyword: memory care Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, brain-health, legal-planning Summary: "Many families are not prepared to care for a loved one with dementia, full-time. Memory care may be a long-term care solution for your parent." As the baby boomer generation reaches retirement age, the demand for senior housing is skyrocketing. Also, as medical procedures, treatments, and diagnosis continue to improve, so does our life expectancy. This combination means that your aging parents and loved ones are more likely to need long-term care. And many over-stretched families are not prepared to care for an older loved one full-time - especially those who are living with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia. Memory care may be a long-term care solution for your parent living with memory loss. ## **What is memory care?** Although some assisted living communities have memory care units in their buildings, these are distinct care options. Memory care is specifically designed to meet the unique needs of residents living with Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/planning-for-dementia-care/). A memory care community (either as part of an assisted living community or stand-alone) personalizes care for each resident wherever they are in their progression of memory loss. Staff are specially trained in caring for people living with all phases of dementia. ## **What to expect in a memory care community?** - **Trained Staff.** Caregivers should have the knowledge, patience, empathy and understanding needed to provide the level of specialized care required for people living with dementia. Caregivers should be specially trained to manage the characteristics and behaviors associated with all phases of memory loss. There should be 24/7 staff that will ensure the safety and health of those in their care. Care managers are sensitive to the needs and frustrations of those with memory loss. They can manage challenging behaviors and redirect residents who may be agitated or anxious. - **Safe and Secure.** [Assisted Living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-assisted-living/) specializing in dementia care are designed to keep residents safe, as well as comfortable. Some people living with dementia want to wander or seek an exit due to confusion, so camouflaged locked doors, delayed egress, and motion sensors keep residents secure. Residents should also be provided with wearable call buttons connected to an emergency call system. - **Nutrition and Wellness**. People with memory loss can forget to eat, or overeat, so a dietary program is vital to monitor their nutrition, boost their immunity, keep them hydrated, and encourage healthy eating. A poor diet may lead to increased behavioral issues. Food should not only be delicious but visually appealing and easy to eat. - **A Social Model.** Residents are not isolated. Programs and activities are catered to residents’ cognitive level and inclusive to keep all residents engaged and happy. Living among friends and being cared for by skilled caregivers can significantly improve quality of life. - **Life Enriching Activities**. Many communities offer stimulation and activities to keep residents engaged and connected to fond memories. In Áegis Living communities our Life Enrichment program provides a full day of activity options for residents, to stimulate their minds, support physical health and provide the benefits of socializing with other residents who have become friends. Not all memory care communities are exactly the same. Visit a number of [communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), take the time to have all of your questions answered, speak with other family members with loved ones in that community, and meet the care staff. The right community will continue to provide the fulfilling life for your parent with the care and dignity they deserve. --- ## What are the Benefits of Respite Care? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-the-benefits-of-short-term-care/ Focus keyword: respite care Category: financial-legal Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, respite-care, nutrition, brain-health, legal-planning Summary: "Most assisted living communities offer a respite care option to care for your parent while you travel or take a much-deserved break." Do you need to travel for a work trip? Are you considering a romantic getaway for your anniversary? Are you hesitant to plan anything because you don’t know who will care for your aging parent while you are gone? This is a dilemma that faces many primary caregivers. Some will choose to skip attending a friend’s wedding, taking a vacation, or visiting distant family members because they can’t travel with their parent and have no one who can care for them. This doesn’t have to be the case. Most assisted living communities offer a [short-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/) option to care for your parent while you travel or take a much-deserved break. ## **What is respite care?** Short-term care, or respite care, is an option for your parent, or spouse to stay in an assisted living community for a short stay, where they are safe and cared for by professionals. You can rest assured that they will receive 24-hour care from specifically-trained staff, including medication management, and assistance with the activities of daily living. They will be a part of the community and able to participate in activities and socialize with other residents. They will be served three meals a day plus snacks. Your loved one can use all the amenities of the building from the movie theater and [exercise classes](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/overcoming-barriers-to-exercise-among-the-elderly/) to transportation and the beauty salon. While you are traveling, they will get their own vacation in a comfortable home that caters to their needs. Many caregivers are hesitant to leave a parent with another family member, or friend, particularly if they are affected by memory loss. Respite care is an excellent option if your loved one has Alzheimer’s or other form of dementia. [Memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) communities employ staff who are sensitive to the behavioral traits and issues that may come with memory loss. They are specially-trained to redirect and calm residents who may be agitated or anxious. They will keep your parent safe and treat them with dignity. ## **What are the benefits of respite care?** • Peace of mind. Your parent will be cared for by trained professionals with experience in caring for older residents. You can be confident that they will be well looked after and safe during their stay. • Opportunity to make new friends and socialize. Your parent will meet a whole new community of peers during meals and activities throughout the day. • Extra time to recuperate after a hospital stay. If your parent has had a hip replacement or is recovering from surgery, they can take a little more time to heal during a short-term stay. They will get 24/7 support from staff who can help manage medications and meet all their needs for a full recovery. • A place to stay in an emergency. If the worst happens, such as a house fire or flood, a short-term stay can benefit an older family member whose home is uninhabitable or unsafe. • A break for a stressed caregiver. Caregiving is a full-time job that can be over whelming. Caregivers can take time for themselves to recharge and rejuvenate during a break. • Experience the community before becoming a full-time resident. Your parent may enjoy their stay so much that they want to make a permanent change. It’s an excellent way to meet other residents, try the food, experience the amenities, and ease into a transition to full-time. For more information about [Áegis Living’s](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) respite care plans contact the community nearest you. --- ## Signs your parent needs care? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-your-parent-needs-care/ Focus keyword: parent care Category: family-communication Tags: vision-hearing, dementia, nutrition, social-connection, when-its-time, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: "As we celebrate the holidays your family will gather together, from near and far. You may see your parent's behavior or health in a different light." It’s the most wonderful time of the year! As we celebrate the season with holiday parties and family dinners, relatives from near and far will gather together around the dining room table. Many family members may not have seen each other for a while, including your aging parent. From these events, you may see your parent’s behavior or health in a different light. Perhaps your sibling, who doesn’t see mom as frequently as you, notices a significant change in her behavior. These changes can happen gradually over time, and you may not notice. Or perhaps you made the long trek home from another city to find dad much frailer than the last time you visited. Your parent might act differently in a noisy crowd than during a quiet visit in their home. Make a mental note of how your parent behaves during the holidays to determine how they are doing - physically and mentally. There are a few signs that you and your family should be aware of, especially if your mom or dad is living on their own, to see if they might need assistance. - Weight Loss. When you hug mom, are you surprised that she has lost a significant amount of weight? Does your dad have no appetite and pushes food around his plate? Are their clothes too big? If you have noticed a substantial [change in weight](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/malnutrition-among-the-elderly/) or poor eating habits, this could be a sign of a variety of conditions from poorly fitting dentures to a reduced [sense of taste](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/) to a more significant health problem or loss of appetite from drug interactions. - Hearing Loss. Is your parent able to track a conversation or do they participate in a discussion? If they have [hearing loss](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-effects-of-hearing-loss-on-the-elderly/), they may choose to isolate themselves at a party because they are embarrassed. Hearing loss can lead to depression and loneliness if left untreated. - Disheveled Appearance. Does your dad come to a holiday event in dirty clothing without shaving? Does your mom, who dresses impeccably for every occasion, arrive without her hair combed or in an inappropriate outfit? This isn’t a matter of fashion but rather if they can take care of their basic needs like bathing, grooming, and doing laundry. And this sign could be indicative of other tasks that are too difficult for them - cooking, grocery shopping, managing their medications, etc. - Trouble Getting Out of a Chair. Does your parent struggle to get to their feet without help? Do you notice a loss of strength? This can be a sign that they are not getting enough [exercise](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/overcoming-barriers-to-exercise-among-the-elderly/), a deterioration in their physical abilities, or a marker of an undetected disease or future disability. - Uncertainty and Confusion. Parties and events will take your parent out of their daily routine, and they can feel a little unsure or tired, which is normal. But if they are overwhelmed, extremely agitated, or confused about where they are or who others are, this behavior can be a [sign of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/early-clues-of-dementia/). At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we want your family to have a joyful, safe, and healthy holiday season. Enjoy your time together because these occasions are precious for your family. But keep in mind that your parent might be uncomfortable or too embarrassed to ask for help, so you will need to look for outward signs or changes in their behavior. We recommend that if you have any concerns about the health of your parent to make an appointment with their physician. --- ## What Is Assisted Living? A Guide for Families URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, medication-management, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: "Assisted Living is a long-term care option to assist senior residents with the ""activities of daily living"" and provides 24/7 care by trained caregivers." Are you worried that mom might take another bad fall? Are you concerned that dad is losing too much weight and isn’t eating enough? Has your parent’s house fallen into disrepair? Your concerns about mom or dad living alone are growing, now what? If your family has decided that your parent can no longer live on their own, you will be faced with deciding where to move them. An [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/assisted-living/) community may be the answer. This new world of options - **assisted living**, retirement housing, home health care, skilled nursing homes, hospice, etc. - brings with it a dictionary of jargon that you may not be familiar with. Let’s start with a single term to define what it is and what it isn’t. This may help your family determine what services and type of care your parent will need. And if not now, this may be helpful information to know for the future. Let’s better define the term: **assisted living**. ## What is Assisted Living? **Assisted living** is a long-term care option to assist senior residents with the “activities of daily living” and provides 24/7 care by trained caregivers in a homey, group living environment. The activities of daily living can include dressing, eating, toileting, grooming, bathing, assisting with medication, and transferring. For example, a caregiver can help get your parent up in the morning, dressed, teeth brushed, and hair combed for breakfast in the dining room. An **assisted living community** includes cooked meals in the main dining room, snacks and beverages throughout the day, housekeeping, laundry, and transportation. Some communities include a salon, barbershop, movie theater, or art/activities room. Every **assisted living community** is built on a social model with scheduled entertainment and daily activities to keep residents engaged. Most **assisted living** communities offer private apartments with or without a small kitchenette area. Residents will spend most of their day in the communal areas with their neighbors. An **assisted living community** that has a designated [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/memory-care/) area will provide specialized care, modified apartments, and additional security measures with locked doors or delayed egress, motion sensors, and emergency call buttons. An **assisted living community** provides care for seniors with a nurse on staff to oversee care plans and is staffed with caregivers to administer and track medications, monitor changes in health condition, and assist with daily needs. The caregivers are specially-trained staff, but typically not RN’s. Most **assisted living** communities bring in specialists on a regular schedule, or residents are able to hire direct as needed: physical therapists, speech therapists, or geriatric psychiatrists, to treat residents within the privacy of their apartment. ## Assisted Living Is Not a Nursing Home Often, **assisted living** is confused with a skilled nursing home. The main difference is in the level of care and pay process. If your parent has a chronic medical condition, permanent disability, or suffers from severe pain, a skilled nursing home can provide round-the-clock nursing staff to medically aid patients with acute care needs. Some would describe an **assisted living community** as more home-like, and a skilled nursing facility is more hospital-like. Most **assisted living** options are private pay only, while skilled nursing homes may take Medicare if they are Medicare certified, and possibly Medicaid if you have income and assets below certain guidelines. The **assisted living community** will complete an assessment on your parent before moving in to ensure the community can meet their medical and physical care needs. If you are wondering if your parent is safe living on their own, whether they are steady on their feet, able to grocery shop and cook healthy meals, capable of getting to a doctor’s appointment or are socially isolated, then an **assisted living community** may be a good fit for them. Your parent will receive intimate care from 24/7, specially-trained care staff who know how to serve this aging generation safely and with dignity. Visit your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com) community to learn more about your **assisted living** care options. --- ## Fun Ways for Seniors to Celebrate Veterans Day URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-celebrate-veterans-day/ Focus keyword: veterans Category: seasonal-holidays Tags: assisted-living, veterans, legal-planning, for-adult-children, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Livings offers way to make Veterans Day memorable for your parent, whether they served in the military or wish to honor those who have. Read more here. November 11th is Veterans Day. A day to remember our fallen soldiers and those who have bravely served to defend our freedom and serve our country. Many seniors on this day will want to pay their respects and honor those in uniform. To make this day memorable for your aging parent, whether they served in the military or simply wish to honor those who have, here are a few ideas on sharing Veterans Day together. ## **Attend a Local Veteran's Parade.** Whether you are in the Seattle area or California, you should able to find a local community Veterans Day parade for your family to attend. Dress up in your most patriotic red, white, and blue with streamers or balloons in hand. The men and women in uniform will be honored by the presence of those who come to see them. ## **Community Event or Luncheon.** Many senior centers or assisted living communities will host events or lunches to honor seniors who served in the military. This can be an excellent opportunity for your parent to be recognized for their service. Or your family can attend to merely honor and thank those who have served our great nation. ## **Donate to a Veteran’s Fund.** If your parent is unable to attend an event, perhaps donating to a charity is a meaningful way to honor this day. There are many great organizations both locally and nationally that serve our veteran population. With a little online research, your family can find one that fits your goals and donate to a worthy cause. Two veteran’s programs to consider are the [Fisher House Foundation](https://fisherhouse.org/) and the [Wounded Warrior Project](https://www.woundedwarriorproject.org/) (WWP). Fisher House Foundation builds comfort homes where military & veterans families can stay free of charge, while a loved one is in the hospital. The Wounded Warrior Project’s goal is to support those veterans who have been wounded during service. They provide free programs and services to address the unique needs of wounded veterans and their families to fill in the gaps between government care. Over the last 20 years, it has been our extreme honor to care for many veterans and serve them and their families with dignity in our assisted living communities. It is a privilege to care for these heroes. This Veterans Day, we honor all those in uniform who have served or currently serve - thank you! Come by your [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community to celebrate Veterans Day with us. --- ## The Importance of Healthy Senior Nutrition URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-importance-of-healthy-senior-nutrition/ Focus keyword: senior nutrition Category: healthy-aging Tags: arthritis-mobility, nutrition, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-adult-children, for-caregivers Summary: Senior nutrition matters more with age. Practical ways to keep an aging parent's diet balanced, hydrating, and appealing when appetite fades. Who doesn’t turn into a kid again around Halloween? Dreaming about a bag filled with sugary treats! To indulge in a favorite treat is fine now and then. The trick is to keep most of your diet healthy and balanced. As we head into the holidays, it is a good time of year to re-exam the overall eating habits of your aging parent. Whether you are a primary caregiver who makes all of your mom’s meals, or concerned about the [senior nutrition](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-nutrition-tips-for-seniors/) that your loved one is getting every day; here are a few things to keep in mind about your parent’s diet as they age. **Keep their diet well-balanced** Eating a balance of foods rich in fiber, vitamins, minerals, and nutrients is vital to keep your parent healthy as they age. Planning meals that are balanced will help them maintain a healthy weight, stay energized, and lower their risk of developing a chronic health condition, such as diabetes or heart disease. [Malnutrition](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/malnutrition-among-the-elderly/) in older adults can weaken their bones, muscles, and immune system leaving them vulnerable to disease. Overall, focus on providing meals and snacks of nutrient-dense and high fiber foods such as vegetables, fruits, beans, nuts, whole grains, oats, low-fat dairy, and lean protein. To avoid diabetes, high blood pressure, or high cholesterol, your parent should reduce excess calories, eat less sodium, and avoid saturated and trans fats and processed sugars. **Key nutrients** Two essential nutrients to keep in mind for seniors are Omega 3 Fatty Acids and calcium. The Omega 3 Fatty Acids found in flaxseed, flaxseed oil, walnuts, canola oil, and some types of fish have proven to reduce inflammation. Inflammation can contribute to heart disease, cancer, and arthritis. Consider planning a meal rich in this nutrient at least twice per week. Second, calcium for bone health is necessary for your aging parents. The [National Institutes of Health](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Calcium-HealthProfessional/) recommends that adults over the age of 50 get at least 1000 milligrams of calcium per day. Calcium can be found in leafy greens such as kale or in dairy and fortified orange juice. Consult with their physician to see if an Omega 3 or calcium supplements would be beneficial to your parent. **Fewer calories needed** Most seniors need to consume fewer calories to maintain a healthy weight. As they age and their activity level falls, they burn less calories throughout the day. They can also lose muscle mass that will cause their metabolism to slow down and lowering their daily caloric need. Often with a senior’s [loss of taste](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/) and smell, your parent may also lose their appetite or food is less appealing. Some medications have the side effect of reducing hunger. But there is a balancing act that needs to be struck. Although your parent may need fewer calories or food is less appealing to them, you want to ensure they are not malnourished. To avoid health problems, make sure the food they get is rich in nutrients to keep their organs, muscles, and bones healthy and strong, but not filled with empty calories that can lead to unhealthy weight gain. You need to consider both the number of calories they consume and the quality of those calories. This Halloween, indulge in a few sweet treats but take some time to ensure that your parent’s overall diet is well-balanced with the nutrients they need for good health. Visit your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community to find out about our Halloween and other holiday events. --- ## What Activities for Seniors May Reduce Falls? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-activities-for-seniors-may-reduce-falls/ Focus keyword: reduce falls Category: family-communication Tags: arthritis-mobility, parkinsons, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-adult-children Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well being is a top priority. Learn more about activities that can help improve your balance and strength and reduce falls. The three keys to reducing your parent’s fall risk are muscular strength, balance, and flexibility. For this article, we will focus on the idea of flexibility in older adults and why this is a key preventative measure to reduce their risk of falling. **Why is flexibility important?** To maintain healthy functional movement, it is essential that your parent keeps flexible. Flexibility in their hip and ankles is needed to control motion, especially when getting into a bathtub or maneuvering stairs where falls often occur. Without flexibility, everyday physical activity for seniors can become increasingly more difficult to perform - and in some cases, dangerous or impossible. As your mom ages, she may use her legs and arms less which can cause tightness and a loss of elasticity. This can impair normal joint movement and restrict the normal lengthening and shortening of muscles which reduces their range of motion. For your mom to remain active and independent, stretching is critical to offset the effects of a normal decline in the flexibility of her joints. **How can you help your mom be more flexible?** Flexibility is the measuring of the range of motion of joints. This range of motion is impacted by the health of the muscles, tendons, and ligaments around a joint. There are also medical conditions, such as arthritis and [osteoporosis](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/osteoporosis-and-bone-loss-prevention/), that can impact join movement which often comes with age. If your mom is having issues with flexibility and stiffness, discuss this with her physician. They will be able to make recommendations whether your mom is healthy enough to join a senior yoga class, [Tai Chi](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) for seniors or other exercise program for older adults. Her doctor may also recommend that your mom meets with a physical therapist who can measure her flexibility. The goal of a physical therapist is to restore her physical ability to function independently. Therapists understand how the body should move and will work with your mom on strengthening her muscles and appropriate stretches to regain flexibility. They can also assess how well your mom is able to perform the tasks of daily living or if she needs assistance. We suggest that you do not start a stretching or [senior exercise](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/overcoming-barriers-to-exercise-among-the-elderly/) program without first consulting with your parent’s physician. **What are the benefits of stretching?** Flexibility is not determined solely by a person’s age. Your aging parent can adopt a fitness routine and exhibit great flexibility despite their advanced age. Stretching is the ideal way to improve blood circulation, reduce symptoms of disease, help one to relax, reduce pain, and promote a feeling of overall well-being. Research has found that stretching can be particularly beneficial to those who live with arthritis, Parkinson’s disease, and multiple sclerosis. Ask your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) Life Enrichment Director for more information about the activities for seniors that may diminish falls. --- ## Áegis Gardens: Chinese Culture Assisted Living Community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/aegis-gardens-chinese-culture-assisted-living-community/ Focus keyword: chinese culture Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, exercise-fitness, choosing-a-community, legal-planning Summary: Áegis Living has opened a second Chinese culture community in Newcastle, Washington, bringing together residents and families to celebrate Chinese culture. Facing the decision to move your mom or dad into an assisted living community can be difficult for any family. Siblings may disagree about the type of care that your parent needs. Your parent may not want to move from their family home. And you may feel guilty or insecure about your decision. Some Asian American families often feel even more conflicted when the very concept of moving a parent into a retirement or assisted living community clashes with their cultural expectations. ## Chinese Culture at Áegis Gardens Due to this specific dilemma facing many Asian families, Áegis Living created a community specifically designed for seniors celebrating Chinese culture in Fremont, California. With the great success of the California community and the changing attitude of immigrant families regarding assisted living, Áegis Living opened a second Chinese culture community in Newcastle, Washington. Áegis Gardens brings together residents and families with an emphasis on Chinese culture, traditions, and food. When residents are able to easily relate to their neighbors’ background and upbringing, they find an instant sense of community, belonging, and commonality within this type of community. [Áegis Gardens](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-gardens-fremont-ca/)‘ Life Enrichment staff schedules activities that are familiar such as mah jong, calligraphy, and [tai chi](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) classes (or “chair tai chi” for those with limited mobility). Surrounded by feng shui design and traditional décor, like a Zen garden, residents feel at home in a comfortable environment. Chefs prepare Chinese cuisine in the Peking duck oven and within the fine dining restaurant that reminds them of childhood meals. The tea rooms soothe with authentic blends reminiscent of home. These unique details and customized amenities provide residents and their families, from all backgrounds, with a community that feels familiar. It is essential to understand the needs of senior residents and they are able to clearly communicate with the assisted living care staff. Residents are cared for by multilingual staff. For residents with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-signs-of-dementia/), the memory care wing, Life’s Neighborhood, provides the care your loved one needs in an intimate setting with specifically-trained dementia care staff. ## Change can be difficult Change can be difficult for anyone, but particularly hard for seniors who are moving into an assisted living community. They may feel nervous about making new friends and finding where they fit. Creating a home that is comfortable and familiar is key to making them feel at home. For Asian American seniors, a home where they speak their native language, honor their traditions, offer familiar cuisine, and provide exceptional care will allow your parent to adjust quickly and feel a part of their community. Contact an Áegis Gardens [marketing director](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-gardens-fremont-ca/) to learn more about this unique community and schedule your tour. --- ## Supporting Your Family Caregiver URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/supporting-your-family-caregiver/ Focus keyword: family caregiver Category: family-communication Tags: emotional-wellness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-spouses, communication Summary: The role of caregiver is one that comes with mass amounts of stress. Read how you can support your family caregiver and take some weight off of their shoulders. Even in a large family, the role of caregiver often falls to one sibling. This primary caregiver can sometimes feel alone and overwhelmed which can [lead to resentment](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/stop-the-family-feud-tips-to-better-communicate/). Your parent may have chosen your sibling or it may be a matter of geography. Your sibling might be more emotionally able to handle the responsibility or they may be more capable of juggling the logistics of caring for a parent and their own families. It could be a matter of financial stability or available space in their home. Or they may have started with providing help with errands and small tasks that progressed into a full-time caregiver for your parent. Whatever the reason or situation, families need to understand the stress that these primary caregivers feel and understand how you can offer helpful support to your sibling. **Give your time.** Offer to help wherever and whenever you can. This may mean giving your family member a break for a weekend or even just an afternoon. Time away will help them refresh or allow them to reconnect with their spouse and children. Primary caregivers on average spend approximately 18-24 hours per week caring for their parent. In comparison, most siblings will only give between two to four hours if they live nearby and even less if they are out of state or far away from their parent. Giving your time to support and ease the burden of responsibility for your sibling should not be underestimated. **Share the burden.** In some families, they elect to share the caregiving tasks based on skill set - whether that is emotional support for their parent, managing their personal finances, speaking with medical professionals, or household tasks such as cooking, cleaning, and shopping. A task is always easier and more pleasant if you have the patience and skill to complete it. Let your handy brother help with home repairs, accept help from your bookkeeping sister to manage mom’s bills, and allow your assertive sister to speak with the doctors about dad’s health issues. One caution, make sure they everyone is communicating, so no task is overlooked or forgotten. Teamwork can lighten everyone’s load and bring your family closer together. **Be emotionally supportive.** We all have the best intentions when it comes to the care of our parents. Try not to be critical of the support and care that your sibling is providing. If your parent is safe and loved, then you should show appreciation for your sibling and withhold criticism. The primary caregiver has a difficult job and deserves your respect. **Financial conflicts.** Money is often a cause for conflict among siblings, so try to be upfront and get ahead of this issue. Some caregivers give up their jobs to care for a parent or reduce their work hours. We suggest that if a caregiver is to be financially compensated, this should be formally put into writing. This is called a [personal care agreement](http://www.bankrate.com/finance/personal-finance/reasons-to-sign-caregiver-agreement.aspx). This agreement can offer security to a primary caregiver so they do not suffer undue financial consequences when caring for a parent. When caregiving responsibilities are shared, it can bring your family closer together. Your parent will be better cared for if you work as a team. Be gentle with each other and support each other on this journey. At Áegis Living we have been caring for seniors and their families for over 20 years. If you have questions about how to navigate shared care giving we would be happy to help. Contact the [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) nearest you for assistance. --- ## Bathroom Safety for Your Aging Parent URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/bathroom-safety-for-your-aging-parent/ Focus keyword: bathroom safety Category: family-communication Tags: fall-prevention, safety-at-home, for-adult-children, for-seniors Summary: As your parents start to age, ordinary tasks will become more difficult. Read about how they can ensure their safety in the bathroom. As your parent ages, there are tasks you may take for granted that they now struggle with or are hazardous to their health. One area to pay close attention to is their safety in the bathroom - you may be unaware of their challenges behind closed doors. In an effort to stay as independent as possible, your parent may be embarrassed to ask for help when it comes to personal hygiene or using the toilet. Slippery floors and an unsteady gait can be a recipe for a [dangerous fall](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-dangers-of-falling/). Your parent may not realize their own limits and risk their safety. Here are few helpful tips to make their bathroom safer: **Grab bars**. If your parent is unsteady on their feet, a simple solution is to install grab bars in the shower, near the toilet, or in easy-to-reach places where needed. A grab bar can help them sit, stand, and maintain their balance. Also, they may have a tendency to hold onto the towel racks for stability, so make sure these are secure but encourage them to use the grab bars to hold their body weight. **Clean floors**. Do not leave towels on the floor, loose area rugs or bath mats, or any clutter that can be a [trip hazard](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/keeping-steady-on-your-feet/). A hamper can collect dirty towels and rubber bath mats won’t move. **Offer to help.** You parent may feel unsafe while showering or bathing, so offer to help or be on hand if they need assistance - especially getting in and out of the shower. Their pride may stand in the way of their safety. You may have to be the first to bring up the topic. **Non-skid**. Showers with shampoo and soap can be slippery for anyone but particularly hazardous to seniors with balance issues. To prevent falls in the shower, place a non-skid rubber mat in the bottom of the shower. **Slippers**. If you parent is taking a bath or shower, they may remove their clothing and shoes before entering the bathroom. It is not safe for older adults to walk around barefoot. Provide them with comfortable, [well-fitting](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/foot-health-when-your-dogs-are-barking/) slippers with rubber soles so they do not slip. **Nightlights.** Your parent may wake up in the night to use the bathroom, sometimes even multiple times throughout the night. A nightlight can illuminate their pathway to the bathroom and within the bathroom. **Taller toilet.** Low toilets can be difficult for your parent to sit down on and stand up from, so consider installing a tall toilet. **Shower chair.** A shower chair is a simple addition to make the shower more accessible to your parent and to prevent falls. This is helpful if your parent does not have good balance or does not have the strength to stand for long periods of time. **Bathroom door.** Make sure that the door to their bathroom swings outward. If your parent was to fall against the door, you or medical personnel would be unable to open the door. This is a simple change allows access to your parent at all times in case of an emergency. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we care about the safety and health of your family members. If you have additional questions about the safety of your parent we would be happy to help. --- ## Your Career in Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/your-career-in-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, fall-prevention, social-connection, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Looking for a new job? Find a career in the assisted living industry and experience how rewarding it is to work with elderly residents. Learn more here. For many of us, Labor Day marked the beginning of the new school year, or maybe the end of summer. The change in season can feel like a fresh start. You may want to consider a rewarding career in the assisted living industry. While you are celebrating hard-working Americans on Labor Day, perhaps you considered a new opportunity for yourself. You may want to consider a rewarding career in the assisted living industry. There are immeasurable rewards, far beyond monetary compensation only, when working with older adult residents. You will work with compassionate co-workers who care and serve others with respect and dignity. Although the work is hard, your job can give you a sense of purpose as you care for this vulnerable population. Áegis Living may be a great career opportunity for you. We currently operate 28 communities in Washington, California, and Nevada. We are looking for dedicated employees as we develop ten new properties over the next several years. We estimate creating 800 new jobs in the next four years and 300 within the next year. Áegis Living is a national leader in assisted living and memory care. Recently, Áegis Living was featured as one of 15 companies by Glassdoor for excellent work-life balance. Companies recognized received consistently high scores from their employees across multiple measurements. This follows Áegis Living being among Glassdoor’s [Top 50 Best Places to Work](https://www.glassdoor.com/Award/Best-Places-to-Work-LST_KQ0,19.htm) for 2017, out of over 600,000 companies. We are so proud of our accomplishments and honored that our employees support our efforts. “Hiring the best and brightest in each of our communities is a priority for us,” said Rick Karnofski, senior vice president of human resources at Áegis Living. “Our strong corporate culture encourages a work-life balance for our dedicated employees along with flexible work schedules, [unique appreciation programs](http://www.mcknightsseniorliving.com/news/aegis-living-gambles-on-uncommon-perk-to-foster-employee-loyalty/article/648241/), and paid time off.” Recently celebrating our 20-year anniversary, Áegis Living is unlike other senior housing providers because we often recruit from outside our industry, including the hospitality and retail sectors. We offer specific training and on-going education for our staff to set them up for success. And we thank our employees for their dedication through programs such as [The Dream Big Lottery](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B5qHHFodWvc) and The Dream Big Vacation Giveaway. The U.S. older adult population is soaring with the baby boomers moving into retirement. The need for qualified [care staff,](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr-NPEbnVwk) nurses, and management will continue to grow with this trend. A career in the assisted living industry will not only be rewarded with job security, but also the gratitude of those you serve. Whether you consider a job with Áegis Living or another senior housing provider, know these important jobs for our growing senior population can be highly rewarding and fulfilling. If you are interested in career opportunities, visit the Áegis Living website to view our [job openings](https://www.aegisliving.com/careers/). --- ## National Grandparents Day: Sharing Time Together URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/national-grandparents-day-sharing-time-together/ Focus keyword: grandparents day Category: family-communication Tags: arthritis-mobility, assisted-living, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living recognizes September 10th as National Grandparents Day. Learn more about celebrating your beloved grandparents by spending quality time with them. In September we celebrate National Grandparents Day - a day to cherish your beloved grandmother or grandfather by spending quality time with them as a family. Any gesture or shared activity, no matter how simple, is a way to honor your parent or grandparent. We have come up with four easy activities to do together if your grandparent lives in an assisted living community. These ideas take only a few supplies and can be shared no matter your age! **Share a book.** Find a popular children’s book, appropriate for the age of your child, to keep at their grandparent’s apartment. Share a chapter together from this book each time they visit. This will give both your child and parent something to look forward to when they are together. If your child is learning to read, have them bring a book to read to their grandparent to show off their new skill. Stories are a wonderful way to transcend generations. And many seniors may love hearing classic stories, such as Charlotte’s Web or the Beatrix Potter series, that they may have once read to you as a child! **Audiobooks.** If your parent’s vision is poor or they are no longer reading, consider downloading an audiobook to share with their grandchild. These audiobooks can be saved and shared a chapter at a time during each visit. Headphones can also benefit seniors who have difficulty hearing. **Podcasts.** For older grandchildren, a great form of storytelling to share is a podcast. Podcasts are produced on a range of topics and interests. Research a topic that both your parent and child would love to listen to together. The History Chicks or Hidden Brain can be educational and entertaining, if they share a love of history or science. The [StoryCorps](https://storycorps.org/podcast/)or The Memory Palace podcasts can encourage seniors to share their own stories. Keep in mind, some podcasts can have mature content so [click here](https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/20-podcasts-for-kids) for more podcast suggestions with descriptions for age appropriateness. **Coloring Books.** A popular trend with adults is to indulge their creativity in adult coloring books with intricate designs and contemporary themes. This is a great activity to share with children of any age. It allows them time to chat and catch up while showing off their artistic side. If your parent has issues with arthritis, we suggest using wide barrel pens that are more comfortable to grip. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we celebrate all Grandparents and hope you take the time to visit with yours today. --- ## How to Prepare for Your Aging Parents' Future: 6 Steps URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/six-tips-to-prepare-for-your-aging-parents-future/ Focus keyword: aging parents Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, emotional-wellness, safety-at-home, driving, legal-planning, for-adult-children, for-seniors Summary: A practical 6-step plan to prepare for your aging parents' future: family meeting, care assessment, housing options, finances, legal docs, and emotional support. Preparing for your aging parents' future means having one structured family conversation, assessing their current safety, comparing care options, organizing finances, completing legal documents, and supporting everyone emotionally through the transition. The best decisions are rarely made under emergency pressure, so the work starts now, while your parents can still weigh in on what they want. Below is a six-step plan you can start this month. If you haven't broached the subject yet, start with our pillar guide on [how to talk to your parents about long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/) before scheduling the meeting described in Step 1. ## Why should you plan before there's a crisis? Roughly 1 in 5 U.S. adults provides unpaid care to an older family member, and most step into the role with no plan in place (AARP and National Alliance for Caregiving, 2020). A fall, a stroke, or a new dementia diagnosis can collapse decision timelines from months to hours. Planning ahead gives your parent a voice in choices that would otherwise be made for them. As Atul Gawande, MD, writes in *Being Mortal*, the question families should ask isn't "How long can we keep her safe?" but "What does a good day look like for her, and how do we protect that?" Anchoring every step below to that question keeps the plan humane. ## Step 1: How do you run the family meeting? Schedule a dedicated call or in-person meeting. Don't ambush your mom over Thanksgiving pie. Invite every sibling and your parents, send an agenda 48 hours ahead, and assign one person to take notes. - **Open with their wishes.** Where do they want to live? Who should make decisions if they can't? - **Share observations, not verdicts.** "I noticed two unopened bills on the counter" lands better than "You can't manage anymore." - **Agree on next actions.** Who calls the attorney? Who tours communities? Set dates. - **Schedule the follow-up.** One meeting is never enough. ## Step 2: How do you assess your parent's current needs? Watch for the warning signs covered in [The Seven Signs Your Mom May Need More Help](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-seven-signs-that-your-mom-may-need-more-help/) and [9 Signs Your Spouse Needs More Care at Home](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/9-signs-your-spouse-needs-care/): unexplained weight loss, expired food, missed medications, dented fenders, unopened mail, hygiene changes. Falls deserve special attention. One in four adults age 65+ falls each year, and falls are the leading cause of injury death in that age group ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). Consider an 84-year-old who slips reaching for coffee filters above the stove. A grab bar, a step stool retired to the garage, and a medical alert pendant can prevent the next ER visit. ## Step 3: Which senior living option fits your parent? Costs and care levels vary widely. Use this comparison to narrow the field before touring. OptionBest forMedian monthly cost (2025) In-home care (non-medical caregiver, 44 hrs/wk)Parents who want to age in place with helpabout $6,673 Assisted livingHelp with dressing, meds, meals; not 24/7 medical$6,200 Memory careAlzheimer's or other dementias$6,000 to $7,500 Nursing home (private room)Complex medical needs, skilled nursingabout $10,800 *Source: [CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025.* Assisted livingPrivate apartments plus help with bathing, dressing, medication, meals, and transportation. Memory careSecured assisted living with staff trained in dementia behaviors and programming designed to reduce agitation and wandering. Skilled nursing24-hour licensed nursing for medically complex residents, often after a hospital stay. In-home careHourly or live-in caregivers in your parent's house; flexible but adds up quickly past 40 hours a week. ## Step 4: How do you map their finances? Sit down with bank statements, Social Security award letters, pension info, and any long-term care policy. Calculate monthly income against projected care costs. An estimated 7 in 10 adults turning 65 will need some form of long-term care in their lifetime ([U.S. Administration for Community Living](https://acl.gov/ltc), 2023), and Medicare does not pay for ongoing custodial care ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), 2024). Decide now who will hold financial [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), whether a child should be added as a signer on the checking account, and how bills will be monitored. Imagine your dad pays the same electric bill three times in one week, then ignores the property tax notice. That's the scenario a financial POA is built for. ## Step 5: Which legal and medical documents do you need? Build one fireproof folder (and a digital backup) with these essentials: - Last will and testament with named executor - Durable financial [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) - Healthcare [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) (medical proxy) - Advance directive or living will - POLST form if your parent has a serious illness - Insurance policies, deeds, military records, marriage and birth certificates POLST (Portable Medical Orders) translates wishes into actionable medical orders and is now recognized in programs across most U.S. states ([National POLST Collaborative](https://polst.org/), 2024). For document templates and state-specific advance directive forms, AARP maintains a free library ([AARP](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/free-printable-advance-directives/), 2024). If estate complexity warrants it, hire an elder law attorney through the directory at NAELA ([National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys](https://www.naela.org/), 2024). ## Step 6: How do you handle the emotional toll? Your parent is grieving independence, a spouse, or a home. You are grieving the parent you remember. Both can be true at once. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: caregivers feel guilty for needing rest, but rest is what makes good care possible. Pace yourselves. Protect the primary caregiver with respite, and read our notes on [taking care of yourself](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregivers-taking-care-of-yourself/) and [how to help a dementia caregiver](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-help-a-dementia-caregiver/) in the family. Forgive siblings quickly. Family dynamics that were uneven in childhood will resurface; the goal is your parent's wellbeing, not relitigating 1987. ## Ready to look at communities? If assisted living or memory care is on your shortlist, our team can walk you through care levels, pricing, and what to expect on a tour. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to start the conversation. ## Frequently asked questions ### When should families start planning for aging parents? Ideally in your parent's mid-60s or right after retirement, before any cognitive or medical decline. The minimum trigger is the first warning sign: a fall, a missed medication, a fender bender, or unopened mail piling up. ### Who should have power of attorney? Choose the family member who is organized, lives reasonably close, communicates well with siblings, and can stay calm under pressure. It does not have to be the oldest child. Many families split the role, naming one person for financial POA and another for healthcare decisions. ### Does Medicare pay for assisted living or memory care? No. Medicare covers short-term skilled nursing after a qualifying hospital stay, hospice, and some home health, but not ongoing room and board in assisted living or memory care (Medicare.gov, 2024). Long-term care is funded by private pay, long-term care insurance, VA benefits, or Medicaid for those who qualify. ### How do we convince a resistant parent to consider help? Lead with their goals, not your fears. Ask what would make their week easier, then propose the smallest acceptable step, perhaps a weekly housekeeper or a medication dispenser. Wins build trust for bigger conversations later. ### What is the difference between assisted living and memory care? Assisted living supports activities of daily living for residents who are cognitively intact. Memory care is a secured neighborhood with dementia-trained staff, structured programming, and design features that reduce confusion and wandering risk. ### How do we pay for care if savings run out? Options include long-term care insurance, a VA Aid and Attendance benefit for qualifying veterans and spouses, a reverse mortgage or home sale, life insurance conversion, and ultimately Medicaid for those who meet state income and asset limits. An elder law attorney can map the sequence. --- ## Follow Your Nose to a Comforting Scent URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/follow-your-nose-to-a-comforting-scent/ Focus keyword: aromatherapy for seniors Category: family-communication Tags: emotional-wellness, sleep, for-caregivers Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and wellbeing is a top priority. We discuss how aromatherapy can relax, energize and help seniors to reminisce. Read more here. Out of the blue, it can hit you - a scent that jumps out of your surroundings and instantaneously evokes a memory or feeling. From this scent, images or scenes in time can emerge. The strength of these memories can take you by surprise. Scents like the smell of freshly baked apple pie from the oven, smoke from a bonfire, perfume your mom wore, the dentist drill, or chlorine at a swimming pool can transport you back to another place or time. (You can almost smell these now, can’t you?) **The Science of Your Sense of Smell** Directly hard-wired into your brain is the [sense of smell](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/). When you smell an odor or fragrance, this is transmitted to your olfactory bulb which is in the part of the brain responsible for memory and emotion. Whether pleasant or unpleasant, this scent can recall a memory. Therefore, a smell can subconsciously trigger feelings of nostalgia or a deep emotion. The smell of fresh bread might transport you back to your grandmother’s kitchen or the scent of pencil shavings might evoke memories of your third-grade classroom. If scents can be gratifying and positive, how can you harness this as a caregiver? Can you benefit from the calming sense of smell? Can your parent relive some memories with the aid of scent? The answer is yes, and it need not be complicated or expensive. Using scent as a caregiving tool can be as simple as looking in your cupboard, cutting fresh flowers from the garden, or buying an inexpensive scented candle. It can be done in minutes when you grind fresh coffee beans or dab perfume on your mother’s wrists. It is being aware of your surroundings, enjoying the smells you encounter throughout the day, and taking a deep restorative breath. **Relax.**Research has shown that the scent of baby powder can reduce stress. This scent can evoke the safe and secure feelings of childhood or the happy memories of motherhood. Add this to your mom’s bathing routine to indulge in this comforting scent. Another easy item you can pick up from the drugstore is suntan lotion. The familiar coconut scent can induce feelings of relaxation from a vacation at the beach. **Energize.** Caregiving is hard work. If you are feeling sleepy in the afternoon, don’t grab another cup of coffee or a sugary caffeinated soda but try popping a peppermint. This powerful menthol scent can open up your sinuses and help you feel alert. Citrus is another refreshing scent to make you feel energized. Try scents of lemon, orange, or grapefruit to combat stress and fatigue. **Reminisce.** There are many scents that evoke positive memories but are personal to you or your parent. Perhaps your dad spent his Sunday afternoons tinkering under the hood of his car, so he enjoys the smells of the garage. Maybe it’s the aftershave that your grandfather wore, the detergent that your mom used, or the scent of snow hanging in the air that takes you back. These scents are personal and can change your mood. Keep a catalog of these personal scents. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we believe in the power of scent and its positive impact on our residents and staff. We have created a proprietary scent for our communities designed to help relax the body and calm the mind. Almost undetectable, this subtle blend of chamomile, lavender, and other complementary ingredients reduces stress and anxiety. We also use a diffused aromatherapy scent as part of our Comfort Touch, caring touch program. When you take a tour of our community, see if you can smell this calming scent for yourself and ask about our Comfort Touch Program. --- ## How to Properly Use a Cane URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-properly-use-a-cane/ Focus keyword: correct cane use Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, fall-prevention, exercise-fitness, moving-in, for-seniors Summary: A cane can serve as a false sense of security if not used correctly. Áegis Living discusses how to properly use a cane. Learn more here. Many seniors resist using a cane because they don’t want to appear old or frail. A common issue we see among seniors is using the furniture in their homes to stabilize themselves when walking. They move from chair to couch, countertop to the wall, and build a network of furnishings to move about their home. This can be a real problem when your parent ventures out of their home or moves into an assisted living community. Throughout our Áegis Living communities, we have installed decorative wainscoting that also functions as a handrail for residents to use as they walk down our hallways, for extra support. If your dad or mom is off balance or limping, consult with their physician about [using a cane](http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/healthy-aging/multimedia/canes/sls-20077060) or a walker to help steady them on their feet. A second issue we find is the improper use of their cane. If the cane is not being properly used or is ill-fitted, it can’t help an unsteady individual. It can sometimes serve as a false sense of security if not used correctly and sometimes, even contribute [to a fall](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/keeping-steady-on-your-feet/). How to safely walk with a cane on a level surface: - Hold the cane in the hand on your “good” side (the healthy leg) to better support the opposite painful, weak, or injured leg - As you take a step with your weak leg, bring the cane forward at the same time. - Lean your weight through your grasp holding the cane for extra stability. Keep your head up and don’t look down at your feet. - Always have the weak leg assume your first weight-bearing step on a flat surface with the heel first. Try to keep a natural step length and pace when walking. - The cane should move the distance of an average step forward. With each move forward, you should not be stepping ahead of the cane. - If you are using the cane for general mobility (rather than an injury) hold the cane in your dominant hand to bear the most weight. - The length of a cane is important. [The cane should fit](http://www.arthritis.org/living-with-arthritis/pain-management/joint-protection/cane-tips.php) so the handle falls comfortably into the palm of your “good” side or dominant hand when relaxed with the elbow slightly bent. If your cane is too high, this can hurt your shoulder and if it is too low, it can cause you to slouch over. The American Physical Therapy Association (APTA) suggests that any senior who uses a walker or cane should be properly assessed and fitted by a physical therapist to avoid falls. If your parent is working with a physical therapist, they may have a specific plan or directions for use of their cane that is different from these instructions. Always refer to their doctor or physical therapist if you have questions about their stability. --- ## Introverts: Finding Comfort in an Assisted Living Community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/introverts-finding-comfort-in-an-assisted-living-community/ Focus keyword: introverts in a community Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, social-connection, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors, pets, hobbies-activities Summary: Peppering your Facebook feed, you may have seen some online surveys to identify if you are an introvert or extrovert. Peppering your Facebook feed, you may have seen some online surveys to identify if you are an introvert or extrovert. Research has found approximately 50% of our population is made up of introverts - making it possible that one of your parents is an introvert. If your parent tends to avoid large social situations, moving into an assisted living community might be a concern for your family. How will they fit in? Will they be happy? How can we find balance? First, let’s define what an introvert is. [An introvert](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201403/nine-signs-you-re-really-introvert) is someone who may tend to be quieter and is comfortable alone, but this does not necessarily mean they are shy or always want to be alone. They can be sociable but prefer smaller groups. They shouldn’t be defined by their lack of wanting the limelight. We know that an extrovert loves to be the center of attention and this is where they draw energy. Whereas an introvert is drained by larger social situations and they need time alone to recharge. When living in an assisted living community, it is key that your parent has a balance with plenty of downtime to refresh. Natural introverts should not be encouraged to be extroverts just because they have moved into an assisted living community. A good community should understand the idiosyncrasies and personality types of their residents and shouldn’t force them to be something they are not. They should accommodate them with ways to make them comfortable. Research has shown there are health benefits for seniors to stay social. Whether your mom or dad is an extrovert or an introvert, we can find fulfilling ways for them to be social and comfortable while living in an assisted living community. 1. **Learn something new.** Most introverts prize individual achievement, so learning a new skill can be rewarding for them. Áegis Living communities offer a wide variety of arts, crafts, and clubs from drawing and sketching to fly-fishing, beer making, or learning a new language. Our community Life Enrichment programs are set up to involve residents with a variety of interests. 2. **Care for an animal.** Many introverts take joy in [caring for a pet](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-health-benefits-of-a-pet/) and nurturing their bond with an animal. 3. Watch a movie or listen to a lecture. This is a great activity for an introvert to sit with a group and meet others in their community without the pressure of social overload. Áegis Living communities have private movie theaters. 4. **One-on-one interaction.** Introverts can make new friends but they prefer to participate in smaller groups or individual conversations. At Áegis Living, friends and family members are always welcome and we encourage you to come by for a visit. 5. **Sense of purpose.** Many communities offer ways to give back to the local community. Participating in something that is bigger than themselves can give them a [sense of purpose.](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) Your parent may be more likely to push themselves out of their comfort zone to participate with a charity. Consider if your parent is an introvert when touring assisted living communities. Perhaps look into communities that are smaller and more intimate, these may be a better personality fit. Áegis Living manages a variety of communities in different neighborhoods and ranges of size. [Schedule your tour today!](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) --- ## Managing Repetitive Behaviors in a Parent with Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/managing-repetitive-behaviors-in-a-parent-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: repetitive behavior Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, depression-anxiety, brain-health, emotional-wellness, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: Caring for a parent with Alzheimer's? Learn why repetitive behavior happens in dementia and get 4 practical tips to help reduce caregiver stress. Are you caring for your mom with Alzheimer’s and you’re exasperated by the repetitive questions that she asks over and over? Are you frustrated by your Dad removing all the clothing from his drawers and then putting them back all day long? One of the most frustrating issues for caregivers of a parent with dementia are repetitive questions and repetitive behaviors that don’t seem to stop. You are not alone. **Why? Why? Why?** It’s common to experience repetitious behavior from people living with dementia. Due to neuropathological changes in their brain, repetitive questions from your parent are often due to their inability to recall information. They may not realize that they just asked you a question or they may not be able to remember the answer. Repetitive behaviors are often their way of acting out their anxiety or stress or are a release for the frustration of memory loss. It’s as though their dementia leaves them stuck in a loop they cannot get out of. This can be extremely stressful. **How Can You Help Break This Repetitive Cycle?** **Contact their physician.** Sometimes certain medications can be the cause of restlessness or repetitive behaviors. Ask their physician to review their medications to determine if there might be a [drug interaction](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/over-the-counter-medication-safety/) contributing to this behavior. **Calm environment.** If there are too many stimuli, this can overwhelm a person with dementia. Too many distractions can cause them anxiety and confusion which can trigger repetitive questions. Sometimes this is out of your control, for example, while driving in a car with traffic, honking horns, colorful signs, pedestrians, and outside noises. But when possible, turn off the TV or radio and have the children play in another room to create a place of calm for your parent or make their room a sanctuary of quiet and calm to retreat to. **Enjoyable diversions**. Sometimes repetitive behaviors result from boredom. Have a list of things they enjoy doing and try these when they are agitated. For example, take them for a walk around the neighborhood, play their favorite music on noise-cancelling headphones, sing their favorite hymn or song, or try a familiar task like sorting socks or dusting. Redirecting their attention to something enjoyable and productive can be very effective. **React to the emotions behind the behavior.** When a parent has dementia they may find it impossible to convey their emotions. Instead of reacting to the behavior, try to uncover the emotion or cause behind it. Is their emotion a sign of pain, frustration, anxiety, depression, insecurity, anger, loneliness? What they might actually need is comforting or a hug. Try reassuring them by rubbing their back, holding their hand, and expressing words of comfort and love. For more suggestion on how to manage repetitious behaviors or to find a support group in your area, contact that [Alzheimer’s Association](https://www.alz.org/). If you feel that you loved one needs more care than you can manage, visit a memory care community, schedule an appointment at one of our [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) communities. --- ## Dehydration Concerns for your Parent URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/ Focus keyword: dehydration concerns Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, assisted-living, nutrition, exercise-fitness, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: Dehydration is a concern for elderly parents whose thirsts have diminished. Áegis Living discusses how to prevent dehydration in your parent. Read more here. Pour yourself a glass of ice-cold water to sip while you read this hot topic on dehydration. The definition of dehydration is that you lose more fluids than you take in - which is easier to do during these warm summer months! Many of us believe dehydration is prevented by our body’s own natural sense of thirst to remind us to pour a glass of H2O. But as your parent gets older, their sense of thirst will diminish. And if they live with memory loss, they may not remember to drink liquids throughout the day. Hydration is so important because it keeps electrolytes balanced, blood volume normal, aids in digestion, transportation of nutrients, and kidneys functioning. And if your parent becomes dehydrated, they have the added risk of [mental confusion](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-for-a-healthy-brain/). Here are the common signs of dehydration in the older adults: - Dry skin or cracked lips - Confusion and easily tired - Difficulty walking - Dizziness - Headaches - Dry mouth - Sunken eyes - Inability to sweat or produce tears - Rapid heart rate - Low blood pressure - Low urine output - Frequent urinary infections - Constipation **How can I help to prevent dehydration for my parent?** Prevention is the key to avoiding dehydration in your parent. You may assume that your sedentary parent will consume more water than they can possibly lose in a day. But that is not always the case. Dehydration is more common among older adults, regardless if they use a wheelchair or are up and moving on their own. Here are a few tips to keep them hydrated: - Provide them with plenty of fluid throughout the day that appeals to them, including flavored waters, plain water, juices, or [smoothies](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/). And even coffee and tea is largely made up of water (although these have caffeine) and can help hydrate to some degree. Especially during these warmer months, encourage them to drink throughout the day. - Provide them with plenty of fruits (especially watermelon), vegetables (cucumbers and tomatoes), and soup around meal time and as snacks to help to replenish their hydration. - Try to strategically place a water bottle or cup next to their bed or favorite chair to help to remind them to drink liquids. Assist seniors throughout the day who cannot drink independently. Never leave home without a water bottle full of fluids. - Monitor those with dementia closely, you may need to remind them to drink fluids and keep track of their consumption. Set a timer throughout the day as a reminder. - Make an activity out of drinking with an afternoon tea service, iced drinks on the outdoor patio, have them cut up and mix fresh fruit into water jugs, or blend them up a mocktail or smoothie complete with a fun paper umbrella and fresh fruit. If your mom or dad is in an assisted living community, make sure the community has a hydration program in place. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we provide hydration stations with flavored waters to quench our resident’s thirst. We provide afternoon smoothies as a tasty way for our residents to make sure they are drinking a healthy amount of liquids. Coffee, tea, and beverages are always available to our residents, staff, and visiting family members throughout the day. And we keep an extra close eye on our residents during the warmer months and those with dementia who may forget to drink enough water. --- ## Áegis Living Brain Health Minute with Teepa Snow #3 of 3 URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/aegis-living-brain-health-minute-with-teepa-snow-3-of-3/ Focus keyword: brain health Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, sleep, brain-health Summary: Improve senior care and your own brain health with part 3 of our series. Teepa Snow explains how to manage caregiver stress and avoid burnout. Understanding the Challenges of Dementia Part Three: Áegis Living is proud to present this three part series of Áegis Brain Health Minutes featuring one of the world’s leading dementia educators appearing at Áegis Living, Teepa Snow. Teepa brings 35 years of clinical geriatric care in her trademarked “Positive Approach to Care” training. “A lot of what happens when people get dementia is in the core of the brain, and I don’t like how I don’t feel in control. I don’t like how I don’t understand things anymore. I don’t like how you’re behaving. I don’t like that the car doesn’t work right. I don’t like a lot of things and so when I don’t like things, then I have issues with I want things to be better or different. I want you to do something. I want to know the answer. I want this, I want that, and when I don’t get what I want, I start to feel endangered or at risk and I get more and more distressed. And so with this condition, because I’m in brain failure, I don’t sometimes know what I don’t know. And so I want to know something and you get to the place where you’re going, “I’ve already told you that 15 times and you’re asking me again.” And it’s like yeah, because every time you tell me and I say oh, okay, I go to put it in a storage unit that I can’t get things in and out of, and so it gets lost. There’s no place for me to put it, and so I think well I guess I didn’t ask that yet, let me ask again. And it becomes this never-ending cycle for you but for me it’s the first time I’m asking every time. And it’s just like we are in such in different places, that it means that without thinking about it we start fighting with each other because we’re both frustrated or we’re both confused or we’re both frightened or we’re both upset. One of us has to pause and go, okay time out. This isn’t going like it used to, there’s something different going on here so I’m going to do something different. ## Why Brain Health Should Be a Priority Well, three reasons. Number one, people aren’t dying, they’re living longer, and the greatest risk for getting any dementia is getting old. So we are dealing with more of this than we’ve ever dealt with before. The second reason is if you don’t figure out how to cope with this you actually create your own distress mode and you increase your own risk of developing a variety of chronic illnesses. Hypertension, diabetes, problems with hypotension, problems with your own health, but one of them actually turns out to be dementia. Well, so, like the worst thing in the world is to not be able to cope with dementia and actually increase your own risk of getting dementia because you’re stressed out all the time and your brain produces a chemical called Cortisol. And you’re not resting, and you’re not sleeping, and you’re not doing very well and you don’t realize over time, that increases the risk of getting your own dementia. And it’s like okay, well time out, that’s crazy. And then the third reason is if we don’t figure out how to cope with dementia all we feel is frustrated, and angry, and upset. And nobody should have relationships with people they care about that are so miserable all the time. You start to realize, look I can do something and it makes a difference and suddenly, yeah, okay I can do this again because now I know that what I do, I can make a difference. Not all the time, but at least some of the time.” --- ## Áegis Living Brain Health Minute with Teepa Snow #2 of 3 URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/aegis-living-brain-health-minute-with-teepa-snow-2-of-3/ Focus keyword: brain health Category: aegis-stories Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, brain-health, emotional-wellness, driving, when-its-time Summary: Explore the early signs of dementia and brain health tips in part two of our series with Teepa Snow, presented by Áegis Living. Learn the symptoms. Understanding the Challenges of Dementia Part Two: Áegis Living is proud to present this three part series of Áegis Brain Health Minutes featuring one of the world’s leading dementia educators appearing at Áegis Living, Teepa Snow. Teepa brings 35 years of clinical geriatric care in her trademarked “Positive Approach to Care” training. ## Early Signs of Change in Brain Health “So early signs of change are interesting because everyone that we run across at some point has been really stressed out, really tired, really frustrated. And when we get like that our brains are fritzy. And so when we experience that same thing from the outside, it’s easy to look at it and think, “Well, you know, I’ve done things like that.” But then you start noticing a pattern of it happening. It wasn’t just once, it’s a repetitive kind of pattern. So it’s taking an example of something and then it’s repeat, repeat, repeat. And typically we only see these things during problematic times, but then we start noticing them when it isn’t actually a problematic time. And the kinds of things you might notice is I have a hard time holding on to new data and I’ve always been a data person, but now I’m saying, “So, what time is that appointment?” it’s like, “We’ve talked about this, what time did I tell you? I don’t know. Did you say? Oh, yeah. It’s on the calendar. Well, who put it on the calendar?” That’s a very different response than with normal aging. I would say, “Oh, crap. That’s right, I wrote it on the calendar. Jeez. I need to pay attention to my calendar.” So what I just did is I didn’t recognize what I had done, even when I had done it. I also might get lost when I’m driving or going somewhere. I often do okay getting somewhere but it’s turning around and coming back, and I get off and then I get worried because how did I get that lost? Well, you know, they had a detour or sometimes I come up with excuses and sometimes I’m just scared. I don’t know how…they’ve changed the signs or something. And then I start having issues sometimes with my emotions. I’m much more emotional or I’m flat or anxious a lot of the time, or I’m sad, or I get a little silly and it’s like, “Mom, what are you laughing about, this isn’t funny.” I also can get very impulsive, so I say things out loud that I should not say. I do things that you’re going, “What are you doin’?” I trust people I shouldn’t trust and I don’t trust people I should, and it’s like, “What are you doing with these…you let some body in, you don’t even know them.” “She’s a really nice person, I don’t know why you’re acting like this. She treats me better than you do.” And then a very common kind of comment that you might hear, almost always a signal something’s going on, “This is about the money, isn’t it? This is all about the money. I cannot believe that you’re treating…I know what I’m doing and you don’t need to be so worried about the check book. Why do you want my check book?” And so I seem to be really focused or distressed about this money thing. So those are sort of some common things, talking about old stuff a lot and really having a hard time with newer, calling you by my husband’s name rather than my son’s, you know, your real name. And getting sort of…looking at you for a second and going, “So what is this about. What are you talking about?” And it’s like, “We were talking about the visit we’re gonna make.” “What visit?” And it’s sort of like we had a conversation and it’s like we never had the conversation.” --- ## Áegis Living Brain Health Minute: Teepa Snow #1 of 3 URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/aegis-living-brain-health-minute-with-teepa-snow-1-of-3/ Focus keyword: brain health Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, brain-health, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: Learn to spot early dementia signs and support brain health in part two of our series with Teepa Snow and Áegis Living. Discover crucial symptoms. Do you have a loved one showing signs of Dementia? Struggling to cope? Áegis Living is proud to present this three part series of Áegis Brain Health Minutes featuring one of the world’s leading dementia educators, Teepa Snow, who speaks at Áegis Living communities. Teepa brings 35 years of her clinical dementia expertise and training strategies and shares some of her tips with our families and community caregivers. “Right now across the nation, the scariest thing you can have is dementia, or Alzheimer’s, or Lewy body, or frontal temporal lobe dementia. This thing about, “I’m going to lose my mind,” is a scary proposition. And as long as we’re scared of it, we’re scared to look at it, we’re scared to listen about it, we’re scared to talk about it. Dementia is what cancer was 10, 15 years ago, where nobody wanted to talk about “the big C.” Now nobody wants to talk about “the big D.” And what I’d say is once we get on the other side of that, we can make progress. And until we get on the other side, we’re blocking our own progress. Because we think there’s going to be this little magic cure that’s going to take it all away, and the reality is it’s probably going to be awhile before we get anywhere near a cure for all dementias. Catching Brain Health Issues Early is Important So, we have a lot of folks living with this condition, and we tend to think of it as us and them. But, the reality is with dementia we could be them. We won’t know for about 5 to 15 years in that we’ve had enough brain change that it is dementia, and there’s no turning back. So, my work is to help us see what they still have left. And let’s not see it as a line in the sand, let’s see it as it happens, and I can’t fix that. But, what I can figure out is once it starts happening, how do you still live life until life ends? And, part of that is how do I accept you into my life, and how do we help you accept that life is changing, and how do we find common ground? And, we can’t find common ground if I’m scared. So, I’ve got to be curious enough to say, “Wow, looks like a freight train. Maybe I should step off the track and take a look at what’s going on here, and see if it’s going to pause here.” I’ll put my flag out and say, “I want a ride, because I volunteer.” The challenge for many families is you never volunteered for this, and it is a freight train, and it’s scaring you. And it’s like, well, there’s a stop here. You can get on and get off because you don’t have dementia. But, you’re losing somebody you care a lot to it. Do you want to be on the train with them for a while, or do you want them to travel all alone? And, whether it’s a family member right now or in the future, right now what we know is one in five families is dealing with it. Within 10 or 15 years, it’s going to be 1 in 2 families. So, the idea that we’re going to avoid this condition is just really crazy, to be honest. It’s going to be everywhere. It already is. And, what we want to stop thinking is, it’s a monster. It’s hard, and I hate it. But, it’s just a condition that we live with till we die. So, what we want to do is figure out, how do we do this? Because I personally can’t make it go away, so I choose to be with people rather than to fight the disease. Because, I don’t know how to fight the disease that lives inside somebody. And, if I’m not careful, when I fight the disease it sounds like I don’t like you. And, that’s a very dangerous place to go. --- ## Touring an Assisted Living Community at Different Times of the Day URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/touring-an-assisted-living-community-at-different-times-of-the-day/ Focus keyword: touring Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: depression-anxiety, assisted-living, memory-care, sleep, brain-health, choosing-a-community, legal-planning Summary: Perhaps your mom has lost a significant amount of weight recently because she is no longer cooking and her cupboards are bare. There are many reasons you might consider touring a senior living facility. Perhaps your mom has lost a significant amount of weight recently because she is no longer cooking and her cupboards are bare. Or you realize that your dad is [depressed](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/signs-of-depression-in-your-mom-or-dad/) after losing his wife and no longer socializes with friends. If your family has reached the point where your parent can no longer live independently, it is time to research your options for their care. Depending on their needs, one good option for your family may be to move your parent into an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) or memory care community. If they need round-the-clock assistance with the tasks of daily living, such as dressing, bathing, toileting, and grooming, then an assisted living community can help preserve your parent’s independence as much as possible. If your loved one is experiencing memory loss, they may no longer be safe to live on their own and a memory care community can assist with their unique needs. There are many reasons to move your parent into an assisted living community but visiting several locations is helpful for your family to determine the best fit. We suggest that you schedule an assisted living tour. Afterward, if you are still interested in that community, then pop-in for a second visit to make sure your expectations are still met when your visit is unplanned. We also suggest that you tour at different times of the day. You want to ensure that your mom or dad will be mentally stimulated and physically active throughout the day. And you will want to see the interactions between residents and a variety of care staff. This assisted living tour checklist will help you know what to look for, what to ask and who to meet. **Morning**: **Are residents awake and dressed?** Even though they may need help or are experiencing memory loss, your parent should be treated with the dignity they deserve. Residents should be in clean clothes for breakfast, hair combed, teeth brushed, and ready for their day. If residents don’t look groomed, this could mean that their care is neglected in other areas. Of course, there are always exceptions to this rule but you should look for overall personal grooming of the residents, well-attended breakfast in the dining room, and staff friendliness. Also, it stands to reason, that the community should be clean - especially at the start of the day before residents have begun activities. **Mid-Day:** **Are residents active?**It’s normal for seniors to nap more, but they should not be sleeping all day out of boredom. Seniors in an assisted living community should be engaged in activities throughout the day to involve them mentally and encourage them to get their blood pumping. If it’s a sunny day, are the residents outdoors and enjoying the fresh air? This is a good time to check the security and safety of the outdoor space. Is there a calendar of events posted to show the different activities throughout the day for you to review? Family members tend to visit during the day, ask other families about their opinion of the community. **Evening:** **Are residents interacting around the dinner table?** It might be helpful for you or a family member to visit during a meal to taste the quality and see the variety of meals offered. Does the food look fresh, colorful, nutritious, and balanced on the plate? Are the staff open, friendly, and inviting? Follow your instincts and ask plenty of questions. One important note if you are visiting a memory care community in the evening, there is a very normal symptom of those with dementia called [sundowning](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/sundowning-tips-for-managing-difficult-behavior-in-the-evening/). This might not be something that you are familiar with or perhaps your mom or dad has not had this issue yet. Sundowning is a noticeable change in behavior or marked confusion in someone with dementia that seems to be triggered in the evening as the light outside fades. It can cause a number of behavioral issues that are normal and not the fault of the community. But if someone is experiencing behavior issues, it would be good for you to see how these behaviors are handled and how the residents are redirected. Interested in an assisted living tour of our Washington, California or Nevada communities? [Contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) today. --- ## Vision Loss May Limit Independence URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-vision-loss-threatens-independence/ Focus keyword: vision Category: health-conditions Tags: depression-anxiety, vision-hearing, nutrition, medication-management, when-its-time, for-adult-children, for-seniors Summary: As yours parents age, health complications become threats to their independence. Reads about how vision loss may limit there ability to live on their own. After the age of 40, many of us find we regularly need reading glasses due to vision loss. Your eyes may be tired after a long day at the computer or you have difficulty reading a menu in a dimly lit restaurant. But when is a vision problem more serious? And when does it cross the line to being a real health concern for your aging parent’s independence? The National Eye Institute (NEI) confirms that as we age we are at a greater risk factor for developing age-related eye disease and conditions, including macular degeneration, glaucoma, cataract, diabetic eye disease, low vision, and dry eye. NEI recommends that anyone over the age of 50 should get a comprehensive dilated eye exam from an eye care professional to detect the early stages of eye disease, before senior vision loss occurs, and to continue to get regular eye exams as you age. Changes in eyesight are a normal part of the aging process. But for those with an eye condition or vision loss, it is can impact their quality of life. **The Impact of Vision Loss on Your Parent** Here are ways in which poor vision can impact the independence and safety of your mom or dad at home: - Poor vision can leave your parent [unable to drive](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/driving-danger-when-to-take-the-keys-away/) and they may feel isolated at home. - Poor vision may impair their ability to read the fine print on their medications which could lead to taking too little or too much medication or even a potential drug interaction. - They may not be able to watch television, read a book or participate in a hobby, leaving them feeling bored or depressed. - Senior vision loss may cause your mom to feel unsafe in her [home](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) - turning on and off appliances, seeing steps when walking, or they cannot read the clock to take their medication. - They may be unable to recognize a friendly face or a stranger at their door, leaving them vulnerable and anxious. - Simple tasks they have done all their life may become more difficult, such as counting change at the supermarket, writing a check to pay their bills, or dialing numbers on the telephone. - They may lose weight, skip meals, or make unhealthy food choices as cooking, shopping, and food prep becomes harder to handle. - Senior vision loss can also be an emotional impact on your mom or dad who may feel this is a sign of their age and frailty. **More Than Carrots** How can you help your parent with vision issues? According to the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/aging-and-your-eyes), there are seven helpful tips to keep your eyes healthy: - Protect your eyes from the sunlight with UV protective sunglasses and a wide brim hat to shade your eyes. - Don’t smoke - Eat a healthy diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables - Stay physically active and maintain a healthy weight - Control your blood pressure - If you have diabetes, manage your health - Prevent eye strain if you are working on a computer or singularly focused on something by looking away every 20 minutes and refocusing your gaze. If your parent needs an eye doctor, you can start by asking for a referral from their primary care physician. You can also visit the [National Eye Institute’s website](https://nei.nih.gov/health/findprofessional) to find resources and suggestions on eye care for your parent. Your mom or dad’s eye health can greatly impact their independence and quality of life, so make an appointment with their eye care professional today. --- ## Sundowning: Tips for Managing Difficult Behavior in the Evening URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/sundowning-tips-for-managing-difficult-behavior-in-the-evening/ Focus keyword: sundowning Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, memory-care, sleep, choosing-a-community, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: As a caregiver for someone with a form of dementia, you may be facing some behavioral changes known as sundowning. Read more for tips on managing sundowning. You may be wondering, What is Sundowning? Does dinnertime prompt a behavior change in your older parent? It’s probably not your cooking. As a caregiver for a family member with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, you may be facing some behavioral changes that you don’t understand or may be out of character for them, starting in the evening. This is referred to as [sundowning](http://www.alz.org/care/alzheimers-dementia-sleep-issues-sundowning.asp). It’s a marked change in behavior or state of confusion in someone with dementia that seems to be triggered by the fading light outside. Although the exact science of why this occurs is still unknown, many researchers believe that dementia disrupts a person’s natural body clock (circadian rhythms) that signals them when to wake or sleep. The behaviors associated with sundowning are unique to each individual and can change as the disease progresses. Here are a few examples of some of the behaviors that we have experienced in our years of working with memory care residents at Áegis Living: - Anxiety, agitation, and suspicion - Disorientation of where they are, who you are, or even what year it is - Restlessness and pacing; can’t get comfortable - Bad temper and irritability or even yelling - Confusion; they may hear or see things that aren’t there - Demanding behavior or completely ignoring directions To manage sundowning, Áegis Living has integrated light therapy programs into our memory care communities. In select communities, residents receive a dawn simulator in their apartment to help reset circadian rhythms. It can provide a natural start to their day and signal the end of the day. Our residents also benefit from a specific duration of specialized lighting in the dining area and a gradual decrease in light throughout the day to reset melatonin levels. In our Áegis Living memory care communities, we have implemented light therapy with good results. Here are a few more tips that we have found to be helpful for caregivers: - Try to keep your mom on a [regular schedule](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/benefits-daily-routine-for-those-with-dementia/) every day and that includes a bedtime routine. We suggest that you reduce background noise and stimulation at night, especially the television. - Fatigue can add to the behavior changes associated with sundowning, so [getting a good night’s sleep](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/reasons-behind-disrupted-sleep/) is important. This may mean limiting naps during the daytime. - Get outside during the day for exposure to the sunshine to help set her internal clock. In our Áegis Living communities, we provide clear umbrellas on rainy days so residents can walk outside and still get a dose of vitamin D. - Consult with her physician if you suspect there may be an underlying issue, especially if her sundowning behavior happens rapidly. Something as simple as [dehydration](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-for-a-healthy-brain/) can impact the behavior of your mom. If you are looking for a memory care community for your mom, our marketing directors are happy to schedule a tour and show you and your family the services we offer our residents at [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). --- ## Foot Health: When Your Dogs Are Barking! URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/foot-health-when-your-dogs-are-barking/ Focus keyword: foot health Category: health-conditions Tags: arthritis-mobility, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and wellbeing is a top priority. We discuss foot health and what to do when aging leads to foot pain. Read more here. Pretty, pink painted toenails not only look nice but can affect your mom’s quality of life. As we get older, our feet often get neglected and can become painful. Your mom may have more pressing health issues but the health of her feet can be a fall risk and impact her independence and mobility. Painful feet can affect balance, coordination, and gait. And no surprise, after enduring years teetering on high heels, women are four times more likely than men to experience foot discomfort. Foot health is an important part of a senior’s [wellness program](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). With age, and having logged thousands of miles, changes happen to your feet that will affect their comfort and health. Some of these conditions include: - Increased stiffness in soft tissue - Feet tend to spread and flatten - Decreased range of motion - Loss of fatty cushion that pads the foot - Weaker muscle strength in the feet - More foot pronation (weight is on the inside of foot) - Development of corns, calluses, bunions, dry skin with cracks, and brittle or ingrown toenails - Diabetes, poor circulation, and arthritis can also negatively affect foot health and should regularly be seen by a doctor to avoid infection One simple, first step is to measure your loved one’s feet for shoes. Are they wearing the correct shoe size? Their old shoes may no longer accommodate the changes in their feet. Properly fitted shoes can reduce friction that creates sores and pain while helping to improve posture and walking function. Second, many seniors [lose the flexibility](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/stay-young-at-heart-through-healthy-hobbies/) to properly care for their feet. They may no longer be able to reach their toes. They may have poor eyesight that makes it harder to trim toenails or see changes in their feet. Some seniors may be embarrassed to ask for assistance. In this case, a pedicure may not only be indulgent, but necessary. Seniors with diabetes or a heart condition should consult with their physician before getting a pedicure. Our parents can stay mobile and maintain their independence with healthy feet. The best ways to support the health of your loved one’s feet: - Schedule an appointment with a podiatrist once a year - Regularly clean and bathe feet - [Wear appropriate footwear](http://www.icaa.cc/footcare/agingfoot.htm); ditch the heels and thin, hard soled shoes - Wear shoes that fit correctly and alternate shoes - Check for any changes in the feet - Don’t walk around barefoot - Trim toenails - Stretch the muscles in the feet, exercise regularly, and [keep walking](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/overcoming-barriers-to-exercise-among-the-elderly/) - Maintain a healthy body weight - If diabetes is a factor, consider shoes that are extra-deep and extra-wide Seniors should not have to endure foot pain. As with any concerns in their health, we recommend that you consult with their physician or seek the help of a specialist. A podiatrist can help determine the cause of their pain or discomfort and assist them in feeling better. --- ## Spend This Father’s Day Together URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/spend-this-fathers-day-together/ Focus keyword: father's day Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, nutrition, legal-planning, choosing-a-community Summary: Father's Day can be an emotional time if dad has recently moved into assisted living. Sharing an activity together will make his day special. Read more here. Spending quality time with your dad is a wonderful way to celebrate this Father’s Day. No matter what interests you share or what would be a treat for your dad, sharing an activity together will make his holiday special. We have asked our Life Enrichment team at Áegis Living to make a few suggestions on how to spend time with your dad to celebrate Father’s Day together! **Sharing a Meal or Treat.** As the old adage goes, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach!” If your dad loves to cook, or better yet loves to eat,[plan an elaborate meal](http://www.bonappetit.com/entertaining-style/menus/article/perfect-fathers-day-menu) together. Shop for specialty items or fresh produce and share the tasks of prepping and cooking. Of course, you will handle the cleanup! Or maybe you share the love of fine dining or digging into a juicy burger at your favorite hole-in-the-wall, share some time across the table from each other and indulge this Father’s Day. **Sports, Sports, and More Sports!** If you have fond memories of tossing the ball in the front yard or dressing in face paint to root for your favorite sports team, relive those memories this holiday. Purchase tickets to a local sporting event to share together. Or spend the day indulging in sporting events on television with a spread of your favorite snacks and beverages. As a special gift, give him the jersey of his favorite player or a signed vintage baseball card. **Plan a Staycation Day.** How often do you go sightseeing in the city where you live? This is a perfect opportunity to plan a day in town to visit a museum or favorite tourist spot. You can take a stroll down memory lane visiting a nostalgic neighborhood or discover a new local find. Jump on a tour bus or find a guided tour of a local attraction. Every city has a gem to see or revisit. **Dapper Dad.** Most dads would love to be pampered with an old-fashioned shave and fresh haircut at a local barbershop. Find a place that will shine his shoes like he did as a young man. Some men don’t want to be fussed over, but this is an indulgent and unique way to show your appreciation. **Forget the Tie!** For those fathers who may have[dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/ideas-for-fathers-day-when-your-father-has-dementia/) or are less mobile, you may want to bring them a gift that they can enjoy. A comfy pair of non-skid slippers is a thoughtful gift for those dads who are a little less steady on their feet. For fathers who are avid readers, a subscription to large print Reader’s Digest, an audiobook of a favorite author, or a pocket magnifier may be helpful. And for the dads that seem to have it all, make a donation in his name to his favorite charity. However you celebrate this holiday, do it together. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we wish all fathers and grandfathers a wonderful and relaxing Father’s Day. --- ## Finding the Secrets to a Long (Vibrant) Life URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/finding-the-secrets-to-a-long-vibrant-life/ Focus keyword: celebration of life Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, social-connection, exercise-fitness, moving-in, for-seniors, hobbies-activities, brain-health Summary: Áegis Living comments on Carl Reiner's new documentary, "If You're Not in the Obit, Eat Breakfast," a celebration of life after the age of 90. Learn more here. On Monday,[HBO](http://www.hbo.com/documentaries/if-youre-not-in-the-obit-eat-breakfast) debuted a new documentary, “If You’re Not in the Obit, Eat Breakfast.” It’s a celebration of life after the age of 90, featuring Carl Reiner, 90, with Mel Brooks, 90, Dick Van Dyke, 91, Norman Lear, 94, and Betty White, 95. This documentary explores the question: How do these individuals stay so energetic? And it also weaves a commentary throughout about the negative stereotypes that our society has of older adults and the frustrations of being marginalized. These actors, athletes, designers, and entertainers, all in their 90’s, are living examples that it’s not all downhill as you age. Their laughter, vitality, and joy for life are truly contagious and may shatter some of the stereotypes you have about getting older. This vitality for life is something that we clearly see every day at [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). Where some people may see an outdated stereotype of senior living, we see a community full of life stories and adventures. At Áegis Living, we build assisted living communities that honor generations, help them live as independently as possible, and engage our mature residents to keep their minds sharp and active. Our unique Life Enrichment programming taps into the creativity of our residents - whether through music, art, gardening, or culinary - encouraging self-expression and the sharing of talents. Our hallways are filled with laughter, engaging conversations, and true friendships. Áegis Living residents are active members of the local community, giving back to charities and supporting those in need. Our experience knowing a host of accomplished and vital seniors has led us on a quest to determine the keys to longevity. Our founder, Dwayne Clark, and his expert team are collaborating on a book to share the secrets of how to live a long and healthy life. We have compiled research and scientific findings with practical advice and tips from our combined years in the industry. And we have posed this question to many of our [centenarian residents](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TKoOReH86Kk). There are many factors to living a long life, but sometimes the simple answers are the most effective. Here are a few: - **The More, The Merrier** - Having an active social life that includes close family and plenty of friends is vital for longevity. Being a social butterfly can have positive effects on your health and reduce cognitive decline as we age. At Áegis Living, residents make newfound friendships to keep each other active and engaged. All too often, we encounter seniors who are stifled living at home alone. But once they move into a community, they thrive after experiencing the comradery, the variety of activities, and close interactions with peers. - **Move It or Lose It** - We all know that exercise is important. Exercise can boost your mood as well as your energy level. Being active is something that you need to do throughout your life. Walking, stretching, and getting your blood pumping is good for your stamina, balance, strength, and mental health. Although your exercise routine may change and evolve physically, the benefits are still there at any age. - **Don’t Throw Caution to the Wind** - Be prudent about wearing your seatbelt, biking with a helmet, and looking both ways when crossing the street. Be cautious when getting up on a ladder, driving in bad weather, playing golf in a lightning storm, or engaging in any activity that may be dangerous. According to many of our residents, most risk takers won’t reach 100. Some may call it “clean living,” others conclude that it is just practical. - **Find Meaning in Your Life** - Find you passion, love with all your heart, donate your time, or dedicate yourself to a cause. A purposeful life can give you direction and contribute to your long-term Just ask 101-year-old [Margaret Hardin](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zk_eB4x8T8U&t=1s) at Áegis on Madison, she makes blankets for Childhaven, an organization for young survivors of abuse and neglect. She leads a feisty group of grandmothers who make each blanket with care and love, like a warm hug for a child in need. - **Let Things Slide Off Your Back - **Optimistic people tend to live longer because they are more resistant to stress and tend to lead a healthier lifestyle overall. Optimism is a good predictor of a long life. Try to reduce the stress in your life. Our residents advise dropping grudges and trying not to worry so much. Strive for balance and don’t sweat the small stuff. Meditation can help focus your energy in a positive way. Again, this might seem like an easy answer but high blood pressure and continuous stress on the body can shorten your life expectancy. As caregivers and staff at Áegis Living, we are privileged to serve and care for these remarkable individuals. We are bolstered every day by their optimism and zest for life. Many of them would wholeheartedly agree with the [words of Dick Van Dyke](http://www.cbsnews.com/news/golden-boys-dick-van-dyke-carl-reiner-norman-lear/), “People are more afraid of aging than death these days. And we need to tell them there’s a lotta good livin’ to do!” --- ## Answers You Need About Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/answers-you-need-about-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living questions Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: alzheimers, assisted-living, hospice-end-of-life, brain-health, communication, legal-planning, choosing-a-community Summary: "You will have many questions that need to be answered before you find the right community. Let us help you get started with what you should ask." When your mom is no longer able to live on her own it may be time to ask for help. That help may be in the form of an assisted living community. You will have many assisted living questions that need to be answered before you find the right community. It is important to outline how an [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/types-of-assisted-living/) can meet your mom’s needs. One of the first steps is to create a list of assisted living questions before you speak to a professional. These questions will not only help you understand what each community has to offer, but can also assist you in making a priority list of what is most important to your family. Here are a few questions to start the conversation: - How many residents live in your community? - How many staff members care for each resident? - What type of training does your care staff complete? - Are staff trained to care for residents with memory loss or Alzheimer’s? - Are staff available 24/7? - Can staff administer medications? - Do you have nurses on staff? - What type of safety measures do you have? - What is an assessment? - What types of apartments are available? - What is the monthly cost? What are the differences in price? - Can I speak with another family member at the community? - Do you have transportation for doctor’s appointments? - What types of activities, outings do you offer, and how often? - Are there additional fees for services or activities? - What additional services are available if the care or personal needs change while living here? - What is your billing policy? - How do you help my mom adjust to her new home? - How often do you communicate with me about my mom? - Do you offer hospice and end of life care? - What should I know that I have not asked? The next step is to talk with friends, family and medical professionals for recommendations, and research local communities online. Print this list and have it available as you tour the assisted living communities you have chosen. If you do forget to ask a question or you need clarification, call or email your contact at the community. This will also give you an idea of their responsiveness. Choosing an assisted living community for your mom is an important decision. Ask questions until you feel satisfied that you understand all the options, policies, and benefits of the living in an[assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) that meet your criteria. Visit our website to learn more about [making the right decision](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) for your Mom. --- ## Burning the Candle at Both Ends: The Working Caregiver URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/burning-the-candle-at-both-ends-the-working-caregiver/ Focus keyword: working caregiver Category: caregiver-support Tags: assisted-living, in-home-care, social-connection, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: As your parents start to age, more time spent caring for them can mean more stress for you. Here are some tips for working caregivers to reduce stress. Juggling the demands of work, spouse, children, pets, and leisure time for yourself can be difficult enough to manage, but add the responsibility of caring for a senior parent and you are burning the candle at both ends. It is estimated that one out of every three caregivers works outside of their home. More than half of the caregivers working outside their home are full-time, 16% work between 30-39 hours, and 25% work part-time. If you are working and [providing care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiving-the-detrimental-health-effects-of-chronic-stress/) for an older parent, you are most likely sacrificing your free time, your work may be suffering, and the stress can be detrimental to your own health. With this additional level of pressure, many caregivers take steps in their careers that they are not prepared to do: - Taking more time off work or unpaid leave - Preoccupied at work and less productive - Giving up work entirely to care for a family member - Experiencing reduced future earnings - Loss of wages, health benefits, and retirement savings - Missed career opportunities or career advancement - Taking a less demanding job These losses can have serious consequences on the caregiver and their family. As a caregiver, you are a person with great intentions who wants to “do it all.” But this may leave you burnt out and your family member without the proper care they need. Here are some steps to consider to find a good solution for your loved one and the support that you need: **Get Organized.** The tasks that you do for your family member may have grown to a point that is too overwhelming for you to handle. Write a list of all the things that you do for them - grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, driving to medical appointments, home maintenance, personal care, etc. Along with the tasks, add the time of day or week these need to be done. **Informal Care.** There may be tasks on this list that can be done by other family members, friends, neighbors, church members, or local volunteers. Contact your local senior center to see what resources might be available to assist you. **In-Home Care.** If the care that you are providing is medical or personal care, such as bathing or toileting, you may need to pay for in-home care. You will feel more confident with a trained professional who is competent. Check their references carefully. **Residential Care.** Is your list so long that clearly your mom should no longer be living on her own? If you cannot provide the consistent support she needs and she is no longer safe in her home, you need to consider an [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) to meet her care needs. Many seniors at home are isolated and lonely, an assisted living community can also provide social connections which will help them thrive. **Talk with Your Employer.** Having an honest conversation about the demands of your personal life can be difficult. But keep in mind, many employers offer flexible work hours, work from home options, and family leave time to care for an older adult. Give your employer the opportunity to help work with you through this transition. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we are here to help. Contact a local community to schedule a tour and find a solution that is right for your family. --- ## 7 Ways to Boost a Senior’s Self-Esteem URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/7-ways-to-boost-a-seniors-self-esteem/ Focus keyword: senior self esteem Category: financial-legal Tags: depression-anxiety, vision-hearing, social-connection, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-spouses Summary: Learn about the different ways to boost a senior’s self-esteem, which is crucial for their mental health and overall well-being. Many seniors lose their self-esteem as they get older. Significant life changes can rock their feelings of control and confidence. Boosting your elderly loved one’s self-esteem can help them live longer safely on their own and contribute to an overall greater feeling of happiness and well-being. [Studies have found](https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2010/04/self-esteem) that there is a connection between one’s self-esteem and overall health at any age. But seniors after the age of 65 often take a hit to their self-esteem. Some research points to the series of losses (or perceived losses) that can happen in their golden years - like the death of a spouse or friends, retirement from meaningful work, living on a fixed income, or illness or frailty that challenges one’s independence or mobility. These milestones can shake the foundation of one’s self-confidence. But some psychologists argue that seniors who reject the stereotypes of old age fare better when they continue to view themselves as active and their lives as meaningful, despite their advancing years. Bolstering your loved one’s state of mind and giving them a sense of purpose can improve their overall mental health and positive self-image. Many seniors also experience ramifications to their physical health. Lower self-esteem has been shown to take a toll on one’s body by increasing stress levels. Chronic stress can be particularly hazardous for seniors. They may have difficulty sleeping, increased fatigue, memory issues, raised blood pressure, depression, inflammation, and a lowered immune system. Older adults are already susceptible to illness due to their age. When combining age-related suppression along with low self-esteem issues, seniors can have difficulty fighting off disease and take longer to recover. ### Here are 7 ways to boost the self-esteem of an older parent: - **Social Connections.** No matter your age, we all want to have strong friendships and close family. Studies show that seniors who are surrounded by supportive family and friends have higher self-esteem. Keeping these [social connections](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-socializing-helps-the-brain-function-better/) strong is vital to their happiness. - **Squashing Negative Stereotypes.** Society inundates us with negative messages and images about the aging process. Stay positive when you are around your loved one. Let them know you value their contributions and that you respect them. If they are self-conscious of their limitations, reassure them that their hearing loss or lack of stamina is nothing to be ashamed of. We all have our own limitations in life. - **Strength and Balance.** If your loved one is steady on their feet and less likely to fall, they will be more confident caring for themselves and getting around. Encourage your loved one to take a balance class or [chair tai chi](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) at a local senior center or offer to walk regularly with them to keep up their strength. A decline in health and strength can easily lead to lower self-esteem and a loss of confidence. - **Ask for Their Advice**. Your older loved one is a fountain of wisdom, experience, and advice. Ask them for their input or to help you work through a problem. They may have some good insight on everything from serious questions about relationships to more lighthearted issues like cooking, cleaning, or gardening tips. Being helpful and having a sense of purpose can really be a boost to their confidence. - **Make Their Home Accessible.** Many times, a dip in self-esteem is the direct result of the loss of independence. Be proactive by installing handrails in the tub, checking that rugs don’t slip, keep frequently used items within easy reach, and make sure pathways in the house are clear for easy walking. Give them the tools they need to [live safely](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-dangers-of-falling/) in their home. - **Talk About Current Events.** Get your loved one’s viewpoint on the world today based on their personal experience. Showing value for their ideas and input can be a real boost to their confidence. You might not always agree, but you can have respectful discussions. - **Be Compassionate.**Try to be patient and understanding when interacting with a senior loved one. [Hearing issues](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-effects-of-hearing-loss-on-the-elderly/) can be misinterpreted as a lack of understanding, or less stamina could be misconstrued as stubbornness. They may have some limitations but always treat them with dignity and compassion. Visit a local [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to speak with one of our trained staff who can provide helpful insight into what to expect as your parent or loved one ages. We are happy to show you how we assist our residents with programs and activities that boost their self-esteem and provide a sense of purpose in their daily lives. --- ## The Emotional Side of Moving to Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-emotional-side-of-moving-to-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living move Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, emotional-wellness, social-connection, moving-in, legal-planning, for-seniors, choosing-a-community Summary: Making the decision to move to assisted living can be difficult. At Áegis Living, we want to make this transition for you & your loved one as smooth as possible Your family is confident with your decision to move your aging parent into an assisted living community. Perhaps, Mom could no longer care for the maintenance of a big house without your Dad, or Dad is lonely and needs companionship now that Mom has passed away. Whatever the reasons and no matter how comfortable they are with this decision, there are still going to be emotions with this life change that need to be faced for both you and your parent. Think about this transition from your parent’s point of view. Moving is daunting and leaving the familiar behind can be overwhelming to anyone. Often the reasons a parent doesn’t want to move isn’t about the house itself, but rather the memories and sense of belonging that they have invested in a home. It can be stressful, but there are steps that you can take to ease this transition. **Shop Around Together**. If possible, involve your parent in the [selection of an assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-tips-for-touring-an-assisted-living-community/). Keep them focused on the future and the excitement of new friends, a new home, and an opportunity to relax from the stresses of home ownership. The more they take part in the selection of their new home, the more comfortable they will be with the decision. **Hire Resources to Help.** Invest in a moving company to help with the details and stress of moving, so you can focus on the emotional needs. Find a moving company that specializes in this type of move. Or hire a professional organizer who can help your family with [decluttering and downsizing](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/new-year-new-home-time-to-declutter/) their home to take only what will fit into the new space. **Keep Familiar Objects.** Surround your parent with loved objects in their new home. Respect and honor their past with family photos and their most prized treasures. Think about the design of their new home and how you will [decorate their assisted living apartment](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-decorate-an-assisted-living-apartment/) to make them comfortable. **Take Photos.** If your parent is moving out of your childhood home, you may be just as attached to the house as your parent is. Take pictures of their old home to remind them what it looks like. Pose for a group photo on the front steps and frame it for their new apartment and keep one for yourself. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we want to make this transition for you and your loved one as smooth as possible. Visit one of our communities today to take a tour and stay for lunch. We would be happy to introduce you to our staff and our residents. --- ## Is Your Parent Ready for Assisted Living? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/is-your-parent-ready-for-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living decision Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, social-connection, medication-management, moving-in, when-its-time Summary: How do you know if your elderly loved one needs to move into an assisted living community? How do you know if your elderly loved one needs to move into an assisted living community? Making the decision that you or your aged parent can no longer live on their own can be difficult. It can be a sensitive topic that should be discussed with care and compassion. There are many health benefits to keeping your loved one physically active and socially engaged as part of an assisted living community. But first, let’s define what an assisted living community is and what services they provide. An [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) is a residential option for seniors who can no longer live on their own safely and independently. 24-hour care staff is available to support your loved one with the tasks of daily living, such as dressing, bathing, toileting, or eating. In addition, assisted living communities provide daily meals, medication management, socializing with other residents, wellness programs, transportation, recreational activities, [exercise classes](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/), housekeeping, laundry services, and private apartments. Some assisted living communities also provide Alzheimer’s and [dementia care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) for the unique needs of those living with memory loss. These communities are secured and include safety precautions, like motion sensors and emergency call buttons. When is the right time to move someone into an assisted living community? Here are a few questions for your loved one to consider: - **Activities of daily living.** Are you overwhelmed by or stressed with the activities of daily living, such as dressing, bathing, or feeding yourself? Do you rely on family and friends for support that they cannot provide? If you need but cannot get consistent assistance, then assisted living may be a good option to meet your needs. - Are you regularly seeing your physician? Are you missing medical appointments due to lack of transportation? Are you confused by which medications you should be taking and when? Most assisted living communities have nurses on staff to monitor the health of their residents. Áegis Living also employs medication managers in our communities to monitor drug interactions and medication usage for each resident. - Do you worry about your mobility or safety? Are you steady on your feet or do you feel like you may be a fall risk? Does your personal safety give you or your family members stress? Full-time care staff can be supportive for those with mobility issues, monitor changes in health, and are able to help in the case of an emergency. - **Home maintenance.** Is your home too much to manage on your own? Are you able to clean the house, grocery shop, tend the garden, and handle repairs? An assisted community cares for their residents with not only medical oversight, but also cooking, housekeeping, and laundry services. - Are you home alone a lot? Do you feel isolated? Are you able to connect with friends regularly or are you lonely? Social interaction is vital to good health. Joining a community filled with your peers, recreational activities, new neighbors, and friendly staff can be a huge benefit to your health and happiness. If you or your elderly parent is questioning whether they should move into an assisted living community, contact [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)to answer your questions. You can set up an appointment or drop-in to meet our staff, tour the community, and discuss your needs. We are here to help. --- ## Springtime Activities for Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/springtime-activities-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: senior activities Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: nutrition, exercise-fitness, for-seniors, for-caregivers, for-adult-children Summary: If you are the caregiver for your aging parent or loved one, Áegis Living has a few suggestions for activities to do with seniors in the spring. Read more here. As our neighborhoods erupt in shades of pink from cherry blossoms, we can shake off those winter blues with the guarantee that spring is on its way. This is the perfect time of year to refresh your routine and get outdoors. If you are the caregiver for your aging parent or loved one, we have a few suggestions to help you both enjoy the fresh air and sunshine with activities for seniors. **Garden Care**. If your mom loves to get her hands in the dirt, she can be a great help in the garden. Clear away the scattered branches and leaves left from winter. Plan your [garden together.](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/summer-safety-in-the-garden/) Decide where to plant new blooms, move planters, and place patio furniture. For those of us who have spent far too much time indoors this winter, get a healthy dose of vitamin D from your garden. **Feed the Birds.** Many of us love to nurture and care for animals - especially birds. Make your garden a sanctuary for bird watching. Together you can research the various feeders and bird food options on the market to appeal to the birds they are most interested in. A hummingbird feeder and sugar water can attract a whirr of activity or set out peanuts for the Steller’s jays. Invest in a small birdbath or reposition one outside of the window. Watching, tracking, and feeding the birds can be an enjoyable spring pastime. **Bring Nature Inside.** With everything green and in bloom, think of ways that you can bring these fresh colors and smells indoors. Arrange a bouquet of fresh-cut flowers from the garden or find flowers and greens at the local grocery store. Pot herbs on your kitchen window for the fragrance and to add to your cooking. Bring in potted plants to brighten up your home. **Take a Sunday Drive.** Put on your sunglasses, open the window, and let in the fresh air, as you drive without a destination and let your nose be the guide. Or plan a trip to see the tulip fields or a slow drive meandering through the countryside to your favorite small town. Wherever you go, pack snacks, beverages, and enjoy the views. **Visit a Farmers’ Market.** Find a market to purchase seasonal produce and plan a meal together. Spring is a good time to start to [eat lighter](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-eating-for-mental-wellness/) - a large fresh salad, vegetable quiche, or fruit tart. Make something that is reminiscent of your childhood like a blackberry cobbler or burgers on the grill. **Indulge in Ice Cream.** Gourmet ice cream shops are very popular right now with new and unusual flavor combinations to try. Or dust off your ice cream machine and try a few creative recipes. As the weather warms up, there is nothing more pleasurable than this frozen treat shared together in the sunshine. **Take a Nature Walk.**A walk on a nature trail or through a local garden is an excellent way to get fresh air and exercise. The blooms and the colors may inspire your own garden plans. Make sure to apply [sunscreen](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-discomfort-of-aging-skin-issues/) and address your mom’s [seasonal allergies](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-tips-for-seniors-during-allergy-season/)for a pleasant afternoon together. Visit one of the [communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) and experience all of the activities for seniors we’re enjoying. --- ## Top Tips for Seniors During Allergy Season URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-tips-for-seniors-during-allergy-season/ Focus keyword: allergy Category: seasonal-holidays Tags: sleep, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: Many of us deal with spring allergies, but these can be particularly hard for our elderly loved ones. Read about some tips for dealing with allergy season. The sun is shining, flowers are in bloom, trees are leafing out, and the bees are buzzing. Spring is in the air - and so are the allergens. This perfect time of year can also bring those dreaded seasonal allergies. Many of us deal with spring allergies, but these can be particularly hard for our older loved ones. Allergy symptoms may be hazardous for those with chronic diseases, and even over-the-counter antihistamines can have dangerous side effects. Here are a few tips to try to keep your parent comfortable this allergy season: **How do they feel?** Some caregivers assume that the seniors do not get seasonal allergies, but this is not true. Many can suffer from allergies just like someone half their age. They will show signs of a runny nose, itchy eyes, and sneezing, like many of us. Also, don’t assume that because they never had seasonal allergies in the past that they won’t get them. Adults can develop allergies even into their golden years. Monitor how they are feeling to see if they are suffering from allergies. **Consult with their physician.** Most doctors won’t diagnose seasonal allergies alone, especially when they are focused on the patient’s greater health problems. As a caregiver, if you notice that your parent is experiencing allergies let their doctor know. **Avoid over-the-counter antihistamines.** Although allergy pills are widely used, these can be detrimental to seniors. Harmful side effects of over-the-counter antihistamines can be extreme drowsiness, confusion, dizziness, and dry mouth. These allergy medications can interact with medications commonly prescribed to seniors, ranging from mood swings to changes in behavior and insomnia. It is best to consult their physician for allergy relief. **Washing off the pollen.** We have all been cooped up too long inside this winter. As the sun comes out, we want to head outdoors to soak up the rays. But remember, during your time outside pollen will stick to your clothing and hair, and can be tracked back into your home. Immediately upon coming indoors, remove your shoes, wash your hands, and consider taking a shower to keep pollen out of your home to prevent symptoms. **Close the doors and windows.** As the weather heats up, it is tempting to throw open the windows and doors and let in the breeze. But with that, you are also letting in large doses of pollen into your home. It is better to keep your doors shut, and the windows of your home and car closed to keep symptoms at bay. **Watch the pollen count**. As you plan your outdoor activities, keep an eye on the pollen count and plan accordingly. If you do have to go outside or spend time in the garden, wear sunglasses to help protect your eyes against pollen irritation. [Caregiving](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) is not easy, but if your loved one is not feeling good, then your job can be even harder. And if you are also experiencing seasonal allergies, make sure to treat your symptoms and care for yourself as well. For more tips and information, visit the [Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America](http://www.aafa.org/). --- ## Helping Your Elderly Parent Prepare for Tax Season URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/helping-your-elderly-parent-prepare-for-tax-season/ Focus keyword: preparing taxes Category: financial-legal Tags: safety-at-home, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-seniors, social-connection Summary: Preparing your taxes can be confusing and stressful for many of us, but especially for elderly people. Read about how you can support your parents. Preparing your taxes can be confusing and stressful for many of us, but consider the stress of untangling complicated finances for your elderly parent. Your mom may have filed her own taxes for her entire life. She may not feel like she needs help. But if she is confused, or you don’t believe she has a handle on her personal finances, you may need to step in and persuade her to get help. Trust us; it’s better to do this now than to deal with the IRS later! **Keep an Eye on the Mail** Many important and necessary documents for taxes, from investment income to social security statements, will be mailed to your parent’s home. Make sure these items are received and placed in a safe spot. Encourage your mom to add received tax documents into a single, dedicated folder or large envelope. Half the battle will be knowing what to look for and making sure that she has all her documentation together. **Hire a Tax Professional** You may have the best of intentions, but understanding your parent’s financial situation regarding deductions, exemptions, credits, and how these apply can be terribly confusing. Tax professionals can be a tremendous asset to help you evaluate types of income, and any changes in tax laws. Money can be lost for not claiming the appropriate credits and deductions that they might be entitled to. Hiring a professional may be exactly the help that you need. **Watch Out for Tax Scams** Another way to help your parent is to remind them of their high risk of tax scams. Older adults are more vulnerable to these type of nefarious scams and identity fraud because they can be overly trusting and sometimes easily persuaded. For tips on how your loved one can protect themselves or how to handle unwanted phone calls, check out our articles on [How to Avoid Tax Scams](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/common-medicare-mistakes-to-avoid/). **AARP Foundation Tax-Aide** In some cases, if your senior loved needs assistance with their taxes,[AARP Foundation Tax-Aide](http://www.aarp.org/money/taxes/info-2004/about_aarp_taxaide.html)may be able to help. Since 1968, this volunteer-based program has assisted nearly 50 million low- to moderate-income taxpayers. This team of volunteers offers free tax preparations for those 50 years and older who can’t afford to hire a tax preparation service. These IRS-certified volunteers are trained to handle the complicated issues with retirement and life changes of older adults. With over 5,000 locations, AARP Foundation Tax-Aide can be found at local senior centers, malls, libraries, and community centers across the country. AARP membership is not required. There is no fee. Find out if your parent might qualify at [www.aarp.org](http://www.aarp.org/). Taxes can be very confusing for. For more information and tips for seniors in preparing their tax returns, visit the [official IRS website](https://www.irs.gov/individuals/seniors-retirees/tips-for-seniors-in-preparing-their-taxes). If you’re looking for a referral for a CPA or tax professional contact the [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you and ask our Marketing Director for a recommendation. --- ## How to Help Your Elderly Parent Quit Smoking URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-help-your-elderly-loved-one-quit-smoking/ Focus keyword: quit smoking Category: family-communication Tags: exercise-fitness, social-connection, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: If your loved one is finally committed to kicking their smoking habit, read about these strategies to support them and keep them motivated. Is your elderly parent finally committed to kicking their smoking habit? As their caregiver, and [partner](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) with them on this journey, you can be instrumental in helping them quit smoking and improving their health. You are never too old to quit! Try these strategies to support your senior loved one and keep them motivated. **Break from the Routine.** Most smokers have a routine of times, places, and even social situations in which they smoke. Breaking this routine is important. If they typically smoked in front of the television, consider moving the furniture for a fresh outlook or relocate the table where they drink their first cup of coffee. Change the time of the day in which you eat or the restaurants that you typically would frequent. Consider going out to a movie or visiting friends to break them out of their routine and distract them from wanting a cigarette. **Remove Obstacles.** Eliminate the obstacles from the house that may make them relapse or remind them of smoking. Remove ashtrays, matches, lighters, cigarette cases, and of course, cigarettes. Thoroughly clean the house of anything that may have absorbed the smell of smoke - curtains, clothing, rugs, blankets, bedding, linens, and upholstery. **Get Help.** You do not have to go through this on your own. A person is much more likely to succeed at quitting smoking if they feel supported, so ask your family and friends for help. Consult with their physician to see if they can assist as they quit smoking with resources or medications. Look for support groups in your local community or visit [SmokeFree60Plus](https://60plus.smokefree.gov/), a website for older adults who want to quit smoking from the National Cancer Institute. **Keep Them Motivated.** Make positive signs and place encouraging notes around their home to remind your loved one of their goals. Share this good news with them: Your risk of heart attack decreases after three months of not smoking, and after one year, the risk of heart disease drops to that of a non-smoker! And as they successfully progress, celebrate and mark their milestones. **Walk It Off.**When the nicotine cravings hit,[take a walk](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/overcoming-barriers-to-exercise-among-the-elderly/) with them. Breathing in the clean air and getting some exercise will remind them of how less fatigued they are now. Distracting them from their craving and supporting them while they transition through this time is invaluable. **Add Healthier Habits.** Find ways that you can replace their smoking habit with healthier alternatives. Perhaps they would enjoy taking an exercise class like chair yoga or tai chi to experience their newly found energy. [Meditation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meditation-to-improve-brain-health/) can be an excellent way to focus on healthy change and naturally calm your mind. Many people associate smoking with drinking alcohol, so limit their alcohol consumption. **Remember It’s Tough.** For someone who has been smoking for a long time, smoking is a part of their everyday life, and it may be difficult for them to let it go. Your loved one may be in a bad mood some days and find this extremely hard. Be loving and patient with them. Avoid losing your temper, scolding them, passing judgment, or any other detrimental behaviors that can hurt their feelings or damage their self-confidence. --- ## Changes in Your Sleep Patterns URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/changes-in-sleep-patterns/ Focus keyword: sleep patterns Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, sleep, fall-prevention, for-seniors, exercise-fitness, medication-management Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well being is a top priority. Read about how anxiety, depression, and discomfort can contribute to irregular sleep patterns. Daylight savings time means moving our clocks ahead and losing an hour of sleep. For some of our older loved ones, losing that one precious hour of sleep can have an even greater impact if they are already dealing with dementia and sleep patterns that are changing. This is a good time of year to check in on how they are sleeping and how to help them get a good night’s rest. A typical sleep cycle includes periods of lighter, dreamless sleep and then periods of REM with active dreaming. These cycles repeat several times throughout the night. As we age, our sleep patterns change. Most seniors complain that it is harder for them to fall asleep and they wake up more often during the night - on an average of three to four times each night. Many find that they are waking up earlier in the morning and the transition to waking up is more abrupt. Others may complain that they sleep more lightly and restless than when they were younger. Older people spend less time in deep sleep because of anxiety, discomfort, pain, dementia and needing to get up to use the bathroom during the night ([nocturia](https://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-disorders-problems/nocturia)). Sleeping difficulty can significantly affect seniors, especially if they have dementia. Although their total sleep time may not have changed dramatically, the quality of their sleep leaves them feeling deprived and anxious. Chronic insomnia is a leading cause of depression in older adults. And depression, in turn, disrupts the sleep pattern which can cause a vicious cycle of insomnia. Antidepressants may be helpful to relieve symptoms. Consult with your loved one’s physician. [Some medical conditions](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/reasons-behind-disrupted-sleep/) can contribute to poor sleep like restless legs syndrome, acid reflux, heart disease, dementia, and sleep apnea. Prescription sleeping pills can be used for a short time to break this cycle but only if recommended and monitored by their physician. Sleep medications can lead to addiction in some people, so sleep aids should be used with great care. Here are some practical suggestions to help your loved one get a good night’s sleep and create a routine around sleep: - Go to bed at the same time each night and wake up at approximately the same time every morning. - Avoid caffeine, such as coffee, chocolate, tea, and colas, for at least four hours before your bedtime. - Avoid drinking alcohol which may help you fall asleep but can disrupt your sleep pattern during the night. - Moderate exercise during the day can lead to a more restful night’s sleep. - Do not take naps during the day. If you must, limit your nap to one half-hour. - Have a relaxing nighttime routine - turn off the television, computer, and don’t bring your mobile phone to bed. Read a book or listen to soothing music until you feel drowsy. Perhaps try a warm bath. - A glass of warm milk contains a natural, sedative-like amino acid that may help you feel sleepy, or a light, healthy snack can help some people. - Avoid tobacco close to bedtime. Never smoke in bed. - Some find that ambient noise machines can be helpful or an eye mask or blackout shades to keep out the light. - Talk to your physician if you are worried that your medications are causing sleep issues. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we wish you sweet dreams and a restful night’s sleep! --- ## The Nutritional Value of Nuts URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/lets-go-nuts/ Focus keyword: nut nutrition Category: healthy-aging Tags: nutrition, hobbies-activities, choosing-a-community, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: Peanuts, almonds, cashews, hazelnuts, walnuts, and more can pack a nutritional punch and be incorporated into a senior’s healthy diet plan. Learn more here. As a [caregiver,](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) you may find yourself in a rut when it comes to your senior loved one’s diet. You may tend to toss the same items in your shopping cart out of habit or make the same dinners week after week. Want to up your nutritional game? Perhaps it’s time to go nuts! Peanuts, almonds, cashews, hazelnuts, walnuts, and more can pack a nutritional punch and be incorporated into a senior’s [healthy diet plan](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/malnutrition-among-the-elderly/). **The Nutritional Value of Nuts** Nuts are a satisfying snack, packed with fiber, protein, antioxidants, and essential omega-3 fatty acids. Available year-round, a handful of unsalted nuts is an energy-boosting afternoon pick-me-up loaded with vitamins and minerals. Research has shown nuts, such as walnuts, may help lower cholesterol, prevent inflammation, and reduce the [risk of heart disease](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/wear-red-to-heart-health-awareness/). Nuts can be higher in calories which are perfect for those frail senior loved ones who may need an extra dose of calories in a tasty, healthy form. And when eaten in moderation, they are a nutritional alternative to salty potato chips or sugary candy. **Incorporating Nuts into Your Favorite Recipes** Nuts are a great, on-the-go snack with a long shelf life. Keep nuts in your pantry, car, and purse to fight off cravings or hunger pains. Nuts are a great addition to many dishes to add a protein punch. Sprinkle nuts over a bowl of frozen yogurt or ice cream to make it more satisfying. Next time you are creating a sweet confectionary, add nuts to your bread, biscuits, muffins, or cakes. If you are making a stir-fry, complete your dish with a sprinkling of peanuts. Toast nuts to bring out the flavor and add them to your favorite salad. **Different Forms of Nuts** There are many ways that you can incorporate nuts into a healthy diet plan: **Flour.** Almond flour is a gluten-free flour alternative and an excellent choice for those on a low carbohydrate diet. Made from ground almonds, it’s packed with vitamin E and makes a healthy substitute for white flour. Almonds have shown to be a powerhouse when it comes to heart health and blood sugar management. **Butter.** Nut butter from almond to cashew to even walnut can be a good way to satisfy a sweet tooth in a relatively healthy way. Try spreading [almond butter](http://time.com/3983904/almond-butter-healthy/)(watch this video) on half of a banana for a snack, add it to a fruit smoothie for protein, or spruce up a boring sandwich. When choosing a nut butter, look at the label to make sure they are low in salt, low in sugar, and made without partially hydrogenated oil. **Milk.** Fortified almond milk contains minerals like calcium, iron, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, sodium, and zinc. Utilizing a nut-based milk may be a great way to promote hydration, or substitute for a traditional cow’s milk for those who are lactose intolerant. With any change in your loved one’s diet, we suggest that you consult with their physician to make sure this is appropriate for their health and that they do not have any nut allergies or a reaction to nuts. --- ## Stay Young at Heart Through Healthy Hobbies URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/stay-young-at-heart-through-healthy-hobbies/ Focus keyword: healthy hobbies Category: healthy-aging Tags: exercise-fitness, hobbies-activities, for-seniors, fall-prevention, emotional-wellness, social-connection, sleep Summary: At Áegis Living, we want our residents to lead happy, fun, and exciting lives. Trying new hobbies can giver seniors a renewed sense of passion. Learn more here. What is the key to staying young at heart? Keep playing as you get older. [Research shows](http://www.ucmerced.edu/sites/ucmerced.edu/files/documents/zawadzki-paper-2015.pdf) that people who regularly volunteer, engage in a hobby, keep learning new things, and connect with others tend to report a higher feeling of overall well-being. So, try a new healthy hobby you are passionate about and connects you with others. Here are a few of our suggestions that can benefit you or your senior loved one: **Tai Chi.**Tai Chi is a Chinese martial art that is a gentle form of exercise. Practice inside, outdoors, on your own, or as part of a group, Tai Chi can help you maintain strength, encourage flexibility through stretching, help with balance, and reduce stress. Tai Chi is a method that can benefit every generation. Find your inner Zen and a beginner class near you or your loved one at a local senior center. **Yoga.** Yoga is similar to Tai Chi because it is also a gentle form of exercise that can relax the mind and body. A good deal of yoga moves focus on stability and balance which can help to reduce the likelihood of falls as one gets older. Many seniors enjoy modified “chair yoga” classes where participants practice while sitting in a chair or using a chair as support. **Dancing.** Dancing is a wonderful way to reminisce and to [feel young again](https://www.youtube.com/embed/ex29QDDtCyA), while getting your heart pumping. As you twirl your partner on the dance floor to a tango, rumba, or waltz, you might just forget that you are working out and improving your physical health. For many seniors, dancing is also a great social opportunity to engage with their peers. **Gardening.** The biophilia hypothesis proposes that humans have an innate tendency to seek connections with nature. This connection with nature has shown to reduce stress, enhance creativity, improve well-being, and expedite healing. Many seniors can still enjoy gardening by [adapting how they garden](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/summer-safety-in-the-garden/). We suggest a raised garden bed or vertical gardening wall to help seniors garden comfortably without neck or back strain. **Volunteering.** A strong predictor of our health as we age is how fulfilled we feel. Research has proven that a sense of purpose can improve our personal satisfaction, increase our happiness, buffer us from stress, reduce our risk of disease, and can even help us sleep better. In our Áegis Living communities, we [partner with local charities](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) - from knitting baby hats for preemies to baking dog biscuits for local shelters. Our residents can stay involved and use their skills to better the communities in which they live. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we know the importance of our residents staying active, engaging in projects, and socializing with their friends and neighbors through healthy hobbies. Our Life Enrichment program includes daily options to take part in brain exercises, physical fitness, current events, local outings, arts and crafts, volunteering, music therapy, and much more. Our Life Enrichment Directors in each community cater activities to the needs, limitations, and interests of their residents. We take great pride in providing a rotating calendar of healthy activities that appeal to and entertain our residents each and every day. --- ## Knowing Your Family Health History URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/knowing-your-family-health-history/ Focus keyword: family health history Category: family-communication Tags: alzheimers, dementia, exercise-fitness, social-connection, legal-planning, depression-anxiety, arthritis-mobility Summary: Knowing your family medical history will allow you to be aware of your risk and how you may be able to prevent or detect an illness early. Read more here. Each time you visit the doctor, you are asked about your family history. Why does your physician care about your Grandpa Bob’s heart attack or your mom’s high cholesterol? Some diseases have shown to be genetic, and your doctor wants to understand your risk level. Family members have a lot of factors in common such as genetics, lifestyle, and environment. These can be important clues to conditions that may run among relatives. Patterns may emerge over several generations and even point to future generations who may be at risk. You can’t change your genes, but you can use this information as power to stay healthy. Knowing your family medical history will allow you to be aware of your risk of certain diseases and how you may be able to prevent or detect an illness early. Health care providers may schedule more frequent checkups or testing for those who have a family history of a disease. Screenings, such as mammograms and colorectal cancer screening, can detect cancers at an early stage. Screenings for risk factors, like high cholesterol and high blood pressure, can help to prevent your chance of an illness developing. Also, knowing that you have a family history may encourage you to adopt a healthier lifestyle, quit smoking, reduce alcohol consumption, or exercise regularly. When researching your family history, note these common conditions that can run among family members: - Cancer - Stroke - Heart Disease - Dementia/[Alzheimer’s Disease](https://www.youtube.com/embed/bTIfGTzhS6A) - Depression - Diabetes - High Cholesterol - High Blood Pressure - Arthritis - Blood Clots - Asthma Now that you know what is at stake, how do you develop a family medical history? You will need to discuss with you family members (either as a group or individually) that you are compiling this information for your health and are happy to share what you find. The U.S. Surgeon General has a helpful online tool, My Family Health Portrait, to help you organize your family history. Make it clear that the purpose of this task is to understand if you or your relatives are at higher risk of a medical condition and to share this information with your medical professional. Keep in mind that some relatives may be hesitant to share their personal information. Offer to speak with them however it is most comfortable, perhaps an email might put them at ease. Listen to their answers without judgment and respect their confidentiality. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington), we are concerned about the health of each of our residents and their beloved family members. We understand the importance of a complete family health history and encourage our families to learn about and record your family’s health history. --- ## Love Just Gets Better with Age! URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/love-just-gets-better-with-age/ Focus keyword: elderly love Category: family-communication Tags: legal-planning, costs-funding, for-spouses, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: At Áegis Living, we believe love gets better over time. Read about why you should celebrate valentines day just as much as everyone else! Marketers target their Valentine’s Day message to a younger audience of romantic new loves, first dates, and newlyweds. Although the Valentine’s advertising blitz may overlook the elderly, married couple demographic, it doesn’t mean this isn’t a significant holiday for mature lovebirds and the wisdom they have to share. So plan something special for your sweetheart, or for your parents to celebrate the love, faith, and patience that has held their love together for all these years. You are never too old to be in love! This Valentine’s Day, here are four reasons that prove love gets better with age: - **A family to share.** Many loving couples will have children, grandchildren, and perhaps even great-grandchildren to enjoy. Having this shared close connection to family is a wonderful way for seniors to stay connected and current through their interactions with the younger generation. They can take part in the joy of seeing their children as parents and observing how much the world has changed since they were young And often, they can share sage advice with family members based on the experiences in their long lives. - **Anniversaries have new meaning.**With the passage of time, anniversaries for an elderly couple can take on a special importance and continue to fulfill the promise they made to each other. This marked passage of time and their relationship wisdom should be cherished. Make each anniversary count with a celebration, a special dinner, a short trip, or the perfect gift. Enduring the tough times and investing in a long-term relationship should be celebrated. - **Free time to spend together.** After juggling the demands of a busy home, full-time jobs, raising children, house maintenance, and short weekends, many couples can now fully enjoy quality time together after retirement. They have the time to plan vacations, indulge in their hobbies, and focus on each other. There may be no other time in our lives that can be as indulgent as when your time is your own. - **Feel younger together.**When you look into the eyes of the one you love, the years will melt away. She will see his boyhood charm beyond the gray hair, and he will look past her wrinkles. This may be the one person able to tap into the youthful vibrancy of when you first met. Try to [rekindle a shared moment from when you were newlyweds](http://www.boredpanda.com/elderly-couple-married-for-63-years-love-photoshoot-shalyn-nelson-wanda-joe/) or if you are a caregiver, help recreate a special moment - a first date, romantic picnic, or favorite vacation. [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) would like to wish all lovebirds, no matter their age, love that endures the test of time and that the years only add joy to your experience and life together. Happy Valentine’s Day! --- ## Tea Time: The Health Benefits Found in a Cup of Tea URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tea-time-the-health-benefits-found-in-a-cup-o-tea/ Focus keyword: tea benefits Category: financial-legal Tags: depression-anxiety, emotional-wellness, nutrition Summary: At Áegis Living, your health is a top priority. Learn about the surprising health benefits of tea and how it effects your body at a cellular level. Valued by many cultures for thousands of years, tea has been noted for its health benefits around the world. Tea, also known as Camellia sinensis, has revealed to help tea sippers live healthier lives. [Studies](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4055352/) show that tea (black, green, oolong and other varieties) affects the body at a cellular level to enhance health and have even shown promise to help slow down the aging process. Not to mention, the comforting and calming effect on your stress level that can be found in a warm pot of tea. **Warms you from the inside out.** Tea has an immediate benefit of helping to soothe, calm, and relax us. Research from UCL (University College London) has shown that black tea promotes more rapid recovery from stress by returning the body to normal levels of stress hormones. Drinking several cups of green tea per day has shown to reduce physiological stress and increase feelings of well-being. Certain compounds found in green tea may offer anti-stress and anti-inflammatory effects, which in turn curb the development and progression of depression. **Tea for better heart health.** Tea can be an integral part of a heart-healthy diet. In Japan, where green tea is a staple in their diet, tea seems to play a role in reducing the risk of death from heart disease. The polyphenols in green tea help to facilitate blood flow and can help to reduce the occurrence of heart disease. Tea is best consumed freshly brewed without the addition of sugar, honey, or cream that can negate the positive effects. Tea cannot be a substitute for a healthy lifestyle, but it can be an additional tool to keep you healthier longer. **Boosts your immune system.** Chinese healers for years have considered teas as a powerful tool to fight infection, influenza, pneumonia, and even gum disease. Nutrient-rich green tea is packed with antioxidants. Matcha (a finely ground tea leaf powder) from Japan contains up to seven times more antioxidants than dark chocolate and seventeen times more than blueberries. These powerful antioxidants have positive health benefits including boosting your immune system and aiding the body’s defense against free radicals that can cause illness. **Building up your bones.** Drinking tea has been linked to higher bone mineral density (BMD) and a reduction in hip fractures. Even after menopause, [research has shown that tea helps to protect against bone loss](http://www.today.com/video/study-black-tea-may-be-good-for-bone-health-544954947741). The flavonoids found in black tea can be a potent weapon against osteoporosis in the aging population. And add milk to your tea to boost these benefits even more. Research on the health benefits of tea is ongoing. But this warm brew has very promising health benefits. Ask our [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) professionals about our natural health options. --- ## Wear Red for Heart Health Awareness URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/wear-red-to-heart-health-awareness/ Focus keyword: heart health Category: healthy-aging Tags: nutrition, exercise-fitness, sleep, emotional-wellness, when-its-time, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: During the month of February, we recognize National Wear Red Day to raise awareness of women's heart health. Read more here. Lay out your red dress, dust off your red heels, or press your red blouse, in February we recognize National Wear Red Day for heart health. Why should you wear red? According to the [National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute,](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/)Coronary Heart Disease is the “#1 killer of women in the United States.” The National Wear Red Day’s goal, which was first observed in 2002, is to bring nationwide attention and to raise heart health awareness. ## **Positive actions for your heart health** The most common type of heart disease in older adults is atherosclerosis, the buildup of plaque or fatty deposits on the walls of the arteries disrupting the normal flow of blood and oxygen throughout the body. Depending on where this blockage or buildup is located, it can be serious and even lead to a heart attack or stroke. Heart disease is not a normal part of the aging process and can be prevented with a healthy lifestyle. Best ways to keep your heart healthy: - Quit smoking - Exercise and lead an active lifestyle - Watch your weight and follow a [heart-healthy diet](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/heart-healthy-living) - Keep your diabetes under control - Watch your high blood pressure and/or high cholesterol - Manage your stress levels - Treat sleep apnea, which can contribute to high blood pressure ## **What are the signs of a heart attack?** First, we recommend that you or the loved one in your care regularly sees a doctor and if you think someone is having a heart attack, contact 911. The most common signs of a heart attack for both men and women are: - Heavy pressure on the chest or chest pain - Sharp pain in the shoulders, arms, neck, jaw, or back - Severe shortness of breath - either when at rest or with minimal activity - Unfamiliar lightheaded, dizziness, or confusion - Nausea and vomiting or even severe heartburn or feeling of indigestion - Cold sweats, when you know that it’s not menopause - Unexplained or unusual fatigue or lack of energy - Swelling of the ankles, feet, legs, stomach, or neck According to the [American Heart Association](https://www.heart.org/HEARTORG/Conditions/HeartAttack/WarningSignsofaHeartAttack/Heart-Attack-Symptoms-in-Women_UCM_436448_Article.jsp), women are more likely to experience the other symptoms associated with a heart attack and may not have any chest pain. And these additional symptoms can be easily confused or rationalized as something other than a heart attack. Those who experience nausea and lightheadedness may simply think that they have a touch of food poisoning or the flu. Some women who experience cold sweats, irritation, and shortness of breath may think these are symptoms of hormonal changes or just “feeling their age.” Females or caregivers of older women need to be especially vigilant about these [symptoms of a heart attack](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t7wmPWTnDbE). Don’t downplay symptoms but seek immediate help. At Áegis Living, we support our senior residents with a healthy lifestyle to help prevent heart disease and reduce stress. We provide exercise and activity programs to meet the physical limitations of our residents and encourage participation. We provide nutritious and appetizing balanced meals for healthy eating. Our nursing staff monitors the health and medications of our residents. Without the daily duties of maintaining a household, our residents are less stressed and feel free to enjoy their relaxed time with friends and neighbors. [Tour one of our communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) today! --- ## 7 Signs Your Mom Needs More Help at Home URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-seven-signs-that-your-mom-may-need-more-help/ Focus keyword: Mom Category: family-communication Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, nutrition, social-connection, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: Worried about your aging mother? Here are 7 clear signs your mom may need more help at home, from weight loss and falls to memory and hygiene changes. If you're wondering whether your mom needs more help at home, the clearest signals are usually visible during an ordinary visit: unopened mail piling up, spoiled food in the fridge, bruises she can't explain, or a once social calendar that's now empty. Roughly 1 in 9 adults age 65+ is living with Alzheimer's, and falls send an older adult to the emergency room every second in the U.S. ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024). Below are seven specific signs to watch for, what each one usually means, and what to do next. Before you raise the topic, it helps to plan the conversation. Our guide on [How to Talk to Your Parents About Long-Term Care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/) walks through scripts, timing, and how to involve siblings without triggering a fight. ## How do I know if it's normal aging or something more? Normal aging slows things down. It doesn't usually erase them. Forgetting where you put the keys is common; forgetting what the keys are for is not. The Alzheimer's Association notes that occasional lapses differ from a consistent pattern of decline that interferes with daily living ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs), 2024). As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, aging is highly individual and deserves nuanced assessment rather than checklists alone. Use the signs below as conversation starters with her primary care physician, not a diagnosis. **Activities of Daily Living (ADLs)** The basic self-care tasks: bathing, dressing, toileting, eating, transferring (getting in and out of a chair or bed), and walking. **Instrumental Activities of Daily Living (IADLs)** More complex tasks needed to live independently: managing money, cooking, driving, taking medications correctly, using the phone, and housekeeping ([National Institutes of Health](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470404/), 2023). ## What are the seven signs your mom may need more help? ### 1. Withdrawal and loss of interest Loneliness itself, not just being alone, is linked to higher dementia risk (National Institute on Aging, 2024). If your mom has dropped her bridge club, stopped calling her best friend, or abandoned a lifelong hobby, that's worth noticing. Withdrawal can signal depression, hearing loss she's hiding, or early cognitive change. ### 2. Dramatic weight loss or gain Open the fridge. Expired milk, untouched leftovers, or a pantry of nothing but crackers tells a story. Older adults with dementia often forget meals or lose the sequencing to cook one. Unintended weight loss of more than 5% in a year warrants a medical evaluation (American Academy of Family Physicians, 2021). ### 3. Declining personal hygiene Stained clothing worn two days in a row, body odor, untrimmed nails, or a bathroom that's clearly unused for showering all suggest she's struggling. Dementia can make the steps of bathing feel overwhelming, and depression saps the motivation. Consider a daughter who notices her mother is wearing the same sweater on every FaceTime call for three weeks. That's a sign, not a coincidence. ### 4. Falls, bruises, and mobility trouble One in four adults age 65+ falls each year, and falls are the leading cause of injury-related death in this group (CDC, 2024). Watch for bruises she can't explain, furniture-walking around the house, or a new fear of stairs. For example, an 84 year old who falls while reaching for a coffee mug may quietly stop cooking altogether, then stop eating well. ### 5. Forgetfulness that affects safety Missed medications, the stove left on, getting lost on a familiar drive, or repeating the same question within minutes are red flags. As dementia care educator Teepa Snow, founder of Positive Approach to Care, often explains, the issue isn't whether she forgets, it's whether the forgetting puts her at risk. Imagine your dad calls asking for the same recipe three times in one afternoon; that pattern matters more than any single lapse. ### 6. Money trouble and unopened mail Stacks of unopened bills, late payment notices, duplicate charges, or unusual donations to strangers can indicate cognitive change, or scam targeting. Older Americans reported $7.7 billion in fraud losses in 2025 ([FBI IC3 Annual Report](https://www.ic3.gov/AnnualReport/Reports/2025_IC3Report.pdf), 2025). Offer to sit with her at the kitchen table and sort the mail together before assuming the worst. ### 7. Growing health care needs she can't manage alone Pill organizers full of leftover doses, missed specialist appointments, or a chronic condition that's clearly slipping out of control all point to the same thing: the day-to-day load has outgrown what she can carry alone. This is also a common moment for spouses to burn out, see our list of [9 Signs Your Spouse Needs More Care at Home](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/9-signs-your-spouse-needs-care/). ## How do home, assisted living, and memory care compare? OptionBest forTypical 2026 monthly cost (U.S.) Aging in place with home careMostly independent; needs a few hours of help daily$5,000 to $6,500 (44 hrs/week home health aide) Assisted livingHelp with 2+ ADLs, social engagement, meals, safety$6,200 median Memory careMid stage dementia, wandering risk, behavioral changes$6,500 to $8,000 Cost ranges drawn from the CareScout Cost of Care Survey ([CareScout](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025) and AARP cost-planning resources ([AARP](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/long-term-care/), 2024). ## What should I do this week if I'm seeing these signs? - **Document specifics.** Write down dates, examples, and photos (the spoiled food, the bruise). Vague worries don't move doctors; specifics do. - **Schedule a primary care visit.** Ask for a cognitive screening and a medication review. Bring your notes. - **Loop in family.** Share what you've seen with siblings before deciding anything. Disagreement at this stage is normal. - **Tour two or three communities.** Visit once by appointment and once unannounced. Eat a meal. Talk to a resident. - **Plan the conversation with her.** Lead with love and observations, not ultimatums. Our piece on [how to prepare for your aging parents' future](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/six-tips-to-prepare-for-your-aging-parents-future/) outlines the steps. ## How can you support her emotionally through the change? Big transitions stir grief, even when they're the right call. She may be mourning her home, her independence, or a recently lost spouse, see [Grieving the Death of a Spouse](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/grieving-the-death-of-a-spouse/). Sensory comforts help bridge the gap; familiar music, soft blankets, and favorite scents reduce anxiety, and our list of [gifts for seniors using the senses](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/gifts-for-seniors-using-senses/) offers practical ideas. ## Frequently asked questions ### How many signs does it take before assisted living makes sense? There's no magic number. One serious sign, like a fall with injury, frequent medication errors, or wandering, can justify a move on its own. Two or three moderate signs together (weight loss plus withdrawal plus hygiene change) is also a clear pattern. ### What if my mom refuses to admit she needs help? Resistance is common and usually rooted in fear of losing control. Lead with what you've observed ("I noticed the stove was on when I came over Tuesday") rather than labels ("You can't live alone anymore"). A trusted physician or clergy member can often carry the message better than an adult child. ### Does Medicare pay for assisted living? No. Medicare covers short-term skilled nursing and rehab after a hospital stay, not room, board, or custodial care in assisted living ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care), 2024). Long-term care insurance, VA benefits, Medicaid waivers in some states, and private funds are the typical sources. ### Is forgetting names always a sign of dementia? No. Occasionally blanking on a name, especially under stress, is normal. The concerning pattern is forgetting recently learned information repeatedly, getting lost in familiar places, or losing the ability to follow a recipe she's made for 40 years ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs), 2024). ### Can a short stay help us decide? Yes. A respite or trial stay lets your mom experience the community, meals, and staff before committing. It also gives the family a chance to see how she responds in a supported environment. ### What if siblings disagree about the next step? Get a neutral assessment. A geriatric care manager or her physician can offer an outside opinion that takes the decision out of the family power dynamic, and gives everyone the same set of facts to work from. **Ready to talk it through?** Áegis Living offers tours, trial stays, and memory care expertise across the West Coast. [Find an Áegis community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to discuss what your mom needs next. --- ## A Holistic Approach for Dealing With Holiday Stress URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/a-holistic-approach-for-dealing-with-holiday-stress/ Focus keyword: holiday stress Category: seasonal-holidays Tags: emotional-wellness, sleep, moving-in, for-seniors, for-caregivers, nutrition, exercise-fitness Summary: The holidays can be a time of great stress. If you are a caregiver, try taking these steps to relieve stress during the holidays. No sooner have we placed the leftover turkey and stuffing in the refrigerator, then we are off searching for the perfect holiday presents, wrapping gifts, and baking treats. The end of the year can be a mix of constant motion laced with plenty of stress triggers to keep us on our toes. This holiday stress may not only affect you but can also impact your older loved ones. If you are a caregiver, here is a holistic approach to relieving stress during the holidays - mind, body, and spirit. These stress-reducing tips can work for both you, and your older loved one. ### Mind - [Meditation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meditation-to-improve-brain-health/) is no longer just for the hippy crowd. Research has found that benefits of this practice can improve longevity, reduce stress, and impact your quality of life. So breathe deep and let those holiday stress triggers melt away. - We all know how restorative a good night’s sleep can be for us. For your personal well-being and happiness, especially during these hectic holidays, focus on [getting enough sleep](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/reasons-behind-disrupted-sleep/) to energize you for the next round of holiday cheer. - The holidays can be difficult if your loved one has recently [lost a spouse](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/grieving-the-death-of-a-spouse/). Their grief around the holidays is understandable. Many older adults don’t want to burden their children emotionally. If this is the case, suggest that they find someone who they can confide in (priest, therapist, or friend) or write about their feelings in a journal. ### Body - Hit the mall, not to holiday shop but to walk. Regular exercise is important for older adults to maintain their mobility and independence- whether inside or outdoors. Many malls are open before the stores and crowds to allow people to walk inside, away from the cold and rain. And an added benefit is you can enjoy the window displays and mall holiday decorations to get you in the spirit of the season. - **[Eat healthy](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-nutrition-tips-for-seniors/).** Overindulging at the holidays is easy. Rich food, too much alcohol, and loads of sugar are a few of the pitfalls of the season. We’re not saying that you can’t enjoy some treats here and there, but try to eat indulgences in moderation. Put down the carrot cake and try a carrot. - There is no shortage of uplifting holiday tunes this time of year. Shake off those winter blues with a twirl around the dance floor or while cleaning the kitchen floor. No matter your age, dancing can lift your mood. ### Spirit - Attend a religious service with your family or celebrate a religious holiday tradition in your home. Religion is an excellent way to connect with your immediate family, extended family, neighbors, and the greater community. - Surrounded by family and friends, the holidays are the time of year to reminisce about the past and to create new memories. It is important to share your holiday memories, stories, traditions, and photographs with the next generation. - Some say that laughter is the best medicine. Enjoy this holiday - relax, smile, and share a laugh. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we wish you and your family a warm and happy holiday! --- ## Loneliness Around the Holidays URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/loneliness-around-the-holidays/ Focus keyword: holiday loneliness Category: family-communication Tags: arthritis-mobility, assisted-living, social-connection, choosing-a-community, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: Older people in assisted living often experience loneliness during holidays. We offer suggestions on how to help them feel connected. Read more here. ‘Tis the season for calendars to be jam-packed with plans. But for seniors living on their own, they can feel lonely and the holidays can be particularly difficult. As seniors are faced with the illness or death of a spouse, neighbors who move away, and friends who pass, their social circle becomes increasingly smaller and smaller. Feeling isolated may be a reason your loved one is withdrawn or blue this holiday season. But the great news is there are many ways in which to celebrate with your loved one and help them feel connected during the holiday season. ### 8 Ways for Families to Celebrate the Holidays Together - **Deck the halls.**Whether they are living independently or are in an assisted living community, make their home or apartment feel festive and joyful. Fresh pine boughs, wreaths, and fresh flowers are a wonderful way to bring in the scent of the season. - **Holiday card writing.**Sending and receiving holiday cards helps them stay connected to lifelong friends and family. Play some holiday tunes, pour a cup of hot chocolate, and pull up a comfortable chair to write holiday cards together. - **Lend them an ear.** They may want to share their feelings of loneliness and sadness. Just by listening, you can make a difference. - **Join their festivities.** If your loved one lives in an assisted living community, most communities plan events for the whole family during the holidays, so add these to your family calendar and join in the fun. - **Religion and worship.** Attend religious services together as a family. Your loved one may find great comfort in their faith during the season. - **Turkey and all the trimmings.** Most families look forward to the traditional baked goods and dishes made year after year to celebrate the holidays. Involve your loved ones in the baking and cooking in the kitchen. - **The perfect gift.** If they can no longer drive or have mobility issues, offer to drive them to shop for gifts, or to the grocery store for extra baking supplies. A warm car and help carrying in heavy groceries might just be the perfect gift! - **Bring the celebration to them.** If your loved one can’t make it to a celebration or party, then make an extra effort to bring the party to them with visits from family and grandchildren. If you loved one can no longer live independently, or if their isolation is detrimental to their health, you may want to consider moving your loved one to an assisted living community. At Áegis Living, your family member will be surrounded by neighbors, new found friendships, and around-the-clock caregivers. The comradery and friendships within our communities are a source of joy, a boost of confidence, and proven to improve one’s sense of well-being. Each day, residents enjoy a full schedule of enriching activities that appeal to their interests and passions. [Schedule a tour](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) of any of our assisted living or memory care communities today to see for yourself how living in a community can give your loved one a sense of connection. At Áegis Living, we wish you a warm and wonderful holiday for you and your family! --- ## Oral Health for Seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/oral-health-for-the-elderly/ Focus keyword: oral health Category: healthy-aging Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, nutrition, sleep, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well-being is a top priority. Read about how poor oral health can lead to weight loss, malnutrition, dehydration, and more. As we pile our plates high with turkey, stuffing, and mashed potatoes this Thanksgiving, we wanted to remind you about an often-overlooked health issue for many seniors - oral health. Before you gather around the dinner table this holiday season, make sure your loved one’s mouth and teeth are healthy. Poor oral health can affect more than not enjoying a meal but can be detrimental to their health. It can contribute to weight loss, [malnutrition](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/malnutrition-among-the-elderly/), dehydration, sleep issues, [pain](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-common-myths-about-pain-and-the-elderly/), and more. **What are some of the concerns with poor oral health?** - **Oral and pharyngeal cancer**. Every year, about 35,000 cases of mouth, throat, and tongue cancer are diagnosed. According to the [American Cancer Society](http://www.cancer.org/cancer/oral-cavity-and-oropharyngeal-cancer.html), the average age for those diagnosed with these types of cancer is 62. During regular dental appointments, a dentist can check for signs of oral cancer. These check-ups are critical for early detection. Often, the early stages of oral cancer are not painful and may be difficult to detect otherwise. - **Gum Disease.** About 23 percent of 65+ adults have severe gum disease. Gum disease is caused by the bacteria in plaque which can lead to the gums being red, irritated, swollen, and even bleeding. If untreated, gums can pull away from the teeth exposing the teeth to more plaque. Advanced gum disease can destroy the gum, bone, and ligaments supporting the teeth. - **Dry mouth.** About 500 medications can cause dry mouth, including medications for Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, allergies, high blood pressure, pain management, and depression. The reduction of saliva in the mouth can contribute to tooth decay and gum disease. If your medication causes dry mouth, consult with your physician to see if there are alternative medications to try or if the dosage can be changed. - **Dentures**. Ill-fitting dentures can cause pain and discomfort when eating. If your loved one has Alzheimer’s or cognitive issues, they might not be able to verbalize their concerns. Regular visits to the dentist can check if dentures are fitting comfortably. **What can you do to improve oral health and prevent issues?** - **Use fluoride toothpaste**. Fluoride in your water and toothpaste can help to prevent tooth decay. - **Practice regular oral hygiene**. Tooth brushing and flossing can prevent gum disease. Caregivers may need to assist their loved ones with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia and ensure that oral hygiene is a part of their regular schedule. - **Avoid tobacco.** Smokers are seven times more at risk for gum disease than non-smokers. - **Limit alcohol.** Alcohol can be a risk factor for oral and throat cancer. - **Regular dentist appointments**. Professional care is necessary to prevent issues and for early detection of cancer. If your loved one has mobility issues or is reluctant to see a dentist, it is still important to get them to the dentist regularly. Some [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) communities even offer dental home visits. - **Keep an eye on their eating habits**. Ill-fitting dentures and oral pain can affect their food intake. If you are concerned, see your physician and dentist. - **Modify toothbrush.**Some conditions, such as Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s, can make it difficult for older adults to hold a toothbrush or floss and keep up with their oral hygiene. Try plastic toothpicks and mouthwash. There are several types of toothbrushes to test with your loved one to see what works best - a soft bristled child’s toothbrush, long-handled toothbrush, angled toothbrush, electric toothbrush or try modifying the handle for a better grip. This holiday season, enjoy the bounty of the holidays and indulge in your favorite foods with healthy teeth and gums. [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)wishes you and your family a wonderful Thanksgiving! --- ## Holiday Travel for People with Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/holiday-travel-for-those-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: holiday travel Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, brain-health, emotional-wellness, hobbies-activities, costs-funding, legal-planning Summary: Plan safe holiday travel with a loved one living with dementia. Discover 9 essential tips from Áegis Living for routine, pacing, and respite options. It’s that wonderful time of year, where holiday travel for family and friends is on our too-do list. Attending a family gathering could mean traveling to another city or possibly out of the state. Because you are caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, it doesn’t necessarily mean you can no longer travel together, or you must miss the festivities. Depending on the progress of their disease and mobility, you can still travel with your loved one with memory loss. It will just mean more careful planning before you leave. Before you start packing your bags, take a minute to assess your situation. Be realistic about what you can handle - both physically and mentally. Also, do you feel like your loved one is in a place to be able to manage travel and a family gathering? If you feel confident you can overcome the challenges, let’s plan a trip with these helpful tips! ## 9 Helpful Holiday Travel Tips for Those with a Loved One Living with Dementia - **Do you need backup?** Perhaps you are not strong enough to handle the luggage and your loved one. Consider asking a friend or family member if they would travel with you. Many hands make light work! They may also be instrumental as your emotional support. - **Disrupting their routine.** The biggest challenge of traveling with a loved one with dementia is the disruption to their daily routine, which can be a source of comfort for them. Try to get your loved one back on schedule as soon as possible, especially bedtime. Plan your travel during the time of day that works best for your loved one. Try to adhere to their mealtime routine if possible. - **Wandering behavior.** Often unfamiliar environments and extra stimulation can cause many to be confused and wander. Consider enrolling in [MedicAlert + Safe Retur](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/safety/medicalert-with-24-7-wandering-support)n. Look for companion care bathrooms so that you can assist them in the restroom. Have them wear an identification tag around their neck or an ID bracelet. Dress them in easy-to-find clothing, such as a bright yellow jacket or red sweater. Pack a door alarm or a childproof doorknob cover for wherever you stay. Avoid rooms with sliding doors with easy access to the outdoors. Do not leave the person unattended. - **Be prepared.** To avoid the added stress of rushing, allow extra time for packing well ahead of your trip and consider shipping your luggage to the hotel instead of carrying it with you. Bring with you a brief medical history that includes a list of current medications, known allergies, a list of doctors with contact information, and copies of any other important documentation such as insurance information or [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/). Make sure you have current family members’ contact phone numbers and emails in your phone. Bring favorite snacks, hand wipes for clean-up, comforting distractions like photos, books, and music to soothe, and water to keep them hydrated. - **Car trips**. Limit the length you are in the car and take breaks as needed. If your loved one becomes agitated while you are driving, pull over and stop the car to tend to them. Don’t attempt to calm them while the car is moving; this is dangerous for you and them. - **Air travel**. Take a direct flight if possible, making a connection could be a big challenge if they are overwhelmed. Even if they can walk, consider requesting a wheelchair so airport staff can help you maneuver the airport and minimize your wait in the security lines. Let the TSA agent at the security checkpoint know your loved one has dementia because they may be confused or find it difficult to follow directions. Follow behind your loved one through security, so you can better assist Book a window or middle seat for your loved one and you take the outside seat so they cannot wander. Pre-board the aircraft. Don’t be afraid to inform the flight crew of their special needs. Try noise-cancelling headphones to block out the distractions. Pack all medication in your carry-on luggage, so it does not get lost. Carry all boarding passes and important documentation for your loved one. - **Special arrangements.** Consider booking your travel with a travel agency that specializes in travel for those with disabilities or special needs. They can assist you with setting up additional services and access to special lounges or quiet pray rooms at some airports to ease your travel. - **Set aside time for rest.** Don’t underestimate the toll that traveling can take on you, especially when caring for someone else. Allow plenty of time for rest for both you and your loved one during your trip. Try to keep their bedtime consistent with home because fatigue can amplify their confusion and drain you. - **Remember to ask for help if you need it.** From the airline crew to the hotel staff to your family members, many are willing to assist you on your journey. Sometimes, a trip may be too difficult or overwhelming for a caregiver to manage with an individual with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia. If this is the case, consider a [respite stay](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-benefits-of-respite-care/)in an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community. At Áegis Living, we take care of your loved one while you take a much-needed break to enjoy the holidays or a vacation. Your loved one will experience the amenities, gourmet meals, activities, care services, and comforts of our community, while you can rest and relax knowing they are well taken care of. --- ## How to Encourage Healthy Eating in Dementia: 10 Tips URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-eating-in-those-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: healthy eating Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, nutrition, hobbies-activities, moving-in, for-caregivers Summary: Ten practical, expert-backed tips to help a loved one with dementia eat well, stay hydrated, and enjoy mealtimes again. Caregiver guidance from Áegis Living. To promote **healthy eating** when a loved one with dementia is eating less, losing weight, or refusing favorite foods, you can turn mealtimes around with small, specific changes: simplify the table, boost plate contrast, offer finger foods, and serve smaller portions more often. Below are ten caregiver-tested strategies, grounded in geriatric nutrition guidance, to help your parent or spouse eat enough to stay strong, calm, and alert. Appetite and weight loss are common as dementia progresses, and unintended weight loss in older adults is linked to higher risk of frailty, infection, and hospitalization (National Institute on Aging, 2024). Recognizing the cause early matters, and so does spotting the broader picture - review the [10 Early Signs of Dementia Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/do-you-know-10-signs-of-dementia/) if you're still piecing things together. ## Why do people with dementia stop eating well? Alzheimer's and related dementias affect the brain regions that govern hunger, smell, taste, and the sequencing of motor tasks like using a fork. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's, and caregiver-reported eating difficulties rise sharply in moderate and late stages ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, puts it: a person with dementia isn't refusing food to be difficult, they're often confused by the plate, the utensils, or the noise around them. Reduce the cognitive load and eating usually improves. Dysphagia Difficulty chewing or swallowing safely. Common in mid-to-late dementia and a leading cause of aspiration pneumonia ([NIDCD](https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health), 2024). Anorexia of aging A natural decline in appetite and thirst signals with age, worsened by dementia, medication side effects, and depression. Finger foods Soft, bite-size items a person can pick up without utensils: cheese cubes, fish sticks, banana slices, soft sandwiches. ## What are the 10 best tips to encourage eating? - **Keep the table simple.** Clear centerpieces, salt shakers, and patterned napkins. Set only the utensils needed. A bowl and spoon are often easier than a plate and fork. - **Slow down the meal.** Plan 30 to 45 minutes. Rushing creates anxiety, and anxiety shuts down appetite. - **Add high-contrast color.** A white plate against a red placemat helps. Visual-spatial changes are an early hallmark of Alzheimer's ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alzheimers-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20350447), 2024), so contrast helps your loved one see the food itself. - **Serve one or two items at a time.** A full plate overwhelms. Try a small portion of chicken, then bring the vegetable after. - **Expect taste preferences to shift.** Sweet and salty foods often stay appealing longest. A lifelong coffee drinker may suddenly prefer milk; that's the disease, not stubbornness. - **Adapt the texture.** If chewing falters, switch to soft scrambled eggs, mashed sweet potato, yogurt, and smoothies. Have your loved one sit upright with chin slightly tucked to reduce choking risk (CDC Healthy Aging, 2024). - **Push fluids gently all day.** Older adults under-perceive thirst, and dehydration can trigger confusion and behavior changes (CDC, 2024). Offer water, milk, broth, watermelon, and popsicles. - **Schedule meals and snacks.** Same times, same chair, every day. A daily rhythm helps when memory cannot. - **Visit the dentist twice a year.** Loose dentures or an abscessed molar may be the real reason your mom won't eat - and she may not have words for it. - **Review medications.** Cholinesterase inhibitors, antidepressants, and many common prescriptions suppress appetite. Ask the prescribing physician whether an adjustment is reasonable. ## What does a dementia-friendly plate actually look like? ElementAvoidTry InsteadPlateFloral or patternedSolid white or solid redUtensilsFull place settingOne spoon, or finger foodsPortionFull dinner plateOne item, 1/2 cup at a timeDrinkClear cup with clear waterColored cup, weighted baseBackgroundTV news, busy kitchenSoft music or quiet ## Two real-life scenarios where small changes worked Consider an 82-year-old grandmother with moderate Alzheimer's who had lost 11 pounds in three months. Her daughter swapped the family's patterned china for plain white plates, served one food at a time, and offered a banana-peanut-butter smoothie at 10 a.m. and 3 p.m. Within six weeks, her weight stabilized. Imagine your father, a former engineer, sitting in front of a pork chop and staring at his fork as if it's a puzzle. Cut the pork into cubes, hand him a spoon, and step back. Independence returns, and so does the meal. Loss of utensil sequencing is a recognized middle-stage change covered in [Understanding Alzheimer's: Signs, Progression, and Comfort Through Care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-alzheimers-signs-progression-and-comfort-through-care/). ## When should you call the doctor? Contact the primary-care physician if your loved one has lost 5% of body weight in a month, is coughing during meals, refuses fluids for more than a day, or shows new confusion. These can signal dysphagia, infection, or medication trouble. Roughly 1 in 3 adults over 65 falls each year, and poor nutrition is a contributing factor ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2024), so eating well is also fall prevention. Adequate nutrition also supports the dressing, bathing, and walking skills that keep your parent independent longer. For related daily-living guidance, see our [Tips to Support Independent Dressing](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/) and [Dementia Wandering: Preventative tips to secure your home](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/wandering-woes-preventative-tips-to-securing-your-home/). ## Frequently asked questions ### How many calories does a senior with dementia need each day? Most older adults need roughly 1,600 to 2,200 calories daily depending on activity, and people with later-stage dementia who pace or wander may need more (National Institute on Aging, 2024). Spread intake across five or six small meals and snacks rather than three large ones. ### Is it okay to give nutritional shakes like Ensure or Boost? Yes, as a supplement, not a replacement. They're useful between meals or when chewing is hard, but real food provides fiber, hydration, and the social comfort of a shared table. Check with the physician if your loved one is diabetic. ### What foods are easiest for someone with late-stage dementia? Soft, moist, single-flavor foods work best: scrambled eggs, mashed potatoes, oatmeal, yogurt, applesauce, well-cooked pasta, and smoothies. Avoid mixed textures like cereal in milk, which can be hard to swallow safely. ### How do I handle a loved one who refuses to eat at all? Stop, take a breath, and try again in 20 minutes with a different food, a different room, or a different caregiver. Forcing food increases agitation. If refusal lasts more than 24 hours or is paired with weight loss or lethargy, call the doctor. ### Can dehydration really cause confusion? Yes. Even mild dehydration can worsen disorientation, sundowning, and urinary tract infections in older adults (CDC Healthy Aging, 2024). Offer fluids every hour your loved one is awake. ### When is it time to consider memory care? When meals, medications, or safety at home are slipping despite your best efforts, a memory care community with trained staff and chef-prepared meals can restore both nutrition and quality of life. ## Ready to see what mealtime can look like? At Áegis Living, our chef-prepared menus, dementia-trained caregivers, and Life's Neighborhood® memory care programs are built around the idea that eating well is part of living well. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a tour and join us for lunch. --- ## Over-the-Counter Medication Safety URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/over-the-counter-medication-safety/ Focus keyword: medication safety Category: safety-emergency Tags: dementia, arthritis-mobility, medication-management, safety-at-home, legal-planning, for-seniors, vision-hearing Summary: Older adults may be at risk of side effects from over-the-counter medications if they are take multiple medications. Read more here. Just because you can purchase over-the-counter medications at your local grocery store or drugstore, it does not mean these are harmless. Over-the-counter medications can have side effects when overused, interactions with other prescription medications, dangerous when mixed with alcohol, and ineffective if expired. Older adults are at greater risk of harmful side effects if they are taking multiple medications or dealing with a chronic disease or pain. The average person over the age of 65 is taking five to six prescribed medications. Taking this many prescribed medications can leave them vulnerable to harmful drug interactions with over-the-counter medications. ### How can your loved one be safe? - **Talk to your doctor**. Especially when prescribed new medications, make sure you understand the dosage, the reason for use, and any additional instructions. Disclose all the medications that you use to your physician, including over-the-counter, herbal medications, and supplements. - **Ask your pharmacist**. If you need relief from pain, arthritis, allergies, or a cold, ask your pharmacist for recommendations. If you have new medications, or your medication regime has changed, it is best to check with your pharmacist about any drug interactions with over-the-counter medications when picking up your medicine. - **Use one pharmacy.**All of your medication and dosage information will be at one location for a quick check. This option will assist your pharmacist in making the best recommendation for your needs. - **Dosage for OTC.** Always read the directions and warnings on your medications, both prescribed and over-the-counter. Follow the dosage recommendations for over-the-counter medications correctly. More does not always mean better. - **Memory issues.** Some seniors with memory loss or dementia may forget that they have taken an over-the-counter medication and risk overdose. Talk to your physician if you are taking an over-the-counter drug on a daily basis. If they agree, then set up a chart system or pill boxes to avoid an accidental overdose. If you are caring for a loved one with dementia, keep all medication locked away or out of their reach. - **Keep a written list.** A list of all medications, including prescribed medications, over-the-counter, herbal remedies, and supplements, is helpful to have for your physician or pharmacist to quickly review for interactions. This list should include the drug name, dosage, time of day taken, and any special instructions. Keep a copy in your wallet and a second copy with a loved one. - **Declining eyesight and hearing**. Some seniors may not be able to process the instructions or safety concerns with their medication due to poor eyesight or hearing loss. Ask your loved one if they are clear about their medication They may be embarrassed that they could not hear or see the instructions. It is always best to check. - **Store your medication properly**. Follow the direction on how to store all of your medications. Keep them out of reach of children and pets. And [dispose of medications](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-safe-way-to-dispose-of-medications/) that have Many older adults may be unaware of the side effects, adverse drug reactions, and possible medication interactions that may result from the use of over-the-counter medications. Caregivers and older adults need to educate themselves about safe over-the-counter medication use. And if you are unclear, ask questions and speak with your physician or pharmacist immediately. --- ## The Safe Way to Dispose of Medications URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-safe-way-to-dispose-of-medications/ Focus keyword: dispose of medication Category: family-communication Tags: medication-management, pets, legal-planning Summary: Approximately 40% of all medications purchased in the U.S. each year go to waste. Read about how to responsibly dispose of medications. Approximately 40% of all medications purchased in the U.S. each year remain unused. Many people have expired medications in their bathroom cabinets or unused medications that they no longer need or want. What is the best way to dispose of your medications that is safe for your family and good for our environment? First, make sure that you are not getting more medications than you need. Check with your physician or pharmacist ensure that you are not receiving more than you can use before the expiration date. And if you purchase your medication online, double check your refill schedule. If you are buying over the counter medications, check your cabinets and only buy what you are planning to use. You can save money by planning your medications appropriately and not letting them stack up and expire. ### There are three ways to dispose of medications: - **Read the instructions**. Check the label and package inserts that come with your medication to see if there are disposal instructions. There are a small number of [medications that are recommended to be flushed down](http://www.fda.gov/downloads/Drugs/ResourcesForYou/Consumers/BuyingUsingMedicineSafely/EnsuringSafeUseofMedicine/SafeDisposalofMedicines/UCM337803.pdf) the toilet or sink. Typically, these medications are harmful or deadly in just one dose to children or pets, so it’s safest to flush these from the unintentional misuse or to prevent abuse. Scientists are continually studying the effects of flushing medications on our environment. To be safe, never flush a medication unless the instructions specifically state this. And pay close attention to the specific directions to dispose of needles, inhalers, and aerosols. - **Local take back days.** If you aren’t comfortable disposing of your medications at home, or you no longer have the instructions, look for a locally organized pharmacy, law enforcement, or [DEA take back day](https://www.dea.gov/takebackday)or [deposit location](https://apps.deadiversion.usdoj.gov/pubdispsearch/spring/main?execution=e1s1). These locations allow you to dispose of your unwanted medications in a place that is safe and takes these pills out of potential circulation and abuse. Call your city to find a participating location or event near you. - **Safely in the trash.**Most over-the-counter and some prescription drugs can be thrown in the garbage. But first take a few precautions. Remove the pills from packaging and mix with something undesirable like coffee grounds or kitty litter. This will make it less desirable to those who might want to abuse the drug and less recognizable to children and pets. Seal it in a bag and toss into the trash. Make sure to remove any labels or prescriptions and destroy, so your private information does not show. If you are unsure how to dispose of your medication, you can visit the Federal Drug Administration’s [online web resource,](http://www.fda.gov/Drugs/ResourcesForYou/Consumers/BuyingUsingMedicineSafely/EnsuringSafeUseofMedicine/SafeDisposalofMedicines/ucm186187.htm)search for instructions on a specific medication on [DailyMed](https://dailymed.nlm.nih.gov/dailymed/index.cfm), or ask your local pharmacist for assistance. Check with your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community to find out the best way to dispose of medication in your area. --- ## Malnutrition In the Elderly URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/malnutrition-among-the-elderly/ Focus keyword: elderly malnutrition Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, nutrition, fall-prevention, costs-funding, for-seniors, emotional-wellness Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well being is a top priority. Read about malnutrition in the elderly and how to prevent it. The word “malnutrition” makes us think of those in third world countries, war-torn cities, or those living in extreme poverty. But do you think of your grandparents? Or your elderly parents? In the United States, malnutrition is a hidden epidemic among our most frail older adults. One in two older adults is at risk for malnutrition. Some factors that can lead to malnutrition in older adults have nothing to do with their income level or body size. Malnutrition in those over the age of 65 years often goes unrecognized and under-treated. Malnutrition occurs when the body does not receive the balance of calories and nutrients to stay healthy. It can affect not only to those who cannot afford nor have access to nutritional food, but it can happen to anyone. Older adults are especially at risk because of one or more factors that come with age. And this lack of nutrition comes at a time in their life when they need it the most! ### Contributing factors to malnutrition in older adults? - Sense of [smell and taste](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/) may weaken - Digestive system and metabolism slow - Chewing and swallowing issues can make it difficult to eat - The body’s ability to absorb nutrients can decline - Dietary needs change - Chronic disease and some medications can cause loss of appetite - Physical limitations to grocery shop, cook, or feed themselves may inhibit proper nutrition and calorie intake - Those with dementia may forget to eat - Dietary restrictions for disease treatment or management - Stress, worry, or depression The consequences of malnutrition in older adults are serious and can be fatal. Without proper nutrition, our bodies cannot stay healthy. It can weaken our immune systems making it difficult to fight off disease. Malnutrition leaves older adults vulnerable to infection, slower recovery time, and slower wound healing. It also causes weight and muscle loss that can lead to frailty, balance issues, [falls](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-dangers-of-falling/), broken bones, disability, and loss of independence. Malnutrition can also contribute to disease complications and hospitalization. You cannot rely on the body size or weight to determine if someone is malnourished. The signs and symptoms in older adults may be subtle and are sometimes dismissed as a part of normal aging. The two main symptoms are a sudden or unexpected weight loss; or loss of appetite and decreased food intake. If you are concerned with your aging loved one’s nutrition, weight loss, and overall health, consult with their physician. At Áegis Living, our residents receive meals, snacks, and hydration throughout the day rich in nutrients and balanced for a healthy diet. Our chefs create meals that are appetizing and nourishing with fresh local products and seasonal produce. We understand that taste and smell can change with age, so we take this into careful consideration when menu planning. --- ## Early Signs of Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/early-clues-of-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia signs Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, memory-care, nutrition, brain-health, when-its-time, choosing-a-community Summary: Áegis Living discusses the behavioral and personality changes that precede the cognitive issues commonly associated with dementia. Learn more here. Has your Mom stopped baking for the holidays? Has your Dad let his prized lush front lawn become overcome with weeds? Is your parent no longer participating in tasks that they once enjoyed? Could these be the early signs that they have dementia? Research has found that most often dementia begins as behavioral changes. Introduced at the [Alzheimer’s Association International Conference](https://www.alz.org/aaic/about/overview.asp), a group of neuropsychiatrists and Alzheimer’s experts identified a way to recognize and measure [early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/). This group proposed a new diagnosis - mild behavior impairment. Often overlooked, behavioral and personality changes can precede the memory loss and cognitive issues commonly associated with dementia and be early signs of dementia. They propose that that mild behavior impairment (MBI) would be a clinical designation prior to mild cognitive impairment (MCI), a diagnosis that describes those with cognitive issues who can still perform daily functions. These researchers created a [34-question checklist](http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2016/07/25/health/26brain-doc.html) that may one day be used to help diagnosis patients at the earliest stage of dementia. These questions could prove to be vital to determining who is at high risk of developing dementia or Alzheimer’s. Sample questions include: - Has the person lost interests in friends, family, or home activities? - Has the person become agitated, aggressive, irritable, or temperamental? - Does the person hoard objects when he/she did not do so before? - Has the person become less concerned about how her/his words or actions affect others? Has he/she become insensitive to other’s feelings? Behavior changes that may have been excused as a normal part of aging might actually be early signs of dementia. But not all who are experiencing mood swings or changes in their personality are experiencing early signs of dementia. The experts suggest that these changes must be identified and measured over at least a six-month period. This checklist will continue to be tested by researchers until the findings are ready to be given for doctor’s use. At Áegis Living, our communities are equipped to handle the unique mental and physical limitations associated with memory loss. Our [Life’s Neighborhoods](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) ™ are designed to improve the quality of life and enjoyment of our residents. These communities are closely monitored for the safety and care of our residents. Each memory care community includes secured outside gardens, walking paths, chef-prepared nutritional meals, compassionate nursing staff, and caregivers specifically trained to care for those with dementia and Alzheimer’s. If your loved one can no longer live on their own, contact one of our communities today to take a tour. --- ## Myths About the Flu Vaccine URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/debunking-the-myths-about-the-flu-vaccine/ Focus keyword: flu vaccine myths Category: financial-legal Tags: fall-prevention, hobbies-activities, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living discusses the flu vaccine and debunks myths so that you can make an educated decision on what is best for you and your family. Read more here. Days are getting shorter and evenings are cooler. Fall is in the air. Autumn conjures up images of wooly sweaters, crackling fires, football games, and tissue boxes as we head into [flu season](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/flu-season-is-around-the-corner/). It’s the time of year to consider getting your annual flu vaccine. This is also the same time of year that many myths and misconceptions about the flu vaccine begin to swirl around like the falling leaves. We want to debunk some of the common myths about the flu vaccine and encourage everyone to speak to their physician to make an educated decision about their health. **Myth #1*:****You do not need to get a flu shot this year because you had one last year.* **Truth: Getting an annual flu vaccine is necessary to fight the flu viruses that research shows will be most common in the upcoming season.** According to the [Center for Disease Control](http://www.cdc.gov/flu/about/disease/65over.htm/) (CDC), they recommend getting the flu shot every year. For those over the age of 65, it is important to get an annual flu shot because this population is at high risk for complications. The flu vaccination is updated each year to handle the changing flu viruses that are likely to hit in a season. Over the course of a year, the immunity and effectiveness of a flu shot will wane. Getting an annual flu shot ensures the best possible protection for your elderly loved ones against the expected flu strains for each new season. **Myth #2:** *The number of deaths from the flu are exaggerated.* **Truth: Particularly for older adults, the flu is a serious disease that causes hospitalizations and thousands of deaths in the U.S. every year.** In reality, it is difficult to put an exact number on the deaths due to influenza every year because often people die from the complications associated with the flu. These complications will be stated as the primary cause of death on the death certificate. But the CDC estimates that of the deaths related to influenza that 71-85% occur in adults 65 years or older and between 54-70% of those hospitalized are in that same age group. Influenza can have deadly consequences for older adults whose decreased immune system cannot handle the illness, and they often experience complications. **Myth #3:** *The flu vaccine will make you sick.* **Truth: The flu vaccine will not give you the flu.** This is a common misconception of the flu vaccine. The flu can incubate for 2-5 days in your system. If you get sick shortly after getting the flu shot, most likely you were infected with the flu at the time of your vaccination. Some may react to the side effects of the shot as your immune system ramps up to produce antibodies against the flu strains. These side effects may include headaches, low fever, or nausea. **Myth #4:** *The flu vaccine will make it easier for me to catch pneumonia.* **Truth:** **Getting the flu vaccine will reduce your risk of pneumonia and other infectious diseases.** This myth makes little sense. If you catch the flu, your immune system will weaken while you are ill. During your run of influenza you are more susceptible to catching a secondary illness. Pneumonia is one of the most common complications of the flu. The flu vaccine will reduce your risk of getting pneumonia, the leading cause of death for those who pass away from influenza complications. **Myth #5:** *The flu shot can cause Alzheimer’s.* **Truth: There is no link between the flu vaccine and Alzheimer’s.** In fact, this myth has been debunked for over a decade by the Alzheimer’s Association. According to their website, several mainstream studies link flu shots and other vaccines to a reduced risk of Alzheimer’s disease and overall better health. As with all matters of your health and the health of your loved ones, we suggest that you consult with your physician about the benefits of getting a flu shot this season. Research the facts about the flu vaccine to make an educated decision on what is best for you and your family. --- ## 10 Tips for Longevity on Centenarian Day! URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-for-longevity-on-centenarian-day/ Focus keyword: longevity Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, nutrition, exercise-fitness, legal-planning, fall-prevention, emotional-wellness, social-connection Summary: As we get set to celebrate 100-year-old citizens on National Centenarian Day, Áegis offers 10 tips for living a happy life. See the full list here. Can you picture yourself blowing out a hundred glowing candles on your birthday cake? In September the nation will celebrate National Centenarian Day! What is a Centenarian? Our cherished family members who are 100 years old or older. What is the key to their longevity? At Áegis Living, we have asked our centenarian residents this question over the years, and the answers seem simple. But these 10 tips are important reminders for all of us. How do Centenarians recommend living a long, happy and healthy life? - **The more, the merrier** - Having an active social life that includes close family and plenty of friends. Being a social butterfly can have positive effects on your health and [reduce cognitive decline](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-socializing-helps-the-brain-function-better/) in old age. - **Move it or lose it** - We all know that exercise is important. Being active is something that you need to do throughout your lifetime. Walking, stretching, and getting your blood pumping is good for your stamina, balance, and mental health. Exercise can boost your mood as well as your energy level. - **Don’t throw caution to the wind** - Be prudent about wearing your seatbelt and biking with a helmet. Be cautious when getting up on a ladder, driving in bad weather, or engaging in any activity that may be dangerous. Most risk takers won’t reach 100. - **Find meaning in your life** - Find you passion, love with all your heart, donate your time, or dedicate yourself to a cause. A purposeful life can give you direction and contribute to your long-term - **A healthy diet** - We all know that we should eat a balanced diet, but that is not always easy. Concentrate on portion control and keeping a healthy weight. Eat food that keeps your heart, brain, and bones healthy. - **Doctor’s visits** - See your doctor on a regular basis for routine checkups or when you are ill. By getting the right services, treatments, and screenings, you can improve your chances for a longer life. - **Don’t abuse tobacco, alcohol, or other substances - **But you already know this! - **A positive attitude - **Optimistic people tend to live longer because they are more resistant to stress and tend to lead a healthier lifestyle overall. Optimism is a good predictor of a long life. - **Let things slide off your back - **Try to reduce the stress in your life. Don’t hold grudges. Don’t worry so much. Strive for balance and don’t sweat the small stuff. [Meditation](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meditation-to-improve-brain-health/) can help focus your energy. - **Be happy - **Find joy in life every day. Do things that you enjoy and appreciate. Reading a good book, gardening, hiking a nature trail, hugging your dog, or laughing loudly - enjoyment will give you something to live for. Obviously, there are many more factors to becoming a centenarian, such as genetics, but this list can give you food for thought. If you want to live a long and healthy life, these tips may get you closer to the 100 candles on your birthday cake someday. If you would like to meet a few of our Centenarians visit one of our [Áegis Living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) today. --- ## Who is Susceptible to Shingles? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/need-to-know-shingles/ Focus keyword: shingles Category: financial-legal Tags: nutrition, medication-management, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors, for-caregivers, for-adult-children Summary: Older adults are particularly susceptible to developing and suffering from shingles every year. Read more about how you can prevent or treat shingles. If you are the caregiver for your aging parent, it is important to know who is susceptible to shingles. There are approximately 1 million estimated cases of shingles in the U.S. per year. This frightening statistic estimates that one out of every three people will develop shingles at some point in their lifetime, and older adults are particularly susceptible. ### What is shingles? Shingles is a painful, blistering skin rash that typically affects one side of the body. The disease most often shows up on the face or torso. The rash appears as a band or stripe in the affected area of the body after a short period of tingling, itching, burning, or stinging. Similar to chickenpox, after a few days, the rash will erupt into blisters. Most will only experience shingles in a single episode, but reoccurring cases have been known to happen. Outbreaks last about two to four weeks. Shingles is caused by the same virus as chickenpox, varicella zoster virus (VZV). Many of us developed chickenpox during our youth after being exposed to VZV. After the chickenpox clears, the virus remains dormant within our body. But for some adults, for reasons that are not absolutely clear, the virus can reactivate and cause shingles. ### Who is at risk of getting shingles? Shingles is most common in older adults and those with weakened immune systems. Your risk of getting shingles increases with age. Approximately 50% of all shingles cases occur in adults over the age of 60, which is due in large part to their compromised immune systems. ### How do you prevent shingles? In 2006, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved the shingles vaccine (Zostavax). Currently, the [Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/shingles/about/) (CDC) recommends getting the vaccine at age 60 or older. Though more often you may hear recommendations to get it at 50 plus. It only has to be administered one time. It has been shown to reduce the risk of developing shingles by close to 60%. Although some can still develop shingles despite the vaccine, it will decrease the length and severity of an outbreak. We recommend that you consult with your physician if you have questions about the vaccine. ### How is shingles treated? Individuals with shingles can complain of severe pain and extremely sensitive skin, so treatment aims to diminish the effects of the virus and manage the pain. Most cases can be managed at home with care, but some adults with impaired immune systems or extreme symptoms may be admitted to the hospital. If your parent is showing the signs of a rash or experiencing discomfort, bring them to their doctor to determine if they have shingles and the best care plan for their recovery. Their physician will recommend a treatment plan that can include antiviral medication to shorten the course of the illness and decrease the severity of the symptoms. These medications are most effective when administered within 72 hours of the rash appearing, so it is important to see a physician at the first signs of shingles. Pain medications can be prescribed to relieve the pain and discomfort of the rash. And some antihistamine medications can help relieve the itching. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), it is our goal to keep your aging loved ones healthy. If you see signs of a rash or discomfort, consult their physician immediately. --- ## The Benefits of a Daily Routine for People with Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/benefits-daily-routine-for-those-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia routine Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, sleep, nutrition, legal-planning, for-caregivers, emotional-wellness Summary: Read about how a daily routine benefits people with Alzheimer's or progressive dementia. Structure in the day helps alleviate agitation and reduce mood swings. If you are a caregiver of someone with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, now may be a good time to create a daily routine for both you and your loved one. There are many benefits to creating a daily routine for both the caregiver and person with Alzheimer’s or progressive dementia. Writing down a simple outline of your day can create more time for enjoyment and less time worrying about how to fill your days. Also, structure in their day is beneficial to alleviate agitation and reduce mood swings. Planned activities can keep your parent actively engaged, allow them to maintain some independence, and prevent boredom. Also completing smaller activities and tasks can give your loved one a real sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. ### Here are a few things to consider: - Are there appointments or items during your week that are reoccurring? Does your loved one have a weekly physical therapy appointment? Do you get assistance during the week at specific times? Plan these reoccurring appointments into your calendar with time to prepare and travel if needed. - Do you have some successful items that are currently part of your routine? Personal grooming, like brushing their teeth or combing their hair, when they wake up? Do they [get dressed](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/) before breakfast or after? Do you walk the dog together every morning or afternoon? Build upon these successful activities. - Schedule ample time for meals and snacks. Also consider booking some time to make a [smoothie](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/), tea break, or milkshake in your day. It is important that your loved one [stay hydrated](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-for-a-healthy-brain/). Scheduling time in your plans to encourage hydration may be a helpful reminder. - What is their best time of day? Many people with dementia experience [sundowning](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/). The evening may be the best time of day to schedule low-key and calming activities. See how their energy is throughout the day and plan accordingly. - How was your loved one’s day typically structured before their diagnosis? If your mom was never an early bird, this would not be a good time to start being active early in the morning. Add plenty of their interests and hobbies into the schedule. - The most important item to keep in your routine is bedtime. Try to keep their bedtime the same every night. Many people living with dementia may have [difficulty sleeping](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/reasons-behind-disrupted-sleep/), and a routine can help. - Your schedule needs to be flexible and not every minute needs to be scheduled. Allow time for flexibility and rest throughout the day. The goal isn’t to exhaust them or you, but to reduce your stress and add a level of routine, variety, and comfort each day. - Know there will be “off days.” Those days where your schedule can’t be kept or your loved one is just not up for participating. Don’t be discouraged; this will happen. Also, as they progress their energy, interests, and abilities will change. Their schedule will need to change with them. - Don’t forget yourself in this schedule. Consider scheduling items that you will also enjoy, like an afternoon walk with the dog or gardening. - When making your schedule consider a variety of tasks: grooming, chores, meals, meal prep, physical activity, social interaction (family members, friends, pets), creative (music, crafts, hobbies), spiritual (Bible study, services, mediation), and intellectual activity (reading, games, puzzles, newspaper). Once you have created a plan, you will find it easier to enjoy your time together. Evaluate your plan and activities as needed. If your loved one is irritable or disinterested, perhaps they need an additional activity. If they are low on energy and distracted, maybe consider a little more rest time. --- ## Four Tips for an Elderly Parent Diagnosed with Diabetes URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-tips-for-an-elderly-parent-with-diabetes/ Focus keyword: diabetes Category: health-conditions Tags: assisted-living, nutrition, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-seniors, exercise-fitness, medication-management Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and wellbeing is a top priority. We offer tips on how to aid an elderly parent with diabetes. Learn more here. According to the [American Diabetes Association](http://www.diabetes.org/), more than one-quarter of the adults in America over the age of 65 have diabetes (types 1 or 2), and approximately one-half of older adults have pre-diabetes. Among the aging populations, type 2 diabetes is an increasing problem. A disproportionately large number of the newly diagnosed are older adults. Diabetes requires a significant amount of self-care, which can be much harder for older adults. The trick is to understand their barriers - both physically and mentally - so they can successfully manage their care or get the assistance they need. If your parent is among the many millions of those diagnosed with diabetes, how can you help? ### Here are four tips if your elderly parent is diagnosed with diabetes: - **Knowledge is Key.** Educate yourself about diabetes so that you can assist your loved one. There are so many misconceptions about this disease, so arm yourself with the facts. Diabetes is a disease that can be successfully managed with the right care. Find information from reputable sources like the [American Diabetes Association](http://www.diabetes.org/). Offer to attend medical appointments with your parent or diabetes management classes. You will have a learning curve, but it is something that you can face together. - **Take a Deep Breath.** Your instinct may be to run in and immediately try to fix it. Your parent is an adult, and they will need time to come to terms with the trauma of their diagnosis. You need to give them time to grieve and overcome their disbelief. Understand that they are under a lot of stress. They may even resist your help in the beginning. Allow your parent some autonomy, if possible. Remain unemotional when discussing this topic but always supportive. Don’t overwhelm them with too much information. And don’t try to police their eating habits or care. - **Can Your Parent Care for Themselves?** If you parent is already frail, has poor eyesight, or has little mobility or hand dexterity, then this diagnosis may be overwhelming. Perhaps they need a blood glucose meter with a larger display to read clearly or help with the weekly grocery shopping. Work with their physician on how to overcome limitations so they can self-care and remain independent. Perhaps, make a chart of their medication or purchase pill boxes to help organize their daily medications. If they are not able to manage everything on their own, this may be the time to consider moving them into an [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). An assisted living community can assist with their care, monitor their health, provide better nutrition, prepare meals, and encourage exercise. Your parent will also be less isolated and emotionally supported. - **Slow and Steady Changes.** Especially for an elderly parent who is diagnosed with diabetes, it is better to make continuous small changes. Don’t try to revamp their entire diet within a day or throw them into a rigid exercise routine. This could do more harm than good. Start by purchasing a new set of measuring cups to help with portion control. Shop together for items on their meal plan. Find new recipes and make dinners together. Offer to walk together. Help them make healthy changes but have the patience to make these changes slowly. The good news is that in older adults small changes can show significant benefits. --- ## Overcoming Barriers to Elderly Exercise URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/overcoming-barriers-to-exercise-among-the-elderly/ Focus keyword: exercise Category: healthy-aging Tags: arthritis-mobility, exercise-fitness, brain-health, medication-management, fall-prevention, hobbies-activities, for-seniors Summary: Is your aging parent missing out on vital exercise? Discover how to help them overcome common barriers like pain, fear of injury, and low motivation. While you may be increasing your workouts for bathing suit season, your aging loved one may have stopped being active altogether. This lack of exercise can be detrimental to their health and well-being. There are legitimate barriers to why some older adults no longer exercise or lose their motivation. At Áegis Living, we want to offer some solutions to overcoming these barriers, and encourage physical activity for older adults. Before your loved one starts with an exercise program or increases their activity, it is best to consult with their health care provider, particularly when there are illnesses or disabilities to consider. ## Five common exercise related barriers to overcome: - **Discomfort and pain.**One-half of older adults is not active due to discomfort and pain. Back pain, sore knees, heart conditions, and lung disorder can be barriers to exercise and limit motivation. Also, overweight and obesity can be major problems in influencing healthy activity in older adults. **How to overcome:** We recommend that they speak with their health care provider about the discomfort and symptoms. Discomfort and pain can be managed through medication and alleviated with physical therapy. The key is to work with a therapist who can suggest a wide variety of exercises to match their energy or functional level on any given day. Chronic conditions, such as heart disease, arthritis, and diabetes can benefit from low exertion exercise and flexibility training. In many cases of discomfort, exercise options like [water aerobics](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/best-non-impact-workouts-for-seniors/) is a good option to lessen joint impact. - **Fear of injury.**Injury is a very legitimate concern for older adults. But a lack of exercise can cause general functional decline and balance issues.**How to overcome:** With appropriate equipment, assisted devices, and supervision, balance and strength training can greatly assist exercise which may reduce their [fall risk](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-dangers-of-falling/). Start exercise programs slowly and avoid overdoing it in the beginning to build confidence. It is important that the risk of injury does not become the rationale for not exercising. - **Fixed income.** Gym, health club memberships, and personal training can be expensive for a senior on a fixed income. Seniors may not feel that they have the means to exercise because of lack of extra funds. **How to overcome:** Walking is a great, free option to stay active, whether to the park, around the block, or even off the couch within their home. Also performing household chores, like mowing the lawn, vacuuming, or scrubbing the floors, can contribute to overall fitness and health. Try putting on their favorite music and dancing in the living room or while cooking dinner. Many senior centers offer classes at reasonable prices or join a local mall walking group to beat the heat or stay out of the rain. - **Cognitive decline**. Those who are experiencing memory loss or cognitive decline still may be physically healthy and capable of exercising. **How to overcome:** Physical exercise is essential for maintaining blood flow to the brain and may stimulate brain cell growth and survival. Make exercise a habit by incorporating activity into their daily routine. Keep the exercise simple, such as walking, climbing stairs, or simple stretching. Repetition of activity may be key to become a habit. - **Isolation:** Most people, not only aging adults, are more successful at an exercise program if they workout with a partner. If your loved one has lost a spouse or their partner is physically disabled, they may lose their motivation to stay active. Sometimes older adults may feel vulnerable and unsafe walking alone. **How to overcome:** Find a local senior citizen organization that offers group activity and fitness classes. Family and friends can help them stay motivated or train with them. Another option may be to consider a personal trainer or physical therapist to help identify exercises that they find enjoyable and are self-motivated to do. Another motivator is to set achievable goals, such as playing with their grandchild on the floor or working in the garden. --- ## Grieving the Death of a Spouse URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/grieving-the-death-of-a-spouse/ Focus keyword: grieving Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, nutrition, exercise-fitness, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: The sorrow of losing a spouse creates unique challenges that your aging parent may face. Learn more about the difficulties of losing an older spouse. As an adult child who loses an elderly parent, the initial shock and sadness will slowly lessen in time. But the grieving process for your surviving parent can be profoundly different than your experience. An elderly parent may be facing many challenges that might be harder to bounce back from at their age. Grief can be powerful and overwhelming at any age, but older adults face unique obstacles during this time. How can you help your grieving parent through this difficult transition? And how do you assist your parent when you are in the midst of your own pain? First and foremost, you cannot help someone else if you are not mentally strong enough and prepared yourself. You need to take care of yourself with plenty of sleep, exercise, and eating well. You may need to rely on family members and friends to assist your parent while you also process the grief of your loss. But once you overcome the initial shock and are feeling more accepting of their death, then you can be a source of extreme comfort and support for your parent. ### Unique challenges losing an older spouse: **The power of grief.** The death of a soul mate, daily companion, and caregiver can impact their lives in many ways and take a physical toll on their bodies. Grief untreated, can have fatal consequences, sometimes called “broken heart syndrome” - the result of sudden or extreme stress. The surviving spouse may lose their appetite, have trouble sleeping, experience muscle tension, fatigue, and headaches. Over time, the result may be a deficient diet, decrease in physical activity, and overuse of medications. Closely monitor your parent’s health. Take them to the doctor if you are concerned that the stress and grief are negatively affecting their health. Bring groceries, make nutritious meals, take them for a walk, and arrange for friends and family to check in when you cannot. Keeping your parent physically healthy can help them mentally deal better with the grief. **Loss of independence.** Together, many couples can live independently. They can split tasks and rely on each other for help. But if one spouse passes away, this may threaten the independence of the surviving spouse to live alone. The parent who passed may have been the primary caregiver to the surviving parent. Not only is your parent facing the loss of a partner, but they may have to face losing their independence as well. Assess [how your parent is living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) when you visit. Are tasks falling behind? Can they keep up with the maintenance of the house? Is there food spoiling in the refrigerator? Is the house orderly, laundry done, garbage taken out, and have they groomed themselves? Perhaps you should consider moving them into assisted living? You may not have been aware of how much they relied on each other until one is gone. **Steep learning curve.** Many older couples have been dividing household tasks for years. A surviving parent may not know the state of their finances or what bills need to be paid. They may never have learned how to cook a meal, drive a car, access their computer, or when to take out the trash. This can be a harmful source of anxiety for an elderly individual. They may be facing something in their life that they are unprepared for, and this can cause additional stress during an already tense time. They may feel very isolated and ashamed to ask for help. The best thing you can do is offer your support. They might benefit from having prepared meals or groceries delivered directly to their house. To ease their burden, hire assistance for home tasks like a house cleaner, gardener, or handyman. Family members may need to assist with paying bills or [evaluating their finances.](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-to-talk-with-your-parent-about-financial-planning/) **Mourning takes time.** There is no roadmap or timeline for grief. Some spouses can experience painful signs of grief for years after the loss of a spouse. Take your cues from your parent and go at their pace. Most will experience good days and bad days. And remember, even if all seems to be going well, grief can resurface at holidays, anniversaries, and family occasions. Acknowledge their sorrow and share how you feel. Encourage them to talk, cry, and express their sadness. Sometimes grief can continue much longer than anticipated and longer than it is healthy for your parent. Signs of continued severe grief can include forgetfulness, disorganization, unable to concentrate, lack of interest in activities, and a fascination with death. If your loved one’s intense grief does not lessen and it is affecting their daily lives, we suggest that you seek psychological help. **Vulnerable to depression**. Losing a spouse is life altering and can easily [lead to depression](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/geriatric-psychiatry-part-of-a-comprehensive-care-plan/), especially among older adults. Once a spouse has passed away, many people don’t want to intrude which can lead to isolation and ultimately, depression. Include your loved one in group activities, take them on informal outings or to run errands, find them a new activity to participate in, take them to church, or if appropriate, get them a pet as a companion. Encourage them to find a support group or to consult with a mental health professional if they are showing signs of depression. The sorrow of losing a spouse is not the same as losing a parent. You will need to be extra patient and understanding with your parent as they process their grief, however long that might take. Be aware of the unique challenges that your aging parent may now face alone and offer your support. --- ## Summertime Fun and Games for Children with Their Grandparents URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/summertime-fun-with-the-grandparents/ Focus keyword: grandparents Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, nutrition, exercise-fitness, communication, hobbies-activities, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: At Áegis Living, we want our residents to lead happy, fun, and fulfilling lives. Read about some fun summer time activities for grandkids and grandparents. Parents today are busy with jam-packed calendars and balancing the commitments of home, work, and children. We look forward to summer break to ease our hectic schedules. Make the most of your free time this summer by bringing your children to visit their grandparents. If your parent(s) are living in an assisted living community, there are plenty of ways to share quality time together. “At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington), we love to include family and friends in our activities and events,” says Tom Laborde, Chief Operating Officer at Áegis Living. “Our dedicated Life EnrichmentDirectors plan and schedule creative activities that often appeal to multiple generations. We welcome participation, especially grandchildren.” **Share a meal together.** Most assisted living communities allow residents to bring guests for a meal. We suggest that you call the community to find out what time meals are served and to reserve a spot with your loved one. Since summer allows for more flexibility, perhaps meeting for breakfast would be a fun way to start your day. Or dine al fresco for lunch or dinner on the patio to enjoy a warm afternoon or evening together. Also, dining with an older loved one is a good time for your youngsters to practice their table manners. **Enjoy the outdoors**. With the sun shining and warmer weather, go outdoors! Enjoy the grounds of the community, assist with weeding in the garden, walk the dog together, or take your loved one to a local park. Bring a game of croquet, a bottle of bubbles, or a ball to toss. Remember to bring sunscreen, hat, and sunglasses for the grandkids and grandparents. **Share a community activity.** Our [Life Enrichment](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) Directors plan daily activities and special outings for our residents all year long. Many of the crafts, exercise programs, games, and day trips may appeal to grandchildren as well. We suggest that you contact the community to coordinate participating in an activity. Also, don’t forget to inquire if there are any costs that need to be covered or special arrangements for your family to participate. Not only will the grandparent love to show off their grandchildren, but also the other residents can benefit from the energy and enthusiasm of your children. **Show and tell**. Just like in your school days, have your child bring a favorite object to the community to present with a short story. Encourage your parent to do the same. Shared objects can be a great way to communicate with a child. In fact, you may learn something new from these stories! **Board games and cards.** There is no age limit to playing a game. For small children, keep it simple like Go Fish or Memory. Older children may benefit from learning more difficult games like chess or bridge from a grandparent. Perhaps bring a game from home (with all the pieces) that your child only plays when visiting their grandparent. This special game will give them both something to look forward to playing when they meet. **Coloring.** The craze of coloring for adults has really taken off in popularity. There are plenty of fun and creative coloring books on the market that are now age appropriate from ages 3 to 99. Gather your crayons, pens, pencils, and coloring books for an afternoon of art. Coloring is an easy, no mess project that grandparents and kids can share and enjoy together. Summer break is a great time to create fond memories for your children of their grandparents. It is also a slower time in your typically packed and fully scheduled year to take some additional time with your loved ones. It is important that your aging loved ones feel connected and have an active role in the lives of their grandchildren. --- ## Caregiving: The Detrimental Health Effects of Chronic Stress URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiving-the-detrimental-health-effects-of-chronic-stress/ Focus keyword: chronic stress Category: caregiver-support Tags: alzheimers, parkinsons, emotional-wellness, sleep, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: Caregivers, you have taken on one of the most stressful jobs you've likely ever had. Read about the consequences of chronic stress and how to combat it. As a caregiver, do you take proper care of yourself? The chronic stress attributed to the caregiver of an elderly spouse or family member can have significant negative effects on your health and longevity. Your health and stress level should not be ignored. Striking a balance of care for your loved one and yourself needs to be a priority. Research has shown that chronic stress can speed up the aging process, reduce the immune response to vaccines, delay wound healing, increase depression, increase susceptibility to infection, and shorten our lifespan. Many of these effects can be attributed to hidden inflammation caused in our bodies due to chronic stress. Inflammation is a normal response to injury or stress. But too much inflammation has been associated with several age-related diseases, such as Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s, arthritis, diabetes, osteoporosis, and coronary heart disease. Caregivers who take a proactive approach to problem solve caregiving issues before there is a concern or crisis are much less stressed than those who are not prepared. **What are the signs of chronic stress?** - Feeling guilty, overwhelmed, sad, or worried. - Easily irritated or flying into a rage - Feeling constantly tired, not sleeping, and fatigued - Lack of interest in hobbies, others, activities, or exercise - Abusing alcohol or drugs - Change in sleep patterns - Losing or gaining weight - Headaches or lower back or neck pain **How can I reduce chronic stress?** **Adjust your attitude.** Identify what you can do and accept what you cannot change. Not everything is in your control except for how you react to a situation. Perfection should not be the goal but happiness and healthiness instead. **Day in and out.** Establish a daily routine. This will be both beneficial to you in managing your time and for the loved one to predict their day. **Ask for help.** Others want to help and offer to help, but you need to accept their assistance. There is no shame in asking for a break or help on the behalf of your loved one. You need to build a support group you can rely on. **Manage projects.** Break large projects into smaller, more manageable tasks. You will feel more accomplished as you complete small goals. This will help to reduce your feelings of being overwhelmed. **Problem solve.** Take a moment to think about the issues you face and the potential solutions. Discuss these with your friends, doctors, family member, therapists, or seek a solution on the internet. Try to be proactive before a crisis or problem arises. There are many resources that can be of assistance. **Rely on your family and friends.** Stay in close contact with your family and friends. Keep them in the loop of your loved one’s health and changing needs. Lighten your load and share your concerns. If you keep your family informed then they will be more willing to help whether in person, financially, or other. **Get assistance.** There are resources in your community to help with your situation. Explore local caregiving resources, home health care options, housekeeping or gardening assistance, or home modification services to adapt your home to their changing needs. **Join a support group.** Never underestimate the empathy from others in your same situation. A support group can be a powerful stress-buster. **Take care of yourself.** Eat properly, get plenty of sleep, [meditate](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meditation-to-improve-brain-health/), and stay active. You need to care for yourself before you can care for others. **Give yourself a break.** Plan one or two small breaks during the week, whether that is coffee with a friend, a walk in the park, or a shopping spree. These mental health breaks will reduce your stress and elevate your mood. Perhaps you need a longer break, consider a [short-term stay](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiver-relief-a-short-term-assisted-living-stay/) in an assisted living or memory care community. **Embrace technology**. There are ways to keep your loved one safe that will alleviate your stress level. Emergency response systems, such as a necklace or bracelet, can be activated at the press of a button to call for medical help. Alarms on the doorways to prevent those with dementia from [wandering](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/wandering-woes-preventative-tips-to-securing-your-home/) outside alone or a GPS device to help track someone’s moves. If a short term stay is an option to help relief [caregiver stress](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) reach out to one of our [Áegis Living communitie](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)s to find out how we can help. --- ## Summer Safety in the Garden URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/summer-safety-in-the-garden/ Focus keyword: garden safely Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: hobbies-activities, fall-prevention, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors, safety-at-home, exercise-fitness Summary: As we age, there are precautions that we need to take to enjoy time in the garden safely. Read through these reminders before you get your fingers dirty. With the sun shining and the flowers blooming, many seniors will spend their time enjoying one of their favorite outdoor hobbies this summer - gardening. But as you get older, there are precautions that you need to take to enjoy your time in the garden safely. Whether you are tending your garden or your aging loved one has a garden, here are a few reminders before you get your fingers dirty: **Dressed to impress.** SPF clothing, sunglasses, and a large brim hat can help keep out the harmful UV rays. Long pants and sleeves can protect you from garden pests and harmful chemicals. Sturdy shoes and protective goggles should be used when operating power tools and lawn mowers. Garden gloves will keep your hands from getting cuts and scrapes. **Beat the heat.** Even short periods of time in high heat can cause serious illness in older adults. Try to avoid the middle of the day. Garden in the early morning or evening when cooler. Wear plenty of sunscreen and reapply throughout the day. Take frequent breaks in the shade or go inside to cool off. Know the signs of heat stroke - nausea, headache, dizziness, rapid pulse, unconsciousness, or confusion. **Keep energized.** Take breaks to eat a light snack to keep you energized. Fresh fruit and vegetables are perfect to give you a much-needed boost. Drink plenty of fluids. [Infuse water](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-stations-healthy-relief-from-summer-heat-wave/) with fruit and ice can keep you cool and hydrated. Or make yourself a refreshing smoothie to beat the heat. **Feeling drowsy.** If you are taking medications that can impair your judgment, affect your balance, or make you feel tired, do not operate machinery, climb a ladder, or do activities that could cause injury. Listen to your body, monitor your physical exertion, and watch your fatigue, so that you don’t exhaust yourself. **Get vaccinated.** All adults should get a tetanus shot every ten years. Make sure that you are up-to-date on your shots to avoid infection. Tetanus can be found in the garden soil and enters through a scrap or cut when working in the dirt. Tend to any cuts, scrapes, or insect bites immediately. Check with your physician if you are current on your vaccination. **Watch your back.** Use a stool or bench in the garden to avoid bending over and strain on your back. A raised garden bed that is higher and easier to reach or a vertical garden wall or trellis are other solutions to save you from a back strain. **Put it away.** Once you are done with day in the garden, store gardening equipment safely away so that it is not a [fall hazard](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-dangers-of-falling/) to you or anyone who enjoys your garden. Hoses should be recoiled and stored. A wheelbarrow or rolling cart are helpful to gather tools at the end of the day to store away. Enjoy the exercise and fresh air that you get while gardening, but take a few simple precautions so you can keep gardening all summer long. Visit your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)community and ask about our life enrichment gardening programs. --- ## The Discomfort of Aging Skin Issues URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-discomfort-of-aging-skin-issues/ Focus keyword: aging skin issues Category: healthy-aging Tags: sleep, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors Summary: It is a natural part of the aging process for your skin to change as you age. Learn about several skin issue that mean its time to go to the doctor Your real age can be betrayed by your skin. Wrinkles, dry skin, age spots, and bruising can all be signs of the years written on the face, arms, hands, and legs of seniors. It is a natural part of the aging process for your skin to change as you age. But skins issues that cause discomfort should be addressed with your doctor. Aging causes thinning of the dermis and epidermis, which can cause the skin to be more transparent. You can lose the underlying fat, and your skin will appear less plump. Over time, the sun’s ultraviolet rays can damage the elasticity of your skin and cause the skin to sag, stretch, and wrinkle. The skin can also bruise much easier. Cuts, scratches, and bumps can take longer to heal. ### Sun protection for dry skin It is particularly important to care for your skin during hot summer months. One of the main complaints in older adults is the discomfort of dry skin. The skin becomes drier due to decreased production of essential oils, such as sebum. Your skin can feel rough, itchy, and scaly. It can interrupt your sleep and leave you feeling uncomfortable and irritable. #### Reasons for dry skin in older adults: - Not [staying hydrated](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dehydration-concerns-for-your-parent/) - Too much exposure to the sun - Dry air - Stress - Smoking - Loss of sweat and oil glands - Too much soap or perfume - Health issues, such as [diabetes](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-tips-for-an-elderly-parent-with-diabetes/) - Bathing in hot water #### Tips to help with dry skin - Use moisturizing creams and lotions on a daily basis. They need to be frequently applied to be effective - Take fewer baths and use a mild, moisturizing soap. Keep water warm, but not hot - Add bath oil to bath water, but be careful as oils can cause tubs to be slippery - Purchase a humidifier to add moisture to the air - Always apply sunscreen and avoid the sunshine with hats, SPF clothing, and during the hottest part of the day - Quit smoking ### Other uncomfortable aging skin conditions **Shingles.**[Shingles](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/need-to-know-shingles/) is caused by the varicella-zoster virus, the same virus as chickenpox. After you have had an outbreak of chickenpox, the virus will lie dormant in the nerve tissue until it reappears years later as shingles. Shingles is most common in those over 50 years old with a weakened immune system. It can be intensely painful with burning, shooting pain, tingling, itching, blisters, and rashes. If you suspect that you have shingles, see a doctor immediately. There are treatments to help with the severity and duration. **Skin cancer**. Nearly a million people each year will develop skin cancer by the age of 65. Sun exposure is the most common cause of skin cancer, either basal cell carcinoma or squamous cell carcinoma. Regular checkups with a dermatologist can help to prevent or detect cancer. (Find out more information about skin cancer at the [Skin Cancer Foundation](http://www.skincancer.org/).) **Bruising and tears.**As we age, we bruise, and the skin can tear much easier because of the thinning of the skin and blood vessel walls. Loss of fat and connective tissues weakens the support around the blood vessels and skin, making it more vulnerable to injury. It can also take much longer to heal. Medication and illness can also cause bruising. We suggest you consult with a doctor if you are experiencing excess bruising and wounds that won’t heal. **Bedsores.** Bedsores are pressure ulcers caused when older adults, who have difficulty moving on their own, lie in bed or sit in a chair for long periods of time. Those with diabetes are more likely to experience bedsores because of poor circulation. A person needs to be frequently moved, repositioned, or rotated to prevent bedsores. **Sun spots.** Sun spots are also called liver spots. These are flat, brown spots that appear due to the years of exposure to the sun. They often show up on the hands, face, back, and feet. These are harmless, but a dermatologist can remove them. It is so important always to wear sunscreen. **Skin tags.** Skin tags are small, harmless, raised bumps. They are common in females and often appear on the eyelids, neck, and chest. They can become irritated, so a dermatologist can remove them if needed. --- ## The Effects of Hearing Loss in the Elderly URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-effects-of-hearing-loss-on-the-elderly/ Focus keyword: elderly hearing loss Category: health-conditions Tags: vision-hearing, depression-anxiety, social-connection, safety-at-home, for-seniors, for-spouses, emotional-wellness Summary: Hearing loss is common with the elderly, and can lead to isolation, cognitive decline and safety issues. Learn about 6 tips for those with diminished hearing. One of the most common conditions to impact older adults is hearing loss. Approximately one in three adults between the ages of 65 and 75 experience hearing loss and nearly half of those over the age of 75 have difficulty with hearing clearly. Hearing loss in older adults can impact quality of life when they feel cut off from the rest of the world. Hearing loss can have serious ramifications for seniors. Diminished personal safety, social isolation, depression, and extreme frustration can have a profound effect on your aging loved. How would you feel if you could no longer communicate properly with your loved ones? Many seniors don’t want to admit to having a problem and become depressed and withdrawn. They avoid social situations because they are frustrated that they are unable to follow a conversation or participate in a conversation. This social isolation can have a negative effect on their daily life. Hearing loss can lead to loneliness and lack of [socialization](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-socializing-helps-the-brain-function-better/) that can lead to cognitive decline. Often older people with hearing loss are mistakenly thought to be confused or unresponsive due to cognitive impairment. Their hearing loss might be mistaken as being uncooperative. And that negative perception from others can lead to depression and a negative perception of him or herself. The emotional toll of hearing loss can be significant. Family relationships can be strained by a senior loved one who is frustrated because of their diminished hearing. They may be irritable and lash out on those who are closest to them. Married couples may fight over a spouses’ refusal to attend social events. Hearing loss can be a source of tension and stress that can lead to arguments and hurt feelings. And one of the biggest concerns with those who have hearing loss is safety. Would they be able to hear a smoke alarm in the middle of the night? Could they hear someone shout a warning to them or a siren? Could they follow the doctor’s advice for their medication or treatment? Could they hear if someone was breaking into their home? Hearing loss can become a safety issue for many seniors, especially for those living alone. ### 6 **Tips for those experiencing hearing loss:** - **Tell those around you.** Share with your family and friends that you are experiencing hearing loss. It is important for others to know that hearing is difficult for you. - **Clear and loud.** Ask others to speak to you clearly and with a loud voice, no need to talk very slow and shout. Sometimes it is helpful for loved ones to lower the pitch of their voice. - **Face to face.** Ask loved ones and friends to speak to you directly so you can see their face. If you see their facial expressions and hand gestures, then you may understand them better. - **Turn off distractions.** Turn off the radio or television if you are not listening to these. This background noise can distract and add to the hearing loss issue. - **Noise in public.** Be aware of the noise around you and the effect it might have on your ability to hear. If you are near a busy road with street traffic, sitting in a restaurant near the kitchen, in a noisy party or event, or in a location with live music, these can all limit your ability to hear and follow a conversation. - **Invest in technology**. A hearing aid might be the first place to start, but there are other devices to assist seniors with hearing loss, such as amplified telephones, flashing doorbells, vibrating alarm clocks, headphones and personal hearing devices for the television or radio, and strobe light smoke alarms. Hearing issues that go untreated may worsen. We recommend that if you are experiencing hearing loss to speak with your primary care physician or see a specialist such as an otolaryngologist, audiologist or hearing aid specialist. Hearing aids, medication, or even surgery can greatly help some with hearing problems. --- ## Ideas For Father’s Day When Your Father Has Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/ideas-for-fathers-day-when-your-father-has-dementia/ Focus keyword: father Category: family-communication Tags: alzheimers, dementia, nutrition, driving, hobbies-activities, for-caregivers Summary: Celebrate your father with Alzheimer's this Father's Day. Discover 4 nostalgic ways to relive childhood memories and cherish your time together. Help your father celebrate and remember his years as a young parent this Father’s Day. Having a father who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia can be challenging for a family. It can be especially difficult this time of year with the upcoming Father’s Day holiday. You want to honor your father and celebrate his life, but how? What is appropriate? ## Reliving Memories With Your Father This Father’s Day, we suggest that you relive the memories and pastimes of your youth with your father. Often [residents](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) with dementia cannot remember what they ate for lunch that day, but they can recall distant stories in their long-term memory. Try to conjure up those long ago memories in simple ways that remind him of being a young father. **Sports.** Did you toss the football around with your dad when you were young? Or hit a bucket of golf balls at the driving range? Are you a Mariner’s baseball fan or is tennis your sport? Whatever sport you enjoyed together in your younger years, embrace that this Father’s Day. Treat him to baseball tickets, take him to a high school sporting event, or simply catch the big game on TV. And sports wouldn’t be the same without a spread of tasty food - hotdogs, popcorn, soda, and cotton candy. Cheering for a favorite team or player, whether in person or on the television, may spark some old memories. **Road trip.** Most of us remember those car trips of our youth, fighting in the back seat with our siblings, and stopping at the roadside attractions on the way to our favorite vacation spot. This Father’s Day, plan a day trip in the car, whether that includes a specific destination or an afternoon meandering scenic drive. Play his favorite music, pick up snacks from the gas station, or stop for a burger at a diner. Give him the map to lead the way or just follow your nose. A lovely afternoon drive (without fighting with your little brother in the backseat) can be very enjoyable for both of you. **Milk and cookies**. Does your dad have a favorite cookie recipe? Did you grow up on classic chocolate chip or did he prefer snickerdoodles? And what a treat to indulge in freshly baked cookies with an ice-cold glass of milk, just like when you were young! If you live outside of his town, a tin of cookies can be delivered by [Harry and David](http://www.harryanddavid.com/?flws_rd=1)or [Cheryl’s Cookies](https://www.cheryls.com/cookie-gifts-for-him?flws_rd=2)as a special surprise. Order extra cookies for your father to share with his caregivers to show his gratitude for their help. Whether you bake them yourself, make them together, or pick them up from a bakery, share this treat together and reminisce about the memories you had as a child with your father. **Give your mom a break**. As a kid, did you pal around with dad on the weekends, run errands with him, and head to the park to give your mom a break? If your father has dementia and your mother is caring for him or living with him, she may desperately need a break. Being a caregiver is a stressful job and watching your loved one change is exhausting, both mentally and physically. Your mom or his caregiver may appreciate a break while you care for your father. It’s now your turn to take your dad to the park for a walk, grab an ice cream cone, or watch the boats come into the marina. This Father’s Day, it is important to cherish the memories that you have together and make new ones. Your world may feel upside down since the diagnosis but make the effort to stay connected. Time together, however it may be spent, is precious. --- ## Four Common Myths About Pain and the Elderly URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-common-myths-about-pain-and-the-elderly/ Focus keyword: elderly pain myths Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, sleep, brain-health, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and wellbeing is a top priority. We debunk four common myths about pain and the elderly and encourage those in pain to seek help. Many older adults quietly endure pain on a daily basis. They make excuses from their pain or deny they are in pain to their family members or caregivers. Pain should not disrupt your daily activities or diminish your quality of life. And [caregivers](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-tips-to-transition-into-a-caregiver/) need to be vigilant and watch for signs of pain in their loved ones. If you or your loved one is experiencing acute or chronic pain, do not ignore this warning sign. Consult with your physician and let them know your symptoms and concerns. Pain management can lead to a better quality of life and greater comfort.” ### Myth #1: Pain is a normal part of aging To set the record straight, pain is not a normal part of aging, but it can often go untreated or managed ineffectively. In fact, pain can be a warning sign that something is wrong and should not be ignored. It is also important to recognize that older adults may display different signs and symptoms of pain, including loss of appetite, fatigue, depression, inability to sleep, restlessness, aggression, and delirium. Many older adults have three or more chronic health conditions, and many of these can be the source of pain. This puts this older adult population at a greater risk of pain severity. ### Myth #2: Older Adults perceive pain to a lesser degree Many people believe that pain sensitivity decreases with age and changes in cognition. In some cases, older adults have higher pain thresholds and a higher tolerance to pain. This can be dangerous because it makes them more vulnerable to unrecognized pain and loss of pain as a warning sign. Because these groups of older adults differ so greatly, they are more likely to experience severe pain and pain treatment disparities. ### Myth #3: If you don’t complain, you must not be in pain If your loved one does not complain about pain, it does not necessarily mean they aren’t in pain. Some older loved ones are embarrassed to admit they are in pain or don’t want to be a nuisance. Some may deny pain to show courage or to avoid treatment and a visit to the doctor. Some may feel ignored or misunderstood when they express their pain. And some older adults with [memory loss](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/), brain damage, or stroke may not be able to express their level of pain clearly to a caregiver. ### Myth #4: Pain Medication Leads to Addiction Managing pain in the older adult population is an ongoing challenge. The difficulty in assessing the intensity of pain due to cognitive issues and multiple chronic conditions contributes to the under-treatment of pain in older adults. Many older adults fear they will become addicted and may not report their pain to their physician. But when appropriately prescribed in a dose sufficient to relieve the pain, there is no indication it will result in addiction. Don’t let fear stop you from treatment. --- ## Reasons Behind Disrupted Sleep URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/reasons-behind-disrupted-sleep/ Focus keyword: insomnia Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, arthritis-mobility, sleep, fall-prevention, when-its-time, for-seniors, incontinence Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well-being is a top priority. We discuss reasons for disrupted sleep and how too remedy it. Read more here. As we age, we experience many physical changes from needing reading glasses for the morning newspaper to being less able to tolerate spicy food, but there is one significant change that can truly affect your personal well-being and happiness - sleep. It is normal that our sleep patterns change as we advance in years. But chronic insomnia, lack of energy, and an unshakable feeling of fatigue can have a real impact on your quality of life. Many older adults complain that they have a harder time falling asleep than when they were younger. They also complain of waking up in the night, resulting in less REM sleep. Sleep disturbance in older adults is often attributed to physical and psychiatric challenges of this older population, and the medications used to treat these issues.” Older adults may experience periods of insomnia. This is normal and can happen from time to time. But chronic insomnia that persists over a series of nights should warrant a visit to your medical provider. There may be a medical reason why you or someone you love is not getting a restful sleep. Here are some medical issues and symptoms to discuss with your physician if you are experiencing disruptions in your sleep: - **Sleep Apnea.**Loud snoring can be a symptom of Obstructive Sleep Apnea (OSA). OSA can cause significant health issues, including high blood pressure if left untreated. OSA causes your breathing to stop as you sleep. When the oxygen drops in your blood, your brain is alerted to awaken and resume breathing. This can repeatedly happen during the night, causing multiple interruptions in your sleep and leaving you fatigued in the morning. Not only does OSA disrupt your sleep, but it can also put you at risk for cardiovascular disease, depression, and memory loss. - **Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (GERD), also known as acid reflux.** The discomfort and pain caused by GERD can make it difficult to fall to sleep or to sleep soundly. GERD is a backflow of acid in the esophagus that can cause heartburn, coughing, and choking when laying down. If you are experiencing these symptoms, consult with your physician. - **Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS) and Periodic Limbs Movements of Sleep (PLMS).**These neurological disorders are characterized by unpleasant tingling, creeping, or pulling feelings, typically on the legs that cause an urge to move your limbs when you are at rest. - **Pain** can happen as we age for a number of reasons - lower back pain, arthritis, headaches, surgery, or illness. This can disrupt how long it takes you to fall to asleep and remain soundly asleep. - **Heart Disease.**Sometimes the symptoms of heart disease can cause poor sleep, such as angina, fluid buildup in the lungs, or abnormal heart rhythm. Sleep issues can be a sign of greater issues in your health. These symptoms should not be ignored. - **Frequent Urination**. Frequent need to visit the bathroom during the night or incontinence can disrupt your sleep pattern and leave you wide awake. This can be a sign of diabetes, a side effect of medication, a urinary tract infection, or a kidney infection. This should be discussed with your doctor. - **Alzheimer’s and other forms of Dementia**. Researchers do not completely understand why Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia disrupt the sleep patterns of those affected. Along with the changes in memory and physical changes, sleep patterns will also change. [Sundowning](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/) can also be an issue causing agitation during the evening hours, making it difficult to settle down and relax before a bedtime routine. We all know that a full night of restful sleep is important for your health and well-being. If you or your loved one are experiencing issues that affect your nightly sleep, consult with a medical professional. You can also find tips on how to create a routine and what to avoid before sleep to aid your slumber at the [National Sleep Foundation.](https://sleepfoundation.org/) --- ## Honoring Our Veteran Heroes URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/honoring-our-heroes/ Focus keyword: honored veterans Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: assisted-living, veterans, hobbies-activities, moving-in, for-spouses Summary: Áegis Living is proud and honored to care for many of our country’s veterans and military spouses across all of our communities. Read more here. This Memorial Day, [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington) is proud and honored to care for many of our country’s[veterans](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/) and military spouses across all of our communities. For their sacrifice and service, this aging community of heroes deserves dignity and respect as they move into their golden years. We are dedicated to their comfort and honoring their spirit every day. From all of us at Áegis Living, we humbly thank each of our veterans for protecting our freedom and serving our country. Among our many heroes, we want to acknowledge one special veteran - Art Peterson in our [Áegis of Granada Hills](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-living-granada-hills-ca/). At 94, Art is helping his fellow veterans receive the recognition they deserve. Although many decades after their military service, Art has helped six of his comrades at Áegis Living receive the service medals that they earned but never received. Art Peterson has made it his mission to track down their discharge papers and maneuver through the VA red tape to collect the service medals they deservedly earned. It hasn’t always been easy or straightforward, but Art has doggedly pursued and charmed the Veterans Administration Center in North Hills to get their medals delivered. “Art’s love and passion for veterans is powerful,” says the Marketing Director at Áegis of Granada Hills.” She says, “He really goes the extra mile in getting the medals and decorations these veterans so richly deserve.” Art was inspired by a cousin who was surprised on his 80th birthday with his service medals. It brought his cousin to tears and impressed upon Art the impact and importance of these medals, even after so many years. Art served in the Navy from 1943 to 1946 in World War II in the South Pacific and Guadalcanal. He spent years working as a labor relations troubleshooter for Hughes Aircraft. Now, he works tirelessly on this new mission while retired and living at our assisted living community in Granada Hills. At Áegis Living, we are so grateful for his dedication and compassion for his comrades. In fact, now there’s talk of Art Peterson helping veterans at other communities in Southern California. Inspired by our many residents who have served in the military, Áegis Living is proud to announce a new way to honor our veterans. We are introducing the Áegis Wall of Honor on our Áegis Living [Facebook page](https://www.facebook.com/AegisLiving/). It is our way to recognize those who have served in the military for all to see. If you would like to honor a friend, family member, or loved one, submit a photo of that person with a short paragraph describing their service and why they are special to you. Visit our Áegis Living [Facebook page](https://www.facebook.com/AegisLiving/) to submit your information and to see our growing Wall of Honor. --- ## The Health Benefits Of A Pet URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-health-benefits-of-a-pet/ Focus keyword: pet benefits Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: depression-anxiety, dementia, pets, exercise-fitness, legal-planning, for-seniors, emotional-wellness Summary: Pets offer more than just companionship and unconditional love. Learn more about the surprising health benefits of owning a pet. One of our sous chefs surprised our residents with his family’s five new Golden Retriever puppies. These energetic balls of yellow fur and unlimited licks cuddled, played, and visited with our residents for the afternoon. As you could see from their smiles, the joy of a puppy doesn’t fade with age. In fact, research has proven that a pet can have many health benefits not only for older adults but everyone. Pets offer more than just companionship and unconditional love. Studies have found that pets boost health and wellbeing, especially in older adults. Because of their many benefits, Áegis Living has house dogs in most of our communities and offers a pet-friendly policy for our residents who own pets. Animals can help to normalize an environment and put others at ease. Áegis Living has found that pets encourage more interaction among our residents through joy, laughter, and shared memories of past pets. “At Áegis Living we know that a house isn’t a home for many unless it includes a four-legged, furry friend,” says Rob Liebreich, General Manager of [Áegis on Madison](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-living-madison-seattle-wa/). “A therapy dog can often reach our residents with dementia or Alzheimer’s in ways that others might not be able to reach them.” In Washington, [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington) had partnered with Dr. Rahul Khurana, a board-certified geriatric psychiatrist. His goal is to maximize the functionality and quality of life of our aging residents, who may be living with depression, anxiety, or dementia. He is accompanied on his visits by B.B., his certified therapy dog through the Pet Partners Program. B.B. is a calming, gentle, and reassuring companion who helps soothe and reduce anxiety in many of our residents. ### The power of a pet As far back as 1859, Florence Nightingale believed that a small pet served as an excellent companion for the chronically ill. Research has shown that some of the benefits of pet therapy include: - Decreased stress - Lower blood pressure - Improved communication - some who are unresponsive may chat with a pet. - Increased exercise and physical activity - many will walk further when walking with a dog. - Improved motor skills - A sense of purpose and reduced feelings of loneliness The University of Missouri-Columbia found pet therapy generated hormones that positively affect a person’s mood. A study by Rebecca Johnson, Ph.D., RN shows that when an individual pets a dog for a few minutes they will get an immediate release of “feel good” hormones - such as serotonin, beta endorphin, prolactin, and oxytocin. The result is you feel happy, and your cortisol (stress hormones) will decrease which can significantly help with depression. A loving, furry companion or a visit with Fido may just be what the doctor ordered to boost your mood! --- ## Meditation to Improve Brain Health URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/meditation-to-improve-brain-health/ Focus keyword: meditation benefits Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, emotional-wellness, brain-health, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-spouses, nutrition Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and wellbeing is a top priority. Learn about the benefits of meditation, how it improves your brain health, and prolongs your life. The main tenets of living a healthy lifestyle are repeated by physicians, in magazine articles, on television shows, and even by your mother: eat a healthy diet, exercise regularly, and get plenty of sleep. But there is an additional tool to use in your quest for good health and longevity - meditation. Meditation may sound radical or “hippy-dippy” to some, but more and more research is showing that those who meditate are experiencing real health benefits from this practice. Benefits that can improve your brain health and potentially prolong your life. It is a well-known fact that as we age our brain volume declines. This decline is a slow progression but becomes more pronounced after the age of 50. The result is slower motor skills and cognitive ability. Although this decline is inevitable, it manifests itself differently in each person and is most strongly influenced by an individual’s healthy habits. Aging can be seen as an accumulation of stress over the years. The average woman over 40 years old is juggling a spouse, children, work, friends, finances, caregiving, and her changing body. She experiences about 50 stress responses per day, and this can take a toll. Chronic [stress elevates levels of cortisol](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20046037#:~:text=Adrenaline%20increases%20your%20heart%20rate,of%20substances%20that%20repair%20tissues.) (the stress hormone) which can inhibit your immune system, reduce the volume of gray matter in your brain, and harm your memory. Prolonged periods of raised levels of cortisol can affect your blood pressure and fats within your blood resulting in a higher risk for a heart attack or stroke. If we can affect our stress response, then we can influence the aging process. The number one benefit of meditation is to reduce stress which will improve the quality of your life. It is a habit that needs little space, no equipment, and fits into most busy schedules.” Meditation promotes telomere health. Telomeres are the protective ends of chromosomes indicative of your biological age (rather than your chronological age). Studies have found that those who meditate have longer telomeres. [Shorter telomere length in cells](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3057175/) is linked to a poorer immune system, cardiovascular disease, and degenerative conditions such as osteoporosis and Alzheimer’s. As we age, telomere shortening happens naturally, but research shows it can be accelerated by stress which can speed up the aging process of your body. **What are the other benefits of meditation?** The practice of meditation involves slow, mindful breathing. It relaxes an individual physically by calming our fight-or-flight response, but there are many other benefits to meditation. - **In the present.** Meditation allows you to be “in the present” instead of worrying about the past or making plans for the future that can only add to your stress level. - **Step back**. Meditation is dedicated time to analyze negative thoughts or stressful situations to determine if these are reality or passing events. Meditation and other forms of deliberate relaxation allow you to step back and change how you perceive the stressors in your life. - **Improves concentration.** A calm, focused mind improves your concentration and ability to multitask. - **Reduces blood pressure.**Relaxation increases the compound nitric oxide that causes blood vessels to open and blood pressure to drop. We know that stress can have long-term, negative effects on your health. Try meditation for yourself to see if it can reduce your stress and improve your quality of life. --- ## Celebrating Mother’s Day When Mom has Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/celebrating-mothers-day-when-mom-has-dementia/ Focus keyword: mother's day with dementia Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, alzheimers, nutrition, emotional-wellness, choosing-a-community, costs-funding, for-caregivers Summary: Áegis Livings helps you navigate the mixed emotions of mothers day when mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Read more here. Do you remember the construction paper cards you made for Mother’s Day as a child? Those days were simple. Today, life is more complicated because you are caring for an aging parent with dementia. This Mother’s Day, you may feel a range of emotions if your mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia. Perhaps you are dreading this holiday. It might be a day that symbolizes the dramatic physical or personality changes that you have witnessed over the last year. You may feel confused about how to celebrate this holiday with your mother. Having a loved one with dementia changes the dynamics of your family. You may need to be creative about how you celebrate holidays together and adapt your family traditions. Maybe it’s time to start a new tradition. **Give gratitude** This Mother’s Day, try to focus on the positive. You may feel overwhelmed, or perhaps your mother no longer remembers your name or is uncommunicative. These changes are emotionally traumatic. Reconsider how you celebrate this holiday. Use this day as an opportunity to express your gratitude for those who love and support you and your mother. Write a heartfelt note to a caregiver who has shown compassion and patience with your mother. Take this day to thank your spouse and family. It is important to let them know exactly how much you appreciate their love and support. Consider a thankful note or small gift for a therapist, family friend, nurse, doctor, or clergy whose additional support has meant so much to your family. Perhaps your goal this Mother’s Day is to express the appreciation for others that your mother may no longer be able to express herself. Also, research has proven the benefits of giving thanks and showing gratitude can improve mental, physical, and relational well-being. Being grateful can impact your happiness and reduce anxiety with long-lasting results. As a caregiver, use gratitude as a tool to stay positive and find happiness during this turbulent time. **Experience the day together** A person can experience dementia in various ways, and it can progress through many stages. These tips may not work for every individual, but hopefully, they will spark ideas on how you can share this Mother’s Day together. - **Honor her.** Share with your family and friends a story about your mother. A funny, wise, or motivational story may inspire others. Use Mother’s Day to share a little about her through social media or a personal email. The younger generation can greatly benefit from the wisdom of their grandparents, but you may have to be the one to facilitate these stories. - **Scent to remember.** Flowers are always appropriate on Mother’s Day but think of choosing a bouquet filled with flowers that have a strong scent. The scent of roses, freesia, and peonies may spark a distant memory. On that same note, a favorite perfume may also be a lovely reminder of her days as a young woman. Scent is a powerful way to evoke memories. - **Family and food.** In most families, celebrations involve cooking and baking. This Mother’s Day, prepare a favorite dish, a family recipe for cookies, or fresh-baked bread would be a special treat for your mother. Many people with dementia lose their appetites or even forget to eat, tasty food and snacks will encourage them to eat and help keep up their energy. - **The gift of music.** Music can transport you to a different time or place. This Mother’s Day, play some of her favorite music, dance with her, and sing along. [Music has proven](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-powerful-impact-of-music-on-memory-care/) to bring joy to those with dementia. - **A hand massage.** Give your mother a hand massage or manicure. Holding her hands and applying a rich cream is good for her frail skin and an intimate way to share a peaceful moment together. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington), we wish all of our mothers and grandmothers a wonderful, happy, and healthy Mother’s Day! --- ## Tips to Decorate an Assisted Living Apartment URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-decorate-an-assisted-living-apartment/ Focus keyword: apartment Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: arthritis-mobility, assisted-living, hobbies-activities, moving-in, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: "When designing for an elderly loved one's new assisted living apartment, keep in mind that the space needs to be practical...be easy to maneuver, safe and items" When designing for an older loved one’s new assisted living apartment, keep in mind that the space needs to be practical. But practical doesn’t mean that it can’t be stylish and beautiful. The space needs to be easy to maneuver, safe and items should be purposeful. Here are some tips for assisted living room decorating. Consider any mobility issues that your parent might have or physical limitations, when you make a floor plan. Don’t overcrowd the room. You want to be careful of items low or on the ground that could be a tripping hazard. Also, make sure they can able to reach everything that they will need. Hooks on the back of door might keep things neat, but it is not practical if your family member cannot reach their robe and jacket. And no matter what age you are, everyone wants to live in a beautiful space that represents their taste and reflects their style. Painting a room in a soft neutral color can be very relaxing and perfect for some tastes. But if you mother has always loved and embraced color, why change now? Paint colors, linens, and art can all reflect your loved one’s style and create a space that is inviting. **Character in the space.** Most of us search for vintage finds to add depth and character to our homes. But most seniors have a treasure trove of decor accessories with a sentimental attachment. Use these items throughout their apartment to surround them with fond memories. When decorating a small space, these items give the room a sense of history and personality. And think of using these items in a unique way, a wooden box could hold linens or a teapot can be used as a planter. **Accessibly**. Keep in mind that either your loved one or their new friends may have walkers and wheelchairs. You want to make sure the room is accessible with enough floor space to easily move. Avoid area rugs that can be a trip hazard or difficult to maneuver over. **Lighting.** Install bright lighting next to the bed or corner chair for reading. Task lighting at a desk for writing letters or craft projects can be helpful to older eyes. Lighting in a wardrobe or closet will help them see stored items more easily. Keep all cords tucked away. **Chairs.** When looking at seating, consider a chair that is higher and with sturdy armrests, so it is easier to get in and out. Soft upholstery can be luxurious, and leather can be durable, try to match their tastes and needs. **Storage**. Before you move, clean out your closets, donate duplicate items, and downsize your wardrobe if needed. Make sure dressers are not too tall. (see [Tips to Support Independent Dressing](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/) for more suggestions) **Memo board.** As we age, our memory can fade. Install a memo board to keep important notes, reminders, and photos posted and easily accessible. The cards and items on the board can be rotated out to keep it fresh and organized. **Bedding.** Bedding is an easy way to give a room big impact. Find bedding that is inviting with colorful linens, interesting patterns, assorted textures, soft upholstered headboard, and a throw blanket. **Tables.** Oval or circular tables with non-glass tops keep the room light and airy but safe for seniors as they move around. You may want to use side tables next to furniture pieces to rest a cup of coffee or book versus using a coffee table in the middle of the room that can be a trip hazard. Moving into an [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) can be exciting and sometimes stressful for some seniors. Having fun with your parent and their assisted living room decorating can make the transition easier. “We suggest that you involve your loved one in the plans for their new home,” says Tom Laborde, Chief Operating Officer at Áegis Living. “This is a big lifestyle change. Creating a room that is inviting and personalized is really important to their comfort as they transition into their new apartment.” --- ## How to Help a Parent with Dementia Dress Independently URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/ Focus keyword: dementia dressing tips Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, brain-health, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-seniors, depression-anxiety Summary: Practical, dignity-first tips to help a loved one with dementia dress themselves: clothing choices, closet setup, and step-by-step cues that reduce frustration. If your loved one with dementia struggles to get dressed in the morning, the goal is not to take over - it's to simplify. Reduce choices to two outfits, lay clothing out in the order it goes on, swap small buttons for Velcro or elastic, and give gentle one-step verbal cues. These small changes preserve independence, protect dignity, and cut morning frustration for both of you. Dressing is one of the first activities of daily living (ADLs) affected by Alzheimer's disease, and roughly 1 in 9 Americans aged 65 and older is living with the condition ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). Recognizing the connection between cognitive change and everyday tasks is part of spotting the [10 Early Signs of Dementia Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/do-you-know-10-signs-of-dementia/). ## Why does dressing become so difficult with dementia? Getting dressed looks simple, but it requires sequencing, depth perception, fine motor control, and decision-making. Dementia disrupts each of these. The Mayo Clinic notes that difficulty with familiar tasks like dressing or grooming is a hallmark symptom of progressing Alzheimer's ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alzheimers-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20350447), 2024).As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: the person hasn't forgotten how to dress, they've lost the ability to organize the steps. Your job is to be their external sequencer, not their substitute. Consider an 82-year-old retired teacher who used to dress beautifully for church. One morning she puts her bra on over her sweater. She is not being difficult; her brain is no longer ordering the layers correctly. A simple fix - laying clothes out left to right in the order they go on - can restore the routine. ## How should you simplify the closet? An overstuffed closet is sensory overload. The National Institute on Aging recommends reducing decision-making demands for people with dementia (National Institute on Aging, 2023). - **Pare down.** Keep 5 to 7 favorite outfits in the closet. Store off-season clothing in a separate bin. - **Coordinate colors.** Buy separates in 2 or 3 colors that all match, so nothing clashes. - **Add light.** Install a battery LED puck inside dark closets so contrasting items are visible. - **Hang in order.** Use ascending tension rods: undergarments on the lowest, shirt next, pants last - in the order they go on. - **Hide trigger items.** Lock away or relocate heavy coats in summer and swimsuits in winter to prevent confusion. ## Which clothing features work best? Adaptive clothing has grown into a recognized category, and AARP highlights closures like magnetic buttons and Velcro as game-changers for seniors with arthritis or cognitive change (AARP, 2023). FeatureAvoidChoose insteadClosuresSmall buttons, back zippersVelcro, magnetic snaps, large front buttonsWaistbandsBelts, hooksElastic, pull-onFabricStiff denim, scratchy wool, busy printsSoft knits, solids, subtle patternsShoesLaces, slick solesVelcro straps, rubber non-slip solesTopsPullover turtlenecksOpen cardigans, button-front shirts ## What are the key terms families should know? Activities of Daily Living (ADLs)The basic self-care tasks - bathing, dressing, toileting, transferring, eating, continence - used by clinicians to measure independence.Hand-under-hand assistanceA Teepa Snow technique where you place your hand under your loved one's hand to guide motion together, preserving their sense of doing rather than being done to.Adaptive clothingGarments redesigned with Velcro, magnetic closures, side openings, or stretch fabrics to make dressing easier for people with limited dexterity or cognitive change.SundowningLate-day confusion or agitation common in mid-stage dementia. Dressing routines may need to shift earlier in the day when energy is highest. ## How do you cue without taking over? Verbal and visual cues let your loved one keep doing the work. The Cleveland Clinic suggests breaking complex tasks into one-step instructions for people with dementia (Cleveland Clinic, 2023). - **One step at a time.** Hand over a single item with a short instruction: "Here's your shirt. Put your arms in." - **Mirror and model.** Demonstrate the motion yourself if words aren't landing. - **Use their name and yours.** Reintroduce yourself if needed: "Mom, it's Sarah. Let's put on your blue sweater." - **Stretch the clock.** Build in 30 to 45 minutes for morning dressing without rushing. - **Skip arguments.** If she insists on the floral dress for the third day, let her wear it. Pick battles that matter for safety. Imagine your dad wants to put his pajama pants on over his slacks. Instead of correcting him, hand him the clean undershirt first and say, "Let's start with this." Redirection beats confrontation, every time. ## When is it time for more support? If dressing struggles are paired with wandering, weight loss, or unsafe behavior with appliances, the level of care at home may no longer match the need. Our guides on [Dementia Wandering: Preventative Tips to Secure Your Home](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/wandering-woes-preventative-tips-to-securing-your-home/), [How to Encourage Healthy Eating in Dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-eating-in-those-with-dementia/), and [Understanding Alzheimer's: Signs, Progression, and Comfort Through Care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-alzheimers-signs-progression-and-comfort-through-care/) can help you assess what's next. Memory care communities are staffed to deliver consistent dressing routines without the emotional weight family members carry. The median monthly [cost of memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-memory-care/) nationally falls in a broad range as of recent surveys ([Genworth Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2023). Touring a community in person remains the best way to evaluate fit. ## Ready to talk through next steps? Áegis Living's memory care teams use dignity-first dressing routines every morning across our communities. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a tour. ## Frequently asked questions ### What clothing is easiest for someone with dementia to put on? Pull-on pants with elastic waistbands, open-front cardigans, front-button shirts with large buttons, and Velcro-strap shoes are easiest. Avoid back zippers, small buttons, and pullover turtlenecks. Adaptive clothing brands now make magnetic-closure dress shirts that look standard but fasten in seconds. ### Why does my mom wear the same outfit every day? Familiar clothing is comforting and removes a decision. Buy two or three identical versions of her favorite outfit so she can wear "the same thing" while you quietly launder the others. This reduces conflict and keeps her clean. ### How long should dressing take for a senior with dementia? Plan for 30 to 45 minutes, sometimes longer. Rushing triggers anxiety and resistance. If mornings are especially hard, try dressing after breakfast when she's more alert, or lay out clothes the night before. ### Should I let my dad pick out clothes that don't match? Yes, within reason. Independence and dignity outweigh fashion. Coordinate his closet ahead of time so most combinations work, and reserve correction for safety issues like wearing shorts in freezing weather. ### What is hand-under-hand assistance? Developed by dementia educator Teepa Snow, hand-under-hand means placing your hand beneath your loved one's hand to guide a motion together. It feels collaborative rather than controlling, and it preserves their sense of agency while you provide the sequencing their brain can't. ### When should I consider memory care instead of home dressing routines? Consider memory care when dressing difficulties pair with safety risks: leaving the stove on, wandering outside undressed, falls during transfers, or [caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/). A community provides 24/7 trained staff and consistent routines that reduce agitation. --- ## How to Pay for Assisted Living: 7 Funding Options URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-pay-for-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: pay for assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, veterans, social-connection, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses Summary: Compare 7 ways to pay for assisted living - private pay, long-term care insurance, VA benefits, life insurance, Medicaid, and more. Costs and eligibility explained. Most families pay for assisted living through a blend of sources: personal savings and Social Security, proceeds from selling a home, long-term care insurance, VA Aid & Attendance benefits for veterans, life insurance conversions, and - for those who qualify financially - Medicaid waivers. The national median cost is $6,200 per month ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025), so building a layered funding plan early makes the difference between feeling squeezed and feeling secure. If you are just beginning the search, start with our pillar guide on [how to find the best assisted living near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/assisted-living-near-me/) - then return here to map the dollars. ## What does assisted living actually cost in 2026? The national median is $6,200 per month, or $74,400 per year ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). Costs climb in metro areas on the West Coast and Northeast and run lower in parts of the Midwest and South. Memory care typically adds 20 - 30% on top of the base assisted living rate because of higher staffing ratios and secured environments. Before you compare communities, get a written quote that breaks out (1) the base rent, (2) the care-level fee, and (3) one-time community or move-in fees. For a deeper breakdown, see [what are U.S. annual long-term care costs](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-u-s-annual-long-term-care-costs/). ## How do the main payment options compare? Funding sourceWho it fitsTypical contributionSpeed to accessPrivate pay (savings, Social Security, pension)Most families, at least partially$1,500 - $6,200+/monthImmediateHome sale or reverse mortgageHomeowners with equityLump sum or monthly draw2 - 6 monthsLong-term care insurancePolicyholders who bought in their 50s - 60s$150 - $300/day benefit common30 - 90 day elimination periodVA Aid & AttendanceWartime veterans and surviving spousesUp to ~$2,874/mo (veteran with a dependent, 2026)3 - 9 monthsLife insurance conversionOwners of permanent policies50 - 75% of face value30 - 60 daysMedicaid waiverLow-income, low-asset seniorsVaries by state1 - 6 months ## What counts as "private pay" and how do families stretch it? Private pay simply means out-of-pocket dollars: Social Security checks, pensions, retirement account withdrawals, savings, investment income, and contributions from adult children. The average retired worker received $2,071 per month in Social Security in January 2026, after the 2.8% cost-of-living adjustment ([Social Security Administration](https://www.ssa.gov/news/en/cola/factsheets/2026.html), 2026), which usually covers a slice - not the whole bill. For example, an 84-year-old widow in Oregon who receives $2,100/month in Social Security and a $900/month pension can cover roughly $3,000 of a $5,800 monthly assisted living rate. Her family bridges the remaining $2,800 by renting out her paid-off house for $2,400/month and drawing $400 from a modest IRA. That layered structure is more common than any single funding source. If you are weighing staying home with hired help versus moving, our side-by-side [comparison of the costs of in-home care with assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/compare-the-costs-of-in-home-care-with-assisted-living/) shows where the break-even point usually lands. ## How does long-term care insurance work? Long-term care (LTC) insuranceA policy that reimburses for help with activities of daily living - bathing, dressing, toileting, transferring, eating, continence - when a doctor certifies you need assistance with at least two of them, or have a cognitive impairment like Alzheimer's.Elimination periodThe waiting period (often 30, 60, or 90 days) you pay out of pocket before benefits start.Daily benefitThe maximum the policy pays per day, commonly $150 - $300, sometimes with inflation protection.LTC insurance pays in assisted living, memory care, nursing homes, and often at home. The catch: you generally must buy it before you need it. Premiums rise sharply with age, and underwriting tightens after a dementia diagnosis. As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, planning for the long arc of later life - including how care will be paid for - needs to start a decade or two before a crisis, not the week of a hospital discharge. Dig the policy out of the file cabinet now. Look for the daily benefit, elimination period, inflation rider, and whether assisted living is an eligible setting. Then read our walkthrough on [planning your own long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/planning-your-own-long-term-care/). ## What VA benefits can help veterans pay for assisted living? The Department of Veterans Affairs Aid & Attendance benefit is a tax-free monthly supplement on top of the basic VA pension. Effective December 1, 2025, the maximum monthly amounts are approximately $2,424 for a single veteran, $2,874 for a veteran with a dependent, and $1,558 for a surviving spouse ([U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs](https://www.va.gov/pension/veterans-pension-rates/), 2025). Verify current rates at VA.gov, as they adjust annually. To qualify, the veteran generally must have served at least 90 days of active duty, with one day during a recognized wartime period, received a discharge other than dishonorable, and need help with daily activities. There are income and net-worth limits, so consult an accredited VA claims agent before applying. ## Can you tap a life insurance policy? Yes - there are three common paths: - **Accelerated death benefit:** Many permanent policies allow you to draw a portion of the death benefit early if you have a terminal or chronic illness. - **Life settlement:** Sell the policy to a third-party investor for roughly 50 - 75% of the face value. The buyer takes over premiums and collects the death benefit later. - **Long-term care conversion:** Some insurers will exchange the policy for an LTC benefit account that pays providers directly. Each path has tax and Medicaid-eligibility consequences. Consider a family whose father holds a $200,000 whole life policy and is moving into memory care at $7,800/month: a life settlement at 60% would yield $120,000 - roughly 15 months of care - but it permanently ends the death benefit to heirs. Talk to a fee-only financial planner before pulling the trigger. ## When does Medicaid pay for assisted living? Medicaid is the joint federal-state program for older adults with limited income and assets. Most states - but not all - offer a Home and Community-Based Services (HCBS) waiver that helps pay for the care portion of assisted living, though typically not the room-and-board portion (Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services). Rules, asset limits, and waiver waitlists vary dramatically by state. Important: Medicare (the federal health-insurance program for people 65+) does *not* cover long-term assisted living. It only pays for short-term skilled nursing or rehabilitation after a qualifying hospital stay ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care)). This is one of the most common - and costliest - misconceptions families bring to the search. Before you tour, ask the community two direct questions: "Do you accept Medicaid?" and "Do you require a private-pay spend-down period first?" Many communities require 1 - 3 years of private pay before transitioning a resident to Medicaid. ## What other resources should you explore? - **Reverse mortgage (HECM):** Works only if one spouse continues to live in the home - usually not a fit if both partners are moving. - **Bridge loans:** Short-term loans (often 6 - 12 months) that cover assisted living while a house is being sold. - **Family contributions and shared caregiving agreements:** Adult children pooling monthly amounts, sometimes with a written agreement so contributions are tracked fairly. - **State non-Medicaid assistance:** Some states offer supplemental programs for low-income seniors who don't quite meet Medicaid criteria. - **Nonprofit and faith-based grants:** Organizations like the Alzheimer's Association local chapters maintain lists of regional aid (Alzheimer's Association). For a broader map of options, see our [simplified guide to long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/guide-to-long-term-care/). ## What's the right sequence to build a payment plan? - **Inventory income and assets.** List every monthly check, every account balance, the home's market value, and any insurance policies. - **Get a written care assessment.** The level of care drives the monthly cost more than the address does. - **Request itemized quotes** from 2 - 3 communities so you can compare apples to apples. - **Check insurance and VA eligibility** in parallel - these can take weeks to process. - **Model the runway.** Calculate how many months of care your current plan funds. If it's fewer than 36 months, build a Medicaid backup plan now. - **Consult an elder-law attorney** for asset-protection strategies before transferring money - Medicaid has a five-year look-back period. ## Ready to talk through the numbers? Every Áegis Living community has a relations director who will walk you through pricing, care levels, and which funding combinations work in your state. [Find a location near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to request a personalized cost worksheet. ## Frequently asked questions ### Does Medicare pay for assisted living? No. Medicare covers short-term skilled nursing and rehabilitation after a qualifying hospital stay, plus some hospice services, but it does not pay for long-term assisted living rent or custodial care ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/long-term-care)). Families often confuse Medicare with Medicaid, which can cover the care portion in many states. ### How much does assisted living cost per month in 2026? The national median is $6,200 per month ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). Expect $4,500 - $7,500 in most markets, with memory care running 20 - 30% higher. ### Can my parent qualify for Medicaid if they own a home? Possibly. A primary residence is often a non-countable asset while the applicant intends to return home or a spouse still lives there, but rules vary by state and after death the state can pursue estate recovery. Consult an elder-law attorney familiar with your state's Medicaid program before transferring or selling the house. ### How much does VA Aid & Attendance pay in 2026? Maximums are approximately $2,424/month for a single veteran, $2,874 for a veteran with a dependent, and $1,558 for a surviving spouse effective December 1, 2025 ([U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs](https://www.va.gov/pension/veterans-pension-rates/)). Actual benefits depend on income, medical expenses, and net worth. ### Is it too late to buy long-term care insurance after a dementia diagnosis? Generally yes - insurers will decline traditional LTC policies after an Alzheimer's or related dementia diagnosis. Hybrid life/LTC products may still be available but premiums will be high. The window to buy affordably is typically in your 50s and early 60s. ### Can adult children deduct what they pay for a parent's assisted living? If you provide more than half of a parent's support and they meet IRS dependency rules, you may be able to claim them as a qualifying relative and deduct qualifying medical expenses, including the care portion of assisted living, that exceed 7.5% of your adjusted gross income ([IRS Publication 502](https://www.irs.gov/publications/p502)). Confirm with a CPA - documentation matters. --- ## Stop the family feud: Tips to better communicate URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/stop-the-family-feud-tips-to-better-communicate/ Focus keyword: family communication Category: family-communication Tags: communication, driving, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-adult-children Summary: "Communication is difficult sometimes. Here are a few tips to keep in mind as you discuss these delicate issues as a family." It’s a sad truth, but many families find themselves arguing about their aging parent and their care needs. It can be a complicated, stressful, and confusing time for many families. Growing concerns and questions can cause conflict if everyone is not on the same page. Should your parent be living alone? Should they still be driving? Do they have a health condition or cognitive impairment that needs to be addressed? Are siblings in denial about the health and care of their parent? Caring for a family member can be complicated but the focus must be on the needs of your loved one. If you and your siblings cannot agree about their care, it is your parent who will lose. Here are a few tips to keep in mind as you discuss these delicate issues as a family. **Parent participation.** Ask your aging loved one their opinion about where they want to live, care needs, and health concern. If they are not cognitively impaired, allow them to participate in the decision-making process. You may be surprised by their response. And this will give your family a goal or request to work toward together. It still may be a compromise, but your parent should be included. **Keep everyone informed.** A group email or family meeting in person or via Skype can help keep everyone in the loop about how your parent is managing. Try to state the facts of their situation and remove the emotion that can cause hurt feelings or defensiveness. Families can make better decisions as a unit if they are well informed. **Open communication**. You need to tell your siblings what you need, especially if you are the caregiver for your loved one. You may feel like you are stuck with the lion’s share of care responsibility, but don’t expect your siblings to read your mind. Ask clearly for what you need and if they cannot help, then you need to discuss hiring assistance and how to pay for that. **Play to your strengths**. No family is perfect but this is the time to pull together. Share in the responsibilities by dividing task according to each sibling’s strength. If you are a good communicator, perhaps you should take the lead with the group communication. If you are good listener, perhaps the primary caregiver can use you to vent when they need support. Everyone can contribute whether near or far from your loved one. **Hold your tongue.** Swearing, shouting, and bring up past issues are abusive ways to communicate. Focus on what is important. And if your parent is safe, perhaps you can let some things go in the interest of keeping the peace. **Take a break.** If a particular issue becomes contentious, take a break. Don’t say something that you might regret. Families have a way a pushing your buttons. Take a break from the argument, breathe deeply, and calm yourself down. You may need to be open to compromise. **You are, who you are.** Don’t expect that your flawed family will suddenly come together perfectly when a loved one is sick or can no longer live alone. You are dealing with a group of adults who have a lot of history with each other. You and your siblings are not going to change but you need to agree to keep the focus on your loved one. This is not a power struggle that anyone wins. **Be empathetic**. Having to move your parent, confront health issues, or hire care is stressful for everyone involved. Be gentle with each other and don’t dredge up the past. In the end, if communication fails, be open to hiring a family counselor or a mediator who specialize in [senior care](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). A neutral third party can help find a consensus so your family can move forward to appropriately care for your parent. --- ## How to Protect Seniors From Financial Fraud: 10 Tips URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-to-protect-seniors-from-financial-fraud/ Focus keyword: financial fraud Category: financial-legal Tags: fall-prevention, social-connection, safety-at-home, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Protect your parents from financial fraud. Discover 10 actionable ways to shield older adults from sophisticated scams, identity theft, and asset exploitation Older adults lose an estimated $28.3 billion to elder financial fraud every year, and roughly 72% of that money is taken by people the victim knows (AARP BankSafe Initiative, 2023). Protecting a parent or spouse means combining clear household rules, smart banking setup, and a short list of phone scripts they can use when a stranger asks for money or personal information. The 10 tips below give you a practical playbook. ## Why are older adults targeted by financial scams? Scammers target seniors because they tend to have steady retirement income, home equity, established credit, and a generation-shaped instinct to be polite on the phone. Social isolation and early cognitive change can amplify the risk. The FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center received 201,266 fraud complaints from adults aged 60+ in 2025, with reported losses of $7.7 billion - an average loss of about $38,500 ([FBI IC3 Annual Report](https://www.ic3.gov/AnnualReport/Reports/2025_IC3Report.pdf), 2025). As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, financial decision-making is one of the first abilities affected by mild cognitive impairment, often before a family notices any memory symptoms. That's why prevention works better than recovery, and why legal planning paired with a trusted decision-maker matters. If you haven't yet set one up, start with our guide to [Why Do We Need a Power of Attorney?](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/) and then read [When to Start Planning for Long Term Care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/start-planning-for-long-term-care/). ## What are the most common scams targeting seniors right now? The National Council on Aging tracks the scams hitting older adults hardest. Knowing the script is half the defense (National Council on Aging, 2024). Scam typeHow it soundsRed flagGovernment impersonation"This is the SSA. Your number is suspended."SSA never threatens arrest by phoneGrandparent scam"Grandma, I'm in jail. Don't tell Mom."Demand for cash, gift cards, or secrecyTech supportPop-up: "Your computer is infected. Call now."Asks for remote access or paymentRomance / online friendNew online "friend" needs emergency moneyHas never met in person; urgent askMedicare card"We need your new card number to ship benefits."Medicare doesn't cold-call beneficiariesCharity & disaster"Donate now to wildfire victims."High-pressure ask, unverifiable charity ## Key terms every family should know Elder financial exploitation The illegal or improper use of an older adult's money, property, or assets, whether by a stranger or a family member. Identity theft When someone uses your Social Security number, Medicare number, or account details to open credit or steal benefits in your name. Trusted contact A person you authorize your bank or brokerage to call if they suspect fraud or diminished capacity. Required by FINRA at most U.S. brokerages ([FINRA Senior Investors](https://www.finra.org/rules-guidance/key-topics/senior-investors), 2024). POLST and POA Legal tools that name who can act for you. Learn more in [What Is a POLST Form?](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-a-polst-form/) and our pillar guide on [how to find the right power of attorney lawyer](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/). ## What are 10 ways to protect a senior from financial fraud? - **Designate one trusted financial decision-maker.** A spouse, adult child, or licensed advisor. Add them as a trusted contact at the bank and brokerage. - **Never share PINs, SSNs, Medicare numbers, or card data on inbound calls.** Hang up and call the number on the back of the card. - **Shred anything with account numbers, dates of birth, or medical IDs.** Dumpster diving still happens. - **Vet in-home helpers.** Use a licensed agency, or run a background check if hiring privately. The U.S. Department of Justice notes that family and caregivers commit the bulk of elder financial abuse ([DOJ Elder Justice Initiative](https://www.justice.gov/elderjustice), 2024). - **Turn away door-to-door sales.** Post a "No Soliciting" sign and mean it. - **Slow down high-pressure pitches.** Any legitimate offer survives a 24-hour pause. - **Read every contract before signing.** Watch for auto-renewals and "free trial" traps. - **Treat unexpected wins as scams.** Sweepstakes, lottery, and inheritance notifications you didn't enter are nearly always fraud. - **Verify every charity.** Use Charity Navigator or the IRS Tax Exempt Organization Search before donating. - **Lock down the credit file.** A free credit freeze at all three bureaus blocks most new-account identity theft ([FTC Consumer Advice](https://consumer.ftc.gov/articles/credit-freezes-and-fraud-alerts), 2024). ## What should you do if your parent has already been scammed? Speed matters. The faster you report, the better the odds of clawing back funds or stopping repeat losses. As dementia care educator Teepa Snow has often reminded families, shame keeps victims silent; lead with reassurance, not blame, so your parent will tell you the full story. For example, an 82-year-old widower who wired $4,000 to a "grandson in jail" stopped a second $8,000 withdrawal only because his daughter called the bank's fraud line within the hour. Or consider a retired teacher who clicked a fake Microsoft pop-up; her son froze her credit at all three bureaus that night and caught a fraudulent credit card application the next week. - Call the bank and credit card issuer to freeze accounts and dispute charges. - Change every password and PIN, especially for email and banking. - Place a credit freeze at Equifax, Experian, and TransUnion. - Report to the FTC at [ReportFraud.ftc.gov](https://reportfraud.ftc.gov/) and to local police for a case number. - If a veteran is involved, review benefit accounts; see [veteran and spouse benefits](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/). - Contact Adult Protective Services if you suspect ongoing exploitation by a caregiver or family member. ## How can Áegis Living help protect your loved one? Our community teams help residents and families set up trusted-contact authorizations, screen visiting vendors, and notice the early changes in judgment that often precede a scam loss. If you're worried about a parent living alone, [find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through next steps. ## Frequently asked questions ### How much money do older adults lose to fraud each year? The FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center reported $7.7 billion in losses from adults aged 60+ in 2025 (FBI IC3 Annual Report, 2025), and AARP estimates total elder financial exploitation at roughly $28.3 billion annually when family and caregiver theft are included (AARP, 2023). ### Will Social Security or Medicare ever call my parent? Almost never out of the blue. The Social Security Administration states it will not threaten arrest, suspend a Social Security number, or demand payment by gift card or wire. Hang up and call SSA directly at 1-800-772-1213 to verify. ### Is a credit freeze better than fraud alerts?A freeze blocks new credit accounts entirely until you lift it; a fraud alert simply asks lenders to verify identity. The FTC recommends a freeze as the stronger protection, and it's free at all three major bureaus. ### Should I take over my parent's finances if I'm worried? Not unilaterally. Start with a durable financial [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) drafted by an elder-law attorney, plus joint visibility on accounts. See our guide on [why families need a power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/) for the right sequence. ### What's the single biggest red flag of a scam? Urgency combined with an unusual payment method, gift cards, wire transfers, cryptocurrency, or cash in a magazine. No legitimate business, agency, or family member will ever require those. ### Where do I report elder fraud? File with the FTC at ReportFraud.ftc.gov, the FBI at IC3.gov, your state Attorney General, and Adult Protective Services if a caregiver may be involved. Keep a case number for the bank dispute process. --- ## Four Tips To Transition Into A Caregiver URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-tips-to-transition-into-a-caregiver/ Focus keyword: caregiver Category: family-communication Tags: alzheimers, dementia, safety-at-home, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-adult-children Summary: As your parents start to age, you may be making the transition to their caregiver. We offer four tips to effectively make this transition. Read more here. *You hang up the phone and you think that mom seems fine. On your next cross country visit, you realize she isn’t fine. The house is not fine. Her health is not fine, but she has been hiding it on the phone all these months. Now what?* If your parent is physically or cognitively impaired, then you may need to step in to make the difficult decisions about their health and safety. This may be unavoidable in some cases of Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia. But if you are the adult child to an aging parent, here are a few tips on how to handle the role change as you become the caregiver for your loved one. - **Make peace with the new reality.** The first step is to accept that there will be challenges as your parent becomes more frail, less mobile, and less independent. Use patience and kindness with them and with yourself. Even some of the most educated professionals in the field of healthcare or aging have a difficult time when it comes to their own parent. We all may feel some sense of denial. But the sooner you accept the reality of their health and safety, the better you can plan for their care. - **Seek support**. Often times caregivers feel very alone. But this is not something that you need to do, nor should you do on your own. Caring for a parent can take a financial, physical, and emotional toll. You need a strong support system to be there for your loved one and to pick you up when you need help. If you don’t have a large network of friends or family to support you, then you can look for a professional therapist, online resources, or organizations and groups in your local communities. The most difficult thing to understand is your new role as a caregiver to your parent. Seeking the support of others, who have gone through or are going through this process, can be helpful. Many caregivers find a lot of hope and relief when sharing their experience with others. - **Take charge, without taking over.**Caregiving for your parent may be an opportunity for you to give back to your mother or father, who gave so much to you. But they are not your child and should be given the respect and dignity that they deserve. Remember, many parents may be afraid to ask for help for fear that they may lose their independence completely. Become a team. Determine what their needs are and assist where you or your family members can or find the resources to help them. Strive to have two-way conversations about how they wish to live and what makes the most sense for their health and safety. No one wants to be told what to do. Involve them in the planning and decision making process. This may not always be easy, but try to honor their wishes. - **Love, laugh and learn whenever you can.**Your parents hold years of memories, experience, and wisdom. Take every opportunity to really listen to them and talk. Every day is precious. Dance to their favorite music, watch a funny movie, laugh about embarrassing moments, and share stories. Days will be hard and times can get tough, but strive to find some humor, positivity and joy in the peaceful moments for their sake and for yours. Many adult children have families of their own, full time jobs, no additional space or bedrooms, or perhaps they live in another city, making it impossible to care for their parent in their home. Caring for your parent does not always mean being the caregiver. Today’s care options are so different than the ‘old folk homes’ of the 1950’s. [Assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) may be the perfect way to give your parent the independence to live on their own in a secure and comfortable setting and for you to keep your role as their ‘daughter’ or ‘son.’ --- ## Plan Ahead: Long Term Care Insurance URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/plan-ahead-long-term-care-insurance/ Focus keyword: long term care insurance Category: financial-legal Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses, respite-care, hospice-end-of-life Summary: No one wants to think about being unable to care for themselves in old age. But according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, approximately… No one wants to think about being unable to care for themselves in old age. But according to the [U.S. Department of Health and Human Services](https://acl.gov/ltc/costs-and-who-pays/what-is-long-term-care-insurance), approximately 70% of all adults over the age of 65 will need some type of long term care. Long term care insurance can help pay for the expense of this needed care. It can be pricey to purchase, but it will pay off if you are among the 70% who will need to use it. Long term care insurance should be considered when determining your retirement plan. ## What is long term care insurance? Long term care insurance is different than traditional health insurance. It is designed to cover the costs of services and support when you can no longer care for yourself, whether that is in your home, at an [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington), memory care community, respite care, [hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/), or in a nursing home. The policyholder can select from a range of care options and benefits. Services can include caring for the activities of daily living such as bathing, toileting, and dressing, or skilled nursing, or occupational, speech or physical therapy. Long term care insurance typically covers what is not covered by health insurance, Medicare or Medicaid. ## What are the costs? Depending on the policy that you purchase, long term care insurance can range from between $3,000 to $6,000 per year. But this annual cost depends on multiple factors such as the age when you purchase it, sex, health status, maximum daily benefit, length of benefits, and waiting period. You can keep down the cost of long term care insurance by purchasing your policy when you are in your early 50’s and in good health. If you were to wait 20 years and buy a policy in your 70’s, you may pay up to three times as much. Also, if you are in poor health, you may not qualify. ### What factors should I consider if I want to purchase long term care insurance? - **Speak with your financial adviser.** Look at long term care insurance as part of your financial planning for retirement. It is best to weigh the cost and benefits with your financial goals. It can help to protect your family’s financial future and your savings and investments. - **Compare policies**. The policies can be complex and vary greatly. How many years are covered? What is the daily coverage? Does it provide inflation protection? What type of care is covered? Do they offer a shared benefit package for couples? You will need to research and compare what options will best fit your circumstances. - **Do your research.** Understand and research the companies that you may be buying a policy from. Many companies have left the market in recent years, so it best to do your research. It is most important to ask for the premium rate history for each company that you research. - **Can you afford a policy?** If you stop paying your premium, your policy will no longer be in force and what you have paid into it will be lost. As your income decreases, will you still be able to pay for this policy? - **Apply sooner rather than later.** The best time to buy is if you are under the age of 65 and in good health. - **Family history.** It is difficult to judge whether you will need this insurance in the future but reviewing your family history may give you some insight to predict your odds. - **The impact of long term care.** Consider the consequences to your spouse and children if something were to happen and you needed ongoing care. Long term care insurance can alleviate this financial and emotional burden on your family and allow you to get professional assistance to improve your quality of life. Buying a long term care insurance policy is a way to give you and your family peace of mind and ensure that your future care needs are met. --- ## Osteoporosis and Bone Loss Prevention URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/osteoporosis-and-bone-loss-prevention/ Focus keyword: osteoporosis Category: healthy-aging Tags: exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, nutrition Summary: Million of bones are fractured due to osteoporosis every year. Read about steps that you can take to prevent bone loss and monitor your bone density as you age. It’s estimated that over two million bones are fractured due to osteoporosis in the U.S. every year. The International Osteoporosis Organization says that worldwide a bone is fractured every 3 seconds. With the aging baby boomer population growing in the U.S., these statistics will increase. But there are steps that you can take to prevent bone loss and monitor your bone density as you age. Your bones are dynamic. They are living and growing tissue. They build up and breakdown throughout your life with your peak bone density mass determined between the ages of 18-25. But as you age, the balance between bone formation and bone loss starts to change. By midlife, bone loss usually speeds up. This is normal. But when the balance is tipped, osteoporosis occurs when you lose too much bone and make too little. One out of every two women are at risk for developing osteoporosis and one out of every four men are at risk. Women are at a higher risk due to the loss of estrogen as they age. In fact, in the five to seven years following menopause, women can lose up to 20 percent of their bone density. ## Can you prevent bone loss? There are some simple steps that you can take to make sure you are contributing to and maintaining healthy bone density. - **Consult with your physician.**If you are concerned about bone loss, meet with a medical professional to evaluate your lifestyle, review your medical history, assess your risks for bone loss, and take a bone density test if needed. - **Weight bearing exercise.** Regular exercise is invaluable to your overall health and wellbeing. But in terms of bone loss, weight bearing exercise is proven to stimulates cells in the body to make new bone. - **Calcium and Vitamin D**. We all know that calcium is vital to grow strong bones, but vitamin D is vital for your body to absorb calcium. An easy way to get vitamin D is to go for a walk outside to get a dose of sunshine. Supplements may also be recommended by your physician. - **Well balanced diet.**Eat plenty of leafy green vegetables, fruit, dairy, fish, and fortified foods to get the vitamins and minerals that you need to build strong bones. - **Live a moderate lifestyle.** Your lifestyle can affect your bone density. Health care professionals recommend not drinking in excess and to stop smoking. ## What is the medical exam for bone loss? A bone density test will evaluate several different bones to determine the strength and the potential risk that you will develop osteoporosis. Typically, the bone density test is done on the spine, hip, wrist and heel. The DXA scan is the most widely used bone density scan that is painless, using x-ray technology. A bone density test is the only test that can diagnosis osteoporosis before a broken bone occurs. Along with the bone density test, your medical professional will also review your medical history, perform a physical exam, and order laboratory tests. These laboratory test will evaluate: - Blood calcium levels - Thyroid function - Testosterone levels in men - Vitamin D tests to see if the body has enough - Biochemical markers, such as NTX and CTX From the results, your physician and you can determine a plan to addressing any concerns. ## Will I know if I have osteoporosis? Often times, osteoporosis will happen without notice in the early stages. Bad posture, shortened height over time, back pain, and feeling unsteady can be signs once the bones have weakened. The only way to diagnose osteoporosis is with a bone density test. ## Where can I find out more information about osteoporosis? In addition to meeting with your primary care provider, we recommend the National Osteoporosis Foundation as a good resource for detailed information about osteoporosis. You can find them [here](http://nof.org/). --- ## Love and Longevity URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/love-and-longevity/ Focus keyword: live longer Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, vision-hearing, social-connection, exercise-fitness, moving-in, for-spouses, for-caregivers Summary: At Áegis Living, we want our residents to lead happy, fun, and fulfilling lives, and studies show there is a link between love and longevity. Read more here. This Valentine’s Day, celebrate with your whole heart because it could mean that you might live longer. Studies show there is a link between love and longevity, so break out the heart-shaped chocolate boxes and plan a romantic evening with your sweetie! As you move into your golden years, keep in mind these factors that can contribute to your overall happiness and add years to your life: ## Changing bad behaviors. Long and loving relationships can correlate to improved health. A [study](http://archinte.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=2091401) published in the journal *JAMA Internal Medicine shows*that people in a relationship make better health choices when encouraged and supported by their partner. Smokers were 40% more likely to quit if their partner quit smoking too. And couples were more than 40% more likely to increase their physical activity if their spouse did as well. So make a healthy goal and do it together! ## Strong support network. People with strong relationships are happier, healthier, and tend to live longer. People who suffer from an illness and without [assistance](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) often find themselves in poorer health with a shortened lifespan. Friends, family, or a significant other can see changes in behavior and health, assist with getting a loved one medical attention if needed, and aid in recovery after an illness or surgery. This support system can make a significant impact on not only their physical health, but also their mental wellbeing and reduced stress levels. On Valentine’s Day this year, celebrate ALL the supportive people who you love and appreciate from family and friends to caregivers and medical professionals. ## Quality social life. Isolation among older adults is a real concern. As people become less mobile, are unable to drive, have hearing and vision loss, and perhaps lose a spouse, they may feel alone and vulnerable. This can lead to depression and a physical decline. This Valentine’s Day, make an effort to reach out to a relative or loved one who may be widowed or lives alone. Plan a visit, take them out to tea, or bring homemade treats on this day that celebrates love. This simple gesture can have a huge impact on a lonely loved one. ## New challenges. Researchers have found that one of the keys to happiness and wellbeing is to challenge yourself and learn something new. No matter what age you are! Explore this idea as a couple by learning a foreign language, planning a trip, learning to dance, joining a cooking class, or starting a personal blog. Researching, learning, and mastering a new skill together can greatly improve your happiness and strengthen your relationship. Celebrate your spouse, friends, and family this Valentine’s Day and live a long and happy life! --- ## New Year, New Home: Time to Declutter! URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/new-year-new-home-time-to-declutter/ Focus keyword: declutter Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, legal-planning, moving-in, for-caregivers Summary: If your parent is downsizing to a smaller home, moving in with a family member or transitioning to an assisted living community, it’s time to start to… If your parent is downsizing to a smaller home, moving in with a family member or transitioning to an [assisted living community,](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington) it’s time to start to declutter their home. Here are some helpful tips to get you started: ## Get assistance. If your parent still lives in your childhood home, you will not only have years of memories, but also volumes of items to sort through. This can be a big job, so schedule time on weekends and in the evenings for family and friends to help organize, run to the dump, list items for sale online, box moving items, and make trips to charity drop-offs. The more hands to help, the quicker this process can go. If the job is too big, consider hiring help as an option. An objective third party can be helpful when making tough choices. ## Design the new space. Perhaps the best way to start is to determine what items will fit into the new home. Measure your new space and measure your furniture to create a new floor plan. Remember to not overstuff a new home with furniture. Wide paths are safer for walkers and wheelchairs. ## Make four boxes. If you have ever watched a home decorating show, you may have seen this tried and true way to organize and declutter. Set up four boxes and label these: Keep, Trash, Give-Away, and Sell. As you pick up an item, place them in the appropriate box. Try to only pick up an item one time and make a decision. This system will help you quickly organize and move forward. ## Be sensitive. Include your loved one as you sort through items, don’t lose sight that your parent is making a huge change in their life. They may be sad, upset, nervous, and feeling a sense of loss. Even if they agree that the move is the best choice, this can still be difficult. Be extra patient and understanding as you sort through their fond memories and personal items. It is surprising what may look like nothing to you, could have great meaning for them. Give yourself and your loved one plenty of time to go through everything without exhausting or frustrating them in the process. ## **Don’t keep duplicates**. There are items, such as linens and towels, that you will one more than one set. But does anyone need 15 vases? Streamline the items in the home and only keep their very favorites. If there are duplicates, these can be sold or given to a family member who is starting their first home. ## **Think about their new lifestyle**. Will they still be hosting the family dinners? Will they be cooking? Do they have a space of a second TV? Most [assisted living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington) have private dining rooms that families can use. Their caregiver may have a stocked kitchen. The new smaller house may not fit the dining room table. Think about what they really are going to need on a daily basis and keep it simple as far as furnishings and décor. ## **Practical tip**. Keep plenty of snacks and water on hand to ease tensions during the declutter process. When family members and your loved one get hungry or thirsty, they may get cranky. Set up an area with quick snacks, coffee, water bottles, cookies and more to keep the troops happy while they work. ## See progress. If possible, try to tackle one room at a time to keep your loved one focused. Having a room completed can show real progress in their plan to downsize. ## No more free storage. Many adult children store boxes and personal items at their parent’s house. Adult children are responsible for their personal belongings and these should be removed immediately. ## **Worth a thousand words**. If your parent is having a tough time getting rid of an item, we suggest that you take a photograph. A wonderful house warming gift would be to take photos of their old house and special items. Present these photos in a scrapbook that they can look at whenever they want to be reminded. ## Decorate the new home. This is a fresh new start for your loved one. When you have selected the items for the new home, are they in good repair? Does a couch need to be professionally cleaned? Does a dresser need a coat of new paint? Throw pillows, cozy bedding, photos in frames, favorite artwork, new towels, fresh plants, and knickknacks organized on shelves can make their new home personal, warm, and inviting. The best way to ease a transition is to decorate the new home in a way that is familiar and comforting. Roll up your sleeves and start to declutter with your loved one by your side. If you use patience, kindness, and humor, the move can happen smoothly. --- ## Who cares for your family member after a hospital stay? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/who-cares-for-family-post-hospital/ Focus keyword: best care option Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, in-home-care, social-connection, nutrition, legal-planning, for-seniors, respite-care Summary: "It is so important to work with the appropriate hospital staff, such as a case worker or discharge planner, quickly to determine the best care option to" If your older family member is admitted to the hospital for an illness or surgery, do you know your care and rehab options once they are discharged? Even after a hip replacement, an older patient may stay in the hospital only three or four days, depending on their progress. It is so important to work with the appropriate hospital staff, such as a case worker or discharge planner, quickly to determine the best rehabilitation option to recuperate and prevent a readmission. The hospital staff can help you understand the level of skilled care and services needed for their rehabilitation. Research shows that between 15-20% of patients, who are discharged from the hospital, will be readmitted with 30 days or less. Often times, these readmissions could be preventable. It is important to understand the three primary options of where your family member can be cared for after a hospital stay and what is the best fit for your situation. ## Skilled Nursing Facility. If your loved one requires round-the-clock monitoring and skilled nursing care after a hospital stay, then moving them into a skilled nursing facility is necessary. If your loved one is dealing with a debilitating medical problem and require constant aftercare and treatment, their doctor may order inpatient services for their acute medical condition. Skilled nursery facilities can feel clinical and most patients will share a room. ## Home Health Services. If your loved one needs part time or intermittent services, a licensed medical professional can be scheduled to visit the home. The success of home health services depends on the support system of their living situation. Getting plenty of rest in a familiar environment can be good for recuperation. But if a patient is living alone, they may feel isolated. Rehabilitation exercises may need to be done independently and require the patient to be self-motivated. If you feel as though your loved one is too unstable or weak to live alone and there are no family members who can care for them, then home services may not be the best fit. ## Assisted Living. Many families are unaware that assisted living communities offer [short term stays](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/short-term-stays/) for patients released from the hospital to to live while they recuperate. Assisted living communities can offer nursing care, therapy services, and 24-hour care staff in a homey environment. Basic needs like the activities of daily living, such as getting dressed, making meals and bathing, can greatly reduce stress for both the patient and family members. Most communities can provide transportation to and from doctor and therapy appointments. Assisted living communities provide peer support, activities, and socialization that aid in healing and mental well-being. Many times, a patient will enjoy the community and opt to stay as a permanent resident. In the case of an emergency hospital stay, Áegis Living has recently launched a new public service, the [Red Crisis File](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caring-for-a-parent-in-crisis-whats-your-backup-plan/). A member of the Áegis team will walk a caregiver or family members through a checklist to gather the state required documentation needed to move a loved one into a respite stay, assisted living, or memory care. This is a free service that can be completed before an emergency for peace of mind. Contact an [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington)today to be prepared in the case of an emergency, such as a hospital stay. ## Frequently Asked Questions ### What is the best care option after a hospital stay? The best care option after a hospital stay depends on the patient's medical needs and home support system. The three primary options are a skilled nursing facility for round-the-clock medical care, home health services for part-time professional visits in a familiar environment, and assisted living for short-term respite stays that combine nursing care, therapy, help with daily activities, and socialization. Work with the hospital case worker or discharge planner to match the level of care needed to the right setting and help prevent readmission. ### How long can someone stay in assisted living for rehab? Assisted living communities offer short-term respite stays for patients recuperating after a hospital stay, with the length of stay tailored to the individual's recovery needs. Many patients use this time to regain strength with the support of nursing care, therapy services, and 24-hour staff, and some choose to remain as permanent residents once they experience the community's peer support, activities, and homey environment. ### What's the difference between skilled nursing and home health? Skilled nursing facilities provide round-the-clock inpatient monitoring and treatment for patients with acute or debilitating medical conditions, typically in a clinical setting where most patients share a room. Home health services, by contrast, are part-time or intermittent visits from a licensed medical professional in the patient's own home, which works best when the patient has a strong support system and is stable enough to be on their own between visits. --- ## FREE: Senior Care Emergency Preparedness Kit URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caring-for-a-parent-in-crisis-whats-your-backup-plan/ Focus keyword: emergency plan Category: family-communication Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, safety-at-home, medication-management, legal-planning Summary: As a caretaker, it's important to realize that there are times when you cannot be there for your parent. Áegis Living discusses the importance emergency plans Peace of mind comes from being prepared. Learn how our Preparedness Kit can help your family. If you’re noticing changes that indicate your parent or senior loved one is needing some assistance, do you know what the process to getting more help? If your parent or an elderly loved one was released from the hospital after surgery or due to an illness, would you know where they could recuperate? If your elderly loved one needs daily care or has long term needs and you cannot care for them, do you have a plan in place? And do you have a backup plan? ### Are You Ready? In the assisted living industry, we meet many families in times of need. And it can be a very stressful time for the whole family. They don’t know what to do when a loved one can no longer live alone and needs immediate care. Some family members may feel the growing anxiety and guilt of no longer being able to care for a loved one alone. Families might be facing a multitude of questions and concerns about who could provide the best care for their mom or dad. And trying to make these decisions in the middle of a healthcare emergency is not a situation anyone wants to find themselves in. We understand. ### Be Prepared The Preparedness Kit is a program that Áegis Living developed after years of witnessing families scrambling to gather information and documentation. Before there is an urgent need, our Áegis Living team member can walk you through the legal forms and documentation step-by-step that are required by the state for admission. The documentation is also necessary to move your parent into a short- term respite stay to recuperate from the hospital, assisted living for those who can no longer live on their own, or memory care for those with dementia and Alzheimer’s. We create a file with this required documentation, along with emergency information, photo ID, and medical authorization to expedite the transition into assisted living when needed. If you wish, Áegis Living can keep a copy of this file as well. By having this file and checklist of documentation completed, your family will have peace of mind that, in the case of an emergency, you are ready to move your parent into the care that they need quickly. ### Benefits of Completing a Preparedness Kit: - **Your Parent Can Participate.** Completing this documentation can open the door to a sometimes difficult discussion with your loved one about their future care. It provides parents with the opportunity to participate in their own plan and communicate their expectations. - **No Delays.** To complete the documentation, you can schedule appointments with lawyers, doctors, and pharmacists when it works with your schedule. Your family will not be forced to scramble for assistance. - **Memory Care.** Many of our families who have a parent newly diagnosed with dementia or Alzheimer’s will find great comfort in preparing this material now. It can be difficult to predict when a loved one may need more specialized care due to memory loss. - **Expert Assistance.** The legal documents required by the state take time and understanding to complete. Our experts can walk you through the details and answer your questions. It’s always nice to have someone on your side. - **Peace of Mind.** Your family can find comfort in having a backup plan in place for the unexpected and being proactive about the future care of their loved one. ### Life Changes. We Can Help. By completing our free Preparedness Kit, there is no obligation to move your parent into an Áegis Living community. This program provides you with the documentation that you will need on hand in the case of an emergency, wherever you may bring your loved one. Stop by any [local Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) today and pick up your Preparedness Kit. Our team will gladly walk you through the details to help your family prepare. --- ## Post-holiday assessment: Should your senior parent live alone? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/post-holiday-assessment-should-your-parent-live-alone/ Focus keyword: parent care assessment Category: family-communication Tags: depression-anxiety, assisted-living, nutrition, exercise-fitness, for-seniors, for-adult-children, sleep Summary: You have made it through the holidays. The gift wrapping, shopping, family dinners, travel, and sleep deprivation. You have made it through the holidays. The gift wrapping, shopping, family dinners, travel, and sleep deprivation. You should feel relieved, but something keeps nagging you in the back of your mind. *‘Did Mom forget to turn off the stove and burned the gravy pan because she was distracted or is it something more? She seemed so forgetful and confused during our visit.’* As family members come together from near and far during the holidays to celebrate with their parents or aging loved ones, many notice that things have changed dramatically since their last visit. Perhaps their parent has difficulty standing or they are unstable when they walk. Some may notice the house is unkempt, dirty clothes are piling up, and food is moldy in the refrigerator, when the house was typically neat and tidy. You may have started to discuss these changes with your siblings and among other family members. You may be concerned that they need help or wondering if your senior parent should be living along. “We find after the holidays, that we get a spike in inquiries about moving a [family member to assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/20-questions-for-the-director-of-an-assisted-living-community/),” says Kathy Stewart, Vice President of Nursing at Áegis Living. “Adult children may have not seen their parents for an extended period of time and are alarmed by their living condition, or with their limited mobility, or notice memory loss issues. Look for changes in their typical behavior and trust your gut if you feel like things are ‘off’ in their home.” After a holiday visit with your senior parent living along, it is a good time to assess the key factors whether they can care for himself or herself? - **Have they recently lost a lot of weight?** Are they eating properly? Are there fresh produce and food in the cupboards and refrigerator? Is food spoiled or moldy in their house? - **Are they dressed every day in clean clothing?** Are they wearing the same clothing over and over? Have they showered? Brushed their hair? Shaved? - **Are they regularly seeing a doctor?** Are they going to the eye doctor for a checkup? Have they gone to the dentist? Do they forget to take medication? Are they hard of hearing? - **Mobility**. Have they suffered a fall? Can they get in and out of a chair or bed on their own? Are they stable when walking? Do they have unexplained bruising? - **Mental State**. Are they forgetting key things they should easily know? Are the often confused? Are they having mood swings? Do they can angry or forgetful? Are they depressed? Are they missing appointments? Have they lost interest in hobbies and activities? Are they lonely? - **Finances**. Are they forgetting to pay bills? Are they getting late notices? Are they bouncing checks? - **Is it a messy?** Are appliances broken? Is the yard not maintained? Does their car have unexplained dents and scratches? If your senior parent’s health or personal happiness seems to be compromised, it is time to have a discussion about their living situation and options of care. Depending on their needs, the options could be moving in with you or a family member, finding a senior housing or assisted living community, or arranging in-home care. These decisions are never easy, but delaying a decision can affect your parent and loved one’s quality of life. Make it your priority to get your parent the help that they need. If you are interested in touring an Áegis Living [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) contact us. --- ## Are You Concerned About Elderly Pneumonia? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/pneumonia/ Focus keyword: elderly pneumonia Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, alzheimers, fall-prevention, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: During the winter months, the elderly population is more vulnerable to developing pneumonia. Read about the 8 symptoms of pneumonia and methods of prevention. During the winter months, the elderly population is more vulnerable to developing pneumonia from respiratory viruses, related to colds or influenza. Pneumonia is a common and potentially deadly illness, especially for this population. It is currently the eighth leading cause of death in the United States. For adults over the age of 65, the impact of elderly pneumonia is potentially far worse than for the younger individuals. The annual incidence of pneumonia is four times greater over the age 65, with a much higher rate of hospitalization. It is important for caregivers to know the facts about pneumonia and how to prevent of this common illness. ## What is pneumonia? Pneumonia is an infection of the lungs which can involve just one lobe of a lung, an entire lung, or both lungs. Generally, this causes inflammation of the tissues which can cause the lungs to fill with fluid and clog the air sacs. This interferes with the amount of oxygen available in the blood and makes it difficult for patients to breathe. Pneumonia can be caused by a variety of microorganisms, including fungi, bacteria or virus. The elderly are more susceptible because of the prevalence of other disabilities and comorbid diseases. There are additional independent risk factors for pneumonia including alcoholism, asthma, immunosuppression, and heart disease. ### 8 **Symptoms** of Pneumonia Symptoms can vary from case to case depending on the severity of the illness and the strain causing the infection. The following symptoms might be a sign of pneumonia: - Shortness of breath - Persistent cough - Green or yellow mucus - Pain in the chest - Feeling weak - Fever (although older people may not develop a temperature) - Chills - Confusion or agitation. Often times, an older patient with pneumonia will display fewer symptoms than their younger counterpart. It is important that caregivers understand that an elderly loved one may present with few respiratory symptoms, but instead may manifest confusion, lethargy, loss of appetite, dizziness, or falls. Equally challenging, an elderly person with dementia may not be able to fully explain how he or she feels, so caregivers need to be especially vigilant when caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia. ### Diagnosis If a loved one is not feeling well or showing a change of condition, it is best to consult with a physician as soon as possible. There are simple diagnostic tests that can confirm a case of elderly pneumonia and assist with treatment: - The physician will examine the patient and listen to their lungs, which may reveal rales and crackling sounds, which signal infection and inflammation in the lungs. - A pulse oximetry test will display the blood’s oxygen levels, and may reveal low levels indicating oxygen is not being absorbed by the lungs. - A chest x-ray, or another radiologic test, often provides the definitive diagnosis, revealing where the infection is and the probable extent of the infection. ### Prevention There are some preventative measures that you can take to keep yourself or loved ones healthy. - Experts recommend all people over age 65, or those who are immunocompromised, get a [pneumococcal vaccine](http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/vpd-vac/pneumo/default.htm?s_cid=cs_797) to help prevent blood, brain, and lung infections from the streptococcus pneumoniae bacteria. We recommend that you consult with a physician regarding this vaccine. - Pneumonia can happen at any time of the year but it tends to spike during flu season. The elderly should get an annual influenza immunization to help[prevent influenza](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/flu-season-is-around-the-corner/). The vaccine may not completely thwart influenza, but chances are good that it will help attenuate the disease. - Caregivers and family members should also be vaccinated to avoid contracting the flu and passing the illness to their elderly contacts. If caregivers, friends or families are ill they should avoid interacting with others, especially frail elderly people. - No matter what season, everyone should frequently wash their hands with warm water and soap, for at least 20 seconds, to avoid spreading infection. --- ## Dementia: Keeping the season merry inspired by their spirit. URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dementia-keeping-the-season-merry/ Focus keyword: holidays with dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, nutrition, fall-prevention, moving-in, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: The holidays can be a difficult time when a family member has dementia. Remembering the happy memories of holidays past can be a very enjoyable family activity. Many of us feel very nostalgic during the holiday season. We remember leaving cookies for Santa, unwrapping our first bike, making pies with mom, lighting the menorah, or waiting for the snow to fall. Many of us find our holidays firmly rooted in traditions and past memories. This is the perfect time to year to celebrate your family traditions and fondest memories with your loved one with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia. Since many with dementia lose their short term memories, remembering the happy memories of holidays past can be very enjoyable for the entire family. Here are a few suggestions of how to keep your holidays merry and bright this season: **Decorations:** Ignite the memories of long ago with a Christmas tree, where the scent of pine will fill the home. Family members can set up the tree and decorate with non-breakable ornaments, such as fresh baked gingerbread men, candy canes, or popcorn garland. Remember to keep the tree out of a traffic area or place a small tree on a table, so it is not a fall hazard. Depending on where they live or if they are living alone, you may want to forego a live tree, which has to be regularly watered or lights that can cause a fire hazard, and decorate with wreaths, large bows, ornaments in a bowl, pine garland on a mantel, or wooden decorations. Don’t forget that your loved one will need help putting these items away in the New Year. **Meals:** Many of our fondest memories happen around the dining room table. Your loved one will enjoy the smells coming for a warm kitchen of baked good or traditional ethnic dishes that are served each year. The sense of taste and smell can be very important to stimulate memories and help get your loved one in the festive mood. We suggest that family meals be served in the morning, brunch, or lunch. Many people living with Alzheimer’s become more uncomfortable and agitated in the evening due to [sundowning](http://www.alz.org/care/alzheimers-dementia-sleep-issues-sundowning.asp). Also keep plenty of small snacks and healthy nibbles on hand so your loved one, who many forget to eat, has some smaller meals and food throughout the day. **Beverages:** One important tip for those with dementia is to [keep them hydrated](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-for-a-healthy-brain/). Dehydration can greatly affect their mood and cause their symptoms to worsen. Perhaps a holiday mocktail in a festive color with fresh fruit garnish or hot chocolate can be served during your celebration. **Gifts:** Gift selection can be difficult and often this will depend on where they are at in their diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or dementia. But a soft blanket, warm scarf, cozy sweater or fluffy robe are greatly appreciated by older adults who often are cold due to poor circulation and a slower metabolism. A scrapbook, framed photos, or photo album of past holidays or family gatherings is another wonderful gift to reminisce and spark memories. Scented lotions, favorite music, classic movie, or non-skid slippers in lovely wrapped paper are great surprises. Also consider function gifts like [a clock](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00L1XCBSO/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B00L1XCBSO&linkCode=as2&tag=quitipfroadvw-20&linkId=URHUOHWRVXG2B356)with large type that displays the date and time or [dementia day clock](http://www.amazon.com/GeriGuard-Solutions-GGS-DC100-Dementia-Clock/dp/B00GLASES8/ref=pd_bxgy_201_3?ie=UTF8&refRID=048E7EJFX94K6K99GEDK) that displays the day of the week with the time of day (morning, afternoon, evening or night), a large button universal remote for the television, or a [phone that displays photos](http://www.amazon.com/Future-Call-FC-1007-Picture-Care-Phone/dp/B00INR388I/ref=pd_sim_201_4?ie=UTF8&dpID=51WTzg0PwWL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_&refRID=0WSFS6RCF29FZ59R3GM)of who they frequently call. **Music:**The holidays and music go hand-in-hand. Consider having a traditional sing-along with family or playing your loved one’s favorite holiday tunes during the celebration. Attend a religious service or holiday event featuring music. Music can be a great inspiration for your loved one to move and dance. Although the holiday season can be difficult with a loved one living with dementia, there are many opportunities to find the joy of the season and celebrate their life. So indulge in past memories, traditions, and nostalgia this holiday. Keep your loved one part of the festivities and [adapt your celebrations creatively](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dementia-8-tips-for-celebrating-the-holidays-together/) to make them as comfortable as possible. Happy holidays from [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)! --- ## How to be a medical advocate for your aging parent URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/be-medical-advocate-for-aging-parent/ Focus keyword: parent advocate Category: family-communication Tags: communication, social-connection, legal-planning, for-adult-children, for-caregivers, medication-management, for-seniors Summary: As your parents start to age, they may slow down both physically and cognitively. Read about how you can be an effective medical advocate for them. As your parent ages, they may begin to slow down not only physically, but also cognitively. They may process things much slower and their comprehension can diminish. Tasks that may have been easy are now a source of frustration and can be confusing to them. This can be particularly concerning when it comes to their health. As a family caregiver one of your most important challenges is to become an effective advocate regarding the medical care of your parent. ### Here are 5 steps to help advocate for your senior parent: - **Designate one family member as a contact person.** It is best if one person in your family is designated as the point person to communicate with doctors on your parent’s or loved one’s behalf. A single point person can help streamline information. This point person should be added to all medical privacy forms, so they can participate in their loved one’s ongoing care and keep informed of changes. They should also possess a [legal medical power of attorney](https://www.agingcare.com/Articles/what-is-durable-power-of-attorney-140233.htm), so they can make medical decisions if your parent can no longer make such decisions in their own care. - **Attend appointments.** Create a list of all the names and contact information for every doctor that you parent meets with, including vision and dental. Keep this information in your loved one’s home, as well as copies for yourself and family members. It is important to attend medical appointments with your loved one. They may be overwhelmed or unable to comprehend the medical advice and recommendations for their health care. Get to know their doctors, staff, caregivers and social workers. It is important to form relationships with these professionals so the right information is shared and effective care is delivered promptly. Many aging parents are being seen by multiple doctors, so it good to be aware of the treatment given by each and communicate this important information, current laboratory results, x-ray copies, and medications. - **Ask specific questions.** Before attending an appointment or communicating with a physician, make a list of questions. It is helpful if these are direct questions about key concerns and not just about their general overall health. You don’t want to miss an opportunity to get your questions answered. Has your parent lost their [sense of smell?](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/) Have they fallen recently? Have they recently lost a lot of weight? Do they have trouble hearing? Take a few minutes to think about your concerns, discuss the appointment with your parent and what concerns they may have, and prepare for their medical appointments ahead, so you can make the best use of this time with their doctor. - **Obtain a Medical Health Care Directive.** This important document contains the instruction on medical treatment and care if your loved one cannot communicate their preferences. Each state regulates [medical health directives](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/free-printable-advance-directives/) differently, so you will need to consult with your loved one’s doctor, nurse, social worker or family attorney to understand what is required. - **Keep an updated list of medications**. Keep track of all the medications that your loved one is prescribed, in addition to a comprehensive list of over-the-counter medications, vitamins and supplements. A spreadsheet may be helpful to include the name of each medicine, daily doses, and times taken during the day. You should keep a copy of this and update frequently. Also your loved one should keep a copy in their wallet and with their medications. Staying on top of your loved ones medical appointments, doctors’ names and contact information, medication list, and health concerns can be overwhelming. Try to find the best ways to involve your parent, get assistance from other family members, and keep organized. This may be the most important task for the health and well-being of your loved one. Contact the [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)near you and ask for a [Preparedness Kit](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caring-for-a-parent-in-crisis-whats-your-backup-plan/). This will help get you started on the important documents and preparation needed for your parent’s future. --- ## 30 Interesting Questions to Ask Your Grandparents URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/30-questions-to-ask-your-grandparents/ Focus keyword: grandparents Category: family-communication Tags: emotional-wellness, pets, choosing-a-community, costs-funding, for-seniors Summary: Unsure of how to start a conversation with your grandparents? Here are 30 questions that are sure to spark a dialogue. See the full list here. As families of all ages gather together it is the perfect opportunity for grandchildren to learn more about their grandparents. Encourage your children to talk to their grandparents, ask questions, and share more about their lives. It is a meaningful way to pass along family history and traditions to the next generation. Depending on your child’s age and how comfortable they are with their grandparent, children may feel shy about starting a conversation or knowing what questions to ask. Help guide them by starting the conversation with your parent and engaging your child to ask their own questions. ### Questions to start a conversation with grandparents. - Do you have a holiday tradition? What is your favorite thing about the holidays? - Were you named after a family member or does your name have a special meaning? - Do you have a nickname? How did you get the nickname? - Where were you born? - What was your house like as a child? - What was your favorite subject or teacher in school? - What is the most important lesson that your parents taught you? - What did your friends do for fun when you were young? Did you have a best friend? - Did you have a favorite toy as a child? - Did you get an allowance? How much was it and what did you spend your money on? - Did you ever get in trouble as a child or teenager? - Did you have a curfew and what time was it? Did you ever miss curfew? - How did you meet grandma/grandpa? What was your marriage proposal like? - Where was your wedding? Who was your matron of honor/best man? - What was your first job? - What did you want to be when you grew up? - What was your first car? - Where have you lived? - Where have you traveled? - What is your favorite city to visit? - How do you handle stress? - What could you tell me that I would be surprised to learn about you? - What is your dream for your children and grandchildren? - What were your grandparents like? - What is the earliest memory that you have? - Tell me about the day when my mom/dad was born? - What makes you happy? - What was your first pet? - What is different about growing up today than when you were a child? - What is your favorite thing about being a grandparent? In a large group, some seniors may find it difficult to hear or follow conversations. Others might feel left out, or their soft voice may go unheard. Having grandchildren engage in discussions with their grandparent is an excellent way for seniors to feel included and a part of the activities. An added benefit for the child is to learn the essential skills of conversing, active listening, and manners when speaking with their grandparent. A fun idea, when gathered around the dinner table, is to share silly questions that can be answered by everyone and start more conversation. These questions are a more lighthearted approach that may better serve younger children or older parents who are less likely to share. Encourage those answering the question to elaborate or follow up with another question. The goal is that everyone gets the opportunity to talk and be heard - no matter their age. #### Silly questions that can spark a lively conversation or create a new memory! - Would you rather be able to breathe underwater like a fish or fly like a bird? - If you could have dinner with your favorite movie character, who would it be? - If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why? - If you could only have one food to eat every day at every meal, what would it be? - If you could switch places for one day with another family member, who would it be and why? - If you could be an animal, what animal would it be? - If you could take three things with you on a desert island, what items would you choose? - What makes you feel really loved? - What are you thankful for? - Would you rather play in the sand or play in the snow? - What is something that you would like to learn still? - What is your favorite thing to do? Grandparents have priceless wisdom and life experiences to share, encourage multi-generational conversations at your next family gathering, video chat or phone call. At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), we hope your conversation is meaningful, and new memories are made. --- ## Sharing Memories Through the 5 Senses URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/sharing-memories-through-the-5-senses/ Focus keyword: 5 senses and memory Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, memory-care, nutrition, hobbies-activities, for-spouses Summary: Dementia often steals short-term memories from your loved ones. Read more about how they can tap into memories of long past using their 5 senses. Dementia can gradually take short-term memories from your loved ones. They may forget to eat or drink during the day. They may no longer be able to recognize their home or apartment. Most poignantly, they may not recall the name of their spouse or children. Yet even where these recent memories have faded, many memories of long ago may still be intact. One way to connect with your loved one is to tap into these memories of long ago through their five senses. ## Smell. Of the five senses, smell has been researched to be the most direct link to memory. The smell of fresh cut grass might remind you of your younger years mowing the neighbor’s lawn or riding bikes with your friends. There are simple ways to spark memories through smell - bake fresh bread or cookies, fold laundry together, take a walk in the rain, dab on their favorite perfume or cologne, or build a campfire to unlock a memory. These warm thoughts and associated emotions can bring great comfort to your loved one, as well as to you and your family members. ## Taste. We use food to celebrate so many great occasions and milestones in our lives. Make a traditional family meal together and steal bites as you go. Bake a cake and let your loved one lick the frosting spoon, like they did as a child. Or go shopping for some traditional treats like a Twinkie or a favorite ice cream bar. It is not about the food or being a great cook, but it’s about sharing stories and memories that come with the food. ## Touch. After a loved one’s spouse passes away, they crave holding someone’s hand. They may be less mobile and unable to give a bear hug. But a warm hug, holding their hand, or giving them a massage, may be especially soothing. Try an activity that uses their sense of touch, like kneading bread, cutting out cookies, or weeding the garden. Use this time to chat about their lives as a child or young adult. ## Sight. Even in the advanced [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/), visual dissimulation can be an easy way to share some time together. Bring in an album of old photographs or home videos. Watch a classic movie together. Try an activity like painting, collecting autumn leaves, knitting, flower arranging, or even clipping coupons. Again, it doesn’t have to be an elaborate event but moments of recognition and sharing of memories. ## Sound. Do you remember twirling on the dance floor in your prom gown? Or taking your wife’s hand during the first dance at your wedding? Music is a wonderful way to awaken distant memories. Was your loved one a Beatles, Sinatra, or Elvis fan? Playing the favorite tune of someone with dementia can have surprising results. Music can transport them to another place and time of joyful memories. At Áegis Living, we know how very important these long term memories are to our residents. We have created innovative ways in our memory care communities to connect the 5 senses and memory. For example, at [Áegis at Marymoor](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-living-marymoor-redmond-wa/), we have created a camping memory complete with a vintage car, airstream trailer filled with vintage decor, and campsite in our memory care garden. Residents can make s’mores and re-live the camping trips of their youth. To see one of our unique memory care communities, contact an [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) in your area to take a tour. --- ## Dementia: 8 Tips for Celebrating the Holidays Together URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dementia-8-tips-for-celebrating-the-holidays-together/ Focus keyword: holidays with dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, respite-care, nutrition, sleep, moving-in, legal-planning Summary: The holidays can be a difficult time if a family member has dementia. Read more as Áegis Living presents tips for celebrating the holidays together. The holidays can be stressful during the best of times, but layer on the responsibilities of caring for a loved with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia and your holiday season can be quickly overwhelming. Don’t lose the magic of the holiday season, but take some steps to plan for yourself and the loved one who you are caring for. You can find joy this holiday season by adapting and celebrating together. - **You can say no.** You simply cannot do it all. Give yourself permission to limit how you will spend your time this holiday season. Let someone else host and enjoy their hospitality. Bake fewer cookies, simplify your decorations, and buy few gifts. If you focus on what is most important, you will enjoy those activities much more. - **Inform out of town visitors.** Your loved one’s behavior may be changing. Inform your visitors, who have not seen them recently, what to expect. Let them know that they may no longer recognize them. Setting these expectations before they arrive can relieve the stress and anticipation for you and them. - **Choose the time of day that is best.** Many people living with Alzheimer’s become more uncomfortable and agitated in the evening due to [sundowning](http://www.alz.org/care/alzheimers-dementia-sleep-issues-sundowning.asp). Suggest that family meals be done in the morning, brunch, or lunch. Who knows, you might create a new tradition? - **Let your loved one help with preparations.** Let them help you wrap presents, decorate the house, set the table, or make a simple dish. Break these into manageable smaller tasks that you do together to limit frustration. Sharing these activities together can evoke memories of the past. - **Ask for help.** The holidays are about family and friends. Allow them to help you. Set up a buddy system at parties, so someone else can help you look after them. Have potluck meals, so the burden of all the shopping and cooking does not fall on you. Delegate shopping or meals prep to others who offer to help. - **Creative gift giving.** For the stressed caregiver, a gift certificate for housecleaning during the holidays would be appreciated or a certificate for [respite care](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) so they can enjoy a break. For the loved one with dementia, think about soft and warm items like robes, slippers, soft clothing, shawls, and blankets, especially for those with poor circulation. - **Set limits.** Loved ones with dementia become tired very easily. Try to keep them to their routine as much as possible. Keep gatherings low key and short, or provide them a place to get away and lie down from the noise and activity. - **Enjoy your traditions.** A special dish, a favorite holiday song, or lit tree or menorah may be welcome and comforting memories for your loved one. As the caregiver of someone with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, you may have to adapt your holiday plans, but this does not mean that you have to miss the magic of the season. You may create new traditions or enjoy a simple, more relaxed season. You may find joy in the eyes of your loved one as they remember a past holiday. You will find gratitude in enjoying another holiday with some you love and care for. --- ## What Is Geriatric Psychiatry? A Family's Guide URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/geriatric-psychiatry-part-of-a-comprehensive-care-plan/ Focus keyword: geriatric psychiatry Category: health-conditions Tags: depression-anxiety, dementia, emotional-wellness, social-connection, legal-planning, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Geriatric psychiatry treats depression, anxiety, and dementia in older adults. Learn when to consult one, what to expect, and how to find care. Geriatric psychiatry is a medical subspecialty focused on the prevention, diagnosis, and treatment of mental and emotional disorders in adults age 65 and older - including depression, anxiety, dementia-related behaviors, sleep disturbances, and substance use. A geriatric psychiatrist is a licensed MD or DO with additional fellowship training who coordinates care with your parent's primary care physician, neurologist, and family to improve quality of life. Depression and anxiety are treatable at any age - they are not a normal part of growing older. ## Why does later-life mental health deserve its own specialty? Older adults face a different mix of stressors than younger patients: chronic pain, polypharmacy, bereavement, cognitive change, and shrinking social networks. Roughly 14% of adults aged 60 and older live with a mental disorder, with depression and anxiety leading the list ([World Health Organization](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/mental-health-of-older-adults), 2023). Yet late-life depression is frequently misread as "just aging" - and that delay matters. The risk is real. Adults aged 75 and older have one of the highest suicide rates of any age group in the United States ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/facts/data.html), 2023). A geriatric psychiatrist is trained to spot the subtle presentations - withdrawal, appetite loss, somatic complaints - that primary care visits can miss. ## How is a geriatric psychiatrist different from a general psychiatrist? Both are physicians who can prescribe medication and provide therapy. The difference is depth of training in how aging bodies metabolize drugs, how dementia changes behavior, and how grief, hearing loss, and isolation compound mental health symptoms. **Geriatric psychiatrist** An MD or DO who completed psychiatry residency plus a one-year fellowship in geriatric psychiatry, board-certified by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. **Geriatrician** A primary care physician with fellowship training in the medical care of older adults - manages overall health but typically refers complex mental health cases out. **Geropsychologist** A PhD or PsyD psychologist specializing in aging; provides therapy and neuropsychological testing but does not prescribe medication. **Neurologist** An MD who diagnoses brain disorders including the medical workup for dementia, but generally does not treat mood or behavioral symptoms long-term. ## What conditions does a geriatric psychiatrist treat? The scope is broader than "depression in old age." A geriatric psychiatrist commonly treats: - **Late-life depression and anxiety** - often triggered by loss, chronic illness, or medication side effects - **Dementia-related behavioral symptoms** - agitation, aggression, sundowning, paranoia, and sleep reversal in Alzheimer's, Lewy body, vascular, or frontotemporal dementia - **Sleep disorders** - insomnia, REM sleep behavior disorder, and circadian disruption - **Substance use** - including alcohol misuse and benzodiazepine or opioid dependence that began with a legitimate prescription - **Grief and adjustment disorders** after the death of a spouse, retirement, or a move into senior living - **Delirium** - sudden confusion from infection, dehydration, or medication, which is medically distinct from dementia - **Late-onset psychosis and bipolar disorder** An estimated 6.9 million Americans aged 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's dementia, and behavioral or psychiatric symptoms occur in the majority of them over the course of the illness ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). That overlap is why dementia care and psychiatric care so often work hand in hand - and why our pillar guide on [palliative and hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/) often dovetails with psychiatric consultation in the final stages of life. ## How do you know it's time to call one? Consider two scenarios. First, imagine your 82-year-old mother, six months after your father's death, has stopped attending her bridge club, skips meals, and says she is "just tired." Her internist increased her blood pressure medication, but nothing changed. That pattern - anhedonia, withdrawal, and somatic complaints - is classic late-life depression and warrants a psychiatric evaluation, not a wait-and-see. Second, picture an 86-year-old father with mid-stage Alzheimer's who has begun lashing out at his wife during evening care routines, accusing her of stealing, and refusing to bathe. A geriatric psychiatrist can distinguish whether the behavior is driven by pain, a urinary tract infection, an unmet need, or progression of the disease - and intervene without defaulting to heavy sedation. Call for a referral when you see: - Persistent sadness, hopelessness, or loss of interest lasting more than two weeks - New paranoia, hallucinations, or accusations - Sudden personality change or rapid cognitive decline - Talk of being "a burden," wanting to die, or giving away possessions - Sleep that has flipped day-for-night - Escalating alcohol use or stockpiling of pills ## What does a first appointment actually look like? A geriatric psychiatry intake typically runs 60 to 90 minutes - significantly longer than a standard psychiatric visit. Expect the physician to: - Review the full medical history, every current medication (including over-the-counter), and recent lab work - Conduct a cognitive screen such as the MoCA or MMSE - Interview the patient alone, then meet with family or a care partner for collateral history - Screen for depression (PHQ-9), anxiety (GAD-7), and suicide risk - Order labs to rule out thyroid disease, B12 deficiency, or infection - Draft a treatment plan combining therapy, medication adjustments, sleep hygiene, and family education - Coordinate directly with the primary care doctor and, when relevant, the senior living community's nursing team As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized: aging is not a disease, and treating older adults well means looking at the whole person - biology, biography, and the environment around them - rather than chasing one symptom at a time. ## How are treatments different for older adults? Three principles guide geriatric prescribing: start low, go slow, and watch for interactions. Older kidneys and livers process drugs differently, and a medication that is unremarkable at 45 can cause falls, delirium, or arrhythmia at 80. The American Geriatrics Society Beers Criteria - the standard reference for potentially inappropriate medications in older adults - flags long-acting benzodiazepines, first-generation antihistamines, and certain antipsychotics as drugs to use with caution or avoid in this population ([American Geriatrics Society](https://www.americangeriatrics.org/), 2023). A geriatric psychiatrist knows this list by heart and chooses agents accordingly. Non-drug interventions are equally central: - **Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)** adapted for older adults - **Problem-solving therapy** for mild-to-moderate depression - **Reminiscence and life-review therapy** - **Light therapy** for seasonal symptoms and sleep disruption - **Behavioral interventions** for dementia agitation - addressing pain, hunger, boredom, and environment before reaching for a pill - **Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT)** for severe, treatment-resistant depression with strong evidence in older adults ## What does geriatric psychiatry cost, and does insurance cover it? Original Medicare (Part B) covers 80% of approved outpatient mental health services after the deductible, including visits with a geriatric psychiatrist, individual therapy, and an annual depression screening ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/mental-health-care-outpatient), 2024). A Medigap or Medicare Advantage plan typically picks up the remaining 20% or applies a copay. ServiceTypical 2024 cost before insuranceMedicare coverage Initial psychiatric evaluation (60 - 90 min)$300 - $50080% after Part B deductible Follow-up med-management visit$150 - $25080% after deductible Therapy session (45 min)$120 - $20080% after deductible Neuropsychological testing battery$1,500 - $3,500Covered when medically necessary Annual depression screening$0 to patient100% covered Telepsychiatry visits are widely available and covered by Medicare - a meaningful option for residents in rural areas or those who find office visits exhausting. ## How does mental health intersect with physical health in later life? Treating the mind is rarely separate from treating the body. Untreated depression worsens outcomes for heart disease, diabetes, and recovery after surgery. Hearing loss, in particular, is a quietly powerful contributor to social isolation and mood symptoms - read more about the [causes and symptoms of hearing loss](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/causes-and-symptoms-hearing-loss/) if your parent has begun withdrawing from conversation. Chronic disease management is another pressure point. If your parent is navigating insulin, glucose monitoring, and dietary changes alongside a mood disorder, our guide with [tips for an elderly parent diagnosed with diabetes](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/four-tips-for-an-elderly-parent-with-diabetes/) pairs well with a psychiatric treatment plan. And in winter, watch for [hypothermia, a winter hazard for seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hypothermia-a-winter-hazard-for-seniors/) - confusion and apathy from cold exposure can mimic or mask psychiatric symptoms. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, frequently reminds families: behavior is communication. A change in mood or conduct is rarely random - it is the person telling you something has shifted in their body, their environment, or their relationships. ## How do you find a geriatric psychiatrist near you? Start with these steps: - Ask your parent's primary care physician or geriatrician for a referral - they often know which local psychiatrists accept Medicare and have shorter waitlists. - Use the American Association for Geriatric Psychiatry's clinician directory at [aagponline.org](https://aagponline.org/). - Check Medicare's Care Compare tool at [medicare.gov/care-compare](https://www.medicare.gov/care-compare/) to verify a provider accepts assignment. - Contact your local Area Agency on Aging (find it through [eldercare.acl.gov](https://eldercare.acl.gov/home)) for community mental health resources and sliding-scale options. - Ask the senior living community - quality operators maintain relationships with visiting geriatric psychiatrists who come on-site. ## How does Áegis Living integrate psychiatric care? Áegis Living communities partner with licensed geriatric psychiatrists who consult on-site with residents whose physicians refer them. That coordination - between primary care, nursing staff, family, and a psychiatrist who knows the resident - is the difference between a one-off prescription and a treatment plan that actually changes the day-to-day experience of living with depression, anxiety, or dementia. If you suspect your parent is struggling with more than "just getting older," the next step is a conversation. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to learn how our care partnerships can support your family. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is depression a normal part of aging? No. While loss and life transitions are common in later years, persistent depression is a medical condition, not an inevitability. The National Institute on Aging is explicit that depression in older adults is treatable and should not be dismissed as normal aging ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/mental-and-emotional-health/depression-and-older-adults), 2024). ### Can a geriatric psychiatrist diagnose dementia? Yes, often in collaboration with a neurologist or primary care physician. They are particularly skilled at distinguishing dementia from depression, delirium, and medication side effects - conditions that can look identical at first glance but require very different treatment. ### Will my parent need to take medication? Not necessarily. A geriatric psychiatrist evaluates the full picture and may recommend therapy, behavioral changes, social engagement, or treatment of an underlying medical issue before prescribing. When medication is appropriate, doses are typically lower and choices are guided by the Beers Criteria to minimize side effects. ### How is telepsychiatry working for older adults? Telepsychiatry is covered by Medicare and works well for many older adults, especially follow-up visits. For initial evaluations involving cognitive testing, an in-person visit is often preferred, but virtual care has dramatically expanded access in rural areas and for residents with limited mobility. ### What if my parent refuses to see a psychiatrist? Reframe the conversation around their primary care physician. Ask the PCP to raise the topic, or describe the appointment as a "memory and mood check-up." A home visit, telehealth session, or referral from a trusted clergy member can also lower resistance. If safety is at risk, contact the local Area Agency on Aging or a geriatric care manager. ### How quickly do treatments work? Antidepressants typically take 4 to 8 weeks to show full effect in older adults - longer than in younger patients. Therapy benefits often appear within 6 to 12 sessions. Behavioral interventions for dementia agitation can produce changes within days when the trigger is correctly identified. --- ## Finding the best caregivers for your loved one URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/finding-the-best-staff-to-care-for-your-loved-one/ Focus keyword: best caregivers Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, emotional-wellness, for-caregivers, for-adult-children, for-seniors Summary: "Áegis Living discusses some qualities they screen for when hiring care staff at Áegis assisted living and memory care communities." Who is really caring for your mom or dad on a daily basis? We know that moving your parent into an assisting living community can be a difficult decision. It can be stressful for not only your parent moving into a new situation, but for you as the adult child. You want to make sure there is someone caring for you parent who is respectful, attentive, affectionate, and kind. You want someone who has strong skills but can comfort with a hug or a warm smile. These are the same qualities that we carefully screen for when we hire our care staff at Áegis Living. In all positions that we hire for, we take extreme care that they meet the high standards that we have set as a company. We only hire 9’s and 10’s on the high end of the scale of skill sets from our field of applicants. We specifically hire for individuals who have a high emotional IQ, as well as their superior skills and experience. In our industry, it is so important to hire a “people person” who can connect with and cherish our residents. To achieve this, we use group interviews with multiple candidates at one time to judge how they interact with each other and their level of compassion and cooperation. By using a strict hiring criteria across all communities, for our corporate staff, and leadership roles, we have one of the lowest turnover rates in our industry. We value the importance of quality and consistency in our staff who care for your parent. We know your parents rely on these individuals and take comfort in these relationships. We have created a culture of rewarding employees for their long term dedication with clear career opportunities to progress within the company and [financial rewards](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IqecjzpEDQ). Our staff find their work to be personally rewarding and we want to support them any way that we can. We have consistently had one of the highest ratings on Glassdoor.com, an independent employee job review site that is powered by the feedback of those who work or have worked in our company. We were voted “Best Place to Work” for four years by Puget Sound Business Journal and “Best Family Owned Business” by Seattle Business Magazine in 2015. And we were ranked #3 out of 321 business in the Seattle area by King5 Evening Magazine. These awards means so much to us as a company because these were awarded based on the satisfaction, feedback, and votes by our employees. Whether your loved one lives at an Áegis Living community or another assisted living community, we wanted to give you a few questions to consider as you review and meet the staff at a senior living community: - What is the ratio for staff to resident? - What kind of training and experience do the staff possess? Do they receive continue training? - How many are on staff overnight? - Does the staff administer medicine? What is that process like? - Is there a nurse on staff? Are they available 24/7? - How do the staff interact with the residents? Are they kind, patent and helpful? - Do residents respond positively toward the staff? - If you were to stop by unannounced, would you find the same positive interaction with staff and residents? The warmth and dedication of a staff is something that needs to be experienced in person. Take a tour, ask questions, and observe when looking for a senior living community. We welcome you to tour one of our communities for your needs, [contact us today](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington). --- ## Using the Expertise of a Geriatrician URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/using-the-expertise-of-a-geriatrician/ Focus keyword: geriatrician Category: family-communication Tags: depression-anxiety, vision-hearing, incontinence, brain-health, fall-prevention, for-adult-children, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living explains how the specialized care of a geriatrician can benefit an elderly patient in need of medical treatment. Read more here. One of the many things that a new parent prepares for, before the arrival of their bouncing baby, is selecting a pediatrician - a doctor who specializes in the physical, behavioral, and mental health of a growing child. They are particularly knowledgeable in the symptoms and treatment of childhood diseases. Just as a parent brings their child to an expert pediatrician, an adult child should bring their aging parent to an expert geriatrician. Geriatricians focus on senior health, disabilities, and diseases related to aging. Your aging loved one can greatly benefit from the experts in geriatric medicine. ## The difference between a general practitioner and a Geriatrician As adults, most of us seek the care of a general practitioner. A general practitioner is a doctor who treats a wide range of medical problems for all ages. But a geriatrician specializes in the care of older adults. They are trained in family practice or internal medicine but have additional training in the care of older patients. They understand the impact of a disability on independence and are experts in illnesses associated with age. They can address health concerns, such as the struggle with frailty, incontinence, frequent falls, memory loss, and the side effects of medication. Geriatric practitioners can distinguish between disease and the effects of normal aging. Older patients present symptoms differently. They absorb medications more slowly and often respond differently to normal protocols. Multiple chronic conditions can overlap in older individuals. Geriatricians are trained to identify and manage these differences. Most older patients require more regular visits and a higher level of care. A key skill is being able to properly assess and prioritize the issues in an older patient. Here are some of the complex issues that geriatric practitioners manage: - Multiple problems can quickly compound in an older patient. A mild fever can lead to confusion, resulting in a fall with a now broken hip. - Older patients taking multiple prescribed prescriptions and over-the-counter medications can be at risk for potential drug interactions. Specific attentions needs to be paid to the many drugs treating various illnesses and conditions. - Presentation of diseases may be vague or difficult to determine in cognitively impaired patients who may not be able to explain their symptoms or express pain. Geriatricians are trained to find the root cause despite these limitations. - Frail older individuals may decline some types of medical care because the risk-benefit is different for older adults. The risk of post-surgical complications may mean not having an elective surgery but still making the person comfortable by easing pain. - Many patients have a lengthy medical history, so understanding past illnesses and current conditions is necessary when creating a comprehensive care plan. - Older patients can have various organ systems that decline, such as vision, hearing loss, [taste and smell](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/). - Geriatricians can provide elder care options such as home services, skilled nursing facilities, [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), and hospice if needed. - Geriatricians collaborate with other medical disciplines such as nurses, pharmacists, therapists and social workers to treat all aspects of a patient’s life. The biggest difference between a general practitioner and a geriatrician is their philosophy and approach to managing an older patient’s care. Geriatricians practice a “whole person” approach. They consider the psychological, social, and spiritual dimensions of an individual, along with the functional, physical and environmental assessment. Independence, function, and quality of life are a great concern to an older patient and of equal concern for their geriatric physician. At Áegis Living, we understand the impact that specialized care can have on a resident. We have partnered with the [University of California San Francisco](http://www.ucsfhealth.org/rebecca.conant) to provide primary and palliative care to our residents through regularly scheduled appointments within our communities. The benefits and convenience of utilizing an in-house medical care provider allows our residents to receive compassionate medical care within the comfort of their apartment. --- ## When your sense of taste and smell fade URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-your-sense-of-taste-and-smell-fade/ Focus keyword: taste Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, nutrition, emotional-wellness, safety-at-home, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: As you age it's normal to experience your senses fading. Consult with a physician to address any issues that may be contributing to a loss of taste or smell. The taste of a freshly baked peanut butter cookie can remind you of your mom covered in flour greeting you after a long day at school. The smell of pipe tobacco might remind you of your grandfather reading you a book in his leather chair. Tastes and smells hold memories. As these senses fade, so can memories and the comfort associated with them. A [normal part of the aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/smell-and-taste) process is our senses will fade. When our loved one is having difficulty seeing or hearing, we typically are very concerned and bring them to the doctor to try to alleviate these issues. But just as important is our sense of taste and smell, although these issues can often go untreated. A loss of smell can be dangerous to an older adult living on their own. They may not be able to smell smoke from a fire. They may not notice the smell of gas from a stove left on. They may not smell spoiled food that can lead to food poisoning. The loss of smell can compromise their safety. If you loved one can no longer smell the aroma of a fresh cup of coffee, a Sunday afternoon pot roast, or fresh bread from the oven, this can decrease their appetite leading to poor nutrition, weight loss, impaired immunity, and impact their quality of life. In an attempt to improve the taste, many elder will use excess salt or sugar, which can lead to high blood pressure or diabetes. Not being able to enjoy these simple things in life can sometimes cause depression or stress. Although the loss of taste and smell cannot be reversed, some impairments can be treated. Consult a physician to address any issues that may be contributing to your seniors loss of taste or smell, such as: - Review and adjust medications that can affect taste - Treat nasal or sinus issues, such as allergies or infection - Quit smoking - Address dry mouth that can affect the production of saliva, making it difficult to swallow and taste - Consult a dentist to treat any dental issues, such as gum disease, tooth loss, and dentures - Brush teeth before and after meals, floss regularly, and use mouthwash If you loved one is experiencing difficulty eating due their fading senses, here are a few suggestions to help with nutrition: - Offer foods in a variety of bold colors and textures - Part of the joy of eating is with your eyes, so plate the food attractively and with a simple garnish - Serve food on a white plate so meals can be easily seen against a light background - If their diet allows, add flavor through butter, olive oil, cheese, nuts and fresh herbs such as basil, oregano, and rosemary - Try to add a little spice with mustard, garlic, onion, ginger, lime, or lemon - Offer your loved one snacks throughout the day instead of just three meals. Bright colored vegetables such as tomatoes, yellow or red peppers, carrots and broccoli are good options - Cold food like yogurt, pudding or gelatin are more flavorful than warm foods - [Drink plenty of fluids](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-stations-healthy-relief-from-summer-heat-wave/) throughout the day At Áegis Living, [our communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) employ expert chefs who make meals that are not only tasty, but visually appealing to our residents. Our mealtimes are social events where our residents enjoy time with each other, while getting nutritious meals to boost their immunity and to keep them healthy. We offer snacks and beverages throughout the day to stimulate their appetites and keep them hydrated. We understand that a senior’s loss of taste and smell can be challenging, so we take extra care with every meal and snack that we serve our residents. --- ## VA Aid and Attendance Benefits for Veterans and Spouses URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/ Focus keyword: VA Aid and Attendance benefits Category: financial-legal Tags: assisted-living, veterans, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Learn how VA Aid and Attendance benefits help veterans and surviving spouses pay for assisted living, who qualifies, and how to apply in 2024. If your parent or spouse served in the U.S. military, they may qualify for a tax-free monthly VA pension called **Aid and Attendance** that helps pay for assisted living, in-home care, or a nursing home. Effective December 1, 2025, the maximum benefit reaches roughly $2,424 per month for a single veteran and about $1,558 for a surviving spouse ([U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs](https://www.va.gov/pension/veterans-pension-rates/), 2025). Most families never claim it because they don't know it exists. ## What is the VA Aid and Attendance pension? Aid and Attendance (A&A) is an add-on to the basic VA pension for wartime veterans and their surviving spouses who need help with daily activities like bathing, dressing, or medication management. The money is paid monthly, tax free, and goes directly into a checking or savings account ([VA.gov Aid and Attendance overview](https://www.va.gov/pension/aid-attendance-housebound/), 2024). It's been on the books for more than 60 years, yet the VA estimates a large share of eligible wartime veterans never apply ([U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs](https://www.va.gov/pension/), 2024). For a family paying $5,000 or more a month for assisted living, the benefit can be the difference between staying in a community and moving home. ## How much does Aid and Attendance pay in 2026? The VA publishes Maximum Annual Pension Rates (MAPR) each December. Current monthly maximums: RecipientApprox. monthly max (effective Dec 1, 2025)Approx. annual max Single veteran with A&Aabout $2,424$29,093 Veteran with a spouse or one dependent, with A&Aabout $2,874$34,488 Surviving spouse with A&Aabout $1,558$18,697 Rates above are the maximums effective December 1, 2025 and are reduced by the recipient's countable income ([U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs](https://www.va.gov/pension/veterans-pension-rates/) and [VA Survivors Pension rates](https://www.va.gov/pension/survivors-pension-rates/), 2025). Unreimbursed medical expenses, including assisted living rent for residents who need ADL help, generally reduce countable income. ## Who qualifies for VA Aid and Attendance? A veteran must meet four tests: service, medical need, income, and net worth. Service requirement At least 90 days of active duty with one day during a VA-defined wartime period (World War II, Korea, Vietnam, Gulf War, etc.). Discharge must be other than dishonorable ([VA Pension Eligibility](https://www.va.gov/pension/eligibility/), 2024). Medical requirement The applicant must need help with at least one activity of daily living (ADL), be bedridden, reside in a nursing home, or have severely limited eyesight. Income limit Countable income (after medical deductions) must fall below the MAPR for the household. Net worth limit For claims filed between Dec. 1, 2023 and Nov. 30, 2024, the net worth limit is $155,356 ([U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs](https://www.va.gov/pension/eligibility/), 2024). A 36-month look-back applies to asset transfers. Surviving spouses qualify under similar rules if they were married to the veteran at the time of death and did not remarry. As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, older adults often hesitate to claim benefits they've earned because the paperwork feels punishing; bringing in a credentialed helper early changes the outcome. ## How do you apply for Aid and Attendance? - **Gather documents.** DD-214 (discharge papers), marriage and death certificates if applying as a spouse, Social Security numbers, bank statements, and a list of monthly medical expenses. - **Get a physician exam.** Ask your loved one's doctor to complete [VA Form 21-2680](https://www.va.gov/forms/21-2680/) (Examination for Housebound Status or Permanent Need for Regular Aid and Attendance). - **Submit the pension application.** File [VA Form 21P-527EZ](https://www.va.gov/forms/21p-527ez/) for a living veteran or 21P-534EZ for a surviving spouse. You can mail, fax, or file online at VA.gov. - **Add a statement of care.** The assisted living community completes a statement describing the level of help provided. At Áegis Living, our team prepares this letter for residents. - **Wait for the decision.** Approval typically takes two to six months. The first payment is retroactive to the application date, often arriving as a sizable lump sum ([VA.gov How to Apply](https://www.va.gov/pension/how-to-apply/), 2024). You can also work with a VA-accredited Veterans Service Officer (VSO) for free, or an accredited attorney through the [American Bar Association](https://www.americanbar.org/groups/legal_services/flh-home/flh-bar-directories-and-lawyer-finders/) (2024). For broader estate documents, see our guide on [how to find the right power of attorney lawyer](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/). ## Two examples of how Aid and Attendance works **Example 1.** Consider an 88-year-old Korean War veteran in Bellevue whose assisted living rent is $6,800 per month. His Social Security and small pension total $3,200. Because his unreimbursed medical expenses (rent plus care fees) wipe out most of his countable income, he qualifies for the full single-veteran A&A rate of roughly $2,424 per month, offsetting about a third of his monthly bill. **Example 2.** Imagine a 79-year-old widow whose late husband served in Vietnam. She lives in memory care and pays $7,500 monthly. Her countable income after medical deductions falls below the surviving-spouse MAPR, so she receives close to $1,558 per month in tax-free A&A. That's nearly $18,700 a year she's not pulling from savings. ## What other VA benefits should families know about? - **Basic VA pension** for low-income wartime veterans without A&A medical needs. - **Housebound benefits** for veterans confined to home (cannot be combined with A&A). - **VA health care and prescription coverage** through the local VA medical center. - **Service-connected disability compensation,** separate from pension rules. - **Burial benefits and pre-need eligibility** for VA national cemeteries. Planning early matters. Read [when to start planning for long-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/start-planning-for-long-term-care/), learn [why your loved one needs a power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/why-a-power-of-attorney/), and review [what a POLST form covers](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-a-polst-form/) before a medical crisis. Veterans are also frequent fraud targets, so review our [10 tips to protect seniors from financial fraud](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-to-protect-seniors-from-financial-fraud/). ## Frequently asked questions ### Does a veteran have to have combat service to qualify? No. The veteran needed to serve at least 90 days of active duty with one day falling during a VA-defined wartime period, but combat service is not required (U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, 2024). ### Can my parent receive A&A and Medicaid at the same time? Sometimes, but the rules are tricky. Aid and Attendance can affect Medicaid eligibility because of how income is counted, and Medicaid may reduce A&A to $90 per month for nursing home residents. Work with an elder law attorney before stacking benefits. ### How long does VA approval take? Two to six months is typical, occasionally longer. Benefits are paid retroactively to the application date, so the first check often includes several months of back pay. ### Does the surviving spouse keep receiving A&A if the veteran dies? The veteran's pension stops at death, but a qualifying surviving spouse can apply for the survivor version of A&A using VA Form 21P-534EZ. The spouse must not have remarried. ### Are assisted living costs counted as medical expenses? Generally yes, if the resident needs help with at least one ADL and that need is certified by a physician and the community. This is what allows residents in $5,000-plus communities to fall under the income cap. ### Can I hire someone to file the application for me? Use a VA-accredited Veterans Service Officer (free) or a VA-accredited attorney. Federal law prohibits charging a fee for the initial pension application itself, so be cautious of anyone asking for upfront payment. **Talk to Áegis Living.** Our team has helped hundreds of veteran families navigate Aid and Attendance paperwork and pair it with the right level of care. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a visit. --- ## Flu Season is Around the Corner URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/flu-season-is-around-the-corner/ Focus keyword: flu season Category: financial-legal Tags: exercise-fitness, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-seniors, for-caregivers, nutrition Summary: At Áegis Living, your safety is a top priority. With the flu season around the corner, we discuss helping senior citizens avoid getting sick. Read more here. It has long been recognized by the medical community that seniors are at a higher risk of serious complications and hospitalization from the flu. Because immune defenses become weaker with age, this elderly age group contains the majority of deaths attributed to influenza. As we head into cold and flu season, it is important to boost your immune system and keep your aging loved ones healthy. **Get a flu shot.** The[Center for Disease Control and Preventions recommends](http://www.cdc.gov/flu/about/disease/high_risk.htm) that you get a flu vaccine every year, especially if you are 65 years or older. The flu vaccine protects against the flu viruses that research indicates will be the most common in the upcoming season. **Encourage your family and caregivers to get a flu shot**. Encourage family and loved ones who will be in contact with the elderly to prevent the flu as well with a vaccine. **Good health habits.** Coughing into your sleeve and washing your hands are vital to prevent the spread of the flu. Here are a few more habits to practice this season: - Wash your hands with soap and water for at least 20 seconds. - Carry an alcohol-based hand sanitizer with you. - Bring disinfectant wipes to clean surfaces, such as a shopping cart handle. - Use a paper towel or tissue to hold a door handle when in a public place. - Do not touch your eyes, mouth or nose without clean hands. **Lay low this season.** Taking extra precautions during the flu season, those who are frail should avoid large crowds and limit their exposure to others who may be ill. **Visiting children.** If an elderly parent lives with children in the household or grandchildren come to visit, parents need to be extra careful to make sure that their children wash their hands regularly. And if possible, avoid visits if the children are not well. **Exercise regularly.** Walking, golf, tennis, yoga and swimming are great ways to keep moving at any age and boost your immune system. **Get plenty of sleep.** It is recommended to get between 7-9 hours per night. During flu season, perhaps go to bed a little earlier to make sure that you are well-rested and stay healthy. **Eat a balanced diet.** Load your diet with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables to get the necessary vitamins, nutrients, and fiber that you need to [boost your immune system](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-nutrition-tips-for-seniors/) and guard against illness. **Stay hydrated.** During colder weather, many of us forget to drink water as often as we should. Drink plenty of water and healthy beverages throughout the day and avoid caffeine. **Reduce your stress.** Daily stress and tension can have detrimental effects on your immune system. Try to reduce your stress level and ask for assistance if you need it. **Seek medical attention quickly.** If you or your elderly loved one shows signs of the flu, seek medical advice quickly. Many medications for the flu must be administered with the first 48 hours after symptoms appear. Don’t wait. Whether they live alone, with your family or in a senior living [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) these tips will help to keep your parent healthy. --- ## Áegis Living Chief Medical Officer Discusses Brain Health URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dr-shirley-newell-brain-health/ Focus keyword: brain health Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, nutrition, exercise-fitness, sleep, brain-health Summary: Optimize senior brain health with tips from Áegis Living. Learn how sleep, a healthy diet, and meditation protect your cognitive wellness. Áegis Living Chief Medical Officer Dr. Shirley Newell, a national leader in the assisted-living industry, discusses what you can do to optimize brain health. In some cases, it can be as simple as getting a good night’s sleep. ## Dr. Newell's Tips on Brain Health The positive things you can do for your brain are from a young age, and especially as you get older, get plenty of exercise. Also, eat a very healthy diet. And the cardiologists, and now the neurologists, talk about the Mediterranean diet, which isn’t that complicated. It’s just a lot of fruits and vegetables, moderate carbohydrates, low protein, and very healthy vegetable oils like olive oil, non-saturated fats, are very important to minimize sugar. It’s clear that human beings need at least seven or eight hours a night of sleep. You may function, or think you function, well on less, some people chronically function on much less. But they’re doing damage to their brain because sleep, and especially dreaming, is really important to restore brain function. A lot of chemical events happen during sleep that are critical, not only to preserve health, but that can be harmful if you don’t get enough sleep, in terms of developing dementia and other degenerative diseases of the brain. ## Sleep and Meditation Are Important for Brain Health Really important for brain health would be not only sleep, but meditation. Meditation and mindfulness have been found to be very restorative in terms of brain function and focus, and highly valuable in terms of helping people overcome distraction. Both of those are very, very important to people and that’s something that you can do without a lot of effort or time. --- ## 4 Ways to Support a Friend Whose Spouse has Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/4-ways-to-support-a-couple-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, emotional-wellness, social-connection, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-spouses Summary: The spouse of someone living with dementia is experiencing not only the pressure of caring for a loved one, but also their own personal loss and sadness… The spouse of someone living with dementia is experiencing not only the pressure of caring for a loved one, but also their own personal loss and sadness. This profound change in their relationship can be difficult and overwhelming for the couple. Many caregiving spouses don’t ask for the help that they desperately need. Here are some ideas on how you can provide support for a couple with dementia: - **Changing Roles.**As the spouse living with dementia slowly becomes less capable of managing daily tasks and responsibilities, the caregiver will be faced with more and more to take on. This may mean paying the bills, managing the care of the house, setting appointments, driving, budgeting, handling legal issues, and household chores. Making important decisions alone can be scary and overwhelming. ## ***Supporting the dementia caregiver*** Offer to help the caregiver plan ahead and prepare. Help them organize their finances, find important documentation, or seek professional help from a financial advisor. Be there as a sounding board when they need to make tough decisions. They may be feeling very overwhelmed, so support them with these tasks where you can or help them find professional assistance. - **Intimacy and Connection**. A caregiving spouse may experience grief and loneliness as their spouse becomes less engaged, less affectionate, unable to contribute to conversations, or recall past times they’ve shared. Emotionally and physically their relationships can change dramatically. As they watch their loved one slip away, they may experience depression, frustration, deep sadness, and guilt for their loss. ***How you can help:***Give them a hug, hold their hand and offer a gentle touch. Give them a gift certificate for a massage to relax. A caregiver may be missing that physical connection. Your love and affection can help fill a void. If they are experiencing depression, help them seek out professional help and support groups in their area. Brainstorm on ways to find new connections with their spouse - make the couple a special dinner, look through old photos together, or let them hold hands in the back seat as you take them on an afternoon drive. - **Loss of Connection with Others.** As a caregiver takes on their new role, they may have less time for friends and family. They may feel unable to leave the spouse with dementia at home alone and too overwhelmed to try to venture out together. As [memory loss](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) progresses, the couple may begin to withdraw socially. ***How you can help:*** Stay engaged with the couple. Make contact with regular phone calls, visits, and offers to help. The caregiver may not ask for help, so you may need to take some initiative and suggest ways that you can support them. Family members should rotate regular visits and keep each other aware of changes and needs. - **Decline in the Caregiver’s Health.** Often, the daily stress of caregiving can negatively affect the provider’s own health and well-being. Caregiving, especially for a spouse, can be all-consuming as they are trying to care for their loved one emotionally and physically. Caregivers can experience higher blood pressure, decreased immune function, and increased odds of heart disease. ***How you can help:*** Give them a break in their [caregiving](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-for-caregivers-to-relax-and-rejuvenate/). Offer to care for the spouse with dementia and give them time to do something for themselves. Your time is the greatest gift that you can give a stressed caregiver. Help the spouse realize they don’t have to be the only helper to be a good wife or husband. Seeking help is healthy and reasonable. ## Takeaways for the dementia caregiver Caregiving can be exhausting, frustrating, and emotional. But it should not be done alone. It is often difficult for a caregiving family member to admit that they are sad, overwhelmed, or need help. As a friend or a family member, the greatest gift to that caregiver is to offer support and to keep offering help for the duration. If you have more questions about how to support your friend reach out to your local [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community. At some point, you will find out the best ways to help and it will be met with gratitude. --- ## Caregiver’s guide to dementia communication URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregivers-guide-to-communication/ Focus keyword: dementia communication Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, communication, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-caregivers, depression-anxiety Summary: Áegis Living memory care and assisted living community presents a guide to communicating with a loved one suffering from Alzheimer's disease. Read more here. If you are caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, it is important to take the time to learn how to communicate effectively with them. Improving your communication skills can decrease the stress of caregiving. It can improve your relationship with your loved one and later be beneficial if difficult behaviors develop. ### Speak clearly. Give your dad time to understand you. Speak slowly and loud enough for him to hear you. If he has difficulty understanding you, try to lower the pitch of your voice. Speaking in a quiet spot with few distractions can also aid in communication. ### Be aware of your body language. Your dad may not always completely comprehend what you are saying, but he can interpret body language. Make eye contact, smile warmly, don’t crowd his personal space, and use a pleasant tone in your voice. ### **Try to follow their pace**. Listen carefully for clues to what he is trying to communicate. Try to assist with words if he cannot find them, but be careful not to interrupt too often. Don’t try to rush him through a conversation. Give him plenty of encouragement. ### Listen with your heart. Try to listen to the emotions behind the words that he is saying. He may not have the right words to express what he means, but you can still interpret if he is uncomfortable, anxious or needs to be reassured. Holding his hand, rubbing his back, or giving him a hug may be helpful when verbal communication fails. ### Limit choices. Too many options can be overwhelming or confusing for someone with dementia. Provide visual examples of their options to help clarify further. *Would you like to wear the red sweater or blue sweater?* Be patient and allow time to think about their options before making a selection. ### **Simplify directions**. Break down activities into sections or simple steps. Give him smaller tasks so he can accomplish a goal. This will leave him feeling more confident about being able to complete activities. ### Confusing reality. A loved one with dementia may be so confused that they don’t understand their current reality. They might think they are a young mother needing to pick up their child, late for work, or looking for their parent. This can be difficult to handle. Try not to correct them or convince them otherwise, this can simply cause anxiety and more stress. Meet them where they are at in the moment and redirect them when you can. ### No two days are the same. Behaviors and patterns can change from day to day. You may need to get creative about ways to communicate or comfort your loved one as they progress in their memory loss. ### Get support. You are not alone. There are so many resources to connect you with others who are facing the same challenges. Contact your local [Alzheimer’s Association Chapter](http://www.alz.org/) or [Caregiver Resource Center](https://caregiver.org/californias-caregiver-resource-centers). Search online to find support groups in your area. --- ## Dementia Wandering: How to Prevent It and Keep Your Loved One Safe URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/wandering-woes-preventative-tips-to-securing-your-home/ Focus keyword: dementia wandering prevention Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, depression-anxiety, exercise-fitness, brain-health, for-caregivers, for-spouses, alzheimers Summary: Learn why people with dementia wander, how to secure your home, and what to do in a crisis. Practical, expert-backed safety steps for caregivers. Dementia wandering happens when a person with Alzheimer's or another dementia leaves a safe space and becomes disoriented, often because they're searching for a person, place, or routine from the past. Roughly 6 in 10 people living with dementia will wander at least once ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/wandering), 2024). Prevention combines a secured home, identification, redirection skills, and a written crisis plan you can act on in minutes. If you're still learning the warning signs that led you here, start with our guide to the [10 Early Signs of Dementia Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/do-you-know-10-signs-of-dementia/), then come back to build your safety plan. ## Why do people with dementia wander in the first place? Wandering rarely looks random from the inside. Your parent may believe it's 1978 and they need to pick up the kids, or they may be searching for a deceased spouse. Unmet needs - hunger, thirst, pain, needing the bathroom, or boredom - are common triggers ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-changes-behavior-and-communication/coping-alzheimers-behaviors-wandering-and), 2023). As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: a person with dementia is almost always trying to do something that makes sense to them in the moment. The job of the caregiver is to figure out the *why* behind the walking, not to argue with the where. For example, an 82-year-old retired teacher who paces the hallway every afternoon at 2:45 p.m. may be reliving the bell schedule of her old classroom. A snack, a short walk outside, or a photo album of students can redirect that urgency more effectively than locking a door. ## How do you secure a home against dementia wandering? Home modifications buy you time and reduce the chance of an unnoticed exit. Layer multiple low-tech and tech-based solutions rather than relying on one. - **Add door alerts.** Hang bells on interior and exterior door handles, or install motion sensors and door chimes that ping your phone. - **Disguise exits.** A full-length curtain, a STOP sign at eye level, or a dark mat in front of the door can deter a person with dementia from opening it ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-changes-behavior-and-communication/coping-alzheimers-behaviors-wandering-and), 2023). - **Install higher or lower locks.** Place deadbolts outside the normal line of sight - high on the door or near the floor. - **Secure the yard.** A fenced garden with a self-latching gate lets your loved one walk safely. A circular path with bird feeders, raised planters, and a bench provides destinations without exits. - **Remove visual triggers.** Keep car keys, coats, hats, and purses out of sight - these cues prompt the brain to "go." ## What identification should your loved one wear every day? Identification is the single fastest way for a stranger or first responder to get your parent home safely. Medical ID bracelet or pendantEngraved with name, "memory impaired," and an emergency phone number. Less likely to be removed than a wallet card.GPS trackerWorn as a watch, shoe insert, or clipped to a belt loop. Models from AngelSense, Apple AirTag, and Project Lifesaver range from about $30 one-time to $40 per month for service plans (AARP, 2023).Sewn-in labelsName and phone number stitched into the inside collar of every jacket and the lining of handbags.Recent photoUpdated every six months on your phone, ready to text to police. ## How do you redirect someone who insists on leaving? Arguing with a person who has dementia rarely works and often escalates anxiety. Redirection is the gold standard. - **Validate first.** "It sounds like you really need to get to the office. Tell me about your job." - **Check basic needs.** Offer water, a snack, or a trip to the bathroom before anything else. - **Walk with them.** A 10-minute stroll around the block often resets the urge. Bring water and dress for the weather. - **Use familiar music or food.** Both can shift attention quickly. The same approach helps with mealtime resistance - see our tips on [how to encourage healthy eating in dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-eating-in-those-with-dementia/). Consider a family whose father, a retired electrician, kept trying to leave at 5 p.m. to "finish a job." His daughter started handing him a clipboard with simple paperwork and a cup of coffee at 4:45. Within a week, the exits stopped. ## What should be in your wandering crisis plan? A written plan removes panic from a moment when every minute counts. The Alzheimer's Association reports that if a person with dementia is not found within 24 hours, the risk of serious injury or death rises sharply ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/safety/wandering), 2024). TimeAction0 to 5 minutesSearch the home, yard, garage, and immediate block. Check closets, bathrooms, and behind furniture.Within 15 minutesCall 911. Tell them your loved one has dementia and is a vulnerable adult. Provide recent photo, height, weight, clothing, and medical conditions.Within 30 minutesCall neighbors, nearby shops, and family. Check the contact list of "likely places" - former home, workplace, place of worship, favorite restaurant.OngoingRegister with MedicAlert + Safe Return or a local Project Lifesaver program ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/), 2024). ## When is it time to consider memory care? If your loved one has wandered outside more than once, exited at night, or been returned by a stranger or police, in-home safety has likely reached its limit. Memory care communities use secured perimeters, 24/7 staffing, and circular walking paths so residents can move freely without leaving. Atul Gawande, MD, author of *Being Mortal*, has argued that good late-life care protects autonomy and dignity, not just bodies. A locked front door at home can feel like a cage; a secured neighborhood designed for walking can feel like freedom. For a deeper look at how dementia progresses and when care levels change, read [Understanding Alzheimer's: Signs, Stages, and Care Options](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-alzheimers-signs-progression-and-comfort-through-care/). You may also want our guide to [helping a parent with dementia dress independently](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/tips-to-support-independent-dressing/) as daily routines shift. ## Talk to an Áegis Living memory care expert If wandering is keeping you awake at night, you don't have to figure this out alone. Áegis Living's Life's Neighborhood® memory care communities are purpose-built for residents who walk, search, and explore. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) for a tour. ## Frequently asked questions ### At what stage of dementia does wandering usually start? Wandering most often begins in the middle stages of Alzheimer's, when short-term memory and orientation decline but mobility remains strong ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/stages), 2024). Some people wander earlier, especially during transitions like a move or hospitalization. ### Are GPS trackers worth the cost for a parent with dementia? For most families, yes. A tracker that costs $30 to $40 per month is small compared with the risk of an unfound wandering episode, but it should layer on top of door alarms, ID jewelry, and a written plan. No device replaces supervision. ### Should I lock my parent inside the house? Locking exits with hidden deadbolts is acceptable as a short-term safety measure, but never lock a person with dementia inside alone. Local fire codes and adult-protection laws vary, so confirm with your county's Area Agency on Aging. ### What do I say to the 911 operator? Say clearly: "My parent has dementia and is missing. They are a vulnerable adult at risk." Provide their full name, age, photo, clothing, last known location, and any medical conditions. Ask whether your area has a Silver Alert program. ### Can medication stop dementia wandering? No medication specifically prevents wandering, and sedatives raise the risk of falls ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-changes-behavior-and-communication/coping-alzheimers-behaviors-wandering-and), 2023). Environmental design, routine, and meaningful daytime activity are more effective than pharmacology. ### How does a memory care community prevent wandering? Communities like Áegis Living use secured entries, keypad-controlled exits, enclosed gardens, and trained staff who redirect rather than restrain. Residents can walk as much as they want inside a safe, designed environment. --- ## The Power of a Pet URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-power-of-a-pet/ Focus keyword: pet Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: alzheimers, depression-anxiety, exercise-fitness, social-connection, pets, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: For many seniors, owning a pet not only brings some much welcomed company, but also provides surprising health benefits. Learn more here. Many people say that a house doesn’t feel like a home without a four-legged, furry friend - particularly for seniors who have been lifelong pet owners. The companionship of a pet has been shown to [build self-esteem in older adults](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-stay-confident-as-we-age/), increase cognitive alertness, and lift the spirits of people with Alzheimer’s. Frequently, an animal can reach a person in a way that other people cannot. Because of the many benefits of pets for seniors, Áegis Living has a housedog in many of our communities and offers a pet-friendly policy for residents who own pets. Áegis Living has found that pets encourage more interaction among our residents through joy, laughter, and shared memories of past pets. We feel animals can help to normalize an environment and put others at ease. Read on as we discuss a comprehensive overview of pet ownership for seniors. ## Health Benefits of Pets for Seniors Besides just being cute and cuddly, pets have health benefits for seniors that can improve their sense of wellbeing and help seniors lead a healthier lifestyle. The physical health benefits include: **Lower Blood Pressure.** Studies suggest that the act of petting a dog or cat lowers blood pressure. Sometimes referred to as the “pet effect.” Petting an animal elevates serotonin and dopamine levels that have calming properties that can reduce stress and lower blood pressure. Pets also help relieve loneliness, depression, and other stress-related disorders known to lead to elevated blood pressure. **Increased Exercise and Physical Activity.** Playing fetch, going for a daily walk, and bending over to pick up an animal can keep pet owners active and moving, which helps to reduce their risk for cardiovascular disease. Pets can motivate their owners to get off the couch to interact with them throughout the day, helping with physical health and mobility. **Improved Motor Skills.** Playing with a ball or grooming a dog can help to coordinate eye-hand movement. Lifting or moving a pet or pet food can promote bilateral integration, using two hands together. Many activities with a pet involve concentrated work with the hands that can improve motor skills and strength. Beyond the physical benefits, there are mental benefits too! **Remain Social.** Social interaction is vital to the health of a senior. Pets help older adults connect with other people to stay social and get them out of the house. Many people will stop to pet a dog or ask a neighbor about their cat, who might not otherwise reach out to them. Groomers, pet walkers, pet store employees, and other pet owners can create a network of new friends and social opportunities for seniors. **Unconditional Love.** Many seniors may be widowed or losing close friends in their later years. A pet can be a constant companion. With unconditional love and acceptance, a beloved pet can elevate its owner’s mood and bring happiness. **A Sense of Purpose.** Caring, feeding, and walking a pet can give pet owners both a sense of purpose and a routine to their day. Focusing on the health and care of a pet can be meaningful for many seniors. ### Questions for Seniors to Ask When Considering Owning a Pet Lifestyles change with age. Seniors often downsize or move into long-term care communities. Physically, older adults may experience less stamina, strength, or mobility. Many seniors are on a fixed income and need to adhere to a budget. If your elderly loved one is considering pet ownership, they may need to ask themselves, and discuss with their family members or caregivers, if owning a pet is a good idea in their specific situation. Here are some questions to consider: - **Will owning a pet jeopardize the senior’s health?** Seniors who are unstable on their feet due to less balance and leg strength are at a higher risk of falling. A dog that jumps or yanks the leash on a walk could cause them harm. Dog training can be a worthwhile investment to make sure the dog is well-behaved. And caring for a pet can give seniors a sense of purpose, but it shouldn’t be a burden. - **Can your loved one meet the needs of a pet?** Dogs need to be walked. Would your loved one be up to the task physically? Or would they be able to afford a dog walker to meet their needs? Or would a lower-maintenance cat or fish be a better choice for a less mobile senior? And every pet will need to be fed and taken to the vet. Also, a pet may require medications, a special diet, grooming, and pet supplies. Would they financially be able to support an animal on their income? - **Are pets allowed into their residence?** Some condominiums, apartments, or senior living communities have a no-pet policy, so always check with management before bringing home a new furry friend. - **Are they allergic?** As seniors age, they can develop new allergies. Make sure your loved one is not allergic to dog hair, cat hair, or pet dander. Finding out they have allergies after getting a new pet could be incredibly disappointing. ### How Seniors Can Find the Right Pet **Fits Their Lifestyle.** To find the perfect match, consider the needs, lifestyle, and personality of the senior. Are they looking for a cuddly companion? An older, mellow lapdog or a feline friend would be a good match for someone less mobile. Do they want a pet that is minimal maintenance, like a fish or bird? Or are they looking for a reason to go on a walk daily, looking forward to training, or playing catch with a more energetic pup? Find a pet that matches the senior’s energy level. Regardless of what type of animal is chosen, the senior and new pet should spend some time together interacting to see if they are a personality match. **The Years Matter.** Puppies and fuzzy kitties are fun but a lot of work. Young animals can tend to be underfoot and potential fall risks. Consider an older animal that has been trained and may even know a trick or two! An older pet can still provide all the love and affection with a developed personality, so you know if the pet and new owner are a good match. **Pet Size.** Pets don’t always behave exactly as we want them to! Would your loved one be able to pick up the animal if they were in danger or needed to be moved? And the bigger the pet, the more space that you will need to care for them properly. Pets also come with supplies, cages, feeding areas, beds, and litter boxes for cats, would there be space in the home to fit a pet and their necessities? **Care Needs.** Some pets are more work than others. The difference between a goldfish and Golden Retriever is vast. Consider what a day would look like for the two new friends and if the senior is up for the task. Also, consider barriers, like grooming every few weeks, driving to pick up pet supplies and carrying those supplies into the house, or finding a trustworthy breeder with an available animal. **Adapting.** Research pet products for the animal that your loved one is considering and figure out if there are items that could make their life easier. A robot vacuum could clean up fur and dander without having to push a vacuum. An electric mop could make cleaning accidents easier. A pre-programmed food dispenser can deliver portioned meals at a specified time each day or a water fountain that holds much more than a single dish can be filled less often. Self-cleaning litter boxes are more expensive but would save stooping over and back pain. For seniors with arthritic hands, adaptive leashes have comfortable grips and more padding. Pet wipes, monthly toy subscriptions, grooming tools, pet car seats, and stairs to reach the bed can help ease pet ownership for your loved one. **Finding a Pet.** If your loved one is looking for a specific breed of dog or cat, a breeder would be helpful but typically they sell puppies and kittens. Visiting a shelter can be a wonderful way to meet a new pet in need of a good home. Some shelters specialize in cats, birds, and even rabbits. And don’t overlook online services, such as PetFinder.com - a database filled with thousands of adoptable pets available locally. ### The Downsides of Pet-Ownership for Seniors Pets are great companions and worthwhile for many seniors. But no matter what your loved one owns, from a ferret, lizard, or bird to a cat or dog, pet ownership is not without its challenges. **The Commitment.** Seniors may not want the added responsibility of owning and caring for a pet during their golden years when they have their own health and stress to manage. Some seniors may not want the emotional toll of watching a beloved pet’s health decline, suffer, or pass away. Don’t overlook the amount of time and level of dedication a pet will need. **Thinking Ahead**. A source of concern and anxiety for many seniors is what will happen to their pet if they move into a long-term care community that does not allow animals. Who will care for their pet? To help with their decision to acquire a pet, research care facilities that allow pets in your area or determine who might be able to care for their pet if circumstances change. **The Expense.** Many seniors on a fixed income [may not have room in the budget](https://www.aegisliving.com/where-to-begin/) for unexpected expenses that can happen with a pet. Pet insurance may help defer costly vet visits, but other expenses that aren’t covered by insurance would still need to be met - food, grooming, toys, bedding. Budgeting for a pet is a practical aspect of pet ownership. **Injury or Tripping Hazard.** Issues with stability or vision can make a small pet a trip hazard. And a jumping dog could cause harm or a fall. A cat scratch can cause real damage to the thin skin of a senior and can even lead to infection if not properly washed and dressed. And physically, pet ownership can be difficult - just ask anyone who has tried to catch and medicate a frisky feline or active pup. Arthritic hands make grooming, ear cleaning, or even opening a pet’s medication bottle more difficult. **Cognitive Issues.** Seniors in the early stages of memory loss may forget to eat or drink water themselves. If they fail to feed or provide water to a pet, this can be detrimental. You will want to ensure that your loved one can properly care for an animal and meet their needs. **Unsanitary.** Owners need to be diligent about washing their hands, keeping litter boxes clean, thoroughly cleaning up accidents in the house, and regularly cleaning food bowls, water dishes, and bedding. For a senior struggling to meet their own bathing, laundry, and cleaning needs, a pet can be an added burden, and in some cases, harmful to their health. ### Pet Therapy as an Alternative for Seniors If you added up the pros and cons but decide that pet ownership is not a good fit, pet therapy can be a perfect alternative. Pet therapy includes the benefits of a pet without the worry of caring for an animal. The goal of pet therapy is to improve emotional, social, and cognitive function. Seniors can interact with an animal in a retirement community, long-term care facility, senior center, rehabilitation center, or even in their home. Therapy animals have a way of encouraging interaction with other seniors, their caregivers, and volunteer handlers. Typically, dogs and cats are used in therapy, but some therapies include friendly farm animals and other domesticated animals. Accompanied by a handler, therapy animals are trained for obedience or chosen for their gentleness, so these well-behaved animals will not jump or get underfoot. These animals are comfortable meeting new people and understand how to interact with seniors in wheelchairs and walkers. A senior can find a profound sense of comfort and calm from petting an easygoing dog or listening to the strong purr of a fuzzy cat. Not everyone can own and care for a pet, but there are still meaningful ways for seniors to bond with animals through pet therapy. If you would like to visit one of our communities or meet one of our housedogs, [schedule a tour](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) at an Áegis Living community near you. --- ## 5 Helpful Tips to Downsize for Assisted Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-helpful-tips-to-move-your-loved-one/ Focus keyword: senior living move Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, emotional-wellness, communication, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-caregivers, for-spouses Summary: Do your parents still live in the home where you grew up? Are there notches on the door frame that mark your growth as a child? Is there a spot in the… Do your parents still live in the home where you grew up? Are there notches on the door frame that mark your growth as a child? Is there a spot in the backyard where you buried your first goldfish? Do you know where everyone sits at a holiday dinner? Does the kitchen smell of mom’s cookies? And do the worn tools in the garage fit your father’s hands perfectly? If you feel this many emotions toward your childhood home, how do you think your mom may feel? For a senior, who can no longer live independently, a move can be very challenging. You need to be sensitive. Understand that physical, emotional, and cognitive changes can affect their ability to participate in a move. Here are some tips for making the move a little easier: ## Ease the stress. Your mom may be distressed because she feels a loss of control when moving from her home. Communicate with your her every step of the way. Reinforce the need to downsize for her health and personal well-being. Don’t surprise her with boxes and a moving truck in the driveway. You need to give her choices and ask her to participate in the move. Allow your mom sufficient time to help you sort through the years of memories. ## **Plan ahead**. Make a realistic floor plan of her new home. This will help you determine what furniture is needed and how it will fit in the space. Make sure everyone, who is helping, has a clear vision of what they will need. Your mom will be more comfortable in her [new home](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) if she is surrounded by loved and cherished items, but make sure these are appropriately sized for the space. The rest of her items should be sold, donated, or given to family members. Your mom may be happy or comforted to share furniture or kitchen items with a young couple in their first home or a grandchild heading off to college. ## Surrounded with support. Surround your mom with family and friends to support and help with the sorting, boxing, donating, and moving. More hands will help make light work. Many people are emotionally attached to their items. This is a great opportunity for your mom to share stories about her treasures. You may find out things that you never knew! Learn about her wild travel adventures, marriage advice, family history, cooking secrets, or tearful stories through the objects in her home. ## Clean up. Once your mom has moved into her new home, take the time to clean, repair, and prep the house to be sold, rented, or passed to a relative. Make a budget and ask for help to paint, scrub, fix, or mend the garden. Or to relieve stress, hire help if that fits in the budget. ## Take care of yourself. Don’t underestimate the toll that a move can have on you. You may also be going through some big changes. Perhaps you are taking on the role of caregiver, selling your childhood home, or grieving the loss of a parent. This move can be emotionally and physically draining for you too. Stay positive, eat healthy, and get a good night’s sleep. If you’re still in the planning stages contact an Áegis Living [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you and ask for advice on downsizing. --- ## Hydration Stations - Healthy Relief from Summer Heat Wave URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/hydration-stations-healthy-relief-from-summer-heat-wave/ Focus keyword: hydration Category: healthy-aging Tags: alzheimers, dementia, brain-health, fall-prevention, for-seniors Summary: Prevent senior dehydration. Discover how flavor-infused hydration stations at Áegis Living protect brain health and keep your loved ones safe. As temperatures remain in the 80’s and 90’s across much of the Western United States, concerns for seniors and those more vulnerable to dehydration continue to grow as well. Water is an easy answer but experts at assisted-living industry leader Áegis Living say there are tastier alternatives that are good for brain health. Summertime means more dehydration cases and more trips to hospitals nationwide and seniors are especially vulnerable. As we age, we don’t notice the symptoms such as body temperature changes. In addition, some medications promote dehydration and it’s a fact that seniors don’t experience the same level of thirst that younger people do: the result? Studies show dehydration is one of the top conditions sending people 65 and older to the emergency room. Symptoms range from headaches to nausea to loss of balance and confusion and in severe cases, unconsciousness and heat stroke. ## Áegis Living Offers Nutritious Ways to Maintain Brain Health At 32 communities across the Western United States, Áegis Living provides highly visible and enticing “hydration stations.” A hydration station is a large apothecary beverage dispenser where ice cold water is infused with fresh natural ingredients like cucumbers, mint, strawberries, blueberries, lemons and other fresh, nutritious locally-grown ingredients. The result is an answer to dehydration that tastes great. Áegis Living Executive VP of Operations, John Carpentier says, “Staying hydrated is vital for brain health. That’s why we offer hydration stations in all of our communities. It’s something that can’t be overlooked as the temperatures rise.” Doctors say dehydration is a frequent trigger for urinary tract infections (UTI’s) among seniors. Unfortunately, UTI’s can exacerbate memory loss or dementias such as Alzheimer’s disease. Many residents at Áegis Living communities live with Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia. Áegis Living Chefs help keep residents hydrated through the hot summer months by offering a variety of infused waters. By changing the flavors daily residents stay interested in staying hydrated. Infused water is shared at functions and as well as displays in convenient locations in each community. Local berries are incorporated, fruit and herbs whenever possible. It’s fun to be creative and try different flavor combinations. *Here are some simple combinations to enhance your everyday drinking water.* #### One gallon ice water + #### Cucumber & Mint Sliced cucumber (1 large English cucumber) and mint (8-10 sprigs) #### Strawberry & Basil Strawberries (1-2 baskets - 12-16 in a basket) and fresh basil (8-12 leafs of basil) #### Blueberry & Red Grape blueberries (1-2 baskets, 30-40) and red grapes (1-2 baskets) cut grapes in half for flavor #### Lemon & Raspberry lemon (2 lemons, go light on lemon or it becomes too bitter), 2 baskets raspberries (24 in basket) #### Orange & grapefruit 2 of each (remove the peels for best results) Keeping residents quenched is just one of the many ways that [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) strives to boost cognitive wellness and other health benefits. --- ## Fight Three Common Assisted Living Fears URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/fight-3-common-assisted-living-fears/ Focus keyword: assisted living fears Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, social-connection, hobbies-activities, legal-planning, choosing-a-community, for-seniors, for-adult-children Summary: When it’s time to consider assisted living for your senior loved one, you’re likely to encounter worries and fears from both sides. You can help yourself by… When it’s time to consider [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) for your senior loved one, you’re likely to encounter worries and fears from both sides. You can help yourself by doing your research into assisted living and choosing the best possible community - and you can help your loved one by ensuring you take the time to address his or her fears one by one and comprehensively. Any change is scary on some level. Moving into a community and leaving home is a time of great upheaval for [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/), even when they know it is the best option. Here, we’ll look at three of the most common fears about assisted living and how to handle them: ### 1. Loss of independence Your loved one may feel that getting assistance with activities of daily living will in some way diminish his or her independence. After all, they won’t be making breakfast and sitting down with the paper every morning, and changes to routine are difficult. However, try to look at this help differently. Without having to worry about cleaning, cooking or taking care of a yard, Mom and Dad can spend more time doing what they love, whether that’s socializing with other residents in the community or relaxing with a favorite hobby. Routines will change, but it’s likely that they need to if a move to an assisted living community is necessary. No matter how much Mom loves to cook, if she can’t always do it for herself anymore, losing that task is a positive. Transform your loved ones’ fears about moving into a new phase of life. ### 2. Being neglected Many seniors fear that moving into an assisted living community means their loved ones will forget about them or believe they are no longer their responsibility. There is a damaging stereotype of adult children simply dropping their parents off at a community and leaving, rarely to return. The best way you can allay this fear is by doing what you say you will do - visiting frequently. This will be even easier if you pick a community close to your home, work or another location where you frequently find yourself. If it’s only a couple of blocks out of the way of your usual commute, your parents’ new home is likely to be a frequent destination for you. Set a visiting schedule and stick to it. ### 3. Quality of care If your parents need some level of medical care, whether it’s frequent appointments or help with their medications, it’s easy to fret about whether the care they receive will be good enough. This is true with any assisted living move - it’s hard to instill trust in strangers, after all. Combat this by visiting a number of assisted living communities with your parents and getting to know the people who work there. Also, ask about how staff members are trained, the kinds of certifications they have and how long the average tenure tends to be. The more training and longer tenure, the better - staff that is knowledgeable and invested in working with seniors is one that will take good care of your parents. Share this knowledge with your loved ones if they express fear that they will not be taken care of well. With a little thought and planning, you can address fears about assisted living and make the transition as smooth as possible for your loved ones. If you need more help getting your parents used to the idea of moving to an assisted living community, speak to the staff at the community you prefer for more ideas and to arrange a visit. Seeing what a [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) is really like can change your parents’ minds more quickly than conversations might. --- ## 20 questions for an assisted living community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/20-questions-for-the-director-of-an-assisted-living-community/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: alzheimers, parkinsons, assisted-living, hospice-end-of-life, brain-health, safety-at-home, choosing-a-community Summary: Looking for assisted living options for an aging parent? Learn how to define their care needs and start a checklist to find the right community. There are many assisted living choices when looking for eldercare options for your aging parent who can no longer live independently. It is important to define what you are looking for in an assisted living community and how to meet your family member’s care needs. Start by creating a list of questions for your initial conversation and tour of a community. These questions will not only help you understand what each community has to offer, but can also assist you in making a priority list of what is most important to your family. ## Here are a few sample questions to ask at assisted living communities: - How many staff members care for each resident? - What type of training does your care staff complete? - Are staff trained to care for residents with [memory loss or Alzheimer’s](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/)? - Are staff onsite 24/7? - Can staff administer medications? - Do you have nurses on staff? - Do you have an in-house physician? - What type of security and safety measures do you have in place? - Do you have experience with Alzheimer’s? Parkinson’s? Diabetes? (or the specific diagnosis of your loved one) - Do you complete an assessment prior to moving in? - What types of apartments are available? - What is the monthly cost per apartment? What are the differences in price? - What is your waitlist policy? - Can I meet another family with a loved one at the community? - Do you have transportation for doctor’s appointments? - Do you have an activities calendar? - What additional services are available if the care or personal needs change while living here? - What is your billing policy? - Are there additional fees for services or activities? - Do you offer hospice and end of life care? If you are feeling nervous about your tour, print this list and have it available when you visit an [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington). This way, you won’t forget to ask the important assisted living questions that are unique to your situation. If you do forget to ask a question or you need clarification, call or email the director. This will also help you understand their responsiveness to your concerns. This is an important decision, so ask questions of assisted living staff until you feel satisfied that you understand all the options, policies, and benefits of the assisted living communities that meet your criteria. Knowing the answers will make you feel confident in your final selection. --- ## Top tips for touring an assisted living community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-tips-for-touring-an-assisted-living-community/ Focus keyword: touring assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, exercise-fitness, choosing-a-community, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: "When looking for an assisted living community it helps to know what to look for for a better decision-making process may." When walking into an assisted living community for the first time, you may be overwhelmed. It can be a mix of emotions and concerns. By staying focused and knowing what to look for, your decision-making process may be easier and more helpful to find the perfect fit for your loved one. ## Cleanliness From the minute that you drive into the community from the parking lot to the reception desk, how tidy is the community? Are the common areas, dining room, and hallways free of clutter and neat? How does the community smell? Are the outdoor areas well-maintained? Are the private rooms and bathrooms clean? How often does housekeeping clean the private apartments? How is laundry handled? By paying attention to these details, you can see the pride that the community takes in their home and ultimately in the comfort of their residents. ## Residents’ Hygiene and Grooming How are the residents groomed? Are they dressed and wearing shoes when in the common areas? Is their hair combed? Are they dressed appropriately for the time of day and for the season? Do keep in mind that seniors typically feel colder and often times will wear a sweater or jacket, even if that may be too warm for you. ## Life Enrichment Does the community schedule a daily list of activities that are engaging? Are programs scheduled in the evening and on weekends? Can you see an activity during your tour? Does the community offer outing outside of the community like shopping, long drives, or to events? Do the activities accommodate the physical or cognitive limitations of your loved one? Are the residents engaged with the staff? With each other? Socialization is very important to the wellbeing of seniors. ## Security and Safety Are there handrails in the hallways? Sprinkler system throughout the community? Does the community have a receptionist greeting visitors at the door? Do visitors sign in and out? Are grab bars in the bathrooms and seats in the showers? Is there an emergency call system? Are the [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) apartments and outdoor areas secured from wandering? ## Share a Meal Schedule your tour during a meal. Is the food appetizing to taste and visually appealing? Is there enough variety in the choices? Do they accommodate special dietary needs? Can you meet the chef? Three meals, drinks, and snacks throughout the day are vital to your loved one’s continued strength and balanced nutrition. ## Talk to Staff, Residents, and Families What is the ratio of staff to residents? Observe the interaction between residents and staff. Do you find it warm and caring? Are they helpful and attentive? Introduce yourself to residents and other family members. Ask how long has their loved one lived there? Is there anything that they would change or improve? Family members of current residents can offer honest insight. ## Costs Are there monthly fees? Are there additional charges that you may expect? What happens when your loved one needs more care? Under what conditions would your loved one have to move? Get a detailed breakdown of what is included and what are extra fees. Will your loved one have an assessment before moving in? This is your opportunity to make sure you understand the costs and ask enough questions to clarify their billing process and policies. After your initial visit, stop by unannounced. This is a great opportunity to again view the cleanliness of the community, the activity level of the residents, and perhaps meet more family members. If this is the [new home](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) for your loved one, you want to be confident that your initial tour is an accurate reflection of the community on a daily basis. --- ## People to know at an assisted living community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/people-to-know-at-an-assisted-living-community/ Focus keyword: assisted living community Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, social-connection, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: As you help your parents transition to living in a senior community, knowing the right people will pave the way for all of you. Your loved ones will be well… As you help your parents transition to living in a senior community, knowing the right people will pave the way for all of you. Your loved ones will be well taken care of no matter who you know, but having the right people to go to in case of any questions or concerns can make all the difference in the world. This can also ease your mind and your parents’. Here are a few people you should make sure to get to know at your parents’ new home: ### Consistently assigned caretakers or their manager If your parents require some level of medical care or other assistance, get to know the person or people who provide it most often. They can let you know if something seems concerning about your parents’ state of mind or health, of course, but there are also little ways to collaborate to make your parents more comfortable and happy at their [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community. Maybe Mom is starting to get cold more often and she’d love a few lap blankets, or perhaps you can help clarify with the care worker that Dad didn’t speak English as a first language and has some odd turns of phrase or trouble finding words that aren’t cause for alarm. Care workers are the people who are likely to spend the most time with your parents, so they can really help you understand how well the adjustment is going. They can also let you know about anything you can do to ease that adjustment. If your parents don’t have consistent caregivers, get to know the manager of the caregivers they do have for the same reasons. ### Activities or lifestyle-enrichment coordinator Get to know the person who is in charge of planning activities and excursions at your parents’ [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community. If Dad talks about wanting to go on a fishing trip, you’ll know who to talk to about it. This can also be helpful for your parents’ cultural and religious needs, as the coordinator of lifestyle-enrichment events probably has community connections to religious leaders or can help plan a specific cultural event. These aspects of life don’t get less important after a move to an [assisted living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), and you may be able to articulate your parents’ needs better than they can. Furthermore, knowing the person who plans activities can help you make sure your parents pay attention to the ones that are relevant and interesting to them. This can help them avoid boredom and isolation - and even a trip to a fancy grocery store can really brighten a day that seems dreary and upsetting at the beginning of the adjustment period. ### Roommates and neighbors If your parent or parents have roommates, you’ll naturally get to know them over time. Even if they don’t, though, it’s important to get to know their neighbors. Anything you can do to help foster a sense of community will be appreciated by both your parents and their neighbors. Treat them just as you treat your own neighbors - friendly gestures, an occasional invitation to visit and a cheerful word when you see them should be more than enough. When you can’t be around, you want to make sure someone is there emotionally for your parents, even if that only means sharing a favorite game or TV show, and their neighbors are a good choice for this. It’s also just a good idea to know who your parents live near, as their new community will be an important part of their lives. --- ## The Story of Dwayne J. Clark, Áegis Living founder URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-story-of-dwayne-clark-aegis-living-founder/ Focus keyword: founder Category: family-communication Tags: assisted-living, memory-care, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: In 1997, Dwayne J. Clark, founder and CEO, set out to challenge the subpar standards of senior care. Now, Áegis Living is a leader in assisted living. Áegis Living is a leader in the world of [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/), thanks to decades of dedication providing seniors with comfort, security and [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). While it stands at the forefront of senior care today, Áegis Living has humble beginnings that date to 1997, when Dwayne J. Clark, founder and chief executive officer, set out to challenge the subpar standards of senior care. ## Growing up Dwayne was the youngest of four children. His mother, Colleen, was a British citizen who, while living in India, married a World War II soldier. After the war, they moved to Kennewick, Washington. Dwayne’s father was largely absent when his mother filed for divorce and relocated to Lewiston when Dwayne was in the second grade. For much of his childhood he was raised by a single mother struggling to provide for her kids on low wages. This could have ended up being a story of misfortune and despair, but he was lucky to have as a mother an inspirational woman who taught him that he could do anything he set his mind to. Though the family was by no means wealthy, she encouraged him to pursue his dreams. As Dwayne explained to Seattle Business magazine, she had an uplifting way of putting life into perspective and [instilling confidence](http://www.seattlebusinessmag.com/article/executive-qa-dwayne-clark-aegis-living). “We were dirt poor - she worked as a short-order cook - but she would say things like, ‘We’re just like the Kennedys. We’re Catholic and they’re Catholic. We’re Irish and they’re Irish.’ It took the mystique out of it,” Clark said. ## Finding inspiration Well before founding Áegis Living, Dwayne dreamed of making big changes in senior care. As a boy, he would visit his grandmother at her nursing home, a bleak place that treated seniors as second-class citizens. These elderly men and women would stare out the window, somber and silent as though they were waiting for an end. In his book, “My Mother, My Son,” Clark reveals some of the appalling conditions of this nursing home. “Many residents were physically bound to their beds,” Clark wrote. “Some cried softly while others wailed at the top of their lungs, backs arching off their mattresses. The most horrific were those that lay silent, staring out the door. I’d catch their stares and see confusion or panic in their eyes, and I’d quickly look away … I have no doubt that my exposure to these residents had a profound effect on me.” When he grew into a young man, Dwayne began working at an assisted living community. He found the same old situation: The residents were dismal and dreary and he quickly realized that at that time, senior care was more about real estate and profits than helping older adults live their lives to the fullest. He dreamed of shining some light and happiness into their lives. The company discouraged his ambition, but Dwayne continued to aspire for more for these residents. Through the years, he would write down his innovative plans for providing comfort, hope and satisfaction to the lives of seniors - ideas that would eventually become part of the care plan at Áegis Living communities. ## Creating an assisted living legacy Dwayne’s past experiences with the old-fashioned assisted living community inspired his unwavering dedication to redefine the industry. As an adult, he served as executive vice president for Sunrise Senior Living. However, his real goal was to start an organization of his own with a new company culture focused on satisfaction - a place where his own mother would enjoy living. Dwayne did his studying before taking on the endeavor. He analyzed the business models of companies known for innovation, from Starbucks to Nordstrom, and applied his own passion and experience in assisted living to start Áegis Living. Together with his partner Bill Gallaher, he raised $22.5 million from friends and family members and opened an office in Redmond, Washington, in 1997. It was a tiny spot located above an ice cream parlor, and the company had only seven employees, but by the next year, the first Áegis Living community opened in Pleasant Hill, California, and the staff grew to 145. Each year, Dwayne continued to open more communities throughout California, Washington and Nevada. By 2011, the company employed more than 1700 people and was earning hundreds of millions in revenue. But money was never the focus, and Dwayne sacrificed profit for the better of Áegis residents when he ended a contract with outside management to focus on owner-operated communities. Today, there are over 30 [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) communities, each employing compassionate, caring people who strive to improve the quality of life for residents. And as Dwayne J. Clark always dreamed, these communities provide not only a safe, comfortable place to live but also a beacon of hope to thousands of seniors. --- ## What does your loved one need in an assisted living community? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-does-your-loved-one-need-in-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: dementia, assisted-living, social-connection, choosing-a-community, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: "As you think of moving your parents or other loved ones into an assisted living community, it's important to assess what they need in such an environment." As you think of moving your parents or other loved ones into an assisted living community, it’s important to assess what they need in such an environment. Some needs are universal, like competent staff, a clean apartment and proven high-quality care. Others, however, are down to preference. Consider what you and your parents would prefer in an assisted living community by looking at these factors: ## Location It’s likely you’ll want an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community that fits into your life so you can see your parents regularly. That is probably going to mean choosing one you can stop by on the way home from work without going far out of your way, or perhaps one that’s on the way to the kids’ school or other commitments. This gets a little more complicated when you are one of two or more siblings who are spread across the city, state or country. In this case, you may wish to assess with your siblings just how much time and energy each of you is realistically able to devote to your parents. Of course, you should also consult your parents - maybe preferences in weather or even regional characteristics will mean they’d rather live nearest their child inhabiting the warmest climate. ## Care needs across the lifespan While it’s not possible to anticipate just what kind of care your senior loved ones will require as they age, it’s a good idea to plan for the most extreme circumstances. Will the assisted living community you are looking at care for your mother if she develops [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/)? Will it be able to provide compassionate services to your father if he lives there through the end of his life? These are important questions, whether or not you think your parents are considering them. It can be disruptive to have to move from one assisted living community to another to obtain the proper level of care, just as it can be disruptive for your parents to have to live in different locations. ## Cultural sensitivity If your parents are deeply involved in their culture - perhaps they are lifelong practitioners of a certain religion, for example, or they began their lives in another country - they will want to keep that connection in assisted living. Ensuring the communities you are looking at can foster socialization between people of the same background, as well as those of different backgrounds, is important. It’s also vital to make sure the staff is culturally sensitive - someone telling your mother her religious dietary requirements can’t be met or having no one around who speaks your father’s native language can be upsetting. Most assisted living communities will be happy to tell you what their individual culture is like, and whether they cater to members of a particular religious or ethnic group in their programming. While this may not be the first consideration you have, it is an important one, especially as assisted living communities are meant to help your parents retain their sense of identity and belonging. ## What do your parents want? All other things being equal, a decision about an assisted living community comes down to preference. If your parents have fallen in love with a community that isn’t quite what you imagined but meets all the requirements you have, this is likely the one where they will be happiest. It’s also worth taking your parents’ preferences into account before you even begin the search so you can work with them to find a place they will be happy to [call home](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)for years to come. --- ## Planning your own long-term care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/planning-your-own-long-term-care/ Focus keyword: long term care Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: dementia, assisted-living, social-connection, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-seniors, for-spouses Summary: While it is difficult to know what type of care and support you'll need in the future, it's important to create a plan for your long term care. Read more here. As you locate the [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community that will best suit your parents, you may be thinking about your own senior years and how you will handle your own personal needs then. While it is difficult to say precisely what you will need in terms of care and support, you could benefit from determining now what your wishes for long-term care may be in the future. Here are a few tips to consider when you are thinking about your choices: *“Consider your long-term care options before you need to.”* ## Do you know your options? While you are researching long-term care for your parents, you’ve probably gotten a sense of what options exist for you too. Consider them with your family to see what might work best for you. Do you intend to stay in your own home for as long as possible, or does the vibrant community life a senior living community offers appeal to you more? Are you willing to make a move a little out of the way, or do you intend to stay close to family and friends? What if you or your spouse need dementia care planning in the future? These are questions it never hurts to consider, and decisions best made when you are fully aware of all of your options, from aging in place to the full continuum of assisted living. ## What about finances? You have likely realized in planning for your parents’ long-term care that finances play a starring role in many of the choices you are able to make. For this reason, it’s important to begin to think now about how you’ll afford the care you need in the future. You may look into long-term care insurance or other ways to set money aside for your eventual health and wellness needs, or consider what selling your home or other such steps could do for you in your senior years if you choose to move into an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community. Planning your financial strategy well before you need it will take a weight off of your and your children’s minds in the years ahead. ## Make your wishes known Unfortunately, long-term care is a need that is not limited to [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/). You may require assistance with daily living earlier than you imagine, whether it be due to a medical event or an ongoing condition. For this reason, you must make sure your desires and preferences regarding long-term care are clear and in writing. This can help your partner, children or other family members make decisions for you when you may not be able to. Sitting down with an attorney to talk about who you would like to control your finances, medical decisions and so on in the event that you cannot is always a good idea, no matter how far away these possibilities seem at this point in your life. ## Begin to scout assisted living communities As you tour [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) communities to get an idea of what would work best for your parents, keep your own needs in the back of your mind. There are many options for assisted living, and knowing them can help you determine where you might want to set your sights in the future. At the very least, you can narrow down your wants and needs and get an idea of the kind of community that matches them. The more you prepare for long-term care before you need it, the easier it will be to make the transition from your own home to a new community, if and when you need to do so. Use the time you spend helping your parents make this change to consider what this will look like for you, too. --- ## Games for grandparents to play with grandkids URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/games-your-children-can-play-with-their-grandparents/ Focus keyword: family quality time Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: dementia, alzheimers, hobbies-activities, when-its-time Summary: At Áegis Living, we want our residents to lead happy, fun, and fulfilling lives. Learn various games for grandparents to play with their grandchildren. Helping your children understand why their grandparent is struggling with Alzheimer’s can be tough. There are times when they might feel confused or even frightened by this new phase in the family, but finding ways to make sure that your kids and your loved one spend quality time together is important, and games could be an excellent way to accomplish this and help everyone feel more connected. You should not shield your children from their grandparent’s diagnosis; rather, help them to embrace the relationship - kids love to spend time with their grandparents, and one of the best ways that they both can grow closer to one another is to play games. There are several indoor and outdoor activities grandparents and grandchildren can enjoy together, even if your loved one is living with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). Here are some games for grandparents to play with their grandchildren: ## Hangman Word-recognition games are excellent because they can help jog your parent’s memory and improve his or her cognitive skills. At the same time, it can also help your child boost their vocabulary and spelling. Talk about a win-win for the whole family. It also requires just a pen and paper, and can be played almost anywhere. Because one of the first signs of dementia-related illness is the inability to recognize certain words or phrases, having your parent spell them out could help them deal with this symptom more effectively. ## Play a sport This could be an excellent way for both your parent and child to relax and spend some time outside. We all know that children need to get outdoors and play for their health, and some sunshine and fresh air is also excellent for your parent. For example, your dad could join the younger kids for a fun afternoon of bocce ball, bowling or mini-golf. If he’s spending time with older kids, they may all enjoy a round of golf on the “big boy” course or the children can swing a racket with their grandpa at the local tennis court. There great benefits to staying active and enjoying sports they once loved, so this is an excellent idea for mental and physical health. ## Scavenger hunt Observational skills are a crucial aspect of child development and can also help your dad if he struggles with dementia, and these skill sets are one of the building blocks of this fun, treasure hunt-themed activity. This doesn’t have to be too complicated, either. You can simply make a list of items that are found in the backyard, such as a feather, a certain type of leaf or garden tool. If you want, you can even include rhymes so that both your dad and child can add some poetry into the mix. Not only does this help them understand their environment more perceptively, but it can also allow them to bond together as a team. ## Card games Some of the most memorable pastimes that kids have with their grandparents is playing card games, and the best thing about them is that they often require simple math principals like addition, subtraction, multiplication and division. This is obviously an excellent activity for your child as she learns these techniques in school. Skills such as these are also very beneficial for your mom because math skills are important in keeping up and tracking budget - which is one of the things that many [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) are faced with with when they are diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. ## Video games Since kids are tech-savvy these days, video games are an excellent way for your little ones to teach their grandparents. While there are some that might not be suitable for your dad, there are others that encourage physical activity - such as Wii Fit - and several games that specifically focus on interaction and memory skills. ## Play dress-up Let your little ones go through some of their grandparents old clothes and play dress-up. You mom may forget things in the short-term, but might remember events that happened decades ago. As your children play dress-up, your parent can tell them stories about when they grew up and the adventures they had. This will fascinate your kids and your mom will enjoy sharing. --- ## Planning for dementia care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/planning-for-dementia-care/ Focus keyword: dementia care Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, for-adult-children Summary: Áegis Living discusses the importance of planning for long-term dementia care as soon as a loved one is diagnosed. Learn more here. When your loved one receives a diagnosis of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) of any kind, life changes. While the disease itself will not progress to its latest stages immediately, your mind is probably racing. How will you care for your mother or father? What will he or she need as the condition advances? These questions are normal, and their answers will vary depending on your parent’s circumstances. There are a few ways to begin to address long-term dementia care planning as soon as your parent is diagnosed, each of which we’ll review below. *“When your parent is diagnosed with dementia, life changes.”* ## Early Stages If your mother or father is in the early [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/), get started on dementia care planning and involve them in the decision-making process as much as you can. This will ensure care later in life conforms to their wishes. It can also give you considerable peace of mind to know your parent understands the eventual need for [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) in an assisted living community - many adult children of people living with dementia are afraid they are abandoning their parents, but having a conversation about residential care in advance can help alleviate these feelings. While your parent is able to do so, it is also ideal to set up powers of attorney for financial and health care matters. It will be vital to be able to work with the person managing your parent’s finances in order to pay for assisted living, and it will also be necessary to make decisions about your parent’s care when they can no longer do so. If your parent is able to choose who makes these decisions, everything will proceed more smoothly. It is also an ideal time to set up a release of medical information so you can be as involved as possible in your parent’s care. ## Later Stages It may be the case that you are in the process of dementia care planning for a parent who can no longer provide input on his or her wishes. This is very difficult, both practically and emotionally, and it’s important for you to have support throughout this process. As you begin to investigate care options like [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) communities, focus on finding a home with staff members who are both compassionate and informative - these are the people you would like to have watching over your parent, as well as helping you make hard choices. Speaking to your parent’s doctor can also be helpful at this stage of the planning process. Understanding how their dementia is likely to progress is important, as is having an idea of exactly what their care needs will look like as the disease progresses. While many people attempt to care for parents with dementia in the home for as long as possible, it is a huge commitment - and your parent will eventually need round-the-clock care. This means the time to begin investigating memory care communities is now, as it is also the time to make financial and legal preparations. ## Resources for care planning As you plan dementia care for your parent, know there is help available to you. You will want to consult with a lawyer as you establish [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), conservatorship or any other necessary arrangements. Working with someone well-versed in elder law can take a huge weight off your shoulders. You may also wish to talk to a financial planner with experience in making arrangements for long-term care. Finally, other children of people living with dementia who have gone through similar experiences can be great resources, as can professionals at the [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) communities you are considering. With the help of professionals and the support of your family and friends, planning for your parent’s long-term dementia care is possible. --- ## Keeping our seniors safe: Innovative safety measures at Áegis URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/innovative-safety-measures-at-aegis/ Focus keyword: seniors healthy Category: safety-emergency Tags: alzheimers, assisted-living, memory-care, safety-at-home, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: "Áegis Living assisted living and memory care community discusses the variety of security measures used to ensure seniors stay happy and healthy." When someone moves their parent into an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community, they may have many concerns. Are there clinicians on-hand to oversee medication administration? Will my parent be happy living here? And perhaps the most important question: Will my parent be safe? Addressing and dealing with such worries is important not only for the sake of peace of mind, but also for the wellness of [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/), especially those who have Alzheimer’s disease - keeping a senior at home when they require a specialized environment and advanced care can be detrimental to his or her health and quality of life. But not all assisted living communities are the same. At Áegis Living, the staff and residents come together to create a true community focused on maintaining happy, healthy lifestyles as well as enhancing cognitive function. Safety is a main concern at Áegis, and each community incorporates unique and innovative features to create a safe and protective environment for seniors. Review these safety features found among the 30 Áegis Living communities: ### Philips Occuswitch lights Falls are one of the biggest concerns among the aging population. According to the Centers for Disease Control, 1 in 3 adults over the age of 65 [experience a fall every year](http://www.cdc.gov/homeandrecreationalsafety/falls/adultfalls.html). That’s why the Life’s Neighborhood program, which is the core of Áegis Living [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/)communities, takes special measures to avoid spills among its residents. One such preventative effort is the installation of the Philips Occuswitch lighting system. It’s a movement detector with a built-in light switch that automatically turns on the bathroom light when a senior gets out of bed at night to use the restroom. ### Alert motion sensors In addition to the sensors that activate the Occuswitch lights, motion sensors are utilized to provide specialized care to seniors who require a little extra attention. These sensors point toward the resident’s bed and track movement, alerting staff when a resident gets up from bed. The caregiver can then come to the resident’s side to provide help with whatever he or she may need, whether it’s a glass of water or medical attention. ### Philips Lifeline tools Philips Lifeline pendants are medical alert systems that come in the form of a handy pendant with an emergency call button that alerts staff when a senior is in need of help and allows the resident to communicate with staff. This is the most advanced technology in the market. The pendant is equipped with another innovative feature: The AutoAlert system detects when a resident has taken a spill - incidents that can cause seniors to become immobilized, disoriented or knocked unconscious, thereby unable to call for help on their own. This fall-detection technology is a potential life saver for those who are unable to push the call button on their own, and it even has a locator that tells Áegis staff precisely where the senior is in the building. ### Medication electronic tracking system Proper medication administration is one of the biggest concerns among people who move their parents into assisted living communities. It’s no surprise, considering that a neglected drug regimen can be detrimental to a senior’s health. The staff at Áegis Living knows this and implements an electronic tracking system that manages medication. The system is programmed by the resident’s health care provider, scheduling delivery and tracking dosages to make sure the medication regimen is followed to the tee. It ensures better medication compliance, which means greater health outcomes, and decreases manual errors. The benefits of electronic medication systems have been proven to lead to better health outcomes. One study [published in the journal Clinical and Translational Science](http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1752-8062.2010.00240.x/abstract;jsessionid=4716B936C599D20E6C6ADD016EED9F1F.f01t01) looked into the effectiveness of such systems, surveying 105 clinicians who began using these systems to determine how it affected clinical processes. The surveys revealed that 71 percent of doctors believed that electronic medication management systems led to an improvement in patient safety. Additionally, 65 percent thought the new system of medication management was more efficient than more traditional, manual methods. ### CPR training Many states social and health services departments do not require assisted living staff to be trained in cardiopulmonary resuscitation. In fact, communities often have a “no CPR” policy, which mandates that staff are not allowed to attempt to resuscitate residents but rather call for emergency services and stay by the senior’s side. But at Áegis Living, the staff is trained in CPR to best support the needs of residents in the case of unconsciousness caused by choking or another medical emergency. ### Safety committee Safety measures are a top priority at Áegis Living, and the staff are always thinking up new ways to keep the residents happy, healthy and secure. That’s why Áegis has an active safety committee that meets every month to review the communities’ safety measures. These gatherings provide open, creative environments for staff to pitch ideas, brainstorm together and work to improve the measures taken to create a safe and secure sanctuary for people with Alzheimer’s. ### Daily meetings In addition to the monthly safety committee meetings, daily meetings take place at each Áegis Living community in the form of stand-up sessions and a roster review of each senior. Staff engage in informative discussions about all of the residents, determining anyone who may be in need of specialized attention, as well as talking over the goings-on taking place around the community - disputes between seniors, upcoming events and other important topics. The aim is to ensure that staff are doing everything in their power to support the mental, emotional and physical well-being of the residents. --- ## Help your parents enjoy life enrichment at Áegis URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/help-your-parents-enjoy-life-enrichment-at-aegis/ Focus keyword: enrichment activities Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, assisted-living, exercise-fitness, nutrition, legal-planning, moving-in, for-seniors Summary: "Áegis senior living communities offer enrichment activities to help residents experience mental stimulation and joy necessary for a positive assisted living" [Áegis senior communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/#washington) offer a wealth of enrichment activities to help residents experience the mental stimulation and joy necessary for a positive [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/)experience. More than a calendar of events, Áegis’ activity selection caters to each resident’s mental, physical, emotional and spiritual requirements. If you are looking for a home for your mother or father where he or she will feel welcomed and appreciated, as well as enriched and busy, search no further than your local Áegis community. Have a look at just some of what Áegis residents experience: ## Daily physical activity and personal nutrition To age well, it’s necessary to take care of physical needs. Keeping up with strength, coordination and other important traits can make aging [less of a physical struggle](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/exercise-and-physical-activity) than it might otherwise be, according to NIH Senior Health. For this reason, Áegis offers activities for residents at all skill levels and in all physical conditions. Your parents may enjoy yoga, Pilates or tai chi, for example, but could also choose to go bowling or engage in gentle stretches or exercises performed from the comfort of a chair. *“Áegis activities cater to each resident’s personal requirements.”* Physical activity has a strong positive impact on a person’s mood, NIH Senior Health notes. Some of the classes Áegis offers, such as yoga and tai chi, concentrate specifically on the mind-body connection and calming the everyday stream of thoughts. This can be a great help for residents who find they are worried, anxious or simply stressed. Nutrition is the other side of physical well-being, and Áegis communities pay close attention to this as well. The chef at each community creates customized, nutritious meals for the residents to help meet their dietary needs and preferences. Our kitchens even use local ingredients. The kind of meals your parents will enjoy at Áegis are restaurant-quality - but much healthier than you might imagine. ## Classes to renew and create hobbies In [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/), your parents will be able to continue hobbies they’ve had their whole lives to the best of their abilities. Áegis facilitates this, and also ensures your loved one will have the opportunity to find new talents! Classes are offered in areas such as painting, baking and flower arranging. If your dad never really had the time to sit and draw when he was working, he might be surprised at how much he enjoys it. Keeping an interest in hobbies, talents and classes is very beneficial for [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/). It contributes to a joyful attitude about life and helps them engage socially as well. Art activities can even help [keep the mind sharp](http://www.newswise.com/articles/view/632101/?sc=dwhr), according to a study published in the journal Neurology and described in a release. ## Family togetherness Many [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) worry that they will lose touch with their families when they move into an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community. At Áegis, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Instead, families are welcomed and encouraged to visit at any time. You can join your parents for dinner in a well-appointed dining room or bring the grandkids by for an ice cream social whenever you have the time. And if members of your family live far away, Áegis staff will help your parents Skype with them to keep in touch. Maintaining family connections is so important for a sense of well-being for all of us, not just seniors, and Áegis works hard to keep those ties strong. At any age and with any physical limitations, it’s important and possible for your parents to remain active members of a community. At Áegis, we can help make that a reality. --- ## The powerful impact of music on memory care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-powerful-impact-of-music-on-memory-care/ Focus keyword: music Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, memory-care, communication, hobbies-activities, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Music has unexpected health benefits, including help people living with dementia access memories that they cannot grasp otherwise. Learn more here. As you search for the best community for your loved one who requires senior living or Alzheimer’s care, be sure to seek out memory care. Memory care involves many techniques that can keep your loved one happier and healthier. Even when our cognitive faculties begin to go, we retain the ability to feel joy - and we often can get that experience from music. Music can help people living with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) access memories, emotions and connections that are difficult for them to grasp otherwise. *“Music can help people living with dementia access memories.”* Any senior living community with memory care that you are looking at should be able to tell you just how it uses music in the lives of its residents, and how music and memory are connected. There are many ways to do so, from the formal to the very casual. Don’t be afraid to ask how music is integrated into activities that help people who need memory care access their memories, emotions and connections. It’s a common experience to hear a song from a certain time in your life and remember how you thought and felt back then. In memory care, music can serve this function for seniors. It can also help soothe them, direct their energy productively and even get them to communicate in a way that transcends words. Music in memory care can lead to moments of deep caring and bonding between residents and caregivers. ### Music in everyday life in memory care There are many ways to integrate music into the lives of residents of senior living communities. There is a lot to be said for creating a comforting environment by playing songs from years past that resonate with the older generations, for example. This is not necessarily a type of therapy, but rather an effort staff can make to help residents feel comfortable. Listening to music with your loved one is a valuable bonding experience. Other times, music takes a background role include when a resident is agitated, when it may be very helpful to play soothing classical music to help him or her relax. This is a strategy that can combat acting out at night, which is also referred to as “sundowning.” Caregivers have also found that upbeat music can help people with dementia focus on completing a task that may be uncomfortable, like bathing, more quickly and happily. ## Special uses of music There are other more specific uses of music in memory care as well. Some communities will create specific playlists for their residents, full of songs that are meaningful to them, to facilitate sharing memories and feelings. Sometimes, people who rarely communicate verbally will be moved to sing along with a favorite song from their childhood - often a folk or religious tune. This is a precious opportunity for caregivers and loved ones to connect with people living with dementia, especially as the condition progresses and connection feels further and further away. Music with a beat can also prompt movement, whether that is tapping one’s fingers or feet or full-on dancing. Collaborating with your loved one in this movement is another way to feel close and can be a healing exercise for both of you. Ensure your loved one in need of memory care has the opportunity to feel the very real benefits of music - from unlocking memories to encouraging a dance - by selecting a senior living community with a robust selection of [activities](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/activities/). --- ## Fun for grandparents and grandkids at senior living communities URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/fun-for-grandparents-and-grandkids-in-senior-living/ Focus keyword: visit parents in senior living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, exercise-fitness, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: At Áegis Living, we want residents to lead fun and fulfilling lives. Learn how to make visits to loved ones in living communities fun for the whole family. If your kids are used to visiting your parents at their home - with plenty of space and maybe even a backyard - the transition to seeing them in a senior living community might be a jarring one for them. Little ones especially may not really know how to react to seeing your parents’ new surroundings - or to all the other residents who will surely think they’re just as cute as you think they are. However, with a little planning, you can have a great visit at your parents’ senior living community - and even make your kids happy to come back soon! Here are a few of our favorite ideas: ## See a movie in style You can always pop a movie in the DVD player, make some popcorn and snuggle up with the whole family, and that’s a lot of fun. But at a place like [Áegis on Madison](https://www.aegisliving.com/locations/aegis-living-madison-seattle-wa/), you can rent out an entire theater to enjoy with your family. This is sure to impress your kids, and lets you give them a luxury it’s just not that common to have anywhere. It can also make your parents feel like they’ve contributed to a fancy good time. Take a look around at the amenities your parents enjoy at their senior living community and see whether your kids would enjoy them. Are there gardens, perhaps, or a whole room dedicated to kicking back and relaxing? Speak to the staff and see whether you can reserve these rooms for the next time you and the kids are visiting. This can be a great way to make your time together special - and something your children won’t forget. ## Let the kids roam a little If it’s appropriate in your parents’ senior living community, let your kids get their energy out by walking through some common spaces with you. If you have an outgoing daughter, she might love to meet other residents in the community (and the other residents would probably love to meet her), and taking a walk together is a great way to get some energy out for your son who just can’t seem to sit still. This is also a good opportunity to show your children where their grandparents live now, especially as they might be confused or miss grandma and grandpa’s house. There are plenty of new places to discover in your parents’ senior living community, and showing it off to your children can help them feel less awkward about visiting there. *“Maintain traditions that you’ve built with your children and parents.”* ## Go on an outing together If your parents’ senior living community holds outings as part of its life enrichment programs, see whether you and your children would be permitted to come along. If you would be, this can be a great way for them to get to know what your parents do in their community, and to meet other residents who are now their grandparents’ neighbors. It also gets everyone outside and focused on another activity, which can be helpful for little ones who are overwhelmed by change or the sheer size of some [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) communities. ## Keep doing what you’ve always done It’s also very important to maintain traditions that you’ve built with your children and parents, no matter where anyone lives. Have you always read books together? Is there a special blanket that’s just for your son to use at his grandparents’? Make sure to keep these things alive even as your living situation changes. This can help your kids feel more steady about your parents’ move and their life in a senior community. Follow these tips and find what works for your family in particular. Before you know it, the kids might be begging to come spend time at your parent’s senior living [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)! --- ## Types of Assisted Living: How to Choose the Right Care Level URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/types-of-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: types of assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: dementia, alzheimers, assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, exercise-fitness, legal-planning Summary: Compare the main types of assisted living - standard assisted living, memory care, end-of-life support, and skilled nursing - to choose the right care level. The main types of assisted living fall into four care levels: **standard assisted living** for help with daily tasks, **memory care** for Alzheimer's and dementia, **end-of-life (hospice-supported) care** within the community, and **skilled nursing** for round-the-clock medical needs. The right fit depends on how much help your parent needs with bathing, medication, mobility, and cognition today - and how those needs may change over the next two to five years. Roughly 818,000 older adults live in assisted living communities in the U.S., and about 4 in 10 of them are living with some form of dementia (CDC National Center for Health Statistics, 2022). Choosing the right level the first time spares your loved one repeated moves. For a broader walkthrough of the search process, see our pillar guide on [how to find the best assisted living near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/assisted-living-near-me/). ## What does "assisted living" actually mean? Assisted living is a residential care option for older adults who need help with activities of daily living (ADLs) but don't require 24-hour skilled medical care. Communities typically provide meals, housekeeping, medication management, social programming, and personal-care staff on-site. **Activities of Daily Living (ADLs)** The six basic self-care tasks: bathing, dressing, toileting, transferring (getting in and out of bed or a chair), continence, and eating. Difficulty with two or more ADLs is a common trigger for moving into assisted living ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/assisted-living-and-nursing-homes)). **Instrumental ADLs (IADLs)** More complex tasks like managing money, taking medications correctly, cooking, and driving. Trouble with IADLs often shows up first. **Memory care** A secured, specialized neighborhood within an assisted living community designed for residents with Alzheimer's disease or another dementia. ## How do the four main types of assisted living compare? Use this table as a quick comparison of typical care intensity, staffing, and national cost ranges. Costs vary widely by state and city. Care TypeBest ForStaffingTypical Monthly Cost (2024, U.S.) Standard Assisted LivingHelp with bathing, dressing, meds, mobilityCaregivers + LPN/RN on call$4,500 - $7,500 Memory CareAlzheimer's or other dementiaDementia-trained caregivers in a secured neighborhood$6,000 - $9,500 End-of-Life Care (in community)Hospice-eligible residentsCommunity staff + outside hospice teamBase rate + hospice (often Medicare-covered) Skilled Nursing FacilityComplex medical care, IVs, rehabRNs and physicians on-site 24/7$8,500 - $10,600 The national median for assisted living is about $6,200/month, while a private room in a nursing home runs about $10,800/month ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). For a deeper breakdown, read [what you need to know about assisted living expenses](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/know-about-assisted-living-expense/). ## When is standard assisted living the right fit? Standard assisted living suits older adults who are largely cognitively intact but find daily tasks unsafe or exhausting at home. Think emergency call pendants in every apartment, medication management by licensed staff, three chef-prepared meals, and a daily life-enrichment calendar - without the clinical feel of a hospital. For example, an 84-year-old who falls while making coffee at home, takes seven medications, and has stopped attending her bridge club because she's lonely is a classic assisted living candidate. She doesn't need a nurse at her bedside - she needs help with showers twice a week, a reliable med pass, and people to eat dinner with. Falls are one of the most common triggers for this move. One in four Americans aged 65+ falls each year, and falls are the leading cause of injury-related death in that group ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/index.html), 2023). A community with grab bars, no thresholds, and staff who help with transfers measurably reduces that risk. ## When does your parent need memory care instead? Memory care is the right level when Alzheimer's disease or another dementia begins to compromise safety - wandering, leaving the stove on, getting lost driving, or sundowning agitation that exhausts a spouse. An estimated 6.9 million Americans aged 65+ are living with Alzheimer's, a number projected to nearly double by 2060 ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). Consider a family whose mother has started leaving the stove on, calling her daughter at 2 a.m. convinced strangers are in the house, and refusing to bathe because the shower "isn't hers." Standard assisted living staff aren't trained for those behaviors. A secured memory care neighborhood - with dementia-trained caregivers, cued environments, and predictable routines - is. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, frames it: behaviors aren't the problem to be solved - they're communication. Good memory care reads the unmet need (pain, fear, boredom, hunger) behind the behavior rather than medicating it away. Look for communities that train every caregiver in that approach, not just the activities director. ## What's the difference between memory care and a "memory unit" in assisted living? Not all memory programs are equal. Ask three questions on tour: - **Is the neighborhood physically secured?** Wander-prone residents need locked exterior doors and a safe outdoor courtyard, not just a posted sign. - **What's the caregiver-to-resident ratio during the day vs. overnight?** A 1:6 daytime ratio is common in strong memory care; 1:15 is a red flag. - **What dementia training does staff complete, and how often?** Look for ongoing, name-brand curricula (Positive Approach to Care, Teepa Snow, or proprietary programs with measurable competencies). Our list of [10 things to know when touring assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-things-touring-assisted-living/) includes the full question set. ## How does end-of-life care work inside assisted living? Most quality assisted living communities partner with a licensed hospice agency so a resident can age and pass in place rather than transferring to a hospital. The community continues providing room, meals, and personal care; the hospice team layers in pain management, a chaplain, a social worker, and a nurse who visits as often as daily. Hospice care under Medicare Part A is covered at 100% for eligible patients with a life expectancy of six months or less ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care)). Families typically continue paying the community's monthly room-and-board rate. Atul Gawande, MD, surgeon and author of *Being Mortal*, argues that the goal of late-life care isn't simply safety or longevity - it's enabling well-being defined by the person living it. Ask any community you tour: *how do you honor what matters most to a dying resident - their music, their dog, their grandkids in the room?* The answer reveals the culture. ## When is a nursing home - not assisted living - the right call? Skilled nursing facilities (SNFs, or "nursing homes") are appropriate when a resident needs continuous medical care that licensed nurses must deliver: ventilator support, IV antibiotics, complex wound care, post-stroke rehabilitation, or dialysis coordination. Physicians round on residents, and RNs are on-site 24/7. Imagine your father is discharged from the hospital after a stroke, needs a feeding tube, daily physical therapy, and may regain enough function to come home in 60 days. That's a SNF stay - often covered partially by Medicare for up to 100 days after a qualifying hospital admission ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/skilled-nursing-facility-care)) - not an assisted living move. Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has long argued that defaulting older adults into nursing homes when assisted living or in-home support would serve them better is both costlier and worse for well-being. Match the setting to the actual medical need. ## How do you decide which type your parent needs right now? Walk through this short decision path before touring: - **List the ADLs and IADLs** your parent currently struggles with. Two or more ADLs usually points to assisted living. - **Screen for cognition.** Has a doctor diagnosed dementia, or are you seeing repeated short-term memory lapses, wandering, or poor judgment about safety? If yes, prioritize a community with on-site memory care. - **Map the medical complexity.** Tube feedings, ventilators, daily IVs, or active rehab needs point to skilled nursing - at least temporarily. - **Project two to five years out.** Choose a community offering a continuum (assisted living + memory care + hospice partnership) so a future transition doesn't mean a new ZIP code. - **Tour at least three communities,** at different times of day, and eat a meal there. If you're weighing whether to move at all, our overview of [the benefits of assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-the-benefits-of-assisted-living/) covers the social, nutritional, and safety gains that often outweigh the cost. ## What should you ask about legal and financial planning before moving in? Before signing a residency agreement, confirm your parent has a durable power of attorney for finances, a healthcare proxy, and an advance directive (POLST or living will). About one in three U.S. adults has completed any kind of advance directive, leaving families to guess in a crisis ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/advance-care-planning/advance-care-planning-advance-directives-health-care)). Communities will also ask about long-term care insurance, VA Aid & Attendance eligibility, and Medicaid waiver programs in your state. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is memory care considered a type of assisted living? Yes. Memory care is a specialized form of assisted living designed for residents with Alzheimer's disease or another dementia. It's usually delivered in a secured neighborhood with dementia-trained staff, structured routines, and a higher caregiver-to-resident ratio than standard assisted living. ### What's the difference between assisted living and a nursing home? Assisted living supports daily tasks (bathing, meds, meals, mobility) for older adults who don't need continuous medical care. A nursing home - skilled nursing facility - provides 24/7 RN coverage and physician oversight for residents with complex medical needs like IVs, ventilators, or post-hospital rehab. ### How much do the different types of assisted living cost? Standard assisted living runs about $6,200/month nationally, memory care typically runs $1,000 - $2,500 more, and a private room in a nursing home about $10,800/month ([CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025). Costs vary substantially by state and city. ### Can my parent stay in the same community as their care needs change? Often, yes - if you choose a community that offers a continuum of care including assisted living, memory care, and a hospice partnership for end-of-life. Ask specifically how transitions between levels are handled and whether rates change. Aging in place within one community reduces the stress of multiple moves. ### Does Medicare pay for any type of assisted living? Medicare does not pay for assisted living room and board or long-term custodial care. It does cover short-term skilled nursing after a qualifying hospital stay and hospice services for eligible residents ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care)). Long-term care insurance, VA benefits, and state Medicaid waivers may help offset costs. ### How do I know it's time to move from assisted living to memory care? Watch for repeated wandering, escalating sundowning, resistance to personal care, weight loss, or safety incidents that standard assisted living staff can't safely manage. The community's nurse and your parent's physician should help guide the timing. A gradual transition within the same community is usually less disorienting than moving to a new building. ## Talk through your parent's care level with someone who knows Choosing among the types of assisted living is easier when someone walks through the specifics with you. [Contact an Áegis Living advisor](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) or [find a community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to tour assisted living, memory care, and Life's Neighborhood® options in person. --- ## Advice on paying for assisted living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/advice-on-paying-for-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: paying for assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, emotional-wellness, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: As you look into assisted living options for your senior loved one, you’ll encounter a lot of difficult questions. What does he or she need in terms of… As you look into [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) options for your senior loved one, you’ll encounter a lot of difficult questions. What does he or she need in terms of care? How far out of your way can mom or dad really live before it becomes a stress on both of you? And - for many people, most importantly - how will you pay for assisted living? If you are one of the many families managing this decision, you’ll probably find a variety of answers. Unfortunately, it isn’t as easy as relying on Medicaid, and having too many financial assets to qualify for that form of assistance doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready to foot the entire bill yourself. Placing your parent in an assisted living community is a huge decision, and the financial aspects of the planning process can be immensely stressful. However, take a look at these tips about how to make paying for assisted living a reality for your parent: *“*Financial planning for assisted living can be stressful.” ## Look at multiple communities It’s very important to research and tour multiple [senior living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) before you make any commitments. The most costly one in your desired area may not be the one that meets your parent’s needs the best, for example, or the less financially burdensome options may not have all that you need. Ideally, you will find a community in your price range that offers the kind of care your loved one needs now and is likely to need in the future - such as [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) for people who are in the early stages of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) and will need more intensive support as time goes on. If you do find such a community, it is imperative to understand the availability of apartments and even consider getting on its waiting list. That way, you’ll be more likely to get a place there when the time comes rather than having to go elsewhere or use stopgap measures. ## Evaluate your parent’s assets If your parent is retired, he or she may or may not be bringing in the kind of money necessary to make paying for assisted living possible. However, consider his or her other assets. Is there a home you could put on the market? This decision is often an emotionally fraught one, but people’s homes tend to be their greatest source of wealth. It’s also true that living comfortably at a senior community is preferable to living in one’s own home but experiencing a poor quality of life. If selling your loved one’s home is out of the question, consider a reverse mortgage or another way to tap into the equity in the home to help pay for senior care. Some life insurance plans will allow for conversion that means receiving benefits from them now rather than after death, which can help fund assisted living. Long-term care insurance can also be valuable, if your loved one has it or can obtain it. [](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) ## Discuss your concerns It’s important to be prepared financially for your parent’s transition to a senior community. Part of this means having discussions with other family members that may be uncomfortable - but this is a necessary part of the planning process. It may be that you and other family members can pool resources to help pay for assisted living, or can help convince your parent to sell his or her house to help defray costs. If nothing else, speaking to family members - including, eventually, your senior loved one - lets everyone know where the financial aspects of assisted living planning currently stand. Knowing your situation can help you explain it to assisted living community staff you will speak to in the course of making your decision, as well. --- ## Is it time to think about assisted living? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/is-it-time-to-think-about-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: time for assisted living Category: family-communication Tags: depression-anxiety, alzheimers, assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, sleep, when-its-time Summary: "Áegis Living senior care community discusses some signs that it may be time for an elderly parent to move into assisted living." Denial is the most common reason people wait until a fall, injury or illness before they start to seek information on [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/). So what are the signs that your parent may need help before an emergency happens? Even when you know your parent could use some extra help completing daily tasks, you may still be confused - after all, couldn’t a caretaker come in a few times a week? Is mom or dad really struggling so much? Even considering assisted living for your parent or another senior loved one signals a major life change, and it’s one both you and your loved one are likely to have a lot of feelings about. To help you stay grounded on the real issue - whether your parent or loved one would do better at an assisted living community than in his or her own home - here are some signs it may be time to move your parent into a senior community. *“What are the signs that your parent may need help?”* ## How does your parent look? While it may not occur to you, the way your parent is dressing and taking care of his or her hygiene needs is a good sign about whether he or she could benefit from living in a senior community. If your parent is wearing the same clothes every time you visit, or is clearly having difficulty showering, washing his or her hair or keeping clothes laundered, it may be time to plan a move into [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/). Of course, people of retirement age may relax their grooming and clothing standards - there’s no longer any need to put on a suit for work every morning, for example - but if you notice the same outfit every day or a marked problem with cleanliness, it may be time to find the best community for your parent to experience assisted living. ## How is his or her mental and physical condition? If your parent is currently living with Alzheimer’s or another form of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/), you are likely already aware that he or she is likely to require [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) in an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community at some point. When to pursue this option is an intensely personal decision, but the safety of your loved one and your own health must always come first. If your loved one has begun to wander, exhibit agitated behavior or even aggression or is not safe in his or her home, it’s time to begin the process of moving him or her into assisted living. It is also important to acknowledge care needs that are beyond what you have the capacity to provide, which can be particularly true of physical care needs that many of us develop as we age. If you cannot reliably help your loved one with the activities of daily living that are most difficult for him or her, it is time for assisted living. *Caretaking can take a toll - both on you and your loved one.* ## How are you managing? [Caregiver stress](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) is real, and it can be a severely upsetting experience. If you are caring for your senior loved one and notice yourself beginning to slip into anxiety, hypervigilance, depression or poor sleeping and eating habits, you may want to add these symptoms to the list of reasons it’s time to look into [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) for your parent. Caregiving stress is a risk to your own health, which in turn means your loved one will not have someone to depend on - not to mention the other personal and professional responsibilities this amount of stress can prevent you from fulfilling. There is no shame in being overwhelmed - and a conversation with a [senior living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) specialist at a community of your choice can help calm any feelings of guilt you may have and clarify your options. --- ## Top senior nutrition tips URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-nutrition-tips-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: nutrition Category: healthy-aging Tags: alzheimers, dementia, nutrition, exercise-fitness, brain-health, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well being is a top priority. Learn about some tips on nutrition that can improve the quality and longevity of life. Top senior nutrition tips focus on the importance of a healthy lifestyle. This includes not only eating right, but also learning to make informed choices about diet and developing good physical activity habits. But the importance of healthy living continues each of the 365 days of the year to help stay healthy and energized. Especially for seniors, the foods you put into your body have an immense effect on the quality and longevity of life. As the National Institutes of Health reports, those who maintain a balanced diet in their golden years have a reduced risk of developing high blood pressure, heart disease, osteoporosis and even some types of cancer. Recent studies have even suggested that the right eating habits can help prevent the onset of Alzheimer’s. ## Top Senior Nutrition Tips No two diets are alike, and each person must cater his or her eating habits to meet the needs of his or her unique body. Finding the right balance of vitamins, nutrients, protein, fats and carbohydrates is something each person should do with the help of a health care professional. However, there are some general guidelines for seniors, especially those trying to prevent or halt the cognitive decline that comes with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). A Mediterranean Diet is often suggested since what’s good for the heart is good for the brain. Always talk with your clinician about implementing some of these suggestions into your lifestyle: *“Healthy eating reduces the risk of cardiovascular conditions among seniors.”* ## Stick to plant-based foods The Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine recommends that older adults [follow low-fat, plant-based diets](http://www.pcrm.org/health/reports/dietary-guidelines-for-alzheimers-prevention) and avoid fatty foods derived from animals. Meat and dairy can be replaced with vegetables, beans, peas and whole grains. Such diets have the capacity to reduce one’s risk for certain health defects common among seniors, which is why the American Dietetic Association also [supports vegetarianism and veganism](http://www.vrg.org/nutrition/2009_ADA_position_paper.pdf). “Appropriately planned vegetarian diets, including total vegetarian or vegan diets, are healthful, nutritionally adequate, and may provide health benefits in the prevention and treatment of certain diseases,” the ADA noted in a 2009 report. ## Eat minimal saturated and trans fats Saturated and trans fats have been long known to increase one’s risk of cardiovascular conditions and clog the arteries. By stifling blood flow, such fats have the capacity to reduce oxygen delivery to the brain, which can exacerbate cognitive decline associated with dementia. Eating a plant-based diet will reduce your saturated fat intake, as animal products are the main source. However, trans fats can be found in snacks and fried foods (avoid products with partially hydrogenated oils, which are trans fats). ## Stay hydrated Drinking enough water is important no matter what age you are, but it’s especially vital for seniors. A lack of liquids can worsen the symptoms of Alzheimer’s, causing people with dementia to feel more disoriented and irritable. Dehydration can also cause the brain to shrink (after all, it’s made up of three-fourths water). On the other hand, proper hydration fosters healthy cognitive function, boosting the capacity for memory, concentration and even mood balance. [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) understands the importance of eating well as a senior, which is why healthy eating is encouraged among residents. Seniors enjoy three specially prepared meals per day, crafted by chefs who work with dietary professionals to ensure residents are receiving food that promotes cognitive health without sacrificing flavor. Specialized diets can even be developed for people with special needs, such as residents with diabetes. Additionally, Áegis Living ensures that all residents stay well hydrated by placing hydration stations throughout the community. --- ## The link between Alzheimer’s and cardiovascular disease URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-link-between-alzheimers-and-cardiovascular-disease/ Focus keyword: dementia and cardiovascular disease Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, brain-health, for-seniors, mild-cognitive-impairment Summary: Áegis Living discusses the mounting evidence of the strong association between dementia and cardiovascular disease. Read more here. Increasingly, researchers are finding a correlation between that what is good for the heart, is also good for the brain. Good blood flow to the grey matter is essential for the function and wellness of brain cells. With each heartbeat, about 25% of the blood is delivered to the brain, bringing the necessary carbohydrates, fats, vitamins, hormones, and amino acids to provide your brain with the energy needed to remember information and to think clearly. In recent years, there has been mounting evidence of the strong association between dementia and cardiovascular disease, particularly in terms of the heart condition’s tendency to starve the brain of blood. The brain is sensitive to changes in oxygen supply. Since the primary function of the heart is to pump blood to the brain and throughout the circulatory system, those with heart health issues are generally at a higher risk for dementia, particularly Alzheimer’s. Vascular damage due to buildup in the arteries can slow blood flow to the brain and over time, damage brain cells. Researchers have long suspected a cause-and-effect relationship with the heart and the risk factor of cardiovascular disease in the onset of Alzheimer’s. ### High Blood Pressure and Brain Health High blood pressure is one of the leading factors of heart disease and can wreak havoc by thickening your heart muscle. The good news is a [recent study by the National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/News-Events/News-and-Press-Releases/Press-Releases/Intensive-blood-pressure-control-may-slow-age) recommends keeping your blood pressure low and controlling hypertension to prevent dementia. The bad news, the [American College of Cardiology and the American Heart Association](https://www.acc.org/about-acc/press-releases/2017/11/13/15/35/high-blood-pressure-redefined-for-first-time-in-14-years-130-is-the-new-high) in 2017 redefined high blood pressure as 130/80, which was previously 140/90. According to statistics, approximately 46% of the adult population in the U.S. now qualify as having high blood pressure - that’s about 103 million Americans! Evidence is growing that controlling your blood pressure may not only reduce your risk of heart disease but stave off dementia. A study in [Neurology](https://n.neurology.org/content/91/6/e517) found that seniors with high blood pressure were more likely to have lesions on their brain caused by low blood supply. And researchers found in these patients that they had more twisted strands of protein (referred to as tangles), which are a common symptom of Alzheimer’s. Studies are finding preliminary results that aggressively reducing high blood pressure can decrease the risk of developing mild cognitive impairment, which is often a precursor to dementia. This research also suggests that not only is treating high blood pressure safe in Alzheimer’s patients, but also may even increase blood supply to the brain. ### Tips for Better Heart Health While age, genetics, and other risk factors play significant roles in the chances of developing Alzheimer’s, there are ways to minimize the risk. Heart disease comes in many forms, and sometimes the risk factors are out of one’s control. However, healthy living tips such as these can help get the heart in shape and lower your blood pressure: - **Follow a balanced diet**: As recommended by the Mayo Clinic, eating a balanceddiet based around fruits and vegetables, whole grains, fish, nuts, low-fat proteins, and dairy can enhance heart health. Also, nix the processed foods and sugary drinks that are often high in sodium. To reduce your blood pressure, diets such as the Mediterranean diet and DASH can help. - **Exercise regularly**: The American Heart Association (AHA) recommends 40 minutes of moderate to vigorous aerobic exercise three to four times per week to lower the risk of cardiovascular disease. This can be anything that makes you burn calories, like walking, swimming, and stair-climbing. - **Quit smoking**: The AHA also notes that people who smoke are at a significantly higher risk of developing atherosclerosis, suffering stroke, and experiencing other cardiac events. The lungs begin to heal themselves the moment you stop smoking, so it’s never too late to quit the habit. - **Reduce stress**: Chronic stress often causes high blood pressure, which increases the risk of heart disease, and it can push people to drink, smoke, and engage in other harmful behaviors for temporary relief. Instead, turn to natural, permanent solutions to stress, such as regular meditation, breathing exercises, and mental health services. - **Check your blood pressure**. In addition to seeing your doctor, you can check your blood pressure at home with an automatic blood pressure cuff, or many pharmacies offer blood pressure readings. Ask your doctor for recommendations. With these healthy lifestyle suggestions and a greater understanding of the strong link between dementia and cardiovascular disease, you can begin to work toward improved heart health in an effort to slow this progressive disorder. Such information can also be applied to those who have started to show the signs of Alzheimer’s - a balanced diet, exercise, and other heart-healthy exercises may help slow and even help to reverse cognitive decline. --- ## Seniors Give Back to Community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/aegis-seniors-giving-back/ Focus keyword: residents giving back Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: alzheimers, hobbies-activities, for-seniors Summary: While Áegis living communities are often tight knit, residents also join in the communities outside and strive to make positive impacts in them. Read more here. Each Áegis Living community is a tight-knit family of residents where [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) with Alzheimer’s can meet and make lasting relationships with others moving along the same path in life. It leads to a warm and welcoming environment built on compassion, care and mutual comforting. However, residents are also ingrained in the communities outside and want to continue to make positive impact in their neighborhoods with volunteer and non-profit work. After all, many seniors belong to Áegis Living communities within their hometowns and remain close to their friends and family members throughout their golden years. ## In the spotlight: Áegis of Aptos knits caps for children with cancer One extraordinary and touching story of giving back to the community takes place at Áegis of Aptos, California. As marketing director Jennifer Andronico explains, the Áegis of Aptos knitting group recently made 50 hats for Jacob’s Heart Children’s Cancer Support Services. These knit caps go straight to children with cancer who have or may soon lose their hair due to chemotherapy. *“The knitting group made 50 hats for children with cancer.”* The group has been meeting for several years, and this is not the first time the club has involved itself in the Aptos neighborhood and taken the initiative to give back to others. Resident Lois Hanneman, a retired nurse who celebrated her 99th birthday on Feb. 4, 2015, is the anchor of this club and invites friends and family of [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) - or anyone interested - to join in on the fun. For example, Aptos local Diane, the daughter of a former resident, is also an avid knitter and joins the group regularly. Though her mother has since passed away, Diane remains an active member to this day. As many as a dozen people gather every Friday to put their hands to work, knitting for different causes for people in the area. In the past, these knitting seniors and other community members have contributed their knit creations to various organizations, including donating baby blankets to the Santa Cruz women’s shelter and blankets to the local cancer hospital. These products, like the knit caps, are beautifully crafted - colorful, warm and symbols of compassion from the hearts of Áegis Living seniors. Efforts such as this also benefit the seniors greatly. Lois has been knitting her whole life, and the club allows her to keep in touch with an old pastime. She’d be knitting up a storm no matter what as she says it keeps her hands busy while giving her a sense of accomplishment - and her love for the hobby is evident by the fact that many of her clothes are made by her own two hands. As she’s said to Andronico, “When you knit something, you put knit life into it.” But the club and its charity initiatives give her handmade items, as well as the time and care she puts into them, a whole new, deeper meaning. Using her skills to give back to the neighbors in her community provides a sense of accomplishment and of being valued, which is just as important in for seniors in their elder years as it was when they were young. [](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) Áegis Living also gives back to neighbors in their communities in other ways. The organization contributes to a wide variety of charities and not-for-profits dedicated to making the world a better place in general. The [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) company dedicates financial resources to the Alzheimer’s Association to aid research toward a cure and new treatment options as well as initiatives that provide [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) and families affected by [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). Áegis Living also donates to the American Diabetes Association, FareStart, the Eastside Domestic Violence Program and Rainier Scholars. ## Other charitable efforts [Seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) at the other [Áegis Living communitie](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)s work together as well to bring comfort to people in need. For example, at Áegis on Madison, resident Margaret Hardin, who is 101, leads a blanket-making project that benefits Childhaven, a local not-for-profit that provides care and support to young children who have been neglected, abused and affected by drugs or alcohol. The blanket makers say they get more than they give. Working on the project makes them feel, “Like I’m helping somebody else,” Margaret says. --- ## Legal Documents and Dementia: A Family Guide URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/advising-your-parent-when-signing-legal-documents/ Focus keyword: legal documents and dementia Category: family-communication Tags: dementia, alzheimers, brain-health, emotional-wellness, legal-planning, costs-funding, for-adult-children Summary: How to handle legal documents when your parent has dementia: capacity, power of attorney, living wills, and timing. Practical steps for adult children. When your parent has dementia, legal planning becomes a race against cognitive decline. The window to sign valid documents like a durable [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), healthcare directive, and will closes as the disease progresses, so the earliest stage is the right time to act. This guide walks you through assessing capacity, gathering the right paperwork, and protecting your parent's wishes without taking over their voice. If you're just starting these conversations, our pillar guide on [How to Talk to Your Parents About Long-Term Care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/when-its-time-to-talk-a-compassionate-guide-to-discussing-long-term-care-options/) pairs well with the legal steps below. ## Why does timing matter so much with dementia and legal documents? An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's, and that number is projected to nearly double by 2060 ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). Dementia is progressive, and legal capacity, the mental ability to understand a document and its consequences, fades with it. A will, power of attorney, or advance directive signed after a parent loses capacity can be challenged in probate court and thrown out. As Atul Gawande, MD, writes in *Being Mortal*, the goal of late-life planning isn't to control death but to preserve a person's authorship over their own story. Legal documents are how your parent keeps that authorship even when memory fails. ## How do you determine if your parent still has legal capacity? Capacity is decision-specific, not all-or-nothing. Your mother might still be able to sign a simple healthcare proxy but no longer understand a complex trust amendment. The signing attorney is responsible for confirming capacity, and a geriatrician or neuropsychologist can provide a written capacity evaluation that holds up if relatives later contest the document ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/financial-legal-planning), 2024). Ask three plain-English questions when you're unsure: - Can your parent describe, in their own words, what the document does? - Can they name who benefits and who is excluded, and explain why? - Can they repeat that explanation consistently across a few days? For example, an 82-year-old in early-stage Alzheimer's who can clearly tell her attorney, "This lets my son pay my bills if I can't," likely has capacity to sign a financial power of attorney. A father in moderate-stage dementia who agrees to anything put in front of him likely does not. ## Which legal documents should every family put in place? The Cleveland Clinic recommends families address financial, medical, and end-of-life planning together rather than piecemeal ([Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9170-dementia), 2024). Here are the core documents and what each one actually does: **Durable Power of Attorney (Financial)**Authorizes a trusted person (the agent) to manage bank accounts, pay bills, and handle property if your parent can't. "Durable" means it stays in effect after incapacity.**Healthcare Power of Attorney**Names someone to make medical decisions, including choice of doctors, treatments, and care setting.**Living Will (Advance Directive)**Spells out wishes about life support, feeding tubes, resuscitation, and comfort care.**POLST or MOLST Form**A portable medical order signed by a clinician that travels with your parent across care settings. Recognized in most states ([National POLST Collaborative](https://polst.org/), 2024).**Last Will and Testament**Names an executor and directs how assets pass after death.**Revocable Living Trust**Holds assets during life and transfers them at death without probate. Useful for larger estates or out-of-state property. ## What does each document cost and who prepares it? Costs vary by state and complexity. A simple package from an elder-law attorney typically runs lower than a trust-based estate plan, but both can save families far more than they cost when a crisis hits. DocumentTypical cost (2024)Who prepares itDurable POA (financial)$200 - $500Elder-law attorneyHealthcare POA + Living Will$150 - $400 (often bundled)Attorney or state formsSimple will$300 - $1,000Estate attorneyRevocable living trust package$1,500 - $4,000Estate attorneyPOLST formNo costPhysician or NPTo find a vetted attorney, search the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys directory ([NAELA](https://www.naela.org/), 2024) or your state bar's elder-law referral service ([American Bar Association Commission on Law and Aging](https://www.americanbar.org/groups/law_aging/), 2024). ## How do you handle a parent who refuses to sign anything? Resistance is normal, especially around money. AARP recommends framing the conversation as protecting your parent's choices, not stripping them away ([AARP](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/), 2024). Try opening with their values: "Dad, you've always said you wouldn't want machines keeping you alive. Let's put that in writing so no one has to guess." Consider a family whose father has early-stage vascular dementia and refuses to discuss a power of attorney because "nothing's wrong." Instead of pushing the POA first, the daughter brings him to a routine attorney visit to update his existing will, and the attorney raises the POA as standard practice. The father signs without feeling cornered. If a parent has already lost capacity and signed nothing, the family's only remaining option is usually guardianship or conservatorship through the probate court, which is expensive, public, and slow. That's the outcome early planning prevents. ## How do you protect the relationship while doing the paperwork? Legal work is also emotional work. Adult children often carry guilt about "taking over," and the parent feels grief over lost independence. Both reactions are normal. Our reflection on [guilt and denial when moving a parent to memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dealing-with-guilt-when-moving-parent-to-memory-care/) applies here too. Build in connection alongside the logistics. [Sharing memories through the five senses](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/sharing-memories-through-the-5-senses/), planning a meaningful [Mother's Day with mom](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/celebrating-mothers-day-when-mom-has-dementia/), or thoughtful [Father's Day ideas when your father has dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/ideas-for-fathers-day-when-your-father-has-dementia/) remind your parent they're still the parent, even on the day they sign a healthcare proxy. ## Where to go next If you'd like a referral to an elder-law attorney or financial planner experienced with dementia, reach out to the team at your nearest Áegis community. [Find an Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) and ask to speak with a Marketing Director who can connect you with local resources. ## Frequently asked questions ### Can a person with dementia legally sign documents? Yes, if they still have legal capacity for that specific document. Capacity is judged decision by decision. Early-stage dementia usually does not prevent signing a will or power of attorney, but moderate to late stages typically do. An attorney and, if needed, a physician's capacity letter should confirm it. ### What happens if my parent never signed a power of attorney before losing capacity? The family generally must petition probate court for guardianship or conservatorship to gain legal authority. This process can take months, cost several thousand dollars in legal fees, and become contested if relatives disagree. ### Is a free online power of attorney form good enough? State forms can be valid if signed and witnessed correctly, but dementia adds risk of later challenge. An elder-law attorney drafts language tailored to your parent's situation and documents capacity at signing, which significantly reduces the chance of a relative contesting the document. ### Who should we name as power of attorney? Choose someone trustworthy, organized, geographically reachable, and willing to act. Name a successor in case the first agent can't serve. Splitting financial and healthcare POA between two siblings can prevent burnout but requires they communicate well. ### Does Medicare or Medicaid cover legal planning costs? No. Legal fees for estate planning are an out-of-pocket family expense ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/), 2024). Some Area Agencies on Aging offer free or low-cost legal clinics for older adults; check your local agency. ### How often should these documents be reviewed? Review every three to five years, after any major health change, or when a named agent or beneficiary dies or moves. Dementia diagnosis itself is a trigger to review immediately while capacity remains. --- ## How socializing helps the brain function better URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-socializing-helps-the-brain-function-better/ Focus keyword: socializing and brain function Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, social-connection, brain-health, for-seniors, mild-cognitive-impairment, nutrition Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well-being is a top priority. Learn about why we encourage social interaction, which is proven to enhance brain function. It’s well known that social interaction is key to cognitive development and function from a young age. However, staying socially active is also very important for seniors, as it may help slow down mental decline associated with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). Unfortunately, aging adults often find themselves becoming more isolated as they get older due to declining mental and physical health. This is particularly true of people with Alzheimer’s, who tend to withdraw socially as they begin to feel less like themselves, become confused more easily and feel less in control of their lives. In fact, the Alzheimer’s Society reports that people in the early [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/) experiencing mild cognitive impairment are at significantly greater risk of social isolation. *“People with Alzheimer’s often withdraw socially and become more isolated.”* With this in mind, it’s important to promote social engagement among older adults before cognitive decline as well as throughout the stages of of dementia. Learn more about the effect of social activity on the Alzheimer’s brain and Áegis Living’s initiatives to support social activity: ## The science behind the claim An extensive study published in Alzheimer’s & Dementia: The Journal of the Alzheimer’s Association explored the [role of social activity](http://www.alzheimersanddementia.com/article/S1552-5260(08)02838-0/abstract) among people with dementia. Researchers from John Hopkins and Duke University assessed 147 pairs of male twins over an average of 28 years, following them for signs and predictors of dementia. The results showed that participants with greater leisurely cognitive activity in their midlife, including social engagement, experienced a significant delay in the onset of dementia. In fact, social activities such as visiting relatives and friends, participating in a club and attending parties were most strongly linked to a lower risk of dementia, as were cognitive tasks like studying and reading. With that in mind, activities that combine social engagement with cognitive function may provide the best protection against Alzheimer’s, according to the study. “These activities might be indicative of an enriched environment, which has been shown in animal models to enhance the creation of new brain cells and promote brain repair,” explained study author Dr. Michelle C. Carlson, an associate professor at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health Center on Aging and Health. ## Social interaction at Áegis Living At Áegis Living communities, seniors are immersed in environments that promote social interaction and are encouraged to engage with others. The Alzheimer’s Association recommends that adults volunteer in community groups and join special interest clubs to stay social in their later years, and that’s precisely what Áegis seniors do. The Life Enrichment program is aimed at improving seniors’ quality of life and helping them find a sense of purpose through daily activities and organized events. Seniors are encouraged to invite friends and family to join them for daily meals and for a visit. They can spend an afternoon watching a movie in one of the Áegis Living theaters, reminiscing while walking the landscaped grounds or connect with old friends online via Skype. Additionally, through the Life Enrichment program, residents can also take part in community outreach programs and special interest clubs. *“Áegis Living’s Life Enrichment program promotes social engagement.”* For example, at [Áegis on Madison](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) in Seattle, several seniors come together for a fly fishing club. They not only share their knowledge and stories about fly fishing, but also carve new and meaningful friendships with others who share their interests. Over at Áegis of Aptos, there’s a knitting group that incorporates both Áegis Living residents and members from the outside community. Together, they chat and knit, creating everything from blankets to knit caps that they then donate to nonprofits and charitable organizations. People with Alzheimer’s in Áegis’ memory care program can benefit from these activities geared toward supporting social interaction and slowing cognitive decline. Seniors who take advantage of the assisted living and specialized care options can also help fight the onset of dementia through Life Enrichment social activities. Being socially active is essential for maintaining cognitive function, but it is also imperative to quality of life. With an emphasis on both brain health and life enrichment, Áegis Living communities make it their mission to get seniors involved and socially engaged. --- ## Celebrating Love at Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/celebrating-love-at-aegis-living/ Focus keyword: staying together Category: aegis-stories Tags: dementia, alzheimers, assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, hobbies-activities, costs-funding Summary: Seniors don't have to part from their loved ones- Áegis Living provides assisted living and memory care to couples who want to stay together. Learn more here. Romantic love is not only the domain of the the youth - [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) continue to long for intimacy and affection. Many maintain relationships even in the face of Alzheimer’s. In fact, having one’s significant other around can help muster up old memories and provide a source of soothing comfort. At Áegis Living, seniors don’t have to part from their loved ones - these communities can provide [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) and [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) to couples who want to stay together through their golden years. ## A story of love at Áegis Living Áegis of Bellevue is home to one loving couple, Bob and Dottie, who recently celebrated their 64th wedding anniversary. *“Despite his [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/), Bob recalled the day he met Dottie.”* Dottie is in assisted living while Bob is in Life’s Neighborhood, where he receives specialized care for his worsening dementia. Each day, Dottie goes to Life’s Neighborhood to spend the whole day with him, engaging in cognitive activities, eating every meal and simply spending time together. The two are virtually inseparable. For their anniversary, the Áegis of Bellevue Life Enrichment and culinary teams threw them a special celebration: Private dinner for two among the intimate atmosphere of the library, bedecked with flowers and candles. The pair dined from a personalized menu as they enjoyed table-side music from the community’s music therapist. Despite living with dementia, Bob spent the time recalling memories of meeting Dottie, which he says was the luckiest day of his life. He talked about their home on Camano Island and reminisced about the grandkids running about the woods outside the house. **Making Valentine’s Day special for seniors**It was truly a magical night for the couple and a chance to show just how much they care for each other. Moments like these are immensely special to [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) late in life, but they’re particularly significant to those who, due to [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/), can’t always grasp hold of old memories like the day Bob and Dottie met. Many [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) living in assisted living or memory care communities are widowed or living apart from their life partners. As a child or other relative, you may be looking for a special way to make them feel loved and special during Valentine’s Day. Consider one of these suggestions: - Send flowers through a delivery service, or make it an even more special by showing up yourself with a bouquet. - Have the kids in the family make the senior in your life Valentine’s cards that can be hung up for display in his or her room. - Enjoy a meal together - visit the Áegis Living community for breakfast, lunch or dinner. - Pull your parents’ old love letters out of storage, dust them off and spend an afternoon reading them together. - Make your own gift - you might craft your own Valentine’s Day card, write a poem or frame a picture of yourself as a gift to your senior. - Simply be there - your presence can fill a void and provide comfort for a senior feeling lonely during this holiday. Stop by to see how we celebrate love and all of the holidays with our residents at [Áegis Living.](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) --- ## The different levels of care provided by Áegis URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-different-levels-of-care-provided-by-aegis/ Focus keyword: seniors age in place Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, hobbies-activities, nutrition, legal-planning Summary: As your parents get older, it can become increasingly challenging to care for them on your own. For instance, In some circumstances, it’s no longer safe for… As your parents get older, it can become increasingly challenging to care for them on your own. For instance, In some circumstances, it’s no longer safe for your mother to live independently, and in other cases, the growing demands of her medical needs - whether it be medication, treatment or care - can be overwhelming. Whatever the case is, you may be wondering if it’s time to turn to an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community and learn about what types of care these communities provide. Áegis Living communities offer a variety of levels of care for seniors, from those who are mostly independent but require some assistance to those who are living with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) and are in need of memory care. Áegis Living works with each family and resident to provide the best opportunities for care while creating a true at-home feeling within the community, which makes the transition easier and less stressful for both you and your loved one: ## Assisted living When your parent is no longer able to live independently, the next step may be assisted living. If this is the case, the Áegis Living staff will provide your mother with exceptional care and assistance. She’ll be given a [senior housing](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) apartment all her own that features space to sleep, relax and entertain guests as well as a private kitchen or kitchenette, so the feeling of home will still be present. If she prefers to live with a friend or another person, there are also two-bedroom apartment options available. At the assisted living care level, your mother won’t have to worry about completing chores like cooking or cleaning if these have become too challenging for her. The staff is available 24/7, and three nutritious meals are provided throughout the day as well as snacks. Your mother can also opt to cook for herself in the comfort of her own apartment if she prefers. When family or other guests come to visit, there are private dining rooms available for residents. Seniors at this level of care are also offered a wide variety of activities throughout the day and week to keep them busy and socially engaged. Your mother can enjoy everything from watching movies to playing games, doing crafts, gardening, taking part in lady’s nights, group outings and so much more. As part of assisted living, your mother won’t have to worry about if and when she’s taken her prescriptions, as licensed nurses will provide medical care and oversee medications, while the housekeeping staff ensure that laundry and cleaning are taken care of. Transportation is also provided, so your mother can easily go grocery shopping, visit the doctor or run errands. ## Transitional care Some seniors will begin to experience lapses in memory and have trouble recalling names or details of an event. These instances may be early signs of Alzheimer’s disease. Cognitive illnesses progress slowly, and that’s why Áegis Living offers transitional care for residents who are in the early-to-mid stages of memory loss. As memory issues progress, living semi-independently can become problematic, but the Áegis Living staff works with each resident to ensure smooth transitions. Individuals are given their own specialized care floor in the community where they are provided with additional support and help in dealing with the illness. Transitional care residents still have access to all of the common areas, where they can meet with friends, family and loved ones, but their apartments are located among their peers and staff members. This way, their added needs can be attended to quickly and efficiently, and they can spend time with fellow residents. ## Memory care As dementia symptoms and Alzheimer’s progresses, residents will need to transition to full memory care. Áegis Living specializes in memory care and has developed expansive treatment options that caters to the unique needs of each individual. Life’s Neighborhood - a program developed by Áegis Living - is the core of the memory care communities, and it was developed to increase pleasure and quality of life for those experiencing cognitive illnesses. Memory loss can spark stress and anxiety in individuals, and the goal of Life’s Neighborhood is to create a space that’s familiar and comforting, allowing for strong bonds to form between staff members and residents and encourage socialization. Residents at the memory care level have unique needs that are symptomatic of their disease, but that doesn’t mean they can’t continue to celebrate life. Because individuals with memory loss are dependent on others, the staff members are available 24/7 to help with everything from the tasks of daily living to health concerns to medical emergencies. The caregivers and nurses are trained and licensed, so they understand how to handle cognitive declines with sensitivity. A proper diet continues to be important, especially as individuals age, so part of memory care requires that individuals stay fully hydrated and receive the necessary nutrients each day. It’s easy for seniors with memory loss to slip into social isolation, but this can have negative mental and physical effects, so it’s important to encourage these individuals to engage in social activities continues to be of the utmost importance. Memory and strategy games are excellent for memory care residents, as is getting some form of exercise. Residents can spend time in the secured outside gardens that feature circular walking paths where they can enjoy some physical activity while taking in the beauty of the flowers growing there or watch the birds at the onsite feeders. Memory loss not only affects the individual themselves but their family members as well. [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) also offers support, education and resources for the family in case they have questions, concerns or thoughts on their parent’s illness, the care that’s being provided or what to expect as their mother’s cognitive function declines. This helps to ensure that you understand the care your parent is receiving so that you feel comfortable with the process. --- ## Finding peace in Life’s Haven URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/finding-peace-in-lifes-haven/ Focus keyword: snoezelen Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: depression-anxiety, alzheimers, memory-care, hobbies-activities, emotional-wellness, for-seniors, dementia Summary: Every Áegis Living Life's Neighborhood memory care community uses a Snoezelen sensory therapy room called Life's Haven. Learn more here. At Áegis Living, one of the main goals is to improve the quality of life for [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) with Alzheimer’s disease. The core of each [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) community is the Life’s Neighborhood program, which was designed to increase enjoyment and enhance general mental, physical and emotional well-being for people with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) by creating an environment of comfort and familiarity for minimal stress and anxiety. One of the features of Life’s Neighborhood is the Snoezelen - pronounced “snoozlin” - room called “Life’s Haven.” ## About Life’s Haven Áegis Living community’s Snoezelen room takes on its own design and feel. When a senior is feeling overwhelmed or anxious, whether its due to sundowning or another issue, they can visit the Life’s Haven room to calm their nerves and find tranquility. Every detail is taken into account to give the resident a chance to clear their minds and enjoy a relaxing experience. The room is kept at a cool temperature, the lights are comfortably dim and the gentle colors encourage a sense of ease. These innovative techniques have been proven by the medical world to instill a sense of comfort and serenity. Stepping into the Life’s Haven space is like entering your own private garden where you can take a seat on a charming bench while reflecting on the events of the day. It’s an effective non-medicinal approach to soothe agitated or pre-agitated residents to a place of calm. ## The Life’s Haven experience Life’s Havens can reflect the elements of nature to enhance the calming effect. The walls may be painted with warming images of delicate birds, leaves, fruits dangling from branches and delightful white flowers coming into bloom. Meanwhile, calming music and light aromas stimulate the senses in an amiable, subtle way. Another Life’s Haven is designed to resemble the quaint porch of a cabin. Features such as pine cones, a fishing net, a paddle, barrels and a gently lit faux lantern add to the soothing, multi-sensory effect of the Snoezelen room. A guitar (for auditory stimulation) rests against the wall, which is painted to depict a delightful outdoor scenery filled with fruit trees and other lush greenery. There’s also a chess game laid out for seniors to play and interact with each other in a little friendly competition. ## Methodology behind the Snoezelen room The Snoezelen room is not a new concept. It was developed in the late 1970s by a pair of Dutch therapists, Ad Verheul and Jan Hulsegge, during their time working at Holland’s De Hartenberg Institute, a center for people with intellectual disabilities. Their goal was to provide a safe, non-threatening environment for people with disabilities that enhance therapy, learning and relaxation. At an annual fair that summer, the duo erected an experimental space aimed at providing a controlled multi-sensory environment that utilized light, texture, aroma, music and color. Features included simple effects such as a blowing fan, calming images projected onto a screen, scented bottles and soaps, musical instruments and tactile objects. It proved to be a huge success, and the pair of therapists went on to develop and perfect the design. They named the multi-sensory experience “Snoezelen” - a combination of the Dutch words “doezelen” (to relax) and “snuffelen” (to seek out or explore). ## A growing concept While the Snoezelen room was used only in Europe for nearly two decades, it grew into a global movement in the 1990s. There are thousands of these spaces in more than 30 countries, reaching the U.S. in 1992 with the installation of a Snoezelen in New York City. The momentum continues to grow as people understand the positive responses brought upon by these multi-sensory spaces among people with dementia and other cognitive disorders. Not all [assisted living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) utilize the Snoezelen concept, but Áegis Living, with its dedication to improve quality of life for seniors with Alzheimer’s, takes every step possible to make residents feel at ease and at home. This is just one of the many ways that Áegis Living makes every day more enjoyable for residents through Life’s Neighborhood. Combined with Life’s Haven, the program improves life quality through aromatherapy techniques that relax the body, memory boxes stationed outside apartments that let residents share photos and other mementos with each other and Life Skills stations located throughout the community that allow seniors to engage in work, hobbies and other activities. --- ## ‘Still Alice’ draws awareness to Alzheimer’s URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/still-alice-draws-awareness-to-alzheimers-prevention/ Focus keyword: alzheimer's awareness Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, fall-prevention, brain-health, when-its-time, for-spouses Summary: Still Alice' a Julianne Moore film, exposes viewers to the difficult journey of early-onset Alzheimer's and raises awareness about the disease. Read more here. Capturing the devastation of Alzheimer’s disease on film has proven to be a difficult task, but a movie new to the screen Jan. 16 has managed to portray this struggle with compassion and tenderness: “Still Alice.” Based on the novel by Lisa Genova, the movie stars Julianne Moore as Alice Howland, a Columbia linguistics professor who begins to notice symptoms such as confusion, difficulty remembering and other signs of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). After reaching out for help, she learns that she has early-onset Alzheimer’s disease. The story brings the viewer along the difficult journey that she and her family (her husband and three children) must endure as Alice falls further into dementia - as she loses touch with her wit and intelligence and slips away into a state of confusion and fragility. Due to her extraordinary performance in “Still Alice,” Moore won a Golden Globe in the “best actress in a motion picture - drama” category. Her character gives us a look at not just the effects of Alzheimer’s, but the devastating impact it can have a women and their families. Throughout the film, executive produced by Maria Shriver whose father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, viewers watch as Alice grieves over losing touch with reality. *“**The story brings the viewer along the difficult journey that Alice must endure as she falls further into dementia - as she loses touch with her wit and intelligence and slips away into a state of confusion**.”* **Alzheimer’s and women** By allowing the viewer to experience not just sympathy but also empathy with the protagonist, “Still Alice” does much more than entertain - it raises awareness of the way that Alzheimer’s can completely devastate one’s life as well as the lives of loved ones. For women, [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) is an especially important subject, as females have a significantly higher risk of developing this cognitive condition. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, of the 5 million Americans age 65 and older diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, about 3.2 million are female while only 1.8 million are male. That makes this disease twice as prevalent among women as breast cancer, and the rate of Alzheimer’s is only expected to increase as people live longer. **Detecting the early signs of Alzheimer’s** In the film, Alice takes notice of her symptoms early on. As such, she was able to seek treatment before her condition progressed too far, and she was able to develop a plan for the future for the benefit of both herself and her family. The Alzheimer’s Association outlines [10 basic warning signs](http://www.alz.org/alzheimers_disease_10_signs_of_alzheimers.asp) of the cognitive disorder, of which an individual in the early stages of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/)may experience all or some: - Memory loss that interferes with everyday life - Difficulty making and following plans or solving problems - Issues with completing familiar tasks, such as work duties and at-home chores - Losing track of time or forgetting where you are or how you got there - Difficulty judging distance, making sense of text or differentiating colors - Trouble conversing and writing, particularly when it comes to vocabulary - Misplacing items and being unable to retrace steps - Lack of judgment skills and a tendency to make poor decisions - Withdrawal from social life, work and even family - Changes in personality and tendencies to feel anxious, depressed and suspicious in familiar settings **Prevention** When it comes to delaying the onset of Alzheimer’s disease, people can take preventative steps in order to boost brain health and strengthen cognitive function. As Dr. Shirley Newell, the chief medical officer at [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), explained during a December 2014 [interview](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/alzheimers-disease-and-its-effects-on-women/), cardiovascular health is one of the main pathways to staving off this form of dementia. “[W]hat’s good for the heart is good for the brain,” Newell said. “We know that adequate exercise, good nutrition and sleep are critical for avoiding diabetes and heart disease. We also know that it’s critical not to smoke and to avoid substance abuse, particularly alcohol.” *“Another important factor in Alzheimer’s prevention, in combination with diet and exercise, is social interaction, which has been clinically proven to enhance brain vitality.”* Researchers have yet to find a definitive cause or a cure for Alzheimer’s disease. As such, there has yet to be determined one method for defending against dementia. However, the medical community has found that a generally healthy lifestyle can lower the risk of such chronic diseases. *Diet* A review published in the Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease looked into the effectiveness of a Mediterranean diet in [preventing or delaying Alzheimer’s](http://www.researchgate.net/publication/41562346_Effectiveness_of_the_Mediterranean_diet_can_it_help_delay_or_prevent_Alzheimer's_disease). This diet, which focuses on plant-based foods, healthy fats (such as olive oil) and fish, is widely known to have immense benefits for the heart, even reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease. The researchers’ meta-analysis revealed that there is a strong link between adherence to a Mediterranean diet and a lower risk of Alzheimer’s disease, among other major chronic degenerative diseases. *Social activity* Another important factor in Alzheimer’s prevention, in combination with diet and exercise, is social interaction, which has been clinically proven to enhance brain vitality. According to the National Institutes of Health, studies have shown that [frequent social activity](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-and-dementia/preventing-alzheimers-disease-what-do-we-know) has a significant link to higher cognitive function. It’s unclear whether this brain benefit comes from the social interaction itself or factors related to it, such as intellectual stimulation that tends to come with such interaction. However, one thing is clear: Staying socially active helps to reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s. Those experiencing symptoms of depression should see a physician to determine a diagnosis, so they can take preventative measures and begin to plan for the future now. --- ## Caregiver relief: A short-term assisted living stay URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/caregiver-relief-a-short-term-assisted-living-stay/ Focus keyword: caregiver relief Category: caregiver-support Tags: depression-anxiety, respite-care, assisted-living, emotional-wellness, social-connection, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living explains that family caregivers need to recognize how stress affects all aspects of their health and how to get caregiver relief. If your mom has health issues that get to the stage where she can no longer live alone or conduct the everyday functions of life, a caregiver may need to step in. It can be an overwhelming task. Some even quit their jobs and neglect social life in order to dedicate their time fully to a family member. Not surprisingly, family caregivers often experience high levels of stress, making it important to understand and recognize how anxiety affects all aspects of health in order to avoid experiencing burn-out. **The stresses of caregiving** Providing care to a parent with growing health care needs is a huge challenge that can be physically, mentally and financially draining. 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In fact, studies have found that people who experience chronic stress tend to die at a younger age.Caring for a loved one can be rewarding but you may also need caregiver relief. **Taking a break with a short-term stay** Avoiding burning out from the stress of caregiving is important not only for your health and happiness but for the well-being of your mom. Sometimes, a person simply needs a break, and it’s important to take that time for yourself to recuperate and heal no matter how inconceivable it may be. You may feel guilty or ashamed for needing time from your mom; however, it’s important to realize that those emotions are unwarranted, and there is no shame in reaching out for help. Getting caregiver relief by taking advantage of short-term, or respite care at an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community can allow you to relax and enjoy your time with assurance that your mom is getting the care she needs. You can take this opportunity to spend time with friends and family that you’ve been missing, take care of home projects or take a much needed vacation. **Áegis Living’s short-term care options** Áegis Living communities offer a wide range of services, including short-term care options. Vacation coverage is available so that both the caregiver and the senior can enjoy some time apart for anywhere from a week to a month. A trial stay allows you time to rest and refresh while giving your mom the chance to taste the cuisine, engage in activities and make new friends. **Testing the waters of assisted living** A short-term stay can also serve as a way for a [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) to experience the assisted living community first-hand and determine if that’s the right situation for them. Many find that being around other adults their age provides a system of support that cannot be found even when surrounded by family. In these environments, they can interact with others and participate in activities and hobbies that they were once passionate about.[Áegis Living’s short-term care](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) is a great way to test the waters of assisted living, experience and become familiar with the warm, welcoming community and get some much deserved caregiver relief. --- ## Guilt and denial: Moving a parent with Alzheimer’s to memory care URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/dealing-with-guilt-when-moving-parent-to-memory-care/ Focus keyword: memory care Category: family-communication Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, emotional-wellness, safety-at-home, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: Transitioning a loved one to memory care can bring up guilt. Learn how to overcome denial and choose a safe environment at Áegis Living. When Alzheimer’s disease advances, choosing memory care becomes essential as the progressive condition affects the mind, leading to memory loss, confusion, and poor judgment. These changes pose great challenges for the friends and family who care for the individual, often eliciting deep feelings of sadness, anger, frustration, and fear among the children of these seniors. When it is time to decide if your parent needs more care you can’t provide, children often experience guilt over moving a parent to a nursing home, or an assisted living community such as Áegis Living. This can be detrimental to the health and safety of the parent, so it’s important to deal with these emotions and move through them. ### Recognizing and coping with denial When a senior begins to show symptoms of dementia, such as difficulty remembering or confusion, it can easy to dismiss these as simple forgetfulness that comes with getting older. Even after a parent is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, their children may be afflicted with denial, stuck with the feeling that their mother or father will simply snap out of it. It’s important to recognize one’s own denial before an incident occurs that brings harm to the parent or causes a person with Alzheimer’s to hurt someone else. Driving, for example, can be very dangerous for a person with dementia, as they may have trouble recalling right-of-way rules, become lost in their own neighborhoods or hit a pedestrian in a bout of confusion. Unfortunately, in the same way someone with Alzheimer’s can’t snap out of it, neither can a person dealing with denial. The coping mechanism is a way of protecting yourself from the truth about a very severe situation, and it can be beneficial in the short-term, allowing you time to adjust. But prolonged denial can be detrimental to your parent’s health if it causes you to put off taking the right steps toward helping him or her cope with the condition. If you feel stuck or have been told by someone you trust that you may be in denial, it might be time to take a step back, reassess the situation and be honest with yourself about the fears causing you to experience denial. It may help to consider what negative consequences can occur if you don’t take action. Then allow yourself to express your fears, such as in one of these ways: - **Start a journal**: Writing about your emotions and experiences can be very therapeutic. Seeing details about your situation displayed on paper can allow you to distance yourself and see things in a new light. - **Talk it out**: Open up to a loved one or trusted friend about the fears you’re feeling. Simply by listening, he or she may be able to help you shed light on underlying causes of your emotions. Sometimes, hearing yourself say something out loud can allow you to better understand the reality of situation. - **Join a support group**: Surrounding yourself with others in your situation can make it easier to cope with denial and move past it. As you hear others’ stories about dealing with a parent with Alzheimer’s, you may begin to let your guard down, accept that your parent has dementia and take steps to improve his or her life. ### Understanding and overcoming guilt Most [family caregivers](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) must make a tough choice at some point - to put a parent in an assisted living community or care for him or her at home. This can muster up intense feelings of guilt for a number of reasons. Children may feel regret for how they treated their parents before diagnosis - before they knew it was dementia causing cognitive dysfunction - or for feeling trapped and resentful after diagnosis. They may feel at fault for wanting more time for themselves, wishing the whole thing was over or not visiting often enough. One of the biggest sources of guilt is the feeling that the family caregiver is not doing a good enough job and that someone else could do better. The idea of placing a parent in an assisted living community enhances this negative feeling, as many children consider it a form of abandonment. It’s essential to recognize that this guilt, though a normal part of dealing with Alzheimer’s, is undeserved. When one’s head is clouded with emotions, it can be difficult to see that a specialized environment is necessary for the health and happiness of the parent. If you’re beating yourself up over placing your parent in an assisted living community, consider these solutions: *Find new ways to show care* If you’re used to being responsible for the health and safety of your parent, it can be hard to let go and allow someone else to take over these duties. Remind yourself that placing your parent in the hands of trained and compassionate individuals isn’t a form of giving up, it’s a different way of caring for your parent. You can fight feelings of guilt by contributing to the health and happiness of your parent in different manners, such as by bring the morning newspaper each day, stopping by for dinner or calling to say goodnight each evening. You can also maintain an active role in your parent’s health care by keeping open lines of communication with his or her clinicians. *Visit an assisted living community* Concern over the level of care a parent will receive can be a major source of guilt, so take some time to really get to know the environment your mother or father will be living in. Stop by an [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community to discover the truth about this setting, which is specially tailored to help people with Alzheimer’s stay physically, emotionally and mentally healthy as well as maintain cognitive function. By experiencing it first-hand, you can find relief knowing that Áegis isn’t a place seniors go to finish their last days, but a place to embrace life and make the most of each day. --- ## Infographic: Is Alzheimer’s Disease More Common in Males or Females? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/alzheimers-disease-and-its-effects-on-women/ Focus keyword: women and alzheimer's Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, for-caregivers, for-seniors, depression-anxiety Summary: Áegis Living discusses why women are at a higher risk of Alzheimer's and what they can do to prevent the onset of Alzheimer's. Read more here. Is Alzheimer’s disease more common in males or females? According to the Alzheimer’s Association, of the [more than 5 million people](http://www.alz.org/alzheimers_disease_facts_and_figures.asp#women) 65 and older who have been diagnosed with this form of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/), 1.8 million are male while the other 3.2 million are female. That means that nearly two-thirds of [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) in the U.S. who have Alzheimer’s are women. It’s twice as prevalent as breast cancer in females, a shocking fact considering that the rate of Alzheimer’s is expected to continue to grow rapidly as the baby boomer generation gets older. While it’s irrefutable that the female population is more severely affected by dementia than men, the medical community is still largely baffled about the precise relationship between women and Alzheimer’s. Dr. Shirley Newell, Chief Medical Officer at Áegis Living, offers insights into this perplexing subject. ### Q. Why are women at a higher risk of Alzheimer’s than men? ***Answer:***First of all, it’s been known for a long time that women are more prone to get Alzheimer’s than men. It was thought to be related to the fact that women live longer, but when they really looked at it, it turns out that people who are the equivalent age, like in their 80s, there’s really not a higher proportion of women than men. There could be multiple reasons, and there’s been a lot of hypotheses about why more women have Alzheimer’s than men. One thing they know from the genetics standpoint is that women who carry the APOE e4 gene - and about 20 percent of the population has this in varying degrees - are more prone. There’s equal chance of men and women having this gene, but the women who carry it are much more likely to get Alzheimer’s. They also know that certain factors make them much more vulnerable to getting the disease. It may be related to estrogen but it’s unsure just how it’s related to estrogen. Some of the trials have found that estrogen replacement by itself without progesterone actually made women more vulnerable to Alzheimer’s. But then again, the timing of the estrogen is important. It’s when they get estrogen right as they go into menopause that it seems to mitigate the risk somewhat. Whereas if they take estrogen later in the course of their menopause it doesn’t really seen to help. Certain forms of estrogen certainly are worse for women, such as Premarin, which is an older form of estrogen that women used to get. It may have to do with the way that they burn energy in their brains and the way their brain metabolism is structured. It may be related to depression, because there’s a higher percentage of women with depression than men. There’s a lot of relationships out there but no hard facts. ### Q. How does Alzheimer’s affect women differently when it comes to caregiving? ***Answer:***Women are about 60 percent of the caregivers for people who are suffering from Alzheimer’s. They tend to hold onto the people they care for longer, and it’s a challenge for them both physically and professionally. Often, they’re working women and they may have to call in more because they have emergencies that arise, they’re often late to work and they have to take time off. Many of them have to leave their careers. Often times they have children as well to take care of, so there’s a so-called “sandwich generation” - caring for their older parents as well as their younger families, so this is an additional burden. Financially, they have more stress, especially if they’re caring for a husband who was disabled early on or at a younger age before they were in retirement. They may not have the financial resources to cope if they have to stay home and not work. And there’s the emotional burden because they’re oftentimes isolated in their homes with the people they’re caring for. They may not have community or family resources to rely on and no one to rely on for respite care. Also, just physically, they’re unable to keep up with the demands of giving full care to somebody who may need help with lifting, toileting and bathing, especially if they don’t have any additional help in the household. ### Q. What should women be doing to take care of themselves and prevent the onset of Alzheimer’s? ***Answer:***Women can focus on prevention - what’s good for the heart is good for the brain. We know that adequate exercise, good nutrition and sleep are critical for avoiding diabetes and heart disease. We also know that it’s critical not to smoke and to avoid substance abuse, particularly alcohol. So these things can promote brain fitness. We also know that building up a cognitive reserve for women, especially with active lifetime learning - there are certain types of learning that are better than others - can build up a reserve so that the disease is less devastating once it is established. 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Living a happy, healthy life is about more than just medical care, which is why Áegis Living commits itself to reinventing the way [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/)are treated in [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) environments. With a mission based on compassion, Áegis’ 30 communities are dedicated to making a difference in the lives of every senior they serve, providing a combination of health care services, comfortable living and the opportunities and encouragement to live their golden years to the fullest. Áegis Living communities offer a variety of lifestyle options and levels of care, and care plans evolve with the changing needs of each resident. Along with the many amenities and features to keep seniors happy, healthy and content, Áegis Living has these customizable care options: ## Assisted living When seniors can no longer live on their own, Áegis Living environments offer care and assistance while still allowing for a degree of independence. Each apartment is designed for optimal comfort and security, and a trained staff is available at all hours of the day to attend to the needs of seniors. Apartments are tidied up and everyday chores, such as laundry, are taken care of by an attentive staff, and there’s even a full-time concierge on duty waiting to handle residents’ special needs. Perhaps most importantly, medical staff are located on-site to make sure seniors [health and wellness](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) remain a top priority. In fact, a full-time licensed nurse is available to help seniors oversee their medication regimens on a daily basis, and every apartment has an emergency call system with wireless call buttons so that help is always the tap of a finger away. In cases when residents need to see a medical professional off-site, they can take advantage of scheduled transportation services to safely deliver them to the outpatient facility and back home. In addition to these essentials, Áegis goes above and beyond to make sure every day is an enjoyable and rewarding experience for seniors. Trained culinary professionals create nutritional menus aimed at promoting cardiovascular health, cognitive function and other aspects necessary for a long and vigorous life, and snacks and refreshing beverages are available throughout the day. Each community even has a private dining room so that friends and family can join residents for intimate meals. ## [Memory care](/services/memory-care/) Áegis Living communities have been carefully developed and staff have been extensively trained to meet the very specific needs of people with Alzheimer’s. This form of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/)requires specialized memory care to help them maintain and even improve cognitive function. The licensed nurses and caregivers are experienced in recognizing the signs when a person with Alzheimer’s is agitated and helping him or her ease the symptoms and find a place of calm. The memory care plan also incorporates health-boosting initiatives such as specialized menus to boost vitamin levels and strengthen the immune system, both of which can improve physical and mental health. This program also incorporates a plethora of small but very effective features for improving the lives and brain health of those with dementia. For example, activities are scheduled daily that stimulate residents mentally and physically while helping soothe the effects of Alzheimer’s disease. There’s also a graduated closet rack that lets seniors dress themselves each morning by allowing them to remove each piece of clothing in the proper order. Another highlight of the memory care program at Áegis Living is Life’s Neighborhood. This nationally recognized program is designed to reduce anxiety and stress levels by providing a familiar environment that recalls seniors’ heydays and incited a warm sense of nostalgia. The shared spaces resemble family homes from the 1940s and 1950s, antiques give the space an old-fashioned appeal and music from the bygone era fills the air. Life skills stations allow seniors to engage in activities that they once enjoyed in their youth, memory boxes let residents share photos and old mementos with others in the community, and specialized lighting fixtures are designed to eliminate irregular sleep patterns and, in effect, promote cognitive health. ## Specialized care Seniors also have the opportunity to experience [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)communities first-hand in a variety of different ways. The specialized care options include: - **Short-term care**: Respite care is available for seniors who only need to stay temporarily. This is an excellent option for when a caregiver goes on vacation or to give seniors a trial stay to see how they enjoy the assisted living community. - **Day stays**: When an at-home caregiver is at work, seniors can spend the day enjoying the activities, delicious food and delightful company at an Áegis Living community. 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Hospice services are provided in addition to basic care, and staff will meet with a hospice provider chosen by the resident to create a coordinated care plan for the senior. --- ## How Áegis Living amenities enhance senior lifestyles URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/aegis-living-amenities-for-enhancing-senior-comfort/ Focus keyword: assisted living amenities Category: aegis-stories Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, nutrition, social-connection, moving-in, for-seniors Summary: Many assisted living communities focus solely on health care. After all, making sure residents are healthy is the most important aspect of these centers… Many [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) communities focus solely on health care. After all, making sure residents are healthy is the most important aspect of these centers. 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That’s why Áegis Living provides transportation services led by experienced, trustworthy drivers. These services can also be used to run errands, meet up with friends and family members and go on special outings. ### Pet-friendly living At most Áegis Living communities, residents are welcome to bring their furry friends to share their new home. Birds, cats, dogs and even fish can provide seniors with a special kind of comfort, and these these companions can be of great benefit to people with Alzheimer’s. As the Alzheimer’s Project notes, pets can help ease the apathy, depression, reclusion and loneliness that often come with this form of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). ### Movie theater Entertainment is rarely a consideration among the traditional assisted living community. 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While traditional [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) communities focus on keeping [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) physically healthy, Áegis Living commits itself not only to helping those with Alzheimer’s feel safe and comfortable and find meaning in the later years of life but also to improving cognitive function. Áegis communities implement a variety of tactics for enhancing brain function, from mind-healthy diet plans to daily games that stimulate gray matter. Seattle’s Áegis Living Madison community even has its own Brain Exercise Center, a space for working out one’s brain much like one would exercise their muscles. ### How does the****Brain Exercise Center****work? The aim of the Brain Exercise Center is to keep the mind strong, healthy and sharp. It utilizes technology - software and brain-stimulating programs clinically proven to enhance memory retention in those who stick to the curriculum. As Madison’s general manager explained in an interview, it utilized two main elements: Dakim and Saido, both of which have a neuroscience basis. Each aims to increase brain neuroplasticity and the mind’s ability to process new information as well as the speed at which it works. It’s about recall, and though the results have been anecdotal, those who utilize the software on a regular basis seem to maintain their sharpness. ### More about Dakim Dakim BrainFitness is a computerized system that was developed in the U.S. and geared toward improving the aging brain. It focuses on improving cognitive function in two essential areas: memory retention and language ability. Seniors complete a series of web-based brain exercises - intellectually-challenging brain games of more than 100 different types and thousands of individual exercises that incorporate music, video, graphics and a Boomer-focused sense of humor. They focus on a range of skills, including language, problem-solving visual spatial processing, calculation and both short- and long-term memory. Among the many benefits Dakim can provide are the abilities to: - More easily remember facts, names and faces - Conduct complex calculations in one’s head - More rapidly organize one’s thoughts - Process a larger number of thoughts and ideas at one time - Evaluate data and make decisions is less time The positive effects of the Dakim program have been tested and proven in a clinical setting. Researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles, School of Medicine conducted a study that looked into how these computerized exercises affect the Alzheimer’s brain. The study involved 84 participants from retirement communities in Southern California, half of which completed 40 sessions of the Dakim training program within a two-month period. The other half was the control group and put on a waiting list to partake in the BrainFitness program. Neuropsychological testing at the end of this period showed that those who engaged in the exercises for two months had significantly improved delayed memory time, immediate memory and language skills. ### More about Saido Developed in Japan by the Kumon Institute of Education, Saido is a system of reading, writing and basic math that helps secure “working memory” in the prefrontal cortex. It has been successfully used for more than a dozen years at assisted living communities throughout Japan, working to reverse and slow [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/). It engages participants in simple yet precise exercises that stimulate the frontal lobe and, in effect, improve the learner’s ability to retain new memories. The three-part program at Áegis Living Madison is based on this clinically tested system. The triad of components are geared toward the Alzheimer’s brain and consist of: - **Reading**: Any out-loud reading at whatever level of proficiency the senior is at, generally involving fun or inspirational quotes relative to the day - **Writing**: Hand-written print in the form of a post card to a loved on or simply a journal entry - the staff generate questions about seniors’ thoughts to give them inspiration to write, such as “What are the best memories you’ve had in travel? What makes you smile the most?” - **Math**: The math problems are generally not harder than a second-grade level, and the focus in not about getting the answer right but rather about going through the mental process of trying to find the solution. When done on a regular and continuous basis, these exercises have yielded excellent results. As far as the math problems, the act of solving an equation stimulates the memory to recall the proper way to come to the correct answer. “Everyone has gone through at least some basic schooling, and if that recall is still in their brain, then we have a positive connection with some historic memories that allows for the brain to start saying, ‘Oh wait a second, I remember this,’ and start revving up. It affects the working memory - memory that has some history to it - that then seems to have a positive overlay on the overall brain functioning in different areas. It starts in one area and has a positive impact on more parts of the brain.” ### Getting seniors motivated The Brain Exercise Center is open to all seniors on a voluntary basis - no one is required to complete the brain-boosting programs. However, the staff at Áegis Living encourage residents to take an active role in maintaining cognitive function and reward those who do: Seniors who complete the brain fitness program receive $50 of Mad Money, a form of currency that residents can use to purchase items at Áegis Living. For example, the Seattle location held a live, on-site auction with a real auctioneer, and seniors were able to bid on and purchase items with their Mad Money. ### Other Áegis Living initiatives for brain health At [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), brain exercise is paramount. The staff work with experienced cognitive health experts to help seniors their gray matter supple, healthy and active. The Brain Exercise Center is part of this effort, but there’s much more to the brain fitness initiative. Along with keeping the heart working at top capacity through hydration and healthy eating, these communities encourage other brain-boosting activities, such as social interaction through clubs, hobbies and other personal interests as well as the pursuit of life goals for greater fulfillment and mental stimulation. --- ## Áegis testimonial interview with Susan Williams URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/aegis-testimonial-interview-with-susan-williams/ Focus keyword: daughters search for assisted living Category: family-communication Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, nutrition, exercise-fitness, costs-funding, for-caregivers Summary: The progression of issues such as dementia, Alzheimer’s disease or arthritis may limit a person’s ability to live independently, requiring the need for… The progression of issues such as [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/), Alzheimer’s disease or arthritis may limit a person’s ability to live independently, requiring the need for assistance with daily living responsibilities. In some cases, an adult child may choose to care for their parent, but at some point, their loved one may require professional care that only an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community can provide. For Susan Williams and her sister, Julie - who was acting as caregiver for their father - that moment came when their dad needed more help than they could provide. “The job of attending to Dad’s needs were becoming too great for her and we decided to move him from Idaho to Redmond where I live,” Williams said in an e-mail interview. “The closest assisted living facility would be a 45-minute drive one way for my sister and it just made sense to have him 3 miles from me rather than 50 miles from her. Besides, it is such a privilege for me to be able to see him most days and just visit.” Initially, Williams’s father was apprehensive about the move, as were she and her sister. However, their dad’s doctor discussed the move with him after seeing pictures of Áegis at Marymoor, and told their father that this was the best course of action. The physician recommended that he no longer drive, and said he needed every-day care due to his issues with food. Williams’ father can no longer eat whole foods, but the staff at Áegis Living has done a wonderful job making sure that his meals are tasty - just the way he likes them. Her father constantly talks with her about how much he enjoys his pureed meals, which is certainly a compliment coming from a real foodie. “He has no complaints with the food which has made his transition even better,” Williams said. “He has even put weight back on since he was unable to keep food down. Dad cannot live on his own and this facility has done an amazing job of welcoming Dad to his new way of life.” When it was time to make a choice, Williams chose Áegis Living because it was conveniently located near her home, and it provided the individualized attention her father needed, especially during those first few transition months. “Everything done at this facility has shown my dad and our family that it is so high class and the entire staff wants the best for their residents,” Williams said. Since the move, Williams noted that her father has been very happy residing at Áegis, and she is able to see him often, as she is welcome to come as go as she likes. In fact, since his move, her dad has seen improvements in his health. She said that he’s better about remembering current experiences, and that being around the people and receiving proper nutrition has had a positive effect on his health. Additionally, the feeling of being at home allows the residents to really relax here because they are comfortable. “[Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) gives a homey feeling to anyone walking in,” she said. “Yes, it is an assisted living facility but every aspect of the community is high class, giving the feeling of home to its residents and visitors.” --- ## Get to Know Dr. Shirley Newell, Chief Medical Officer at Áegis Living URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/get-to-know-dr-shirley-newell-chief-medical-officer-at-aegis-living/ Focus keyword: chief medical officer Category: aegis-stories Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, emotional-wellness, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living's Chief Medical Officer Dr. Shirley Newell ensures quality care by implementing advanced care programming and wellness practices. Read more here. Áegis Living is dedicated to transforming the way people see [senior housing](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) by providing those with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) stress-free, comfortable environments that foster a healthy lifestyle and assist with cognitive retention. The company has been a pioneer in the industry since its establishment in 1997 thanks largely to the talented and compassionate professionals who are committed to the happiness and wellness of the Alzheimer’s residents that grace these communities. One such professional is Dr. Shirley Newell, who has worked in geriatrics for the majority of her professional career. ## Newell’s Role at Áegis Living As the Chief Medical Officer at Áegis Living, Dr. Shirley Newell fills a key leadership role. In short, she ensures the quality of resident care programs by implementing advanced care programming and wellness practices. But it’s much more complex and unprecedented than it sounds. In fact, the position actually didn’t exist before Newell came along. Áegis Living realized that, with increasing acuity in its [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) communities, there was need for a medical presence. So Newell, chosen for her deep knowledge and extensive experience, was recruited to the team. She quickly determined what the organizations’ needs were and how she could best apply her skills to meet those needs, and she began the difficult process of developing her own role while building a resident care management team, which she now oversees. While she does some work from her office in Redmond, Washington, Newell - who is married to a neurosurgeon and the mother of two college-aged daughters - spends much of her time out in the field, traveling all over Washington and California as well as other parts of the country. In fact, she’s a jack of all trades. “It’s probably the most diversified job I’ve ever had,” Newell told us during an interview. As the chief medical officer, she is involved in the executive team, doing some strategic planning and implementing corporate ideas. But she also does a variety of administrative duties, managing her department to oversee care for 30-plus communities. She handles staffing, education and training of her immediate staff and nurses as well as other layers of care, such as general and care managers in addition to non-medical personnel. Newell is involved in medical informatics, where she focuses on bringing the organization’s medical systems up to speed, and she does a lot of regulatory and oversight work - when there’s a regulatory issue, she works closely with regional nurses and regulatory experts to figure out how they can problem solve to resolve issues. One of her recent feats is the creation of a new corporate care director position who trains, manages and educates care managers - the people who are front-line staff and do most of the hands-on care with the residents. “It’s a very important position that’s been created that I support,” Newell explained. “We’re really trying to enforce that care director role, because they have such an important impact on resident care.” ## Newell’s Impressive Experience It’s no surprise that Áegis Living sought out Newell for this role. She’s one of the most respected names in the field and has extensive experience - she worked in health care for more than 30 years before joining the Áegis team and has a background in urgent and tertiary care, psychiatry and research, and Newell has worked as staff and in leadership roles in multiple nursing centers. After earning her bachelor’s degree in psychology, master’s in biology and medical degree, she completed an internal medicine residency and geriatrics fellowship at the University of Oregon. Newell then began her career at Providence Health & Services and Swedish Health Services followed by the University of Washington Belltown Clinic, serving as a primary care and geriatrics physician for more than a decade before working as medical director of Symetra Financial for nearly seven years. A little-known fact about Newell is that she has personal experience with Alzheimer’s: She housed and cared for her mother-in-law who lives with a slowly progressing form of the condition. Now 96, she lives in a nursing home back east - she became unable to receive care in-home due to her physical constraints. Newell’s up-close experience caring for her loved one during this time gave her a unique perspective. “I had always known about Alzheimer’s and cared for people with Alzheimer’s, but personalizing it made so much difference in terms of my ability not only to empathize but in terms of my motivation to deal with the disease.” ## Newell’s Achievements at Áegis Living One of the feats that Newell is most proud of is her push toward medicalization, which includes the presence of physicians at the centers. When she was first recruited, Newell didn’t quite realize why they would even need a physician such as herself in an assisted living environment, which has the reputation of being housing for people with disabilities rather than a place for improving the lives of those with Alzheimer’s, so she was taken aback when she learned of the type of in-depth, comprehensive care that Áegis Living provides. “I’ve been a geriatrician my entire working life,” she said. “But I had no idea what was involved in this … the complexity of some of the problems that some of our residents experience is quite dramatic, and we provide an environment that’s not only safe but nurturing and rich in its complexity and its support.” Qualified medical providers from prestigious institutions come to the communities and visit Alzheimer’s residents in their apartments, which is not just an advantage, but necessary for those who have trouble getting out to see a physician. Additionally, though Newell doesn’t take credit for it, a big advancement that she has recognized since her time at [Áegis](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) is the development of the lifestyle enrichment program, which has been created with the help of a professional active in recreational programs for the cruise industry. “That’s a very innovative program designed around not just entertaining people but working on the four pillars of, basically, lifestyle enhancement, which include - not exclusively - mental, spiritual, physical and emotional well being,” she said. When asked what the highlight of the job is, Newell expressed the feeling of contentment that comes with this line of work. “The same feeling that everybody gets here: That it’s meaningful work and that we’re making a difference in the lives of the people that we serve,” she said. “There’s so much room for innovation and improvement, and we just embrace that as a company. People are excited about new ideas and creativity, and [the staff] are also really hungry for medical knowledge and information, so the staff is just very receptive for whatever I have to offer.” ## So, what’s in the future for the resident care programs at Áegis? “We’re going to continue to improve and refine our care and our model of care to be able to deliver the services that are going to be needed by an increasingly complex and high acuity population,” Newell explained. “The challenges ahead are huge for this country and for the world in terms of our aging seniors and especially the challenges of memory care.” --- ## Healthy eating for mental wellness URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/healthy-eating-for-mental-wellness/ Focus keyword: proper nutrition Category: healthy-aging Tags: alzheimers, nutrition, brain-health, for-seniors, exercise-fitness, sleep, fall-prevention Summary: Eating healthy can lead to mental wellness. Read about how we make proper nutrition a focus of specialized care plans for people with Alzheimer's disease. We all know the foods we eat have an effect on every part of the body. A balanced, nutritious diet provides you with energy for physical activity but also promotes cognitive function, a healthy sleep schedule and better control over your emotions. Poor eating habits can lead to mental and physical weariness, difficulty remembering and trouble concentrating. That’s why proper nutrition is essential for people with Alzheimer’s disease and why Áegis Living makes it a focus. Learn about how good nutrition can promote mental function in people with Alzheimer’s and how Áegis Living provides seniors with healthy and appetizing meals. ### Nutrition and the Alzheimer’s brain People with Alzheimer’s often have trouble maintaining good nutrition. Some simply don’t remember to eat according to a healthy diet, while others may forget that they have already eaten and end up consuming too many calories. Additionally, as cognitive function declines, it can become more difficult to choose the right foods due to the overwhelming number of options, and medications can also cause a loss of appetite. But poor nutrition in people with Alzheimer’s disease can augment the behavioral symptoms, worsening memory, concentration and emotional control. It can even lead to weight loss that leaves the senior frail and low on energy. A diet that is good for the Alzheimer’s brain is one that keeps the heart healthy, thereby encouraging blood flow throughout the body and to the brain. It should also provide the brain with the right balance of nutrients, including sugar (not too much or too little), protein and vitamins, so that it can function at its full capacity. Áegis Living fights poor nutrition by following guidelines for an eating regimen that benefits the gray matter. A proper diet should: - **Include a variety of foods from all the food groups**. Daily meals should have a colorful array of fruits and vegetables, lean proteins, whole grains and dairy products that are low in fat. This ensures that the brain receives a diversity of vitamins and nutrients - according to the Alzheimer’s Association, research has suggested that vitamins E, C, B12 and folate may be effective in lowering the risk of developing Alzheimer’s disease. - **Be low in cholesterol and saturated fats**. While some fat is necessary for staying energized and healthy, saturated fats can increase the blood’s cholesterol levels, which can narrow the arteries and restrict blood flow to the brain. Meals should be light on fatty meats, lard, butter and shortening. - **Contain minimal refined sugars**. You won’t find processed foods, which are generally high in refined sugars, at Áegis Living communities. These sweeteners are high in calories but lack the vitamins necessary to keep the brain functioning properly. That’s why seniors are given healthier options to tame their desire for sugar, such as fruit, real juice and baked goods made with fresh, organic ingredients. Even the hydration stations offer water naturally sweetened with fruit, which can satisfy a sweet tooth while promoting hydration among seniors. - **Have low sodium levels**. Americans generally include too much sodium in their diets, which is a major factor in the epidemic of high blood pressure in the U.S. For seniors with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/), it’s especially important to keep a healthy blood pressure level to keep the blood flowing steadily to the brain. ### Áegis Living strives to provide and teach good nutrition At Áegis Living, eating healthy doesn’t mean seniors have to sacrifice flavor. Too often, [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) communities focus solely on nutrition and let the artistry of cooking fall to the wayside, which leaves seniors with bland and boring meals. This is quite a conundrum, since it’s difficult to get any person to eat something that’s unappealing to the senses. But at Áegis Living communities culinary artists create menu plans that are both tasty and diverse. All senses and flavors are taken into account - sweet, sour, bitter, salty and umami - to give seniors a multifarious eating experience. The dining areas are designed to create a comfortable yet fine dining environment, and the common eating space encourages socialization, making breakfast, lunch and dinner something to enjoy. These three delicious meals are carefully crafted to include fresh fruits, vegetables, meats, fish and grains to meet the unique nutritional requirements of people with Alzheimer’s. Seniors also receive snacks and beverages throughout the day to keep their energy up. #### *Specialized diets* Professional dietitians also strive to meet the dietary needs of those with special conditions. Seniors with diabetes, for example, receive the services they need to maintain healthy blood sugar levels from full-time nursing staff who are trained in administering medications as well as monitoring seniors on specialty diets. Diabetic residents receive glucose checks and can learn from dietitian specialists. #### Sample the Menu Cooking healthy meals to improve wellness among seniors is not as easy as it looks. Each month, [Áegis Living communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) develop unique menus based on the needs and tastes of their residents, keeping in mind that a wide variety of nutrients is necessary to keep the Alzheimer’s brain healthy and happy. Along with offering delicious options such as Waldorf chicken salad, beef tenderloin provencal and the barbecue pulled pork hoagie, the menu highlights the healthier options available throughout the month, narrowing the options so make the decision of what to eat easier. A sample menu includes: - King salmon filet served with rustic ratatouille, couscous and basil pesto. It’s served with chips or a side salad. - Shredded teriyaki chicken tacos topped with shredded carrot, cilantro, scallion and sesame aioli. They come with a refreshing green salad. - Áegis panzanella salad made with heirloom tomatoes, cucumber, red onion, arugula, croutons and a red wine vinaigrette. - Prosciutto-wrapped melon and brie cheese with summer berries, mint syrup and rosemary crackers. - The signature dining room Caesar salad made from crisp Romaine lettuce and topped with homemade croutons and Parmesan cheese. Seniors can choose to add grilled chicken breast for added protein. - Chicken salad sandwich with rotisserie chicken, tarragon aioli, grapes, celery, lettuce and tomato. It’s served with a choice of chips or a side salad. --- ## When Is the Best Time of Day to Take Medications? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-best-time-of-day-for-administering-medications/ Focus keyword: medications Category: healthy-aging Tags: dementia, nutrition, medication-management, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: Discover the best time of day to take blood pressure, cholesterol, and osteoporosis medications. A caregiver's guide to chronotherapy and senior medication timing. The time of day your parent takes a medication can change how well it works, how safely it absorbs, and how likely it is to cause side effects. Blood pressure pills often work best at night, bisphosphonates require an empty stomach at dawn, and some statins are more effective at bedtime. This guide explains why timing matters, which drug classes are most sensitive to it, and how caregivers can build a safer daily schedule. ## Why does the time of day change how a medication works? Your body runs on a roughly 24-hour circadian rhythm that controls blood pressure, hormone release, digestion, body temperature, and immune activity. The field that studies how this rhythm interacts with drugs is called *chronotherapy*, and the National Institute of General Medical Sciences notes that nearly half of the body's genes follow daily cycles ([National Institute of General Medical Sciences](https://www.nigms.nih.gov/education/fact-sheets/Pages/circadian-rhythms), 2023). Older adults are especially sensitive to timing because polypharmacy is common. Roughly 1 in 3 adults aged 60 to 79 in the United States takes five or more prescription drugs ([Centers for Disease Control and Prevention](https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db347.htm), 2019). As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, prescribing for older adults requires attention to how aging organs metabolize drugs differently than younger bodies do, including across the day. Good timing reduces interactions, side effects, and missed doses. ## Which medications are most sensitive to timing? Below is a quick reference for the drug classes where timing has the clearest impact. Always confirm with your parent's prescribing physician or pharmacist before changing a schedule. ConditionDrug classBest timeWhy OsteoporosisBisphosphonates (alendronate, risedronate)Morning, empty stomach, 30-60 min before foodFood and minerals block absorption High blood pressureACE inhibitors, ARBs, calcium channel blockersOften bedtime (ask doctor)Aligns with overnight BP dipping High cholesterolShort-acting statins (simvastatin, lovastatin)EveningLiver makes most cholesterol overnight Thyroid (hypothyroid)LevothyroxineMorning, 30-60 min before foodCalcium, iron, coffee reduce absorption Type 2 diabetesMetforminWith mealsReduces GI upset Insomnia or anxietySedatives, certain antihistaminesBedtime onlyDaytime use raises fall risk ## Key terms every caregiver should know ChronotherapyScheduling a medication to match the body's biological rhythms for maximum benefit and fewer side effects. PolypharmacyRoutine use of five or more medications, which raises the risk of harmful interactions, especially in adults over 65. BioavailabilityThe fraction of a dose that actually reaches the bloodstream. Food, time of day, and other drugs can change it. Trough and peakThe lowest (trough) and highest (peak) drug levels in the blood between doses. Some medications work only if the trough stays high enough. ## How should you handle blood pressure medications? About 48% of US adults have hypertension, and the share rises sharply after age 65 (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2023). Blood pressure naturally dips overnight; when that dip disappears, stroke and heart-attack risk climb. The American Heart Association notes that bedtime dosing of certain antihypertensives may improve overnight control for some patients, though current guidance is to follow your prescriber's individualized recommendation ([American Heart Association](https://www.heart.org/en/health-topics/high-blood-pressure), 2024). Consider a family whose 78-year-old mother takes lisinopril every morning but still spikes to 165/95 at her cardiology visits. Her physician shifts the dose to 8 p.m., adds a home BP cuff, and asks for two-week readings. That kind of guided change, not a self-directed swap, is the safe path. ## What about statins, thyroid pills, and bone medications? Short-acting statins like simvastatin and lovastatin are most effective when taken in the evening, because the liver synthesizes the majority of cholesterol overnight ([Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/22282-statins), 2024). Long-acting statins (atorvastatin, rosuvastatin) work at any time of day. Bisphosphonates for osteoporosis are notoriously picky. The Mayo Clinic instructs patients to take them with a full glass of plain water after waking, then remain upright and avoid food, coffee, or other pills for at least 30 to 60 minutes ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/osteoporosis/in-depth/osteoporosis-treatment/art-20046869), 2024). Levothyroxine for hypothyroidism follows a similar empty-stomach rule. For example, an 82-year-old who takes her weekly alendronate with her morning coffee and calcium chew will absorb almost none of the drug, then wonder why her bone density keeps falling. ## How can caregivers build a safer medication routine? Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families that routine, not willpower, is what keeps medication regimens working as cognition declines. A predictable rhythm, paired with visible cues, prevents both missed and double doses. - **Schedule a brown-bag review.** Once a year, bring every bottle, supplement, and over-the-counter product to your parent's primary care doctor or pharmacist. The AARP recommends this annual check to flag interactions and duplicates ([AARP](https://www.aarp.org/health/drugs-supplements/), 2024). - **Build a written timing chart.** List each drug, the dose, the time, and whether to take with or without food. - **Use a weekly pill organizer with AM/PM rows.** Refill it the same day each week. - **Set two alarms.** One on a phone, one on a kitchen clock or smart speaker. - **Track missed doses in a notebook.** Patterns reveal whether the schedule itself needs adjusting. - **Re-review after any hospital stay.** Discharge orders frequently change long-standing prescriptions. Nutrition matters as much as timing. See our guides on [the nutritional needs of seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/nutritional-needs-of-seniors/) and [eating smart for your head and your heart](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/eat-smart-for-your-head-and-your-heart/) for foods that interact with common medications. Daily movement helps too. Pair a steady medication routine with the [5 Safe Exercises for Seniors: A Doctor-Backed Guide](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-five-safe-exercises-for-seniors/), gentle practices like [tai chi](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/practicing-tai-chi/), and the broader habits in our [10 longevity tips for a better life](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-longevity-tips-for-a-better-life/). ## When should you call the doctor or pharmacist? Call the same day if your parent experiences new dizziness, fainting, severe heartburn, muscle pain, confusion, or unexplained bleeding after a medication change. The Food and Drug Administration's MedWatch program also accepts reports of suspected side effects ([U.S. Food and Drug Administration](https://www.fda.gov/safety/medwatch-fda-safety-information-and-adverse-event-reporting-program), 2024). Never stop a heart, seizure, or steroid medication abruptly without medical guidance. ## Get help managing complex medication schedules If juggling six bottles and three time slots has become exhausting, you are not alone. Áegis Living's licensed nurses and care teams build personalized medication schedules that respect each resident's biology, diet, and dementia-care needs. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk with a care advisor. ## Frequently asked questions ### Is it safe to change the time my parent takes a medication? Not without checking first. Even a shift of a few hours can change how well a drug controls blood pressure, blood sugar, or cholesterol. Call the prescribing doctor or pharmacist before adjusting any schedule. ### Should blood pressure medications be taken at night? Sometimes, but not always. Some patients benefit from bedtime dosing because BP naturally dips overnight, but the right time depends on the specific drug, kidney function, and fall risk. Ask your prescriber to individualize it. ### Why must bisphosphonates be taken on an empty stomach? Calcium, iron, coffee, juice, and food bind to the medication and block absorption. Taking it with plain water after waking, then waiting 30 to 60 minutes before eating, allows enough drug to reach the bone. ### What is the safest way to remember multiple medications? Use a weekly pill organizer with separate AM and PM compartments, set repeating alarms, and post a printed schedule on the refrigerator. For people with memory loss, a caregiver or community nurse should handle the actual administration. ### Can supplements and vitamins interfere with prescriptions? Yes. Calcium, magnesium, iron, St. John's wort, fish oil, and grapefruit juice all interact with common senior medications. Bring every bottle to your annual medication review so the pharmacist can spot conflicts. ### What should I do after a hospital discharge? Compare the discharge list to the home list line by line within 48 hours. Hospitals often add, drop, or change doses, and small clerical errors can cause real harm. Confirm any unclear entry with the discharging team or primary care office. --- ## Common Medicare mistakes to avoid URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/common-medicare-mistakes-to-avoid/ Focus keyword: medicare mistakes Category: financial-legal Tags: social-connection, medication-management, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: Áegis Living discusses common Medicare mistakes and how to avoid them so you can help make the right decisions for your elderly parents. Read more here. Once you turn 65, having quality health insurance and treatment is a must for your well-being, and Medicare, more than likely, will be part of your health plan. Medicare is a popular government program among [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/), and has been helpful for baby boomers as they reach retirement age. That being said, there are obstacles that families and caregivers can encounter along the way in terms of enrollment and Medicare Advantage plans. A slip-up in enrolling in Medicare can force you or your loved one to pay higher premiums or experience pitfalls. To sign up and receive Medicare in a manner that is best for your health and well-being, as well as economically feasible, keep these common Medicare mistakes in mind so that you make the right decision. ### Social Security and Medicare are not intertwined Since 65 is generally considered retirement age now, a lot of people believe that Medicare and Social Security kick in at that time. Because a growing number of individuals are working past age 65, they are not collecting Social Security checks, so they often fail to sign up for Medicare, which they do qualify for, regardless of whether they are still employed full time or not. ### Not thinking she has worked long enough to qualify According to AARP, it only takes about 10 years’ worth of work to ensure that your loved one won’t have to pay Part A premiums (hospital care). For example, for Medicare Part B (which entails doctor’s visits, outpatient services and medical equipment) and Part D (prescription drug coverage), as long as you are a U.S. citizen and have lived in the country for at least five years, you qualify for coverage. ### Not signing up because you’re still employed That being said, if you are still working, that doesn’t mean that you can’t use Medicare benefits. For instance, if you are currently employed and have health care coverage at work, you are under no pressure to sign up for Medicare. However, there are several benefits for [signing up at age 65](https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/insurance/medicare/medicare-still-working-65). For instance, you can receive Medicare Parts A and B at different times. Let’s say you get in an accident and wind up in the hospital with a few injuries. Your private insurance from work will likely pick up the bulk of insurance costs, but usually won’t cover all expenses. Medicare Part A, which specifically covers hospital costs, can pick up those added expenditures that private insurance plan doesn’t cover. With Medicare Part B, it’s a bit different. For instance, if you work for a small business, the company may require you to join in Medicare Part B to cover things like doctor’s visits so that you are not stuck with any extraneous fees. In fact, most seniors with high deductibles can benefit from this plan. However, you may want to decline if you work for a large company, as bigger plans typically cover these costs and you wouldn’t benefit from the investment. ### Missing the original enrollment period As a rule, you have three months before your 65th birthday to enroll for Medicare and up to three months after your birthday month to complete the process. Every year after that, the same enrollment process is true for these dates - even several years down the road once you reach full retirement. If that six-month window goes by, you will miss the chance to sign up completely, and will most likely encounter penalties for signing up late. Procrastination is not on your side in this situation, so it’s important to be proactive during this six-month period. Your health needs might change from year to year as well, so re-evaluate what you require and which Medicare parts might be beneficial. ### Not signing up for Part D As AARP notes, there is no “crystal ball” when it comes to your health. Unforeseen injuries or illnesses happen, and prescription drugs can be expensive, especially for serious conditions such as cancer. Just like other parts of Medicare, the program will provide coverage when you need care or treatment, but you must sign up for it first. If you are concerned about upfront costs, opt for a plan with the lowest premium in the beginning - it’s better to be safe than sorry. ### Picking parts of Medicare based on a friend’s advice Everyone’s medical history, pharmaceutical needs and work situations are different. While listening to a friend’s advice may help if they lead a similar lifestyle to you, it is probably best to consult your physician about choosing the right Medicare package if you run into roadblocks. A professional will likely be well-versed in these matters and know which aspects of Medicare work best for you in the long run. Medicare may seem complicated, but it doesn’t have to be. By avoiding these common mistakes, you can receive the proper health insurance coverage you need and you can rest assured that you made the right decisions together for your future. --- ## How Doctors and Specialists Test for and Diagnose Alzheimer's URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/suspect-alzheimers-tips-and-tests-for-detection/ Focus keyword: alzheimer's Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, depression-anxiety, nutrition, brain-health, legal-planning, when-its-time, for-caregivers Summary: What tests diagnose Alzheimer's? A clear guide to exams, brain scans, cognitive screens, and the new blood biomarkers families should know about. There is no single "Alzheimer's test." Diagnosis comes from a battery of evaluations - a physical exam, medical and family history, cognitive screens like the Mini-Cog or MMSE, brain imaging (MRI or PET), bloodwork, and increasingly, biomarker tests that detect amyloid and tau proteins. A specialist combines these results to rule out other causes and confirm Alzheimer's, often before symptoms become severe. Catching the disease early matters. An estimated 6.9 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's, and only about 4 in 10 with symptoms ever get a formal diagnosis ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2024). If you're noticing changes in a parent, start by reviewing the [Early Signs of Dementia: 10 Symptoms Families Notice First](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/), then book a workup with their primary care doctor. ## When should you ask the doctor about an Alzheimer's test? Forgetting a name is normal aging. Forgetting the relationship is not. Schedule a cognitive evaluation if your parent shows any of these patterns for more than a few weeks: - Repeating the same question within minutes - Getting lost on familiar routes - Struggling with bills, recipes, or appliances they used for decades - Personality shifts, withdrawal, or new suspicion of family members - Leaving the stove on or medications untaken For example, an 82-year-old who has cooked the same Thanksgiving stuffing for 40 years and now cannot follow the recipe is showing a meaningful change - not a quirk. Before assuming the worst, read about [8 Conditions That Mimic Dementia (And Are Often Treatable)](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/before-you-assume-its-dementia-consider-these-conditions-that-can-cause-dementia-like-symptoms/), since thyroid disease, B12 deficiency, depression, and medication interactions can produce identical symptoms. ## What does a full Alzheimer's workup include? The Mayo Clinic and the Alzheimer's Association describe a standard workup with several layers ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/diagnosis/medical_tests), 2024). Each test answers a different question. TestWhat it measuresTypical setting Physical exam and labsVitals, blood, urine, thyroid, B12, liver, kidneyPrimary care Medical and family historyMedications, chronic disease, relatives with dementiaPrimary care Mini-Cog or MMSEShort cognitive screen, 3 to 10 minutesPrimary care Neuropsychological testingDetailed memory, language, executive functionNeuropsychologist, 2 to 4 hours MRI or CT scanRules out stroke, tumor, hydrocephalusImaging center Amyloid PET scanDetects amyloid plaques in the brainSpecialty center Blood biomarker (p-tau 217)Detects Alzheimer's-related tau proteinSpecialist, available 2024 CSF (spinal fluid) testMeasures amyloid and tau directlyNeurologist ## How accurate are the newer blood tests? Until recently, confirming Alzheimer's biology required a PET scan or a spinal tap. That changed in 2024. A blood test measuring phosphorylated tau 217 (p-tau 217) identified Alzheimer's pathology with roughly 90% accuracy in a large clinical study, performing comparably to specialist evaluation (National Institute on Aging, 2024). The test is now available through some specialty clinics, though Medicare coverage is still evolving. As geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, has emphasized, earlier and clearer diagnosis lets families plan while the person with dementia can still participate in decisions about their care, finances, and home. ## What do the cognitive screening tests actually look like? Two short tools dominate primary care: Mini-Cog A 3-minute screen. The patient remembers three words, draws a clock showing a specific time, then recalls the three words. Scoring is simple and free for clinicians to use. MMSE (Mini-Mental State Exam) A 30-point questionnaire covering orientation, recall, attention, language, and visual construction. A score below 24 suggests cognitive impairment, though education and language affect results. MoCA (Montreal Cognitive Assessment) A 30-point test more sensitive to mild cognitive impairment than the MMSE, useful when symptoms are subtle. Consider a 78-year-old retired engineer who scores 27 on the MMSE - apparently "normal" - but cannot complete the MoCA's trail-making and abstraction tasks. That gap is a flag for early Alzheimer's that a quick screen alone would miss. ## How should you prepare for the appointment? - **List every medication and supplement.** Include doses. Anticholinergics, benzodiazepines, and even some over-the-counter sleep aids can mimic dementia (CDC Healthy Brain Initiative, 2024). - **Write a timeline of changes.** Note when memory lapses started and what triggers them. - **Bring a family informant.** Doctors rely heavily on what a spouse or adult child has observed. - **Request bloodwork in advance.** Thyroid panel, B12, CBC, comprehensive metabolic panel, and a vitamin D level can reveal reversible causes. - **Ask about referral to a memory clinic.** If the primary care screen is abnormal, a neurologist or geriatric psychiatrist can order imaging and biomarker testing. - **Discuss legal planning early.** Powers of attorney signed after diagnosis are far harder to defend ([National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys](https://www.naela.org/), 2024). ## What if the test results point to Alzheimer's? A diagnosis is not a verdict on next week, it is a roadmap for the next decade. Two new disease-modifying drugs, lecanemab and donanemab, can slow early Alzheimer's by clearing amyloid from the brain ([U.S. Food and Drug Administration](https://www.fda.gov/news-events/press-announcements/fda-converts-novel-alzheimers-disease-treatment-traditional-approval), 2023). Eligibility is narrow and the drugs carry real risks, so a specialist consultation is essential. Lifestyle still matters after diagnosis. Aerobic exercise, the MIND diet, hearing aids, sleep treatment, and social engagement are all tied to slower decline; see our companion guide to [8 Science-Backed Ways to Reduce Your Alzheimer's Risk](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/8-ways-combat-alzheimers-disease/). Families should also rule out vascular contributors by reading [What Is Vascular Dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-vascular-dementia-understanding-the-second-most-common-type-of-dementia/), and reassess alcohol use, which is covered in [Does Alcohol Cause Dementia?](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/) ## Frequently asked questions ### Can a primary care doctor diagnose Alzheimer's, or do you need a specialist? A primary care physician can begin the workup with labs, a Mini-Cog, and a medication review. Confirming Alzheimer's specifically - distinguishing it from vascular dementia, Lewy body dementia, or frontotemporal disease - usually requires a neurologist, geriatrician, or memory clinic, especially when imaging or biomarker testing is needed. ### Does Medicare cover Alzheimer's testing? Medicare covers an annual cognitive assessment as part of the Annual Wellness Visit, plus medically necessary bloodwork, MRI, and CT scans ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/cognitive-assessment-care-plan-services), 2024). Amyloid PET scans gained broader coverage in 2023, and coverage of new blood biomarker tests is still being finalized. ### How long does it take to get an Alzheimer's diagnosis? From first appointment to a confirmed diagnosis often takes 2 to 6 months, depending on specialist wait times and which imaging is ordered. A simple cognitive screen happens the same day, but PET scans and neuropsychological testing usually require separate referrals. ### Should adult children get genetic testing for Alzheimer's? For most families, no. The APOE-e4 gene raises risk but does not guarantee disease, and a positive result can cause anxiety without changing treatment. Genetic testing is generally reserved for families with early-onset Alzheimer's (before age 65) across multiple generations, and only after counseling. ### Is mild cognitive impairment the same as Alzheimer's? No. Mild cognitive impairment (MCI) means measurable changes in thinking that do not yet disrupt daily life. Roughly 10 to 15% of people with MCI progress to dementia each year, but some remain stable or even improve when the cause is reversible ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/memory-loss-and-forgetfulness/what-mild-cognitive-impairment), 2024). ### What questions should I ask the doctor after testing? Ask which specific diagnosis was made, how confident the physician is, whether reversible causes were ruled out, what the next 12 months may look like, and whether your parent qualifies for disease-modifying therapy or a clinical trial. Also ask for written instructions you can review at home. If testing confirms Alzheimer's, the next decision is how to support daily life safely. Áegis Living's memory care teams help families think through that transition. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact us](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk with a care advisor. --- ## How Áegis makes assisted living a home for seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-aegis-strives-to-make-assisted-living-a-home-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: employee well being Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: alzheimers, dementia, assisted-living, memory-care, nutrition, exercise-fitness, legal-planning Summary: "Áegis at Marymoor's director of operations and care knows how important her employees' comfort and well-being are to the success of Áegis as a whole." Aging is a natural part of life, but for some individuals, getting older can take a toll on their health. In these cases, [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/)communities like Áegis offer a new, better equipped second home. Kristen Moored, Áegis at Marymoor’s director of operations and care, knows how important her employees’ comfort and well-being are to the success of Áegis as a whole. With a background in customer service, Moored believes that providing great leadership and a welcoming work environment makes the employees want to offer exceptional service as well. While this employees-come-first policy may sound awkward to some people, as many businesses strive to put their customers first, Moored explained in an interview: “I truly believe that if you treat the people around you well then they’ll treat others well … It creates a ripple effect from when you walk in the door and the concierge and care team are happy and love what they do, they treat the residents well, and therefore the residents treat their families well when they come to visit them.” ### Áegis overcomes stereotypes surrounding assisted living When she first began working in this field, Moored had a misconception of what assisted living meant. Since working at Áegis at Marymoor, she has seen the company overcome many industry stigmas: Áegis communities are far from being residential areas that are sterile, cold and unwelcoming. She said that Áegis Living is a place where families want to spend time with their parents. When eating a meal many would rather enjoy a meal at the community rather than dining out at a restaurant. “When people come to visit their family members, they have no idea they’re walking into a place that is so welcoming and so homey,” she added. “I’ve noticed it’s definitely a gathering place for families of all the residents that live here and look forward to group events.” Moored noted one resident success story that continues to demonstrate Áegis’ commitment to providing individuals with a caring home environment. The individual came from a skilled nursing facility, used a wheelchair and was eating on a mechanical diet. The family didn’t think that she would live much longer. After coming to Áegis at Marymoor, she now walks with the help of a walker, eats normal meals and is one of the most active residents in her community. Moored said that this resident is currently the healthiest she’s been in a long time, something she chalks up to the resident’s renewed will to live. With such a phenomenal home life, it can be much easier to look forward to the days ahead. While this particular resident was physically limited, Áegis works with [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) of all levels, whether they can live semi-independently and require some assistance or they have [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) or Alzheimer’s disease and need more extensive care. Áegis specializes in [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) and is a leader in the field, but even with such a variety of resident needs, the staff works to keep care consistent and track residents as they progress through constant communication between the nurses, care staff and management team. ### Áegis provides a new home for seniors through exceptional care It can be a difficult time for families when they realize a loved one needs to move to an assisted living community. It’s not an easy decision to make, but Moored believes that [Áegis](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) makes this transition easier because the staff loves their residents like family. “We’re not treating people differently because they’re older. We’re not treating people differently because they can’t fully take care of themselves or if they have memory issues … These people deserve fantastic food and fantastic activities, and they deserve to have their lives they’ve been living honored and celebrated,” Moored said. --- ## Providing compassionate care to your parent with dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/providing-compassionate-care-to-your-parent-with-dementia/ Focus keyword: caregiver role Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, communication, nutrition, legal-planning, for-caregivers, sleep Summary: How you handle your role as caregiver may determine whether a parent with dementia can lead a productive and happy life. Read more here. When a family is faced with a [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) or Alzheimer’s diagnosis, the news can become overwhelming and cause frustration; that makes this is an important time to find flexibility and patience so that your loved one receives optimal compassionate care. Because Alzheimer’s is a progressive disease that goes through several changes and individuals cope with these stages in different ways, there is not an across-the-board solution for those who are living with dementia. Yet there are certain aspects of your role as a caregiver that are needed to help your mother live a productive and happy life as she ages. ## Helping your mother communicate One of the most difficult aspects of the disease are the changes to the brain that can affect your mother’s ability to communicate. To give her the compassionate care she needs, it is important that you are first able to understand each other. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, there will only be a few minor changes in the way your mom communicates during the early stages. For instance, she may repeat certain stories, have her sentences trail off or not be able to find the correct phrasing or words. As time progresses, she may speak much less often, invent new words, completely lose her thought processes, have an inability to understand certain words in a logical manner or use the same words repeatedly. This can make it very difficult to communicate with one another, which can become frustrating for everyone. During this time, there are several ways you can help your mother express herself, according to the Alzheimer’s Association: - Find a place that’s quiet with limited distractions so she can focus. - Let her know it’s OK if she faces challenges with communication - it’s always best to be patient, offer support and let her take her time to gather her thoughts. - Stay away from correcting, criticizing or arguing. Listen to what she is trying to tell you and don’t escalate the conversation if you disagree, as this will make things worse. - Find nonverbal ways to communicate, whether she points to what she wants or uses gestures to explain something. ## Limit her chances for frustration One of the best ways to keep dementia or Alzheimer’s challenges to a minimum is to limit and ease common frustrations in her day-to-day routine. A great way to get started is to set up a daily schedule that doesn’t go too far off-track. Make sure that meals are served during similar hours each day and that she wakes and goes to sleep around the same time as well. On days when doctor’s appointments or bathing is needed, try to schedule them during the times that your mom is in a calmer state of mind. ## Find patience Sometimes it can be very difficult to find the patience that comes with caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s. However, it is very important that you give your mother the time she needs to complete tasks so that she still maintains a degree of independence. Let your mother take her time so that she can categorize certain processes on her own - although it’s tough, caregivers need to know that things are going to take longer than they used to. You can reduce your mother’s frustrations by limiting her choices, according to the Mayo Clinic. For instance, if your mom is picking out what she wants to wear for the day, give her a choice between two outfits rather than choosing from an entire closet full of clothes. You can also make better use of time by providing simple instructions with clear steps and minimizing distractions such as the TV and radio when it’s time to focus. ## Redirecting and remembering Handling a troublesome situation, such as your mother becoming upset or angry; it is best managed by redirection. Although you should try to talk through the conflict at first, your mother might be too upset to handle the conversation. In these times, it’s better for everyone to simply change the subject or environment and move on. To do so, have your mom talk about her childhood or other aspects of growing up. Many people living with Alzheimer’s might not remember short-term details, such as what they ate for breakfast, but can recall events that happened decades ago. Encourage her to talk about memories from the distant past, as this can keep her senses sharp and allow her to keep good memories in the forefront of her mind. Compassion and patience are attributes that you must have as a caregiver if you want to create a [healthy environment](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) for your mother and limit your stress. --- ## The 7 Stages of Dementia: Symptoms & Timeline URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/ Focus keyword: 7 stages of dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, brain-health, social-connection, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: A clear guide to the 7 stages of dementia - symptoms, typical duration, and what families can expect at each stage, from no impairment to late-stage care. The 7 stages of dementia - known as the Global Deterioration Scale (GDS) developed by Dr. Barry Reisberg at NYU - describe a progression from **no impairment (Stage 1)** through **very mild decline (Stage 2)**, **mild decline (Stage 3)**, **moderate decline (Stage 4, early dementia)**, **moderately severe decline (Stage 5)**, **severe decline (Stage 6, middle dementia)**, and **very severe decline (Stage 7, late dementia)**. Each person moves through these stages at their own pace, and recognizing where your parent or spouse is today helps you plan care, finances, and safety before the next stage arrives. If you're still wondering whether what you're seeing is normal aging or something more, start with our overview of [Understanding Dementia: A Guide for Families and Loved Ones](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-dementia-a-guide-for-families-and-loved-ones/) and our pillar guide to the [early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/). ## Why use a 7-stage model instead of "early, middle, late"? Doctors often describe dementia in three broad phases, but the 7-stage Global Deterioration Scale gives families a finer-grained map. It separates the subtle forgetfulness of Stage 2 from the noticeable workplace slip-ups of Stage 3, and it distinguishes the help-with-dressing point (Stage 5) from the help-with-toileting point (Stage 6) - distinctions that change which care setting your loved one needs. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's disease, the most common form of dementia ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026). Roughly 1 in 9 older adults nationwide has Alzheimer's, according to the same source - so the odds you'll walk this road with someone you love are real. ## What's the difference between dementia and normal aging? Forgetting a name and remembering it an hour later is normal. Forgetting that you met someone at all, or forgetting how to operate the microwave you've used for 20 years, is not. **Dementia** An umbrella term for a decline in memory, reasoning, language, or judgment severe enough to interfere with daily life. Alzheimer's, vascular dementia, Lewy body, and frontotemporal dementia all sit under this umbrella ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-and-dementia/what-dementia-symptoms-types-and-diagnosis)). **Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI)** Noticeable cognitive changes that don't yet disrupt independent living. Not everyone with MCI progresses to dementia. **Age-related cognitive change** Slower recall, occasional word-finding pauses - without loss of function. Intellect and reasoning stay intact. ## How is dementia diagnosed? No single test confirms dementia. A primary care physician or neurologist combines several inputs to reach a diagnosis ([Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/dementia/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20352019)): - **Medical and family history** - including medications, recent hospitalizations, and family patterns of dementia. - **Cognitive screens** - short tools like the Mini-Cog or GPCOG that take 3 - 10 minutes in the exam room. - **Neurological exam** - balance, reflexes, eye movement, and gait to rule out stroke or Parkinson's. - **Brain imaging** - CT or MRI to check for bleeding, tumor, or vascular damage; PET scans to identify amyloid or specific dementia patterns. - **Bloodwork** - to rule out thyroid disease, B12 deficiency, infection, or electrolyte issues that mimic dementia. - **Psychiatric review** - because depression in older adults can look strikingly like early dementia. ## What happens in each of the 7 stages of dementia? The table below summarizes the Reisberg Global Deterioration Scale used by clinicians, with typical duration estimates drawn from the [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/stages), 2024. Durations vary widely by person. StageNameWhat you'll noticeTypical duration 1No impairmentNo symptoms; cognition is normal. - 2Very mild declineMisplacing keys, forgetting familiar words. Often indistinguishable from normal aging.Years 3Mild decline (MCI)Coworkers and family notice. Trouble with complex tasks, repeating questions, getting lost on familiar routes.2 - 7 years 4Moderate decline (early dementia)Trouble with bills, recent events, planning meals. Social withdrawal and denial are common.~2 years 5Moderately severe declineNeeds help choosing clothes, may forget address or phone number. Can still bathe and toilet independently.~1.5 years 6Severe decline (middle dementia)Needs help with bathing, toileting, and dressing. May not recognize close family. Sundowning, paranoia, sleep disruption.~2.5 years 7Very severe decline (late dementia)Loss of speech, walking, and ability to sit up unaided. Total care required.1 - 2.5 years ### Stage 1: No impairment Mental function is normal. The disease process may be underway in the brain years before symptoms appear, but nothing is observable. ### Stage 2: Very mild cognitive decline Your mother might forget where she put her reading glasses or pause searching for a word. These slips look like ordinary aging and rarely prompt a doctor's visit. ### Stage 3: Mild cognitive decline This is often when families first say, "Something's off." Imagine your dad calls asking for the same chili recipe three times in one afternoon, or your mother - a retired bookkeeper - suddenly can't reconcile her checkbook. Driving may become unsafe. This is the right moment to schedule a cognitive evaluation. ### Stage 4: Moderate cognitive decline (early dementia) Symptoms are no longer subtle. Your loved one may withdraw from book club, struggle to follow a favorite TV show, or grow defensive when you ask about unpaid bills. This is the stage at which a formal dementia diagnosis is most often made. ### Stage 5: Moderately severe cognitive decline Help with day-to-day life becomes necessary. Your dad may put on the same shirt three days in a row or forget his own phone number, yet still know his children and manage the bathroom independently. Consider a family whose mother has started leaving the stove on overnight - Stage 5 is typically when a move to [memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) or full-time in-home support is discussed seriously. ### Stage 6: Severe cognitive decline (middle dementia) Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) - bathing, dressing, toileting, eating - now require hands-on assistance. Sleep cycles flip. Your loved one may mistake you for a sibling or a parent. Behavioral changes including [repetitive questions](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-dementia-a-guide-for-families-and-loved-ones/), suspicion, and agitation are common. ### Stage 7: Very severe cognitive decline (late dementia) Speech narrows to a few words or disappears. Walking, then sitting, then swallowing become impaired. Care focuses on comfort, dignity, skin integrity, and nutrition - often with hospice support. ## How long do the 7 stages of dementia last? People live an average of 4 to 8 years after an Alzheimer's diagnosis, though some live as long as 20 years ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers), 2024). Progression depends on: - Age at diagnosis (younger onset often progresses faster) - Type of dementia - [vascular dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/vascular-dementia/) often advances in stepwise jumps after small strokes, while Alzheimer's tends to be gradual - Cardiovascular health, diabetes, and history of stroke - Genetics, including APOE-e4 status - Lifestyle factors such as [alcohol use](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/does-alcohol-cause-dementia/), sleep, physical activity, and social engagement - Quality of caregiving and consistency of daily routine ## What does an expert say about caregiving through the stages? As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, frequently teaches: the goal is not to correct your loved one back into your reality, but to meet them in theirs. Arguing with a parent who insists she needs to "go pick up the kids from school" - kids who are now in their 50s - only escalates distress. Redirecting, validating the feeling underneath the words, and offering a familiar task instead almost always works better. Geriatrician Louise Aronson, MD, author of *Elderhood*, makes a related point: care plans should follow the person, not the diagnosis. Two people at Stage 5 can need very different supports depending on personality, history, and what brings them joy. ## How should caregiving change as dementia progresses? ### Early stages (Stages 2 - 4) Focus on autonomy and structure. Help with appointment reminders, medication management, and finances while your loved one still drives the conversation about their preferences. This is the time to complete legal planning - durable [power of attorney](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/), healthcare directive, and a written care plan - while your parent can still participate. ### Middle stage (Stages 5 - 6) The middle stage can be the longest, often lasting years ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/middle-stage)). Daily routines become anchors. Safety upgrades - stove shut-offs, door alarms, removing throw rugs - reduce risk. [Caregiver burnout](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-manage-caregiving-frustration-with-grace-and-grit/) peaks here; respite care and support groups are not optional extras. ### Late stage (Stage 7) Care shifts toward comfort: gentle touch, familiar music, soft foods or purées, repositioning to prevent skin breakdown. A hospice team can join the circle of care once a physician certifies eligibility - typically a prognosis of six months or less if the disease runs its expected course ([Medicare.gov](https://www.medicare.gov/coverage/hospice-care)). ## When is it time to consider memory care? For example, an 84-year-old who falls while making coffee at home, can no longer recognize her bathroom, and has wandered out of the house twice in a month is signaling that home is no longer the safest setting. Common triggers families cite for moving to memory care: - Wandering or getting lost outside - Leaving stoves, taps, or doors unattended - Aggression or sundowning that home caregivers can't safely manage - Caregiver health declining under the load - Weight loss, missed medications, or repeated ER visits The national median [cost of memory care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-memory-care/) ranges roughly $5,000 - $7,500 per month depending on region and acuity ([SeniorLiving.org](https://www.seniorliving.org/memory-care/costs/)). Áegis Living's **Life's Neighborhood®** memory care program is built specifically for residents in Stages 4 through 7, with secured neighborhoods, trained teams, and programming designed around remaining strengths rather than lost ones. ## Ready to talk through your family's next step? If you're recognizing your parent or spouse in one of the stages above, you don't have to figure out the next move alone. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to tour a Life's Neighborhood® and ask the questions on your list. ## Frequently asked questions ### What is the average life expectancy after a dementia diagnosis? People live an average of 4 to 8 years after an Alzheimer's diagnosis, though some live up to 20 years depending on age at diagnosis, dementia type, and overall health ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers), 2024). Vascular dementia and Lewy body dementia often have shorter trajectories than Alzheimer's. ### Which stage of dementia is the longest? The middle stage (Stages 5 - 6 on the Global Deterioration Scale) is typically the longest, sometimes lasting several years. This is when symptoms are pronounced but the body remains physically strong, and it's often the most demanding period for family caregivers. ### Can dementia be reversed or slowed? Most dementias are not reversible, but certain causes that mimic dementia - vitamin B12 deficiency, thyroid disease, medication side effects, depression - can be treated. FDA-approved medications such as donepezil, rivastigmine, and newer anti-amyloid infusions may slow progression in some Alzheimer's patients ([National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/alzheimers-treatment/how-alzheimers-disease-treated)). ### At what stage does a person with dementia stop recognizing family? Difficulty recognizing close family members usually appears in Stage 6 (severe cognitive decline). They may still feel the emotional familiarity of a loved one even when they can't name them - which is why a calm voice and gentle touch continue to matter. ### What's the difference between Alzheimer's and dementia? Dementia is the umbrella term for symptoms of cognitive decline severe enough to disrupt daily life. Alzheimer's disease is the most common cause of dementia, accounting for 60 - 80% of cases ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers), 2024). Other causes include vascular dementia, Lewy body dementia, and frontotemporal dementia. ### When should we move a parent into memory care? Most families consider memory care between Stages 5 and 6, when bathing, dressing, wandering, or behavioral changes outpace what home caregivers can safely handle. Touring a community while your parent is still in earlier stages gives you time to choose thoughtfully rather than during a crisis. --- ## Talking to your children about dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/talking-to-your-children-about-dementia/ Focus keyword: children understanding dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, communication, brain-health, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-seniors Summary: It is important to explain to a child when a loved one is diagnosed with dementia, so they can begin to cope with the changes to come. Learn more here. [Dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) is a mental disease that is far-reaching and can affect the entire family, including children and grandchildren. For kids and teens, seeing their grandparents experience cognitive decline can be a confusing and upsetting experience. Although the senior affected by dementia requires as much support as possible, grandchildren also need to understand how this disease affects others so they can learn how to cope with changes. While younger children will probably have a lot of questions regarding Grandma’s condition, older children and teenagers might become withdrawn as a way of coping. Either way, it’s important that parents communicate with their children about the changes so that they are better prepared for the different ways that their grandparent might behave or act. ### Usual reactions from children and teens about Alzheimer’s According to the Alzheimer’s Association, there are many ways that your children or teens may react to this change, including: - Become frustrated by having to repeat words or phrases - Become embarrassed to have friends or visitors over - Grow jealous because of the time and attention the loved one is getting from the caregiver - Develop confusion about why their grandparent is acting strange or different - Become sad because their loved one is changing - Experience guilt about resenting the extra time and resources given for your loved one - Feel awkward or unsure about how to act around their loved one - Feel sad because their grandparent doesn’t recognize them - Become fearful of their loved one As a parent, you need to know that all of these actions are completely normal. These reactions are all typical ways for a child or teen to understand a very complex condition with someone they have loved. Depending on the child’s temperament, he or she will react in a variety of ways. Some may withdraw from others. Others will experience physical pain as a result of the anxiety, such as stomachaches or headaches. Arguments may also arise with teenagers, especially with parents who are devoting a lot of their time as caregivers. ### How to explain Alzheimer’s and dementia to a child From the beginning, it is important to explain to young children what to expect and how to react to their grandparent’s mental decline. According to Today’s Parent, one way is to compare Alzheimer’s to a common illness that they might have experienced. Ask your child “Do you remember having a fever or cough when you had the flu?” Then simply explain, “Just like your body was sick during that time, Grandma’s brain is sick.” This can give them a concrete and simple explanation about the illness. You should also tell them that even though their grandparent’s cognitive ability might be in decline, Grandma still recognizes love and affection, even if it is just felt in the moment. One way your child can continue to bond with his or her grandparent is to share activities that they have always enjoyed together. For instance, if Grandpa loves music, have your child play his favorite songs and sing along with them, or if he had a green thumb, suggest that the two of them plant a garden together to create more memories. If your loved one was a great cook, have your child tie on an apron and help cook dinner. If your young children ask questions about Alzheimer’s or dementia, it is important that you answer in an honest, age-appropriate way. Sugar-coating the message will only complicate things more for them. Kids have very intuitive minds and can understand and observe complex situations more than we realize. Be honest about what is happening to their grandparent. No matter what age your child is, it is probably a good idea for you to inform their teacher(s), as it may also affect their performance in school. There are several children’s books that are excellent for young children that are trying to better understand cognitive decline, including: - “Saturdays with GG” by Dwayne J. Clark - “Always My Grandpa: A Story for Children About Alzheimer’s Disease” by Dr. Linda Scacco - “My New Granny” by Elisabeth Steinkellner - “Do You Have a Moon at Your House?” by Jeanie L. Johnson ### The best ways to explain dementia to a teenager Going through adolescence, as we all know, can be a challenging phase in one’s life. As an older child, your teen may have even more difficulty communicating his or her frustrations about the changes Grandpa is going through and might become resentful of the extra weight he or she might have to pull around the house. However, fostering the right attitude will help your teen tremendously and taking care of your loved one together could help you and your older child become closer. There are special issues that teens may face when their loved one is living with dementia. For example, they may feel torn about the extra duties they have to perform around the house while still keeping up with their homework and extracurricular activities. They also might refrain from talking to their friends about their loved one’s condition because they are embarrassed about the unusual behavior that Grandma is expressing. Like young children, teens are very receptive to honest and straightforward explanations about dementia and Alzheimer’s. Even if they don’t respond at first, it is important to keep the communication open about this subject so that you can reach a level of understanding as a family. You can share more concrete information about Alzheimer’s, what it does to the brain and how it will affect your family dynamics down the road, with teens than you would young kids. Teenagers need support no matter what, but this type of news may require even more understanding and comfort as a parent. Let him or her know that feelings they are having are normal and be sure to have regular time spent with one another so that they have the opportunity to communicate their feelings, ask questions or simply “vent” frustrations. With the whole family on the same page, including your young child or teen, you can give your loved one the [support and comfort](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) they need. --- ## Power of Attorney for Seniors: A Complete Guide URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-power-of-attorney/ Focus keyword: power of attorney for seniors Category: financial-legal Tags: dementia, alzheimers, brain-health, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: Learn how power of attorney works for seniors, when to set one up, types to consider, and how to choose the right agent and elder-law attorney. A **power of attorney (POA)** is a legal document that lets your parent or spouse name a trusted person to make financial, legal, or medical decisions if they can't. For seniors, the right time to sign one is *before* a health crisis - ideally during retirement planning, and immediately after any diagnosis affecting cognition. Without a valid POA in place, families often face costly court guardianship proceedings to manage a loved one's affairs. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's dementia ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026), which makes early legal planning urgent for a large share of families. If you're starting this process now, our pillar guide on [how to find the right power of attorney lawyer](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-find-right-lawyer-for-power-of-attorney/) walks through attorney selection step by step. ## What exactly is a power of attorney, in plain English? A power of attorney is a written authorization signed by your loved one (the *principal*) that gives another person (the *agent* or *attorney-in-fact*) the legal authority to act on their behalf. The agent does not have to be a lawyer - it's usually an adult child, spouse, or trusted friend. **Principal**The senior signing the document and granting authority. **Agent (attorney-in-fact)**The person authorized to act for the principal. Must be 18 or older. **Fiduciary duty**The legal obligation the agent has to act in the principal's best interest - not their own. **Capacity**The mental ability to understand what a document does and the consequences of signing it. A POA is only valid if the principal has capacity at the moment of signing. According to the [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/advance-care-planning/advance-care-planning-advance-directives-health-care), advance legal planning - including a POA - is one of the most important steps families can take to honor a loved one's wishes. ## Which type of power of attorney does your parent actually need? Not every POA is the same. Choosing the wrong type is one of the most common - and most expensive - mistakes families make. TypeWhat it coversWhen it's activeBest for General (non-durable) POABroad financial and legal mattersWhile principal has capacity; ends at incapacityShort-term tasks, like signing a home sale from out of state Durable POAFinancial and legal mattersStays in effect if the principal becomes incapacitatedLong-term planning for aging or dementia Springing POADefined matters"Springs" into effect only on a triggering event (e.g., a doctor declares incapacity)Seniors who want control until the moment they truly can't act Health care POA (medical proxy)Medical decisions onlyWhen principal can't communicate medical choicesPairing with a living will or POLST form Limited (special) POAOne specific transactionUntil the task is completeOne-time matters like a real estate closing For seniors, the most common combination is a **durable financial POA** plus a **health care POA**. Many families also pair the health care POA with a [POLST form for end-of-life care orders](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-is-a-polst-form/), which translates wishes into actionable medical instructions. ## When should a senior actually sign one? The short answer: now, while capacity is unquestioned. Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician at UCSF and author of *Elderhood*, has long argued that planning conversations should happen well before a crisis - because crisis-driven decisions are rarely the decisions older adults would have made for themselves. Triggers that mean you should not wait another week: - A new diagnosis of dementia, Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, or any cognitive impairment - A recent hospitalization, fall, or stroke - A spouse who handled all the finances has died or become ill - Your parent is moving into assisted living or memory care - Signs of [financial exploitation or scams targeting seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-tips-to-protect-seniors-from-financial-fraud/) The [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/financial-legal-planning) emphasizes that after a dementia diagnosis, every month matters: the earlier the document is signed, the more involved your loved one can be in shaping their own future. ## How do you start the conversation without a fight? Aging parents often resist legal planning because it feels like surrendering independence. The trick is framing the POA as a *safety net they control*, not a loss of control. For example, consider an 82-year-old father who has always managed the family checkbook. Telling him "we need to take over your finances" will end the conversation. Instead: "Dad, if you ended up in the hospital for a week, who do you want paying the mortgage so it doesn't go into default? Let's put that in writing - your choice." As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: progress in care planning comes from working *with* the person's remaining strengths, not around them. Invite your loved one to make the choices while they still can. ## What are the steps to set up a power of attorney? - **List what needs to be covered.** Banking, taxes, real estate, medical care, long-term care placement, digital accounts. - **Choose the agent - and a backup.** Pick someone trustworthy, organized, and geographically reasonable. Always name a successor agent in case the first can't serve. - **Hire an elder-law attorney.** State laws vary; a specialist will draft a document that holds up at the bank and the hospital. - **Confirm capacity at signing.** The principal must understand what they're signing. If there's any doubt, get a physician's note documenting capacity that same day. - **Sign with the required witnesses and notary.** Most states require notarization; some require two witnesses. - **Distribute the document.** Give copies to the agent, primary care doctor, hospital, and the senior's bank. Keep the original in a secure but accessible location. - **Review every 3-5 years** or after any major life change (move, divorce, death of agent). ## What does a power of attorney cost? Costs vary by state and complexity. As a working range nationally as of 2024: OptionTypical costBest when State-provided statutory form (DIY)$0-$50Simple finances, no dementia, clear family situation Online legal service$35-$250Straightforward POA, no real estate or trust involved Elder-law attorney, basic POA$200-$500Most seniors with modest assets Elder-law attorney, full estate package (POA + will + health directive + trust)$1,000-$3,500+Dementia diagnosis, blended family, business owners, sizable estate The [AARP financial and legal caregiving resources](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/) note that the cost of *not* having a POA - court-supervised guardianship - typically runs several thousand dollars in attorney and court fees, plus ongoing reporting requirements. A few hundred dollars now prevents a five-figure problem later. ## How do you choose the right elder-law attorney? An elder-law attorney does more than draft documents. They coordinate Medicaid planning, veterans' benefits, long-term care funding, and estate strategy. For families navigating [veteran and spouse benefits](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-veteran-and-spouse-benefits/), this expertise can be worth thousands in preserved assets. Look for an attorney who: - Is a member of the [National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (NAELA)](https://www.naela.org/) - Has handled cases involving dementia capacity - Understands your state's specific POA statute - Offers a flat fee for the document package, not just an hourly rate - Will meet with the senior privately to confirm capacity and intent ## What are the biggest misconceptions about POAs? **Myth: A POA lets the agent do whatever they want.** Reality: Agents owe a *fiduciary duty* - a legal obligation to act in the principal's best interest. Misusing the role is elder financial abuse and can result in criminal charges. **Myth: Signing a POA means giving up control today.** Reality: A durable POA can sit in a drawer for years. It only becomes operational when needed, and the principal can revoke it at any time while they have capacity. **Myth: My spouse can automatically make my decisions.** Reality: Marriage does not grant automatic financial authority. Without a POA, your spouse may need a court order to access solely-owned accounts or sign documents on your behalf. **Myth: One POA covers everything.** Reality: Financial POAs and health care POAs are typically separate documents. The Mayo Clinic's overview of [advance directives](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/consumer-health/in-depth/living-wills/art-20046303) explains why most families need both. **Myth: A POA survives death.** Reality: Every POA ends at the principal's death. From that point forward, the executor named in the will takes over. ## How does a POA work when dementia is already in the picture? Capacity is a moving target with Alzheimer's and other dementias - it can vary by day or even hour. The legal standard is whether the person understands, at the moment of signing, what the document does. Consider a 78-year-old mother in the early stages of Alzheimer's whose family schedules the attorney visit for late morning, her sharpest time of day. Her physician provides a brief letter confirming capacity that week. Her attorney meets with her alone for ten minutes to confirm she understands the document. That care is what makes the POA defensible if a relative ever contests it later. If your loved one has progressed beyond the ability to understand the document, a POA is no longer an option - guardianship or conservatorship through the courts becomes the path. This is exactly why the [Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/financial-legal-planning) urges families to act in the months after diagnosis, not years. ## When can a power of attorney be revoked or end? A POA can end in several ways: - The principal revokes it in writing while still competent - The principal dies - The named agent resigns or becomes unable to serve and no successor is named - A divorce ends spousal authority (in most states) - A court invalidates it due to fraud, undue influence, or lack of capacity at signing - Terms inside the document expire (e.g., a limited POA after a single transaction) ## Frequently asked questions ### Can a senior with dementia still sign a power of attorney? Yes, if they have capacity at the moment of signing - meaning they understand what the document does and the consequences. Early-stage dementia does not automatically disqualify someone. Schedule the signing for the person's best time of day and ask their physician to document capacity that week. ### What's the difference between durable and non-durable power of attorney? A non-durable POA ends if the principal becomes incapacitated - exactly when families usually need it most. A durable POA stays in effect through incapacity. For aging parents, durable is almost always the right choice. ### Do I need a lawyer, or can we use an online form? For simple situations with no cognitive concerns, a state-provided statutory form may be sufficient. For any senior with a dementia diagnosis, significant assets, blended-family dynamics, or Medicaid planning needs, an elder-law attorney is worth the $200-$500 investment to prevent challenges later. ### Can two people share power of attorney? Yes. You can name co-agents who must act jointly, or co-agents who can act independently. Joint authority adds protection against misuse but can cause delays if the agents disagree or live far apart. ### What happens if my parent doesn't have a power of attorney and becomes incapacitated? The family typically must petition the court for guardianship or conservatorship - a public process that takes months, costs thousands of dollars, and gives a judge final say over who manages your parent's affairs. A POA prevents all of this. ### Does a power of attorney cover nursing home or assisted living decisions? A properly drafted POA can authorize the agent to sign admission paperwork, manage care contracts, and pay facility bills. Mention long-term care explicitly when the document is drafted so there's no ambiguity at move-in. ## Plan now, so your family doesn't have to scramble later A signed power of attorney is one of the most loving gifts a senior can give their family - it removes uncertainty during the hardest moments. If you're also exploring long-term care, Áegis Living communities support families through every stage of this planning. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to talk through what's next. --- ## Where to get dementia caregiver training and resources URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/where-to-get-caregiver-training-and-resources/ Focus keyword: dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: alzheimers, dementia, for-caregivers, for-spouses, for-seniors Summary: Áegis Living senior care community explains a few sources of workshops, books & trainings for learning to care for a dementia or Alzheimer's patient. Learning to take care of a parent experiencing [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) can be challenging, but there are several training programs and great [resources](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/) that can support you through the transition. Available options for gathering information include workshops, books and training sessions which are led by a certified organization. ## Online resources There are several online programs, including essentiALZ®, an individual certification from the Alzheimer’s Association, that can walk you through important facts about caregiving via the web. These types of programs are suited for family members and health care professionals alike, so both groups can benefit from this type of training. There are two levels of training you can choose from with essentiALZ: one is for dementia-related behavior and the other is for advanced care, which can be purchased online. The organization also provides free e-learning workshops online that cover many aspects of senior care, including early detection, legal and financial planning and all three stages of Alzheimer’s. The American Red Cross also provides plenty of practical information about what to do in the event of an emergency with a senior, how to create a network of support for your mother or father, and the best ways to ensure your parent’s [health and wellness](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/). ## Publications about caregiving If you would rather have a hands-on copy of these facts and figures, the Alzheimer’s Association sells a well-established publication on the subject, the “Caregiver Notebook,” which was penned by actual caregivers and includes places where you can write your own notes. Another popular option you may want to purchase is the Coach Broyles’ playbook for Alzheimer’s Caregivers. Broyles is the former athletic director for the University of Arkansas and wrote the book after spending time caring for his wife. In true sports fashion, the publication is written mainly in football playbook-style and is easy to understand. ## DVDs The Alzheimer’s Association also noted a well-received DVD series entitled, “The Savvy Caregiver,” which is designed and suited for families. These DVDs are meant to be watched once a week over the course of a month, so these electronic devices can be used in your own free time. This is a well-respected recording that has even been used in some university research for caregiving that was published in the journal The Gerontologist and the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society. If your family is faced with a dementia diagnosis or you are struggling to take care of your senior mother, it is important to know that you don’t have to do it alone. There are plenty of tools and support groups available that can give you insight into skills and sensible information on how to move forward. Contact our [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/)professionals for more recommendations on dementia training for family caregivers. --- ## Foods that can disrupt your parent’s sleep schedule URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/foods-that-can-disrupt-your-parents-sleep-schedule/ Focus keyword: food and sleep issues Category: healthy-aging Tags: incontinence, sleep, nutrition, for-seniors Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and wellbeing is a top priority. We identify foods that can disrupt sleep patterns and threaten seniors' health. Read more here. Sleep is one of the most underrated aspects of our well-being, especially during our senior years. Having a restless night every once and a while is completely normal for most people. However, a prolonged period without a good night’s rest can have a major impact on overall wellness, and it may have do with our internal clocks. “Later in life there tends to be a decrease in the number of hours slept,” Dr. Karen Carlson, associate professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School and director of Women’s Health Associates at Massachusetts General Hospital, explained. “There are also [some changes](http://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletters/Harvard_Womens_Health_Watch/2012/July/8-secrets-to-a-good-nights-sleep) in the way the body regulates circadian rhythms.” While everyone’s sleep patterns are different, it’s important that your parent stays alert throughout the day and gradually grows sleepy toward nighttime. According to the National Sleep Foundation, food and sleepiness [are interconnected](http://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-topics/food-and-sleep) more than you may think. Certain amino acids in foods can cause sleepiness or alertness, so it is important that your aging loved one eats balanced meals that won’t slow them down or cause them to become jittery during certain times of the day. ### Here are some foods to avoid if your mother wants to enjoy her ZZZs: #### Foods with high water content These can include a wide variety of fruits and veggies, including celery, cucumbers, watermelon and radishes. Although these foods are very healthy, their high concentrations of water can cause your mother to wake up in the middle of the night with a full bladder, according to AARP. This can cause her to want to use the restroom and, in the process, disrupt her sleep schedule. #### Alcohol or caffeine While coffee and some tea may be obvious drink choices that aren’t a wise idea before bed, there are also several foods that contain caffeine, including chocolate. Alcohol can make us feel a bit sleepy at first, but according to Harvard Health Publications, alcohol is actually a stimulant and can create issues with a good night’s rest. #### Fatty foods Your parent should limit fatty foods in their diet so they can maintain a healthy weight, but the time of day they choose to indulge in these meals is important, too. Foods that are very high in fat, such as fried foods and pizza, put a lot of strain on the body and take longer to digest. This means that they can cause discomfort to the digestive system as they try to drift off, thus disturbing sleep patterns. #### Spicy dishes Avoiding spicy foods may help to prevent heartburn, but your mother may not know that these dishes can also affect her ability to enjoy sleep. Meals that pack a lot of heat can raise your core body temperature, which can have an adverse effect on your sleep patterns. If you and your mom want to enjoy a spicy meal together, make sure that you do so for lunch. #### Tomatoes As delicious and healthy as these fruits are, they are loaded with tyramine, according to AARP. This is an amino acid that sends triggers to the brain and releases norepinephrine, which is known to bolster brain activity. While this isn’t exactly a bad thing, it’s probably not the best idea to have your mother’s mind racing right before bed. If she loves tomatoes, make sure that she enjoys them during breakfast and lunch. Sleep is very important for your senior parent’s overall health - after all, we spend roughly one-third of our lives enjoying slumber. Be sure that they are eating the right foods so they are able to drift off to sleep without any problems. If your older parent is living in a [senior living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community speak with their health director to discuss meal options that will help improve sleep. --- ## The best memory games for seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-best-memory-games-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: senior memory games Category: lifestyle-activities Tags: dementia, hobbies-activities, brain-health, legal-planning, for-seniors, exercise-fitness Summary: As you age, its just as important to stay cognitively sharp as it is to stay physically in shape. Learn about memory games that can improve your brains health. Many [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) know the benefits of exercising the body, but there are many good reasons to encourage your aging loved one to exercise their brain as well. With [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) and cognitive decline being major concerns in seniors, learning to improve brain health is as important as ever - and one of the best ways to help your loved one get started is by having them play memory games for seniors. ### Lumosity Researchers at Harvard and Stanford universities as well as the University of California, Berkeley, have all used Lumosity, an online memory training program, in their studies about cognitive decline. The designers of the game site state that 97 percent of participants can improve their memory after just 10 hours of Lumosity play time, according to ABC News. To personalize the games chosen, each user is asked questions that are specifically geared toward cognitive processes to find their strengths and weaknesses. ### Sudoku This is one of the most popular brain training games for seniors, as it allows individuals to differentiate patterns using problem solving and logical processes. As we get older, our senses may dull because we become used to solving the same types of problems over and over again. This can cause the brain to become “burnt out” or stagnant. With Sudoku, new deductions can be made because the brain uses synapses that allow seniors to fill in gaps. It’s an easy-to-understand game, with a variety of levels, that almost anyone can pick up, which could also account for its popularity. ### The Right Word This timed memory game for seniors, which can be found online, tests memory and language skills by listing a series of definitions and having players come up with the right term. Although it may sound simple enough, there are many definitions that could relate to multiple words. After going through several definitions, you will then be instructed to recall the words that were given, whether or not the questions were answered correctly. ### Crossword puzzles and word searches If your parent likes more traditional memory games, that’s OK too. There are several great tactile games that help improve memory and cognitive skills. Even if they can’t solve the whole puzzle in one sitting, setting aside some time to work through several clues can help jog memory and keep their brain balanced. Likewise, word searches can also foster short-term memory skills and increase analytical processes. The key with any memory game for seniors is making it a daily habit. Because our neurons tend to dull over time, it is essential that these games are played on a regular basis to see the best benefits. Check in with our Life Enrichment team at [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) to learn about all of the options provided for our residents. --- ## 5 decorating tips for your new senior living home URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-decorating-tips-for-your-new-senior-living-home/ Focus keyword: decorating senior apartment Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, fall-prevention, social-connection, moving-in, legal-planning, for-seniors, hobbies-activities Summary: Part of helping your parent make moving to his or her new senior living facility a more positive experience is adding those little extras that turn a house… Part of helping your parent make moving to his or her new senior living community a more positive experience is adding those little extras that turn a house into a home. The transition from the home that your mother always knew to a senior living apartment is a big change in her life, so it is important that she feels as safe and comfortable as possible. The good news is, you don’t have to find an interior decorator or become a crafting genius to help your mother decorate her new home. Here are some excellent decorating tips for an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) space to get you started: ## Prevent falls with clear walkways and round, non-glass furniture As the loved one of a senior, you know that mobility can be a significant challenge for your mother. Add on the fact that this is a new environment, and you have a situation that could result in an accident like a fall. If you are looking for new furniture, opt for designs that are round or don’t have sharp edges. It’s also a good idea to clear pathways of cords or rugs so that your mother’s chance of tripping is minimized. ## Decorate with personal belongings she loves One of the best ways to make a smooth transition is to decorate with items from home. This can include cherished antiques that have been passed down, her favorite curtains, a comforting quilt or an old chair that she enjoys reading in. These things may be simple, but they can make her feel much more at home. ## Use ottomans or trunks for extra storage It’s likely that your mother will want to bring extra pictures or keepsakes with her so that she can preserve her memories. However, these items tend to take up space. You can still find creative ways to store these goods with trunks or ottomans, which add a decorative flair to the new space without taking up too much square footage. ## Keep spaces open for socializing Meeting new people is one of the first things your mother will do in a senior living space, so you will want to make sure that she has the best environment for being a good hostess. Have a few extra chairs and a comfortable sofa, if there is room, so that she can entertain her new friends with ease. ## Use bright colors Since eyesight tends to fade as we age, it’s important that your mother can see where she is going. While decorating, try to include bright colors that will make visibility easier for your mom. Not only do vivid hues like yellow, green and blue brighten up a space on an aesthetic level, they are easier for your mother to see. It’s also a good idea to make sure that spaces like hallways, the kitchen area and the bathroom are well-lit, and make sure that light switches are easy to find. Above all, be sure to make the experience easier for your mom by getting excited about her new home. Having a positive attitude - and a little fun - during the transition will help your mother enjoy this change and add her uniqueness to the new environment. Visit the Áegis Living [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you to see how our residents have made themselves at home. --- ## Superfoods that may help improve cognitive function URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/superfoods-that-may-help-improve-cognitive-function/ Focus keyword: superfoods Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, nutrition, brain-health Summary: At Áegis Living, your health and well being is a top priority. Read about some Brain-powering "superfoods" that can enhance cognitive function. You probably know that eating a balanced diet is great for your loved one’s physical health, but did you know that sticking with healthy choices may also help to improve your parent’s mental health? “You are what you eat” is true for both body and mind, and your brain needs power and sustenance just like any other organ. However, there are [some foods](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/foods-that-can-disrupt-your-parents-sleep-schedule/) that are better for cognitive function than others. Next time you and your father are at the market, be sure to add some of these Superfoods to your cart: ## Salmon (and other oily fish) These types of proteins are loaded with omega-3 fatty acids. Omega-3s, like DHA and EPA, may benefit mild memory loss, as they play an important role in brain function and development. Some researchers also claim the omega-3s from fish oil may also improve depressive symptoms. So not only can omega-3s help one’s heart health, they also impact brain function. ## Blueberries These sweet treats are delicious and easy to find, and they may even help improve memory or delay short-term memory loss. Blueberries are also easy to include in your morning cereal or yogurt or can simply be eaten by the handful as a tasty mid-afternoon snack. One cup of blueberries provides 24% of a person’s recommended daily allowance of vitamin C, while also containing powerful antioxidants like anthocyanin. ## Whole grains We need carbs to power our brains, but whole grains add an extra healthy punch because they have a low glycemic index. Rather than the “sugar rush” you may experience from processed carbs, whole grains feed a steady supply of glucose into the bloodstream. This may allow for a more balanced mental state throughout the day. To up whole grain intake, try to include brown rice, whole grain breads, pastas, oatmeal and popcorn on your parent’s grocery list. ## Dark chocolate Does your dad have a sweet tooth? Not to worry - dark chocolate is actually a great thing to include in his daily diet (in moderation, of course). While it does contain caffeine, there are only small amounts of it compared to sodas, tea or coffee. There are also plenty of antioxidants in dark chocolate, which can fight off free radicals that impede cognitive function. ## Water While water isn’t technically a food, becoming dehydrated can lead to weakened or even shrinking brain tissue. An increased amount of medications can also cause dehydration, which is common as we age, so this means that your older loved one may need to be drinking at least 2 quarts of water per day, or about half his weight in fluid ounces - whichever is higher. Eating right is important for your parent’s health, and these Superfoods, and more, can give him the nutrients he needs to keep his body and mind in a healthy state. Find out how we provide nutritious, delicious meals at [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/), which often include memory boost foods like Superfoods. --- ## Understanding what care is covered by Medicare, and what isn’t URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/understanding-what-care-is-covered-by-medicare-and-what-isnt/ Focus keyword: medicare Category: financial-legal Tags: assisted-living, hospice-end-of-life, nutrition, medication-management, costs-funding, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: If you and your loved one have decided that assisted living is the best option for overall health and well-being, there are several things that you will need to If you and your loved one have decided that [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) communities are the best option for overall health and well-being, there are several things that you will need to discuss, including what is and isn’t covered by Medicare. The services, location and amenities that your parent receives are deciding factors for their assisted living options. However, paying for treatment in an assisted living community is an important aspect of senior care, so it is crucial that you both fully understand that while Medicare may cover many of the ongoing medical expenses, it will not cover rent or amenities in privately funded assisted living communities that are private pay, like Áegis Living. Some individuals may believe that you can pay with Medicare for assisted living communities, but the truth is, only some of the medical aspects of your loved one’s care will, in fact, be paid for. Medicare is a federal health insurance program for [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/), so there are some preventative measures that will be taken care of with your Medicare coverage. However, as a whole, you may need private insurance or other out-of-pocket funds to cover the remainder of your assisted living expenses. ### Medicare and your loved one Medicare is split up into different parts, all of which serve their own purpose. Across the board, Medicare is a federal health care insurance program that all U.S. residents pay for during the course of their lifetime. Then, the preventative coverage begins once a citizen reaches age 65 (some benefits may kick in for younger patrons with disabilities at a younger age). ### Medicare and assisted living Assisted living, according to the official government website, is considered non-medical senior housing. This means that for the most part, seniors will only need guidance with things like cooking, laundry and remembering to take medications - also known as non-medical or custodial services. It is important to note that if you are over the age of 65, you will still get to enjoy all of the medical and pharmaceutical benefits that come from Medicare. However, Medicare will not pay for items in your assisted living community which are not considered medical, such as your rent or meals. Medicare will instead offset the cost of your preventative care and typical daily prescriptions so that you are more financially secure between assisted living communities and potential nursing home care if needed the future. ## There are three different parts of Medicare that may affect seniors in assisted living facilities and their expenses: Part A, Part B and Part D. ### Part A This is also called hospital insurance and was the framework for the program starting in the 1960s. Part A will cover your loved one’s cost of placement into a hospital, skilled nursing facility or [hospice care](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/palliative-and-hospice-care/), but only for a certain amount of time. It will not generally cover assisted living. However, there are some covered services that you might receive in an assisted care facility that are covered by Medicare Part A including physical and occupational therapy treatments, medications, speech/language pathology services, medical supplies and equipment that you use at the facility, dietary counseling and ambulance transportation. Most of these costs are either preventative or used in the event of acute medical care or in an emergency. ### Part B Part B is similar to Part A, as it mostly deals with preventative screenings and treatment for seniors. This could include doctor’s office visits, tests that you may require if you have a chronic condition like arthritis or diabetes, cancer screenings and vaccines. There are also products that fall under the cost of Medicare Part B, such as therapeutic shoes and blood sugar test strips. #### Differences between Part A and Part B When it comes to assisted living, it’s worth your time to understand a few factors that may seem a bit confusing in terms of coverage. For example, if you slip and fall and suffer a serious injury or come down with serious illness while living in your assisted living community, Medicare Part A will cover inpatient costs for things like hospital stays and surgery if needed after a deductible. Outpatient services, such as physical therapy, will require you to pay 20 percent of the services after your deductible, so the costs are a bit different between Part A and Part B. Keep in mind that both Part A and Part B require applications that you need to sign up for as well. ### Part D Part D is the newest part of Medicare and specifically revolves around prescription drug coverage. Part D is actually a group of plans that seniors sign up for after they reach the age of 65. There are only certain drugs that are listed in this benefit, so it is important to talk with your loved one’s doctor about what medications will be covered and those that won’t. Seniors will be required to pay a monthly premium with Part D, then they are given deductibles for certain drugs that they need to stay healthy. Part D was designed to cover the cost of medications that didn’t fit the descriptions laid out in Part B. This gives seniors more flexibility when it comes to paying for their healthcare costs. When you are laying out your medical budget, be sure to keep in mind that some of the costs of Part D drugs may also overlap with Medicare Advantage. While Medicare is a helpful insurance program that has taken care of preventative and basic needs for seniors for several decades, it is important to know what kinds of benefits your loved one can expect from the program while living in an [assisted living facility](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/). Ask your assisted living community contact for more information about what financial options exist and for referrals to professional resources that specialize in Medicare. --- ## Making new friends in senior living: The basics URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/making-new-friends-in-senior-living-the-basics/ Focus keyword: assisted living friends Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, social-connection, exercise-fitness, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-caregivers, communication Summary: Getting older can be tough, so it’s important for new assisted living residents to have good friends who can help them along the way. As you know… Getting older can be tough, so it’s important for new [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) residents to have good friends who can help them along the way. As you know, friendship is one of the most wonderful parts of life, but it can be hard to make new friends when you are in your 70s and 80s. If you and your mother have made the decision to move her to an assisted living community, you will want to make sure that all aspects of her well-being are attended to, including her social life. As great a caregiver as you are, you cannot be a replacement for good friends. The last thing you want for your mother is for her to feel isolated and lonely in her new home. Although this adjustment can be difficult at first, new friends can definitely turn a house into a home with ease. ## Get your parent involved Getting to know people takes effort, so your mother needs to make sure she is in the center of the action. Many assisted living communities offer programs and activities that foster interaction with others. Be sure to encourage your mother to sign up for events as much as she can, whether it’s taking a dance class or joining a civic or church organization. If you can, have her sign up for something she’s never tried before, such as yoga or painting. Learning new things helps keep senses sharp, so new activities can provide both social and mental benefits. ## Open the lines of communication Making new friends is important, but staying in touch is what creates lasting friendships. Bring your mother into the digital age by setting her up with an email or social media account. Another great option for keeping in touch with friends and family is Skype, a free software program that allows users to make video calls to one another. Many [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) are becoming more tech savvy, and this could be an easy way for her to stay connected with friends, both old and new. ## Make daily activities more social Does your father enjoy playing pool or chess from time to time? Encourage him to bring along some new friends the next time he wants to hit the billiards room. Maybe your mother likes scrap booking or crafting - which can also easily turn into a group activity. Although your mother’s alone time is valuable, many of the things she loves can further improve her well-being in a group setting. Your mother’s social life is as important as any other part of her well-being. Be sure to encourage her to reach out and make new friends so that she stays happy and healthy. Talk with your community’s General Manager to help make new friend connections and get your parent involved and socializing. --- ## What to pack for a move to an assisted living community URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-to-pack-for-a-move-to-an-assisted-living-community/ Focus keyword: assisted Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: assisted-living, sleep, moving-in, legal-planning, for-seniors Summary: When preparing to move your parent into an assisted living facility, you will need to make yet another decision: what to pack and what to discard. Moving… When preparing to move your parent into an [assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/assisted-living/) community, you will need to make yet another decision: what to pack and what to discard. Moving can be a tough transition no matter your age, but especially for [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) who want to hang onto all of their belongings. Moving into an assisted living community often means that your parent will have to live on a smaller scale and narrow down what they really need to bring. Here is your moving to assisted living checklist: ## Assisted Living Checklist - **Personal items**: These will likely be your dad’s most important possessions, including things such as heirlooms, family photos and mementos that help make him feel more at home. You and your father should also decide where his medical, legal and financial paperwork should be stored, whether it’s in your home or his. - **Furnitur**e: People often like to sleep in their own bed and lounge in their favorite recliner; making deciding which furniture to bring along an important decision. - **Entertainment items**: Be sure to pack things that give your dad joy, like his television, laptop, painting supplies, tool kit, audio system, books or sporting equipment. - **Toiletries and medications**: Basic day-to-day items that he will need, such as toothbrush, shampoo, aftershave, over the counter medications, vitamins, and other medical equipment will also need to be moved with him. There are certain things that should be left behind, such as extra large furniture, area rugs and items that he has multiples of, such as dish sets or a mug collection. Most senior communities are pretty flexible with what you can bring, but keep in mind that your father will likely need to downsize from his current belongings. All families have their own traditions and customs, so be sure to keep these things in mind when packing. Your contact at the [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) may also have resources to assist with deciding how to downsize, what to bring, and insight on packing and moving. Make sure that you ask for referrals to assist with your move. --- ## What do I do when a parent is experiencing dementia? URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/how-to-deal-with-a-parent-whos-experiencing-dementia/ Focus keyword: parent with dementia Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, fall-prevention, social-connection, legal-planning, for-caregivers, for-spouses Summary: As your parents age, there comes a time when your role goes from child to caregiver. We offer advice on how to care for a parent with dementia. Read more here. It can be difficult to change your role from child to caregiver. For many individuals, living with a parent with [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) can be overwhelming and isolating at first; however, there are several tools available to support you along the way. If you work or have kids of your own, the challenges of caring for your parent can be even more demanding and may take a toll on your health, family or marriage. However, by becoming more informed about dementia and Alzheimer’s and focusing on planning, you can try to balance these roles so that you, your family and your parent are living more balanced lives. ### Caring for a parent with dementia is more common than you think Finding out that your parent is struggling with dementia or Alzheimer’s can feel extremely isolating. However, it is important to understand that you are not alone. According to WebMD, around [10 million Americans](http://www.webmd.com/alzheimers/features/alzheimers-caregivers-sandwiched-between-parenting-your-kids-and-your-parents?page=5) have chosen to take care of a parent with dementia. Like you, many of them are trying to balance all aspects of their lives while still giving their loved one the care that he or she needs. ### Learn as much as you can about dementia and Alzheimer’s Before you start administering care and treatment for your parent, you need to become well-versed on memory problems that go along with the diagnosis. This can keep you well-versed on medical advancement and studies so that you know about the right treatments and medications that may benefit your loved one. Knowledge isn’t just a good thing for your parent’s well-being, it can also help reduce your stress levels as you’re in the right state of mind to deal with problems as they arise. ### Embrace your new role It’s also important to understand that this diagnosis is a part of your life on an emotional level. Once your outings with your father or mother move from social to necessary and you are keeping track of responsibilities that directly contribute to your father’s well-being, such as treatments and medications, you have entered the role as caregiver. This can be a hard thing to adjust to when you are trying to balance work, kids, relationships and everything else in life. Your loved one can still live for 10 or more years with a diagnosis of dementia or Alzheimer’s. This means that your new role is a serious commitment that you will need to fully embrace in order to provide your father with the quality care he deserves. ### Find support Taking care of a parent with dementia is not something that you can handle on your own. You need to take care of yourself and may want to spend time talking to others about your daily struggles with this new phase of life. This can include your spouse, siblings and doctors. However, there are many national organizations that offer support groups for children of parents with dementia that you can join for added guidance. These include your local chapter of the National Association Area Agency on Aging or the Alzheimer’s Association. If you can, find others that can help you with caregiving along the way, too. Not only does this give you a break to spend time with your family and relax, but it’s better for your parent. Spending more time with others helps an Alzheimer’s parent engage with others while participating in other activities. ### Create a plan Living spur of the moment is wonderful when you are on vacation, but when you are a caregiver, those impromptu dinners with friends or last-minute movie nights may be hard to come by. This doesn’t mean that you can’t have a social life; you will just have to make sure that you plan activities out so that the schedule work for both you and your mother. ### Keep your sense of humor Keeping up a positive attitude can be tough, especially when your parent can’t remember who you are or throws unfounded accusations your way. During these times, a healthy sense of humor can go a long way in helping you stay on the positive side and move on. If your father enjoys retelling an old story multiple times, let him. Instead of getting frustrated, allow your loved one to gain pleasure from revisiting the past. Switching from kid to caregiver is never easy, but it’s not impossible with some support, planning and a healthy outlook on life. If you need help, or a short break from caregiving contact the [Áegis Living](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) community near you. --- ## 5 ways to talk with your parent about financial planning URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-ways-to-talk-with-your-parent-about-financial-planning/ Focus keyword: parent financial future Category: financial-legal Tags: alzheimers, dementia, communication, legal-planning, costs-funding Summary: Although finances can be a touchy subject for some, discussing long-term goals and budgeting with your loved one is essential for his or her future. If you… Although finances can be a touchy subject for some, discussing long-term goals and budgeting with your loved one is essential for his or her future. If you notice that your parent’s decision-making skills are slowing due to age or health-related issues, you may need to step in and offer additional financial guidance and support. If your parent is in the beginning stages of [dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) or Alzheimer’s, offering financial assistance is a must, as the disease can result in a myriad of poor financial planning decisions, such as forgetting to pay monthly bills or making irresponsible purchases. This discussion won’t be easy, but there are ways to have an open talk about your parent’s financial future without impeding his or her independence. ## Talk to your parent in person about finances This is going to be one of the most important discussions that you have with your parent. If at all possible, try to keep the discussion face-to-face. So many of the emotions revolving around finances might not be suited for communication over the phone or by email. Looking your parent in the eye and taking an honest approach will let him know that you are sincere and care about his financial future. ## Try to break down financial aspects one step at a time There are a lot of things to consider in the financial arena. These can include legal issues such as wills and trusts, health care costs, insurance, monthly income and expenses, taxes and other financial records. Talking about all of these things at once may overwhelm him (and you), so it is best to go slow and take on these money matters one step at a time. It may be a long conversation, but it is one worth having. ## Focus on your parent, not yourself The way that you approach your concerns with your father’s finances is important. Even if his finances are completely disorganized, try to phrase your comments and the discussion so that you don’t place blame. Remain respectful. You’ll also want to avoid making the conversation about you. This is his financial future, and he should have a say in the decisions that are made. Above all, let your father know from the beginning that you are trying to do the right thing for him. ## Don’t do it alone Whether you take your loved one to a financial advisor or lawyer to get a third opinion or ask your siblings to join in on the conversation, having like-minded individuals with you during the talk is a good idea. This way, your parent will absorb more information and be comforted by the fact that this is a family discussion rather than an uncomfortable conversation. At the same time it’s important to ensure that your father doesn’t feel it is him against everyone else. ## Be prepared As tedious as it seems, having a list of important documents that your father can locate will definitely help start the discussion on the right path. Some of these may include a will, marriage and birth certificates, mortgage agreements, tax returns, insurance documents, property titles, health insurance information, the location of a safe deposit box and pharmaceutical records. It may be wise to keep a list of important contacts, such as his lawyer, doctor, financial advisor and life insurance agent as well. To help your father stay financially secure and independent as he gets older, budgeting and long-term decisions need to be made. As uncomfortable as it may seem, there are ways to talk about finances with your parent in a respectful and tactful way. If you need recommendations for a financial planner contact the Áegis Living community near you and ask our Marketing Director for a contact. --- ## Best non-impact workouts for seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/best-non-impact-workouts-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: non-impact exercise Category: healthy-aging Tags: arthritis-mobility, exercise-fitness, fall-prevention, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-spouses Summary: At Áegis Living, we want our residents to lead happy, fun, and fulfilling lives. Learn about the best non-impact sports for seniors and the benefits of them. Many [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) deal with achy joints and soreness as they get older, but that doesn’t mean they can’t enjoy the benefits of non-impact exercise. Physical activity is essential to staying healthy and living a more balanced life. Thankfully, there are many ways to break a sweat while putting minimal impact on your bones - and some workouts require no impact at all. Non-impact exercise is ideal for individuals recovering from an injury such as a fall, or an operation like hip replacement surgery. While resting is an important part of the healing process, boosting your immune system with exercise is ideal if you want to heal faster and feel better. If you haven’t exercised in a while, non-impact options are a great way to ease yourself back into a healthy lifestyle. Here are some excellent options to get you started: ### 1. Water aerobics Aerobic exercise is a great way to burn a lot of calories in a short amount of time, but performing them on the floor can be painful if you suffer from weak bones or arthritis. Not only do water aerobics allow you to build muscle by pushing against the natural resistance of the water, but you will have little to no impact on your feet and knees. ### 2. Swimming Like water aerobics, swimming is a full-body workout that requires a lot of endurance and cardio activity, while also being a non-impact exercise. With swimming, both your upper and lower body are engaged, so even short swimming sprints can make a big difference in your fitness level. Even though this activity is very effective, there is no pressure put on your joints. If you are rehabbing from an injury, your doctor will likely advise you to swim or perform water aerobics, as they can help rejuvenate your muscles. ### 3. Cycling For some of us, exercise just isn’t exercise without feeling the fresh air. Cycling is perfect for those who love the great outdoors, and while it offers less impact it is nonetheless physically demanding. According to [Harvard Health Publishing](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diet-and-weight-loss/calories-burned-in-30-minutes-of-leisure-and-routine-activities) you can burn up to 466 calories in a 30 minute cycling session. Another great benefit of cycling is you can enjoy these workouts solo or in a group, making it very versatile. To be really kind to your joints, consider getting fitted for your bike so that you don’t overexert your knees or feet. For older adults or those with balance issues an indoor recumbent bike is a safer way to get the pleasure of cycling. ### 4. Yoga Yoga may look like a peaceful series of stretches coupled with meditation, but while that may be true, many seniors have found that they have been able to sculpt muscles and work on their balance more effectively through asanas. There are many different forms of yoga, but all typically raise your heart rate, are focused on breathing, elevate your mood and keep your weight in control. Because yoga is so focused on stretching and breathing, people with joint issues should have no problem with these movements. ### 5. Rowing Most gyms offer rowing machines, which put very little pressure on your joints. Watching someone row may look simple enough, but these machines offer a full-body fitness session that works the arms, chest, back, shoulders and legs using a graceful sliding motion. Because these movements are so fluid, rowing could also help you with range of motion and balance. Just be sure that you learn the proper technique from a gym instructor before you hop on so that you reduce your risk of injury. Aging doesn’t mean that you have to let exercise fall by the wayside. With non-impact exercise, you can still enjoy the benefits of fitness with little to no pressure on your joints. Be sure to check with your physician before starting a new exercise regimen. Contact the [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) near you to speak with our Life Enrichment Director and learn more about non-impact exercises we offer our residents. --- ## 3 easy ways to stay in touch with family URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/3-easy-ways-to-stay-in-touch-with-family-and-friends/ Focus keyword: family connection Category: family-communication Tags: communication, social-connection, for-seniors Summary: At Áegis Living, we know the importance of staying in touch with loved ones. We offer 3 easy ways to keep up relationships. Read more here. The Internet is a prevalent means of communication and there are many ways that we can stay in touch with family. With smartphones now the norm for many individuals, your parents don’t have to wait to chat with their children and grandchildren or to catch up with an old friend. ## **Skype** or FaceTime Skype is a communications download that is available for smartphones and computers, and even some televisions. The application uses the Internet to connect one person to the other, allowing you to conduct voice, video, conference calls and instant messaging. Any two people who are connected to the Internet and have the technological capability for chat or video can communicate with Skype calls at no charge. However, if you are calling to a cellular phone or landline, you can purchase monthly subscriptions or pay-as-you-go plans. Skype is also an excellent way to share documents or pictures with your loved ones, even if you are several states apart. FaceTime allows users to connect with family and friends around the world. You can make audio and video calls from your iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch to other iOS devices. On an iPhone, a user can activate FaceTime during a phone call by pressing the FaceTime button. You may need to upload a separate FaceTime app if it is not already loaded to your phone. FaceTime is currently incompatible with non-Apple devices. ## Social media Although many social media platforms are in a public forum, there are many ways that they can help you stay connected - especially with friends. Facebook and Twitter are by far the most popular options, though both are very different from one another. Facebook allows members to communicate through photo sharing, status updates and comments with their Facebook friends. Older generations are becoming more adept at navigating the website, and many say it’s a great way to keep up with their family’s and friends’ activities, according to Socialnomics. Twitter is another free social media application that is essentially a microblog allowing for 140-character posts. You can subscribe to your friends’ or family members’ accounts and receive updates as they post them. ## Blogging and emailing If you already enjoy journaling, you might like online journals - also known as blogs. You can post as often or as little as you like and let your friends and family know what you are up to. On many sites, your family members can post responses, making this another excellent form of communication. Another option to stay connected with friends and family is setting up an email account if you haven’t already. Both of these tools can be access with a standard computer, laptop or tablet. With so many 21st century communications advancements, logging in is an excellent way to stay in touch with family and friends, especially for [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/). When you visit your nearest [Áegis Living community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) ask our Life Enrichment Director how they help residents stay in touch with family. --- ## What Are the Benefits of Assisted Living? A 2024 Guide URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-the-benefits-of-assisted-living/ Focus keyword: benefits of assisted living Category: assisted-living-basics Tags: dementia, assisted-living, legal-planning, for-seniors, for-caregivers Summary: Discover the real benefits of assisted living - from personalized care and fall prevention to socialization, safety, and better health outcomes for older adults. Assisted living gives older adults personalized help with daily tasks - bathing, medication, meals, mobility - inside a community designed for safety, social connection, and independence. The biggest benefits are measurable: fewer falls, fewer missed medications, less isolation, faster emergency response, and relief for family caregivers. For roughly 818,000 Americans currently living in assisted living communities ([CDC National Center for Health Statistics](https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db404.htm), 2020), the trade-off - leaving home for a supported environment - pays off in safety and quality of life. If you're weighing this decision for a parent or spouse, this guide breaks down the specific benefits, what they cost, and how to tell when the timing is right. For a broader overview, see our pillar guide on [how to find the best assisted living near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/assisted-living-near-me/). ## What exactly is assisted living, and how is it different from a nursing home? Assisted living is a residential care setting for older adults who need help with daily activities but don't require 24-hour skilled nursing. Residents typically have their own apartment, share meals in a dining room, and receive support tailored to their needs. **Assisted living**Apartment-style housing with help for activities of daily living (ADLs), medication management, meals, housekeeping, and social programming. Staff are on-site 24/7, but residents are largely independent.**Memory care**A secured neighborhood within or alongside assisted living, designed for residents with Alzheimer's or other dementias. Staff have specialized dementia training.**Skilled nursing facility (nursing home)**Medical care delivered by licensed nurses around the clock for people with complex medical needs or recovering from hospitalization.**Activities of daily living (ADLs)**The six basic self-care tasks: bathing, dressing, eating, toileting, transferring (getting in/out of a chair or bed), and continence. Learn more in our guide to [what ADLs are](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-adls/). ## What are the main benefits of assisted living for older adults? The advantages cluster into seven areas. None of them are about giving up independence - they're about protecting it. ### 1. Personalized care plans built around the resident Every resident gets an individualized care plan assessed on move-in and updated regularly. If your dad needs help putting on compression socks each morning but can shower on his own, that's what he gets - no more, no less. If your mom takes seven medications across four different times of day, a med tech handles the schedule so she never misses a dose. Roughly 1 in 5 older adults take five or more prescription medications, and missed or doubled doses are a leading cause of preventable hospitalization (CDC, 2024 overview). Assisted living largely eliminates that risk. ### 2. Dramatically safer living environment Falls are the leading cause of injury death among adults 65 and older, and one out of four older adults falls each year ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/falls/data-research/facts-stats/index.html), 2024). Assisted living communities are built to reduce that risk: grab bars in every bathroom, walk-in showers with seats, even flooring without trip hazards, pull-cords or pendant call buttons in every room, and good lighting on every path. Consider a family whose 82-year-old mother fell twice in six months at home - once on a throw rug, once getting out of the tub. In assisted living, those specific hazards simply don't exist, and a caregiver responds within minutes if she presses her pendant. ### 3. Faster emergency response, 24/7 Staff are on-site every hour of every day. If your father has chest pain at 3 a.m., he pushes a button and someone is at his door in minutes - not the hour it might take a neighbor or adult child to arrive. For non-emergencies, communities typically arrange transportation to medical appointments, which removes a major burden on family caregivers. ### 4. Built-in social connection that fights loneliness Social isolation among older adults is associated with about a 50% increased risk of dementia and significantly higher risk of heart disease and stroke ([CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/social-connectedness/risk-factors/index.html), 2024). Living alone after the loss of a spouse is a known risk factor. As Louise Aronson, MD, geriatrician and author of *Elderhood*, has argued: aging well depends as much on connection and purpose as on medical care. Assisted living communities are designed around shared meals, group activities, and easy access to neighbors - the daily contact that's hard to manufacture when you live alone in a house. ### 5. Nutritious meals without the cooking Three chef-prepared meals a day, plus snacks, with dietitian input on portion sizes and sodium. Imagine your dad, who has been living on toast and canned soup since your mom passed, suddenly eating salmon, vegetables, and fresh fruit every day. Better nutrition often translates to better energy, mood, and blood sugar control within weeks. ### 6. Activities that keep mind and body engaged Daily calendars typically include exercise classes (chair yoga, walking groups, balance training), creative programs (art, music, gardening), outings to museums or concerts, and lifelong-learning lectures. Daniel Levitin, PhD, neuroscientist and author of *Successful Aging*, has emphasized that novelty, social engagement, and physical movement are the three pillars of cognitive resilience in later life - exactly what a well-run community delivers by default. ### 7. Relief for family caregivers About 53 million Americans serve as unpaid family caregivers, and caregivers report higher rates of depression, sleep deprivation, and chronic disease than non-caregivers ([AARP](https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/), 2020 overview). Moving a parent into assisted living doesn't end your role - it lets you return to being a son or daughter instead of a 24/7 nurse. ## How do families know when it's time to consider assisted living? Watch for accumulating signs rather than waiting for a single crisis. The signals below tend to appear gradually: - **Difficulty with two or more ADLs** - bathing, dressing, toileting, transferring. - **Medication mistakes** - missed doses, doubled doses, expired bottles on the counter. - **Recent falls** or near-falls, especially with injury. - **Weight loss** or an empty refrigerator suggesting meals are being skipped. - **Social withdrawal** - stopped attending church, lunch with friends, hobbies. - **Home safety lapses** - stove left on, doors unlocked, mail piling up. - **Caregiver burnout** in the spouse or adult child providing daily help. ## How does assisted living compare to other care options? OptionBest forTypical 2026 monthly cost (national median)24/7 staff?Aging in place with home careIndependent seniors needing a few hours of helpabout $6,673 (non-medical caregiver, 44 hrs/wk)NoIndependent livingActive seniors wanting community, no care needs$3,000 - $4,500NoAssisted livingHelp with 2+ ADLs, medication management, social needs$6,200YesMemory careAlzheimer's or other dementia$6,200 - $7,500Yes, specializedSkilled nursingComplex medical needs, post-hospital recoveryabout $9,600 (semi-private)Yes, licensed nursesNational median costs are from the [CareScout Cost of Care Survey](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care) (2025). Costs vary substantially by region - Seattle, Boston, and the Bay Area run 30 - 50% higher than national medians. For a deeper look at which level fits, read [types of assisted living and how to choose the right care level](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/types-of-assisted-living/). ## What does a typical day in assisted living look like? Mornings start when the resident chooses. A care partner helps with bathing and dressing if needed, then breakfast in the dining room. Mid-morning might bring a balance class or a current-events discussion. After lunch, residents nap, read, visit family, or join an outing. Afternoon programs range from live music to a memory-care art workshop. Dinner is followed by a movie night, cards, or quiet time. Medication rounds happen on schedule throughout the day. Privacy is preserved - every resident has their own apartment with a locking door - but loneliness is harder to fall into when there's a friendly face down the hall. ## How is assisted living typically paid for? Most families pay with a combination of sources. Long-term care insurance often covers a portion if the policy was purchased before a diagnosis. Veterans and surviving spouses may qualify for the VA Aid & Attendance benefit. Some states offer Medicaid waiver programs that cover assisted living for income-eligible residents (Medicaid.gov). Standard Medicare does *not* cover assisted living rent or personal care - only short-term skilled care after a hospital stay. ## How can you evaluate a community before moving in? Tour at least three communities. As Teepa Snow, dementia care educator and founder of Positive Approach to Care, often reminds families: watch the staff-resident interactions more than the chandeliers. Are caregivers making eye contact? Greeting residents by name? Sitting down to talk rather than rushing past? Bring a checklist - our guide to the [10 things to know when touring assisted living](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/10-things-touring-assisted-living/) covers exactly what to ask and notice. Visit at meal times, talk to current residents, and ask about staff turnover (lower is better; under 50% annually is a strong sign). ## Frequently asked questions ### Is assisted living worth the cost? For older adults who need help with daily activities, the answer is usually yes when you compare apples to apples. The $6,200 national median monthly cost ([CareScout](https://www.carescout.com/cost-of-care), 2025) bundles rent, utilities, meals, housekeeping, transportation, activities, and personal care - services that often total more when purchased separately at home. ### Will my parent lose independence in assisted living?No - well-designed communities are built to *preserve* independence by removing barriers (stairs, unsafe bathrooms, isolation) rather than imposing restrictions. Residents keep their own apartment, choose their schedule, and receive only the help they actually need. ### How do I bring up the conversation with a resistant parent? Lead with their concerns, not yours. Ask what would make daily life easier - cooking, driving, lonely evenings - and frame a tour as gathering information, not making a decision. Touring two or three communities together often shifts the conversation from fear to curiosity. ### What if my parent has early dementia - is assisted living still appropriate? Often yes, especially in communities that offer both assisted living and memory care so residents can transition without moving buildings. An estimated 7.4 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer's ([Alzheimer's Association](https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures), 2026), and many begin in assisted living before needing dedicated memory care. ### Can couples live together in assisted living? Yes. Most communities offer one- and two-bedroom apartments designed for couples, including arrangements where one spouse needs significant care and the other doesn't. Care is priced individually based on each person's needs. ### How long do people typically stay? The median length of stay in assisted living is about 22 months, though stays range widely from a few months to many years (National Institute on Aging overview). Length depends on health trajectory and whether the community offers a continuum of care. ## Ready to see what assisted living actually looks like? The best way to understand the benefits is to walk through a community, share a meal, and meet the people who live and work there. [Find an Áegis Living community near you](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) or [contact our team](https://www.aegisliving.com/contact/) to schedule a personal visit - we'll answer your questions honestly, whether or not Áegis ends up being the right fit. --- ## Top 3 budgeting tips for seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/top-3-budgeting-tips-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: budgeting Category: financial-legal Tags: nutrition, fall-prevention, social-connection, costs-funding, for-seniors Summary: You don't have to be a financial wizard to help your elderly parents enjoy a comfortable life. Áegis Living offers 3 budgeting tips for seniors. Read more here. Caring for a loved one is never easy, especially if they are living on a fixed income. There are a lot of things to consider, from health insurance coverage to everyday indulgences to taxes. The good news is, with some [handy budgeting tips](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/), you don’t have to be a financial wizard to help your mother enjoy her life comfortably. Here are three helpful methods to get you started: ### **1. Don’t be shy about senior discounts**: Your parents have worked hard throughout their lifetime, and many stores and businesses know this. As a result, many retailers offer senior discounts on things like groceries and movie tickets. This can make going out more affordable. It may only be a few dollars here and there, but it adds up over time. Just be sure that your parents always have valid IDs on-hand in case a clerk asks for age verification. ### **2. Have a fixed budget in place**: Expenses change as we get older, which means that your parent’s budget might need some fine-tuning. If they are comfortable with discussing finances, take the time to sit down with them to list everything they spend their money on daily, weekly and monthly, including doctor’s visits, a mortgage payment, groceries, monthly bills as well as an allowance for spending. This can help your loved ones plan out how they want to use their retirement funds - especially if they are saving up for a trip. As with anything else in retirement, it’s always best to be prepared. Although listing out a budget may not be the most glamorous task, it’s an easy way to help your parents achieve their financial goals. ### **3. Join AARP and apply for Social Security**: These programs are set in place to specifically help [seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) save money and balance their budgets. Your parents should have started collecting Social Security between age 62 - 70, if they haven’t yet, they should. The [American Association of Retired Persons](https://www.aarp.org/benefits-discounts/?intcmp=FTR-LINKS-MEM-MB-EWHERE) (AARP) is another excellent organization that helps seniors balance their budgets with discounts on hotels, insurance and food. You want your loved ones to relax and enjoy their retirement, and helping them iron out a budget is important in achieving those goals. By [assisting](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) your parents in joining programs that work with retirees and sticking to a fixed financial plan, they can truly enjoy their life. --- ## 3 benefits of mental exercise for seniors URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/3-benefits-of-mental-exercise-for-seniors/ Focus keyword: mental exercise Category: healthy-aging Tags: depression-anxiety, exercise-fitness, social-connection, for-seniors, hobbies-activities, brain-health Summary: Áegis Living discusses how mental exercise can help seniors stay alert as well as promote brain health and other health benefits. Learn more here. [Seniors](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/) who want to stay young can retain their youthfulness by keeping their brain’s neural pathways balanced. Since these senses tend to dull over time, giving the brain a mental workout is just as important as daily physical exercise. Continually giving your mind new ideas to grasp and challenges to connect with are some of the best ways to stay alert and promote brain health. To do this, many employ the use of brain exercises for seniors. According to MedicineNet, a review of studies that was published in the Canadian Medical Association Journal discovered that computerized training programs, individualized personal memory training, and reasoning and processing speed can improve memory decline over time. This means that you and your mother or father can take steps now to ensure that mental health does not deteriorate over time. As with many age-related issues, prevention is key, and brain exercises for seniors can be an excellent addition to a daily regimen so that your parent’s senses are sharp throughout their golden years. ### Here are some benefits that seniors may experience with brain exercise: #### 1. You open your mind to new ideas The brain loves a challenge. Embracing a new language, learning to play an instrument or traveling are a few of the ways you can open those pathways. Just because your mother is older that doesn’t mean she can’t work to keep her brain young. After learning a new language, she can further challenge herself by traveling to a new country and testing out her skills. Going to an unfamiliar area is one of the best ways to boost mental fitness. #### 2. Mental exercises can be fun Many of the mental exercises common with seniors come in the form of games, such as crossword puzzles or Sudoku. These games work different quadrants of the brain, which is essential if you want to keep your senses alert. They can also be motivating, challenging and fun. #### 3. Working out your brain helps you to be more social Some seniors experience loneliness as they age. Signing up for a class, getting together with friends to play cards or volunteering can help your loved ones feel less isolated. Being around others may also help them learn about new ideas that keep them thinking. The more social a person is, the more nimble the brain becomes. Although there is nothing to stop us from getting older, these mental benefits may help us feel younger as we work to improve our memories for years to come. Visit the [community](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) nearest you today and ask our Life Enrichment Director about our brain exercises for seniors. --- ## 5 Signs of Dementia URL: https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/5-signs-of-dementia/ Focus keyword: dementia signs Category: memory-care-dementia Tags: dementia, alzheimers, when-its-time, legal-planning, depression-anxiety Summary: Dementia is a common condition for aging people. It is important to recognize early signs and take action to slow its progression. Learn how to here. [Dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/services/advanced-memory-care/) is a condition that has become all too common for aging Americans. However, this disease doesn’t simply happen overnight. There can be many [early signs of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/what-are-early-signs-of-dementia/), and the signs of this illness can show themselves in many different ways. First, what is dementia? According to the Alzheimer’s Association, dementia is an umbrella term for [a decline in mental ability](http://www.alz.org/what-is-dementia.asp) that is necessary for day-to-day function. Although there is no specific disease related to dementia, Alzheimer’s accounts for 60 to 80 percent of all cases of mental decline. Since dementia is a progressive disease, you can listen to your body and take steps to slow its progression before it reaches the late stages. Learn more from the early signs of dementia checklist below. ## Here are some common signs to look for: ### 1. Problems with vision Some people who struggle with dementia have problems reading or experience issues determining colors and contrasts. They may also find it is difficult to drive due to problems with spatial reasoning and judging distance. This is usually due to vision changes that are linked to dementia. Vision issues can cause significant problems with everyday tasks and one’s ability to stay mobile. ### 2. Mood and personality changes Many family members and friends have noted that one of the major signs of dementia is a change in their loved one’s mood or personality. People who were always joyful and happy when they were healthy may become confused, suspicious, depressed, fearful or anxious when mental decline begins. This can be even more of a struggle when in environments that are out of their comfort zone. Because of this, people in the earlier stages of Alzheimer’s will often stick to a very specific routine and become annoyed or anxious when their schedule is interrupted. ### 3. Poor judgment and difficulty making decisions Another important side effect of dementia occurs when a person experiences changes in his or her judgment. This can lead to serious issues with the way one handles money. For example, a person who was usually on-time with payments may forget to handle monthly utilities, or give large sums of money to telemarketers when he or she typically avoided such activities in the past. If a person develops dementia or Alzheimer’s they may eventually be unable to manage the household bills. ### 4. Misplacing or losing things One warning sign that is extremely common for individuals in the beginning [stages of dementia](https://www.aegisliving.com/resources/blog/the-stages-of-caregiving-the-changes-you-will-face-with-dementia-2/) is placing everyday items in strange or unusual places. This is usually due to a lack of connection between space and time. Once they begin to lose these things, they may be unable to trace back their steps so that they can find the item. Unfortunately, this is one of those symptoms that progresses over time as dementia worsens. ### 5. Forgetfulness Even if it is recently learned information, individuals with dementia will have trouble recollecting these thoughts. This can happen in the long or short term. For example, mental decline may cause your mother to forget important dates or events that are critical to her long-term memory, such as her children’s birthdays, the correct way to use the microwave or the highways she needs to take to get home. However, this can happen in the short-term as well, such as the ability to recall online passwords, names of people she has recently met, appointments or the grocery list. Not all episodes of forgetfulness may be early signs of Alzheimer’s or other dementias, it may just be normal aging. However, multiple experiences that accumulate over time may be cause to visit a physician to discuss the symptoms and possible need for testing. If you have more questions or realize it’s time for additional assistance please visit one of our [communities](https://www.aegisliving.com/find-a-location/) today.